Are You Pretty Enough for Him? (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy) 

“You know when sometimes you meet someone so beautiful, and then you actually talk to them, and five minutes later they're dull as a brick. But then there's other people, and you meet them and you think 'not bad, they're okay', and then you get to know them, and their face sort of becomes them, like their personality's written all over it, and they just they turn into something so beautiful...” ― Amy Pond, Doctor Who series

This guy is a perfect mixture of Daniel Radcliffe and Adam Levine

I had a friend who's objectively unattractive aunt always told herself when she walked into a room"I am beautiful, I am loved and I know something that nobody else here knows" and she WAS all those things.

“The key to success is playing the hand you were dealt like it was the hand you wanted” - anonymous

Insecurity ruins my life

you can skip to 3:35 if you don't feel like listening to rambling

Skip to 7:19. Everything else before that doesn’t matter. You’re welcome

When a guy is respectuful, charming, a complete gentleman, looks become the least important thing

The actual video starts at 3:30

Not to be mean but if the guy you like doesn't like you for you, he isn't the right one.

I’m 52, in smart, strong, fit, pretty , funny, hard working, I’m kind, generous! I am ENOUGH!💕 I ♥️ME!

I feel we become insecure when the person we thought would make us feel loved and beautiful is the person who destroys us.. then we start feeling ugly and insecure..

"He's not after a feature, he's after a package!" 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

People don't hesitate to let you know if you're unattractive. Even if they don't vocalize it you can usually tell in body language or attitude. Sometimes I get tired of being told I have a big heart when most men don't look past the physical to see the big heart

As a woman with an inverted triangle body shape, I spent much of my teen years feeling insecure about not being an hourglass. But body shape is not something easily changed, and what I've learned from this video is that it's not about what I am not, but rather, it's about what I can make of myself with what I have. Thank you for these wise words.

Can’t we all just date you?

I've always felt super insecure about my nose. Never really thought I was ugly but I had doubts regarding my physical appearance. But then I think, maybe its just my insecurity speaking. Yes, I do have a big nose. It's not invisible but it doesn't define my beauty. I think accepting and embracing your flaws really help. People have always complemented me. Guys have still been attracted to me but I never believed it. I've always focused on those who called me ugly and never thought twice about the compliments I've received. Just remember guys, your flaws alone don't define your beauty.

what if your personality is shit and you aren't like those bubbly funny girls? i got screwed both ways

If he doesn't find you beautiful, let me tell you.., he is not worth it... Everyone is beautiful in their own way.. "skinny", "fat", Black, White, EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL..

Great now i have to upgrade my whole package

If the guy is even talking to you, then you're pretty enough.

im very insecure because i had cancer when i was younger. I lost all of my hair and got all bloated from steroids and still have very thin hair today from blasts of radiation.... but if i had to pick one thing that i appreciate about my looks and personality, is that i love my freckles on my cheeks and nose, and i like how i am determined to always see things to their end ^u^

I feel like my heart is under appreciated.. I'm kind, and compassionate, and at times I can be too trusting, or too nice, and I feel like a lot of people take advantage of that.. like someone I'm close to will hurt me, and keep coming back because he knows I'll forgive him.. I get too attached to people.. I focus more on other people than I do on myself a lot of the time. My mom always says my biggest talent is being kind, because there's not a lot of people like that anymore, but I really feel like some people use it as an excuse to get away with hurting me. I know having a good heart isn't a bad thing, I just really wish more people would appreciate it, and treat it right, instead of treating me like a toy.

I just visited an art gallery yesterday and told my friend that if I feel insecure about my body I always find it helps to go there because the portrayal of female nakedness is way more real than in media today. It just creates this vibe of normalcy and how back then that was the beauty ideal.

I'm "weird for a black girl". My family and other African Americans say I act "white" or I'm "not black". I like hipster punk bands and kitty stockings and sushi rolls, and I'm not afraid to dance off-beat in public! Just because I act a certain way does not mean I do not appreciate the race I was born into, i think my strange interests make me all the more badass as a black girl. Long live the Ebony weirdos

I like that I don't wear clothes just because other girls find it trendy. I like how I wear clothes that remind me of my rolemodels and makes ME feel good, even if no one in my locale dresses like me.

I’m quirky, easily excited with a childlike sense of wonder. I seek to appreciate something in every interaction I have with others. I have my mother’s beautiful eyes, curves for days, and a my grandmother’s Cupid’s bow lips.

“There is a big difference between objective beauty and perceived beauty.” Matthew H

I study this guys public speaking skills. It's amazing. His dating advise isn't too bad either.

his insight into the female mind must be insane, considering how many people talk to him about their problems

Well i think my best feature is the fact I can always make myself laugh, I think im hilarious. 🤣😂.

That word "personality" is the most nauseating word when you're ugly and get told about personality 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

3:33 is where the info about attraction starts

My heart isn't appreciated enough. I'm such a generous person, and people use that to take advantage of me. But I appreciate how considerate and compassionate I am. And you, Matthew, are a tall glass of water ;-)

I’m mesmerised on how intelligent this guy is, honestly. I wish I knew more people with this kind of mentality to have conversations with!

One thing about myself that I think gets underappreciated, is my willingness to talk to anyone. I love having those serious conversations with friends and family, and giving advice. Talking with others about how they feel makes me feel like I am doing something meaningful for them. This has helped me form lots of really good relationships with my people.

I am officially in love with my chocolate brown skin color tone, I like and am in love with it 😍

I could listen to him for hours. His voice is so calm and I love his accent 😂

LOL I thought this said are you PETTY enough? I was like nah, teach me how to be more petty!

Now can teach us how to become charismatic and overcome the trauma caused by the many times we were bullied while growing up for being unattractive!! Because that’s the real struggle!

Put glasses to this guy: Hi Harry Potter!

You know what's funny about this video? As much as I don't know his inner beauty, his outside is really beautiful.

He'd be the best wing man

I’m not pretty and I have a boring personality. And I’m obviously negative...

I get sad when guys say " I love short girls, not tall girls" lol

i'm 17 years old asian girl living in Europe. I have small eyes (two days ago during a lesson when I was looking down on my textbook my teacher asked me if I'm sleeping) But I still really like my eyes! They have a dark and pretty brown color. What I used to hate about them but now quite like is that one eye is bigger than another! I'm gonna love myself and not care what other people say!

As a guy, I look for the values a girl has over looks and most of my friends do the same. If you are a nice girl that contributes to a relationship, a lot of guys will chase you.

The actual content of the video starts at 3:29. or 7:19 for a quick recap. You're welcome.

I'm not really considered a "typical" pretty girl for today's society. But I'm very friendly and easy going. But my problem is that when I get around a guy I like I don't act like myself because I'm so nervous. I forget to smile and I barely talk. It's so irritating!

What if I'm more self concious about my personality than my looks?

Loved this video. So real and honest. I had a total “aha” moment when you said it’s a “waste of life” to worry about the things we can’t change. Bless you x

Everyone of us has its unique beauty and everyone has its own meaning of being beautiful. Be your own kind of beautiful not what somebody says to you.It’s not only physical appearances that matters but the real beauty within.

I've always been self conscious about my chubby cheeks, since my childhood since I was teased ALOT for them. I will embrace them! I will be proud^.^

I love how protective and caring I am and how I can see the strength of those two feelings in my eyes. And I love how I can be protective without being possessive.

I love my cheekbones even though nobody else notices I like how good I am at drawing I like how stupid I am / funny

im literally so obsessed with your videos im about to "binge" watch all of them i strive to be as happy and wise as you are

i have been told by several people that when i laugh i sound like a hyena, this has caused me to try to suppress laughing around guys and i know that there are guys that i think he's so cute but he couldn't possibly be in to someone like me

True. Appearances will never last forever, we all get old someday or even may get into accidents etc tat changes how we look 4ever. But what will last is a kind heart and positive attitude towards life. Thats beautiful.

Nothing else matters about a person except the person themselves. Came across a few of your videos today, I can't deny that I enjoy watching the way you present your messages, how direct and concise you are in your delivery as well. I'm sure that videos like these have helped a great number of people in different ways and on many levels. Thank you for taking the time to do this sweetheart 😊

My best friend is a 76 year old woman who has never worn makeup, jewellery, fancy clothes. She complains in private about her crooked teeth…I have witnessed over the decades men young and old flirt with her, proposition her, and just want to be around her. Just being in her presence people feel better about themselves…she is addictive! She exudes love!

I'm ugly and fat but bitch, I rock that shit like it's going out of fashion 😏🙄😉

When younger I went through a phase of approaching guys that I perceived to be way hotter than me because I was like- what the hell I'll give it a shot. Anyway, I ended up dating a couple of them that I liked and at the time I was so insecure about my looks that I couldn't believe they would date me. I'm not bad looking but they were definitely like super model attractive. As it turns out- they were some of the most boring and un-fun people I ever dated. Not that attractive people are necessarily boring, but I think it taught me the lesson that being physically attractive is only one part (and a seriously minor part at that) of the whole package. They quickly became really unattractive to me. Currently dating my long term boyfriend who is not as physically attractive as the other guys, but I've never been so attracted to someone in my life. Xxx

i really think this is the best video you ever made; whenever im at my lowest during my dating journey i turn to this video for solace and hope

Just watched this. My special beauty feature is my radiant smile and optimism. I always look for something positive in a situation or a person.

I have several friends that I found completely a-attractive. I didn't find them particularly attractive, but I didn't find them ugly, either. Over time, getting to know them as people, spending time with them, I came to find them some of the most beautiful and handsome people I know.

but society dont appreciate me, even how hard i try to be friend with them. They always say im too skinny like a stick. thats why i often want to be alone. but i felt pretty after i watch your video. thanx

I am insecure about nearly everything it made me anti social.. i know the harmful effects its causing but don't know how I can fight it..It all started happening after I was rejected and dumped by my only childhood love which I was crazy about for 8 years of my life.. but I was not good enough for him just because I was not that beautiful and an average looking girl.. since then my confidence is shattered .. but I will try to find it back thanks for the video it really gave me some hope..

Thank you Matthew, you've handled that subject perfectly well. It feels it comes form someone who has really been taking a genuine interest in women. You take care, Lili

I wish that pale and fat was still in fashion. I could be a model

I appreciate my thick natural hair and my goofy personality. I'm very shy and don't know what guys think when they see me. I was told one time I give off this vibe that cannot be explained but they sat it was a good one.

Why did I just found this video at the end of 2019?

How in the world could someone not like you!!! You are amazing and so kind and intelligent. I appreciate your advice

People consider me beautiful yet, I always like the ''ugly guy'' and people always wonder why. But even though I don't like the hot guy, I like the dorky or nerdy guy...

why do i always eat when i watch these? i always die laughing and the food gets caught in my throat/nose

You changed my life, Matthew Hussey!

I’m in a non-confident situation until I saw through this video right now , I guess I should think about my self value and the beauty that I was borned with. Thank you for upload these videos that can make my days more better✨😃

My Mum always told me, 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' so if they think u have beauty - DON'T QUESTION IT.

I can't stand when men tell me I have a beautiful personality, and what a great person I am ... yet follow up with but you would be drop dead flawless if you lost a few pounds. I have gained weight because I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer and after they performed surgery to remove my thyroid I gained weight. I work out 5 days a week and eat well but it doesn't come off . my Dr says people with hypothyroidism struggle severely with weight gain and trying to shed pounds. personally I am OK with it I have come to embrace my size 14 and learned to live with this incurable disease because I eat right I just can't control the weight I pack on . what can I do so that this isn't an issue .

Something that gets me through life's hardships is my sense of humour, I make myself laugh, some other people too. Thanks for this video

Unerappreciated aspect- How I choose to put a positive spin on most things.

I appreciate my ears because they work sometimes.

There are so many insecure people in the comments, its crazy. "I'm sick of men. I'm sick of dealing with these no good scum." Well guess what everyone, negativity is not attractive. And the more negative you are about yourself, the more people will be repulsed by you. Same goes for men. For certain guys, their perspective is also, "I'M SICK OF WOMEN, I'm sick of dealing with b*tches." Its so funny how both sides hate each other and have the same negativity. Noone wants to be attracted to someone out of pity. Work on yourself and do something about it. Same goes for the guy. Complaining doesn't get anything done. Stop hating and stop bringing out bad thoughts cause that doesn't lead to progress.

I love that I’m always very motivated and always try with this energy to encourage and motivate other people. That’s a compliment many friends (boys and girls) told me and it just makes me really happy! :)

That's exactly the idea i had yesterday Mathew what counts is our attitude and our self confidence that gives people that perception that we're wonderful

I never appreciate my strength! I have severe trauma, have been verbally, physically, and sexually abused countless times and abandoned by the ones I love so many times but I'm still here and still fighting. I'm proud of myself. I do have insecurity, but I choose to love my disproportionately large boobs and narrow hips and braces and stomach that isn't quite toned yet but will be as I keep working and taking care of my mental health and drinking water and concentrating on whether I am full or not so I don't accidentally binge on healthy food. I'm 17 years old and I'm strong. If he doesn't like me that way, honestly that's fine. He doesn't owe me anything. But thank you for making this video! I keep telling myself he's too attractive for me but 99% of the feelings for him developed because I saw his beautiful heart. And yeah he's fucking hot but I don't get nervous around guys that are just hot. I treat those guys as an equal. But him! He is hot and has a beautiful heart and I fuck up all the time. But he just doesn't care and it's an amazing quality. Whether he likes me or not, I really hope to get a friendship out of this because people like that don't come around often. But non matter what, I am worthy of love.

Starts at 3:34 😊

Hey, I just found you today. Not sure you will see this or not, but your words, thoughts and what you bring out to the people is what I think about all the time. It's amazing how similar our views are and I'm so glad that you are a figure that could spread the word a lot furthur than I can, but try to do. I'm sure a lot of other people have the same views as us, but I just want to thank you for helping people out and bringing out the best in them.

I love my ability to create distraction and wonder with people and make them laugh or smile.

Today I'm going to appreciate my smile!

Why is it that all the Matthews (Matt) that I know or know of are all dam good looking!!

Matthew, you have BEAUTIFUL English, I enjoy it tremendously, as well as I enjoy your way of addressing really important issues for women. Thank you for being so honest and committed ❤

love the way you talk about the genuine beauty

i've been so insecure about my height being too tall always got me depressed even though people say they love my height and they wished they were tall like me...i still don't believe it and even if i see shoes which are high heels that i would love i wouldn't wear them

whats with you youtubers being sexy as hell

I'm am going through a process of distancing myself from someone who is just playing with me.Thanks God I fell upon your website and its helping me cope and become self confident and knows what I really want. Thank Mr Matthew.

The part about myself I feel under-appreciated is that I try no matter what.. I try my best at everything and give everything of what I got

It's funny when attractive people try to tell ugly people they are beautiful, isn't it?

I feel that my importance as a human is overlooked. Pre children men would jump to open doors for me, compliment me on my physical features, ask me for my number, and generally be kind. While pregnant less men opened doors for me, less men complimented me and certainly no man asked me for my number..lol After children my body has changed. Even while shopping alone without my children very few men open doors and so on a so forth. Even tho my hair and makeup and dress style is still the same. I am the same person with the same pleasant personality who is just overall happy go lucky generous and open. Me as a person did not change. Just my physical appearance.. my hips are wider ... I carry some extra mid drift baggage and my clothes are a few sizes bigger. Not found attractive to some anymore. My question is.. why is opening a door for me so much less convenient for you because of my looks? No matter who it is .. male or female.. young or old... fat or thin.... whoever is behind me.... I will hold that door open for them. Because it is the nice thing to do. Dont let your own looks or someone elses looks change who you are as a person. SO.. my personality gets over looked. Luckily I have found a great man who loves me for all of my imperfections... People thin fat ugly bald hairy stinky lol hahaha... all deserve respect and kindness.. cause after all ... each and everyone one of us deserves to be treated with respect whether or not you find them attractive. Well.. except murderers and other awful people who commit horrendous crimes... I wouldnt hold the door for them lol

I have watched this video many many times and it's like a new thing every time. I see errors and ways I can make changes in my life. Thanks so much for the way you put your videos together. They are always rich and invigorating

Thank you so much...for that much needed booster. I may not be beautiful...objectively or the perceived one...though at my age I really do not mind much if I am or not! There are times in a person's life, like myself personally that I really need and want to feel beautiful ...so I need to feel good about myself. I can't give what I do not have! And, in my own small circle...in my own small way I may contribute to the whole aura of something good within my circle of friends, influencing them somehow that there is still so much goodness and beauty in a lot of people...in a word, I can be a disperser of goodness and beauty within the small circle I move in, in my own small way. And this is still about my insecurities and low self-confidence... Once again, thank you so much for being an inspiration to a lot of people, men or women...and myself in particular! God Bless you always!