Dougherty Dozen Teaching Her Kids That Name Brand Things Can Solve Problems | She's Not Smart 

If you ask me Alicia does not only have an alcohol addiction but also a shopping addiction as nobody spends like this, it’s totally out of control

She spent more on her shoe shopping spree than I make in two months as a teacher with a masters degree 😇

My biggest concern for these kids, aside from the privacy exploitation, is the fact that they have no sense of how to budget or even do basic chores around the house. It’s setting them up for failure if they think they can get whatever they want without doing anything.

"Please teach your kids the value of things"... thank you for saying that🙏

I was raised by a single teen mom, the older I get the more I realize that material things don’t bring happiness. I grew up shopping at thrift stores and Walmart and still do that to this day. I honestly get more satisfaction saving money or getting a good deal than by spending money. Those kids are learning a dangerous lesson, just because you have money doesn’t mean you should spend it and a higher price tag doesn’t always equal a higher quality. As The Beatles once said “can’t buy me love”

I grew up in the upper class and my mom always said that if the name brand is on the outside of the clothing she would not buy it because she refused to market it by wearing it. I hated the rule at the time but I totally get it now. I still refuse to buy stuff with the name brand shown 😂

Poverty is trauma but so is being spoiled and not taught the value of self esteem, hard work and money. You’re right Josh, She’s exchanging one trauma for another.

Growing up when my mom got her paychecks we’d pick it up, I could get a candy bar and we’d go to a thrift store to buy clothes. I loved spending time with my mom. I had no idea I was even buying clothes second hand. I didn’t care. This video is insane! She’s not teaching them anything beneficial by spending this much money.

Watching the kids in the store makes my stomach turn. If I had this opportunity to shop like this when I was their age, I'd be smiling from ear to ear, jumping, running and happy as can be. They don't give a fugg that they're getting whatever they want. I'd be so cautious about what I picked.

I watched her video in total awe. I had a bad feeling about her videos when I started watching the grocery hauls. Honestly the more health or mental health issues kids have the last thing they need is a ton of junk food and sugar.

Disgusting. They are paying for the name brand on those Yeti cups. Walmart sells a GREAT dupe for like $10. I totally understand wanting to give your child what you didn’t have/spoiling them here and there BUT this is extreme. These kids do not know the value of working for something and she is setting them up for poverty in the future. So gross! I lived in poverty until my teenage years and my parents did splurge on Christmas and birthdays but I had a job and if I wanted my nails done or extra cute clothes you bet I had to pay for that. It helped me understand the value of items and their cost. Even today I’ll think to myself “Oh that item equals 2 hours of work… is it worth it?”

I live in Tennessee. My daughter (5) did ballet when she was 4 with a local girl who was being fostered and the foster mom asked every other mom taking pictures to put an emoji over/cover her foster daughter's face. It's definitely not allowed to post their face in most places if even super conservative Tennessee doesn't allow it.

When my kids were young I always bought them quality shoes. Having a podiatrist in the family, I learned the importance of quality shoes. Especially for growing children. We weren’t wealthy by any means, but the health of your feet can affect your entire life. 👣 Bad shoes can change the way you walk, the way your knees and hips develop, and more. But also, “name” brands and high prices don’t equal quality.

I feel like a lot of these huge RU-vid families with a bunch of adopted kids try to buy their kid’s love but we all know that this materialism doesn’t lead to love. Care, affection, kindness, warmth, taking time with their kids, bonding by eating dinner together every night, and so much more is what makes love!

Josh-I think you hit the nail on the head when speaking about the cycle of growing up very poor and feeling like you just wanna flex every once in a while to prove you’re not as poor as you really are. I grew up VERY poor-our lights would be shut off for non payment all the time, same with our water. Eventually my mom gave into her demons that she had already been playing with, and she totally turned to alcohol to the point where she couldn’t keep a job, and she knew she wasn’t doing well, so she gave me to my dad (who was always in my life anyways) and he lived with my grandma. My dad also fought his alcoholism and somehow we all lived off my grandmas social security checks which were 1,000/mo. We got $200 in food stamps also. But a thousand a month to pay bills and buy clothes for a pre teen and later teenager wasnt enough. But somehow my poor, sweet grandma made sure I never went hungry and I always smelled good. I didn’t get any name brand clothes ever, but there was one time for Christmas my dad came up with some money to buy me my first and only pair of K-Swiss shoes. Please someone comment if you remember those lmao!!! I was obsessed with having some bc all the cool R&B singers had them and the cool girls at my school (I also went to a predominantly black school) now that I have my own kids, I have to fight the temptation to buy them name brand clothing because honestly it’s dumb to do. But in my mind, it’s a constant battle of “Am I doing enough for them?” So far my kids have it WAY better than I did. But I can honestly say I’m glad I grew up poor, it gave me empathy, and an outlook and experience on life that many of my friends now don’t have. It made me grow thick skin, so now I’m able to speak boldly without worrying about someone might think or say about me. As much as I sacrificed my childhood so my mom could party, It made me who I am today, and I wouldn’t change that. P.S. my mom passed from alcoholism when I was 15. She died in jail on a warrant she had for not appearing to court. Life is cruel….very, very cruel. But we just have to keep on chuggin along for our children and our future generations. ❤

There's one thing that makes me so sad from the 4000 k shoe spending. Apart from all that you said, which is really eye opening (I think you are a wise man with a huge capacity for observation) is that she allows to buy them what they want: 150$ bottles for small kids, Crocs, Nike's, etc... Whatever!! Yet some of them look dishevelled. It's hard for me to write this, cause it's children, but their external appearance is not right, hair is not combed, they seem they haven't had a bath, some are very overweight. So, instead of giving them nurturing love, instead of taking time to comb their hairs, to dress them properly, she just takes the lot to the shop to hoard and hoard. I worked with special needs children and first red flag was children's appearance. If they attended school with dirty clothes, messy hair, tired face, we knew there was something going wrong at home. Cause you know what that is called? That is neglection. No matter how many Crocs she buys them. That kind of parenting is wrong. It's specially bad when those kids are adopted, I mean, if you can't look after them, why on earth do you have to adopt so many kids?? It was her choice, her selfish choice trying to cover her multiple insecurities and mental issues. Everything about that woman is having more and more. No matter what, she needs to have more of everything, shopping, children, subscribers, stored junk food, etc Sorry for the rant, just makes me so angry.

I just came across her page a couple weeks ago and I was watching one of her shopping hauls. I could not believe how much she was willing to spend on junk food. Name brand junk food and loads of it. As a mom I could never justify allowing my kids to eat that way.

I watched the video titled “Flying To NYC With 12 Kids” the other day. She grabbed water/milk for everyone from the store inside the airport and I’m thinking .. ok this is reasonable .. until she preceded to spend $345 on headphones! A few minutes later says 2 more kids needed headphones and she went back 😅 What she allowed them to purchase during that trip was a whole other insane story. Not to mention the professional photographer, restaurants they visited, shows they went to and the BUS they rented. I don’t know how she can claim to be broke and spend money like this without a second thought .

I used to foster teenage girls and we had a budget for back to school shopping and they wanted to hit the mall.....I told them we could go to the mall and get one outfit or we could check out goodwill and see what we could find. We went to goodwill and they found sooooo many things, brand names, names you never heard of, tons of things that they absolutely were thrilled with! And they had so much fun! Came home, dumped it all on the floor and couldn't wait until they were washed and they could wear them.

She isn't smart enough to realize that "All good things must come to an end, and I am going to be here for it when she goes broke because she wasn't smart enough to save any.

two of the teens just got shoes in NYC. i was shocked they each got MORE shoes. IT was really odd they got more very expensive shoes. both got runners AGAIN. Money is not an option not once does she say no htats too much or no look for shoes under 100. she doesnt say how much is it?? its what size is it. the only time she mentions money is over a water bottle YET? they got the water bottles!! Id be SO worried those little kids WILL LOOSE THEM! littles loose things all of the time and a water bottle will not be on the top of their minds 100 dollar water bottle?? INSANE

I used to watch her grocery hauls and think “wow she always knows exactly what she needs, they must be organized and use things up before buying more” and then I saw her pantry and fridge tour and realized..there’s a problem. There’s way too much food for even a family their size and all junk. Nothing healthy. She buys so little produce compared to all the processed junk.

My parents always take care of my brother and I. Their immigrants and worked super hard to have the middle class life we have. But they did so by saving diligently. I didn’t start getting nicer things/clothing until I was older. Even then they were from outlet stores. For me, my mom baking me a cake for my birthday and allowing me to travel with my school somewhere warms my heart more than a designer bag. My parents spend more money on us when it’s an experience that would be amazing, and my brother and I are both doing really well in college and never get in trouble. I still sometimes feel guilty when I get gifts from people. For my 21st birthday I asked for nothing except my moms baking because they paid for my trip to a music conference as a representative on behalf of my college. It was amazing. I’m so grateful.

My name brand crocs have literally been thoroughly used for 6 years. Honestly they are much higher quality than the off brand. The kid’s will grow out of them so quickly though so it doesn’t really need to be the name brand. Once they are in a size they will stay in then the higher quality shoes can be purchased!

She KNOWS people don't believe she's poor because she's always flexing with receipts.

She should've saved all the money they spent at the store and used it to fix their fricken septic system.

I got shoes once a year (when I was early school age), from Stride Rite. They had a little bridge in the store, and I'd walk up on the bridge so the salesman could feel my foot, where my toes were compared to the length of the shoe, and ensure the proper fit. It was so exciting to me! I loved each special pair so much that I'd sit up at night past bedtime, just staring at them on my feet. I wouldn't trade that experience for ANYTHING in the world. I appreciate everything I have now.

As my grandmother would say… “ick..new money at its worst!”🙄 Just tacky.

I’m sad that dayshaun and nevaeh one day have to go back to their old home and will have to continue to watch this family live luxuriously when they’re back to poverty. Maybe they will keep helping them even when they go home

My dad made great money, but my mom was so freaking careful. eBay, sales, Old Navy bucks, thrift stores. This is so unnecessary. My parents had 10 kids and we always had nice shoes that were built to last. I highly doubt my mom would ever drop 4K at one time on shoes alone.

Omg Josh. I watched this very shoe (and everything else) shopping spree this morning! So glad you covered it - and we had the same reaction. I love that you’re here to say it how it is. If you can help even one person it’s worth it! ♥️

As someone who doesn't live in the USA but I am always shocked at how much some people spend on clothes and school supplies just to go back to school. Living in the UK where all school supplies except pens, pencils for your own personnel use are supplied by the school. Yes school uniform can be expensive but the amount of clothes people buy just because it's back to school. Surely it makes more sense especially with older children to just buy and replace what is needed in the season you are in.

I think it’s disgusting the amount of money she spends,I watched a few times even subscribed then stopped and unsubscribed when I seen the amount of money she was spending and her terrible parenting just to line her pockets ,

When you say Crocs are made of space clay 😂 I've never heard a more accurate description lol.

Dad, you're my spirit animal. I always have bought second hand items. I never understood how someone could buy something for $200 when the kid will outgrow it.

I’m a foster parent in Oregon, and here if it’s a Kinship placement you can post pictures and videos online. Actually, in Oregon you can post pictures and videos of foster kids in general but you can’t give any information about them or indicate that they are a foster child. Oregon felt it was more discriminatory to blur our faces of one child rather than let them be in a picture because it draws attention to the fact that the child is blurred and it can hurt their self esteem. You just can’t in the post say their name or if someone asks who they are you can’t identify them as a foster child.

$100 + water bottles hell no. And this woman had the nerve to calm to say we are poor. Come on Alicia who do you think your trying to fool? Stop laying to people about being poor when you walk into a store and drop over $4000.00 at the most expensive store.

The water bottles ARE OUT OF CONTROL😧😮😵😵‍💫 I’m blown away.

I'm glad your covering this family. Honestly got an off feeling about her the first time I saw their videos.

Easy come easy go in this family. When I was a lone parent and my son was 13 he wanted a mobile phone, I told him I couldn’t afford that much so he went around the village asking and got himself a paper round… in over 6 months he purchased a phone! ❤ He’s 38 now and works 16-18 hours a day and has bought my 3 grandsons up with the same work ethics. Nothing comes easy in life and sadly their bubble will burst eventually.

Came across your channel only a few days ago but I love what you are doing and I love the videos please keep them coming much love and respect

I cant get enough of this! The birthday vlog for Patrick was INSANE! Thanks Josh 💘

Thank you for keeping it real, you're right on so many points.

So happy to have a comment section to talk about all her issues and it not be deleted by her!! All true stuff everyone’s saying. Bravo.

Shit I can’t believe she spent that much money on back to school clothes. I could not imagine spending that kind of money.

When I was raising my three children, we always shopped sales!! We never would buy such extravagant clothing while they were growing. They always had new things for school but we also saved for the event.

You missed the part where one of the older kids was running away from a group of girls, and she laughs and said “Oh, looks like (blank) was getting fan-girled!” 😐😐 It was towards the beginning

My parents would NEVER let my brother and I just put random stuff in the shopping cart. 4,000 holy shit!

Great video! Wow my eyes are opened to this lady.

YES!!!!! Them older kids SHOULD be working or doing something to earn their money. I had to, and I told my kids the same thing. “If u want something, u earn/work for it.”

I am thankful for this for MYSELF. I grew up poor and I now over compensate for my children, this is the biggest wake up call. I’m so grateful for this… Wow 😭💗

What bothers me more is that NONE of the kids said thank you for any of it.

Yes! I wanted this one!...let's go!

My 12 year-old is selling snow cones tomorrow with her friends to buy the waterbottle she wants for school. Great parenting "Dorothy Dozen" 👍

That is insane that the crocs were $60! I literally got mine online a couple years ago and they only cost like $20. This family has way to much money. They could at least give some of it away to fundraisers or organizations.

She's out here ruining 12 kids lives...this sort of shopping gives me anxiety 🙃

I spent $300 at Ross for my two kids together and they got SOOO many clothes and each a pair of shoes!!!

Caught the last half, watching it back on replay... wow.

You speak facts! I grew up in a home where food stamps were spent in junk and lasted a week if that and the rest of the month we went to food banks. My mom had no idea how to budget or spend wisely. I had to learn on my own as an adult.

We adopted my niece, and her Dad is like this. He doesn't help, cause my mom and dad can't afford to spend money like he does. They go shopping and he just gives her his bank card. She doesn't appreciate it, she gives stuff away 🙄

You and I had such similar childhoods. The best days of the month in my house were the 3rd (child support day) and the 7th (food stamp day). The end of the month sucked, any extra money went for my moms cigarettes and food came from food banks. My birthday parties were always the best though because that’s when my mom got her tax returns. I love getting my kids the stuff they want now and it’s something I’ve had to learn to handle appropriately. Im also with you on the second hand clothes and shoes. It kills me when I buy my kids nice, new, expensive clothes and they end up with mustard stains three days later 🤬

This is insanity. This kind of behavior makes NORMAL kids feel inferior and less than because they have sneakers from target and a water bottle from Amazon. My kids are absolutely well cared for and have more than they need - but we would NEVER shop like this. Gross.

If we assume that you are buying 14 kids one expensive pair of shoes...let's say $125 each, that would be around $1,750. I can't believe she got them all water bottles and random shirts that aren't like....every day shirts but sports jerseys.

Thank you Josh for your reality checks and honesty in this video.

One of those yetis cost more than what I spent on school shopping for BOTH of my young kids 😳

We were smart enough to teach our kids that toys live in the store. So we let them hold and look at toys but at the end of the trip we put them back to their home with their friends (other toys) and thank them for spending time with us. Not looking forward to when that doesn't work anymore

The poverty mindset is hard to overcome. You buy small things you can afford like a nice tv or expensive shoes because you feel like you can never afford big things like a house. It's very frustrating to watch from the outside. The problem here is that people love watching others splurge and the internet is rewarding her for it.

Your commentary/reactions on this and how blown away you are by it all is absolutely hilarious 😂😂😂

It’s amazing that she calls, cold cereal “meal prepping”😂😂js

My jaw just dropped watching this video! This is just insane, taking kids to a massively expensive store like that and just letting them go to town. Why would you by water bottles from Dick’s Sporting Goods where there are way over priced instead of going to a place like Target or Walmart for a fraction of the cost. We didn’t have money growing, but my mom always found a way to take me to Old Navy for new clothes for school. I was so grateful for what I got. I have to admit my grandma would always buy us expensive stuff because she was over compensating for when she was a little girl share cropping in a cotton farm in Arkansas. She always said that her kids and grand kids would always have nice things. But, we were taught not to take them for granted. My mom did always buy me a good pair of shoes for the school year because she was all about having a good pair of tennis. She isn’t teaching these kids anything, they just expect nice things now. I have serious questions about her showing her foster kids on camera because I know of a foster family that lost license to foster just by showing blanked out faces and changing their namesd

The Coogan law needs to be changed to include social media to guarantee that the kids have something set aside for them.

It seems like she's trying to bring them comfort by buying them junk food and brand name shoes/clothes. That could create some bad coping mechanisms

Josh, I love to see you yelling at the kids through the screen, it makes me laugh so hard. And you are so on point.

The first places we shop for anything for ourselves and our kids are ross, marshalls, tjmaxx, etc. They have AMAZING things, and tonssssss of name brand at a fraction of the cost.

Everything you said was spot on!! Thank you for saying that because I agree with you!

You are so right! She bought a Jeep for her oldest son and on her last "food shopping tour " she talked about that they're thinking about bying a new house!!

I have 5 boys! I cried when Payless shoes closed 😭😭

I did the same thing. Came from low income childhood. Started babysitting early so I could make my own money and not have to wear the older kid's hand me downs. Worked part time during nursing school so I could have lunches. Once graduated and went from minimum wage to nursing wages, bought everything. And over bought probably because we never had anything. Now that I'm in my 50s, my value of life is not on having many things. I've even sold most of my belongings and living minimal. Any money now goes into enjoying and increasing the value of my house.

we weren’t well off growing up and we still aren’t now but my nana took me and my two sisters in 16 years ago and me and my sister are over 18 i work full time and also do school full time but jesus our back to school shopping all together for the three of us was $600 and thats even with me picking the cheapest things because i understood we weren’t in a good place my sisters on the other hand went wild but it made me appreciate the value of money and to appreciate money and i have saved 10k at 20 years old because i understand that just because i have it now doesn’t mean i’ll always have it i learned to work and to appreciate whatever i get i can’t say the same for my sisters but i wouldn’t change a thing i love working for my money and being able to do things i never have it makes me appreciate things more

My husband and I live paycheck to paycheck and our oldest (5years old) just started basketball and I freaked out spending $60 on basketball shoes. Knowing they won’t get ruined and that his little brother will wear them in the future made me feel a little better about it lol. I get shoes for the kids either hand me downs, thrift store or clearance at Walmart or target. They grow too fast to spend a bunch of money on shoes.

I didn't get the expensive shoes till I was in grade 7. No way would my parents buy me expensive shoes when I was 6. The little kids don't need expensive shoes

My daughter went through a period where all she wanted was name brand. At that time we had 3 kids and I would spend the same on each child. Whatever she wanted namebrand she had to spend the extra. She babysat and got a job at the 15 and works hard for what she has. My 16 year old also works.

I love your videos!!! You crack me up I love it! I do hope she is putting money away for each child! I really do. You rock!

Im so happy u r doing this

Watching from uk, thought she said she was poor, who spends over four grand on shoes, wish I was as poor as her

I came from poverty and I never bought my kids anything for full price unless they had to have it immediately. For example they’re shoes had a hole in them so they needed new ones right now. Otherwise I always look for sales and such. I cannot imagine throwing away money like this. Not ever!

I love your videos on this family

I'm from UK love your channel. I have laughed so much at your contents especially taking of elishia accents. Not forgetting grapples LMAO

Didn't she just get everyone get new shoes to go to New York?!

And the older ones already watch the smaller ones! She's got a damn phone or camera in her hand all the time!!! Can't believe the school doesn't see anything wrong with her husband for allowing all the crap!!!

You are so bright and everything you’re saying! I agree with you 1000%

Josh-I don’t know if you can relate but after my dad tragically died from cancer at 39, we had to get that “welfare cheese” and it reminds me of that damn Velveeta!!!!! I felt like a millionaire when I could buy a block of regular cheese… I firmly believe she was dirt poor also at one point

She's that person that leaves price tags on Christmas gifts🙄

Random thought - don’t a lot of stores have policies about filming while inside the store?

Hello from pa. Just discovered your channel and love it. I was wondering about the Dougherty dozen. I’m disabled sables and barley make it by. It’s a constant struggle. I was wondering how can you go to wegmans sho shopping ect and just grab whatever is crazy.

Luv your videos

my son is 1 and we only go to walmart and ross for his clothes and such. i get a shirt for him for less than $5 at walmart! there’s absolutely no reason to spend money on name brand for kids, not only do they ruin stuff super fast but they outgrow stuff sooo fast! i buy my sons clothes the next size up to save money for a couple months. my parents never taught me how to budget but i’m definitely going to teach it to my son so he doesn’t have a spending problem like i had and still slightly have tbh

when I was a kid, it was $50 max for shoes, $40 max for jeans usually $20, $10-$15 for tops, and had only a few. necessities only. it was rough as a kid comparing to others but as I get older I sure appreciate everything!!

I was waiting for you to cover this video. 👍

@22:07 i cant wait til the last week of July to get the school clothes and supplies on tax free weekend. Since our school start back in August and we get out in may.