Not really. It just means you didn't have the balls to succeed without the ex's actions. You can't get much more spineless than that. Not only did the ex's dump the shitr out of you, but you also wouldn't have done it without him/her.
Manu ... yeah i was 17. By the time I was 17 and 48 hours old i had moved on...went on to get my degree, spent 25 years working on Wall Street and now spend my time watching my almonds grow, riding my horse all the while having a good wife and two adult children starting their own families. ..my definition of success isn’t money as much as living a life well lived. I don’t need anyone to kick the shit out of my emotions to inspire me to do anything but when it does happen I try to learn something from it... because i am far from perfect.
Cliche, but true. In my experience, there's almost nothing you can do directly that'll do more damage or inspire more self reflection than letting them do it to themselves. Unless you luck out and they're interviewing and you're the hiring manager or something, feel free, but realistically. Then you be the guy taking his kids for a sherbert. That's all it takes, you keep all your dignity, and there's no blowback
Damn dude. I'm going through a very similar thing with my ex. She wrote me outta her life and got a new BF... Well I recently found out they broke up and she unblocked me on Facebook. I REALLY wanted to hit her up because I still like her even though I'm doing well in life. But thanks to this podcast I think I'll just act like she doesn't exist. Such good advice and in a way that I can really understand. Thanks Bill, ur a life saver.
100% agree with bill here. Don’t talk to her ever again. My ex left me for some other guy. It’s been over a year since the breakup and she still tries to call me on an “unknown caller id.” It’s the best feeling ever.
Standard spiel..."I love you, But I am not in love with you."... And yes there is another man. Women NEVER jump without a replacement already lined up. I was given this advice, and didn't acknowledge it as fact until it was blatantly in my face.
The best revenge is a life well lived......the very quote that got me through my breakup. I started going to the gym I’m built now. Nowhere near enough but noticeable. I eat a very healthy diet. No more garbage. Made a ton of new friends. Career is taking off. Quit Fakebook! She’s done nothing except get worked over by sweet lady karma! Stay strong guys.
The fact that after A year of separation, having a better body, job, and girlfriend that this guy is still salty, salty enough to drudge up revenge even though every aspect of his life is now supposedly better, tells me there's something wrong with him.
Josef Venable - I really get these things because he was really in love like in real love. So it is not his fault. I know because I have been there I was so shocked to hear this. Because it is almost exactly like me only she was thousands of kilometers away from me and I went there twice with two jobs. Because I know him he believed it could happen again if he tried so hard.
+James Dd that's his fault for being delusional and his fault for living in the past and not embracing what he has in front of him. You can make all the excuses you want for being unable to get over your feelings but at the end of the day it's your decision to be stuck there.
Toastergod44 He has/had low self-esteem. He feels the chick dropped him for another dude. Wanting vengeance is petty, but it's also very easy to understand.
the woman doesn't just "go from relationship to relationship" - she was checking out the new guy before getting rid of the old. notice that since she was moving up at work, she very soon decided she should have that Bigger Better Deal. the guy was right at the start: he got a get-out-of-jail card. go all the way to freedom, man. marriage - it's a rotten deal.
Sono Tom hence she goes from relationship to relationship. If your a girl your the worst kind saving on to old while your checking out the new? Something fucked up mustve happened to you as a child
Bill's right, I cut all ties to this girl, and 8 years later she see's me out shopping, I lost weight, I'm in my new car (2011 Mustang GT), and look happier than ever. Oh, sweet revenge the look on her face was priceless. Her doing what she done to me, was a blessing. At the the time my heart was broke but now I'm so glad she did it.
Great advice Bill EXCEPT when you tell the writer to Marry AGAIN! Guys out there LISTEN to me DON'T EVER EVER get married it is a binding legal contract that IF the woman decides shes bored or WHAT the fuck ever she will dump you and TAKE HALF of EVERYTHING. STAY SINGLE,get a girl have kids all that stuff BUT DON'T get married. If you do you have a 60% chance of BEING very sorry later.
Bill's advice is right on. If he gives her any kind of attention, she wins. You have to act like they never existed. Yoi have to act like you have had so many girls that you don't have the energy to keep track of them.
Its def true if you interact with your ex in any way even going all out to get back at her it shows underlying feelings of care for her and she wins. In most cases love is measured by how much your willing to hurt the othrts feeling after the fact.
@@lwo7736 Bill is praising a recently-divorced man while advising him to not look for revenge, my comment was a reference to how the best way to get revenge is to not get revenge, and you somehow thought this had something to do with MGTOW, which literally no one except you has brought up. How does your comment make any sense?
@@ninjabreadman8166 I see, I misunderstood. BB has a lot of pathetic MGTOW followers so I wrongly assumed you were writing off women when you said "don't play the game"
Henry Aron said it best, he said" it takes to much energy and time to be jealous and anger at people" I agree. If you try and get revenge then you're wasting valuable time and you're evil as she was. Bil is right about the last pRr silence is best. You'll get over it man. Everything in time. You'll get over it. Just takes time
Give her the gift for men yet a terror of females: The Silent Treatment. You randomly see her? She doesn't exist in your reality. Had a thought about her? There is no such thing as her. She gave you money? Take the money and pretend she doesn't matter to you. Say and Do nothing around this chick.
The wife did nothing wrong and the guy writing is a psychopath. If she wants a divorce than that's her choice, it's not like she fucked him over in any way other than just leaving, they split the house and he even got the damn dog.
It’s weird how he’s still so pissed about this. The best revenge is indifference - you couldn’t care less. Moving on and doing things for yourself and not to prove anyone wrong.
Ya know what? If guys keep working out and pursuing their passion while in the relationship, you just might outgrow HER... rather than getting fat and complacent and then she leaves you- NOW you wanna hit the gym!
The guy is lucky, she at least was straight like you said, problem is she probably felt this way for at least a couple years and perhaps cheated. She did what everyone wanted her to do, and he is now paying for it. What does it matter, don't waste your time you won from everything you said. Canadians they always got to add "eh" to the end of a complete sentence. If you're single and she comes back looking for a lay, and this dude is still with her, then bang and say this was a bad idea please leave.
She shouldn't have hooked up and definately not gotten married to him and lead him on for 6 years if she did not love him or even like him or know him....and as for him...since he drinks, uses drugs, swears, seems to like violence and revenge he just shouldn't be surprised and quite frankly he shouldn't be hooking up, dating or marrying ANYBODY until he fixes his own personality problems.
If he really wants to hurt her....he should send her a dozen roses and a card that says "thank you for breaking up with me.....it was the best thing to ever happen to me.....blah blah blah".......then she'll feel like she's not good enough and she made a mistake....exes hate seeing their exes better off without them......that will hurt more than anything js
