Hey Steve: Advice For Disciplining Daughters 

Let their mother discipline them. Mom can be their role model too. As a father you can teach them what to look for in a husband.

It's really nice to see a black man in the home raising his children.

How about TALKING to your daughters and letting them know when you are DISAPPOINTED with their behavior? How about telling them NO? How about giving them meaningful consequences for undesired behaviors? How about REMOVING privledges when they are out of pocket?

Little Girls have a way of melting the HEART and any man they get will have to spoil them more than Steve Harvey

He says he spoiled his daughters but for real; ALL FOUR OF THEM ARE ANGELS. They're all well spoken and polite, so he's gotta have done something right

Nope! My military father disciplined us, not as much as my mom. He told us he never wants us to depend on a man so he raised us to do everything from changing tires to changing oil. He also taught us how to fight and shoot. He made sure we had everything we needed and some or our wants. We are all college grads and know what it is to work for your what you want.

My dad disciplined me. Spankings included. Growing up all my friends would sneak and do things. Heck I could've did what they were doing. But I knew my dad had a direct line to God and that whatever I did behind my dad's back, God would just snitch on me..lol. But any and every time my dad disciplined me, he talked to me. Told and showed me he loved and cared for me. When I was starting to like boys, I never went to my mom. I went to my dad. Like we would sit in my room and just have an open talk about boys. I could and still go to my dad about anything. He's my bestfriend. I'm so thankful for his discipline, because it showed he cared and just wanted me to do the right thing to avoid unnecessary consequences in the future. I've been with my husband since I was 18 and my dad told me that he would be my husband. Now I'm 31 with my daughter and as hard as it is, I encourage my husband to discipline my daughter. Even though she tries to get over on him (she knows she can't play me lol) she knows daddy is to be respected and discipline is the only way a child will learn that. I know women who were not disciplined by their dad and the common factor is most, if not all of them are very manipulative. Noy only is a dads presence important in the home, but his correction is definitely needed to steer his children in the right way. Thanks Dad love you always ❤❤❤❤

I have five brothers and five sisters (same parents), but how my brothers were disciplined that’s how the daughters were disciplined. We weren’t spoiled or treated “special” because we’re females. We all have college degrees and great jobs. ❤️

You know, my parents never hit me. But they didn't give me everything I ever wanted either. I was raised very humble and I'm grateful for that.

This clip was really endearing. I appreciate the guest and Steve saying they don't "spank" their daughters. Also Steve was so honest saying his daughters are spoiled and that's just how it is..respect.

My father loved us to death but never had a problem disciplining me and my sister. We did have less spankings than my brother but that's just because we had calmer nature and were more obedient than he was. My mom was even more strict than Dad tho because she knew more feminine stuff than Dad and we just could not fool her like sometimes we fooled Dad. If for example we told Dad we had period pain and didn't feel like going to school, he was ready to make us stay. Mom knew our cycle and knew we didn't have any period pain ever lol. So she was like, if it's mild take a pill, if it's severe than we're going to the Dr because you never had pain before. It's either pill and school or hospital, what do you pick? Well lol we went to school...

0:06 “ we blessed with 5 kids “ look at the girl in the red face 😂😂

Being a father of Daughters ...is a always blessed Man.

I so enjoy watching Steve. He always puts a smile on my face with his excellent advice. Thanks, Steve. You're wonderful!!

I wish I had a father like Steve and that man. While my father was present, provided for the family he was also emotionally manipulative, and physically abusive at times. I can never please him. It has manifested itself into a overall fear of men that I’m working hard to overcome. Black men, it’s more to being a good father than just stringent discipline and and bringing money home.

I’m glad that Steve said “physical abuse” not ‘spanking’ or ‘discipline’ hitting a child in any form is child abuse. I’m glad he says the blunt reality rather than sugar coating it. I see allot of people on the media especially black/ Asian people talk about hitting a child as if it’s nothing. I’m glad this black man has said it so bluntly.

You do not have to "put your hands" on a child to discipline them, especially with today's kids.

I wouldn't date a spoiled woman, even if she was the daughter of a celebrity like Steve.

I'd travel anywhere to see you live. You've made a lot of my work nights bearable and funny as all hell. (worked as a security agent) Loving the raw and radical honesty Steve

Real stand up brothas/fathers ☝🏾

I’m 15, 16 next month. I was raised with more brothers than sisters (2). I knew and still know that my dad means business. So it wasn’t hard to raise me. What his daughters are doing is showing a lack of respect. I’m not sure why it’s lacking but it is.

Raising daughters is a whole different world. My son wasn't a bad kid. I'm so proud of him. My daughters are little and I know it will only be a matter of time before they are grown. Time flies

Thank you Steve for saying it loud and clear if they don't meet the requirements for the love of a female young are old send them on their way. My God this was awesome!!!!!!

Your answer is perfect Steve! Children learn what they live. If you give them love, stability, peacefulness, & teach kindness, they will mirror that back & to the world. What a beautiful way to grow up with so much love, especially from Father to Daughter. The materialistic spoiling is not necessary, but if I had it to give, I would do just the same.

Wow! My dad spanked me and my sister and even at a young age I knew what the difference was between discipline hitting me just bc. I NEVER equated my dad spanking me was how a man should treat me. I knew as a child I shouldn't do or say the things that I was saying. My dad and sister and I have a GREAT relationship, matter of fact he's calling me now

My dad form of discipline for his girls was hard work (swiping the front and back porch, clean out the shed, wash all the cars) all in one day. My uncle was the same.

All kids deserve equal discipline

He seems like a loving and structured Dad. A parent doesn't have to hit any child in order to discipline them.

As lovely as this message is, what the hell is the advice honestly? So basically no way to discipline or hold your daughters accountable?

I so disagree with this, and are a little bit disappointed. I LOVE and respect steve, however, I believe every and ANY child needs discipline. I am a parent first before I become a friend

Man: Do you any advice as a father of girls yourself on discipline your daughters? Steve:NO nope no ain't got none for u player 🙈😂😂😂😂

I had the pleasure of meeting this man and it changed my life. My father abused us all, even my mother and she passed because of it and he had 3 girls and he was a bully and abused us all. He didn’t work, used us for government assistance. He treated my mom horrible. He never gave us nothing. No love, no clothes food nothing. The one man that’s supposed to protect and provide different. The name calling emotional financial abuse just so he could be in control I got away and fought back. I know all men are not like that but still living with a narcissistic abusive monster like that and he still living. Life isn’t fair but I survived.

Steve was right on. My Dad has four daughters and he always says he’s just a victim, and that’s the way it is.

I disagree Steve every child needs discipline it's the only way to make it in the real world

Everything Mr.Harvey said he hit it right on the head with how my father is with me I am spoiled rottennnnnn I am the only child and only girl I love my father 💗💙👨‍👧

Sat her down, had a long talk with her and gave it to her 🤣😂

Awwww you can tell he cares about his family and is a great dad! He has a pretty smile w/ his handsome self. You betta get it wife!!!! Lol....😁. Anyway lol.... I hope he finds a disipline style that wks. My mom said its the boys that are a real handful. I believe her cause my brother was a cold piece of wk!!! Esp. When he was a teenager, baybeeeee, he was off the chain lol...When he hit 23-25 he got it 2gether. Now hes in his mid 30's married, has a son, w/ a dope job.He's on point!

Both parents should be an active role in their son and daughters life. Good or bad. You shouldn’t pawn the females off with the females and the males off with the males. It’s a family unit, punish them them accordingly. It doesn’t mater if they’re a girl or boy. Girls don’t get a free pass for dads and boys shouldn’t get a free pass for moms. That’s how you raise mommas boys/daddy’s girls. Then their spouse deals with their entitlement issues.

My dad hits me, my brother and sisters. We deserved our punishment. And we all ended up in college and never in trouble with the law

Hi Steve I'm 47 years old and I'm a woman I wish my daddy was even in my life as a little girl I suffer from abandonment issues I married a man but does not know how to love me does not know how to care for me I married him because of my daddy issues if I have had a father or dad like you I would have required more keep up the good work I don't know how you could help me now but I need a daddy now I just need that new relationship that male bonding that I did not get I meant my father we talked I know him well he has nothing to offer I never missed anything my mother kept me away from me nothing it was a blessing that my mother kept me away from him because again if he has nothing to offer 82 years of age and no he didn't have anything to offer at 42 52

Our daughter completely changed my husband life the day she was born!! She's a blessing!

I’m not gonna hit my son or my daughter, ima make they ass exercise. Wall sits, planks, pushups, holding dictionaries and bear crawls on top of taking their Tv and phone. So world beware of the Athletes I got coming

That man has a great smile it really lights up his face

Steve missed the mark on this.

I get it. But i dont think it justfies spoiling us. I hate to say this, because I am a gurl who wants to be spoiled. But alot of women are malipulators because of this type of upbringing. We are capable of handling spankings and being said no to by our fathers..js

I love how honest Steve Harvey is, he isnt acting like he has the answers to everything... Man have to be strict with daughters too. JUst dont overdo it

He just came for advice on how to raise your daughter and Steve could say is how he gave them everything they ask for, I firmly believe in discipline when it comes to kids but as a father, you need to have some sort of ground rules when raising kids especially girls and there are many ways to teach them some sort of a lesson but it is also very important not to drive them away from you just have a good understanding with your kids and respect one another. There will come a time when the teenage phase strikes just make sure you as a parent prepare for disappointments and make sure we exercise patience and love them no matter the situation.

hahahah sat down had a long talk with her gave it to her hahaha

So true daddy's love there girls😍

Father's love is the best 💟😍

My boys and my girls have the same mom and dad, and they all get the same discipline. Spare the rod and spoil the child. They are all very successful adults.

God bless and protect this wonderful man, husband, father♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️ God bless you and your family STEVE ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️🧿🧿🧿🧿

I don’t know why raising the girls to never be told “no” and to be entitled and spoiled is being applauded though. I have two daughters and they’ll know to be respectful and appreciative of the things they have, not angry because they expect more. I know that all kids have different personalities and you can’t mold them exactly how you want them, but you can definitely steer them towards being a good person

Punish them by taking away things from them.

I was a "Daddy's Girl" too! Spoiled to the max! My mom would say no, and Daddy would give me whatever I wanted, behind her back. My brother would ask him for some money for something, and get a lecture about the value of money, and being a man! Then dad would hand me dollars, after he left the room! He would Never spank Me, but he would hit the bed, and I would pretend to cry, so mom would think I'm getting it. That was one of our favorite private jokes. (lol) I Love you, Daddy, (Calvin G. Burrell), and Miss your guidance in my life...My daughters, have never known what its like to have a real Father, like you. RIP until we meet again.

Steve i honestly dont think this was good advice for this man i have 2 beautiful daughrers bir spoiling them not the answer because I see them getting into trouble down the road so i would have told him let the wife handle them that way they will learn a lesson but i love your show .

He ain't even try to lie...he said I don't have any advice. I spoiled mine, so don't be like me😭😂🤣

Lol his answer “No”😂😂

Sorry as a father I'm strict on both my sons and daughters. They both have to work hard for anything I give them. Grades, chores, show me you can do it, I'll show you the rewards

Love Steves Wisdom!

I absolutely hate the idea that you somehow can't discipline your children just because you don't want to "put your hands on them" or spank them. Children can be disciplined without physical punishment. I was never once spanked by either or my parents, but I was held accountable and disciplined for my wrong actions. Take their phone away, or take other privileges away, talk to them about what they did wrong, ground them for a period of time, etc. Some of the most effective punishments I ever received were when my mom took away my favorite toy. That was worse to me than any type of spanking, and I also didn't grow up learning that it's okey to hit or spank someone just because they do something you don't like.

Your boys turned out differently because you treated them differently... Not rocket science.

Love your show !

lol both my parents used to whoop me

what happens when you spoil your daughters and later down the track you lose your job.....they will end up being angry that you have to stop giving them what they want when they want it. I have 4 daughters and I teach them that you cant have everything you want just because you want it, but that you have to work for it and i have used this ever since my oldest was born and she is now an adult and not once have i had any of my kids throw a tantrum because they cant get what they want. Every child should be disciplined and taught from a young age then you wont have issues if money becomes tight years down the track

Really? It's fine if you don't want to spank your girls but they MUST be disciplined for sure. Catering to a child's every whim is a recipe for disaster. I'm not saying we should unduly deny our children but letting them know they can't have everything they want when they want it gives them a taste of the real world.

Steve I wished my father like you 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

If you are not in the Spoil a woman business or keep moving. Preach Steve.

I say time outs for the 3 year old (because they love to run around). For the 8 year old, you can do no dessert, no tv/video games, etc. Overall, you just want to take away what they like to do or any other privileges. My nieces/nephews cry more from a time out that I put them in vs when their parents spank them.

Explains why his daughter dating trey songz😂

I love how real Steve is here

I swear not having a stable, admirable, protective father is why I struggle with finding a good man. Your relationship with your daddy as a girl is such a major part of being a woman and who we look for to love us. My dad abused me, groomed me and exploited me in ways a man never should. Luckily, I still have my one true Father in heaven to guide me and hope He will introduce my future husband to me very soon. I’m just waiting on you, Lord.

Basically, don't take Steve's advice pertaining to your daughter's

I have just learned how much my father was not prepared to be a father of a daughter. And he gained the position of dead beat because he rather be absent and blame someone else for his unpreparednesses and consistant cowardice choices. He would have learn if he allowed himself to grow.

That’s exactly how my dad is he spoil the life out of me and my twin ..... Steve Harvey is just like my dad literally .

Steve Harvey is so honest! 😂😂

Dude looks like an adult Tevin Campbell!!!!

I wish Steve was my dad😂😂

In the first 6 seconds, when the guy said 5 kids, the woman in the right made a reaction that made me laugh.

I was never spoilt but I gave both mum and dad respect and love they deserve am 40 years old soon be 41 I thank God am alive

Steve has nothing for you on this question😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

My dad spanked me ONCE when i was like 6. And i remember looking at him in shock like he was a monster lol i couldn't believe he actually hit me. But me & my dad are really close. I always respected him without him having to spank me

Real man right here!!

Lol Steve got me cracking

That is what we call Women privilege

My momma was more of the disciplinarian than my dad....he spanked me one time and I damn near fell out lol not cuz it hurt so much, that he never actually spanked me nor my bro.....now my mom??? Shoot....momma was not and is not nothing to play with LMAO

Love this 💕

Wish my dad was like that guy and Steve! After my folks divorced when I was 3 my dad beat the breaks off me and I stayed on punishment for little stuff like being 1 or 2 minutes late past curfew. He resented my mother because she ended the marriage so I became the constant reminder of a past he couldn't forget. 😢😢😢

There’s more than one way to skin a cat. For example, you can take things away from them when they act up.

If Steve is buying everything they need then why would they get married. You can discipline girls.

🥰❤️ God bless you Steve Harvey 🙏

That’s how black men should treat their daughters! I love that Steve just admits that. Spoiled daughter speaking here :). I turned out just fine

Discipling your daughters doesnt teach them that its okay for a man to hit them 💀thats quite idiotic logic. Straightening your daughters isnt bad.

Discipline doesn’t mean hitting… 🥴

i am from egypt and i wish if i can come to your show steve...

I ain’t got no answer for you man, thank you for comming 🤣🤣🤣

Funny but horrible advice Steve. It's up to his wife/the mother to discipline those young girls

Basically, He raised non-marriage material women.

Whoever spares the rod hates his son but whoever loves his son is diligent to discipline him. Kjv.

Hahaha i loved the tips he gave hahaha