Guarding Your Heart in Marriage 

Solid words my brother if more men would take that approach then they would fall into less temptations.

I did this just cause of how he would talk about women in general. I was more so careful about who put their hand on my head.

Yes, it's important to be aware of people that put their hands on you, especially in areas of the laying on of hands during prayer.

I had to do the same for my son. Did not want him growing up around this type of mentality

This!!!

Amen

Amen sister in Christ

Amen.

I fell in love with and married someone who no one could have told me anything other than she “loved Jesus.” She did me worse than any other woman other than the woman before her that I could have sworn loved Jesus.

Amen

Profound and anointed.

Thissssssss!

@chris but why you not married tho? Ha What’s good! I’m 12 years down and 4 kids deep ikr? but I’m saying …what if marriage is the place when everything that you been putting before that decision is granted..

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Amen.

That's a whole word!!!

Right!!! Just yesterday I was telling my husband just how unromantic he is, yet I've heard from my family and friends just how fortunate I am to have a husband that is so responsible. My goodness, Holy Spirit is calling me to order at this point because he's currently sleeping and I'm mad at him for something else 🥺 Let me go cuddle with my man 🫣😅😊🩷

Yeah, yet the flip side of that, WE are paying bills...

Disappointment without healing (thyself) and/or communication and/or therapy.

Why can’t he be both?

I think when you get married there should be an understanding that the marriage is between God and the TWO! No excuse..deal with those wounds and weakness!

Exactly its a little man or women that's getting in their feeling because they didn't get what they want.

I think in some cases that's certainly true. However in some cases that hurt is also tied to an unsafe feeling/ memory. Not condoning. Just saying sometimes it's a tantrum, but sometimes you are running for your life and as you're looking back over your shoulder you run into that trap the enemy say on the corner for you. Regardless of what it is my God can get you to an honorable place.

@FG but God sees our sin the same, our reasons just as petty. I think some self righteousness comes in when we think our reasons for sin are more reasonable than other people's reason for sin. We tend to use a different measuring stick for our own sins and reasons for sins than the measuring stick we use on the sins that others commit to our hurt.

@@lbee8247 oh I never said anything alluding to this sin being somehow worse than others I just simply said this is how I felt about it. Of course sin is sin and wrong is wrong but breaking a spiritual and legal vow you made to God and your spouse because they hurt your feelings is still childish to me. Again not saying it's a worse sin. All sin is the same

I feel you..Im laughing.

This is so true. In hindsight Christ died in order to mend our relationship with God the father. The thought of how relationships are hard with our fellow beings, should point us to the cross.

So true!!!😄😄

Gold 🤣

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Yeah very interesting. Thanks for sharing Jackie

Yes! Very ❤

I’m married & do this whenever my husband wrongs me…..I know I really need to stop

YES!

And very true lol

That made me laugh too😂

I love his BOLDNESS.

Truth! Learnt that the hard way...

Praying for you and your marriage🙏🏾. God can do ANYTHING!!

Yup same … but I met him when I was in the world …

@@ae7091 Amen

@tamika Love I am saved and my husband is not. On top of that my husband was raised as an only child and on top of that he doesn't feel remorse, is grandiose in all that he believes of himself, never sees anything wrong in himself, lacks empathy and everything he does is for show. We have been married for over 25 + years. God saved me in our first year of marriage. But I can say God has filled my heart with the love of Christ for him. And continues to. I am surrounded with healthy, godly relationships. We have raised amazing, now adult, children. I stayed on my knees praying and I still pray. I messed up a lot. I left a lot in the beginning, even after being saved. But I would never leave now. My joy is in Christ. And I have more than I deserve. My husband has been a blessing inspite of himself. I pray you can have the love of Christ. The forgiveness of Christ. My children don't have to be split between us on holidays. We show up together in all their needs and events. My husband was a good father. He had issues but he was present and God used his grandiose personality to bless the children. We stayed together and we are building a legacy. Divorce hurts the whole world and the whole world is better when we choose loving others more just like Jesus instead of being self focused like the world. It is hard but being conformed to the image of Christ is a painful process that leads to real joy.

Okay!!!!

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Whew it was heavy.

A whole word

This was sooo true and sound

It’s true. We have a sense of the general ideas we may or may not discuss but we go into it really open to how it’ll all play out. - Jacke

This is the comment!!

Yes! Most cheaters are just awful people who have no character.

I agree with you.

Well no wife is perfect so there will be someone who may be better than you in some areas. You may be patient, she may be more patient. Just one example . Still no excuse to cheat. God does not excuse cheating even on a bad spouse

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Right. Most wives arent lacking anything, like u said a lot of the men want more.

Amen

This a hit 🎯,This what I was trying to say but it came out in rage ,Lord help me to good to my Boaz

Praying for you. The devil wants to see your marriage destroyed...pray as you learn, the Holy Spirit will help you to implement the changes on your own attitude and action that will change the atmosphere. Not easy.

Praying you and your spouse take this lesson & do the work together. Also pray yall get a support system of friends that can help guide & give strength where it's needed 🙏

Changed to what area? Making u rethink marriage?

You are blessed to have nuggets like this to lean on...TRUST ME!! Keep close to God and take all this in and guard your mind and protect your spouse-to-be and your marriage.

Recommend that you start praying for your husband...Try Stormie O Martian' s Power of a Prsying Wife

I'm too in this same battle . 😢

My heart is with you. What did you mean by “my spouse seems to be assigned to operate for the God that’s against me?” Only say what you’re comfortable with and feel led to share. I asked so I know how to pray with you.

I understand you but this conversation has brought me to start from the source :ask God to talk to you about the situation and reveal to you your own heart …

Praying for you and your spouse! Praying that God will continue to strengthen you in your relationship! Congratulations!!!

I hope there’s an update of victory for you!! And if you could let us know how to pray if this area has still been a stumbling block

@@christianmari87 Hey so update! So since getting married, God has opened a new world for me and my wife to experience the beauty and ecstasy of marriage. It’s truly amazing ✝️💜In regard to my lust struggles, I was clean from lust issues about 4 months in, then I let my gaurd down a couple times and got hit with every temptation you could think of (it was quite the spiritual attack). I fell short once and from that point on, the gap got smaller and smaller. From months apart it turned into weeks..etc.. I willingly opened that door again and I definitely wish I hadn’t. But I always find myself getting back up and praise God I have a loving and supporting wife who keeps it real with me but also shows me grace as I navigate and learn through this journey. So yes, still a prayer request i can definitely use more self-control with my eyes.

@@knelson2019 Thank you ! God has definitely strengthened me and my wife in our relationship. I’ve seen both of us grow in ways like never before and it’s a real beautiful thing🙏🏽

@@Babyboy_Matt praise God!!!! 🙌🏽 🏃🏽‍♀️ He is Good! This just made me so happy to hear! Pray for me and my husband, as we are almost 6 years in and the enemy is trying to entrap with lust as a coping mechanism for things experienced with family, church hurt, job loss, etc. We are physically separated but emotionally still together and want to come back, but there are things to work on for both sides. There is a calling to ministry and I want to see it come to fruition

Same 🥴🥴🥴

Ditto!

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THIS!! 🤍 they give me u gotta feed my mind vibee loveee 😭 LOVEE IT SO MUCH!! An example of when God is in the middle…

@@miiotv Yes Lord!

She didn't

@@Gintoki_Madao she did multiple times.

If the man loves, submission will come naturally i believe

Amen Jazzi

Amen Jazzi

So did I!!!! 😀

@@erikataylor5286 GET IT!!! 😍