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Or beeing addressed as female then you get there to pick up your order and they respond with ah yes your girlfriend ordered WELL YES DUDE I'M IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH MYSELF THAT'S WHY I ORDERED A SINGLE SMALL PIZZA.... WHYYYYYY
Kinda funny little story: Before I came out I went to a concert with my grandpa. During an intermission while the next band was getting ready to go on stage we went to the little ‘food stand’. The lady gave me and my grandpa all we asked and payed for and she says “Is that all sir” to me. I look at my grandpa to see his reaction and he looks confused -being he had no idea- then back at her. She asked “Did I get it right?” and in my head I’m screaming “SAY YES YOU IDIOT” so I do so! She smiled and nodded and says “Okay thank you, have a nice night sirs” and I walk off with my grandpa and he legit said NOTHING BAD AT ALL! So, yeah, needless to say I’m surprised and proud of my grandpa. Love your videos btw, they’re extremely funny keep it up! :)
A similar thing happened to me as well! This was with one of my mates, we were in a shop and i was looking particularly androgynous that day, we had a problem and the cashier said "this kids card isnt working they think its their bank" and i was like *yes! She said they!!* I managed to stop my freind corecting her in time by saying "im gender fluid" in his ear And thats how i came out lol
@@leopedder9528 that's so sweet! I mean, they probably weren't even thinking about it I imagine. I know when I can't tell someone's gender I just instinctively use they/them so that's probably what they were doing, but that's still awesome as heck
"So wait how do you pee?" Step 1: unzip trousers Step 2: Spin around. Step 3: Stop! Step 4: Double take three times Step 5: Then pelvic thrust! (Stop on your right foot, don't forget it!) Step 6: Now it's time to bring-it-a-round-town. Step 7: Then you do this, then this, and this, and that, and-this-and-that-and-this-and-that, and then... Step 8: pee
Awkward thing: when you know you are trans but you are not out. And someone calls you a guy or a man. And people you know, like friends and family are like looking at you, like are you going to correct them. And inside you are all like yes I pass. Double awkward when the above happens and your mom almost screams NOOOO IT'S A GIRL!!!! And then you feel all ashamed and want to dissappear.
This is way too true. I hate this. So I have a name that doesn't actually sound that feminine but definitely sounds not masculine. So one time I was on a field trip for band and one of the student teachers talked to me afterward. They asked where I got my name, was it from Ireland? I said no, it's just a name. But then one of my classmates took him aside for a moment. And I could hear them whispering "she's a girl" . And then he came over and apologized at least three times. Whyyyyyy
Ashton James nah luckily enough she now always calls me He. She still sometimes messes up and says she. But the above was like 3 years ago when I first came out. My mom was sure that it was fake.
I have a goatee and mustache now and my voice is dropped enough that I sound like a guy but my mom still refuses to accept it and introduce me as her youngest daughter and say my birth name and the people look at her very very weird. I just think about it if she wants to look stupid that's on her I don't let it bother me anymore.
When the waiter/waitress calls you sir/he/him, even when speaking... and your parent/sibling/whomever you're with calls you she/her... Happened last time I went to a restaurant with my Mom; "take *her* order first" ... The stare I gave my mom could have burned holes through her, but she didn't notice because she was looking at her menu. 😡
OliverFiles thats happens to me sm like i hate it the waiters like “sir ill take ur order” or some shit like that and since i hve anxiety and i dont like talking my moms like “she wants...” and im like 🤦🏼♂️
Actually, yeah. Relatable. I was at the thrift store and Men's pants are different price from women's pants. It's the kind of store where there aren't tags but sections with pricing. The lady rang up my men's pants from the men's section and my mom stops her and goes "oh, those are women's pants for my youngest *daughter*." Cashier apologized and priced them differently , even though they were an entire two dollars more.
Hey. I started transitioning late in life, at the age of 32. This is because I am from South Africa and transgender rights and health care is close to non-existent, unless you have a lot of money to go private. Anyways, my awkward story is this..... I completed my degrees first, the first being a paramedic and then an honors degree in nursing, I am working as a registered nurse.The respectful way to address a female RN in SA is sister. I work in a clinic in a rural area and education levels are shockingly poor, so my patient's don't understand why their sister is becoming a mister. Its funny and awkward. But I am openly trans so I educate as far as I can.
That's so interesting, I live in South Africa and to be honest I haven't heard much about "trans stuff", as in anyone around me transitioning etc, so I'm not surprised to find out that the transgender care isn't very available over here,
Yes well as you well know health care in SA is bad unless you have a great medical aid. And transgender care such as the various types of operations are not included. So it's something one must save up for and pay cash. The only government hospital that recognises trans people in SA is in Cape Town and there's a 25 year waiting list. I'm currently saving up for top surgery which is over R60000.
Oh man the pre t and switching pronouns is so awkward! I get it the other way around now when they're like "excuse me ma'am" and then I speak with a deeper voice and they're like O_o
Well, the pronouns can be akward, but imagine living in the country where the language genders you in EVERY senetence. E.g. "Did you go to the shop today?" BAM, gendered. Very different grammar for men and women. So as an ally, you literally need to focus in each sentence not to mess up while talking to your trans friend. You English speaking folks are quite lucky.
For awkward stories, I go to a small town university and there’s actually a lot of AFAB trans individuals here, but the general populace isn’t aware because the other folks were post-T when applying and had their everything changed. I’m pre-T and it’s lead to some amusing situations. “Wait... how old are you?” has been a common one, I’m only 5’2” so everybody thinks I’m a genius twelve year old. I was also a camp counsellor and everybody thought I was one of the 8 year old campers once (just tall for my age). I can’t wait to get my residents comments as an RA next year lol
I remember once I opened the door for someone and she told me I was a nice, polite young man which made my day then she asked where the toilet was when I told her she completely freaked and started calling me a young lady. Pre-t sucks
*Ordering at Starbucks or ordering food* "Can I get a name for the order?" "Yep, it's Wesley." "Okay Leslie, we'll get that right out for you." =.= EVERY TIME Or, alternately, "What's your name?" "It's Wesley" "Wesley? Wow, that's so cute!" What does that even mean???
Ah yes the legendary Starbucks effect. Saw on social media sbe : What's you're name Dude: Marc with a c Sbe : ah *Scribbles* here you go Cark Its like they're doing it on purpose
Late to the party but luckily Leslie/Lesley is gender neutral. It was my grandfather's name, my mother was Les jr. And my brother took her name by deed poll a few years ago. :) Doesn't stop it being annoying they got your name wrong though.
I had to literally run around at work to take prices, when our system went down. About half an hour in, I noticed my packer making its way down my pant leg. Literally the only time I've been grateful for having think thighs, or it probably would have made its way to my feet and I would have flung it across the store while running. As it was, it ended up looking like I had some weird, willy-shaped lump growing out of my thigh. So that was fun!
I hate when my brother always introduces me as his “sister” like boy how many times do I have to come out to you for you to understand I’m your brother smh I’m only 2 months on T and I don’t pass yet but still you know
INteresting. I ain't trans. So I don't understand fully. It would be at least supportive, even if errors to introduce you in the way you wish to. But it is interesting how much is this also down to his identity, that part of this is defined in how he relates to people around him. You say you are only 2 months on T, early day. I don't know his age he has to want to change his identity and maybe a different rate. These must be massive challenges to cross.
I'm sorry about your brother But this might make you laugh I have a plan for when my mom introduces me with my deadname My mom: I'm Casey and oh this is daughter *deadname* Me: and this is my dad Steven (my mom's name is Casey and I don't have a dad) My mom: *confused* The person who my mom's talking to: *confused* Me: jk I'm miles it's Nice to meet My mom: *still confused* Idk I thought it was funny😂😂
When I'm at school I hear people talking about me like directly behind me "is that a girl or a boy?". Generally I turn round and tell them I'm a boy (I'm nonbinary but it's just easier to say I'm a guy), but then when they see me they say something along the lines of "no you're not you look and sound like a girl". I've had people squatting on the floor to look at my face to decide whether I'm a guy or a girl and looking so proud of themselves when they 'realise I'm a girl'
Yikes, happens to me in school all the time. Worst part is I’m usually blasting my headphones as I draw (I do art 24/7) and I never knew people did that for a while until a friend told me. Like cmon, just ask!! I don’t bite lmao
People at my school would say “no you’re not. *deadname* you’re a girl. Not a boy.” And Then like ask me questions about body parts and I’ll just be like “why don’t you stop trying to guess what’s in my pants and treat me like a human. Thanks.”
This exact same thing used to happen at my school, people walking directly behind me and having a loud conversation with their friend about “it’s a boy” “no it’s a girl” “no it’s a boy look at its hair!” Like on the one hand I was happy they were confused, but on the other hand.... “it”
I'm a cab driver & I had 2 people in my cab the other day! A mother & son the mother kept says he & I was grinning like a chestshire cat & near the end of the ride the son put his hand in his mother's shoulder & said that's she mom she's a she & I turned to him & said actually she's right I am a guy & he said oh sorry u look like a girl & me having a sence of humor I said I know dam these feminine features & we all started laughing
The awkward situation where you're among a group of people some know you're trans and know your name and pronouns and others don't know you're trans because you haven't come out to them yet (specifically speaking pre t, so some people are reading you as a cis girl and others know you're a trans guy). So it's just like how do you introduce yourself?
Well my friend accidentally used the wrong pronouns for me at a Michaels and the cashier did a double take looking me up and down. It was a little teensy bit awkward lol. Great video dude
So I started a new placement/volunteering at a doggy daycare with my friend. The owner referred to us as girls, quickly looked up at me as if about to apologise to me after realising I'm actually a guy and then goes "yeah, girls" while looking proud that he said it 'correctly' the first time. It can be a tad awkward pre-T, yes. I've also yet to actually correct him due to being an awkward individual regardless of being trans. Fun.
i met some extended family members i hadn't met before and my grandma introduced me like "this is valo, formerly known as [dead name].." and i was *screaming* internally because they!! don't!! need!! that!! info!!
I still get calls from organizations or people that use my birth name and I usually stay awkwardly silent and uncomfortable before telling them “I don’t use that name anymore, but no, this isn’t a wrong number.” Also awkward, more related to being gay than trans is when random guys (like cab drivers trying to make conversation) expect me to relate to their complaining about their girlfriends’ habits. I’m like “Yeah...I know, right?” (I really don’t know!) 😅
When you pass and someone finds out your trans and can’t imagine a trans person passing so they imply you’re a transgender woman and you have to explain that you are a guy.
I never pack to be honest. I just used board shorts so it didn't matter. It was just awk cuz I'm the only T shirt dude at the pool and such but if I wear a sports bra then it's also awk
I do swim team because I love swimming and wouldnt quit for the world but I have to wear the girls swim suit because when you're racing you need a tight suit and etc. But I'm out to my swim coaches and they are super awesome but everyone except for them and my little sister call me by my birth name (I've been swimming for the same team for three years and they know me from before I came out and changed everything) and use female pronouns. There was this one time where we split up boys vs girls for this game (it didn't end up working out as there weren't even teams and so there were some girls on my team) I don't identify as fully male, but since I feel mostly male I went over to the guys side and this other girl who'd known me since before grabbed my arm and said, "birth name, what are you doing? This is the guys side" and I just looked at her, pulled my arm away and said, "it's Simon and I know where I stand" but anyways ive had other awkward experiences and the showers are always a huge issue and it all kind a sucks but if anyone gives me crap I just challenge them to a race and when I win (I always do) I explain to them why they are wrong and need to respect me.
About being introduced with your birthname and female pronouns: My mom was visiting from Hawaii and so I brought her to the local food carts near my high school. Since I'm part of the drama department, a large range of kids are included (some of which are in middle school, and I'm actually quite close to one). We ran into my friend, and I was talking to him before my mom goes "Oh, I'm ----'s mom". My friend pauses and looks around because he knows me as Caden and he just goes "who?" before I kinda laughed and told him that that was her nickname for me. >////< I'm out to my mom, but she's still working on the name and pronouns, and I think it was more embarrassing for her than me
Is it just me or does anyone else think the pronouns switching thingy is kinda stupid in a way? I mean like: if I didn’t correct you the first time, why should you change pronouns? Wasn’t it kind of obvious that “he” was correct? ;-;-;-;-;-;-;-;-; I’m getting so frustrated over this
Omg, my eyebrows are just ridiculous now! I used to keep the unibrow situation under control like once a week, but now I would have to pluck like every day to keep up with it!
seeing people for the first time after coming out to them is always the most awkward things because you're left wondering if they're going to bring it up and ask questions
I‘m genderqueer and I used to be a substitute teacher. At my first day at this one preschool I saw a kid go up to another teacher and say something to her, and I heard the teacher respond with, “She’s a girl, now stop asking.” 😂 (It’s a rly good thing that I don’t care about being misgendered lolol)
Jammi, I just wanted to say thank you for sharing insights and answering questions (especially the awkward/invasive ones) to help other trans people with their journey/not have to answer those questions.
I can relate to so many of these! Swimming pre t with friends who understand and trying to have fun but getting looks from everyone else was an awful experience. Also, I feel like having a boyfriend as a transguy makes things a lot more awkward. I passed pretty well pre t and even when I talked, some people would still stay with "he" but as soon as I said I had a boyfriend, they would immediately switch and apologize, which was frustrating and awkward when I had to explain to them that sexuality and gender are separate. Whats even more awkward is that my boyfriend's parents still refer to me by my birth name and as "she" when we're in public, even though its been 4 years since I came out and I now have a beard...
introductions with the incorrect name and pronouns is the worst for me because I pass really well for a trans guys who's pre T (my voice is low, my chest is pretty flat, I'm tall). And then my parents (who don't accept me) will say "this is [dead name], my daughter." What's worse for me though is when my school uses my deadname. I got my name changed on the register, but for some reason they still use it on some things where it's not necessary. Like, a teacher was reading out our times for mock interviews and used my dead name in front of the whole class... What's worse is that most of my class didn't know my dead name (the exception being my friends) so they were like "who's that? Isn't that Kovus place on the register"
This is gonna sound really weird, but im twelve years old, and ive been transgender for 4 years! I get bullied alot, and i get misgendered alot, but im still going hard! And im transgender whether anyone likes it or not. Im happy. Not really. Im trying though!
It is not weird. I know a trans person who let everyone know their actual gender as soon as they got old enough to be able to formulate it into a sentence, 4 years old (and before that they always wanted the clothes that people of their gender usually use).
Elizabeth Lavall ur-in-al. I had never known people pronounced it ur-eye-nal lol but when it’s not said in British accent, that way just sounds stupid with an American accent haha
Elizabeth Lavall it’s funny that its same language yet it can still be so different here in the US compared to like the UK lol I just assumed everyone pronounced it ur-in-al since the first part is urine unless they pronounce urine like ur-eye-n too haha 🤷🏼♀️🤔
I think you get a lot of questions over and over again because people aren't familiar with the concept of being trans, I think it's still something new (at least here where I live).. let's hope it will be better in the future 😊
Jamie, I always enjoy seeing you on RU-vid. I notice a lot of social media's "popular" trans guys tend to look very similar to each other, a look that I don't really like for myself. I started to get concerned that transitioning would mean looking like one of them (not in a bad way, their look just isn't mine)! However you look perfectly like yourself and not necessarily like the usual social media trans guys that tend to get a lot of attention and exposure. It really helps ease my anxiety about transitioning, because I know I will still look like me, but a truer and more grown version of myself.
Omg voice!!!! Im enby, pre-t I litterally got the first call fom my therapist office and ansered to my name with "this is she" cause thats a thing i was taught when i was young. At the time i didnt know who it was. After they were like "yeaaah therapyyyy" i just screamed internally for like a week!
I'm pre t and not out at uni yet. The bartender calls me by my right name but he's the only one, and there's one teacher who uses male pronouns just out of nowhere. People always look at me like "she's using the wrong pronouns" and I sit there smiling and feeling so happy for once ❤️
Oh man. I loved swimming as a kid and _always_ wore a t-shirt whenever we went to the pool. I couldn't really twig exactly why I felt I had to, some sort of self-consciousness, so this answers something I didn't realize I had a question to lol. Thanks for the video!
I'm obssessed with your voice and your accent, you could be reading your grocery list and I'd still be absolutely captivated... Also, a great and important video!
I had a funny moment once where I was working and a team member was there with his two little boys. The little boys were giggling and giving me looks and one of them finally asked me if I was a girl or a boy. They were at that kind of age where they start getting cheeky I guess. Their dad said something like “Oi, that’s not a nice thing to say”. Little did they know, I’m nonbinary and had mad euphoria 😂
Literally a few days ago my mom misgendered me several times in one sentence, and then realizing it said “she wants to be a he”... thanks mom. Somehow made it worse.
so, i'm non-binary and my parents are very supportive. i have a fairly feminine voice so, when im feeling masculine/male i will use sigh language (i'm going deaf so me and my family all learned it) to communicate and my parents introduce me as their non-verbal son.
About packing at the beach/swimming pool, I think the best option would be to buy underwear w volume. That way you'd have the volume w out worrying about falling off your pants. Anyway I do relate w most of what you're telling and sometimes that worries me but I'm learning how to deal w it the best way and you Jamie, YOU've helped me a lot, thank you! 🙏
BEING PRE T AND PASSING TILL YOU OPEN YOUR MOUTH. YES I HAVE NEVER RELATED TO SOMETHING MORE IN MY LIFE. If I'm really careful with how I talk I sometimes pass as a 12 yr old boy *I'm 22* it's awkward... but hey what you gonna do.
I just found your videos, these are amazing! Entertaining but informative. And you know what, I'm bi-curious gyal and when I saw your thumbnail on my frontpage my first thought was "Damn, is this a vloger? That man looks smoking hot..." 😂 And you still look hella fine.
I work at a zoo and I have to wear hats (my hair is bright blue and it's not allowed), mainly beanies. I will always get called sir but when I open my mouth to take someone's ticket, it instantly changes. I had let in a woman and child and I overheard the kid say "mommy why does that guy sound like a girl?" The mother was so embarrassed but I'm just sitting there thinking "that kid is smarter than most adults"
i'm probably going to go swimming soon and i'll probably just wear a sports bra and tshirt. i'll be hella uncomfortable but i'll try not to think about it.
Number four hits so hard, though; especially at someplace like work (at a fast-food place), where the customer walks up saying "Hello, sir!" and ends their order with "Thank you, ma'am." D':
Today a co-worker (who knows I'm trans) told me "I didn't know you were trans. I found out when you messaged me and I was so confused. Then I thought you were mtf!" I'm on T, my company won't change my name without legal documents even for internal use (because of reasons..) and the judge deciding on my name change was sick the day I would have had my name change -_- But.. I'm passing so well people who only know me as a guy think I'm a guy and it's so validating.
I have a shorehouse, I got top surgery two days ago, so for the last summer and the summer before hand I would swim while binding. I didn’t pack while swimming though because I didn’t have a real packer but even if I did I would not want risk losing it especially since I swam in the ocean. Swimming while binding sucks because your binder always moves while swimming and it’s impossible to fix and when your shirt is wet it sticks to your skin and ugh so awkward! Can’t wait to swim without binding next summer
That "passing until you open your mouth" one is something that me and my girlfriend have both experienced I get it more in quick interactions and she gets it more with little kids, so, both situations where you don't really want to say anything and just stand there feeling Conflicted
Nobody knew I was trans, till I told one "friend" and she blurted it out everywhere, and now....everybody is always asking or calling me "she" and it sucks.
omg the whole girls school thing is a MOOD and so painful, my school had 'for girls' in it too. Luckily it was joined to a boys school next door but i've never felt able to say i went there. and despite having moved to a completely diffferent area I've still run into people i went to school with and they misgender me so much ;w; phone conversations are so awkward too, when all someone knows about you is your voice and constantly calls you ma'am or miss.
Hahaha totally relating to all the pre-t 😂getting called by my old name has me considering wearing a name tag hahaha. The being called sir then sorry I mean ma'am after they hear my voice 🤦♂️ then the endless apologizing I don't know who feels more awkward me or the person apologizing while other look and wonder what's going on hahaha
Passing untill I speak is absolute mood. I'm pre T and i get it all the time at work. How quick it'll go from 'mate' to 'duck' once I ask them what they want is astonishing. I also get 'sir' from behind and 'ma'am' from the front because untill I start T. I still have a chubby baby face
This is the most random question ever, but where is your flannel from? I'm a slight hoarder when it comes to men's shirts and I really like yours, where did you buy it? Loved the video btw
I relate so bad to these. hate phone calls! literally had a warning put on my bank account cause the bank didn't believe that I was the account holder because my voice is so high (particularly my phone voice) and id used the title Mr.
When i cut my hair because i was curious about being a boy, i was working in the deli and this old guy came up to the counter, saw my hair briefly as he looked down to the meat case. "Hello ma'am" then i spoke with my deeper ish female voice "oh, sorry sir" and then he glanced at my name tag with my feminine name and he just Shut up and looked so awkward it was priceless and funny!
