Examples of Emotional Neglect - 8 Warning Signs in a Family | Dr. Jonice Webb

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In this video, I explain why CEN is usually so difficult to see in your own family. Then, I’ll give you 9 signs to look for in your interactions with your family.
CEN Breakthrough Video Series:
1. Emotional Neglect: How to Recognize it, Why it’s Invisible, And How it Affects You | Dr. Jonice Webb:
• Emotional Neglect: How...
2. Emotional Neglect: 4 Subtle but Painful Things You May Have Missed Growing Up | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: 4 S...
3. Emotional Neglect: How it Can Make it Hard to Recognize Your Emotions | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: How...
4. Emotional Neglect: 5 Ways it can Affect Your Emotional Intelligence | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: 5 W...
5. Emotional Neglect: How to Connect with Yourself and Find Your Voice | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: How...
6. Emotional Neglect: What Most Therapists Don’t Know and How to Find One Who Does | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: Wha...
7. Emotional Neglect: Use These 10 Affirmations to Reparent Yourself | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: Use...
8. Emotional Neglect: Lack of Self-Discipline? It might be Self Neglect Instead | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: Lac...
9. Emotional Neglect: How it Impacts Your Love Relationships | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: How...
10. Emotional Neglect: Jumpstart Your Healing by Doing These 3 Things | Dr. Jonice Webb
• Emotional Neglect: Jum...
00:00 Introduction
00:27 Good Enough Parents
01:50 Childhood Emotional Neglect
04:30 Signs of Emotional Neglect
07:21 What You Can Do

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@addhoc256 9 месяцев назад

Someone drew a timeline and asked me to name all the landmarks of my life: when did you move house, change school etc. then all the emotional important things like: with who did you buy your first bra, wo who did you go when you had your first period. All the milestones like who helped you choose a highschool, whohelped with homework. When did you start to go out on your own, atwhat time should yoube back home. If you were bullied with whom would you talk etc etc. Then i knew; yes that makes sense you would do that withsomeone of your family. But to most of these questions my answer was: i did it alone.

@Johannastairwellstudio 9 месяцев назад

Me too! Commiserations

@addhoc256 9 месяцев назад

@@Johannastairwellstudio the strangest thing was: this was a jobcoach', not a psychologists that found out i was neglected. By that time i had an adhd diagnosis and was twice burnout. So i had seen a lot of psychologists and even a psychiatrist by then. And i always said: i think something was wrong with my upbringing but they ignored that. It would have meant so much had i had that diagnose 30 years earlier. it means so much to be seen andunderstood. I guess we can each other now. recognize the vous of neglect. and dissociation in my case. I gave a (experiencial feedback) lecture to a group of psychologists to tell about neglect by autistic parents but within that group everyone left that year and noone from that fascility passed itonwithin the organisation. They are so ignorent and indifferent

@laurenransford7638 9 месяцев назад

Same for me. Its heartbreaking to realize that not everyone grew up this way and we missed something so critical, but that didn’t even seem missing at the time. I just felt alone and broken.

@bookwoman7803 9 месяцев назад

@addhoc256 reading up on ACEs was really telling for me!

@MrSuperbluesky 9 месяцев назад

@@laurenransford7638yes

@vitoriacaca0 6 месяцев назад

1. Surface topics conversations 2. Unexplained resentment or anger towards your parents + guilt 3. (Probably something opposit to focusing on self-care) 4. Difficult or interpersonal problems in the family are ignored 5. Feels like siblings are competing with each other and you are not sure for what 6. Affection is expressed by actions 7. (Probably something opposite to facing emotions or doing the enough not aiming for perfection) 8. Feeling lonely

@crystalrichards779 8 месяцев назад

I'm invisible in my family unless it's to belittle or make light of difficulties I go through. I don't spend much time with my family for my own health and well-being. Fortunately, I have a good support system that is appreciative and accepting of who I am.

@essence178 9 месяцев назад

There is never real intamacy in n these families, now that i have had real intimacy in a wonderful decades long marriage i get what my own family is unable to give...sad, because they do not understand and miss out 😊

@karenak8084 9 месяцев назад

Love the advice, “don’t try to fix your family”. We just need to take care of ourselves and move forward with Dr. Webb’s guidance.

@everymomentisagift 9 месяцев назад

My husband's family simply talk about weather, their jobs, and never about how they are. They change the subject too when they seem uncomfortable with a topic. Yes, service topics. I find it so boring, and I would feel empty inside.

@billbrenne5475 9 месяцев назад

Emotional neglect in my case ultimately led to severance from society and learning that there are two worlds and not just one.

@michelleglidingswan4334 9 месяцев назад

This fits my family. I had such a a tortured relationship with my mother and blamed her for many years for my depression. But now I see my father was a part of this dynamic too, however, he managed to skirt his role. I've done better at forgiving them. They just didn't know any better and didn't have the tools to change.

@ljkoh20052000able 8 месяцев назад

Thank you for reminding me that I cannot fix my family or spouse or anyone save me. And that my trying self care or self compassion cannot be done perfectly as long as I try.

@BCSchmerker 9 месяцев назад

+drjonicewebbphd *I've taken the opportunity to timestamp the symptoms:* 4:28 *1. Conversations on Surface Topics* 4:44 *2. Unexplained Anger and/or Resentment* 5:03 *3. Ignorance of Difficult Family Problems* 5:14 *4. Ingrained Sibling Rivalry* 5:24 *5. Affection Expressed by Action* 5:34 *6. Chronic Negative Emotions* 5:44 *7. Familial Loneliness*

@nafdy23 9 месяцев назад

Thank you. That is the shortest list of 8 things I've ever seen!

@BCSchmerker 9 месяцев назад

@@nafdy23 *Cannot rule out Drx. Webb forgetting at least one symptom during the filming this vid.* I expected eight, too.

@gail777 9 месяцев назад

8. feeling guilty for your feelings

@jasonfitzpatrick414 9 месяцев назад

I'm sure she is going to read the comments and fix this.

@cfjohnson7369 9 месяцев назад

My therapist noticed that I could not identify my own emotions! I was not even aware of that blind spot!

@BCSchmerker 9 месяцев назад

@cfjohnson7369 *The technical term is alexithümía (Gk. **_αλεξιθυνία_** "lack of emotional vocabulary").*

@bookwoman7803 9 месяцев назад

I wonder if that happens when we aren't allowed to even have them, because that's what I'm thinking.

@MrSuperbluesky 9 месяцев назад

Emotions are Not allowed. Emotions don’t exist in these types of Family

@cindyincolorado 9 месяцев назад

Dr Webb, this video is extremely helpful!! An important point that I am realizing is how (without meaning to) I passed the same CEN to my son that I received, and he is also passing it on to his family. But, I can help break this pattern if I inform him of CEN and how deeply it damages our lives. Thank you for your work!!!

@mikesmith6594 Месяц назад

My family also treats me like I don't even exist 😢like I'm dead when being around them .

@justmeandmyrucksack 9 месяцев назад

Dr. Webb, can you do a short video on the parent who raises a child as if the child is to only discuss a parent's feelings when the parent is ticked off about something? I find "talking about emotions" with your parents confusing to teens because it's not clear enough that the talking is about the child's emotions. A child can grow up thinking they've always talked about emotions - but they were the parent's emotions. What if the child/young adult/adult has never had their own emotions identified or validated but tells others they've always talked about emotions with their parent? Does it make a difference? Is this how a narcissistic parent "parents?"

@fionameredith8787 9 месяцев назад

I think you might be on the right track with your last sentence. It's the parents role to notice and help the child/adolescent/teenager's talk about and understand their emotions. When the parent focuses on their own emotions... the child's emotional needs are neglected.

@ellie4683 9 месяцев назад

Your podcasts and books have helped me enormously. I’m living in Europe but I like to let you know the positive impact you have had on my life! I never knew what was wrong with me. Now I am able to choose and make meaningful relationships. I wish many more people would find your books and channel. Thanks again ❤

@linx187 4 месяца назад

Its weird. I remember as a kid wanting to be nothing like my parents when I grew up but never really knew why. Now I know.

@candicelong6261 8 месяцев назад

Finally validation for what I’ve always thought and felt. Cried like a baby watching this. Every point hit home with me. Thank you so much.

@AzEagletarian 9 месяцев назад

OMG! I'm 68 and I recognize by your words in this video my FoO and how things went with my daughter. I have, however, spent decades reflecting and studying and am hopeful for the years to come. Thanks, Jonice.

@Suelynngrr 9 месяцев назад

You replied for me! Same here.

@demetargun 7 месяцев назад

I'm reading your book (Running on Empty) and I think it's a true bible of our souls. I'm 47 years of young and I've been searching meaning of my life and the reason of not being able to connect life. The book gave me the information that I've been searching for years. Thank you sharing your gifts. Thank you being earth and reaching out us. I wish more people can reach that information. It seems to me that most of the world are emotionally neglected. I hope we can connect with ourselves, life and people as healthy as possible.

@justincoleman2740 5 месяцев назад

Thank you Jonice. I'm 55 and just discovering all of this thanks to my therapist. I find you to be very easy to understand.

@Eden-wb4js 9 месяцев назад

This is so validating, I love your videos they make me feel hopeful and excited about healing from emotional neglect😊

@petermautner7052 9 месяцев назад

In a nutshell my father golden childed brother . The rest is lingering history .

@rachc5496 4 месяца назад

I use my emotionally neglectful father as an example of how I never want to act, so I act the opposite of him. It still hurts a lot, the painful childhood events and words are still stuck in my head. How can I try to erase them from my memory? They are always there on the surface.

@trex3003 9 месяцев назад

I appreciate you covering this topic the way you do! It's so helpful to get into the weeds and name what's lacking in detail. Otherwise, how would we know what was missing? All of the s you listed are so revelatory. Thank you.

@eottoe2001 5 месяцев назад

Other people's feelings including their spouse and kids either don't matter or they don't know how to read them. Among siblings, mean things were said and if you reacted you got you were "too sensitive." Have to say with abuse from siblings physically or verbally neither parent intervened much. Early on I learned to do a lot of things alone. I learned help was not in the offing from parents or most people. That lack of helpfulness from parents is learned by the siblings. A lot of us don't know that neglect is abuse.

@DrJoniceWebbphd 9 месяцев назад

@olgat.155 9 месяцев назад

Good to have you back

@bjorgmarteinsdottir6200 4 месяца назад

❤ life saving information. I can change, yhings can change, knowing what I now know. Thank you.

@GratefulDeb270 9 месяцев назад

Thank you for your books & videos! So helpful! ❤

@villette2698 9 месяцев назад

Thank you so much. Your videos showed me something I didn't even know I had. Definitely insightful.

@querida1809 Месяц назад

Again, thank you so much for this information.

@carolhugenberg7478 9 месяцев назад

You are right on target.

@pinkdipi 9 месяцев назад

Oh, Dr. Webb, thank you so much for your work and sharing your knowledge and love with us! There is something about you that almost brings me to tears every time I watch a video of yours. Maybe it's your compassion and love that comes trough the screen?

@larsonanne 9 месяцев назад

Not sure if this would help: click right of center at the top of the video and you'll see CC inside a box. Click that and youtube- generated captions will appear. You'll have to check them for accuracy to Dr. Webb's words, but it's a start. I've seen other language options on other channel's videos but see only English on this one.

@pinkdipi 9 месяцев назад

@@larsonanne , that's because there is only English available for this video.