Daughter Is A Stripper (How Do I Save Her?)

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Daughter Is A Stripper (How Do I Save Her?)
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@kengy1991 2 года назад

I think the dad’s response is key. The fact that he doesn’t care that she’s doing this right now I’m sure is a huge factor as to why she’s still doing it.

@dewilew2137 Год назад

Bingo. Do you have daughters? You understand girls very well.

@kengy1991 Год назад

@@dewilew2137 I have one daughter that is almost a year old. I have just seen how young women can be affected if their fathers do not invest in them morally and emotionally, especially in their teens.

@standground8284 Год назад

From my experience and what women say who come from decent homes. If a girl dad cares about them, there for them emotionally, provides for them, faithful to his wife and family, doesn’t party drink or do drugs… most women will see that and say their dad is boring and a square. Instead seeking guys like their dad, they choose go out and get ran through by a bunch dudes until they’re ready to settle down with a guy who cares and conducts themselves similar to *dad*.

@halloweendancing 8 месяцев назад

As a woman with a good relationship with my father and is very happy and healthy who used to strip - she might just enjoy it. That’s why I did it, I enjoyed dancing and made good money.

@DonnovanThomas929 6 месяцев назад

@@halloweendancingIt’s wrong though. Selling your body (yes I’m linking stripping and prostitution, same thing) is degrading and devaluing yourself.

@Jessthebes 2 года назад

I'll never understand why some parents act like the reason why their children go down bad paths is simply because of outside influence, when most of the time it all starts because of something going on at home.

@Stantorr 2 года назад

Yes and no. Peer pressure is stronger than you think. That's how cults isolate family members. Then again, it's so much easier to give a smart phone and a tablet to a 6 y.o. than actually do parenting. ** Ohhh and the father is not in the house *** ding ding ding !

@COINsimp2024 2 года назад

She literally wasn't even living at for the last 5 or 6 years.

@KM-up4xz 2 года назад

My son learn how to curse at school. Bad habits are like a plague they spread faster and easier than you think

@taylorosterbauer7879 2 года назад

@@Stantorr 😝 is H

@strnglhld 2 года назад

Kids don’t do this unless something went wrong in the home

@elmagnificodep 2 года назад

Diane: My daughter is stripping? Dave: What's her income and her debt? Is she putting 15% in a mutual fund?

@grantguy8933 2 года назад

Make sure she eats rice and beans

@6ohTreez 2 года назад

@@BlueTorrie rice and beans

@martinjackson909 2 года назад

“She’s stripping for a master’s degree in social work?”-Dave

@timh2065 2 года назад

She could pick up some additional cash with some after-hours "private consulting" work!

@Jss766 2 года назад

Dave has daughters and cares very much for them. He wouldn't want anyone doing this. He says deliver pizzas not sell your body.

@dammee 2 года назад

I’m letting my kids stay until they are ready, done school, in their careers, or get married. Im not just going to let your child struggle and get so desperate that they become sex workers. Hell no I’ll send you the money not to do that if I have to.

@sarahalderman3126 Год назад

All depends… most of us said that when are kids were little too. Too many variables to project without a scenario thete is no telling.

@Black_Samurai-fish Год назад

Same. I’d expect them to get a job, learn to pay for yourself etc but stay with us, get your life together and then you’ll be ready for buying a house getting a wife etc.

@jijiso253 5 месяцев назад

@@Black_Samurai-fishAbsolutely 😭😭🙏🏼🙏🏼

@beautepley8352 Год назад

This video made me tear up man because most sex workers don't have a mom who care this much. His advice is spot on because her daughter needs to be reminded that she has support and someone who loves her to death. That is 100% the message to focus on right now. I hope it works out and regardless of happens, her daughter is fortunate enough to have a mom who calls a show like this asking for advice on how to move forward. Being loved like this is rare. I never had that and never will. I hope it works out for them. I hope time heals their wounds.

@zaad5273 2 года назад

Mother: “My daughter is a stripper.” Ramsey: “She needs to sell the car.”

@apophispnw5717 2 года назад

Beans and rice, rice and beans.

@firefly9838 Год назад

She needs to pick up extra hours at the club to build that savings😂

@delightschwartz2155 3 месяца назад

@@apophispnw5717uhh no. The exotic dancers I knew back in the day ate like bodybuilders - they all did a very low carb diet and lots of gym work.

@katelynozdemir7536 2 года назад

This reminds me of when I was in college and I had to sell my eggs to infertile couples to pay my bills. I went through multiple cycles of donating over several years. When my parents found out they were super upset about it, but they never once thought about actually helping me financially. Quick to judge, but gave no alternative way to support me, and to be clear, I come from a family that makes good money. If you send your kids off into the world with no resources, maybe don't act shocked when you find out they're stripping, selling drugs, selling their eggs, etc to make ends meet. Edit: I had a full time job at the time, but shockingly, minimum wage that college kids get paid doesn't actually pay the bills. Some of you are judgmental idiots and are the same people who would be against raising the minimum wage so I wouldn't have to do that. I had a happy ending though, I'm rich and successful now. So leave me out of your drama.

@nmc1859 2 года назад

Wow. I almost did ivf, but it didn't seem quite right for us so we didn't go through with it. I did wonder why the ladies would donate their eggs to people they didnt know. My family is the same as you said yours is. Plenty of opinions, (after the fact) and no help or true compassion ans understanding. It's very difficult, especially as a young person, to navigate this world with parents like this. 💔

@mst-pierrem5729 2 года назад

I actually think people should not juge the "naked " industry. Most people have bills to pay and more and more 1 job isnt enough so.... and like you say outraged parents who find that out and dont try to help are just dumb. My daughter would tell me stuff like that I'd be trying hard to give her cash or start something to help her!! Geesh!!

@mynameis......23 2 года назад

They did not raise you to do this, ofcourse they will be upset

@U2beRejects 2 года назад

I mean just because you’re struggling financially doesn’t mean you should sell yourself and make bad choices. There are other, good, ways to make money. If I started selling meth to make money, it’s still not justified even if my parents don’t help me out. Also just because it’s legal doesn’t mean it’s a good thing.

@mst-pierrem5729 2 года назад

@@U2beRejects see here is one thing with that train of thought that escapes reality. We live in a society that if you dont pay your debt the collectivity will! And if you have too much debt you are forbidden legally to have acess to other things such as renting and other things you need to survive. If others depends on you (minors) it's even worst! I dont get people judging anyone for the simple matter that no is going to get you out of financial debt unless you die which then the debt will be transfered to the collectivity if the descendants and or love-ones refuse your thing. Let's stop pretending for a minute that this is a flaw in morality, when the big elephant in the room is your on your own as a adult to survive and we pretend to care as a society because we view sex with partners for money as sinful! Stuck in survival mode I'd rather give physical pleasure and orgasms than destroys someone's biology (selling drugs) in order to have acess to a wealth insure I eat and I sleep off the streets!! I was saved from making that decision last minute by a now husband who knew THAT ABSOLUTELY NO ONE CARED but that experience thaught me that forever more I shall never EVER JUDGE someone who's means of survival have arrived to this point! WE HAVE MADE A COLLECTIVE DECISION THAT PEOPLE MATTER AS LONG AS THEY HAVE A FOOD AND A PLACE TO LIVE! It is OUR collective inaction that makes us at least as bad as the sinners we try to cast a stone at! OUR COLLECTIVE MORALITY IS DEFFECTIVE AND WE GOT NO ONE ELSE TO BLAME BUT OURSELVES !

@bayoujohn03 2 года назад

I have a relative who was stripping. Good head on her shoulder and tom boy growing up, shr just liked being naked and found it a easy way to make money. never was a drug addict, is now married in early 30s with 3 kids, all same dad. cause you choose to do something others dont agree with doesnt mean you have issue or a bad person

@Guitarlvr01 2 года назад

You’re an idiot. Obviously you do not understand the dangers, just to start. The odds she’ll be raped or assaulted are exponentially higher. No woman does something like this out of self respect, that’s for certain. There are definitely issues.

@RedeemedRogueMolecules 2 года назад

Cool exception

@van2165 2 года назад

@@RedeemedRogueMolecules more common than you think

@karil6461 2 года назад

I'm normal, educated and did it too in my 20s. I worked 1 day a week and could focus on my more than full time school work. Before dancing I was working 2 fast food jobs and my grades where horrible.

@bailee7696 2 года назад

U don’t know what’s going on behind closed doors. And she is carrying that for the rest of her life

@arfriedman4577 7 месяцев назад

I stayed with my parents during and after college. I paid them rent. They told us we can stay as long as we want.

@RedeemedRogueMolecules 2 года назад

John you gave about the best advice possible on this one. The rest of the commenters want to diagnose everything, but what she needs is just mom to show her she’s worth more than those dirty folded $1’s (levity). Go get her momma.

@miawook 2 года назад

She’s worth crispy 100 dollar bills

@laughoutmeow 2 года назад

Dollar is a dollar nothing dirtier about it.

@guyrose2350 2 года назад

Stripping is not a bad thing to do, the money is not dirty, you can make a killing. Obviously many girls get taken advantage of when they’re naive, however, I know literally hundreds of girls who retired by 30 as multimillionaires with multiple businesses and streams of income! If you’re smart about it, it’s one of the quickest ways to gain wealth, men sexualise us women anyway, might as well profit. As long as a woman goes into it educated and knowing how to manage money (that’s the biggest problem of strippers they get addicted to the money and at some point it dries out) and how to protect herself and be smart about it.

@RedeemedRogueMolecules 2 года назад

@@guyrose2350 In a Christian worldview, it’s the opposite. Not everyone is 1000% secularised. Surprise!

@shelbysycamore637 2 года назад

@@laughoutmeow exactly.

@cpirtle 2 года назад

Excellent advice. Never stop fighting for your child, ever.

@Anangelfromabove 2 года назад

Unless they stop fighting for themselves, then just send them love and hope they start fighting again.

@PopMami 2 года назад

@@Anangelfromabove I agree. Unfortunately when they become an adult there isn't very much that you can do except be there if things don't go well.

@danmchardy6424 2 года назад

"Don't save her, she don't wanna be saved." - J Cole

@qualitygamingchannel5051 2 года назад

Didn't expect to see this comment here 😂😂😂 Also phrase originally coined by Project Pat 😎

@chocolatte8301 2 года назад

I came here for this comment lol!!! 🤣🤣

@paulchakola7372 2 года назад

Lol I was going to say this!

@xhaltsalute 2 года назад

You gotta offer it to her.

@KaiaLoken Год назад

Let her speak for herself and inform her of what’s available to her

@crazyinvaderfangirl1 2 года назад

I wish you would just talk to her daughter like adults instead of “storming the gates of hell” without even so much as a discussion beforehand. She could be completely fine and safe and healthy but her mom wouldn’t know because she don’t talk to her. I’m just not of parents parents shitting on their kids Autonomy as adults. I feel like they’re majorly overreacting here. She’s stripping for fat stacks. She’s not a serial killer or a hitman chill. This conversation sounds so condescending like oh my God just go talk to her Jesus.

@stevenporter863 2 года назад

She is 25 and going to get a master's degree. Why does John keep calling her little girl like she is 12? I get the mother sees her as a little girl but she is an adult.

@b.cdrisk2035 2 года назад

Because being a stripper is humiliating and you're supposed to care about your kids

@backyardwanderer16 2 года назад

Because you never stop being your parent's child and they never stop seeing you as their child. He's speaking to that emotional aspect of being her mom.

@bradleymaravalli2851 2 года назад

Because she's acting like someone who's in over their head and needs to regroup.

@terriesmith2616 2 года назад

Exactly. 💯💯 25 years old is a full grown adult. If it was a man, Baloney wouldn't have called him a "little boy", Baloney would've called him a man and tell him to "man up".

@b.cdrisk2035 2 года назад

@@terriesmith2616 Almost like there's more differces between men and women than men liking monster trucks and women liking makeup

@NeccoWecco 2 года назад

Daughter's working on her education and struggling to make it. It sounds like life at home isn't worth coming back to and she prefers to strip. Dad's answer was 'it is what it is' instead of "hey why dont we come together and make up the difference to help her out for a few months so she can get a better job and get back on her feet"

@bobberry1463 2 года назад

You don't know that. People can do whatever they want without it always being the parents fault.

@terriesmith2616 2 года назад

Mom and dad were divorce, for all we know mom kept dad away from daughter and now that daughter is out of control and stripping, mom refuses to take responsibility and blame dad or anything else except herself for not raising her daughter right.

@kellharris2491 Год назад

She is out of control? How? She has a home. She isn't doing drugs. Stripping and prositution aren't the same thing. She is a grown woman making her own decisions. That doesn't seem out of control to me.

@kayn2756 2 года назад

These parents who watch their adult children struggle financially amaze me. I told my kids, as long as they aren't criminals or doing drugs, they are welcome to live in my home till they are stable financially. Wait a minute, if she is bringing 1k daily. Mmmh maybe she can strip for a year or 2 and collect that money.

@thecramptons Год назад

😂😂😂

@SeanBaker 2 года назад

If I made $1000 per night, I wouldn't "come home" either.

@mynameis......23 2 года назад

Not everyone is characterless like you

@SeanBaker 2 года назад

@@mynameis......23 And not everyone is a judgmental batch like you.

@mynameis......23 2 года назад

@@SeanBaker they should be or else there will be a lot of bold characterless people like you

@Stardust19905 Год назад

I was a stripper and I'd rather dance at a club than move back in with my overbearing/controlling parents at 29 years old. Stripping is stigmatized.

@Kamingo170 Год назад

@@mynameis......23 So characterless to make a living as an adult. Just because your skewed moral compass doesn't accept other adults making their own decisions doesn't mean anything. Idiot

@valerieruiz6923 2 года назад

I wish my mother got this advice when I was struggling. It probably would have made a big difference and saved me from a lot of heart break!

@STALIN_B 2 года назад

Or you could be a grown up and take hold of your life

@thegood56 2 года назад

You never would have listened anyway

@betsyjones6822 Год назад

I’m glad you pulled through 👍🏻

@dewilew2137 Год назад

@@STALIN_B you could not be a POS, yet here you are.

@3Torts Год назад

@@STALIN_B 🤡

@adamusruber 2 года назад

I used to be a bouncer at a male strip club years back. The way women behaved at the club was shocking. It makes a female club look like a church. 🤣

@itsme-ih2cx 2 года назад

Im a stripper tight now

@Lifeszebarbie 2 года назад

🤢🤢

@adelinediallo7775 Год назад

Haha, would love to hear those stories man!

@halloweendancing 8 месяцев назад

Lmao

@freahrebecca3087 4 месяца назад

I believe it. Women have this notion that sexual assault can’t take place if it’s being done to a man.

@thomasinh6521 2 года назад

I have a feeling that a job in Social Work isn't going to pay a ton on top of the debt that she took on to get there.

@hollystiener16 Год назад

It does actually. With an MSW degree, you can make $100-200 if you see private clients.

@ddavis8988 7 месяцев назад

@@hollystiener16 That's very few people. Most people in social work are very low pay workers.

@cmichelle9986 6 месяцев назад

@ddavis8988 yep. It's one of the lowest paid professions. Most people who go into it aren't very capable or high IQ. Those are facts

@fitzyglamyt 2 года назад

This was very well done. It really is influence. One of your friends tells you it’s not that bad and it’s easy money and the person who feels like they’re strong enough to handle it and remove themselves emotionally from it will go ahead and try it and enjoy it once they see how much money they can make. But it is not a safe place.

@troyspears6470 2 года назад

Just because someone is a stripper doesnt make them a bad person…

@danbrown7224 2 года назад

Hopefully she is doing something smart with her money and not blowing it.

@martinjackson909 2 года назад

She’s going for her masters in social work. She doesn’t even need a masters in the field for most social work jobs

@Vbe796 2 года назад

she’s not a bad person…It’s the environment that parents are worried about.

@milaj927 2 года назад

💯

@sarahdoanpeace3623 2 года назад

Exactly

@TheFreeAgentLifestyle 2 года назад

More and more Gen Z girls will be doing stuff like this since liberation is a thing. She probably has an Only Fans and a Sugar Daddy too. You can't save her, she don't want to be saved

@taylorsmith9629 2 года назад

It’s not “liberation is a thing”. It’s because life is too dam expensive. She is going for a masters degree. That is ridiculously expensive. She can make tons more stripping than she can waitressing at Denny’s.

@paulchakola7372 2 года назад

Coach, is that you?

@kiki11974 2 года назад

I disagree with Dr John’s recommendation . You cannot make grown people do what they don’t want to do. There’s a reason why the daughter didn’t ask for help ….

@angryox3102 2 года назад

Yeah there’s no way that she’s going to leave all that money that she’s making in the club, and the freedom of living on her own to move back in with her mother.

@terriesmith2616 2 года назад

Exactly. Mom can try but if daughter refuses to change, there's nothing mom or anyone can do. Daughter has to want to stop stripping, otherwise mom will just waste her time. Daughter is 25 years old, a full grown adult women.

@hansonallie 2 года назад

So glad somebody else said it! Now, if Mom agrees to set her up in her own apartment, pay her bills & any delta btwn that & what she was making at the strip club -maybe then Daughter would play ball??

@amiblack8294 2 года назад

She could very much LIKE being in the gutter, you never know..

@kellharris2491 Год назад

This. Daughter is a grown woman. Mom is looking at the worst possible thing but many people are strippers and are just fine.

@platinumhandymansolutions 2 года назад

This is why we love you John. You were meant to do this. You are making the world a better place brother.

@cm5394 2 года назад

In the defense of her parents, some parents do the right thing and children can still turn out this way. The influence of the world is strong.

@seanjean9677 2 года назад

Well when the child turns out well the parents want the credit

@TheMechanicj 2 года назад

8 hour shift at the club or 80 hours at a job hard to say know too bad I’m a chubby ugly dude and had to get a real job lol

@rebeccaoprea9917 2 года назад

@@seanjean9677 there’s a saying that when things go right , we take credit , and when they go wrong , we blame someone or something .

@elizabetha8565 2 года назад

And what do you say to parents that have 2 or 3 very successful children and one that's in jail?

@boxelder9147 Год назад

@@elizabetha8565 scapegoated kid possibly

@constancelindsey3946 4 месяца назад

I got into stripping in Des Moines many years ago. I became a top feature act and danced all over the nation. In hindsight, I was looking for male attention I didn't get at home from my father. But then the inevitable happened...I fell down that rabbit hole and didnt stop for ten years...But when I finally left the business I set goals and became one of the top criminal defense investigators on federal capital cases throughout the US. The money, the attention and the power you have in that business is very addicting. If she hasn't been in it very long there's a chance she could leave but with the peer pressure and everything...not sure. My advice is to stay in touch with her daily and her father needs to be involved with her as much as he can. ❤

@pmeehan_3 2 года назад

So the daughter moved out when her parents got divorced? hmmm

@ineedhoez 2 года назад

Maybe this is because I am not religious but I really don't see the issue. I had 2 friends in college who did it. They graduated debt free, bought houses, and saved for retirement. They had net worth of a 300k before the age of 25. They are now both happily married with children. It was a job. They didn't do drugs. They didn't date dudes from the club. They went to school, went to work, and kept it moving.

@localjess838 2 года назад

At this stage of my life, I don't "look in" to people's lives to say the "end justifies the means". If you work in therapy or counsel career people, you will be shocked at the rot behind much of the success you see.

@kellharris2491 Год назад

I don't look at people and say their w life is over and they are stained forever. You would be surprised at what people go through and survive all the time.

@nothinwatever Год назад

Ya, there are some exceptions to the rule, but unfortunately, your friends story is not what most people story will be.

@RelaxWithDog 7 месяцев назад

It's just a risky environment - late nights, constant exposure to drugs and alcohol abuse, lots of sexually predatory behaviour, massive stigma, increased risk of sexual/physical/emotional violence etc etc. You don't want soemone you love to be involved in that lifestyle

@ineedhoez 7 месяцев назад

@whatisthais well I guess it's about perspective because, I grew up in a risky environment. Those dangers where in my community and home.

@dannyhantx 2 года назад

This is what happens when children don't grow up with strong father figures. Fathers, stay in your daughters' lives.

@scaldon2 2 года назад

Absolutely agree 💯. Children need there fathers. All the statistics show I child's best chance is being raised in household with both biological parents.

@sonojon0 2 года назад

This advice should be targeted to married women as well.

@mickmash-5192 2 года назад

The same father figures who stay in their daughters lives but then also attend strip clubs to watch and degrade other men’s daughters? So many male hypocrites commenting.

@taylorsmith9629 2 года назад

And why aren’t dads in kids lives?

@scaldon2 2 года назад

@@taylorsmith9629 well tge mother chooses who to have children with. Ask them

@Stardust19905 Год назад

I was a dancer and I don't regret it. Some women would rather work at the club to make ends meet than move back in with their parents, or be stuck in abusive relationships. Stripping is a job where you can work 2-3 nights a week and still make ends meet, while getting a degree or spending more time with your kids as a single mom.

@kellharris2491 Год назад

She is a grown woman making adult choices. People don't understand that. It's her choice.

@Yourmom_dotcom Год назад

AMEN

@marlonmarquez4798 Год назад

Usa has the largest porn industry/adult industry and still it's frowned upon. American culture is so weird. if a person wants to strip, why not? what's wrong with voluntarily doing a job for money? she isn't hurting anyone, stripping doesn't mean she is being a prostitute. that she will "slide down further" is pure speculation. stripping can actually be a really good gig.

@CapeEniEer Год назад

I understand that sex work is heavily shamed and punished and that its important for people to talk about how normal humans do it too. And im super glad it worked out for you but dont make it sound like its not dangerous. What if someone does it and gets raped or gets into drugs? No one becomes a firefighter not knowing that there is a possibility that they will likely have to run into a burning house at some point... dont make it sound safe. Say it how it is.

@boston312 Год назад

hey hey! your going against the PC narrative. You have to say you were forced into the profession or were trafficked. Your not allow to say you entered the profession voluntarily and especially not allowed to say that you enjoyed it.

@ethan4048 2 года назад

She's living like no one else so later she can live like no one else 😇😂

@righand 2 года назад

Lmao

@jasonrodgers9063 2 года назад

Ba-da-BUMP!

@evanzzzz869 2 года назад

☠️☠️☠️

@evanzzzz869 2 года назад

She’s on baby step 3.c.

@achavez78 2 года назад

Bruuuhhh!!!! Let's go 🤣🤣🤣

@nataliechavero4652 2 года назад

I personally know a few ppl in that industry but they are only focused on the $. And they are financially stabled ...some use that $ to go to college or start their business. & others just look for a "safe" place. Hopefully she's safe

@krogdog 2 года назад

Christina Villegas here on RU-vid

@888altamber 2 года назад

Agree 100%

@brookebenton8192 2 года назад

I don't have any regret or shame from dancing. Was it traumatic at times? Yes. Would I do it again? No!! It was just a part of my life and now I've moved on and am at the best I've ever been spiritually and mentally. I made about $500 to $1,500 a night as well. Easy come easy go! That money would be gone by the following week. I didn't have a dime of that money left when I quit. She has to learn for herself though.

@888altamber Год назад

I did some smart stuff with the money I made. Paid off my car. Went to school and paid off student loans. The rest I blew on clothes and stuff and going out partying. I had fun though. I don’t regret it either. My parents did their best to be supportive but also concerned. They talked with me openly about drug use and staying away from the wrong crowd. I went to school and I was out before I graduated. There are probably girls I danced with twenty years ago that are dead now. I went to school and did stuff with my life after. Could I have done it without it? Yes, but I would have been in a lot more unmanageable debt if I had. So I made out ok in my book. I’m married over ten years today, have a house, normal life, no drug addictions, so it isn’t all bad for everyone. I have other friends who also did it and they have families and kids today and are also just fine. I support the mother going and getting her daughter, but I also support the daughter if she’s not having it yet. I just hope she gets out safely and doesn’t get into any bad elements there is all.

@thejakelegion 2 года назад

I know you don't want to say it John, because you're on air, but her parents getting divorced, her Dad being a total loser and their family being structured the way it has been is what is driving this girl to have a live-in boyfriend and turn to stripping when things don't turn out. The girl is a product of her parents, 100%. Parents, do better.

@hikerhobby1204 2 года назад

I respectfully disagree. My sons Dad and I were divorced when my son was two. His Dad didn’t want to work. My work values were much different. My son was in the top ten of his 800 student high school class. He attended an outstanding university and is now an aviator. Just because a child is raised by a single parent doesn’t mean they’ll grow up poorly.

@thejakelegion 2 года назад

@@hikerhobby1204 I would argue that your wonderful son turned out so well in spite of life circumstances, not because of them. I came from a nightmare childhood but I'm well adjusted and living a very fulfilling life in spite of that, not because of that. There's zero benefit to being a child in a fractured home.

@hikerhobby1204 2 года назад

@@thejakelegion I’ll have to respectfully argue your point. Had his Dad stayed in the picture my son would have learned by example how to be lazy and use drugs. Every circumstance is different.

@thejakelegion 2 года назад

@@hikerhobby1204 I would argue that his Dad being a broken man is part of a fractured home. I'm not condemning divorce or separation. I'm condemning, for all of us, fractured and broken homes. Obviously the best choice for your son would have been to have a loving and stable mother and a loving a stable father. Since his father went off the rails, the next best thing was separation, but that doesn't defeat my point that a healthy marriage is the best thing for a child. So to return to the video, again, I say that their broken home is a large contributor to their daughter hanging on a poll right now.

@hikerhobby1204 2 года назад

@@thejakelegion You have your opinion and I have mine. Have a great day!

@RedPandaHailey 2 года назад

“My daughter is stripping; I think something’s going on.” “What’s going on?” “She’s trying to make ends meet.” THERE’S YOUR ANSWER ON WHY! Gen Z is fucked, there’s no wonder a lot of Gen Z girls are turning to different types of sex work cause that’s the only thing that makes a lot of money- even with a degree.

@sagepirotess6312 2 года назад

Remember when the DA of some state stripped because she couldn't pay her Bill's. Lol

@bradleymaravalli2851 2 года назад

Was she not making ends meet at the fancy resturant? Should like she was doing fine there.

@sobeliever1638 2 года назад

Thinking it is not the only thing

@sarahdoanpeace3623 2 года назад

Exactly

@kimberlysmith7625 2 года назад

Once again...divorce becomes the common denominator....where the innocents of the fallout are expected to carry on seamlessly....as if nothing has happened.

@josiegreenthumb1451 2 года назад

Right. Divorce affects the kids way more than people like to acknowledge

@wijcik 2 года назад

My parents are divorced and I didn't grow up to be a stripper. 🤷‍♀️

@hikerhobby1204 2 года назад

@@josiegreenthumb1451 Not divorcing abusers and addicts cause many more issues.

@bradleymaravalli2851 2 года назад

@@wijcik My parents are divorced and I didn't grow up to be a stripper... but there were certainly other ramifications caused by the divorce.

@terriesmith2616 2 года назад

$10 says mom initiated the divorce.

@worldinperson 6 месяцев назад

He shouldn't encourage people to view their 25-year-old daughters as their baby girls. That is plain insulting and helps nobody. She is making her own decisions and parents need to treat her as an adult.

@apophispnw5717 2 года назад

Let her shake her money maker for some cash. Women are lucky they can make a ridiculous amount of money by just showing off a little.

@donaldlyons17 2 года назад

In my area some of them were making 200 a night. I meet one girl that paid cash for nursing school doing it!

@mirandaortiz5302 2 года назад

I’m a dancer who knows fantastic women stripping, people always think if you strippers are just in a bad place not the case at all.

@Polecat-qz5om Год назад

Yup!!

@Neoteny374 4 месяца назад

Six work for the degenerate part of men, healthy!?

@rinabitoni3746 2 месяца назад

Honey, I LOVED IT! 😂😂😂

@angelcare5969 2 месяца назад

Don't glamorize prostitution please!

@rinabitoni3746 2 месяца назад

@@angelcare5969 It's not prostitution

@scottcasey9240 2 года назад

I wish I was as smart as this Doc. Its amazing how he can give sound advice with compassion, no matter the situation. Most people would just say, "You're an idiot, tell her to stop stripping." He gives great advice, using a sympethetic tone while making his point as if hes part of the family. This Ramsey network really helps people.

@tilialindenbaum3114 2 года назад

Excellent advice! How I would love, love, love to have my parents say to me: „We love you, come home!“ They are both still young, still healthy, still working and own a big house with 4 (!) empty bedrooms, where my siblings and I used to live. But we have nowhere to turn to if things get out of control. We are not allowed to just „come home“. So yes, fighting for your child should always be the right path. 🥰

@lindseye2750 Год назад

Yes! I agree, just saying that would make all the difference

@Missdaphanyma13 Год назад

Same, everything same. 😢

@darlenebarsalou4169 2 года назад

Wow this one made me cry. My daughter is not stripping but is living across the country and is making really bad choices at the moment. She is 26 years old and has decided not to come back home. I can't force her and it's breaking my heart she wants to stay there. Her Father and I have told her we will fly her home anytime.

@mirjanapucarevic2105 2 года назад

I think she will call you soon and it will be just a stage in her life.

@markl8893 Год назад

Lets get another call from the stripper"my moms a judgemental freak, how do i save her>?"

@888altamber Год назад

Yes the daughters perspective in this is completely unknown.

@halloweendancing 8 месяцев назад

Exactly. People need to allow others to do what they want with their own bodies and lives.

@taylorb6469 2 года назад

Wait till she finds out her daughter is doing onlyfans too.

@Eric_Bassett 2 года назад

The only problem I see is society having a puritanical and judgmental attitude towards sex workers. Nobody.. NOBODY. Has the right to judge this grown woman and her decisions.

@halloweendancing 8 месяцев назад

Thank you!! So strange she can’t just do what she wants with her own body.

@Lifeszebarbie 2 года назад

John, you’re one of the good ones! I listen to your videos, even when the topic doesn’t pertain to my life because I know I will still find great advice and tools to handle this crazy life. Thank you for what you do. You risk judgment and hate to help others and it doesn’t go unnoticed.

@jamessolis5301 2 года назад

Can't save her. She's for the streets

@martinjackson909 2 года назад

Hopefully her social work degree will save her

@BestShootermanUbz 2 года назад

She don’t want to be saved 😂😂

@Vbe796 2 года назад

Absolutely not true and a cop out.

@Ayesha______ 5 месяцев назад

Everyone can be saved. Allah accepts repentance from everyone

@dougn7319 2 года назад

Someone finally wants to work, and her parent is making her quit.

@rebeccaoprea9917 2 года назад

Oh please 🙄

@dougn7319 2 года назад

@@rebeccaoprea9917 Nobody wants to work anymore. We all need to step back and take a moment to admire this young woman's work ethic.

@raindrop5273 2 года назад

@@dougn7319 As long as it is her choice and no drugs, fully agree.

@shelbysycamore637 2 года назад

@@dougn7319 thank you. As long as she is paying taxes, I will not knock her hustle.

@jasonrodgers9063 2 года назад

A Masters degree in Social Work will wind up with her in a job with very low pay, tremendous stress, "burn-out" in 6 to 24 months. At least she has a "skill" to fall back on, at least as long as her physical attractiveness holds out. Yeah, it's sad, I know, but seriously, am I wrong?

@cm5394 2 года назад

Yes, having something to fall back on isn’t always a good thing. Someone could fall back on something that brings in money but destroys them internally.

@jasonrodgers9063 2 года назад

@@cm5394 She SHOULD have made a wiser choice of her educational field. Then none of this would be needed.

@sitns23 2 года назад

I agree. Same with male strippers.

@SpeedfreakUK 2 года назад

A skill that lasts until the ripe old age of 25, all the while reducing your chances of a relationship with a man because most men do not want to date, let alone marry, a sex worker.

@martinjackson909 2 года назад

Why is she getting a master’s in social work when a high school degree is usually enough? She’s stripping for a useless degree

@catharsismemory 2 года назад

If my daughter is struggling to make ends meet, I would tell her to come home before I ever let her get the idea that getting on a pole is her only option. The both if them can work together and help pay bills until she saves enough money to get back in her feet again.

@blueseptember2174 Год назад

Definitely offer space if you have it but why did the daughter think this was the only way? So many places hiring constantly. It's not 2008 anymore. So there is a personal accountability there as well. Difficult situation. Hoping it/ works out for both of them since they clearly love one another.

@catharsismemory Год назад

@Blue September stripping is fast easy money and doesn't take much skill or effort. ..except for having a certain look and pole skills. I'm assuming she was desperate and needed money immediately, it may not be 2008 anymore but cost living has gotten higher.

@mizzzlicia1832 2 года назад

Stripping is a job just like any other, she needs/wants money. Let her be an adult

@cl5193 Год назад

Stripping is not adulting. Stripping is a broken adult.

@mizzzlicia1832 Год назад

@@cl5193 of all the takes, that's one of them. Do you not believe that women would or could enjoy adult work? You infantilise women or medicalise women who just want to do what they want. Get a life. You don't like it? Do not participate. You have no idea why anyone in sex work does what they do, mind your business.

@Kitkat-wu3ow 5 месяцев назад

@@cl5193in your opinion.

@pbkayakyer 2 года назад

I know this isn't going to be a popular opinion, but quite honestly, stripping in an of itself is not a bad job. Obviously, there are very real dangers, and concerns about the environment, but there are establishments that take care of the girls. And a strong woman with good upbringing and morals can really thrive for a couple years. If you know she has those, then she'll be fine. If she has a history of substance abuse or low self esteem/confidence, then you are going to have to fight like hell to get her back.

@rithvikmuthyalapati9754 2 года назад

True, but sometimes people don't like stripping and have to in order to make ends meet. If this is the daughter's sentiment, then the mom needs to come help

@888altamber 2 года назад

I used to strip and I thank you for your judgment free thinking. Not all strippers are drug addicts and hookers. For me it was a job. A job I used to make a ton of money doing. It was hard to leave but I left it a long long time ago. I’m still tying to make near what I used to make back then. I miss the money but nothing else about it. I watched some girls waste their life there but I also watched many become business women and create their businesses while there too. You could tell who was who while working there.

@mle011 2 года назад

I agree. A few of my friends are exotic dancers/strippers and they have healthy relationships, friends, career goals, aren’t doing drugs, etc. They’re just making good money by talking to and schmoozing men at the club.

@kellharris2491 Год назад

This was like working nights at Wal-Mart for me. Maybe the area really matters but were I was at most of those people were at a dead end in life. Many looked worn out. The people with ambition left to better jobs after awhile but other people were content with the drudgery and steady pay check.

@kellharris2491 Год назад

I grew up conservative Christian but man some of these comments. "The Daughter is doing something soul destroying and demeaning? She is going to have so many issues?" Everyone is acting like she is spoiled goods. Sigh. Do you guys think 'pure' married women are all so much better off? For so long women have been married off to men with little choice or say. Even now in many 'conservative' homes the man is often more like the boss of the house rather then a partner. That seems just as demeaning to me. Heck often these Husbands are much worse then the customers at the club. Even now marital rape is barely prosecuted. Women often find themselves in financially abusive situations where her job is to be a maid and full time nanny. Sometimes while working full time as well. Let's not even mention the verbal and physical abuse that often happens in these cases. But society says this kind of woman is better off? These women are Pure? Give me a break. The lies and the double standards of society. This woman is an Adult. She is now working to get out of debt. She is in charge of her own life. People sell themselves all the time. Some jobs are just more demeaning then others. Many women sell themselves into marriage for security and stability. Love is a recent thing. Many men sell themselves into the military and die or get injured. Point is there is always a cost. We shouldn't judge.

@Yourmom_dotcom Год назад

Amen. You said it. I’m unsubscribing from this clown after this response. So disappointing

@nothinwatever Год назад

My parents are conservative and my mom is definitely head of the house 😂 I’m not talking about abusive household, but when we say, the man is the head of the house, we all know who actually is wearing the pants in that house okayyy 😂

@TrangNguyen-se2gw 2 года назад

Really loved how Dr. John emphasized how crucial it is to know you have a place to go. Sometimes that’s all you need. And big ups to Dr. John for the Turnstile tee! Let the spotlight shine on me again!

@nt3833 2 года назад

She really needed to call in for this advice? That’s not even my daughter and my first thought was bring her home! My kids will always be welcome in my home - as long as they’ve got a plan and are working towards something.

@elizabetha8565 2 года назад

Wait 1k a night... I think my mind just changed on somethings.

@raindrop5273 2 года назад

I know, right?

@Native722 2 года назад

Your daugther is an adult, she is from making her choices.

@lynnc5291 2 года назад

It’s an important part to emphasize that she doesn’t need shame. The shame is what she is expecting to come from her mom and that’s why mom has found herself on the outs of her daughters life. Her daughter will always make her own choices good or bad but you hope you can be there to be a positive voice for her while she makes those choices.

@relaxwithme__ 7 месяцев назад

You nailed it 🎯

@EmperatrizNyhnaLaw 2 года назад

Stripping in Des Moines?? She’s a lost cause. Lol

@TheFlyingZulu 2 года назад

Trauma and regret from stripping? Huh? Is it REALLY that horrible? I've never been a stripper so maybe I don't know. lol. What I do know is that every club I've been too there are very well defined rules for what patrons can and can't do... If you cross that line, you get kicked out.

@raindrop5273 2 года назад

I am guessing from all the shame heaped on this girl from prudes.

@shelbysycamore637 2 года назад

When a trauma counselor says she will experience truama from this but doesn't talk about the trauma he experienced while dealing with grieving families and abused children at his job. There's hazards with all types of work.

@888altamber 2 года назад

I danced for three years over twenty five years ago. I never got strung out on drugs, or had abusive relationships, or became a prostitute or had sex with any men or even fooled around with them. I only tried dating three men I met there in those years and they were all my own age. Two I only went on a date once with and did not have sex with them. One I became serious with because we had mutual friends and then I left dancing all together for him because ultimately I was almost done with college and didn’t want to be there anymore. No traumas no regrets either. My current husband knows I used to be a stripper and I’ve shared some of my stories with him. Many women I have met professionally since then that I’ve become friends with I’ve also learned used to be dancers too. Similar stories and they’re also successful and some have families now. There’s also about 50% of the other girls in the club that were doing drugs, dating drug dealers etc so I can understand that it didn’t go as well for the other half of women in the clubs. Yes there are rules for the clubs and most of the patrons follow it and so do the girls. Some break them and tip people out well to keep their secrets for them. I NEVER saw any funny business when I was a dancer. I tried going back to cocktail for a couple weeks and that was when I saw an incident of funny business. So then I was outta there because I am not personally down with that. So depends on the club, the dancer and the patron.

@leahzelson3749 2 года назад

@@shelbysycamore637 THANK YOU.

@lauren4078 2 года назад

@@888altamber Your experience was also over 25 years ago. I would venture that the business now is seedier than ever. Soft White Underbelly is a RU-vid channel that has tons of interviews with sex workers, and most of them have some kind of drug, alcohol, or mental issues. For most, their childhoods were filled with trauma. However, you also have the one-offs who are well-adjusted adults, but they do recognize that their line of work is typically very dangerous, high risk, and seedy.

@hugojuicevalladares8713 2 года назад

Be Her Friend. Let her open to you fully. Support her. Eventually she will out grow that scene

@MichaelJones-rn2pq 2 года назад

More women sink into that scene with drugs, booze, prostitution, even sex trafficking than "out grow that scene". Young people have enough real friends, they need their parents to be parents. The job description isn't even close to being the same.

@hugojuicevalladares8713 2 года назад

Sadly some women are made for that work. Having your kids trust you with everything will allow them to seek to you for Advice

@terriesmith2616 2 года назад

Having mom be her daughter's friend is probably what cause her daughter to strip for money. Daughter doesn't need more friends, daughter needs her mom to be a parent.

@rebeccaoprea9917 2 года назад

Desperation leads us to do things we’d never think of doing . Only to put us into more desperate situations we then have to get out of . It’s a cycle .

@nancyrupp5893 Год назад

I wish I had someone like you in my life, someone who cares...

@Kitkat-wu3ow 5 месяцев назад

IMO, the type of work her daughter chose to be in should be respected. It certainly may not be a choice for the majority of society...but frankly the stigma and negativity of being in the industry needs to stop. I know a couple of ladies who were in it for the $$ and put themselves through college with a phd. And another one stabilized her life as a single mom.

@LifeBindeR222 Год назад

Go visit her at her job and be supportive, give her some tips... Nothing wrong with being a stripper, be glad she's not a druggie. One of my friends is an ex stripper, she used stripping to put herself through nurse and nurse practitioner school debt free and now she makes 120k/year so stop with this god-damn religious views of society.

@Yourmom_dotcom Год назад

👏🏻 👏🏻

@gretchasketch4829 2 года назад

Grateful I have a momma who fought for me...go get her momma.

@Tristum1970 2 года назад

agreed . If this is new and anomalous behavior , this is a full stop emergency.

@TimothyCow 2 года назад

I’m sure u become devalued doing that

@amc3964 4 месяца назад

* Haven’t met one person who is ok if THEIR daughter in the sex business, yet the sex business (PORN) is the biggest addiction. Going. Ok if it’s someone else’s daughter!

@nullavitasinemusica1 Год назад

Im so glad he isnt glorifying the sex trade

@TheMechanicj 2 года назад

Needs to listen to project pat “don’t save her” explains everything

@1lelepontes 5 месяцев назад

I can confirm 100% that she is doing that because something was going on during her childhood. This type of behavior comes from a rebel type of personality.

@bkucenski 2 года назад

Go back in time and be an actual parent to your child instead of an authoritarian troll. You can't save her until you apologize for how you treated her growing up. And even then, she's probably going to need to find a 3rd party influence. And you have no business saying one negative word to her about what she does. If you create conflict by continuing to be controlling, she's going to just leave. As she should. If you can't just shut up and honestly ask how her day was and ask what you can do for her, then she's not coming home because there's nothing there for her. Serve her. Talk to her like she's got an office job. You wanted control instead of a relationship. And when she turned 18 you lost control and there's nothing left.

@MaxSujyReact 2 года назад

Exactly! You sum up exactly how I viewed this call. 4:43 is very telling about how controlling she is. I am disappointed at John for not digging in on why the daughter wants nothing to do with her mom anymore.

@shelbysycamore637 2 года назад

This, is the best answer imo.

@Vbe796 2 года назад

speaking from experience?

@shelbysycamore637 2 года назад

@@Vbe796 I see it with my mother and sister if that answers your question.

@tspencer661 2 года назад

To the caller: Mom, you’re going to have to be the parent. As long as you have open arms and an open heart, your daughter will be okay. Give your daughter a safe place to land without judgment. It doesn’t sound as if Dad (your ex) has the capacity to be a parent. Do what you think is best. AFTER you go get her and bring her home, tell your ex what you’ve done. (One of my friends gave me great advice about dealing with my ex. She told me to do whatever is best for our daughter and then tell him about it later. That way I wouldn’t be upset and complain that he wasn’t helping. For example, a few months back, I had to take my daughter to the hospital because of an excruciating headache. I made the mistake of telling my daughter to message her father to let him know that we were going to the hospital. His response was, “Do I need to go to the hospital?”🤦🏾‍♀️. I should have taken her and told him about it AFTERWARDS.). Step up. Be a parent. Love your child. Good luck.

@blueseptember2174 Год назад

This is amazing advice! I kept trying to parent with him like a couple but he is not capable due to his choices. It's so against my nature to just do something and talk later but it's better than being resentful like you mentioned. If they were healthy minded, I could deal with them in a healthier way. But for now, we do what we gotta do!

@user-j3t9z Год назад

Having a daughter in 2023 be like

@krishna-nu9om 2 года назад

She can do whatever she wants with her body. She's not your property, and keep your opinions to yourself

@kathylovesmk Год назад

Once they are adults we have no more control over their decisions. Sorry John, but you can't just "go get them and bring them home". You can offer, tell them they're welcome at home, etc. but we can't make them do anything.

@blueseptember2174 Год назад

Can't make them, but can you imagine how loved through pure action the daughter would feel knowing her mom came to got her even though she's grown? Like, she might say no, but there is no denying that daughter would know she was loved.

@davidmilhouscarter8198 2 года назад

5:59 What happens in my house (or your house) is more important than what happens in the White House.

@888altamber 2 года назад

I was a stripper when I was young. Some of it was influence from friends but it was mostly influence from my ex-boyfriend. It had nothing to do with my parents. At first my parents didn’t know, I kept it from them. I finally shared it with them and they tried to be supportive. I did it while I finished college. I did not do drugs or anything illegal. It affected my adult relationships in my twenties and how I felt towards men seeing them at what I felt was their worst. Other than that though it wasn’t the end of the world. I did however see some girls come in there with plans to finish school and get into drugs. Honestly my advice would be to encourage very open conversations with your daughter about what she is experiencing there, drug use, if she’s getting involved in any other unscrupulous stuff, what her relationships are like and how they’re going. So long as she can feel like she can talk openly and honestly to share what’s going on with her parents I think she will be fine and move on from it. Just continue to show her support and love and be there for her. If it seems like she is on drugs, having relationship problems with any abusive partners, getting involved in shady behavior where she starts hiding things more, stealing or hanging out with really rough people then I would step in and take the advice Dr. Delony said absolutely. Give her some space to possibly figure out it isn’t for her and accomplish her degree but be supportive. If things don’t seem right then trust your gut and have her move back home and do what you need to do ASAP. Not all of the girls I worked with there were drug addicts, hookers, or going down the drain. Many learned to be self sufficient business women in fact. However you literally could tell the difference between the ones doing it right versus wrong by looking them in the eyes at their pupils and talking with them to see if they were on drugs to see which way it was going to go for them.

@bailee7696 2 года назад

There is no such thing as doing it correct it’s wrong all around. U don’t know what is going on behind closed doors of those women life. There kids have to live their lives knowing their mom was a stripper. These women did no learn how to become successful business women through stripping. It was a low point of their lives To say that they did it correctly is like saying a drug dealer sold heroine correctly and now is successful

@888altamber 2 года назад

@@bailee7696 you have no idea. You ever worked at one? If you have then elaborate for me. I HAVE worked at three and I met lots of different types of girls there. Some were pill heads, or other types of drug addicts, some had abusive relationships, some had daddy issues, some were there for cold hard cash and were really smart and had some major plans. They used it to finish school, start a business, and get ahead at an accelerated rate. Now that may not be something you like morally, but that is a fact. Not all of the women in those clubs are there to provide sex or drugs. Many want absolutely nothing to do with the men that frequent there romantically or sexually. They simply dance for them, create fantasies for them, and use the exchange of money as a method to make cold hard cash fast. Statistically it can go either way ending horribly for them with drugs, or with them leaving with an education or business or buying real estate. The latter were the ones I admired and respected there. They didn’t do drugs or hardly drink. You could tell the difference looking at them and talking to them. Predictably you could tell which would burn out and go on downward spirals too. They usually abused drugs in the club, stopped going to school, or had really bad boyfriends who were drug dealers or abusive. So thereby the way to know if her daughter is in trouble is to look at who she’s associating with and into and her relationships. Plain and simple. FYI there’s tons of women out there today that were strippers when they were young and you would never even know it today. So YOUR personal religious or moral beliefs is literally of no consequence to the reality out there in the world literally everyday.

@bailee7696 2 года назад

@@888altamber oh yeah totally my religious beliefs have no consequences in the real world. Maybe if those men in that club were religious they wouldn’t need false sexual fantasies. Or maybe we actually have functioning families and low rates of divorce or low rates of unplanned pregnancy It is the result of ur secular ideologies is the reason why these men are there in those clubs

@bailee7696 2 года назад

@@888altamber and also have u talked to those women since then. Cause most will regret every minute of that stripping stint

@888altamber 2 года назад

@@bailee7696 a couple of them. Still fine. Have kids now. Went to to her college graduation and visited her up in Boston once. The other I was with her when she had her daughter and she lives closer. Neither of us have danced in two decades now. No one has drug problems. I’m married. My husband knows my past I talk about it with him openly. We want to adopt and have been married for ten years. Anymore questions?

@nathansimpson5721 Год назад

The fact is this an adult. And you have no right to ask them to change their career.

@amendaalmonte2236 2 года назад

If the boyfriend wasn’t paying before (which is why she kicked him out) then what’s the difference after she kicked him out?

@TheBlueBlur100 2 года назад

Waisting resources such as water, electricity, food, and toilet paper

@nothinwatever Год назад

EXACTLY WHAT I SAID 😂

@blueseptember2174 Год назад

I would've dropped the lease with insistence or sublet the apartment. She also could've called Dave at that time I suppose.

@gailainsley6939 2 года назад

This is why you shouldn't bring children into poverty. Now they have to find a way out smh. Mother, are you willing to pay her Bill's or are you just there to judge her, tell her to stop and then ask her to work a minimum wage job? It's the lifestyle (freedom to do what they want in their spare time and money) that keep these girls stuck there. The artist Cardi B had the same story as your daughter. She was probably inspired

@taylorsmith9629 2 года назад

On the flip side if you raise children when rich they grow up entitled and not hungry. They won’t have a drive to better themselves because they already have it all.

@RealAnimeBadGuy Год назад

You missed the part where she is a grown woman huh? Then you bring Cardi B into it a horrible example choice. Cardi B is an example of a stripper making it big ya fool. 😂😂

@gailainsley6939 Год назад

@@RealAnimeBadGuy Exactly my point. Dimwit 😂😴

@martinjackson909 2 года назад

She’s stripping to fund her masters degree in social work? Unreal

@rebeccaoprea9917 2 года назад

Coming from a man . She’s selling herself to survive is more like it .

@martinjackson909 2 года назад

@@rebeccaoprea9917 masters degree programs are very expensive and completely useless in her case

@milaj927 2 года назад

I think it’s great experience for social work, she’ll meet many people with social challenges that she could learn from.

@dr.bradshaw 2 года назад

As someone who has visited strip clubs and carry guilt from it. I firmly believe that they should be illegal. Sexual desire and temptation is way more addictive/dangerous than we care to discuss. It rips apart people, families, finances, mental health, etc and we are simply just allowing it all to happen on a daily basis, and not only allowing it, but celebrating it. We need this to end.

@HamiltonRb 2 года назад

If you were talking about assault rifles, the same things you mentioned would apply but neither one will happen

@angryox3102 2 года назад

Yeah I avoid them like a plague. As a lonely guy it’s way too easy for me to fall down the rabbit hole and throw away too much money in those places.

@nebulousJames12345 2 года назад

False. Strip climbs aren’t guaranteed by the 2nd amendment in order to defend against foreign or domestic governments. A littler different

@scarpfish 2 года назад

If you want sexually oriented business to go away, you need to solve these two problems. 1. Make sure all men, no matter how unattractive or cretinous they are have access to a sexual partner that they don't have to pay for. 2. Make sure all younger women (and by younger I mean anyone younger than 40) have access to good paying work with schedule flexibility that doesn't involve demeaning themselves. Good luck on both counts, esspecially since as a society we've placed excessive strain on parents to well, be parents who raise children who would never patronize or work in such places. Making them illegal does nothing to stop the demand that allows them to exist.

@scarpfish 2 года назад

@@nebulousJames12345 The 2nd Amendment has nothing to do with his argument.

@lindseye2750 Год назад

Thank you for this Dr John! Spot on, even if she doesn’t go home just hearing that will make a difference to her.

@willowt9196 Год назад

She is an adult and doing nothing wrong. She is making money in a society that makes it very hard for women to make a decent living by paying women less. Women should not have to rely on their families or a man. Some families and men are toxic and controlling

@Stardust19905 Год назад

I was a dancer, and you're completely right. I'd rather strip than move back in with my parents or be stuck in an abusive relationship.

@operamatthew 2 года назад

what’s going on is you slacked on your daughter and now are trying to make it up… look in the mirror

@Johnny-ci8mw 4 месяца назад

$1000 a night? Bye momma. I’ll see you for Christmas ❤️

@USpatriot741776 2 года назад

Impressive, very nice. Now let's see her relationship with her father.

@miltoncat Год назад

Politics have nothing to do with the daughter being a stripper. The dad isn’t interested in helping his daughter. Then he’ll be shocked when she tells him she has Daddy issues.

@standground8284 Год назад

From my experience and what women say who come from decent homes. Most women can’t stand good dads who care. If a girl dad cares about them, there for them emotionally, provides for them, faithful to his wife and family, doesn’t party drink or do drugs… most women will see that and say their dad is boring and a square. Instead seeking guys like their dad, they choose go out and get ran through by a bunch dudes until they’re ready to settle down with a guy who cares and conducts themselves similar to *dad*.

@bigboywasim 2 года назад

Is stripping a greater sin than cohabitation/fornication in Christianity ?

@raindrop5273 2 года назад

Is the viewer sinning?

@lily-hj4gs Год назад

I'm 20 and I work at a club, I make 15 thousand a month on average. Am completely sober. I actually started dancing right after rehab. And I'm in a much healthier mind then I was 2 years ago.... I don't fall into the influence and life of the club. Because I fully understand how toxic and fake it is. I only use this job as a stepping stone. About trauma, I am already extremely sexually traumatized and ruined for life. But that happened before I worked here. And It is NOT that bad. What people don't realize is we are not prostitutes, atleast I don't do that. It's probably not the most best environment for weak minded people. Who can fall into influence to fit in. But I'm not like that, I believe verh strongly in my morals and stick to it. And no one can persuade me other wise because I realized my life needs to be my number # priority at all times. Ofcource I have alot of trauma and pain from my past. But I won't say the club makes it worse or adds to that since it was already there. What I can say is this Job drastically changed me. I regained power over my body and myself. And control of all situations. And I walk around and assert dominance and do what I want. It is very empowering. I regained self love, confidence and worth. I went from broken and insecure to too full of myself, spoiled princess. That makes men worship her, and nothing is better then that to me. I live in a really nice brand new home by myself and spoil myself like no man could. This Job is good for me right now.

@Ja50nkAt 2 года назад

Where's the father?

@blair9607 Год назад

As a ex stripper … this was weird to listen to . I started stripping when I was at uni because I was told once I leave home there’s no room to come back ( my mum had my sibling 15 years after me ) . I went to uni in a house share with my bf at the time , we broke up and things got awkward . I asked the landlord if I found someone to replace me could I come out of my agreement and she said no . So I had to find a way to pay for two living spaces and my food and other bills . My parents are poor . I had a sports coaching certificate ( only level 1 which in my hometown meant I could teach but in this new city wasn’t enough they wouldn’t take my 2 years experience) it would if paid £15 a hour but looking at the maths of the situation I was screwed even if I got the level 2 . My parents wanted me to go to uni , I didn’t even really want to ( I wish I was more assertive but I was 18, it’s something I learnt the hard way ) so I couldn’t give up uni or I would of disappointed them . So I took the job stripping . Once I did it and crossed that line I thought I’d get my driving license , a car , a house. I did all those things . I didn’t go into prostitution and I didn’t take drugs at all ( not even smoking ) . It took 7 years to get out because I started believing I couldn’t explain my job history ‘ gap’ , that I didn’t have any ‘ skills’ etc . When in reality it was far from the truth , I’m good with money , I have sales skills , nerves of steel and I would build on my art skills in the day time without pressure so I got good . I’m now a business owner , home owner ( under 30) and debt free. There’s trauma , I have some dysfunctional aspects to myself ( as do a lot of people) I’m aware of it and I’m healing , I wouldn’t advise anyone to take the path I did I’m lucky and I thank God everyday it didn’t get as bad as it has for some of my friends and I’m very grateful for how things have gone for me . This is just my story . I’m not saying this is how it is for every stripper everyone’s different

@blueseptember2174 Год назад

It's not worth it. I'm glad you came out of it and have done well for yourself. If I can't recommend it to my children , then I can't do it either. That's my new way of looking at life. Hope things change for the caller and her daughter.

@dewilew2137 Год назад

So...if you understand and agree that your situation is not the norm, and very atypical for women who do sex work, why was this video “weird to listen to”? It sounds like you know that many women who strip come from situations like the one shared in this video. What was the point of this comment at all?

@cabayern9416 2 года назад

He is so correct! Convince her to come home!

@fightsportspace7327 Год назад

Grown woman makes a decision to strip for a living and Dr John is acting like she’s some victim 2:10 - 4:00

@Yourmom_dotcom Год назад

Right. It’s so disgusting. She’s not a “baby girl”. She is an adult. Stop infantilizing a grown woman. It’s the misogyny for me

@fightsportspace7327 Год назад

@@Yourmom_dotcom I get that you were agreeing with me, but I don’t think you know what misogyny means. If you watch enough of these clips you’ll know He doesn’t hate women - he pedestalizes them and absolves them of accountability

@raymondjames2590 2 года назад

Well I suppose she can do what John said but there is still not alot said in this situation hope it works out for her. But like the prodigal son until she realizes she can at least eat better at home and puts her pride and stubbornness away there's not much you can do except offer her a place of safety