I love how we’ve been getting more of Rich recently. His personal journey is the core of the show and the artful pushback here and in recent episodes is great!
This is one of the most helpful episodes in RU-vid history. I am a very active person and go to the gym 6 days a week, but i binge eat chocolates and biscuits on a daily basis. Understanding that willpower is bullishit and being present in the behaviour is gold
I developed binge eating after years of dieting. Every further attempt to control my eating caused more out of control binging. I felt so broken. I am slowly working my way out of this with intuitive eating. Everything this man is saying is absolutely correct. Thank you so much for this podcast. I went and found Dr. Judd's book and bought it. Can't wait to start reading it.
I think it cannot be overestimated how much it means to welcome the feelings of addiction/coping with life, traps and tricks, is so important. Not to run from calling of addiction and coping but to sit with it and learn why it’s there and what it’s saying. And to learn, it’s lies. It doesn’t actually support you or your health. It supports the disillusionment a feeling and not feeling about you’re trying to escape. Or numb.
I've learned how to manage anxiety through mindfulness and quit smoking and drinking through mindfulness. Now, it's using mindfulness to deal with food cravings - by far the most difficult one of these to achieve, at least for me. This conversation has been so helpful 🙏 thank you!
I stopped when I'm comfortable not uncomfortable just comfortable. But then 20 minutes later I go back because I want to feel full not just comfortable. Maybe my body doesn't understand the difference maybe I'm just addicted to the feeling of being full. But I understand what Rich is coming from it's hard to stop once you start
I think a lot of habits that we create, healthy or not, is our way of trying to protect ourselves from something. Overeating is definitely one I relate to. Love this podcast!!!!
Agreed! Doing a 50:50 plate also helps (50% green salad, 50% everything else). I let myself have seconds if I'm still hungry, but it must be a 50:50 plate. Works really well, and often I don't want to bother making another salad, so move on to doing dishes and I'm just fine.
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
I feel your pain brother and my heart goes out to you, but this spiritual counselor who can bring your girl back sounds like a scam. Only you have the power to bring her back and I would say it won't be that difficult to bring her back if she has access to contact you. The question is would you or should you want her back? If you don't have any children with her then let her go. She is extremely selfish and cruel and even if she came back she would just do it again. What you need to do my friend is experience the "red pill" area of RU-vid and you will find out why this happened. But right now you don't even want to know what she's doing and if you did know you definitely would not want her back! Take the red pill and learn the true nature of women. It will make everything make sense that has happened throughout your whole life involving women. Not just girlfriends but every woman that's ever been in your life
I appreciate Rich speaking up for the rapacious eaters 😅 I didn't get the vibe that the guest totally understands this on a personal level, but I could tell that Rich does.
I'm so grateful that you are so focking smart. Rich. And that you are in recovery. As a 76 year old food addict who has tried EVERYTHING I'm back to a combo of 12 step and Theravada Buddhism. this was a brilliant interview. Do you know about Kevin Griffin? He has reached similar conclusions with his recovery work.
Hey Rich, listening to you identify with the addiction of binge eating, I can't help but think (stay with me here) that YOU could help so many people if you wrote another book focusing on, not just the steps you took to put drinking behind you, but going even further than 'Finding Ultra” and writing down rules, so to speak, that guide you today. You were an addict and have come out the other side. That in itself is the real stuff, but tell us more . I can hear the conviction in your words and I hang on to everyone of them. You know what you are talking about because you've lived it. Thank you for this interview with Doctor Brewer. Excellent information
I appreciate this. I've found that making difficult changes or decisions is much easier when you first set yourself up for success. Some things you just won't be able to avoid having to do, but when you can, make the changes easier on yourself by planning what you are going to do and making it as easy a choice as you can by setting up your environment up to support that choice. This can include controlling what items are available, having to report your actions to someone, having someone with you for moral support, avoiding people who make the change harder, choosing a preceding or following 'trigger' event that you already are doing, laying out your clothes or other needed items earlier, etc. Really it can be anything that makes it easier or which reinforces the change.
I really appreciate the points made here. First, I want to touch on the idea of not 'indulging' in certain foods out of fear of overeating. In my opinion, having a healthy relationship with food means finding a balance where we can enjoy treats without feeling guilty or anxious about it. (But I do also understand where Rich is coming from.) Second, it's important to recognize that binge eating can also be a serious eating disorder that requires attention and support. Let's remember to be kind (to ourselves and others)! Wishing everyone well 💕
I agree with most of his views. The thing though is that you have to be at the right place to be able to make these changes. From my experience, most overeaters have underlying issues that need to be addressed before or whilst implementing these changes. Otherwise you're not able to have that curiosity that he mentions. And you keep on suffering.
What an insight.. great point.. I am also suffering from this.. But what's the short-term solution to this in your opinion.. I want to put an end to it.. I know that dealing with emotional issues is indeed the permanent and long-term solution, but is there any temporary fix for me to stop doing the damage..
Agreed. General recommendations are to "start with your diet" and add exercise later. I finally decided to try the opposite and it's working very well. I lifted weights 4x/week for 9 months before my mental health was good enough to try changing my diet (again). Real weight loss didn't start until I added in the diet component, but I've dropped 35# since September and have the energy to keep going. Bodyslims, an Irish online program, follows these principles in this episode very well and is working for me.
Changing some of your habits, one by one, can get you to a better place. But, in order to do that, you have to be aware of these habits. And we're usually not, we do things in some kind of automatic mode. I have seen that journaling on a daily basis is very helpful, it helps you having a clearer view of your patterns. You should keep any feeling of guilt aside though. Guilt is toxic and doesn't help changing behaviours. So, if you decide to have some introspection on yourself and your habits, do it in a benevolent way, with empathy for yourself. This being said, I don't want to make it sound easy because it's not. There will be step backs and they will be part of that journey to more intimacy with yourself.@@akshayangra7793
Re: “stress eating” vs “real hunger eating”. For me, it’s not either / or - it’s being hungry while under a boatload of stress that gets to me. Mindfulness is helpful, but of course, if I’m breathing calmly and moving slowly I’m not actually feeling the stress anymore. Stress feels rushed, panicky, overwhelmed. Also, I think you are assuming it’s just food cravings. It’s the lack of time for so many people that causes us to grab whatever we can find in the few free moments that are available. I would love to have 20 minutes to eat!
As a very busy veterinarian, I completely relate to your comment. Lately, however, I have come to the realization I was using it as an excuse and am making changes to how I structure my life to have much better boundaries and self care. It's not easy!! But, I am listening to this podcast while doing my weekly meal prep. Finding simple recipes, good quality glass containers, etc., has helped so much. Now my grab and go is from my own refrigerator. I also keep a little shelf-stable healthy food at work for "emergencies." Drawing a line in the sand, stopping myself from using busyness as an excuse (and some tears and lots of self reflection) finally changed things for me and I've dropped 30# since September. It's simple, but not easy. I also exercised 6-7 days a week for the past 15 months, the consistency is something new for me too (walking and strength training). I had to hold myself accountable, and it was not easy. I'm doing a very different online program called BodySlims that mirrors this speaker's expertise. It has a stupid name, but is NOT your typical weight loss program, it's a "fix your head to fix your ass" thing and life changing.
I love the discussion on self-compassion. It makes perfect sense that this would be a part of the path to overcoming any sort of addiction. As a long term meditator, I once had the blessing of a vision of my younger self. I saw myself from a totally different perspective but with absolute compassion. I realized that before this vision I had no idea what self-compassion meant. To me it’s about the intention and not the result. If you look to the work you’re doing and the good intentions behind them, you can see it. If you’re always looking to the results then compassion is limited. This was a profound lesson for me, a results oriented person.
Oh my goodness, I'm loving this conversation! I'm only 21 minutes in but had to pause and comment. I've had so many thoughts recently about our minds and habits. We give in to the voice in our head that is shouting the loudest or influencing us the most. It's like we have this neutral (somewhat anyway) "driver" in the middle of it all that pulls the lever to allow the action. That part of our brain that pulls the lever is oftentimes rooting for one thing to happen but there's just not enough influence from that particular thing. It's almost like a bunch of lobbyists leaning on politicians. I've been pondering how we can feed those good habit voices that we are rooting for so that they have a louder voice....ok, enough, I have to finish this podcast! :-)
I have a really poor relationship in food especially candies and chips but this episode even the science half of this episode shifted my entire perspective and gave me so much tools with deal with how I feel, absolutely stellar job. I am so thankful!!
For me one helpful thing is always to ask myself how do I copy the mechanisms of oversaturation in an oversaturated world? What do we do to with our external and internal world? How many things do I really need, how much „fuel“ do I really need (to feel)? I know that way leads to be „boring“ for some of the people in my surroundings especially when I was known for being the motor of good feelings for others. But for this is it, sometimes hard because it is kind of getting „sober“. Thank you for this wonderful interview❤.
I recently went through a difficult breakup. My five year relationship ended a month ago, and it's been incredibly hard. I still have so much love for my ex girlfriend, and I can't seem to get her out of my mind. Despite my best efforts to win her back, nothing has worked, and the thought of being with anyone else feels impossible right now. I know it might sound odd to share this here, but I miss her deeply and can't stop thinking about her.
Thank you Rich and Dr. Jeb for another wonderful podcast! If I may, I would like to suggest that perhaps the ‘locus’ IS consciousness - the substance of ALL form,mental,physical,emotional, spiritual. That awareness is the access point of self mastery. Thanks for letting me share!
Yuck. “Stop eating when not hungry” is like telling an alcoholic just to give up booze without a program. Eating when not hungry is deeply emotionally tied, and IN FACT ceasing restriction is what freed me. I’ve lost 30 pounds snacking anytime I want and not resisting. Now I am no longer obsessed with food, because yes, I am “ALLOWED” to have food ANYTIME. ❤❤❤
It's amazing the intuitive eating nonsense has made people believe eating whenever you feel like it is something to be proud of. And then you go around telling people to just eat mindlessly. Dangerous ideology.
Thank you very much for this conversation. I ordered this book from my local indie bookstore as there were so many insights about self-awareness/forgiveness and integration into new habits. Through many years of therapy, I realized that during a chaotic childhood, my only constant comfort was food. Coupled with learned behaviors of body disassociation from classical ballet training and competitive sports, I’ve never really had a healthy relationship with food, hunger or movement even when I was outwardly “fit”. Thank you again and hope all take care of themselves so we can take care of others
Thank you, Rich, your work as enriched my life. After reading your book and Jurek's book NORTH, I started my plant based diet. I never looked back. If you only knew how many lives you have changed. Thank you.
The reason why I don't snack; I wait til I feel hungry. Eating between meals, for me, is unnecessary bc I still feel full. That's why practicing intermittent fasting is easy for me to adapt. I'm 68 and not taking any meds for maintenance.
I’m 44 & I have binge eating disorder. I’ve been binge eating since I was a kid as a coping mechanism. I’ve done so much damage to my nerves with excess sugar intake that now if I eat something processed and/or with a lot of sugar i.e. cake, cookies, ice cream… a few hours later my nerves feel like they are on fire. It’s unbelievable pain where I can barely move. My doctor wanted to send me to a spine specialist where they could inject steroids into my spine (not once did he ask me about my diet or lifestyle, just wanted to put me on drugs right away.) I had to do my own research online and experiment with my diet to figure out what my body can tolerate. I can no longer eat any of my favorite foods. It sucks, but at the same time I know I did this to my body with years of abuse. 😢
I know what you are talking about. I was told to take B6 (50 mg) every morning with food (do not take after noon, or it will mess with your sleep, as do all B vits). That has been very helpful. B6 and B12 can have some healing effects on the CNS - you can research that. Do not take excessive amts of B6 or B12, as they can do the opposite, as well. 50mg is enough. Then, exercise patience.
Also it helps if the meals you eat actually help you feel full. And the best way to do that is to make sure it has a balance of fibre healthy fat and protein. Then you’ll be full for hours and won’t feel the need to snack or stuff your face! If you’re thinking about food all the time it’s probably because you never give your body what it needs in the first place
Greatly enjoyed and learned from this episode! Timely, informative and insightful. Looking forward to the book and once and for all tackling no longer helpful mechanisms.
Yet another insightful episode! 🌟 Here's a sneak peek at 5 of our 12 key takeaways: 1. Understanding Habit Formation: The conversation delves into the neuroscience of habits, explaining that habits are automatic behaviors formed to conserve cognitive energy for new learning. Dr. Brewer emphasizes that habits are composed of three elements: a trigger, a behavior, and a result, with dopamine playing a crucial role in reinforcing these behaviors based on rewards. 2. **The Myth of Willpower in Dieting:** Dr. Brewer challenges the common reliance on willpower for dieting, stating that it lacks neuroscientific support. He argues that willpower is not a variable in the equations for habit change, suggesting that cognitive control and reward values in the brain are more influential in shaping our eating habits. 3. **Food Addiction and Modern Food Engineering:** Dr. Brewer touches on the concept of food addiction, suggesting that it can be pragmatically defined as continued use despite adverse consequences. He also criticizes the modern food industry for engineering products that encourage overconsumption and manipulate our natural reward systems. 8. **Understanding Reward Prediction Errors:** The podcast delves into the concept of reward prediction errors, explaining how positive and negative experiences with something like chocolate cake can influence our future behavior through dopamine responses. This process requires awareness, as being distracted can prevent the updating of our reward values, keeping us stuck in old habits. 9. **Breaking Compulsive Eating Habits:** Dr. Jud Brewer emphasizes the importance of paying attention to break the cycle of compulsive eating. By mapping out habit loops and becoming more aware of the triggers, behaviors, and results, individuals can change their relationship with food and overcome unhealthy patterns. 👉 Uncover all 12 takeaways and get the full power summary at app.kwip.ai/episodes/3JJ7PB_JpKg
Sooo good! Super helpful. Thanks so much Rich for continuing to share such transformative info to soo many people! The world is changing, because of you
Depends. I don't eat after 3pm. The whole "eat everything at dinner" thing doesn't appeal to me at all. I want to eat those calories when I'm most likely to use and need them most - not before I go to bed.
Please, please please, have Dr Susan Pierce Thompson on your show!! She IS a food addict and has created a program for food addicts and she is a brain scientist. PLEASE!! 🙏🏻
Regarding the modern separation from our bodies: Check out Eugene Gendlin’s “felt sense”: in the words of Dr. Peter Levine, it’s the “language” of the body. Developing a relationship with the felt sense is also the foundation of self-regulation and trauma recovery in somatic psychotherapy.
You work for 40yrs to have $1m in your retirement, Meanwhile some people are putting just $10k in a meme coin for just few months sometimes less and now they are multi millionaires. I pray that anyone who reads this will be successful in life ✊🏻❤️
After I raised up to 325k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states 🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery (Benjamin). Glory to God.shalom
I'm not sure this would work for me because I don't feel bad after eating a big meal, I feel great! Feelings of wellbeing, satiety and joy flood through me. I don't feel bad, guilty or "beat myself up". But I am overweight so obviously eat too much.
Diets do not work! Will power doesn't work. I am a living proof of that...time to buy the book - another book!! The "Alan Carr" book worked for me I finally give up smoking! Time to loose my visceral fat, wish me luck lol I remain ever hopeful! Thanks guys...k
I'm around 1 hour in the show and I have to say... Well, I wish I could say that food is not good and eating - and overeating - doesn't feel good... But sorry, it does! Yeah, there are foods that disappoint, but there will always be foods that taste great, even when I'm distracted or otherwise engaged. And I don't feel sorry for eating hahaha. I am sorry I get fat, but not for eating. So I think the guest of the show should take this into account in his research. Because I am not the only one who feels this way. Also, I started participating at some overeaters anonymous meetings and hearing the others' stories does not prevent me from overeating one bit! Yes, it somewhat objectifies my behaviour, but that is all. For me, these are just myths or theories. Maybe for others they are as the gentleman says, but I cannot pretend.
@@Denidrakes69 you felt the need to reply to a comment that was a feedback to the show. That seems compulsive, so I suspect that you are not better. You replaced eating with being mean to strangers online. You would have been better off eating. Good thing I am not impressionable. Go to therapy, please.
ethanol (alcohol) created by fermentation in the organism is what makes people addicted to food. nearly every "meal" made by humans today has food combinations which are physiologically incompatible for enzymes to digest. these garantee indigestion - fermentation.
Sugar is addictive, when will medicine start using that fact to start with all medicine? Until we deal with that, we can’t just stop eating what our brain is addicted to. It wins every time. It’s not about habit formation. Compulsion, oral fixation, baloney. ADDICTION, OUR BRAINS ARE ADDICTED TO FEELING THE SENSATION THAT FOOD, OR WHATEVER, GIVES. EDUCATION IS KEY!
How about capitalist not saturating our environment with Foods we would never have access to in nature. Even my dogs would eat bad food if they had access. Meaning transportation, money to buy, and availability..... I have never seen my pets say no to food they like the taste of...... we are mammals
@patriciaojeraransaez2893if you think your biology is that different from a dog, think about the pharmaceutical industry and who they use for drug testing. Love, a veterinarian
GREAT INTERVIEW AND LIFE CHANGING >WATCHING THIS EVERYTHING IS GOOD EXCEPT THOSE WHITE RIMMED WATER BOTTLES THE WHITE RIM GOT TO GO !!!! A CURTIS !!!!AND HOST !!!
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What’s the difference between mindfulness and will power if it’s YOU that uses mindfulness to break a habit? Isn’t using mindfulness just a subform of the will?
Oh my goodness, I'm loving this conversation! I'm only 21 minutes in but had to pause and comment. I've had so many thoughts recently about our minds and habits. We give in to the voice in our head that is shouting the loudest or influencing us the most. It's like we have this neutral (somewhat anyway) "driver" in the middle of it all that pulls the lever to allow the action. That part of our brain that pulls the lever is oftentimes rooting for one thing to happen but there's just not enough influence from that particular thing. It's almost like a bunch of lobbyists leaning on politicians. I've been pondering how we can feed those good habit voices that we are rooting for so that they have a louder voice....ok, enough, I have to finish this podcast! :-)
Dr Brewer actually covered this in his Eat Right Now app. They are called ‘committee members’. They give different excuses to influence your decisions. The key is how to shut them up by thinking ahead, what do I get out of this binging etc….
Stress hormones from overtraining, daily and work stress, and eating foods that you have a stress hormone provoking sensitivity too. Those are your trigger foods because they give you a shot of cortisol and adrenaline. And not sleeping enough and getting too much stimulants.
I live in Canada. I cant pay for more food then what I need so ya. I been eating once a day because food cost ALOT here sense past 3 years it's not manageable anymore.
Prepare a large amount of food like soup, stew, spaghetti sauce one day a week and reheat it on following days. Time saver, and you decide which healthy, NUTRICIOUS ingredients to use. (It's called batch cooking.)
if you need to "prepare" "food", it is not food. what can be considered food comes ready, as is in nature, like a banana, an apple, a pear, a tomato, ... this should have been obvious, but for some reason it seems not the case. why?
no one? you don't need access to "all fruits" any fruit grown in rich soil will do. you needing "variety" on your plate is a myth. the variety (of elements) needs to be in your soil. @@abhayagarwal5097
In week 3 of the Gina Livy weight loss program, she is teaching us about mindfulness with eating.This week we are going back to the basics of mindfulness and The 4 Steps of Mindful Eating. The goal is to have you paying extra attention to how you are feeling at each meal and snack time, leaning into satisfaction and paying close attention to portions. While practicing The 4 Steps of Mindful Eating, you bring your attention back to your portion sizes. This is a familiar practice for you at this stage and one that can easily slip through the cracks when not in the pursuit of weight loss. While trying to solidify, it is important to keep being in tune to your changing hunger levels and portion sizes and listening to your body’s cues. The goal continues to be eating just enough so you feel satisfied and not stuffed 10 - 15 mins after you are done eating. Continuing this practice may have you noticing new or even some of the same issues and associations when it comes to food. It is an opportunity to work through them and even further solidify that mind body connection. This is also the time to pick up on how your body reacts to certain foods and food choices.Now for the main focus this week, which is Mindfulness. You have heard this mentioned over and over throughout your journey and it really is the key to sustained weight loss. Being mindful of your body’s wants over needs, how your body reacts to certain foods and really paying attention to portion sizes will all go a long way to strengthen that mind-body connection. LET’S TALK MINDFULNESS The first step is to pay attention to how the body is responding before, during and after you eat. As you move forward in maintenance and transition off of a Food Plan and into a more natural way of eating for you, you will rely on mindfulness and being in tune to sustain your weight loss. Ginalivy.com
Completely disagree that the power of will is not real. Don't tell me that the ability to delay gratification, resisting short term temptations to meet long term goals is not a thing.
Did you guys just answer the free will debate? You only have free will if you have awareness of what you're doing... ? :) I totally would have loved the deep dive, but very much appreciate all the info.