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Chavie Weisberger was raised in a Hasidic family - an ultra-orthodox Jewish sect - and “was groomed for the ultimate level of success, which was marriage,” she tells PEOPLE. But after she came out to her family, “all hell broke loose,” says the 35-year-old Brooklyn native who now works at Footsteps, an organization that helps people who want to leave or have left the ultra-Orthodox community. “I lost my job and the support of my family and friends.”
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@fallen6667 5 лет назад

I’m so thankful she got her kids back.

@mrsquishyboots 4 года назад

Why is it not 50/50 custody? $$$

@redlady935 4 года назад

Yes. 5 years of the courts f**king with those poor children for nothing. It's heartbreaking

@MightyJuan154 3 года назад

When was it?

@KJ-md2wj 3 года назад

Reminds me of my ex telling me to keep my hands off her child upon his birth. Of course when it came to child support, it was mine. I wonder if this woman contributed financially when they were in his custody.

@btbingo 2 года назад

@Francis Augustine oh yes a woman who has children is the property of her male overlord. That is typical in every patriarchy. The children are really the property of the husband.

@garyfogel2929 4 года назад

I am Jewish, not ultra orthodox and I “Get it”, My daughter married a “girl” and I like it and am a proud father. I could not be more happy that you found your way and will be a loving mother to your children.

@nomdeplume2213 4 года назад

Aw, you're obviously an amazing father. Your daughter is lucky to have you, as you're lucky to have her. She must be so proud that you're her dad ❤ Good job Pops!! Lol

@fabiwilliams4644 3 года назад

Yes how can you not love your children. I don't expect God demands our judgement & rejection of the imperfect. We live our own truth & simply do the best we can & hope for acceptance

3 года назад

What a disappointment I get censored when I talk about scripture as a Jew you k ow you are wrong

3 года назад

Ur a disgrace to your own religion

@zaharfortruth.5206 2 года назад

That's the problem with this world we run in the wrong direction then wonder Why we suffer later in life. "Listen to Yehovah or as the Jews call him Ha Shem which sounds crazy to me because that word only means the name.

@ellioshiem7892 4 года назад

Wow....what a brave intelligent lady. She is true to herself and everyone Around her. I admire her.

3 года назад

Wow what a prick of a woman you probably support non father households

@ellioshiem7892 3 года назад

@ no I don't . father s are important. especially for boys.

@ellioshiem7892 3 года назад

@ religions are all man made and written. don t call me rude names.

3 года назад

@@ellioshiem7892 I never did once call you a bad name and religious are for both men and women don’t rule out more then 50% of the population really if anything we are superior to you when i say we I mean men and when I say you I mean insignificance...

@ellioshiem7892 3 года назад

@ you did call me rude names and why am I insignificant....

@joancochran512 3 года назад

What an amazing story -- and you're an amazing woman. Congrats on your persistence and success and in gaining custody of your children.

@monikachabior3543 4 года назад

I know of a catholic lady who brought up her 4 children and came out when her husband died. She decided to move abrought to live the life she wanted to live. What a nightmare. Good that the times are changing and there are ways to get out of this super strict patriarchal rules. Well done Chavie! Good luck!

@stephaniedykes4157 4 года назад

Thank you for your courage to live your truth. You are inspiring!

@onetwo6765 5 лет назад

As an ex-orthodox myself, I identify with your story although mine is different. I know you are a strong woman and that you went through stuff that other people would have got broken from. my heart is with you and I wish you the most beautiful life.

@simonebittencourt8251 4 года назад

Congratulations! You are so incredibly brave! I hope you have a wonderful life! Your story is very inspirational. Thank you for sharing it!

@CanadianMonarchist 6 лет назад

She has very beautiful teeth.

@OlgaMesh 6 лет назад

She looks like Chelsea Clinton.

@bentleygt3716 5 лет назад

lol. these are CROWNS. not natural teeth. believe me i know so. that's what i do for a living.

@Gesundheit888 5 лет назад

@@bentleygt3716 LOL, I meant she'd make a great HORSE. Darn auto spell check!!! lol

@redlady935 4 года назад

@@Gesundheit888 You're lovely. Spreading joy through the world then!

@vblake530530 4 года назад

Canadian Monarchist 1992 I feel better knowing I wasn’t the only one thinking that.

@jkreznik 4 года назад

Good for you CHavie. It is so important that you are providing such a great role model to other women who are still fearful.

@ItaloRican7 5 лет назад

What a brave human being. It took courage to take the steps you did. Gorgeous intelligent young lady. Bravo!

3 года назад

Wow what a prick of a woman you probably support non father households

@TomTobin67 4 года назад

The arranged marriage thing is barbaric.

@TacShooter 4 года назад

The arranged marriages I have met in orthodox Judaism (I am not Jewish) don't appear to agree with you.

@II-be1ze 4 года назад

Its NOT arranged marriage. It's an arranged meeting with a possible husband and if the girl doesn't like the hoy then no engagement takes place and she chooses someone she likes in her own time

@SheitlQueen 4 года назад

The girl is not forced to marry the man. They arrange to meet to see if they might be compatible. If not, they go their separate way.

@dan-ho1zz 4 года назад

Baya C it’s still not like a secular relationship where she gets 100% of a choice they only meet a few times

@firstlast-qn1tz 4 года назад

While some a fully arranged and they meet very few times before getting married, a lot of jews who have matchmakers choose if they like what the person they being matched with based on what they are told, if it sounds to them like a good match they will go out as many times as it takes to see if they are compatible to marry, otherwise they will break it up and start over

@photobloom 6 лет назад

Chavie is altogether lovely and admirable: brave, smart, articulate, determined, persistent. Of course, it is awful that she was forced to choose between her community and her sexual orientation. How appalling, too, that she was separated from her children for so long at the hands of a supposedly secular, reasonable, objective judiciary system. Due to her strength of character and wisdom, I feel certain that she will find fulfillment in her life and provide a wonderful role model for her very fortunate children. Mazel tov, Chavie!

@zenodotusofathens2122 6 лет назад

Carol Bloom and why shouldn't the children be awarded to the father so that they could live in the community in which they are born and share in the values of their own extended family

@photobloom 6 лет назад

First, what about joint custody? Second, why should living in their birth community and sharing values with their extended family supercede Chavie's right to raise her children and impart her values to them? Third, what about the children's right and need to have a close relationship with their mother?

@sarahlippman7708 6 лет назад

Carol Bloom , would you advocate for ANY mother? An alcoholic, a drug abuser, a thief, a murderer?

@photobloom 6 лет назад

Sarah, Since you compare Chavie to thieves and murderers, would you advocate that she be criminally prosecuted and jailed for being a lesbian? Clearly you disapprove, but in fact, the law in NY protects the civil rights of gay people. Sorry (not really).

@sarahlippman7708 6 лет назад

Carol Bloom , let's start from saying that NY State's law is not "written in stone". People make mistakes, and history is full of those. In certain places the law was to kill elderly parents once they lost their first tooth. Or weak babies. As to the question of prosecution of homosexuals, read the Torah, and you will know the answer. But I know: for those born with imbalanced hormones it is a challenge from Above which they need to meet. Of course, it is a hard one, but hard challenges are given to strong people. Most of "gays" are normal human beings who just follow the trend, misguided by the perverted society. Alas!

@AB-gn8oh 5 лет назад

This intelligent, articulate, honest lady has made the right decision for herself, and I’m glad she fought for her children. However, it’s not enough to say that children are resilient and adapt easily. Presumably, they still have to straddle two worlds, and I’m guessing that they have problems with people within the Orthodox community who want to influence negatively their relationships with their mother. We must never assume that our children are resilient and are managing; it’s not a child’s responsibility to navigate the world of adults. I can only hope they’re getting a lot of positive support from both of their parents.

@tthinker9897 4 года назад

This is the fallout of isolationist religious communities that force gay people to marry. So many people hurt - families feel betrayed, spouses feel betrayed, the gay person feels nearly suicidal and, finally, any children are in the midst of turbulent divorces and ex-spouses using them as pawns to create friction with the other parent. What a tragedy - and completely man-made. I understand how insular Hasidic Jews are, and some Christian communities (often cult-like), but even these groups need to awaken the reality that not everyone is created straight.

@messianic_scam 3 года назад

Too many hypocrite in this comment section

@rebeccagutierrez1960 Год назад

Que confundida esta esta pobre mujer!!!😢

@MidnightEDJK 5 лет назад

We need more Halkaline Jews to level the balance

@messianic_scam 3 года назад

Omg

@gulfbaby230 4 года назад

You are incredibly brave. Thank you for sharing your story !!

@doreendaykin6693 4 года назад

What a courageous woman to chose to live her authentic self in the midst of such adversity. I honour & respect her. She is a guiding light for many people.

@HeyLetsTalkAboutIt 5 лет назад

Your kids will be better off being raised by someone so open minded and true to herself. They should know it’s ok to be who they are and not to conform to the life they were born into.

@Madelyn5454 4 года назад

Congratulations on your winning custody of your children . You are beautiful and brave . Wishing you continued courage and happiness

@eleanor.shadow 4 года назад

We should all be allowed to be who we really are. I’m so glad she managed to do that.

@thelightcatalyst1088 5 лет назад

I am a former practing jew. I wonder what unconditional love is after her parents shunned her. Whatever, she’s happy now.

@shirleytarrant8851 3 года назад

Her family rather obey God than man

@siobhannolan3815 2 года назад

I have been falling this girl story for you years I think she's amazing and I think she's going to be a great asset and helping other Hasidic women who want to leave that community we start a new life go find your happiness honey and just wait your kids will come home

@cheesecake134 6 лет назад

She was an adult and didn't even know what a lesbian was. People who keep their children so indoctrinated and insulated do nothing but harm them.

@marierose214 5 лет назад

Carter Pewterschmidt what is a lesbian haha!

@cheesecake134 5 лет назад

Your mom.

@cheesecake134 5 лет назад

You certainly wouldn't have a pro-Orthodox Judaism bent to your argument, would you Orthodox Fox? Because I'm guessing you do. Yes obviously, because I suggested this naive and sheltered AMERICAN woman should have had enough access to health books and "the real world" to recognize her own sexuality, I believe the US should march into other countries to make them live the way we do. Good job on spotting that AND name dropping "white man's burden" like the pretentious college freshman that you are.

@cheesecake134 5 лет назад

Would you please elaborate on how modern society is "pretty messed up"? We all have different ideas of what "messed up" looks like and I feel like yours would offer a lot of insight. Because you do see your own personal bias here, right? YES INSULARITY IS HARMFUL. It's not as if this woman, as a mature adult of sound mind, decided wanted to remove herself from modern society. She was born into blindness because her PARENTS and COMMUNITY decided it for her. And that is the very problem. She was not given the choice. That is brainwashing. Full stop. You just don't see it because of your own bias.

@cheesecake134 5 лет назад

You seem to be offended that I criticized your religion and not others. This video was about an Orthodox woman, so my comment was about that particular faith. I'm so very sorry I didn't take the time to call other religions and groups of people that similarly isolate their followers. Clearly that's what you really wanted. I can agree with certain aspects of the world being "messed up", but a lot of your reasoning still seems to be biased. And honestly, the fact you hearken back to the 50s as some idyllic, safe landscape tells me you are A)white as fuck and male and B) completely naive and will believe anything your religion has told you. The "good ol' days" NEVER EXISTED and you can stop trying to get back to a magical time that never happened. The 1950s were prime Jim Crow years, and it was made sure that black people weren't allowed to lead a life as nice as whites. And a lot of white people used religion to justify their racism and the laws they enacted. The world was only "safe" if you were white. Also, if you need to see the detrimental effects of brainwashing and insularity, go watch literally any "I escaped a cult" documentary you can find. Read about the women who escaped the FLDS, read about people who have escaped the IBLP/Quiverfull movement. They ALL talk about how stifling, controlling, and insulated they were and how damaged they were after leaving. How they knew very little, often nothing at all, about the outside world and modern society. How they were often lied to about how evil the world really was and how bad outsiders really are. How they knew nothing of sex and relationships before being thrown into marriage and families of their own. There is a wealth of information that you just seem to want to turn a blind eye to. But clearly I'm trying to reason with someone who has been brainwashed by his religion and will continue to be brainwashed by his religion. You're in a cult, bud. I hope you've come to that realization by now.

@laurenhahn890 5 лет назад

so eloquent and seems like a ray of sunshine. you are important and awesome!!

@danahilary27 2 года назад

Wish you the best on your path , so relieved you had support to get your children back . And can only imagine the trauma of rejection of your community, job and court ...You appear very strong and wise ..and hope it's only up from here

@niamhspeirs3656 4 года назад

Family courts in America need to get their act together!

@nomdeplume2213 4 года назад

Omg, yoirr absolutely gorgeous! And so articulate! I think im in love lol Edit: i am so glad you got your babies back! They must be so proud of having such an amazingly brave mother who has the courage to be herself and to be happy.

@ssbmouse6471 3 года назад

Amazing story, I am so glad you got your children back. You must really love them to work so hard to get custody

@messianic_scam 3 года назад

she doesn't care about her kids

@joer736 6 лет назад

As an Orthodox Jew I'm happy for her. It's simple be happy! I could careless about someone's sexual orientation. However, if your not happy, don't stay in any relationship!

@sarahlippman7708 6 лет назад

Yosef , why would you call yourself Orthodox? What is the meaning of the expression "Orthodox Jew"?

@JozieMaXine 5 лет назад

Yosef, are you on Google+? I would like to talk to you, if you don’t mind, because I’m very curious about some things.

@yashuafly6342 5 лет назад

Yes ..cause that's what the bible teaches..? A double sided man is unstable in all his ways - james

@joer736 5 лет назад

I don't think i do.. sorry.

@AnOriginalYouTuber 5 лет назад

@@JozieMaXine nice try

@megansalt 2 года назад

congrats, you are really emotionally strong! I'm glad you are free now. the treatment you received from your family and the court would have driven me to extremely deep depression. PS- you're incredibly articulate and have a beautiful smile!

@naedatanner8832 5 лет назад

Knowledge is power!

@Lina333pa 6 лет назад

Doesn't she look like Chelsea Clinton?

@paultremblay4836 6 лет назад

Linsxx I see that too, they come from the same Brooklyn neighborhood. It's like a cultural meme

@dahliaapollo7938 6 лет назад

Much prettier for sure who cares about her story

@KatTheTruth 6 лет назад

Yes I thought the same!

@paultremblay4836 6 лет назад

Dahlia Apollo Now we know Bill isn't the father. Hillary was a lawyer in New York, precisely around this community. I bet young Hilary banged both men and women while drunk, something accident happened. Chelsea is smarter than her mother by the way.

@Spice99857 5 лет назад

yes!!!! I thought so too!!!!

@baldinamolino6577 5 лет назад

Congratulations on your freedom to be yourself! Your children should be honored to have a mother with both feet on the ground!

@josephberger5613 5 лет назад

She is a very articulate, beautiful young woman, but as some wiser people have pointed out, there is almost certainly a lot more to the story. Let's put aside the question of her sexual/romantic preference for the moment, and just consider any young Beis Yaakov/Charedi young woman of 18 letting herself be pushed into a shidduch/arranged marriage, and finding a few years later and more mature, especially after having three young children, that in fact she and her husband don't get along, and even that the antipathy is mutual, that he is not crazy about her any more. So they get divorced, which may be a very sensible solution rather than live another 50 or 60 years of misery and frustration together - assuming that joint therapy didn't help. In such a situation the woman would probably not have lost the children, and at the very least would have had a shared-parenting judgement. As in so many other areas of life, there are supportive parents and non-supportive parents, there are sensible judges and there are idiots. What did impress me was that she seemed to suggest that the Chassidic therapist was actually very accepting and supportive, which is how any good therapist is. Listening, helping the patient work through the problem, and being non-judgemental. If the therapist cannot accept who the patient is or their lifestyle or their behaviour, then refer the patient to someone else who can be empathic.

@susannahhart3946 5 лет назад

Joseph Berger Well said!! ❤️

@bodoorgeest 5 лет назад

It's not a sexual preference, a preference indicates that there is a choice.. There is no choice, she's a lesbian.

@ag-cs4gd 4 года назад

It seems like many Haredi women lose custody of their children if they try to leave their husbands, the vast majority of whom are straight --

@gulfbaby230 4 года назад

“Letting herself be pushed” in to this marriage???? You say that like she had a choice. Most of the women in this community lose their children when they leave their husbands, whether they are gay or straight. Even if the woman has lived with years of abuse from the husband. This community has attorneys that know how to beat the system. When these women try to leave they are penniless, uneducated, and usually unemployed (exactly how they are raised to be). They don’t stand a chance against this system. And because of the “status quo” rule the children are almost always given back to the father.

@seerpou 4 года назад

@@gulfbaby230 exactly.

@MrJpm1989 5 лет назад

I'm straight and I think you are amazing. Good for you !!!!

@annaswanson5903 5 лет назад

Great story!!

@paularobertsroberts5883 6 лет назад

I’m very proud she’s finding her happiness and enjoying her life in this crazy world. Very brave!

@willowclay3137 3 года назад

I'm proud of her for being honest and authentic. It's not easy in this sect for women.

@BlueEyesBrittany 5 лет назад

I am glad you managed to get custody of your children ... losing custody is one of the worse things for most men

@carolalgranati8177 Год назад

you are a brave, courageous, honest and beautiful woman

@warrendoe2164 5 лет назад

Good for you, I hope you have a wonderful life with your children. All of uS religious or not, have to discover our deepest authentic self and follower it.

@elitesflowers-floristshop.3616 3 года назад

Wow! You are so brave! I really admire you. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

@deeptime5581 3 года назад

Good for you. I went through it myself but fortunately I left the orthodox community in my 20's and have never looked back, happily.

@nathanas64 2 года назад

Very interesting ! I can sympathize with both sides but this is certain. 1. This young lady deserves to be happy with her identity. 2. Hopefully her family and community continue to love her and accept her for what she is.

@laurasantoscapilla9701 2 года назад

WoW!! You're a very strong and brave woman!!! Congratulations and greetings from Spain 🤗👏👏👏👏👏

@simonebittencourt8251 5 лет назад

How great she got the custody of her kids and they will grow up learning to respect differences between people, not labeling them to the point of intolerance, prejudice, and oppression. Religion should be inclusive not promote hate and exclusion. Congratulations for being so articulate and brave. I wish you a wonderful life with your kids and the woman you love.

@joannaedssay5988 6 лет назад

Chavie you are beautiful, I really wish you all the very best in life :)

@whiterose1828 5 лет назад

She is so darn sweet

@veganbeth 4 года назад

She is wonderful and so strong 💜

@lesliecarleton4507 6 лет назад

There were about a thousand violations of her first amendment rights in this situation. This story is jaw dropping

@sarahlippman7708 6 лет назад

Leslie Carleton , first amendment, as well as the whole constitution, is not "written in stone ". People, EVEN AMERICANS, sometimes make mistakes. Only G -d doesn't.

@TheScrowlingFender7 5 лет назад

The US is a theocracy. The Republicans run the courts and have for decades.

@omg-bh4pg 5 лет назад

Not even ONE!!

@humancomputerinteraction8237 3 года назад

The government never threatened to imprison her or actually imprisoned her. Her first amendment rights were never violated.

@marilynringel9228 3 года назад

So sorry what you went through I hope you have a happy life

@juniorjimenez6381 Год назад

Wow. Clavie is so strong. Love her journey and truth.

@bigspoon7984 5 лет назад

Never mind religion - women do not need a man to justify their feelings.

@lvjuventus 4 года назад

"women do not need a man to justify their feelings." But if it's another woman, then it's ok! Of course of course.

@yadusolparterre 4 года назад

Oh so the rabbi wasn't supposed to tell her she might be a lesbian? He was supposed to leave her in the dark when she came for help? OK, makes sense.

@cesaruribe3699 3 года назад

I would love to see a film with this story line

@ted1091 4 года назад

Very powerful story. Courageous young woman

@hellolater4181 6 лет назад

Ty very much

@laurae2489 6 лет назад

Good for her. What an incredibly brave lady.

@elliotdavis5039 6 лет назад

very very bad for her more like

@CathyKitson 6 лет назад

Elliot Davis How? Why should she stay with her husband if she was so unhappy?

@elliotdavis5039 6 лет назад

because if she would do what she is meant to do she would be happy. she is acting like a 2 year old kid grow up and shape up that is what you would say to a man so she is no different!

@CathyKitson 6 лет назад

Elliot Davis Yes, I agree you should treat a woman the same as a man, but I'd tell a man to get out of a marriage if he was desperately miserable, as well. Why is getting out of a terrible situation childish? Is it that you want her to be wretched for the rest of her life?

@elliotdavis5039 5 лет назад

Jane Doe No your mum and dad are a cult more like!

@silverbushb448 5 лет назад

She's very pretty.

@j.p.9423 3 года назад

Wonderful story. Very glad it worked out.

@BlueEyesBrittany 6 лет назад

A father that decides for her daughter whom she should marry : that the surest recipe for disaster and unhappiness.

@eitanbenzion7522 6 лет назад

BlueEyes Brittany Yes? And what about all the thousands of years that father's decided to their girls? I think everybody lived ok. The number of people divorce was a LOT smaller and people were more loyal to their partner. +Women didn't dress like whores.

@mermaid30019 6 лет назад

It has a higher survival rate because they are brainwashed. They live in fear of dishonoring their parents. No joy, spending life never knowing who you truly are, what your true purpose here on earth is...sounds like a great life

@Lunatic4Bizcas 6 лет назад

Eltan Prian-Ben Zion: Wow.....Your statement is exemplary of the masogyny prevalent in certain religions and especially prevalent in the Abrahamic faiths. Furthermore, your statement is very assuming and exudes the sort of shallow smugness prevalent among the judgemental and narrow minded faithful who claim some sort of absolutist ideology. What's more; the Abrahamic concoction of the one Deity--'G-D' is a condescending, authoritarian and vindictive universal dictator who exemplifies some of the worse aspects of humanity, being a figure who lures humans to follow him through a sense of fear. I'll even go further to say that the historic Abraham is in my opinion one of the most opportunistic, self serving, manipulative and antagonistic figures in all of human history.

@Lunatic4Bizcas 6 лет назад

+Alex Charalampidis: I agree with you, but in western societies, any criticism of Judaism is met with derision, suspicion, hostility and accusations of 'anti-semitism.' It's basically socially unacceptable and even contemptible to point out any perceived flaws and incompatibility with western values in regard to Judaism, but any signalling of these same issues in Islam has been fine and substantiated in the west until relatively recently. The same worrisome traits are reinforced and present in contemporary zionist christian faiths such as Mormonism, Fundamental Mormonism, Evangelical Fundamentalism (of the Hillsborough Baptist variety), in addition to other repressive faiths rife with group think and forcible conformity like The Jehovah's Witnesses. Any objective criticism of those faiths is also met accusations of bigotry and religious intolerance etc.

@mlbatemory 6 лет назад

No, you ninny, a woman that decides for herself whom she should marry : now THAT is the surest recipe for disaster and unhappiness.

@fargo007 5 лет назад

Regardless you have to acknowledge that we're hearing a strong Jewish woman speak here.

@Lisacrazed 5 лет назад

Gabie Szanto she is very strong

@gabieszanto1636 5 лет назад

@@Lisacrazed from my point of view she is very weak

@dpcisunbreakable 5 лет назад

@@gabieszanto1636 and in your own words using your own experience, how would you define strong?

@kairuannewambui8456 4 года назад

@@gabieszanto1636 let God be judge of that. And you sister should be praying for her..are you jewish What does the 613 law say regarding our sisters.and brothers.? God bless

@AngelGirl2482 3 года назад

You are what you are. When a society, trying to dictate your life and trying to changes you for what you are not. Then it's time for you to seek an answer to your happiness. Life is too short.! Do whatever it takes to make you feel content and happy. Best of luck.

@messianic_scam 3 года назад

Bullshit

@fabiwilliams4644 3 года назад

Isn't it illegal for the courts to be so biased? They're supposed to represent equal rights for all citizens & not dictate how someone should dress & present themselves for a specific religious community

@Stormstorm1 5 лет назад

So happy for this strong, beautiful soul! I bet she is a fabulous mother!

@shazzaleone6288 5 лет назад

Chavie, you go girlfren! So proud of you to bravely live as you see fit.I do feel for you, being shunned by your community and family.They just gotta understand that no one else should decide for you, what makes you happy.You stick to your guns, hunny.We are with you all the way 😊

@wsegen 5 лет назад

Chavie seems so together and clear. Thank you for this.

@laurieberry4814 3 года назад

I used to be a religious Jewish kid. My girlfriend told me if I didn’t talk to boys, people would tell me that I am a snob. I like people. Men and women are attractive. I feel like asexual because I don’t think that I ever wanted to get physically intimate with anyone. My friend and I made a joke about this dream that I had about this Iranian man who was really old. She said that I may like people with white hats because it was the ayatollah. I was eleven. I had a boyfriend. We weren’t romantic. After being alive for so long, I realize that I am not jealous and I can take rejection easier than others. I love my asexuality and people in a different way.

@misterbonzoid 4 года назад

So pleased for you, intelligent, beautiful, strong woman.

@BlueEyesBrittany 4 года назад

I am glad she gained custody of her children

@michaelserebreny454 4 года назад

I see a lot of people in the comments section being extremely critical of the "arranged marriage;" and suggesting Mayim Bialik play this person in a film. If anyone is interested in how these arrangements ACTUALLY go - this is pretty accurate. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-A2QlWFSakaM.html Marriage arrangements are optional, the matchmaker is optional, and usually offered as a paid service. The woman in question is in full control and allowed to say "no."

@lailonnib 4 года назад

I’m surprised she got her children back 🙏🏾

@johnmellon1820 6 лет назад

What an interesting story.

@caperusa1925 3 года назад

Divorce and custody is always a touchy and sensitive matter but add to it an orthodox religion like being Hasidic Jewish & homosexuality where it is not tolerated I cannot imagine what they went through

@BlueEyesBrittany 2 года назад

It is good you found support in your trouble and choosing your life.

@manhattanBridge Год назад

I went threw similar journey, left the Hasidic ultra orthodox community, and as a result of that I lost custody of my children and lost my business, which was in the community. As I turned to this Non-profit group which Chavie works for called “Footsteps” which is the only major organization to help people who left the community. And they denied any help what so ever. They pick who they wanna help. There is a sort of “selection” mostly they pick like someone who is gay or queer. Footsteps is not there to help everyone who leaves the ultra-Orthodox community. Unfortunately, that’s the truth! Eventually my oldest kids followed my footsteps and left the community as well, they didn't have any friends, only in the community, and they wanted to meet like minded people who left the community I knew chavie personally, I asked her many times for help. She was nice, but kind of never got back to me... Unfortunately that's the truth! I went around to other people who left and a lot of them say they felt the same way!

@vblake530530 4 года назад

Courageous-Courage!

@rachelberkowitz2540 6 лет назад

Because i feel that we all have a story. Do u tell urs on utube?

@MyOsirius 3 года назад

Ain't nobody in this world that can be molded and control like a robot! Some people do choose to follow that kind of sheltered life. But there is nothing wrong with being who you are.

@19samson32 4 года назад

There is no greater freedom than being free! Welcome.

@VisionaryTribe 5 лет назад

Beautiful lady and beautiful story, can’t imagine how hard it must’ve been growing up in such a conservative community

@tombohon6280 5 лет назад

Wishing this strong, vibrant lady a wonderful life with her children.

@ishouldbesleeping1354 6 лет назад

Yes, I agree with you, ”then, all hell broke loose” Personally I understand BUT don’t label your LIFE and self, by an experience alone. Your soul may still long for Hashem, and he meets us where we are

@sarahlippman7708 6 лет назад

Gloria Newton , what about "opening the eye of a needle? " WE need to let Hashem "meet" us.

@strawberrytart3540 4 года назад

So happy for her!

@Joeelectronicschematicsforauto 3 года назад

You just have to be happy with yourself in our family is always going to think negative thoughts of you especially when you come from such a close-knit religious family first step is to be happy in yourself the rest of it will take care of itself

@user-qi1hm4ee9b 5 лет назад

I have a orthodox friend and she definitely now's what a lesbian is she is well educated and is getting her degree and she definitely has a choice off when and who to marry

@humancomputerinteraction8237 3 года назад

Yes, thankfully orthodox and hasidic are different.

@patriciabader7226 5 лет назад

Thanks for sharing so happy that you are living your truth and children belong with the Mom as a rule. Yay for U!!!!!

@bayareababe 5 лет назад

Oh wow. Your so sweet. It’s so sweet to see there’s people left in the world who know what real love is. Man or woman.

@tthinker9897 4 года назад

Unfortunately, this same story is repeated in almost every conservative religious community. If you're straight and fit the mold of the community and their beliefs, it can be a truly wonderful and fulfilling life. But for gay people (round pegs in square holes) these communities try to force us into a life we can't genuinely live without extreme emotional pain and depression. It seems so hard for straight people to comprehend that God's creation is wonderfully varied, and not everyone can fall in love with someone of the opposite gender. I am quite serious when I say that if I were ever forced into bed with a woman (I'm a man) I would not only be in panic mode, I would be physically ill. Conservatives Christians tried to coerce me into a heterosexual relationship, but whenever a female became amorous I would have a sever panic attack; what an injustice to me, and to some wonderful woman, to be in a loveless relationship - we both deserve to know and have real love.

@chiara5832 4 года назад

When she said what's a lesbian? and her mother asked the same question I was like, is this distopia in the XXI century or just the middle ages where queerness was not even contemplated?

@Doginthecity1 5 лет назад

What beautiful person....So pleased she managing to enjoy life and have custody of her children whom will also have a better future......People's RIGHTS...........Religions proving again to be bad for the human race.

@halinkap5217 4 года назад

Iam not approving any religious percecutions. BUT Atheism is a religion too: those people believe that there is no God. They showed themselves the most horrifying human beings, look at history of communist China, the USSR and so on..

@ej1722 4 года назад

Wow Good for her👍

@enigmatube6946 4 года назад

i love chavie, she went through hell, and was resiliant and still amazing, orthodox jews live in the 5th century, & i'm glad she is free!

@TacShooter 4 года назад

That's a lie. Chabadniks use computers, smartphones, electronic keyboards, etc.

@user-sp6os6tc2r 4 года назад

Jesus Christ you're anti-Semitic.

@Chanie787878 4 года назад

You must be kidding. I'm Orthodox. I have a Master's degree & I am currently using my laptop. :) I'm no better or worse than anyone else, and I'm happy to live in 2020, not sheltered or insulated.

@Samimran232 2 года назад

She didn’t know what is lesbian but but her Rabbi knows what lesbian is .. strange 😂

@BlueEyesBrittany 6 лет назад

The sad thing about religions is that most failed to produce men that were faithful; kind and who treated women properly. In addition they have been the cause of so many wars and women have suffered so much because of them. The day a religion produces people who are good and stay good because this will only be the way to put an end to wars, violence, economic disparity, exploitation, abuse of all sorts, I will convert. We should only give the Nobel prise to people that have showed through their life that they treated people well whether in the marriage/family circles or in the public space while striving to find ways to alleviate and even put an end to poverty, extreme economic disparities, violence and many other things that are adversely affecting the world. That is the only religion we should also have.

@alk158 6 лет назад

The thing is by the way if a man left the community and complained he would likely be treated badly as well and lose the children. It really is beyond Gender and it is sad that people see this in such a Misandrist way. Many of the men in some of these communities are not allowed to work and are controlled even more then the women are.

@eitanbenzion7522 6 лет назад

BlueEyes Brittany I'm so glad Judaism isn't like all of them. All other are fake. I don't know why this idiotic woman left her family. Women always think they deserve to be treated like queens. Some much selfishness. I wish her a long and pain life.

@alk158 6 лет назад

Your misogyny is really nasty. Actually religious Judaism today is very similar to other organized religious groups. It isn't just women though. Men are not allowed to disagree with the Rabbis either. And some of the idea's in religious Judaism today is about not appreciating the contribution of men some who were not Jewish. Considering turning a light on as "work" when the invention is already completed and all your doing is pushing a switch is a good example of this. They should appreciate inventions like those of Edison not consider it somehow unholy to use technology on the Sabbath even when the act clearly is not "work".

@alk158 6 лет назад

I'm just going to two points of your rant which as I said it isn't just women (as your rant shows) who face problems if they disagree with the Rabbis or anything that goes on in their self imposed ghetto. Eiton wrote>Second, normal Jews aren't allowed to disagree with rabbis.< Most Israeli's don't follow everything the Rabbis claim and no Israeli PM agrees with everything the Rabbis say. Menachim Begin didn't and he was the most religious of the Prime Ministers of Israel. >Regarding the Sabbath you wrote. >We are not allowed to do them because they are crafts, < Are you serious!!! Turning on a switch to you is a craft. I don't think it is a craft to push a switch. Maybe making the circuit in the first place is a craft but any idiot can push a light switch. It isn't a craft of any sort and to think it is sends the wrong message of course that somehow you made the invention when of course you didn't.

@Lunatic4Bizcas 6 лет назад

Eitan Prian-Ben Zion: It's easy for the religiously pious to ignore, deny or be outright blind to unpleasant or disconcerting aspects about the particular faith they adhere to. Your absolutist statement of 'We have never murdered people like Christians and muslims. NEVER" is utterly unconvincing and an easily refutable statement. First off, there was the command given in the Torah by YHWH or Hashem to annihilate the nations of the Hittites, Amorites, Canaanites, the Perizzites and the Hivites (Names used are in the English version of the Bible) without sparing anything in those nations as dictated in the Book of Deuteronomy. I'm sorry, but in my estimation, that is considered Deity sanctioned genocide. What about the murder of Shimon Peres by a radical 'extremist' jew? Of course collectively speaking 'we' as in the Jewish people have not murdered, but there are plenty of instances where Jews have murdered. No different that Christians or Muslims, who as a whole haven't murdered, but where cases and historical examples abound of murders and atrocities being committed by the aforementioned. In any case, according to most historians, Zoroastrianism is the first monotheistic faith recorded in human history and that originated in what today is Iran. In any case, as I see it, Judaism is the root faith of Abrahamic religion, which has wrought more misery and conflict upon humanity than any other sort of ideology except perhaps communism, which was conjured by an ethnic jew and initally carried out and financed in Eastern Europe by influential Jews in positions of governance just like you yourself acknowledged in your statement. Furthermore, the notion that the whole world revolves around your nation or people is a narcissistic, dangerous and delusional view of your own people in relation to the rest of humanity.

@user-yt9ge3ry1f 4 года назад

So so brave

@trudetonning8613 9 месяцев назад

Lucky children to have a mum like that ❤

@bostongirlsandy 3 года назад

I love her New York accent.

@rachelberkowitz2540 6 лет назад

Cus we can u so positive

@LornaKleidman1 3 года назад

I applaud her courage!!

@chavac3058 5 лет назад

Can I just make it known that this is just her story with her family and her community. As a Jewish orthodox girl I will be allowed to choose my husband,my job,my future. Please don't judge Judaism with one bad story.

@lauraz2896 5 лет назад

Chava C I think that it’s a pretty common story. I’ve read many books on the subject.

@eliper4823 5 лет назад

@@lauraz2896 no... its only Hasidic... not regular orthodox... Hasidim make their own communities in their own bubble away from the secular world... Orthodox are regular jews who keep everything but are brought up and live in the secular world (think Ben Shapiro).

@my2cents49 5 лет назад

Only one in 10 Orthodox Jewish relationships end in divorce and they have fewer restrictions on divorce than both the Christian Bible and Islam. There are several stories out there because they make good TV and people like to talk crap about Jews. But even in Chadidism it's not like this is a rampant problem. But most people have no exposure to this culture so they don't know that. They just believe whatever they stick in the video without checking it. The reason she's on TV is because she is an exception. If it was normal there would be no need to put it on television because it would be something that everybody knew about that happens all the time. And the families are not allowed to pick a spouse for the person. Just like any young girl, a lot of these people get involved in relationships way too soon without thinking about what they're doing first. Except that instead of sleeping around and getting pregnant by some guy that leaves in a few months (as our relationships tend to do with over 50% divorce rate and multiple sex partners) they get married to the guy and divorce later. So the situation is the same thing you see in young relationships all across the West, just painted with a different color brush. I know several Hasidic families in the area and have gotten to be acquainted with the culture. This is not some kind of oppressive normal fact of life for these girls. Only the ones who put themselves in that situation by jumping in when they are not ready and have the ability to say no