@@CrumCringle Then that is not guilty, it is confusion, now I'm worried about you, how are you? idk about the US but there is the age of consent in most countries if you are not over it you and the person can get in really trouble.
If a woman is a victim it’s “she was asking for it” but if a man is the victim it’s “he should like it”, why do people try so hard to invalidate victims. It’s assault no matter what
My whole life my mom told me that when I was a small child, she just assumed everyone was a pedophile by default. That always seemed so extreme to me until I realized what she meant as I got older: these things happen because people say "Oh he would never do that! Oh she's not that kind of person!" And at that point it's too late. Not everyone is a pedophile, and most people would never harm a child. But don't ever convince yourself that someone is incapable of doing so, because that's what allows abuse to happen right in front of you, in school, in public, or in your very home.
Absolute facts. I’m surprised I could find you here, perhaps after your Paul brother series you can make a video revolving around sexual assault awareness and how to protect yourself? You’re very smart and I think you could handle a conversation covering that topic very well.
As a Christian, it makes me sick to my stomach to see trusted people, whether in church or regular life, act so vile. I swear, attackers are sick in the head and should never be trusted. I pray victims get proper treatment and support.
I got harassd by an entire group of cathoIic priests. I think they speak to eachother and share "easy targets" or something. Because it only started with one, and then suddenly a whole group of them started creeping on me. And I was a young woman, not a boy
As a gay man this is extremely important, it's pretty common for homophobic people to think we are predators though. Both of those problems need tackling
@@N0rth_Star Absolutely. There are sick fucks among children too. I'm not including the ages between 0-10, by the way. But there are so many 15-years-old rapists. Trust noone.
YES. precisely! i just shared about my boyfriend's experience with 22 year old women making extremely sexual remarks and touching him inappropriately at work, and some asshole told me to get over it and that he should have spoken up himself. lmao when it comes to boys being sexually harassed, theres always a double standard which discredits them. i find it sad really.
Thats not what the courts/society usually says.. I was sexually abused by a female teacher when i was a few years younger in highschool. Instead of being like my dad and hiding it and saying I liked it etc i came out about it, there was no proof sono one believed me and whoever believed me thought i was just trying to play a victim for something i enjoyed..
I told my brothers and my dad about a story I heard where a young boy, 10-12 years old, was raped by his 20-something year old babysitter and she got pregnant. Their reaction? "Go, little man!" It disgusted me. It STILL disgusts me. This mindset of "oh men can’t be sexually assaulted, by women especially" or "dang, how lucky" is freaking hideous. I hate it. What is wrong with our society?
As a woman who doesn’t see a lot of male victims a lot, I’m glad to see one here. People always think that woman are so weak and think that they need to be protected, but what about males? Any person no matter what gender can be groomed or sexually abused. I met a nice male who has been sexually abused by another male, even though he isn’t gay. I used to be groomed and sexually abused when I was 10, but now that I am 14, I have learned to detect a parent, or defend myself. Woman can be creeps too, and males can be sexually abused as well. To those who think that you don’t belong, you do. You are valid and heard. You all have my heart.
Exactly! It boils my blood when people say its a woman's problem or say "what if it was your sister or mom?". It completely shuts out the enormous number of male victims. No wonder theres so little reports of it happening, society teaches them to be ashamed because "it cant happen to them". ugh!
You mean it’s shut down by other men ,,,,, like if a guy is being sexually harassed by a attractive women . Some men be like “wished that were me 😍😍😍” it’s disgusting
Very Odd yeah but it’s usually by men and when it’s happen by a woman ( which is pretty rare) the victim get called a pussy by other MEN, for not enjoying it.
@@Piedhiper its shut down by women too. Dont put all blame on men. Ive seen females laugh at men. Ive had friends that confront the female who drugged them and the female answered, "who you gonna tell? Nobody will believe you" and ive seen guys post it on twitter like many females do now a days and a female told him "if you got hard you liked it lol"
Right? Because much like irl grooming, online grooming can be disguised as friendship for a long time and can creep up on you from there. I was groom online from 14-18 by a group of older guys. I was vulnerable, since I'd been picked on severely at school and didn't realise how much I needed some reassurance/praise/affection. I did block them shortly after my 18th birthday, when I realised enough was enough and plucked up the courage to run, but once a groomer is in your head they have many ways of dissuading you from blocking them, by getting you to depend on them or feel like you owe them a favour or such.
I was groomed once and now is when I start to realize that happened. 10 years ago, i was doing an internship at a recreation center when one of the older male employees was being extra "nice" to me. He bought me food, asked me if I liked going to the movies or if I was seeing anyone, hugged me really tightly once. Dude was a weirdo for sure. Luckily, some of my other co-workers warned me about him and told me to say I was in a relationship. I remember feeling very uncomfortable 🤦♂️
@@Homophobic_racist_sexist_pdf Damn let's get your grandma to fuck your 4 yo male cousin! It doesn't happen right and if it does then they would enjoy it right? I just hope you'll never have children, adopted or biological.
I agree sadly a lot of people think that oh because This person is doctors police religion leaders That rules don’t matter as much as everyone but it’s does wrong and abuse is never ok doesn’t matter who it is
I hate when people say that boys can’t be sexually assaulted/abused, no matter who you are it’s not your fault and you have the right to get support and help from others. Stay safe and don’t be afraid to speak up, it’s never your fault❤️❤️❤️
Last year, I was groomed by my best friend. It got to the point where he told me that he was the only one for me and I would never find anyone better. I believed him because he was my best friend, I saw him as a son (it was all online). He praised me and told me weird things and called me uncomfortable names. I didn’t realise this was happening until 4 months later after he lost interest and left me because I wouldn’t send nudes. I only just started speaking up about it a month ago. It’s hard to speak up, but we can all do it.
@@briannadickson2884 anything can happen online, I was sharing my experience with grooming, please do not invalidate that traumatising experience that happened to me.
• c i n n a m o n • Because they're too busy telling young women to not trust young men when the road goes both ways. A health teacher literally told us at some point that we'd abuse a girl and to this day, the shit he said disgusts me
@Kiwi Kiwi bruh why did he even say that like- does he not have self respect? Did he just admit that he’s an offender since he’s a man right? And the dude just said that men abuse a girl at one point 👁👄👁
It’s similar to using gods name in vain witch is different than saying Jesus Christ or what people usually say it means using god to your bad or evil advantage just like churches in the mideval times where they say if you give me Thai much amount of money I will forgive all your sins
Same. Im catholic and their is a huge problem with pedophilia in the catholic. Church it really sucks that people can call themselves fearful of god and still do this kind of shit.
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Sometimes you can have no idea what’s happening for a long time. Sometimes you can realise what’s happening right from the get-go, but even then you still don’t know how to escape. There are so many different kinds of situations where sexual abuse can happen, and it can happen to anyone. Males, females, children, adults. It can happen in a workplace, in a school, in your own home. I can’t believe this still happens. It’s really not okay. I’m glad we have people like you raising awareness about these kinds of things.
Finally, a well animated story time channel that doesn’t make fake stories about 6 year old kids getting impregnated by their dog. But in all seriousness, this really shows that men can get groomed and abused by woman. Abuse is never ok and I’m glad to see that this video shows that even men can get assaulted and not just woman. Abuse is never ok, and if you are a victim of it, please tell someone you trust. Even if it seems like no one will believe you, there’s always someone holding you back. Edit: how and why did this get attention?
This is animated very well. This is the sort of things schools should show. They always show only women in these situations and the videos are always such a poor quality.
The abusers looked hurt about why the person they were coaxing would suddenly turn on them when they were going so long without saying anything. It's a minor detail, but one I greatly appreciated that was included. Sometimes that final breaking point can make you seem like you were over reacting and being rude or it may even seem like it's your fault for leading them on in the first place. It's a guilt wrenching and confusing experience for victims, but the thing is no one should ever go along with something they're not comfortable with.
Because of it before seeing this I am happy that I have perminantly left those kind of groups who were literally on purpose sending porn stickers and gifs to the group chats and I have never ever ever ever ever watched it and will never watch it it is disgusting I think that they were trying to make me and other people who never watched these kind of stuff try to make us be like them like a bunch of wild animals who have never seen women's and men's before and I am never going back there cause those people literally crossed my boundaries multiple times and tried to groom me into them. 😒🤢
I may not be a victim myself but I feel like I’ve experienced and seen all kinds of incredibly uncomfortable stuff to understand that topics like rape and sexual abuse are no joke anymore.
this. but it’s also important not to paint everyone of these groups as abusers. there are members of every group who are abusers, and members of every group who aren’t
You know what happens a lot? When a man gets touched in a way that makes them uncomfortable, people call it seduction. When it happens to a woman, its sexual harassment. Double standards are the worst, it’s sexual harassment no matter who you are and who its from.
For real. I hate when i go to hang out with my friends in a bar, and some woman starts to touch my upperbody, just cause "i'm a guy and i don't have anything to touch there". Or when they are open to sex but kind of 'forcing it' on me. Like what the actual fuck. Then when i'm uncomfortable and tell them to stop or i don't want it, they call me gay(as if it would be a bad thing anyways lmao🤷🏻♂️). They would say i'm not a real man too. Fucked up as hell.
Everyone can be an abuser and everyone can be a victim. No boundary can negate. Gender, race, religion, etc. does not have any weight in the situation when it comes down to sexual abuse or rape. It is the same of course for other variety of situations but since it’s on the topic of sexual assault and grooming, that’s the situation I’m emphasizing.
As a person who was groomed and sexually assaulted in boyscouts by an older troop member. Im glad I got out of it and pushed away before anything worse happened
I’m really appreciative that this video is focusing more on grooming more rather than indirectly implying other untrue things like “gay people are predators” or “men are less likely to be abused”, unlike some other videos.
Yeah it sucks how easily a woman can get away with it. The media would just say "oh he liked it" or "oh he didn't care until he was found out". That shit grinds my gears.
Grooming can happen to adults. It happened to me at my last job(I was 31/32 at the time).This 55 year old man who worked in the deli told me that he saw me as more than a friend, after having friendly conversations and giving me little gifts or money. I told my bosses who told him to stay away from me, but he didn't listen. I told my dad, who's a 6' 4" grizzly bear of a trucker, and he came to my work one day(I was on my lunch break when he came). When the guy came in for his shift, he immediately came to me and tried to give me money, but I insisted that he keep it. When he got to the backroom, my boss took him back where my dad was waiting, and he told my dad that he was a "Christian man who believed in marriage before sex", which made my dad furious and he tried to play dumb and said he was "a little slow" when my dad told him I had said I didn't see him the way he saw me and that the gifts and money giving made me uncomfortable. He warned him that if he didn't stay away from me, period, that the law would get involved. He pretty much quit his job in the deli after that. But about a month later, he showed up at church one Sunday, and my mom and I sat as far away from him as we could get. He testified in church saying that he wanted to thank his "Good friend Lauren" for encouraging him to go to church again and said that he'd been sick for a while and asked the church to pray for him to get better. After the service, my mom and I were going to a baptism later that afternoon and we were waiting on our friends to finish up so we could all hang out until it was time to go to the baptism. Well, old Herbert the pervert came up behind me while I was talking to my friends and placed a hand on my shoulder, asking how I was and acting like he never confessed his feelings to me a month ago. I tensed up, but I never said a word and kept my back to him. He said he was ready to talk whenever I was and walked off. My friends noticed how tense I was and my face was almost paper white and I was shaking(he came to church the Sunday before he told me that he loved me and when we were getting ready to leave, he told my mom and I that he didn't want any of the kids near his van because he had "weapons of self defense" in there). My mama told my friend's dad what was going on and asked if he could distract him while we made our way to the car. He tried to follow us, but my friend's dad insisted that they go out the other door. Thankfully my mama and I were in her car, doors locked, etc., when he stepped outside and looked around like he was looking for us. After that we filed for an order of protection and we came to the agreement that he he would not be allowed at our church, the grocery store where I was working, or anywhere near me. I've changed jobs since then, but the whole thing scared me so bad, that I never leave my house without my pepper spray or pocket knife. Thankfully I haven't seen hide or tail or him, and I hope it stays that way
I hate that straight men are supposed to “be happy” about getting touched. Or supposed to “enjoy it”. I’m not straight, but that sounds really uncomfortable.
I really though men like being touched like that because of all those meme but I started to interact with many male friends of mine, and I came to understand they are also very uncomfortable and don't like it. Those meme make me very uncomfortable now.
Exactlyyy, it’s like straight people have self control and the capacity to feel uncomfortable is certain sexual situation, they shouldn’t feel forced to enjoy something they don’t.
>supposed to “be happy” wrong. you can choose to be happy that you're getting laid and you can choose to say no and smack the person who is trying to *ehssooolt* you
i remember the days of '19 when i was last a straight male... but in all seriousness, since im not out to much people i will very likely get this and i hope noone else does
I hate how male victims of female abusers are ignored or called lucky it’s disgusting and cruel to treat abuse victims that way, I’m so sorry for those who went through that only to be invalidated after the abuse
They are especially not as much to talked about like women are because people think that men can't be assaulted or get raped or attacked by a woman but I think it's possible whatever the gender of the person is anyone is capable of harming someone else
Yeah because even though more often than not it's a woman experiencing abuse or being assaulted men get abused and manipulated and assaulted as well And it's really sad when people say that you're either supposed to man up or if a woman is doing it that's just her flirting with you and you're just "supposed to like it" It's the double standard for me
My school has to show videos about stuff like this every year. But, it had a VERY negative effect on the actual point. Everyone was making jokes like “your gonna be my next victim” “COACH IS THAT YOU?” and I just wish they showed these videos instead. As the characters don’t look funny nor the voices. I just really needed to get this out. Great work with these videos.
I had an abusive stepmom last year who would sexually harass me whenever she drank. My father didn’t do anything about it so I eventually I stood up to her on my own and now she’s out of my life. It doesn’t matter if you’re a man or a woman, abuse is abuse and it shouldn’t be accepted no matter who commits it. Thanks for showing that men can be victims as well as women can.
I’m glad the female abuser just looks like an average woman and not a gross monster. Never understood why in these situations in fiction women had to be inhumanly ugly or else you couldn’t justify a man not enjoying their advances. Her approach also isn’t overly creepy, just a tender kiss, but he is still completely justified in not liking it.
I unfortunately was groomed when I was 11 to 12 by a 20 something year old man on discord.. He gained trust and manipulated and talked about..explicit stuff with me and all that stuff..I knew it was wrong and I was so scared. But I didn’t tell anyone because at the same time I cared about him.. I *trusted* him. One day when I turned 12 I finally had enough of what he was doing to me and so I left a server he put me in , unfriended him and blocked him. I’m so glad I could get myself out of that situation and I’m glad nothing happened to me physically..though the disgusting shit he talked about and said to me and asked me to do (obvi refused) still sticks with me.. Though I’m free now :))
You did good,some people gets in things like that for years ..the 20 something category Is usually the manipulator one ..i had a chat friend like that , a girl ..so involved , sweet and supportive ( and needy but you know , She seemed so pure and sweet )and all but It was fake , She gradually showed herself as narcissist ,putting sexual stuff i didnt want to talk about in chat , like A LOT, and was gross stuff ..then i became depressed and She said She would not care of my problems ( i wanted to talk you know ..) ..i ignored her for two years then She texted , i replied something cold and generic but She had blocked me ( tricking me into thinking She was in danger , i checked and She werent ) .some people want a friend , others want a pet
Doesn't matter about what gender you are, female, male, or other. Anybody can be a sexual abuser so the only one you have to look out for yourself, it's really hard to think everyone is a good person. And I'm glad this channel we address what kind of abusers they are and what genders this is a real good channel.
i find this a little bit funny because in a lot of languages, objects are given genders for example, in ancient latin, the word for table (mesa) is feminine but yeah otherwise youre correct
As a male victim of child sex trafficking I appreciate the message this sends. Some demons refuse to let you escape. But with knowledge and preparation and the comfort to know someone understands comes the strength to resist. Sometimes resistance is impossible. It's forgiveness of one's self that can allow for healing. Anyone who has been abused...you are wonderful and beautiful and it's going to be ok. Never blame yourself and always know there is a second chance....feeling lost is natural, we all walk down roads that are filled with many surprises, both good and bad. Sometimes you will reach a tree fallen on the road and not know where to go. Turn back? Climb over? Take a turn? It's confusing ..no one path is perfect for everyone ..but don't ever give up. Seek comfort In family, friends, and compatriots. Those who love you will stay those who don't will leave. Most importantly of all don't let anyone make you lose sight of your true self...losing yourself and becoming someone else to suit another's whimsy is a true hell forgetting who you are.....it can be a lifelong journey to rediscover your true self ...just never lose sight of who you are. We love you. The whole internet 100s of thousands of people we got your back so yeah. Abuse victims...you never give up. Never ever ever.
Well, for me it's more of the prossess of waiting. I heard from some documentary that your cells die out and grow in new ones so that in seven years, it'll technically be a body that your abuser never touched.
@@Brunette_2005 I get your argument about some men saying that stuff and its absolutely wrong, especially since most of them probably haven't veen through it. But these experiences deserve to be talked about for both genders. It doesn't do anyone justice to put victims down or try to argue who has it worse. So its a good thing both are being talked about here.
Yep my step dad who was catholic & then changed to Baptist and attends the church wanted to have sex with me. Me, my mom & brother are Evangelicals. I asked to borrow money to finish my pays for school & he said he would let me if I have sex with him. I always knew I never felt right around him & I’m 22. When I told my mom she was surprised. When my family heard either half believed me or half thought I was making it up. Idk why they are attached to him like why just because he’s baptist like y’all & my family like a different part of Christianity?
@@shaunibabe1 religion was and still is an escape from reality, biologically we are an animal like any other, and people are too afraid to accept that, and so people create gods that supposedly will take you to an afterlife, because accepting we are all fleshy machines for being born, reproducing and dying is just too hard i don't expect to be agreed with, but the truth is right here in your face
My dad works a 11pm to 7am work shift and he always is trying to catch up on sleep. When me and my brother were little there was a lady who worked for our school that always asked my dad if she could baby sit us. My dad mentioned her being very insistant and rather uncomfortable in her constant asking, so my dad never agreed to let her take care of us because of that off vibe she gave. We recently saw on the news that this women was now being sentenced to prison for multiple child abuse crimes. Kinda makes me wonder what could of happened.
Your dad has ultra instinct and you’re lucky for that. I’m glad you dodged a bullet there. It’s terrible what she did and I’m glad those victims got at least some justice.
I like the mention of the “every guy’s dream, right?” idea. So many sexual abuse victims that are male are told that it’s a boy’s fantasy, especially when a male student is abused by a female teacher. Not only are they downplaying the seriousness of the abuse, but they’re also glorifying it, which is truly awful.
@@memesdear2323 Bro look at the comment section there are idiots saying that the boys were lucky and they want to have that happen to them too I swear.
I love this channel, it shows others what people think while they r being harassed, and unfortunately i have been harased like this before. People just say" oh. Its just the past, get over it"but i cant, everyday i think about it, its hard to let go of something that really traumatized you, it stresses me out alot.
@@omransaeed1988 mmh, yeah maybe because there's still too much people that think that only women can be abused?? And that if a woman abuses a male then its a privilege??... and that's why we're commenting about it more than 8,000+ times??? So we can change the mind of people like that?
I was sexually abused by my girlfriend and it really helps to see stories about how men were sexually abused. A lot of people don’t believe me whenever I talk about it because I’m a guy. Even my own parents were skeptical of what happened when I told them. Please respect all sexual abuse victims! It’s really important.
I'm so sorry for you dude, a lot of men get sexually abused and don't get enough attention. People don't realize that men also get sexually abused or raped and it's really sad. Hope you're ok dude 👍
@@Harlem55 Do you feel comfortable writing this comment? Especially on people talking about their abuse? You're okay with that? Just saying people's trauma is their own fault? You haven't gone through their exact experience and cannot say what isnt and what is true even if you've gone through something similar.
So glad that you guys established a female abusers, not many people believe females can be predators/pedophiles too and I'm glad your educating people!
@@CybrV-1 yes you'd be suprised at the amount of people who believe that, I dont have any form of a link but based on American data of police reports of sexual assault (men reporting there female abusers) cops dont believe them. If u want u can check more in that.
Bmgyu. Look at the comment section of any news story of a female teacher that’s been arrested for statutory rape. You will find plenty of men and women who say that the kid should consider himself lucky.
As a Christian, seeing a church leader groom another person is like watching a demon without a disguise. I pray that this stuff with abuse and grooming will be over.
I feel so bad for the rep that awful people give genuine Christians and Catholics. Majority of those religions are made up of kind, compassionate, and decent human beings. Everyone who wishes harm on others for being different and/or having different beliefs are not true christians/catholics.
@winsley ocampo I get it's part of your religion but there are people who don't see lucifer in that light and it is disrespectful to them to compare lucifer to someone as disgusting as sexual abuse
I saw a video talking about a manga wich was about a boy that was abused by woman and he had PTSD and that things, AND THE COMMENT SECTION WAS COMPLETLY FULL OF PEOPLE SAYIN "it should been me, not him", so im glad they have put woman abusers in this video.
People complaing this is getting recommended to them, but honestly this is a really good video and I'm glad it got recommended to me, it deserves to be shared and known
Grace T because it’s worlds less common. But it does happen. and there has to be some significant power difference: in this instance she was his boss and much older.
@@AvacadoChan is it tho ? I mean, there are a lot of way to abuse someone, and women are more likely to be believed contrary to the men. I sometimes hear how the abusives women threaten to tell the police that the men abuse them if they fight back. I don't really know how many men are abused, but the number is probably higher than what we know.
Here’s a quote i found from someone “If you found a church that isn’t for you, a church that seems to be corrupted, a church that allows these stuff that is clearly against the word of God, a church that is blasphemy, a church that has leaders who aren’t they are supposed to be… You are allowed to walk away from that church, you can freely leave, But one thing.. *Don’t walk away from Christ/God :)*
“Hey Kids, there’s nothing more cool than being hugged by someone you like. But if someone touches you in a place or way that makes you feel uncomfortable, That’s No Good.”
It's a question of power. Power corrupts, no matter how people in charge will call themselves and on base of what will consider themselves more powerful- be it political or commerctial hierarchy, money, age or gender/race
@@loospylinda465 I think what they are trying to say is people take the notion of power to their heads and that it corrupts people to doing things into manipulating others. Or at least thats how I took it.
This. Enough with the "Don't get in stranger's cars" and "Go to a trusted adult if someone touches you". Those are good lessons, of course, but sexual abuse often flies under the radar because children often don't understand that someone that they trust can hurt them. Also, kudos for pointing out female predators as well. You'd think that after Myra Hindley people would promote female sexual abuse more...
Yeah, I feel like sometimes this topic isn't really covered by teachers and parents. With my parents, they never really talked much about stuff online, just the normal "don't get into cars" or "don't walk alone". Other then that, all they did was not let me go outside with friends or get social media. Even to this day I only have RU-vid and Discord. I feel like schools do a better job at telling you to stay safe online, but the messages they're trying to tell are still very repetitive. All they talk about is cyber bullying and talking to strangers. Even then, they still don't really explain how people can try to manipulate you for nudes, groom you, sext you, or anything like that. These topics should at least be brought into kids' attention so that they can at least realise that stuff like this can and does happen. They should at least teach stuff like this in high school or grade 8
