As an alcoholic.. I can’t have it in moderation. I literally can not control myself. It will never work and I will end up dead. There is no “just have one” or “just on the weekend” HARD NO. Full stop zero alcohol ever again.
As someone with generational alcoholism in my family, you should be so proud! My mom is still in the throes of alcoholism and I’ve decided it stops with me. Good luck on your journey!
I agree, I can't have any alcohol either. I'm 5 years sober now, and I still struggle with it sometimes. I'm so proud of everyone who has kicked alcohol out of their lives, this is such a journey and you're all so strong!!!
How to fit in a dress ... bring it to seamstress to adjust it to your current size. Completely up to you if you tell anyone about the adjustment or not :D . Or buy a new dress.
As someone with severe anxiety and an ED history, I TOTALLY get the flip-flopping mentality, i.e., focusing on her "wedding bod" one second and then the other saying she's fine gaining a few pounds. Part of my issue is knowing that I'm a black-and-white thinker as a result of anxiety, so I do the same thing all the time - make a declarative, definitive statement one moment, then after some time to think (or overthink), I "take it back" since I'm worried it's too black-and-white to say whatever I said? It's not fun to go through especially when you're aware you sound inconsistent and a little off, so I genuinely hope she's feeling okay and not overthinking it all too much/demanding a lot of all-or-nothing perfection of herself either way.
I think the black-and-white thinking is such a common trait not just for the anxiety but also the ED. For me it stems from my perfectionistic tendencies. But on the other hand, I'm quite analytical so I think of so many possibilities for a situation that I can never decide on the best course of action and as a result I end up flip-flopping too. Lol EDs are never straightforward :')
I love your explaination of the harm reduction model, its so important and something that needs to be more normalized and main stream. As a substance abuse clinician myself, working with co-occuring addiction and mental health, I would much rather my patient abstain from IV heroin use in favor of smoking weed or cigarettes, or even for some eating larger amounts of ice cream for a period of time. While yes, in the long term the goal is to abstain from any harmful coping skills or substances (such as the ice cream or cigarettes) if right not it is reducing he individuals likelihood of overdose or engaging I activities that could have life altering ramifications, I am all for it. There is no right way to recover fro substances or from an ED!! Everyone has their own journey and model they live through, and like you say all the time Abbey, if it works for the client and its not hurting themself or anyone else, it works for me!! Appreciate you shedding light on this subject!
Seeing her go through this is so sad, because there are so many of us the watch her videos and think that she is just beautiful. When I see her I don't see her weight at all. I just see her, her talents, her career accomplishments, and yes we see her as a very beautiful woman.
I wouldnt notice her weight at all if it werent for the unhealthy amount of facefiller she has. That makes her looks much more overweight than she actually is.
I feel for her so much, because she's so clearly locked into that "all or nothing" thinking. I think perfectionism and OCD are probably adding to the difficulty of taking small, sustainable, lifelong steps. And the result is extreme swings. Been there...it's a horrible self-induced roller coaster.
This is a very very very intense journey! I feel for this girl in ways I cannot even explain! Eating disorders, restrictive eating, addiction, depression, anxiety, it’s all so close to my heart. Abbey if you read this, can you make a review on autumn bates ? She is a nutritionist that recommends intermittent fasting and a very restrictive diet, I would love to hear your thoughts on her and her method. Thaaaaanks for everything you do!!!!!
Yes!! Autumn seems like a sweet and fun girl, but her diet advice is triggering and misleading. She has random rules which do not seem to connect in any way...
I had forgotten about her. I was subscribed years ago, but soon realized she wasn’t the you tuber for me. Lots of clickbait and advice that missed the mark. I tried to keep an open mind, but…. Had to unsubscribe. It’d be great to get Abby’s professional opinion.
Thank you for this. Some of the things said in this video were a bit triggering. But I know why I don’t drink. I can put down a box of sweets when I’m satisfied but I’m never satiated from alcohol.
i have ADHD and bipolar 1, the way my mental health has affected my relationship with food & alcohol is wild. i have struggled with orthorexia and it felt like a prison i couldn’t get out of. i drank a lot at the start of the pandemic but seeking help was the best thing i could’ve done. i’m not miraculously cured but i at least have the capacity to feed myself and i don’t feel the need to drink. it’s getting better and i encourage anyone who feels like they need some help to get it! there’s no shame at all in admitting that you can’t handle everything alone.
It’s also called harm reduction 😊 You’re spot on. We may not be able to keep a person from using their substance of choice, but we can teach people how to handle their “relapses”. As someone who has been to an abstinence based rehab, I can definitely see the comparison between telling someone they can never eat “bad” foods again and telling someone they have to give up a substance they rely on. Assuming we’re not talking about illicit drugs btw. It all comes down to coping mechanisms. In recovery we say a relapse happens before you even pick up the drug or the drink because you have to convince yourself it’s okay first; then make the decision to obtain that substance. It sounds like Jaclyn is already doing this but, recognizing her relapse triggers whether it be for food or alcohol is going to be key imo.
I've seen many people on restrictive diets end up binge drinking. I think in many cases, the desire to drink is the body seeking the calories it's not getting through food. I've struggled with this myself and when I increased my calories, the urges to drink decreased significantly.
I too have battled with this. Drinking coffee and wine rather than eat. But too much alcohol results in a reckless binge as the body is hungry and genuinely wants food. I like a glass of wine with my evening meal, but I do not drink aside from that. It works for me. Alcohol has so many calories and really puts on weight.
This is so me but with chocolate and sugary foods. I just realized after 25 years on this planet that I only crave those foods when I’m hungry. Now I eat more meals and snacks throughout the day instead of 3 meals with “dessert” after each.
@@CrawlingPOA I was a sugar junkie when I was anorexic. Making sure I get protein, fat and carbs aka 'the hunger-crushing-combo' in every meal and snack has helped so much.
On exposure therapy: my best friend basically did this for/with me. I WANT to go out, I WANT to go dance, I WANT to hangout…but at the time my anxiety would win and I’d stay home. If I did go out I would leave and go home (even if I was far af). It was too much. So she started having me go out more, but little by little and would constantly check in with me to remind me that I’m not alone with this anxiety and that it’s ok and I will be ok. Eventually, I was/am able to go out if I wanna. I prefer my home, but at least have less anxiety with going out haha.
I totally get this, my problem is I genuinely enjoy being at home. Also my SAD/GAD manifests as over talking (basically done it my whole life), which turns people off. I try to control the talking, but then get into my head with the thoughts because I have no release of nervous energy. It's a crappy cycle, and still working on it. Exposure therapy has gotten my to a point, but still not where I want to be.
@@lizk2378 my goodness, saaame. I try to be part of the conversation so I don’t stay in my head, but then over talk/over share and have anxiety about that itself. Such a difficult thing to navigate.
I feel for her. Times are stressful as it is with all the global turmoil. It just adds up internally to the general anxiety some people have. I’m crossing my fingers she finds that thing that makes her calm down in those situations
Your videos are always amazing! You’ve helped me a lot with my perspective on food, and I think you’ve definitely kept me from continuing my old slightly disordered eating habits. Thank you for doing what you do!
hi abbey! would love to see you do a video on bulimia and how that affects hunger cues, health issues, bloating, movement, etc. if you haven't already!!
Yes please! I have been struggling with this binge/Bulimia cycle for a Long Time and i'm trying to get better. I still binge on sweets More often Than Not and i've had relapses with bulimia every few weeks (Mostly when i'm on my period). I would be very interested in a Video about the effects of bulimia. I feel like it would help me a lot to understand the real problem and show me why it keeps Happening. And even though i'm still binging, i really want to stop the bulimia, because i know it's so so bad for me.. :/
I think it’s a common misconception amongst intuitive eating critics that keeping trigger/fun foods at home is an immediate fix for binging on them. I tried it and I binged out for 2ish months, and then I just slowly stopped. And I would guess 2 months is rather quick. I’ve had a box of chocolate chip cookies, a carton of ice cream, and two bags of chips in my house for so long that I had to put the cookies in the fridge to keep them good (which I’m not stating as an achievement, just a fact). I munch on fun, less nutritionally dense foods every few days to once a week or I’ll have half a cookie while cooking dinner or something. And ofc in the days leading up to my period, I might have a fun food everyday, it just depends on what I feel like, but I never uncontrollably binge on them anymore. I stopped less because it became less alluring and more because of the way high levels of refined carbs and sugar makes me feel (specifically my joints for some reason - is that inflammation?). With consistent data input from those foods (rather than just binging on them every now and then when a friend brings chips over or a coworker brings cookies to work), the connection between the food and how it felt on my body became more and more solidified to the point that I finally associated binging on refined carbs/sugar with that unpleasant body feeling, and I have zero desire to eat like 10 cookies in one sitting now. I don’t even like to have them “naked” anymore - I almost always gravitate toward sources of protein and healthy fat along with the sweet treats now (crush chocolate chip cookies up in vanilla Greek yogurt TRUST ME) and not even in an attempt to be diet conscious, but because the connection between naked refined carbs and how my body feels finally became crystal clear with that consistent, almost daily “data input”. For the first couple months, I’d eat everything within 3 days, but I decided to follow through and see if this actually works, so I’d just add more to my grocery list. Not saying it’ll work for everyone, but I wanted to share my experience, because a lot of people say that it just doesn’t work without realizing it could take months of exposure for those foods to lose their power. :)
I took two weeks of eating whatever and whenever I wanted... by the end, I was over the cookies and ice cream for breakfast. Its incredibly freeing to take away the rules... because once there are no rules to break... its no fun being "bad" as they say. We even do it with my nieces... their sandwich cookie goes right on the plate with the rest of their lunch. If they want to eat it first, that's fine. We've also stopped using food as a reward in this family and have begun to normalize taking much smaller portions and using smaller plates and bowls and that its okay to get 2nds or 3rds if you want to... the concept of "finish your plate" was so big growing up and the guilt when your eyes were bigger than your stomach. It's such hard work reframing how you think about food... but also SO freeing. That also includes ideas about when certain foods should be eaten or how certain meals have to look. I love it.
Yess I never like Nutella, but suddenly when it became a „bad food“ - I started to crave it!! I would just eat it straight out of the jar. Later on when I allowed myself to have it if I wanted to, I realised I still never liked it lol
I had the same experience! When I'm eating enough and fueling myself I rarely even crave the "junk" stuff I used to binge on. I don't feel great after eating a bunch of it too and so instead of wanting to eat a bunch of potato chips I usually crave a balanced meal. It's been very freeing and I feel so much better.
It's so rough to be locked in that cycle of dieting/binging. I'm on the other side of my intuitive eating and ed recovery now- starting to love all foods and in almost shockingly small portions. Now I almost always want less food as I'm purely focused on how I feel and after two years of eating whatever I want whenever I want I know how it feels to eat certain foods in larger amounts and I don't like how it feels. But two years was a long time to get here!
I feel the same. Have always struggled with overeating as a kid. Then my anxiety transformed into trying to lose weight with restrictions. I'd ease the anxiety with lots of shopping or gaming all day. Now I'm also struggling with alcohol...on the abstinence days it feels like there's a black hole inside me just waiting for some distraction.it hurts because I want to lose weight too, but obviously alcohol or overeating stops that. When I don't do either and don't have shopping money it's brutal. Doesn't help when your doctor gives you an alcoholic diagnosis and tries to bully you into AA either. 🙄 Instead I'm working on harm reducing with my husband...yard work giving me something to look forward to
I've had the same issues aside from alcohol. Alcoholism runs in my family so I just avoid it. It scares me to have more than a couple drinks a year. Working with a therapist has been an absolute game changer for me. My coping and addiction issues have including overeating, just not eating, shopping addiction, reckless seggs, gaming my life away... binging netflix... the list goes on. Working with a therapist and doing some mental health evals to either rule in or rule out mental health disorders that often have addictive behavior and anxiety as symptoms was the best thing I ever did for myself. At 35 I was diagnosed with ADHD and Sensory Processing Disorder. (I was diagnosed bipolar at 29.) I'm still doing therapy and its still a lot of hard work but having a greater understanding for how my brain works has been super beneficial as well as having the proper medication. If your brain doesn't make it, there's no harm in store bought. And doctors tend to advocate for AA because it has a long track record of being successful for a fair number of individuals. It is by no means successful for everyone... but it is a good and valid option. Their support meetings for family members are pretty amazing too. It's important to remember the support person needs a support network too. If AA isn't it, have you considered an addiction counselor?
try reading Quit Like a Woman, has some good insight and actual helpful recommendations on how to get back to being you and have a healthy well balanced life- without AA! You dont have to call your self an alcoholic!
So glad you featured this particular issue. Very relatable....unfortunately. Thanks Abbey (loved the Indian inspired Shakshuka featured on MD today....yummm)
Great video! I love how you approach these topics with such sensitivity and care. I would love to see a video on your thoughts/the research on food addiction.
Ooof I totally can relate to your explanation for eating ice cream when you are feeling it compared to eating it to distract. I wish I could tell you how healing putting words to these feelings is ❤️
Early sobriety she should absolutely only focus on that one big change in her life. I’m 3 1/2 months sober and it’s so important to keep the main thing the main thing.
Love from Texas! Alcohol threw me into so many physical and emotional trenches, not to mention legally being banned from drinking. -she needs to stop with the inflammatory foods and drinks
So I’ve cut back on drinking a lot over the years, pretty much I might have a seltzer or something once during the week and then a couple drinks on the weekend, sometimes I’ll go 2 weeks or something without a drink, and when I drink again it’s fine UNLESS I’m in an anxiety triggering situation, like going to a bar with a bunch of people, I tend to get anxiety and basically black out, which is so disheartening when it happens, I hope she can keep that from happening, even if it only happens once every few months it’s a huge blow to the self esteem, because when you stop you start to lose weight, feel better, gain respect for yourself, then you go to that party with all the confidence in the world and wake up with the worst hangover of all time and just feel shattered
Hi Abbey (my name is Abby too lol)! I appreciate that you always add peer reviewed research studies and citations! I’ve been watching your videos since 2020 and as a fellow healthcare provider I can tell that you approach every video with professionalism and empathy. I think it’s very common for people to bash others online for their food choices, but your approach is much more constructive🤍
Abbey 🤗 Every time I heard her say something not very kind or considerate to herself you would talk about it with the exact compassion that I always love hearing from you ❤️ This was so good for those of us who have struggled with or still struggle with alcohol use disorder
I think saying that “because there is no data that shows that a food addiction is real addition… it’s not a real addiction”, is a cop out answer. I understand that you technically have to say that. But there are so many people… millions and millions of people, who are completely morbidly obese because they go to food to cope with the things that they are dealing with. I was one of those people who is morbidly obese, morbidly. I was killing myself slowly but surely with food, just like an alcoholic or a drug addict does. I’m tired of food addiction not being seen as a real addiction because it is. And it’s the one addiction that as soon as you walk into a room people know what you’re addicted to, it’s food.
The difference is.. we need food to live. we don’t need heroin or alcohol to live so it’s a different story. It’s like comparing apples and oranges between the two different addictions.
@@varvaraseliutina4095 You need healthy food to live, when I was morbidly obese and alike other morbidly obese people, our diets only consists of chips cookies high sugar products, highly highly processed foods. We are addicted to the bad things, not the good things. These things contribute to extreme health complications. Even if someone was extremely morbidly obese or just obese and they ate healthy, weight around the stomach is such a danger to your heart. It’s common sense that we need food to live but the amount of food that morbidly obese or just obese people eat is more than enough to live and it’s enough to kill us, food is an addiction to.
@@varvaraseliutina4095 Plus this argument is like saying oh you need water to live, when it is possible, and it has happened that people have had so much water in a day that it kills them.
@@KateMGHEDLEY yeah i also don't think it's a convincing argument. food addiction has killed millions of people and it's just ignorant to say it is not an addiction just because we need it to live.
@@KateMGHEDLEY I think food addiction definitely exists, but it is different from most other addictions. In most addiction management the idea that moderation doesn't exist and you need to abstain completely is key, but this is impossible when it comes to food; you can't quit food. Obviously there are differences in the nutritional value of food but there is no clear cut difference between the food that you're addicted to (the 'bad' food) and the 'good' food that you're not addicted to. This makes food addiction something very different from other substance addictions.
I'm so glad I found your videos, I've nearly watched them all and have learned so much 💜 I stopped doing intermittent fasting which I have done for 4 years, it was really hard to stop but I dod it and I'm doing so much better. I also have alot more energy and have a better understanding that I can eat whatever I want and have alot more energy. Thank you 💜
Abbey, I really enjoy your content. However, as a physician, I have significant concerns about this promo you have included. Blindly ordering bloodwork without guidance from a health provider could lead to signficant over testing, over investigation, potential harms from these as well as potentially false negatives and missed diagnoses if tests are incorrectly reassuring to people. You frequently talk about the importance of involving experts when making decisions about your health and I do not understand how you can promote a service that ignores this. As a doctor I work with my patients to make sure we are ordering appropriate testing when needed rather than throwing the book at them or blindly checking boxes on the lab requisition form. We already are seeing the limitation of virtual medicine and have been seeing pushes back to inperson care through this pandemic and this seems to be going yet another step away from good care for patients. The only positive I have to say about that company is that as a Canadian, I am glad it is not available here.
As a patient, I find a lot of doctors don't order enough tests. I know my body better than anyone and I know when something isn't right. I shouldn't have to harangue a doctor into ordering tests to check my sodium, potassium, Vit D, Iron, and folate. I have a history of those being off over the course of my life and yet, with the exception of one other physician, until my most recent physician, I'd have to make a major stink to get bloodwork despite having awesome insurance and a credible history of having deficiencies. It's worse when a patient feels their hormones should be checked. I shouldn't have to pay out of pocket to go see a functional medicine doctor to get tests a regular MD is more than capable of ordering. In fact, that's why I've stopped going to MDs and instead seek out DOs. They listen better. That said, I'm not sure how saliva can tell me if I have an iron deficiency so that part is super weird to me.
Thanks for your feedback. This is an accredited test and is reviewed by a physician & nurse which as I said is the key. I don’t love tests that you are left to interpret yourself. But personally, my MD has never ordered blood work for vitamin levels (those are paid for tests here), so any time I’ve had it done it’s bc I have asked for it myself. A dr friend actually told me about let’s get checked, so they are suggesting it too bc it’s convenient for their patients.
I worked with a recovering alcoholic and he said he used to hate sugary foods/drinks when he was drinking. Once he went to rehab and stopped drinking he suddenly had the strongest sweet tooth. It was interesting to learn
Obviously I doubt Jaclyn is going to see this, but for anyone else out there who suffers from anxiety and gets overstimulated in public, I have found Loop earplugs to be IMMENSELY helpful. They are noise cancelling, but not the point where you can't hear anything. They filter a lot of the background noise, but you can still hear the people close by you. I normally can't go anywhere with loud music, but I want to a very loud art event, and I was perfectly fine.
Regarding the AUD, this is pretty much my life story. I had a big relapse in depression and anxiety due to Domestic V. I experienced for 2 years and currently have 0 support system. It went from 1 glass of wine to 3, then went to liquor. Fast forward to now, I finish a 2L bottle of Vodka every 2 days and 3L box of wine every week. My anxiety hasn't gotten any better. On the contrary, I feel p4ran0id a lot of the times
Recognising, and being honest about, the reality of your drinking is a huge first step to making things get better. I'm so sorry you had to endure domestic violence, that is one of the worst things. I hope things look up for you soon xxx
I’m so sorry that you’re dealing with this. I really hope that you are able to confide in someone irl and get some support, you need and deserve to have support! I hope things start to get better for you💗(maybe you could think about trying some online therapy?)
@@Rose-jz6sx So far it has gotten less bad. Liquor is out of the house, and only wine is welcome. Although it's still alcohol, it's not the hard stuff? I've been able to resist buying the hard stuff. I've also set a hard limit of only 3 glasses, and the rest could be water, gatorade, coffee, or whatever that's NOT alcohol. Hopefully I'm able to stick to that
I definitely had a more severe situation but I went through the 12 steps for alchohol and my ed. Therapy and working inside out may be the only thing that will help her
My 15 year old daughter has problems with eating out at restaurants, even diners. We had to leave a few times including Mother’s Day one year. Just recently she told me she thinks it’s because her sisters uncle who used to have time with them on the weekend used to force her to eat all her food and would make a big scene if she didn’t want to, so now she feels like everyone is watching her when she eats. We haven’t seen that uncle for at least 8 years now but I never knew that was a problem for her but we’re working on it now and she’s doing much better.
The other issue is that when alcohol is consumed the body burns it as a fuel source before anything else. So it will use it as fuel before it uses the energy from your food. When I drink alcohol my body burns that as fuel and nothing else. It honestly seems to stop using food for anything else but fat storage whenever I drink. I know this because alcohol is the only thing that causes me to gain weight overnight. Literally. Like if I have loads of chocolate over Christmas I will be bloated for a week but then everything is fine. Not so with alcohol. I gain weight immediately from it and it sticks around. I think some folk's bodies are just super slow to switch from alcohol burning back to normal burning mode. And I am super sick of people telling me it's just bloating. The last time I drank alcohol on a night out I gained 3 lbs and it stuck around for a year. That isn't bloating. ;)
@@AbbeysKitchen Thanks Abbey. I would love to see some research on why certain people like me are super slow to switch back from burning alcohol to burning their food as normal. I mean if it were just a calorie issue then I would gain fat from chowing down on chocolate at Christmas for days but I don't. Whereas one night of drinking is less calories but results in permanent fat storage. I don't get it. It sucks as I used to have an ED, so am not prepared to do something that results in overnight weight gain.
Hi Abbey! I’m begging you- review ‘liverking’… he’s literally depriving his kids of nutrition and I’m curious about effects of eating just raw meat/fat diet ✌️ amazing vid as always ❤️
As somebody whose ADHD and Autism often mix unpleasantly within new social situations, I found that taking a lap/going out on to the smoking balcony despite not smoking allows me to communicate clearly enough to tell people I'm leaving- but I still have to leave once I hit that point, and quickly. Alcohol tends to make it worse.
I LOVE your work! Thank you for sharing. I would love to see you do a video on nutrition for fertility (sorry if you already have one and I missed it!) 🙏🏽💕
This is such an important conversation and kudos to both you and Jaclyn for having it in this way. I have bpd and am going through a similar situation currently. I lean on alcohol whenever I'm struggling with anxiety or depression (usually a combination of both). And just over a week ago it got to a point where I got so drunk I had a total breakdown and experienced strong suicidal thoughts. The next day I had to sit with myself and figure out a map towards healing. I've cut alcohol out (for now but after around a month I'll reintroduce it in moderation- ie 2 glasses twice a week) I've began journaling, I'm eating healthy and trying to get exercise and the difference its made is like day and night. Sending love and strength to anyone else who struggles with mental health issues 🙏
Excellent video, I am glad shes started going to therapy, it seems like shes getting a lot better. By any chance are you planning on doing a video about how to get nutrients during ramadan soon?
@@AbbeysKitchen yes please do! I am fasting at the moment and I end up either eating way to little, where I nearly pass out the day after, or way to much where I feel sick
While watching Jaclyn I realized that the reason why so many people have issues these days are because they are overly obsessed with themselves. As soon as you take the focus from yourself things improve
I feel for Jaclyn, I used to LOVE her. But I think she's her own worst enemy. I also think the fiance enables her with eating and drinking. I don't like him, as in I just feel he doesn't have a best interests at heart. I think he's just Jon Hill the 2nd. Only my opinion but I think she needs Time off social media. She'd probably notice her depression and anxiety improve if she stopped sharing her every move with the whole world.
I can’t understand how people claim they want to get better and broadcast it on social media. Why not step away and come back and share what you learned. Odd
I agree with the concept of intuitive eating, because I cannot imagine keeping track of everything I eat on a daily basis. Entering everything into Cronometer for just one day (out of curiosity about my vitamin/mineral/fiber intake) is SO much work. If I get the munchies, I'm not about to go to bed hungry because I've reached an arbitrary limit. In winter, I always have the munchies. However, I disagree with the concept of keeping those "trigger" foods around. If I have junk food at home, I will eat it. If I don't have any junk food at home, then I won't eat it. Having plenty of healthy foods and no junk foods available makes it SO EASY to eat a healthy diet. It's one of the few times in life when the path of least resistance IS the best one. Being busy, lazy, or distracted is an asset instead of a liability. I've been avoiding junk foods due to the pandemic. (It weakens the immune system and promotes inflammation.) When I get the munchies, I eat fruits, vegetables, whole grains, nuts, seeds, and/or probiotic foods. I never have to deprive myself or go to bed hungry. Even before the pandemic, it had been a few years since I bought any Twizzlers, gummy worms, or gummy bears. That fruity, gummy candy is so addictive. Not having any around limited my consumption, because my only chance to eat it was at parties and other events where it was available. I cannot understand why it was a bad idea for me to decide to avoid buying those gummy candies.
Yeah, you’re gonna eat it, for sure at first… The thing with keeping junk food at home is it’s not an immediate fix. I tried it and I binged out for 2ish months, and then I just slowly stopped. I’ve had a box of chocolate chip cookies, a carton of ice cream, and two bags of chips in my house for so long that I had to put the cookies in the fridge to keep them good. I munch on that stuff every few days to once a week or I’ll have half a cookie while cooking dinner or something. I stopped less because it became less alluring and more because of the way high levels of refined carbs and sugar makes me feel (specifically my joints for some reason). With consistent data input from those foods (rather than just binging when a friend brings chips over or a coworker brings cookies to work), the connection between the food and how it felt became more and more solidified to the point that I finally associated binging on refined carbs/sugar with that unpleasant body feeling, and I have zero desire to eat like 10 cookies in one sitting now. I don’t even like to have them “naked” anymore - I almost always gravitate toward sources of protein and healthy fat along with the sweet treats now, and not even in an attempt to be healthy, but because the connection between naked refined carbs and how my body feels finally became crystal clear with that consistent “data input”. For the first couple months, I’d eat everything within 3 days, but I decided to follow through and see if this actually works, so I’d just add more to my grocery list. I’m NOT saying that that would work for you or that that is even something you’d want to go through to get to the “other side” (it was hard). But I wanted to clear up that it usually takes months of exposing yourself to trigger foods before you notice a change in your eating habits. Again, not suggesting you try this at all! Just wanted to share my own experience :)
SUGAR cravings when quitting alcohol are real! I ended up drinking sweetened herbal teas at night to replace wine. Back before I quit drinking I rarely liked candy, sugar, sweet beverages etc. I was a savory food craver when I ate indulgent snacks or really at all (savory breakfast over sweet cereals etc). I would never get desert and rarely got anything sweeter than dark chocolate. Cliff bars were sickly sweet to me back then and I would only eat them when hiking long distances. Now I love sweet foods and often crave them. I've even seen advice given in various AA type texts to carry bags of candy around to help with the cravings in new sobriety so she's not alone in that one! Harm reduction approaches to substance use is def. the way to go and if total sobriety works for you (like it does me) then that's great too but there is no one size fits all for this.
Abby can you please talk about eating disorder treatment horror stories? I’ve experienced extreme stupidity at my own cities hospital and I know a lot of other people around the world have not gotten the help they need because of the actual treatment centres ignorance and unwillingness to listen/ have their mind changed
I keep 3 clean ones each in an individual zip-loc bag, in my glove compartment. That way I’m never caught without one, or-I could help someone else if they needed one. You might try that? 😷
As someone who has family members who are addicted to alcohol or does something stupid every time they drink. It’s best for them to be cold turkey and not drink in moderation. My brother is an alcoholic and he’s 36. One drink would be multiple drinks because he has an addiction. So nah I disagree.
@@robyn2014 Yup if she never dealt with alcoholism or never dealt with a family member that is an alcoholic then don’t tell ppl that moderation is key when it comes to drinking and alcoholics
I love this channel and this video has many important takeaways but I wonder if it makes sense to keep reviewing Jaclyn's channel? It seems obvious that she has an unhealthy relationship with her body and food. I know Abbey has good intentions but I worry that this is starting to feel like nit-picking someone who is on a difficult journey. When you review a range of people, it makes it clear that your notes aren't specifically for the youtuber but for anyone with the same misinformation or difficulties. When you keep reviewing the same person over and over again, it starts to feel overly targeted (especially because Jaclyn seems to be intentionally ignoring these videos -- I'm not on twitter or anything, I might have missed something).
Agreed. Especially with the clickbaity thumbnail and occasional "cringe" facial reactions, it doesn't feel like this was the most compassionate or even educational approach to discuss disordered eating. I'm disappointed that a channel with such good information is utilizing clickbait and public shaming just for the sake of views (I'm not saying this is what Abbey is intentionally doing, but I definitely think that a large portion of viewers who watch and enjoy these types of "reaction" videos see it as kind of a "bashing" session) .
I disagree, Abbey has done multiple videos on one person before and we all know she does these videos as educational content and not as individual recommendations. Many people who watch Abbey or maybe Jacelyn and then Abbey's video might be struggling with the same or a similar thing and understanding that there is a connection between anxiety, alcohol and food can be a great help.
Thanks for the feedback. We have to acknowledge that any RU-vidr who is willingly choosing to share their wellness journey is responsible for the content they are putting out there. My responses are never meant to embarrass or belittle, but rather to educate folks along the way as they follow this influencers journey. Consider me the professional companion to help you unpack the complexities of these topics for folks going through similar journeys on their own. There are a LOT of people watching and I think want to ensure they have a supportive companion piece that’s evidence based. As always, my content is really not uniquely directed at the content creator as it is about educating on pop culture topics that come up in these videos that people watch and follow as gospel.
I decided to abstain from any alcohol during Lent. I thought it would be an easy thing to do, since I barely drink at all, but the thought of having a drink has popped up in my mind much more often than I expected it. Now I don’t know if alcohol has a stronger hold on me than I thought, or that I find myself wanting a glass of wine more often than usual because I can’t have it. I don’t think I’m in denial here, but I do think it’s the latter, because I have several bottles of wine and other liquors that I bought years ago and have never felt the need to drink them. Is my mind playing tricks on me, making me want something more than usual just because I decided to abstain from it for a while?
Hi Abbey! I have two suggestions of youtube accounts you could analyse : Nina Montagne and Erin Rutherford. They both do a lot of What I eat in a day and have turned their back to diet culture. xx
Thanks for this video Abbey. I'm not sure if you saw but in England it is now compulsory for large/chain restaurants to display calories in their menus. I know it's been a thing in Canada for a few years now but it's causing a lot of debate and controversy here because people are very concerned about the effects it could have on people with EDs or issues with food. I wonder the effect it has had in Canada, if this has even been investigated? Would be interesting to see, so we could predict how it might play out here in the UK.
Chains in the USA lists calories and all restaurants by law have a nutritional menu that you have to ask for as it is chunky because it lists every aspect. It has no impact on those with eds based on studies
@@ayajade6683 really I didn't know it was a thing in the US already. That's interesting, can you point me in the direction of those studies? I'm someone with an eating disorder and I personally find calorie info stressful so would be interested to see the research on this
@@libbyt2581 I think it was the APA or the journal of applied psychology where there was no significant difference between the control group who had previous Ed history and the subjects of the calories listed group. The working theories are listing it helps calm fears that lead to overestimating calories eaten, that listing calories makes the menu seem more approachable/ less anxiety inducing, and allows for easier tracking of food for allowing an extra treat in with less guilt. The other point of note was the possibility of the dietary restrictions like gluten free, vegetarian, kosher etc may have contributed in some individuals choices.
I diet pretty much since I was a kid.. add sexual abuse to that and I started to binge drinking. It lasted for about 10 years, and it was getting worse each year.. I went from drinking on special occasions to drinking alone a few times a week. I was diagnosed with ADHD recently and asked my doctor about the Sinclair Method for my drinking problem. I did it for 2 months (take a pill, wait one hour, drink alcohol as you usually would for as many days as you feel like drinking until the urge to drink stops) and I don't feel like drinking anymore. I would binge drink two to three times in a bad week, now I don't feel like drinking at all (and I could if I wanted to, just have to take the pill one hour before drinking). I'm also medicated with a stimulant for the ADHD, which is helping a lot. The bad thing is that sometimes I don't feel hungry at all and have to force myself to eat.
Jaclyn makes me so exhausted with all the excuses and mental health turmoil. I struggled a lot with AUD after a terrible life event, but with time I slowly cut out drinking because my anxiety became less and less. Jaclyn seems to have every excuse in the book to fuel her food addiction and it’s annoying. Weight loss isn’t easy, but there is no consistency so there is no results. Just my blunt opinion. Wish her luck of course I know addictions are so hard from experience I hope she can overcome it.
Abby, why did my personal trainer & RU-vid fitness trainers.. ALL say lay off dairy? Some say wheat (inflammation)? I love my dairy and lost weight on it, no problems for me. PLEASE inform. Ty
Hey, could you do an update video on Stephanie Buttermore? She has over a mil subscribers and she actually encourages eating disorders. Like binge-eating and doesn't seem aware for some reason.
I have done a few reviews of her! m.ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-zZDmqKr06XM.html m.ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WbjcQ3_zhR4.html
Hi Abbey, similarly to how you will bring in or consult with colleagues before discussing topics that are not in your scope I would love to see the same level of professional respect for the mental health field…. Especially since you only disclosed talking to your sister about AUD later in the video after providing some incomplete info about anxiety and it’s treatments
Homeschooling is overall better for a person's mental health in the majority of cases. Homeschool students also have 15-30% better grades and the highest graduation rate of any other form of pre collegiate education. Homeschool students also preform better in formal education environments I college. 67% of homeschool students who attended college will graduate, vs. 33% of public high school graduates. They also tend to earn more money later in life. Homeschool is a great educational option and we have to stop making it seem ridiculous when it serves its students better by every metric than the public school system. Homeschool≠hostage
@@earthstar7534 you only proved that homeschooled people do better in school, but you claim they are better of mental health wise. Do you have statistics for that too?
@@earthstar7534 oh I got a full ride scholarship to my university, I’m not saying I wasn’t schooled well. I was schooled in a home where I wasn’t socialized with other children which resulted in me not knowing how to make friends or be comfortable in social situations. Was it better than the school system we lived in? Absolutely. But my homeschool experience definitely contributed to my anxiety.
I do not know if this is a cultural difference, but I have always wondered why women change their bodies for the wedding when for most people this is the one dress that is meant to be custom tailored to them.
You're right, Abbey, people can learn to drink in moderation. Our society is so saturated with abstinence-based programs that we fail to recognize how ineffective they are for a lot of people. Some people will do better with abstinence, but there is no one-size-fits-all solution, and we need to stop making people feel bad for finding their own path. Substance use disorder is becoming more and more of an issue so we clearly need to deal with it differently. It's barbaric that the US criminalizes substance use disorder.
I REALLY appreciate that you acknowledge that not everyone who may have turned to alcohol for anxiety needs to go cold turkey and abstain 100% forever. Yes, you mentioned that this works for some folks, and that is great for many...but not all. Part of my ED recovery is not seeing things so black and white. My brain has a major issue seeing the gray! So, working towards getting away from the 'all or nothing' mentality, has really helped me. I don't turn to booze when I am stressed- and drinks are now a special occasion thing and ITS GREAT!
I'm not trying to have a dig at her at all because we're all different, but personally for myself I can't imagine using alcohol to cope with anxiety, alcohol makes me feel worse, it makes me feel out of control.
