Dhar Mann Is In Big Trouble... | Sad Boyz 

I have exactly the same problem. Especially if I'm having a bad day. You ever accidentally unload on someone, realize they were just being nice, and then ask them how they're doing only for them to say, "good."?

I'm just genuine and have not understood that some people ask with the expectation of being lied to. I don't find that nice. I'd rather if someone doesn't care, they don't ask. 乁⁠༼⁠☯⁠‿⁠☯⁠✿⁠༽⁠ㄏ

HWHWH same :3 i found out you weren't actually supposed to say (to most people) how ur Actually doin until my therapist told me when i was like 17 and my brain just went O H N O

​@@kahlips0180 it’s because neurotypical people use the phrase as a greeting. They’re not so much expecting you to lie as they are expecting you to understand that it’s not an actual question. You’re supposed to respond with the expected quick response. If they’re a friend or family member or something then it potentially opens the opportunity to bring up more genuine answers, but for most people “I’m good”, “same old same old”, or “it’s going” are the kind of answers you’re expected socially to respond with unless asked more questions. Nobody explains this to us though because they expect us to magically understand. We interpret it as a literal question rather than a greeting ritual with expected responses. They’ve also talked before on this podcast about how they prefer when people will lie about being really happy and confident even if feeling negative and insecure because that fake confidence is more comfortable for those around you. So this asking how people are and expecting the generic answers is probably related to that mentality too, which I personally wouldn’t think would be healthy but I think it might be the neurotypical standard. So idk. It’s all very confusing to me.

My workaround has been to be really really simple about how it's going and you cover both. BUT, if someone is walking by you and it doesn't look like they're stopping, this is just a greeting. But when I'm struggling, I'll say "hanging in there" or "getting through" because for me, it's not saying I'm okay, but as long as I'm not in need of severe intervention, those things are true. They're short enough to be a quick greeting, but honest enough that it opens the floor if they ARE genuinely caring.

That story makes me so glad I don’t have kids

Jarvis’ face too hahahha

Can't get over the idea of the world's most powerful lesbian being named EA Sports, god bless you EA Sports 🫡

We are not worthy

this is pretty good advice, nice

Braids might make you more aggressive because of the pain on your scalp lol

Whenever I get my 24 inch mid back braids I feel like killing whoever talks to me for like a week

yeah maybe i undersold the unloading super personal information with a stranger element because that was supposed to be the focus

@@SadBoyzPodi definitely picked up on your point! to clarify i didn’t add this comment to critique you or how you felt about the situation-just to point out how odd human communication is! :)

Same🤝

True

Just adding. The R is rolled hard and fast, sounding a little like a soft D (I mean, not really, but when you're not used to hearing the language it kinda does).

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I could go on for hours about how scary I find it people will understand the industry and still stan manufactured personalities the performers are forced to maintain Like no you don’t love that guy you love the fake person a music exec who has them locked into a torturous contract made. Not entirely sure u ever met. A person

​@@Lucifersfursona I don't entirely agree. On one hand, I see what you mean but on the other hand, not all of these kpop idols are as fake as you seem to think they are. But maybe I'm biased cause I actualy listen to kpop and I like the music and have groups I like... but BTS for example started out incredibly small, and a lot of their success actually came from them contributing to and writing their own music and people appreciating that about them. And the industry has evolved more, I personally feel there's a lot of groups, maybe not as well known as the most popular groups, that despite how fake the industry seems they've prevailed because of their love of music. There's a group I like called Stray Kids for example that produces and writes all their music and have found success despite- no, *because* they're self made, not because they put on any persona. But that's just my opinion. I still think there's a lot of shitty aspects about the industry but it's not that different from the problems present in the western music industry.

@@Lucifersfursona hmm I see where you’re coming from and I can acknowledge that I am biased as I’ve been a fan of Bts for the past 6 years but there are definitely Kpop groups that do not fit that mold. Bts for example do not imo I will not deny parasocial relationships as they are rampant in any entertainment industry especially Kpop but there are genuine artists not in “slave contracts” also not that you said this or anything but many others love the narrative of all Kpop idols being “fake, plastic, manufactured, controlled artists” then refuse to acknowledge the issues in the western industry which imo is a pretty xenophobic take (again not talking about you just in general)

@@DanasGoneCrazy I will kindly disagree. Most kpop groups are owned by multimillion dollar who recruit young kids and will groom them from as young as the age of 8. Most of these idol have lives similiar to the slaves that had good singing voices and wereforced to sing in events held by their owners for the slave owner to boast their wealth. They are forced to follow a strict lifestyle to maintain their beauty and undergo hundreds if not thousands of surgeries and other medical procedures to artificially introduce changes to their bodies. Moreover alot are not allowed to express their sexuality or are forced to lie about their sexuality based on what the company that owns their group thibks will be most profitable. Alot of them even have manufactured stories, for example, did the bts guys really write their own songs? Who knows, and even if they did the corporat behind them probably has altered it to the point it can't even be considered to be written by them. Do they really sing so good, no of course not, alot of them seem to lack basic vocal training, but does it matter? The corporate behind them definitely has a team of people that alter their songs to the point it can't even be considered to be sung by them. It's a similiar story to Tpain, his songs are def his but to say they were sung by him would be false (also putting this out, yes I know Tpain has a great singing voice and the only reason he used auto tune so much was to parody the artists that relied too much on auto tune.) So in essence, the person you stan isn't an actual human being but an fake persona manufactured by an capitalist corporation destined for the purpose of getting folk like you to stan them.

They aren't treated like humans fr. I find it especially sad that every single one of the trainees are told what type of surgeries they need to look good enough before they've finished growing, they have super restrictive diets and will go weeks with only a couple hours of sleep each night when debuting, and fans will still point out physical flaws or mess ups. We live in a society.

Glad that he hasn't changed a bit like omg that's hilarious

Hope you're doing well 💝

@@frosty_teacup I am doing so good! I hope you're doing well too 🥰

@@_b_o_ring I'm so glad to hear that!! I'm recovering from covid right now but I'm doing well overall! Sending good vibes 🤪✨

My son (13) showed me (30) this channel and I have NEVER IN MY LIFE felt so seen and represented by a show ❤ And thank you Jarvis and Jordan for being such a grounded wholesome influence on young men!

yeah also kpop is the complete opposite of industry plant culture. you will already debut with a decent fanbase if you come from a big company, it’s never hidden

The last time I commented was probably in 6th grade i feel gross 😟

P.S. I'm sorry for saying 'smart ADHD' I don't know the right way to say 'people who are good at thinking and do it for fun'

I second this!

I’m French and it’s true we often joke about hating the English 😄 But those last minutes felt hurtful 😔

That story was WILD, oh lord. Can confirm New Zealanders tend to be very accommodating! You can call us Kiwis; we call ourselves that too! Also...not Jordan making enemies of all of France... :^)

​@redundantmartyr that story made me feel so sad for them! They were so sweet but I hope now they are less accommodating to such behavior. The people they interacted with in those different countries were just so cruel and I hope they have better experiences in the future. Also, hello from America! 👋😊

Same!

The recovery is definitely a mission, but you’d be able to get back to recording vids with a swollen (but honestly not as bad as you’d think) face in like 1.5 months

I got removable braces when I was very young because my lower jaw was very recessed and it helped me with everything, it's so weird how something so small can change your life so much.