My mom has a bizarre response to anything accidental and it's laughing..it's very stressful..but she laughs when she's scared or worried..but she'd be helping when she's a mess .
Visualizing the story made me chuckle. I know I might chuckle in reality but I won’t t think of ways to get people to fall. I’m not a bad person as I don’t try to hurt people but fails make me chuckle.
"Sad examples" bruh why would I be sad just because someone's groceries fell? Nobody's contractually obligated to feel sad for every single person on the earth.
@@trumpaigaming7632 you can be forgiven for not feeling sad for someone dropping their groceries. I would hope you feel sad for people in poverty, people being genocided, people who are the victims of violence.
Aggressive is worse because they purposely try to harm, not just indifferent to someone being harmed. Lived with one of these types of sadistic abusers and it's way worse than if he just didn't care.
@@trumpaigaming7632 The fact that contractual legality is your standard measurement for whether you should act like a human or not is something to feel very embarassed about..but I don't have a fax machine on hand to send you the standard contract for that one, so you're free to continue telling the world
@@adamkern3548 Someone falling is not the same as someone letting their life go to pot, failing to prepare for a good life. One is a tragic sudden mistake, the other is neglect for one's own livelihood, or failing to be good to your future self. Genocide is powerful people making the mistake of faulty generalization, and trying to be like Yahweh of the old testament.
It's sad to think the other people out there who actually think this way. I had to learn the hard way that they do exist and they integrate quite well into society. This insight and more awareness is very important to identifying these people because relationships with them only lead to harm.
Maybe he didn't like pigeons? I would feel sorry the pigeon and pretty much anything that isn't an annoying rodent. If it did happen to be an annoying rodent, I definitely wouldn't feel empathy because someone else drove over it.
I wish (sometimes) I was more like Emma. When I see the fallen man, I run in to help collect the food, I give him my own bag to put them in, and if he were hurt I might cry on his behalf, and walk him home or make sure he’s contacted someone to help….to the point that I get mud on my clothes, miss my bus and get in trouble at work , damaging my own self empathizing with others.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with being a good person. Just don't ever put yourself in danger because in modern times, people with good hearts are easily taken advantage of. But it's people like you who give us hope for humanity.
I run over, open my wallet and start spraying out the cash at him. I cry, and I rub his feet incessantly and chanting to Lord Xenu to bless him and keep him. People are watching my bizarre behavior, as I am rubbing his feet in one hand, and dialing 911 in the city, and in every adjacent city. He is flabbergasted at my behavior and pulls his own phone to call police. I take off all my clothes and offer them to him, and offer to wash his clothes. I feign membership to one or another indian tribes and dance a witch doctor's healing dance while chanting Heya hoya, heya hoya, heya hoya. Men with white suits come within 15 minutes and put me in a straight jacket and attach me to a gurney, then off I go.
It gets a bit more complicated if those women are both misandrists who just left a support group for victims of domestic violence. It also gets more complicated with American football or MMA, where the crowd celebrates and cheers when one athlete puts a devastating hit on another athlete. When that athlete fails to get up and resume playing, fans get quiet for a few minutes but 10 minutes later, indifferently chalk it up to “the nature of the game”. There are also the legions of smartphone users who know their phones are manufactured with slave labor and don’t care. But they do care about the first-world “micro-aggressions” that are inadvertently inflicted upon them every day. Humans are extremely odd creatures.
If you are betrayed enough times during crucial development stages of your life by people that should be caring for you, then you will become a narcissist. You'll only look out for number one, and trust nobody but yourself. People that grow up in healthy environments of selfless people end up selfless themselves. Nobody chooses to be a narcissist. A person living with a narcissist is still capable of caring for others, but the pain or worry caused by the narcissist can reduce your ability to focus on your care for others (forget birthdays, and anniversaries, things you would do if you were not taking emotional damage from the narcissist). You're more likely to make mistakes, be forgetful or spend a lot of time lost in self pity. A mindful person (Person that practices mindfulness) is still damaged by the narcissist, but by quite a bit less.
@@muffinpoop92 I too experience varying degrees of empathy. Certain people trigger my spidey senses. Like you, I’m much more likely to feel empathy for someone who is not trying to get my attention. I trust my gut, and I rely on feeling empathy for others as a way of connecting. I can’t imagine how someone might feel who is unable to express empathy for others.
The man fell, but was unharmed. Emma's reaction is to analyze the factors that caused the fall and not pay attention to the unharmed man. I think I find myself sharing similarities with Emma. I really enjoy predictive things and noticing preventable things, problems and solutions. Similar to Emma I would cast no judgement on the man, and I wouldn't feel empathy for an accidental slip that resulted in zero injury. Instead, I would replay the scenario in my head and looked for ways to not slip, in case it happens again.
@@lionelgrisbane-ud87 funny thing about implied language, the act of having narciscism would entail the person being a narcissist. So, you really did just tell someone that they are a narcissist, which sounds like a diagnosis to me and anyone that might read your comment. Oh, maybe you could go ahead and post the definition of "diagnosing" for us all to read too?
@@teeemm9456 Thanks for confirming your shallow understanding of both the term “narcissism” and the word “diagnosis.” A diagnosis is identifying the nature of an illness. Being a narcissist or narcissistic is not an illness, thus calling someone a narcissist or saying they have narcissistic traits isn’t any more of a diagnosis than saying someone is aggressive or lazy. Narcissistic traits are pretty easily identifiable and in this case, the commenter flat out said that he identifies with the person that Dr. Grande clearly labeled as narcissistic. If I identified the commenter as having narcissistic personality disorder or some other DSM-V illness, that would be a diagnosis. But I didn’t do that. Just like you can say someone is experiencing depression without labeling them as a depressive disorder. Next time do your research BEFORE commenting.
There's a coffee shop cross the street from an undetectable patch of ice. People sit and drink coffee watching pedestrian after pedestrian slip and fall and rate the fall..until i stormed home and return with a pissed off jug of rock salt to the audiences dismay.
Wholly crappers, this is all over China, and has been since the communist revolution. Communism/socialism breeds apathy. (heroic behavior, demonstrations of care, innovation are not rewarded; in fact they are punished, so better not bother yourself with the sufferings of others)
Supposed you asked Emma and Sally to redesign the sidewalk to make it safer. Emma, despite not having any empathy for the guy who fell, could design a safer sidewalk quite well because she observed all the factors that led to the fall. Sally, on the other hand, would take full advantage of the opportunity to grease the sidewalk and add poison ivy as decorative vegetation.
glad to know I would feel bad for the man, and based on his behavior and age, I would probably either look away and spare him the embarrassment (like if it appeared he was ok and just needed to pick up his things, and was probably embarrassed) or I'd get up to help the man stand up (if necessary) and help him pick up his groceries (I'd do this if I got the impression the man might be a bit older and that he would probably appreciate a hand). Emma and Sally sound horrible but I guess they'd make good friends.
So people under 25 are usually sadistic? Lol Young me would've found it so funny and I could swe myself trying to replicate it. Not for joy but for humor.
Then there's the story of the blind man. People kidded him for years when they saw him walking outside, they would yell at him to watch out for that hole. Then one day on his normal path there was indeed a hole because of a plumbing issue. Someone yells out, hey watch out for that hole and laughs loudly, he can plainly see the hole. The blind man oblivious to a joke he's heard a thousand times, disregards the warning, keeps right on walking and falls into the hole.
One time when I was a young adult about 16-17!!! I remember putting those pop firecrackers the ones that when a person throws them they pop, in the street so cars would run them over and they would pop and then I didn’t think of the danger and fear I may have caused the drivers in that moment. Later on, I felt like a real loser 😊
My therapist, 'I get sadistic, that is how I know my patient is being pathetic.' Dr Grande, is this a normal thing to say for a PhD, CGP therapist in group therapy?
@@macshaw9426 That was the first part that SEEEMED good, but he proceeded to do psychopathic and unprofessional abusive things in the group and boasted that 'Oh yes he is manipulative.'
I only like seeing people hurt, if I feel like they have wronged me in some way. I feel happy for other people when they find joy, but I find fitting misery sooooo much more delectable. I suppose it's selective sadism. Maybe it's just an avenue. Who knows?
I think it depends on the guy’s situation and character… if he s old and careful, I d help him right away, but if he s young and causal, I won’t do anything, but if he s trying to show off and acting cool, I d probably be amazed a bit when he falls. 🤔 but it doesn’t mean I m empath deficit IMO
LOL.. this confused me.. I was like wondering why isnt anyone helping him.. then the short repeated itself and I heard the missing word "deficit" ... now i see
Not sure I'd characterize the situation as sad. One seems criminal and the other one lacks empathy. Neither one chose the way they are either. The criminal one would provide locker room humor regularly, probably. If you have to pick one to be your friend, you want the sadist (keep your friends close, your enemies closer). The other would be hard to be around, because they would not make a very good friend (always walking off and leaving you, and such behavior). Some other narcissists might look up to their behavior as admirable, and be inspired by them.
