I have to stop emotional eating because I’m depressed with going to a job I hate, I had bad relationships with men in the pass, dealing with traumas, my mom has cancer I’m worried about her and negative people I have to continue praying and staying positive because if failures in life! 🙏🏾
I watched this video in May 2023 at the lowest point in my life. I weighed over 250lbs, I was depressed and I just felt like I wouldn’t ever lose the weight. It wasn’t until I watched this video that I had finally realised that my issues with food came from a much deeper place. It was then and ONLY then that I finally started to lose weight; once I realised I had to make peace with myself first. I currently weigh 209lbs, and I’m well on my way to my goal weight of 185lbs. Thank you so much for making this video; you not only set me on the path to changing my life, having grown up the fat kid in school, you also saved me from a possible lifetime of health issues. I am forever grateful.
I recognize that as a child when I was unhappy, I ran to my grandmother, and she fed me. As an adult in unhappy times, I feed myself. I need to find another outlet.
Plants are amazing therapy. They listen well, never criticize and actually benefit from the carbon dioxide when you talk to them. Just don't overeater them. May I recommend a spider plant or peace lily?
@@seasonsofphilly1993 if you have light for succulents you have enough light for peace lilies!, peace lilies are low light air purifying plants, we had one at work growing well under artificial light.
Miss Dani, would you be willing to create a follow-up video discussing alternative actions/outlets someone can turn to after sitting with their emotions for a few moments? It's so hard to choose "nothing" instead of "something else" when food is your default.
Wow, I have spent years trying to understand this very thing and no one has had any answers or help. I have talked to doctors who only want to put me on medicine for binge eating or depression. I knew I had to get to the root of the issue but I didn't know how and that a 'pill' was not the fix. I don't binge eat, I overeat because I'm an emotional eater. And, know I understand and this makes perfect sense! Please keep doing videos on these subjects. Thank you SO very much! I needed to see and hear this today :-)
@@CleanandDeliciousDani I'm looking at your course online right now. Is this a once-a-week call or live chat? How does this work or what should I expect? I need to know because of my busy schedule. Thank you!
Thank you! I definitely can lose & keep the weight off if it weren't for emotional eating. I have decided to be proactive and write a list of things that do not involve food that will bring joy & help me to relax.
You are amazing Dani! Thank you for this....like you mentioned, we usually emotionally eat because we are trying to soothe or comfort ourselves. As a Christian, I've learned to turn to the Lord in prayer to find my comfort. We were made to love and be loved and often what we truly desire, what we truly are seeking is connection. Speaking to Jesus about my challenges or prayer like the Rosary is my greatest source of comfort and allowing Him to speak to me about His love for me (He loves you too) has brought me much healing from emotional eating. Wishing you all much peace on your journey!
Not blaming my mother for my weight, but i feel like she trained me and my brothers to turn to food when bad things happened. Cause so often i remember her saying " its ok. Look let me fix you something you like to eat. I love hamburgers. I would get upset growing up. Without really saying she was trying to make me feel better, she would choose to fix hamburgers for supper, cause she knew it would make me happy. Like i say, i am not blaming her. Buy i really feel it lead to me eating to deal with depression, or to celebrate something, or to just flat out feel better. I think i figured this out about a couple years ago. I am 52 years old. Me and my wife were laying in bed talking about losing weight. And we were watching a show about people over weight. And it was like a light switch was turned on. And now i understand why no diet has ever worked for me. But i have yet been able to harness this animal and put it back in its cage. And til i can do that, i will never lose the weight i wanna lose. But i am working on it. Or at least trying to work on it. I guess i am stupid. Cause it took me til i was 52 to realize why i eat to feed my emotions. Guess maybe some see it sooner. But i just hope its not to late to do something about it.
This really hit home. Thanks for such a real video. Your spot on with emotional eating. Even though I can't remove myself from my stress. I just need to breathe instead of eat until I feel in control again. Loved it
Awesome! Such valuable advice. Use to be an emotional eater myself always need to get to the root cause of what's making you eat emotionally. Thanks for sharing.
These type of videos are my favorite from you Dani. Emotional eating is definitely the reason I have not reached my weight loss goals. I think I'm going to create a playlist of these so I can listen to them daily or weekly. :) Have a great weekend!
My dad recently died and I have definitely been eating to replace feeling the grief. It's interesting that sometimes I'm not hungry at all and other times I just want to eat to soothe myself. I like asking...how can I better serve myself? And will definitely try the breath work. Thanks, Dani!
This is such good advice, even if you don’t emotionally eat. It can be used in so many areas of life. I usually eat when I am not drinking enough water or I am bored. When I get stressed or emotional, eating is not at the top of what I want to do, but I do use the deep breathing technique to help with stress.
Thank you for your very reasonable and non-judgmental insights about emotional eating. I always thought that having an awareness of emotional eating would cure me but that wasn’t the case. Even knowing that I’m using food to stuff down my emotions doesn’t stop me. It’s a very deeply engrained HABIT that requires a great deal of discipline which isn’t my strong suit. As you say, not beating myself up and feeling like a 😞 failure will take a lot of practice. Thank you so much for the reminder.
I've struggled also with having the knowledge and that not being enough to overcome my emotional eating habit. I don't know that discipline is key for me, but I know recommitting to the process every day and increasing my willingness to feel crappy in the moment (stress, exhaustion, anxiety, whatever it is) and know there is absolutely nothing wrong with those feelings, and when I practice feeling the feeling and letting it pass through or feeling it and doing something that actually serves me vs. grabbing food (like taking a quick nap if I'm exhausted or prioritizing my tasks if I'm overwhelmed at work, etc) I train my brain to disassociate food with rest and comfort, etc and it gets easier. I'm not all the way there yet but I know what I'm committing to so that this clicks for me long-term.
@@sabriyastewart8704 Thank you SO much for your kind reply. I know this is something I will struggle with all my life and seems to be an almost universal problem in our food saturated society! You have many keen insights and I thank you for sharing your journey with me and letting me know that I’m not alone in this struggle with my dysfunctional relationship with food. I will keep you in my prayers as we both are fighting the same “food fight” together. Good bless and thank you for your kind support!
Emotional eating for me is sugar. 2 bad things combined! Eating when not hungry and eating the worst “food” possible. Thanks Dani. Your tips are doable and make such good sense.
This evening I felt so bad about myself after eating a whole bunch of chocolate chip cookie. I hated that while eating, I KNEW that this might be an emotional eating but I just couldn't stop and kept stuffing my mouth. After watching this video, I realized that I am feeling extremely anxious right now about my boyfriend who is not showing any respect for me. I'll have to deal with him, not with all the cookies. Thank you so much for your advice! Love you💞
This was a good explanation of emotional eating - and good practical approach to dealing with it. First time I have heard advice I can actually apply, not just abstract concepts. Good job!
A very helpful video, letting yourself feel whatever you're trying to avoid using food is the key. To feel it out and find an answer for it that isn't eating when you aren't hungry. I just try to center myself around that.
This video was well presented, thanks Dani. I love how you focus on mind-body-emotion connection and progress and growth. I've become aware of my emotional eating and am doing SO much better in the past few years, but last time I was sad about a guy, I drove to the store to buy my fav chips, candy, cookies to soothe myself. I buy the smaller bags now and include an apple as well so the binge doesn't make me feel as ill, am hoping to move away from this coping strategy even more. **I LOVED how you said "you will never get full eating something that you don't want" I flash back to mindlessly scarfing down a whole bag if chips and wondering my I don't feel full. 💚
I’m just about to graduate in a pandemic, Have to find jobs in this pandemic, worrying about family stuck far away from me unable to travel. I’ve gained 35 lbs in one year. Yes definitely emotional eating ..
"We can never get enough of what we don't actually need." Great advice! Sounds like the last bag of chips I ate months ago. I just don't need 'em anymore!!! Thanks I enjoy your videos a lot.
- Become the watcher: what am i feelings that i am trying to avoid with eating? Feel and don’t eat (don’t beat yourself up) - What else can i do? what am i really needing? how could i better serve my emotion? - Deep Breathing: 5-10 slow breaths - Forgive yourself, takes practice and repetition
After watching a lot of videos about emotional eating, which I have a problem with myself, this is possibly the best short videos out there in my opinion.
Dani, this is exactly what I need right now and your explanations are so on point. I have been on a journey toward healthier eating for over a year now with many positive changes. Addressing emotional eating is so relevant for my continued path. Thank you!
I have been an emotional eater for years. It started when I married a narcissist. Then after the divorce I was not able to stop the emotional eating. I am just now trying to get out of this bad habit.
I think the issue is that it can give you a perceived break from your circumstances though...for the 5 to 10mins it takes to scarf down cake or cookies or cheese or whatever the food of choice. Sometimes I know my feeling will be there afterwards but I just want a 10mins break from it. Haha
It’s a lie we believe. Once the food is consumed to give you comfort, the momentary pleasure will fade and you are left facing the exact same situation only now you are left empty or filled with regret and the ill health effects.
Thank you so much for this amazing video, I've been struggling with this situation but I won't give up 💪 I know I can be healthier and in better shape 😊
Emotional eating when you are hungry and emotional triggers binging. To do the other steps to cope with stress eating we need to make sure we are not starving.
I was looking for a almond recipe and I went to looking at the recipe video to this video and I don’t regret I love her channel!!! So much already 👏🏻💛💛💛
You are the best!! You explain it so well!! Some days I'm eating all the day from anxiety and also Im smoking... Mostly because I'm anxious.. So I need to shift my bad habits slowly ...And take control thank you
Hi Dani, you are our family’s go-to for baking recipes. Grateful for my friend who shared your channel with us. could you please post a video about must have appliances / cookware / kitchenware that you think are useful in the kitchen if you’re trying to eat organic & healthy.
Excellent video. I got so much weight due to my parents death last year due Covid-19. I don’t feel satiated anymore. But I have researched for professional help and they said something similar. It’s hard to switch behaviors.
Thank you so much for this. Really needed it and you are the only one I’ve seen give this information. I have been struggling with my ED recovery and not sure if your program would help. Especially because it’s about trying to love my body.
I'm not great at journaling but this sounds like a really great time to do it. Could you give me some ideas of things I could journal that might help and reflect on what I'm feeling in that moment?
I think I can kick some of my emotional eating. But I just want to comment that I get to that point sometimes perfectly aware of the emotion, but have a sense that there’s nothing I can do about the situation that brought the emotion. For instance, the emotion of loneliness, there might be no apparent way out of it, which can enhance the emotion and therefore eating might be the inevitable alternative. In the case of loneliness, watching youtube is a good substitute, at least temporarily. Taking steps to make new relationships is the long term solution, and it is long term, because relationships take time to cultivate. Thank you for the video, you do bring inspiration in many ways!
When my niece was a toddler I remember her using those words ‘I want what I want’ when we were in a convenient store and I was trying to get her to choose something healthy. 😂 So yep, from childhood.
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I came from your almond milk recipe that posted years ago, then I got to watch this one! So lucky to know you and wish could have known you earlier :)) It is SOOO Healing and so educational and it did teach me a lot about the stress I am dealing with myself! I will definitely try it and be patient with the process! Thank you so much, Dani, for doing the researches and sharing these beautiful healing ways! Los of Luv~~~:D
I have such a problem with binge eating while watching tv. I just need to realize I’m not hungry watching tv and if I am a few carrot sticks won’t hurt me. Ugh I dunno why this is so hard for me
I want to stop eating emotionally I when ever I get in my feeling I go get a snickers bar I told I need to forgive myself and I'm not sure how when I've get telling myself I love myself what suggestions can you give about forgiveness to myself please thank you. Thank you for your video.
im often really stressed cause of school and during and before school I eat intuitively i eat and stop when im full, but when I come back home and eat no matter how full I feel or how much my stomache hurts I still eat just to relieve stress and I need better ways of dealing with this ://
