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You guys just earned massive respect from me. The way you simply took away that video without giving a second thought about your time and energy that went into filming, editing and uploading it, just so that the person who sent that question is not distressed. Hats off! no one does that in todays time and age. Before, I just used to look at you guys as you guys are fun, now I respect you more :)))))
ABORT MISSION. I ain’t someone to be so black and white about something and say “leave him!” But this guy has MAJOR red flags and talking from experience, men like that lack boundaries. Lack of boundaries are a gateway for betrayal and disrespect. Men are so capable of lying to you with utter conviction, so please don’t trust him. If these women don’t hold importance to him like that, then why isn’t he prioritising your relationship over his trivial friendships? Please listen to your gut instinct and put your foot down. If he isn’t receptive to your concerns and gets all secretive etc, drop him. This is your non-negotiable. Stick to your guns sis. You’re completely in the right.
I’m so happy that Sid and Dina are doing these videos again absolutely love them both keep it up guys love watching and laughing at Sid’s little funny awkwardness 😊
Small point, I appreciate how understanding you were of the person who wanted their video removed, but PSA for fans asking for help: respect Sid & Dina’s time, whilst they’re kind and understanding don’t take the piss by wasting their time, think twice before you email in!
I know it's a reference to TV show but in friends that's what literally broke up Ross and Emily's marriage because he couldn't give up his friendship with Rachel there was no trust and rightly so.
I am not Muslim, but love & respect the familial culture & religion very much. I come from parents where my father rekindled with his “best friend”, then he abandoned our family, but raised her children instead. I’d need a full day just to list off how that messed up my siblings & I, including my step siblings as well. We’re actually all pretty connected, regardless of biological lineage. Although lost one recently to drugs. Our parents chose their desires, over parenting children though. So that’s one perspective that I have. I also, forgave my own spouse for his negative behaviors with his female friends. I choose my children & their happiness, due to how I grew up. I was close friends to a few guys growing up. Loved them on a real friendship level, but when I married & they all found partners, I felt the need to back off from their energy. It’s no disrespect to their ladies, it’s actually out of complete respect for their relationships. I’ll happily hang out with them, at weddings or gatherings with lots of people. But I have my family & they have theirs. This is my tribe, theirs is theirs. It sounds weird, but it’s the best way to keep a family healthy, especially children. I’m just lucky that my partner chose living a better existence rather than the typical “side chick” life, that seems to be in fashion these days. I guess I already lived the negative impacts of that in my childhood & really lost the luxury of childhood completely… so now I see how & why that’s such an attack upon the family unit & all families. I think it’s a huge reason this planet struggles so hard. Family is important & creating chaos, sucks the life from others. I just wish people could bring back the sacredness in love, partnership, family & marriage. It’s okay to keep that space as clear & honest as possible. People know in their mind, where boundaries should lie.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. From what I can read you turned into a beautiful human being making sure to give your best in this life to your loved ones. I hope you find peace and happiness. And if you are interested in religion: I hope you’ll find Islam ❤️
If he is in touch with her or shares his personal feelings or talks about his day to day life with her thats a big red flag, i think having female friends who are happily married and have families of their own isnt an issue, i personally dealt with a situation like this. My husband has a ton of female friends, all married and have kids. One of them he use to be super close with and at first i was like those people who didnt think it was a big deal but when i noticed my husband leaving the house and leaving for hours, making excuses to go out for walks, hiding his phone etc, i found out he was secretly meeting her, i blew up at him and asked why i never met her husband or kid and why are you meeting her alone?! Turns out she wasnt happy in her marriage and was going to my husband for advice which ended up becoming an emotional affair, had i not stepped in and threaten my husband with divorce he wouldve continued, If that girl isnt in a happy marriage and keeps in touch with the guy or meets up at different places (alone) or even has each others phone numbers its a big no
@@TranquilWanderer an emotional affair is that you never did anything physically sexual with the other person but you have some feelings for them-- could be love them/in love with them, or like them to some capacity that you have to hide things about the relationship from your partner. if you have to hide it because it seems bad, you're emotionally invested in a way that is inappropriate, and you're not seeing each other as strictly platonic friends anymore
I had a guy friend confess he likes me and I always saw him as a brother so hell no there is no friendship between a guy and a girl ! Let him go sis specially if you get jealous easily it will affect you mentally in the long run it's not worth it !!
If only I was tech savvy enough to compile a video of Sid’s facial expressions 😂 Rubbing his chin deep in thought 😂😂 Love you guys. PS dina you look so beautiful mashallah xxx
appreciate the consistency recently, it's a shame that you had to delete your recent video, I hope people are more understanding to people like you taking your time out to do videos for us. I hope it doesnt happen again
Why did they delete it? What was the topic? I received notification for the video and wanted to watch it later, then noticed it was deleted.. I don't know why?
@@eyla107 I read in the comments that the topic was "He told me to lose weight" , and they said in this video that the person who sent the question wasn't comfortable about it being uploaded so she asked them to take it down and they did..
I think once you’ve voiced your opinion definitely don’t let him manipulate you and make you feel like you’re doing something wrong. You are within your rights to tell your partner if something makes you feel uncomfortable🤷🏻♀️ if he tries to blame you for overreacting about the situation major 🚩
"Do I look like a joke to you" and "Know your self-worth" -there you have it. What matters more to him, you or his exes/girlfriends/whatever he is labelling them as?
Respecttttt to the both of you for 1) taking down the video when the sender felt distressed about it and 2) your opinion about this woman's problem and speaking facts from a religious point of view regardless of what is "cool" or "acceptable" to nowadays couples ❤👏🏻
Love these videos sooo much and y’all are amazing ❤️ hope you guys keep making these videos and if you ever need a break you should absolutely take it cause we want the videos but it shouldn’t disturb your mental health xxx
Like the prophet Muhammad saw had sed, if a non mahram girl and boy are alone or together, the third person is shaitaan. So dont trust that intentions can't change unless its a mahram. There should be limits in even cousins, never mind friends. In islam were not even allowed to have guy friends or girl friends. So the girl in the email is right to be offended and jealous, as he would if she had close guy friends. I know some people have grown up in very open life style with no real limits with who they befriend. But it doesn't make it right. Anything haram in our religion is haram for a reason and can never be good for us.
I think when you get in to serious romantic relationship your other relationships change as well. Even you friendships which same gender. I had a lot guy freinds from high school and we also went to uni together as well so we were really close freinds. However when I meet my husband and we got engaged I started to stop talking to them as much and we rarely hang out by ourselves anymore. One of them was actually really upset but I had to explain to him that am trying to respect my husband and the boundaries of my marriage. It was difficult for him to understand coz we were not doing anything wrong but the thing was my husband was now occupying the position he was filling. He was my best friend now and ya it’s sad but that’s life. So ya relationships change & it’s ok.
I think this is a great comment and I totally agree, i don't think there's anything wrong with having friends of the opposite sex in itself, but there has to be boundaries and particularly if they're an ex.
Common sense and logic!! 🙌🏽 He’s not gonna leave his “X friends”. Just save yourself from the trouble. YOU’LL SAVE YOURSELF FROM A HEARTACHE AND DIVORCE SETTLEMENT AND A CUSTODY BATTLE. 🥴. I put on the notification alert fivv TV this so I don’t miss anything❤️
I love this. Every relationship dynamic is different but there is no harm in voicing the fact that you are not comfortable with the fact that he has close female friends that he once liked. I think this seems to be the biggest issue here and I totally agree with the fact that this is wrong too. Also, it is great you mentioned that this is not only for Muslims because it is something that should not be normalized throughout. Lastly, even about the relationship being like a brother-in-law, he is still your non-mahram and humans are humans, Shaytaan will always be there. The Prophet SAW and the Sahabah warn us about this multiple times and I remember you guys have videos on this issue in the past as well. May Allah make things easier for all of us.
I think it really depends. I have friends since high school and they are married with wives and children and we speak a few times a year. I think there should be a level of trust and resolve that you can still have them as friends.
After marriage not appropriate to go out with other females or chill with them. Texts and calls are not needed too. If they work together professional interaction if needed but no banter or chatting unnecessary
Andddd so much respect for taking down the video. Cos honestly that was my first thought like if it was another vlogger they wouldve been pissed that we invested our time and energy into making it and since its anonymous we dont need to yake it down. You guys are genuinly good people always knew it. Been following you back when you were newly weds. Always the positive energy from yiu both. MashaAllah may you guys get blessed with all the good in the world.
Yeah it would be a strong no from me but I appreciate everyone is different. I know you guys said it's not a Muslim thing, but it's important to really think about why we have certain guidelines in place. There's countless stories online of people (male and female) cheating on their spouse with friends or even worse brother/sister IN LAWS 🤢. In this scenario, it sounds like he never got over the female friend and wants to keep her on the back burner in case she ever reciprocates his feelings in the future. Kudos to you guys for encouraging her to vocalise it even if it goes against this 'modern/liberal muslim' trend.
Having friends of the opposite gender when you have a partner is unnecessary, unless you have boundaries. BUT having your EX as a friend, you must be mad. He’s still holding onto her for a reason, he still feels for her and he’s trying to persuade and reassure you that he doesn’t
@Lipstick Nista i was talking about when they said they aren’t the type to not take videos down, I’m sure Dina and Sid asked ali to take his video down about her but he refused
I know some married guys having close friendships in my office and it makes me so uncomfortable. Like theyre hugging, hanging out alone after office and shit. I never understand the need. Like why instead of going to your wife youre hanging out with a woman and why qre there no boundries in this friendship and how is his wife okau with her man having friendships like that. Its so odd. Another friend of mine feels the same way. I even feel off about women who dont undersyand that a guy is married now and they should have boundries with him out of respect for another woman who is his wife. I never find it okay. Ive had male friends but i never even shook hands with them or allowed sending them red hearts in chats, avoided hanging out wity them alone and stuff cos that makes it questionable even tho a lot of people were like thats a bit unnecessary but no if i think its not okay then it is not okay no one should tell me to relax my boundries. Cos no matter how "platonic" the relationship is, theres no reason to forget that the individual is from the opposite gender. You respect yourself by creating these boundries.
At 5.17 ....its a no for me...girls remember dont be scared of being alone...you wont be alone for life. It's better to be alone than pregnant with f boy baby ...your value will go down. Protect it value
But you're always anonymous, so the uncomfortability sits with the person being questioned. It probably made them question their thoughts. No one would have known it was linked to them.
I wouldn't mind if my partner has friends who are female. It's the fact that he had liked that person, though that person is married is speaking about their marriage issues and seeking divorce to him. Idk I would be feeling a bit off like I get you are friends and colleagues but at the same time try and distance yourself or put a boundary. Respecting your spouse. Because if the wife had a male friend who she had liked before and was speaking to him etc how would the husband feel its the history of the friendship. There was feelings involved!! Idm them having females friend but the history of it is a nono. Its about respect trust and knowing your boundaries. He shouldn't block them just bc the wife said he should have done it himself for the respect because who knows he'd blame her etc et.
Religion aside, there is a lot of research which states in friendship groups of the opposite genders, one always ends up liking the other. It was found it was often men that had different intentions and hoped something would come out a friendship if the stayed long enough. Whereas women genuinely wanted a Platonic relationship. So I think that's interesting. In this situation, why does her husband feel the need to remain friends. Also the fact he had feelings and she's not happy in her marriage could spark old feelings in him. His wife is right, even if its not the same now, out of respect for her feelings he shouldn't have a problem breaking that relationship. I think its odd he's refusing to distance himself and perhaps whether consciously or unconsciously he wants there to be more. Or atleast remain in close connection with her.
Absolutely Love you guys and what you Stand for, love watching you guys’ videos it always uplifts my mood, I just love how authentic you guys r just good vibes, I pray allah showers your family with kheyr and barakah and increases your ranks in Jannatul firdaus this Ramadan allahumma ameen ❤️
Why would you hang out with an ex if there not a chance to gain from them? Ex is a bad history leave that relationship alone If you truly want to have a real long term lasting relationship
I’m really doubtful/unsure of my answer, but I think it is from the Parent Trap movie. I feel this way as the handshake in that movie is more elongated and physical. And ugh, I was planning to watch the video when free, but by the time I came online it was deleted 😩 Take care!
I’m here in the comments, trying to figure out who they were throwing shade at in the beginning of the video (when they mentioned people that don’t take down videos when the person that asked requested to because they felt uncomfortable)
@@mikejohn4947 oh what did they do? I remember years ago, when Dina took the scarf off, they had a lot to say which is odd because why were they so fixated on a non mehram woman??
@@JB-ys2cp tbf their were alot of youtubers and i use the term loosely who at the time of her taking her hijab off wanted to capitalise on the situation and get more views for themselves. Some were even relatively quite unknown. I am assuming they asked them to take it down and were refused. There were also adam saleh and his band of friends who made several vids too.
so lets get this straight...the person who asked about their crazy controlling boyfriend who got mad at her for watching squid game and spiderman asked you to take the video down? do you think she got back with that crazy man? I hope not.
Ya I have similar fears. The email was really sad but at least she was asking for help & advice so there might be some hope she got the message even if it was uncomfortable & let’s all make dua that she is safe and away from that person inshallah.
