This was probably bad advice even 20years ago... Now I would imagine it's a big no no. The only exception is if both of you are already leaning in for a kiss with googly eyes after an actual date date and both of you have clearly expressed your feelings for each other. Even then, it's probably better to be safe. It's not about being a 'man' anymore... Crazy feminists have ruined organic interactions like that for all of us.
I can't imagine any woman that would want to kiss someone that expresses this much insecurity. If you're this insecure she doesn't want to kiss you. So yes you are right
@@Adam-mo7sh well here’s the thing it’s so easy for girls to say “he didn’t get my consent” these days. There is the possibility that maybe she feels she’s not ready, or maybe she’s unsure about how she feels about it. If a girl’s gonna look down upon a guy for being a gentleman then that’s her problem. Now this applies to the first kiss.
Yeah exactly! It depends on the situation. It can be cute OR it can be stupid. I remember with my first gf I actually had a problem with touching her a** not soon enough because I always used to overthink it. I even remember the first time actually where making out I said sth like „you know I could just grab your ass like that right now“ and she literally said „just do it then!“ 😆
My first boyfriend is also the first one who ever asked me if he can kiss me. He was so respectful with how he treated me and I personally liked it very much 🥰
Just because people are dating doesn't mean that they should throw boundaries out of the window. It might look stupid but ask for consent. You might learn their likes and dislikes.
@@dartingralaughter9781you’re supposing that this person didn’t do that. The guy could have kissed her suddenly and then she pushed him off. It doesn’t detract from the fact that it was unpleasant especially when you consider that we know nothing of this individual and her past experiences.
You said exactly what I wanted to say😅 the bitch sounds so dumb , and she says everything in a disgusted, careless lookin face as if she’s explaining how gravity works
Gentlemen, a good tip to read the room right here: when you wanna kiss her, put ur hands out for her to hold and when she does (if she does, usually they do) pull her close to you playfully, and look at her eyes, in her soul. And say she looks beautiful... If she gives a good response to that and not get awkward, get in there my son
This is just her preference lol. You don't need to execute the act of kissing like it's a 23 step recipe. Some things are better off intuitive, go for what feels right in the moment and what makes sense to you.
It's outright disgusting. Sharing your digestive juices in the name of affection is just gross. All that bacteria just leaping from mouth to mouth... yuck. Tiny unseen pieces of undigested food swimming from jaw to jaw, just no. How on earth do people enjoy kissing? Slobber lovers.
@@grasscutter88. BJs are even worse. Putting the organ that is full of intestinal bacteria in your mouth? Disgraceful! Unless the schlong has been showered with scorching hot water and disinfectant for at least half an hour, then you're essentially eating poo, minus the bad taste and smell perhaps, but with the same dreadful bacteria. And having your schlong covered in another person's saliva is nothing short of gross. Another similar shower afterwards for the schlong. I thought BJs were a joke when I first heard of them. At least with normal sex, both organs involved are equally disgusting, are covered at all other times, and are not related at all with eating food. The same cannot be said for BJs on either accounts. So, yes, BJs are objectively stupid and disgusting, and any self respecting man or woman should know that. This is why we haven't gone back to the Moon yet. People are too busy shortening their life spans with obviously gross things, and not taking the proper precautions, due to their impatience and imprudence on the climax. You'll climax more in life if you stick with traditional sex, because you'll live longer. So, enough pooey mouths, and let's reach the Moon again. Or Mars. Or sanity.
Honestly, asking to kiss someone in my opinion makes you sound like a gentleman, which I prefer, plus if she doesn’t want to kiss you, just kissing her might make her not want to interact with you anymore.
People who hook up without kissing either fear or don't want intimacy. Kissing also completes the energy circuit, conveys affection etc. Gotta have smoochies.
Yup last girl I was hooking up with didn't want to kiss in bed. It was a huge turnoff for me. Killed my performance. We dated for like 6 months and I only kissed her on the lips like 4 times.
I don’t know how you find these girls. In my expirience we either kiss or nothing happens at all. No dating, no teasing, just plain all buddies. I can’t even imagine how you start. You straight up just ask or you undress yourselves? Can’t imagine escalation without kissing even quite a bit. I’m not old or something, i just hadn’t had the opportunity to do anything similar. Kiss is the first step 😂😂
@@makerl1fe388 it just happened. Like 2 months into dating she brought up sex and then we had a date where we cooked food at my house and afterwards slept together. We didn't have to ask each other it was just implied that it was going to happen. But ultimately the sex wasn't good because I need to be kissing while in bed and I could tell she really didn't want to kiss. It all started just sitting on the couch and she put her legs over mine and then I started kissing her neck
I hooked up with a girl first time two years ago I was 22. Since that was my first time we didn't touch each other, kiss, or even flirted with each other. We never even stepped foot into each other's houses i was so nervous being alone with a girl for the first time. One time I did compliment her she said "eww" it only lasted a month because she never liked me anyway she told me that upfront all she did was use me to buy her things. No, I never really had a gf. I'm 24 now still single. I gave up on my first hook up. She's been with 50+ dudes days after and she was the only girl I've ever been alone with in my life.
I have quite a list of women I've gone down on and every single one of them, without fail LOVE it when you say they taste good. It makes them feel better about themselves within that moment of intimacy and it can actually feel more pleasurable for them
As a woman i rather enjoy being told i taste good, long kisses, and him grabbing my booty. But the guy im with now is also the only one I’ve ever been with, so it might be different for hookups or short term relationships.
I think tasting good doesn’t come from the taste itself it comes from the intimacy and the context. If the time is right, the taste will take care of itself
social skills are all about mindsets not "list of moves" thats why theres so much conflicting advice out there. different stuff give different impressions depending on who is doing them and in which context. .confidence though makes everything work a 40% better. (true story)
As a woman, you should be fully aware that intimacy starts with a kiss. It's the first, best connection to each other. It should be reserved for the time you are well connected
Well she will just be more attracted to the man who didn't ask for consent, because he is more confident than you. If she looks comfortable with you, there's a high chance she will kiss you back, that's why she said to read the room. Asking for consent when she is comfortable with you just means you're scared, cowardly, and lack assertiveness and confidence, you're not masculine enough. Simply put it doesn't make sense to ask for consent in this situation. Just man up and kiss her.
I see this all the time 🙄 “You don't ask a fish how to catch a fish, you ask a fisherman” > well there are fishermen that only catch and release, then there are fishermen that actually take home and eat what they catch > Fishermen that do the former (one night stands) only have the fish for a short time whereas the latter knows how to properly prepare the fish and how to cook it correctly (long-term relationship) I only want fishermen that can do the latter > my point is: every fish is different There are 20,000+ species of fish. Overgeneralizing all of them is not good There are different girls that have different preferences and personalities.
@@SammyxSweetheart.02 this whole saying is stupid as fuck. no one here is talking about fishing or hunting. dating someone is NOTHING like huntig them down. 😂
You’re the obnoxious one to think that men don’t need her advice. Her 40k subscribers on RU-vid, a few that I saw were men, are following her for a reason. And some of the comments agreeing with her. I also dont know why you’d disagree with anything in this video. When kissing, do you just jab your tongue down a woman’s throat from the start? Hand on the ass immediately? Are you by chance, one of the kids from math class that wouldn’t put his hand down? 🥺
Listen, I understand that it is hot to just…”know” when you both want to kiss or when she wants you to kiss her, but asking is so refreshing your first time. There’s a way to do it that’s not awkward and can actually be really hot. Maybe start with some eye contact, maybe some physical touch like hand holding or an arm touch. Maybe you brush her hair to the side and then ask. It’s really nice.
Thanks for the shorts. 🙏 Your vids are great daily reminders of the impracticality of modern women and the corresponding hell we avoid by not being in a relationship with one. 🤣
In my whole life, i never got to experience my first kiss. The first one was...alright, it was not with the right man ig... a month later, i got invited to a birthday, and the guy was indeed my crush... he ended up confessing to me that day, he didn't make me kiss him right away, he asked if we could hold hand or hug, after some minutes hugging we ended up kissing, he was super polite, it was really cute, it just made me love him more, please respect boundaries, women will probably like you more if you do.
It's sad that men are supposed to ask these what kind of beta male shit is that you'll never be successful in life acting like a pussy also if ur trying to kiss a woman who isn't into u then ur kind of an idiot like learn to read body language and pay attention you'll know whether she's into u or not
@@bloodybutterfly7113 how I feel too. thing is women in these days lead guys on, then when you see all the signs and you make your move then you're somehow in the wrong. I'm still 25 years single so I only know from stories and such.
@@emiliotorres8480 so what? If u make a move and she doesn't like it she is gonna let u know immediately. Shes gonna put ur hands away and tell u to fuck off. If she says no in a playful way and laughs and smiles while ur trying then u need to keep going because that's part of the game for women. Don't be discouraged thinking that women don't want to be hit on u just need to make sure that u have the confidence and ability to make a woman feel good regardless of whether ur attractive or not. If ur 25 and single then learn to workout and be confident nothing else matters women will come by themselves once u sort urself out
If I ever have the chance to kiss my crush (I think I would establish that we both like each other before making a move/ we would be dating) I would ask them “Would it be okay if I kiss you?” It’s not to harsh or doesn’t sound too stupid, but it’s still consent and I won’t feel quite as bad if I got rejected.
Meh .. I've found most women want a man to take charge and dominate them. This is natural ... women who are difficult I have no qualms just stepping away from them. Too much trouble. Never ask .. if you have to ask, you've got yourself a problem. Broken female.. best to leave it where you found it.
If a man were to look at me in the eyes, do the triangle method qnd asked if he could kias me i would fold so hard. marry me NEOW!! THIS IS NOT A MOVIE, ASK FOR CONSENT‼️‼️ And dont make it boring, be fun with it. Also use ur hands if its ur first time kissing to upgrade the experience. If ur not good at kissing the hand placement will give her/him butterflies!!♡
Well you gotta know that it’s not so black and white. You never ask a girl for permission to kiss her just like you never go for a kiss upon saying hi or going up to her, you don’t go directly to the other extreme. You gotta build up her comfort level and you gotta create the sexual tension between you and the girl. Also read her body language and her eyes. She could’ve explained that better in the video but trust me I know what she’s talking about. Comments like this are why a lot of men are struggling with women.
I agree with everything you said Billie Rae, EXCEPT the, "Kissing is stupid" part. Anyone that thinks kissing is 'stupid' hasn't found the right partner.
All she has to do is move away. So I guess the tip is to approach in such a way that she has the opportunity to back off if not interested. Though I have in the past a few times said something along the lines of "I'd like to kiss you now..." Not a question, but effectively works the same.
When my wife and I were first dating she had a friend that was brainwashing her into how "men should be" in a relationship. She wanted me to ask before I kiss her or before I hold her hand which I wasn't willing to do. So I never kissed her or held her hand or anything else that I had to ask permission for. When she asked me why I wasn't doing those things, I told her "because you told me not to unless I asked for permission." After several moments of silence she told me that the whole asking for permission thing was stupid and she told me what her friend told her about how things should be. She told me that she didn't want that kind of thing so she told me never to ask her for permission just do what I wanted to do. After that she never did any of that feminist BS ever again and we've been married for 8 years now.
I can't even count how many dates I've had where I've asked the women for consent before kissing. I almost always get a yes and many of them thank me for asking, and they say it's a turn on because i wasn't afraid to vocalize what i wanted without coming off eager
Ok but the first thing “don’t ask just kiss her” is sooooo wrong. I have NEVER kissed before I got with my bf and before we kissed he asked me if I wanted to and it made me so much happier. It shows how much he cares abt me and how I feel.💗
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with asking if you can kiss someone, especially it’s the first time. If they’re into you and the vibe is right, it can help by allowing them to be ready rather than randomly punching their face with yours.
Wrong pheromones are real. It’s important to both sexes that the other tastes or smells good naturally. It also is a quick indication of whether they are straight or bi and which sex they prefer.
This whole comment section is women calling her dumb and saying to not listen to her. (Agreed) And men complaining about how “women are to complicated” “do you want you to ask for consent or not?” Like we’re some kind of fucking hive mind. Different things make different people feel good or happy. The only reason this woman is wrong is because she makes it seem like this is a collective opinion. If she had said, “personally, I prefer this, this, and this” she would not be wrong. People need to remember that we are all different and wanting different things is okay and completely normal.
Bro saying to not ask is crazy bc for someone like me, i have had a bad experience with kissing and anything that’s slightly intimate or that involves touch. So im always so grateful when my bf asks to kiss me before he does.
Okay so here’s what I got Don’t ask for consent Ask for consent Don’t be excited Be excited Keep it short Don’t keep it short Don’t have good breath Please have good breath
This mostly comes across to me as her recommending her personal preferences as the one-size-fits-all approach for everyone, but in my opinion there is no one-size-fits-all list of DOs and DON’Ts - women’s preferences are individualistic. Getting permission to kiss her works REALLY well on a lot of girls, I’d venture to say most girls, especially if you don’t do it in an awkward and clunky way. For example, don’t actually ask her permission in a literal sense. Instead, try this: while looking between her eyes and her lips, just tell her while deep in conversation “I’m sorry, I got distracted. For some reason I can’t stop thinking about kissing you” in a playful way. Her reaction will tell you everything you need to know. If she looks uncomfortable, she’s probably not feeling it right now. If she’s into it, she’ll smile or give you some kind of affirmative sign she’s up for it. Generally the response I’ve gotten is something along the lines of “then why aren’t you?” It doesn’t get clearer than that, and I’ve never had someone say “no” when I’ve asked. And it has the added bonus of keeping you out of jail! 💀
Probably. Because her 40k subscriber, and growing, RU-vid channel will pay for her to buy a big enough house to rescue animals? It’s most people’s dream to own 10 cats or dogs, idk why you’re knocking cats.
