Thank you, Brianna, your videos are soooo helpful in understanding DAs! 🙏 Can you please do a video on the toxic shame wound too - how it is triggered, how can we as partners avoid triggering it, what are they ashamed of? & most importantly, once it's triggered & they go no contact for months, what can we do?
This was by far one of the best explanations and examples Brianna .for me to understand what happened between Oct-now for the DA I dated shortly then used Emotional Intelligence to place him in the friend zone to keep the peace between us ! Thank you
This started out as a great description of FAs experience but it seems like it slipped into standard avoidant/anxious dynamics. The difficulty with FA is that even if a balanced response to someone being more anxious like your example is delivered, the anxious part of FA kicks in after that and its either torture until its resolved or anger that they’re ‘having to be the grown up like always’ kicks in. Like a container for both people is needed. It’s also even more complicated with another FA. Any suggestions?
Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts. I think this video might be helpful, as well as my playlist on disorganized attachment which you can find on my channel: Healing Fearful Avoidant Relationships, in One Breath ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-qunLTLsbPCw.html
