Customers Who Fall in Love With Strippers 

I totally saw guys in clubs falling for different dancers! And 9 times out of 10 it's like you said the illusion disappeared like a magic trick when she got off work.

I had a customer calling me crying on my 21st birthday while I was in Vegas and he was in his 40s left a voicemail all sad. It was wild

What a kick in the face 😂, me and my friends needed this

Thanks for the video, as this is very relatable. I have a stripper crush who may be quitting, and I'm feeling it. I knew this wasn't healthy. Guys, try not to catch feelings for strippers, it never ends well.

Thank you for this video. I needed this reality check. My expectations in a potential relationship are too high and I think without seeing this, I could hurt myself.

Love your story hopefully theres more. this coming from a guy that would never pay for company that doesn't want to be there ✌️✌️

That is how "Alice Cooper" avoided the pitfalls of a lot of rock stars.When he left the stage "Alice" stayed behind and Vincent Furnier exited the theater. "Alice did not return until the next performance.

I definitely have developed some feels for a dancer I started seeing at a club last year. Told myself this is all just a fantasy, don't see it as more. But alas it happened. As the visits increased I bought into the fantasy being real. And it did seem to a point that she was sharing more of her real self and not just the fantasy girl. It got to the point we actually met outside the club for my birthday. The meeting was compensated for but she never made it feel like a business transaction. I never thought I had an actual shot with her beyond maybe being a sugar daddy. But I was enjoying what she was giving me. Something took a turn though a few weeks back during Valentine's Day weekend. We would text back and forth a little from time to time and she never responded. So like a dope when I went to see her the following weekend and mentioned it in passing she got really upset and broke down crying. Told me she couldn't be what I wanted her to be in my life. I have no real idea of what happened. Obviously she has her own life and things going on that I am not privy to so I just left it alone. We did kind of go back to our normal routine but now she doesn't text at all and it's strictly me going to see her at the club. It sucks but such is life. I really thought for a moment maybe she did have real romantic feelings for me. But that has kind of passed now. I still care a lot for her as a person. Even if I don't truly know the real person behind the dancer. But I agree with you about much of what you said in your video. I can understand why you wouldn't want to have a regular. It honestly never seems to end well. The only real regulars I see being able to handle this from the man's side of things are older gents who aren't looking to fall in love when they hit a club. I think most guys who go to clubs on the regular are like the guy you mentioned. Very timid around women, won't dare make the first move, don't really try, etc..As long as you treat the club as just entertainment then it can be a fun time. The second your feelings start to show it's GAME OVER.

Some guys fall in love, or become attached rather easily because we don't really have any options in women. I've created so many fantasies in my mind about being with sex workers, because sex creates such a strong physical/spiritual bond between two people.. I know that there's a very little chance that we could be together, but I always entertain the possibility, because I'm a very lonely soul and my heart is aching. 💔

We got it all types like pack of skittles babe 😂😂

Wow. Thank you. I needed to hear this😂

I just got back from strip club and I had to type falling in love with a stripper on youtube here I am :( ahah

great upload - thanks - shed some light on the reality of things

Guilty as charged. She was 30 and I was 49. We did become somewhat close friends. I even took on the role of watching her 5 year old son while she danced and partied and they both basically lived with me 2 years+. It was a Roller coaster of emotions. Things didn't work out and I let her use n abuse me all this time. I put up because of her son. 15 years later (Now) she comes to me needing a place to live and something to eat. I fed her but letting her live here again never.(drugs n drinking) she's about 45 and looks 80 - 85 years old and it breaks my heart. I wasn't good enough for her 15 years ago and I sure aren't Interested now. But I wish her the best. in 10 years she lost 3 babies to the state. I can't respect that

American strip clubs seem very different than in Europe. Here we don't just talk with a stripper.

she is dignified, honest and very level headed. i really like her mindset. this is a fine woman.

Wow this was helpful in informing me why I am feeling feelings. So glad I found it, and the dose of reality it provided. Maybe weeks after being left and divorced was not the opportune time to find my way in to the local club. I can’t stop thinking about the “fantasy” and wanting more of it. Thanks again 🙏🏼

I was at a friend's bachelor party at a strip club, and one of our friends kept getting lap dances from the same stripper all night long. He was just feeding her $20 bills nonstop. He went to the ATM twice to reload, and he looked pissed when he'd come back and she's in another customer's lap. He was convinced she really liked him, and he claimed she was going to meet him at the after-party we were having later that night. He thought she gave him her "real" name but of course it was just another fake name. She never showed up and we all clowned him for falling in love with a stripper, but I'm guessing that happens a lot. Kinda sad when you think about it. Who actually believes a stripper is into them? 😂

You do look like the kind of girl a guy might want to go out and have a beer with. That's a pretty decent compliment.

I remember having to tell guys at the door that stripping was an act. Kinda made me feel bad.

When I was stripping I did not date guys from the club. That was my thing. However, I don't condemn those that did. I had friends who would sleep with guys who came in the club. That's their business. I'm sure they negotiated a fee. I just didn't want to be sleeping with the customers no matter what they offered. I was offered my rent being paid, trips, weekend getaways. Also I had a guy who was taking care of me so, I was only sleeping and having sex with him.

Interesting videos. A friend of mine thought he fell on live with a stripper (long time ago) at a club on the Sunset Strip in Hollywood, CA. I guess he never had understood the distinction between meeting a girl at a strip club versus a normal party or normal place like school, etc. He was head over heels for this girl and even had thoughts of marrying her. As you stated, I think the girl left the club and either moved to New York or back to Mexico. My friend was broken-hearted and learned the hard way that it was apparently all a fantasy.

We lost the strip club in our town. The population of our metropolitan area is just under 160,000. They are dwindling somewhat in a lot of places.

As a guy who is not necessarily getting any younger and who is still single and who is losing hope with the dating market, nothing compares to a live, lovely, sweet female companion. I think there will always be a market for that, at least from guys in my generation or older. I get that it is for work but there are some vibes I get from some conversations with some of the girls that feel real and interesting, and that really messes with your heart and your head. I guess it is just because there are times when you want her to be real so badly because the real world sucks so bad sometimes. You just feel so much better when you're with her. I guarantee some of these women have saved some men from offing themselves, for real. I think for some of these men who are just lonely and hurting, you are doing much better work than you realize. I guess remembering that it is all just for show just hurts to think about.

Wait, ‘Candy’ isn’t her real name? 😮 Does the subterfuge never end!

Never fell in love w any strippers but did have little relationships w some. Not all the time but there were some instances where the conversations were genuine, never underestimate the power of humor. U can tell if theres real chemistry or they are just being nice, either way i respect both. I wouldnt recommend going to clubs to look for girls to be with, but it doeant mean it doeant happen.

Dated one recently. She gave me her number after a dance and we hit it off pretty well. I just had my guard up because you never know to what extent the stuff she tells you is genuine. She kept saying she felt a connection and I tried to not pay too much attention to that. I enjoyed her company but I came in with the idea that if I’m dating her I can’t expect everything to be 100% true. Thanks for the video it def cleared my head a little bit

In my experience, it's been easier to get a stripper to go on a real date with you or sleep with you or fall in love with you than it is to get out of the friendzone with someone you like, or get any non-stripper I find attractive or have a real interest in, to go out with me. Still not saying it's easy to do, but it happens with greater frequency. So I figure if my odds are really that bleak in the real world, might as well shoot my shot with strippers in a world where rejection feels less cruel since they usually want to keep you around for another comforting lapdance.

Interesting video. I've fallen for a few strippers lately. These type of girls have a very keen ability to make you feel important. The main thing I see them doing is they give good customers they feel safe with their phone #. They will text you photos and little cute texts. One has a real genuine sense ability to greet me and telling me how much she missed me. I had another one that told me I was special and if I go I noticed I am the only guy she will sit with and talk to. I've seen them break their character a few times and it was kind of a wake-up. Still they like customers who are nice, make them laugh, AND have a lot of $. If you are like me and have those traits I think you are easy prey for them.

And then there are the girls who meet you outside the club and say the things people building a relationship say. And then breadcrumbs for two months until it ends badly.

I've fallen in love with fair amount of dancers over the last 50 years. It's all about $100. bills. Money & drugs are the key ingredients. The small affairs last from 3 days to a week. Then it's over, and life goes on. Strip clubs are a party on the floor. Warm bodies and a million stories.

She is just doing her job. Just enjoy your time there.

I just had a strong conversation with my friend about his stripper addiction . He fell hard to the ground drunk one time, got punched in the face by some other guy, hit a parked car drunk and now he’s at the point where I’m like “bro , what are you doing?” Today I’m watching your video. Now he’s mad at me because I called him out about sex with random girls being “High Risk Sex”. He doesn’t see that.☹️

This is why I used to go to the strip club and spend all my money cause I liked the fantasy of talking to these beautiful girls or spending time with them and I actually did meet up with this one dancer after work a couple of times and we would sit in her car and talk and I've gotten lots of dancers numbers before just so I would know when they work so I could go see them but I quit going to the strip club cause I just got tired of the fantasy and spending all my money on these girls that I don't know anything about. So I completely understand what you were saying in this video.

As a guy at a strip club all you can hope for is "interesting company that smells nice and is easy on the eyes." If you are kind and polite you can get over the nervousness you have with talking to women outside of the club. Other than indulging in the "fantasy", you find out that women, even breathtakingly attractive ones, are just people.

9:25 wow that's so nice of you to help them find someone who's their preference haha

Women who work that gig successfully are smart. They are strong, driven individuals that are not only successful inside the club but outside as well. The others are supporting a deadbeat boyfriend, a drug habbit, or merely drifting from one bed to another looking for a way out. I'm betting you're successful in whatever you set your mind to. You have a beautiful aura. Thanks from an old dude.

Sounds like what they call dating. Don’t see any differences between the 2.

People go to clubs for the wrong reasons. They are at work, and that means they wouldn't be talking to you if you weren't a customer. If you don't want fast food, don't go to McDonald's.

The reality is that Strip Club serve their purpose. But you should definitely limit the amount of time you go because at the end of the day, the dancer is not going to have any feelings for you and you’ll desire more in which you most likely won’t receive.

Dating a stripper isn’t easy.. everyone tells me it’s not smart but I love the girl.

Hearing this just kind of make me sad for some guys. Their lonely or socially awkward and they try to fill that loneliness and give all their disposable income to someone that doesnt care about them. Its not the strippers job to date them, but just rough thinking the guys are just getting used and lied to.

I have a slightly different perspective. Back in the 1990s I was in my early 20s and three of my friends started stripping. I went to the clubs where they danced and even gave rides to and from work. I met other strippers through them in and out of work and because of my friends I wasn't always treated as a customer. But I was always aware they were performing as part of their jobs. I got to know several women on a more personal level such as when I spent a week giving a friend a ride to/from work. I started taling with another woman when she was not dancing and conversation got very personal, she had just ended a long term relationship so she vented her frustrations to me, etc. She didn't make any money off me, the club didn't do private dances so she just liked spending time talking to me and she was a genuinely friendly and interesting person. Another time a stripper stopped by a club on her night off and invited me to go bar hopping with her. Again she wasn't making money off me, paid for her own drinks, she just wanted to spend time with me. We made out a little at the end of the night but I told her I wasn't comfortble going farther because she had talked about her boyfriend. Yeah, I actually turned down sex with a stripper. I've always been socially awkward and can't tell when a woman hits on me. There were other times I've been around strippers outside of a club and things could have gone farther if I wasn't so oblivious.

That's why I respect strippers. They are actors of very old theater. In the end they tells story of you to you. Sometimes dark, sometimes weird, sometimes with well intrusted pre Manchu fan's. Why not to save them for god sake! ✌️

You look at them as objects, and they see you as $$$ in the its mutual usery

When I was a younger man, I'd gone to the strip club literally hundreds of times---not bragging, just saying I have a lot of experience when it comes to how things go there. I never fell in love, but I know a dude who did---and they actually wound up getting married. That is very much not typical....in fact, many strippers will give a guy a fake phone number. Now, I was a regular at a certain club, and a few of the girls there would let me get quite handsy with them during lap dances---I've had a few of them give me their numbers (without me asking), but it was understood that it was for prostitution-type things on the side. I never did take them up on it, though

Reminds me of the T-pain song LMAO

Very interesting. It's all totally a fantasy. But it's understandable that when a guy goes to the same stripper over and over again, the touching & lap dances, etc. seems inevitable that feelings would develop.

I dated a stripper once and had another stripper asked me out. I don’t recommend it. The stripper was not the same person as in the club. But yeah, their are strippers who date customers or do more.

1:17 so any given social situation lol

This is so informative, I’m indifferent about yesterday cause the majority of yesterday it was good I was enjoying myself and then all of a sudden she paused and said wait I can’t be catching feelings like this and that had me so confused for a second. After that she asked me if we could see each other again on my terms and she pretty much pouted when I was leaving and I said sure which lead to her setting up a date on her calendar and her taking my phone and putting it in there as well and yeah. Basically I feel like I did a reverse seduction on her but then again what do I know. This whole weekend was kind of a blur

This works for twitch streamers too

Are some of them real? Is it possible to both have a relationship?

I've been in many strip clubs and got many numbers. I've dated a few in my life. The girls have never ask me to get a dance, and have connected on different levels. I'll sit an drink with them, and talk about their interests. I have offered a few money for their time before I leave, and had them refuse it. An offer there numbers in the end.

I have been visiting strip clubs for years and always kept this in mind, that the girls in there are selling a fantasy. Never had a crush on any dancer until recently. She is so real it is weird. Doesn't care about giving me dances, won't let me buy her drinks, she just likes to sit and chat as if she is talking to a friend. I am so confused now and thinking if I should ask her out or at least be friends out of the club since she really intrigues me. If you see this let me know your comments. I would appreciate your input.

Classic projection of the anima.

I go to my local strip club about once a week. Though I have no expectation of dating any of the dancers, I’m very susceptible to their charms, and prone to forming emotional attachments. I’ve always been soft-headed and soft-hearted that way; it’s just who I am, and I’m not likely to change (nor do I want to). My advice is, if you can’t keep yourself from falling in love with a stripper, then go the other direction: Fall in love with two or three at once. I’ve got two regulars right now, I adore them both, and have no qualms about telling them. On any given night I’ll spend time with each, and maybe with one or two other dancers I also like a good deal. Hell, I even make a point of telling the waitresses and female bartenders how gorgeous they are (briefly, and only when they’re not terribly busy). I’m just a slut that way. My point is, let your feelings go, if you must, but avoid the pitfall of becoming obsessed over a single dancer. That only becomes awkward for her and extremely painful for you. Instead, allow that emotional energy to dissipate by spreading it as widely as possible. Embrace the world! If you’re the type who loses his heart easily, you can find multiple young ladies at your club worth giving it to, and your emotional state will stay more balanced, since it won’t depend entirely on how things go with a single dancer.

Good lesson to learn. Its the same as meeting a woman on-line

My fianceé decided to start stripping a little while back to help us meet some financial goals more quickly than would otherwise be possible, and she comes home and tells me some really crazy stories about how these guys are falling for her persona she presents to them. A lot of them push and push for her real name and of course her number so they can meet outside the club and take her out, or some of them want her to come to their hotel after the club closes. (we live in an area that gets a lot of out of towners) Of course when she gives them her "real" name, it's just another fake name and the guys that "luck out" and get her number are getting a random set of digits she strings together to get them to stop asking. She makes them memorize the number without pulling out their phone so that when they call it later and it's nobody, they just think they remembered it wrong or whatever. Based on the stories I hear, it really seems as if they really don't realize or cannot differentiate fantasy from reality. There is a very interesting psychology that goes on in strip clubs. I think some of these guys want so much to believe that the stripper they are talking to is exactly what she presents to them that they literally get so caught up in the fantasy that they actually forget it's just that: a fantasy they are paying for that ends as soon as they stop paying. Strip clubs tend to attract very certain types of men. They either cannot or will not go to a normal bar to flirt and attempt to pick up women, either for the fear of rejection or they are maybe too socially awkward, yet these same men go to a strip club and somehow convince themselves that the crazy hot stripper half their age is actually into them! The conversations she tells me about definitely point to this. It's actually quite sad how delusional some people allow themselves to become...

Only adolescents fall in love with strippers. Adolescent does not mean teenager. Some people (men and women) can remain infantile, childish or adolescent their entire lives. I have known a few of these stripper women. One was a bank teller whom I later saw as a dancer at one of the local strip clubs. She had two different occupations. Do not judge them and do let them judge you. We are all just people.

Super lies, daddy issues, high drama, drug addiction, prostitution, children....= stripper life

Hello, i found your channel because of your review on the rational male, but I had to comment on this video... Long story short, I used to be a bouncer at Strip Clubs and Brothels in some European country... Thing is, the opposite used to happen to me, the girls usually found me attractive and wanted me to date them... We never spoke inside the clubs, but I would usually receive friend requests after the night, some of them even 'bumped' into me in venues, and talked to me as if they knew me. At the time I was just a very tall, bodybuilder and pretty face guy trying to pay is studies... I believe some factors where in play, but it got annoying after some time... Is it a normal thing? Or was I just a 'lucky' guy? Keep on posting videos, I find them entertaining... Best regards...

Bridget Eva Grey (Hungarian) ~ Exotic Dancer 1973 ~ We lived together for 6 months. She might be asked to go to large parties. I didn't care. I wasn't the jealous type. But when out of the blue, she asked me to marry her. But I saw the immigration letter... Inappropriate!! Had she sat down and reasoned with me, I could've helped her, but I couldn't partner with a woman who wasn't good partner material.

I think one aspect here is just that both customers and strippers might be jaded. So, even if you could get along in other circumstances, the environment and the expectations in it may just lead to sabotage. It's not uncommon to psych yourself out of otherwise good stuff for compeltely arbitrary reasons that you picked up here or there.

You are a beautiful woman

What was the thing you had in common with the customer that he did not believe you??

I've been going to the strip club lately with my friend. Having a blast. Going a little too much but we can afford it for the time being. It seems to me there is a lot of mental toughness on the strippers part to be able to block out all these annoying customers advances and perverted comments. To be able to turn it on and off like that and become that person only at work seems like their more mentally tough than the guys. They've been through a lot to get here.

Mine is so hot I actually can only look at her with one eye at a time because using both eyes is scenery over load...even one eye is overload but after about 3 hours I can again composer and reasonable heart rhythm so it's managable- or if I squint with both eyes real hard so I can bairly see her that works too

LOL this my dilemma, i know im not in love with her, im just REALLY intrigued in who she is, i usually like going by myself cause my friends can be too much. But the problem with that is that girls approach me to the point where I can’t say no anymore with the excuse that I’m waiting for someone. Lol one of them was like “oh you’re in love with her” and im “I like her but i just wanna get to know her” like is that too weird to dancers ? Am I sounding like a bs guy ? Idk, i just know i wanna meet her 🤷🏽‍♂️

That’s why I stayed out of strip clubs for the most part I was one of those idiots that would worship a stripper

3 weeks ago I would of never of thought to go in a strip club, my mate couldn’t believe I’ve never been to one so at the end of a night out he got all of us to go to one. I gotta be honest I’ve fell/ fallen for this girl(after going there the last 2 weekends in a row). The first time I had an hour with her and for the first 20 minutes I enjoyed the dance and we were chatting away and it was lovely but it snapped something inside me and I just opened up to her. I want to say it’s because haven’t had a significant other in I would say 6 years. Don’t get me wrong I’ve had a couple of one night stands and all that rubbish in amongst that time but being that close with someone and intimate whilst chatting about the things that you and she liked it just opened me up like a can of worms. I poured my heart out to her. I told her how I feel that my best years are soon to be gone, I’m 26, and I still haven’t found anyone also my work worries. Everything that I bottle up and don’t tell anyone I just let loose to a woman who I’ve only known for like 20 minutes. I felt awful for doing that to her but she was so understanding fair play to her, and we just sat there cuddled up and she told me everything I needed to hear. I wanted to say this as I’m hoping it may help other lads who have had a weird situation like this. This video is an eye opener and I will try to learn from it, many thanks

I tend to consider strippers as ... ultimately ordinary people with their own stories. I think, in rare cases, you have good chemistry with a stripper like you might with any random woman you meet, or you might have really good conversations because your personalities match enough. But that's very luck based. I've only very rarely thought that strippers were beautiful, although I admit that there have been one or two girls where I suppose I might have been slightly intimidated because of how attractive they were. One of those also just plain had too promising a personality and conversational skills that were at a level where my brain was like "This person may be outside of my weight class". lol I rather hope she did well. It would be sad if a promising person did not make much of their life.

Ive been stalked by crazy women so I never fall in love with dancers. Camgirls however, we can move at a slower pace, know each other better. Once, I had a hard time deciding from two gorgeous Colombians. One, I was certain was married. The other was married but told me so, and she came at me hard. We were lovers, she treated me very good. The other lived out of state, but I really wanted to bankroll a clothing brand with her so somehow she was more attractive to me. I owned a large cam studio in Sin City, I know everything about men and their schemes. I also know scheming women who keep losers at home. Bitcoin never deceived me tho.

It's funny that you should talk about falling in love with a stripper, I did. It didn't end well but for several years I was friends with and very, very involved with her and her daughter's life. Although we were never lovers she would tell people I was her best friend. I even wound up getting one of her dogs because it didn't get along with her very young daughter. So I guess what I'm trying to say is it does happen but I agree that most times what guys are falling in love with is an illusion not a real person. I my particular case there was a real person there for several years but she got way too involved with drugs and we had to part company when she stole a fair amount of money from me. BTW don't ever think you're not beautiful, you are, not in a beauty queen sort of way, but as you said in a girl next door king of way.

In my experience its the strippers that like me too much. Met my current gf at the club and she does everything in her power to keep me away from her coworkers lol.

Just watch the French film Belle de Jour for further insights!

Oh no! she was not a real person," the dancer I met". So why should I talk to her. she gave me her number. When I met her in my first day in the club we talked a lot and it was great. I wasn't never expecting her number

I got to go home with a stripper thrice 😉 That was over a span of about 20 years though 😂 So that works out to about 1 stripper every 6 years in those 20 years. But most guys could only dream. I lost my hair and good looks now so I can no longer pull that off.

Going to strip club = paying for a raging case of blue balls

You think I gaf who SHE is? Sike na 😭

Don't get me wrong I enjoyed many dancers in my hay day but there was never a time I was able to have a serious relationship with them. It's just a cheap thrill. I also notice when I talk to women outside the strip joint I had much better results with getting phone numbers

Well shit

I think I fell in love with this one stripper. I know it's a illusion and a game, but I haven't been in the right head space since my grandparents died. She even put her number in my phone after the lap dance she gave me

stop right there you said customer instead of husband

You can’t speak for every girl. I know a dancer who is a friend of mine. I will never actually date anybody. But there are some strippers who will fall in love with their clients. It just doesn’t happen that often.

I dated 3 strippers somehow. I think I'm done.

This person was/is a stripper? Lol. Keep me out of that joint. Woof

Strip Clubs are a waste of time

What about strippers "falling in love" with customers? It happens, but much less frequently and I feel sorry for the customer.

to be COMPLETELY honest i am were and will be 100% satisfied with leaving my home for ONLY a MINIMUM of 23 hours a week out of 168 hours and i did do and will really really LOVE previously being a customer at strip clubs ALMOST as much as smoking cigars near indianapolis motor speedway which previously had alicia silverstone and calling conway wines that previously had denise richards those really really STRONG interests/hobbies did do and will go in this EXACT order #1 calling conway wines/denise richards #2 smoking near the track which previously had alicia silverstone and #3 previously going to strip clubs

😆.. well put..but basically insinuating strippers have no brains nor emotions..