Having A Transgender Child: Parent's Perspective 

Now I understand why Jamie is such a little ray of sunshine! His parents are just as warm 💛

omg this is soo cute! thinking about sending this to my parents who are not quite as supportive

I absolutely love Jamie’s parents. So kind, thoughtful, intelligent, articulate and caring. I wish every trans kid or adult had parents like Christine & Malcolm Raines. I’ve shared this video with at least 4 friends whose kids are going through transition in the USA, where parental attitudes towards sexuality & gender can be so much harder for parents to address or accept. Jamie, please know how much you & your parents have helped other trans kids, teens & adults…

THEIR ACCENTS.

Your parents are so precious. Seeing their support and unconditional love for their child is so sweet

I’m a mum, and i hope I can be as wonderful as your parents!!! These are what parents should be. I teach my kids that gender isn’t just black and white, we are open about sexuality and LGBTQ+ (age appropriate) I want them to know I will love them for who they are, and who they choose to love.

this was so cute!! your parents are so sweet, and i love how positive they are ❤️

I love this video, and your parents are amazing!! Thank you for bringing this perspective to us!! 💋

I love all your videos. They're so wholesome!!! And I also love your parents' accent

your parents are so lovely!! i'm so happy for you that you have such amazing parents!

Also did anyone else get to 09:05 before realising there was a dog behind them?! 😂

Your parents are adorable. I send hugs to you all.

I love that they say that they had to learn the CORRECT name and pronoun, many people talk about "prefered" names and pronouns but like, it's not prefered, it's YOUR pronoun

My child came out to me recently. I can’t express how happy I am to have found you. And your parents are my goals. 💕❤️💕

WHEN YOUR DAD DID THE LITTLE KISS THING AT YOUR MUM AT THE START MY HEART EXPLODED THEY'RE THE CUTEST LIL COUPLE MY GOOOOD

Why can't all parents be like yours, the world would be such a better place

Wow man I’m early. My brother came out as trans FTM two months ago and told me to watch your videos because you were the main reason that he was able to come out and realise who he is

Parents who FitBit together, stay together. *Iconic*

It seems to be a recurring theme in the stories of parents talking about their responses to their kids coming out that they are afraid by how other people will treat their kid, not always actually judgmental of their kid's identity.

Your parents are AMAZING! What a sweet & kind couple! I see who you get your genuinely caring, friendly, & kind personality from Jammi- both of your parents! They’re so supportive & just amazing! I can’t get over it! You’ve been truly blessed!

I’m surprised Jamie doesn’t have a slight Scottish accent cos his parents are very clearly Scottish! They’re really open minded 👍🏻

These straights are very ok

I legit started crying during this because both of my brothers are trans, the older only out to me(we work at the same place and he wanted to be out to our coworkers) and my younger brother is out to everyone but my father because he's very homophobic and we're all very anxious of how he's react but your mom reminds me of my mom and it gives me hope that they'll both grow up to lead happy lives like you have been able to! Thank you for all your videos❤❤❤

I love your parents, they're so nice

Your parents are utterly adorable, sweet and supportive. And the way that they are looking at each other while talking, they seem genuinely in love. That's so nice and lovely to see nowadays.

ok but why is nobody talking about the dog?

Are your parents from Scotland? I absolutely adore their accent!

Your parents seem very in sync with eachother. Very comfortable. Nice to watch.

So beautiful...I’m binge watching for my nephew. I love him more than life and I want to be his biggest support 😘😘

Omg they are so gorgeous I feel like I just want to give them a hug 😍 Your mom seems so confident in what she's saying. She admits her concerns and her fears but nonetheless is incredibly supportive. I wish ALL parents were like that!

Oh no! The people who disliked had their phones upside down!

They are charming and this is very helpful. My 13 year old daughter (assigned male at birth) came out to us a month ago. 🥰

Your parents are so supportive. My mum is in her own way supportive of me being a lesbian. But it's honestly a bit insulting to me. She says things like. Well even if you turn out to be gay, I'm okay with that, but I don't think you can know until you've been in a relationship with a girl. I'm still in an early stage of coming out and I feel very awkward when I talk about it, so I find it difficult to tell my mom that I really am gay.

Thank you, from the parent of a young woman just starting her transition. You are very reassuring!

As a trans-parent, I would also advise other trans-parents to tune out the political and religious nonsense, and read up as much as possible on the scientific/medical journal articles on trans. They will relieve you of any guilt you may have, as science understands this phenomenon to be either 100 percent genetic or a result of a hormone surge in the uterus during fetal development. But do your own medical/ scientific research; it helps a lot.

As a parent of a newly "out" mtf, I am relating to your parents so much!

You’re parents are amazing. I’m straight and cisgender but I’ve heard some horror stories from people I know and your family is just amazing

Oh. Are your parents scottish? They are the best case for parents of trans people where we cant expect them to fully understand straight away but they do fully support and try to learn. My parent are like that so i know how awesome it feels and how lucky we are

i’m a ftm and i’m not out yet i am 13 and felt like in my life there was something missing i felt like i was jealous of the boys playing football i was always “tom boy” but as i got older i really wanted to cut my hair like my brother i really wanted to wear boys clothes and sound like one then after a lot of googling i found out i am transgender

I would send this to my transphobic dad but he doesn't speak english

Your parents really ought to host a support group for other parents of children who are transgender and especially who recently have come out to their parents.

I’m all teary...Jamie your parents are so sweet 💖. I’m cis & my mother manipulated me my whole life & lied to stop me being me, it’s so damaging, hence we never told my mum that my daughter is gay, I didn’t want my daughter to experience the toxicity of my mother. My mother has now died.

In my language we don't differentiate between men and women when we call them, we use the same word for her and him which is "ő".

Whenever your parents said, “birth gender” I heard “Boss gender” xP

Your parents are lovely and warm! So glad you had/have such loving support.

They're soooo sweet!

I wish my mom would be accepting of my non-binary identity 😔 (idk what my dad would say, I’m not out to him)

Your parents are so understanding and amazing iam so happy they have supported you since day one :))

Coming to this two years later ..With every question, they answer as your parents-support, worry, happiness. You aren't just any person, you are their child.. Amazing family!!

OMG your parents are Scottish??? 😍 they are so nice btw

I get so sad and jealous when i see parents like this. its good that there are many parents like that, but... im just so sad that my parents can't be like this.

So wholesome. Every trans or NB youth deserves these loving accepting, concerned parents.

do your parents wear matching watches? that's so sweet!

omg it took me an embarrassing amount of time to notice the dog

Your parents are absolute sweethearts! I have no idea why anyone would dislike the video. On a side note, your dad really reminds me of the talking bust from Art Attack! I can't remember what he was called haha!

the pup sleeping at the back of the couch throughout the whole video tho??

Ok, when they look at each other and Dad gives the nod and blows the kiss....that's freaking adorable and definite relationship goals 😍

This may sound awful and I don’t mean it to be but your dad looks like the head statue from art attack 😂😂

I think most transgender people would be proud or gland to have parents like Jamie's and a big brother like Gordon.

I can’t get over the fact that his Dad looks like Head from Art Attack

More people should be like this well done mum and dad.... if all parents were like this id see far less kids come into my care. A lot of my foster kids have been kids kicked out after coming out as gay or lesbian. Just recently ive had a child tell me that he is not a little girl but a little boy so over the last year ive been watching several trans people on you tube to learn the best way to help this little one.

*me just trying to figure out where their accents are from:* I think your dad has a Scottish accent... and your mom's is Scottish or Irish... can't be sure tho lol I just know it ain't county Cork cuz I can understand them XD actually... Dutch?? maybe Welsh?? actually idrk what a Welsh accent sounds like lol y'know what I'll conclude Scottish XD also THE LITTLE DOGGO HAGSDFKJHSGDS SO ADORABLE and so are your parents lol

Top notch parents and top notch parenting right here - That's just fantastic, I'm so happy for you Jaimie, and I wish for all other trans people to have parents who can be understanding and happy for their kids like yours.

Whoa. There is no questioning that your dad is very much your biological father.

Your parents are so cute and so open minded. I wish I had parents like that. Not that they're not open minded, but... y'know. I'm not trans, but I have wanted to look more non-binary than I currently do. I present as female, use female pronouns (for the most part) and I have no issue with male or gender neutral pronouns. I'm not sure how my mom would take it. My dad, however many issues him and I have had, would probably be willing to talk it through with me. IDK. I'm just really confused and not sure.

I've probably watched this video 3 times by now. Your parents just seem so genuine and kind, and they obviously love you so much. It's really encouraging to see how accepting and proud they are of you. (Also, seeing Benji being a cutie-pie in the background is a bonus. Such a good boy!) I'm still debating on if I'll ever come out to my parents. On one hand, I know they hold a lot of transphobic sentiments, mostly because of their conservative religion. On the other hand, I also know most of their knowledge on trans people is founded on misunderstanding, and that despite our ideological differences, they love me a lot. I used to be adamant about "oh, I'll just never ever tell them" but now I'm at least starting to consider it. In a safe, "write a letter, leave it in their mailbox in the middle of the night, and then turn off my phone for 3 days while they process it" sort of way, lol Watching videos of how your loved ones are so encouraging and accepting makes me feel better as I'm starting to let some of my friends find out, and your videos in general have been a lifesaver for a baby trans. Also, I *swear* I am capable of writing comments that are less rambly, over-sharing, and emotional. Theoretically. Maybe. My point here was that your parents are good and deserve all the good things in the world. :)

omg my mom kinda had the same point about having worries as a parent, she told me that has a parent you're just worried for your child because you want them to be happy and be treated well and you don't want them to come to harm, so worried in that way. I love seeing other parents say that.

Yess they're Scottish! 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿 Me too ❤️

I really like how you deal with the whole transgender thing. You're not an attention seeker, you just want to inform people about the issue and its real meaning and live a happy life as a man. Good for you

this video is pure

Damn :’) sometimes I wish my parents were like yours, great throwback video

What is your birth name but if you feel uncomfortable don’t answer bc I’m transgender and I’m only a kid

Now I know why Jamie turned out so well. Nice job, mom and dad!

Why is everyone in this family so wholesome?!

i wish my parents were as accepting as yours...mine think it's an "idea" or something I "chose" to be. they keep telling me to Pray pray pray. I'm so sick of it. I always felt like a boy. ALWAYS. Back in the day i had no idea how to express it or tell anyone about it. I followed gender roles because i wanted to be accepted into society even though i did not feel comfortable. I do plan to talk about this more in one of my first videos but i like have a shity camera or my webcam on my laptop. it's a slow start ik. I also feel scared to even show my face. I will try my best to start an LGBTQ+ safe space on my channel. If anyone would like to help me out with tips and advice i would love that!

Your parent are so cute. I wish ppl in my country have educated minds like this

Wow, it's wonderful that you have supportive and open-minded parents :3 They seem so friendly and intelligent. I would like to be that kind of parent to my children someday 😊

Your parents are wonderful! You can see how they are a team as parents and I love your dad dropping the words your mom tries to paint emotionally. Also: SCOTTISH ACCENT 😍😍😍

I think if your parents are willing they should provide some form of contact so that other parents could discuss this with them because they are so open, understanding and very intelligent about it which really impressed me.

OMG!! I didn’t know your parents are Scottish. This made my day 😍 (I’m from Scotland myself)

The world needs more people like this.

Your parents are so sweet! It's really lovely to see supportive parents plus they have great accents! I wonder what made them so open to your transition; like were they raised that way or develop their views later in life before you came out. In my experience I've seen a lot of resistance with older parents and individuals.

These parents sound lovely.

They are so cute!! And you look so much like your mum, especially when she smiles :) x

I just luv your parents 😘

This is so great on how supportive your parents are. Seeing them being open minded and having a genuine concern for your happiness is awesome. Love you Jamie!

Thought I'd share this with my parents. (I'm trans too) Did not go down well at all. They were just super eager for the video to be over. Sigh. I often feel they're just humouring me and just want to avoid the subject. We didn't even get through the whole video. D=

I'm astounded by how much you look like your dad

Crazy stuff - recognise you from college and recognise your mum from my uni !! Small world 🌍 such beautiful family

Your parents are fantastic, no wonder you grew up to be a great guy. The world needs more kind, compassionate and intelligent people like yourselves. Thank you for all of your work sharing your experiences and helping others.

ive seen some videos with parents of trans kids where they seem apprehensive to talk even though they supported their child, idk why they do that and theres no shame bc theres tons of reasons, but it was really nice to see parents who were extremely at ease and talked so extensively. i think thats really helpful to parents of trans folks to see. also i didnt expect the scottish accents i love it!!! love mr and mrs raines

Oh my heart. These are real parents. Only consern about a transgender child is how the world treats them.. only love here. I wish all the best for your parents!

Oh shit! I wanna ask my parents these questions now!

Jamie, your parents sound *delightful*.

Omg you look JUST LIKE your dad! So cute. Your family is lovely

Wow, Jamie and his family are wonderful people! 😁🥹

This is how all parents should react. This is what parents should be. It's disgusting that any parent would shame, harm or disown their own kid for being LGBT. These two are such winners.

can your parents be my parents too?? hahah theyre wonderful :) great video! thanks for sharing

There’s a man in my office who I think is seeing his child transition, female to male. I’ve asked him about it and he doesn’t seem to believe in it. He says he just avoids all pronouns and calls them by a nickname. The frustrating thing is that I only see this guy’s perspective of this so my suspicions may be entirely wrong and really it’s none of my business, I’ve never met the kid. I’d love to see him embrace what’s happening rather than avoid it.

Wow they are really supportive... I came out to my mom and her first major worry was the money lol. She doesn't even call me by my pronouns or name and wants me to make sure this is what I want (Like I understand she wants the best, don't get me wrong. But like.. Doctor? Can we talk to someone ? Can you call me your son???) Edit: Ugh before anyone says shit thats my dead name, hey I'm Leon. This is for work/school..