Hey Steve: Husband Too Harsh? 

lipsohlips97 I thought she was 19 before she said that she been married for 19 years

Could because she got a man that love her . Did you see how she smile when Steve asked her about her husband

I agree!! She didn’t look a day over 19 herself lol

I know right!!! She loooks so young and good!! And by the way, she’s very beautiful!!

SAME OMG

john blogs but sometimes strict parents make sneaky kids

I absolutely agree with Uncle Steve 💯💯💯💯

Axha ‘ True. Hehehe🤭

Agreed but the way you discipline matters though.

C.E.T clearly you were undisciplined because you are so offended when it wasn't meant to be taken personally

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Cheers to your dad!🥂

Especially military father like my father

Damn straight 🔥

Yes you are! Salute to you and your father! Be successful make that money young buck, make that money! Humility n hard work is the key.You got this!!!!!!

yeaaaaaah

Yes she is

I'm sure you say that to every woman 😂

You need to educate yourself on what was being said. Rather then to focus on how that person look.. You make yourself appear dumb that way.. SMDH!!

And without makeup.

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Fast girls, becomes fast women. That wasn't that deep

No one started raising them early in in life you have to have guidance by one parent or both or someone has to step in with some guidances

The jail is full of them

True. Very important

Charmaine Willaims I totally agree! 💕

Extremely important.

I disagree with this. Children need to know how to work out conflict and resolve issues. If they dont see the parents doing it in a healthy way, where are they going to learn. And how are they going to know that its OKAY and normal to disagree? You just have to learn to resolve disagreements peacefully and constructively. I always said it is good to "hash things out". I do agree that it needs to be done at a later time if possible. There may be some things that need to be hashed out asap, however maybe privately. It depends on what the situation is. If its a husband being abusive, thats a whole different circumstance. What if he is a drunk or druggy? Or has anger issues and takes it out on his sons? Some things arent black and white and require much prayer and wisdom.

@@terrilister1478. you are absolutely right. If the parents disagree they should let their kids see them peacefully work things out. Steve is like a lot of black men who think they have to be hard on their sons. You have to be hard on the knucklehead sons who do dumb $hit. But not all sons because i have three grown college educated sons who are respectful to everyone because I raised them right without being strict. They always knew right from wrong and they don't even use curse words ( at least not around me).My dad was very hard on me and my brother for no reason and to this day I still hate him for it. But it taught me the right way to raise my kids.

Terri Lister I think what they meant was never let the children see you get into a fight where you both are verbally exhausting each other but don’t entirely shut the door to allow them to see you get into a respectful argument where both parties explain their sides of the story. And can move on without it dictating their day, relationship or interaction with the rest of the family

jay rod i agree

Jay I was home with the boys that day but we discussed this prior to her attending the show.

@@terrancelivingston3304 wait you her husband

@@granturomiso05 lol.

Me too!!

Exactly what I was going to say......

Peace&Tranquility you know it’s just not the dads place it’s hers too and her kids

@@rja9797 it's both but sometimes mother's get offended o how hubby disciplines and if that's the case then she should not interfere

So do I

Cristina Lebron no it’s ok to disagree or you won’t teach them how to resolve conflict

@@rja9797 Or more like sometimes it's ok to agree to disagree.

Rj A yes it’s okay to disagree. But if you disagree on discipline discuss it in private and then handle the kids together. Don’t undermine each other’s authority in front of the children

People act like this is new ,if you've been in management it's the same, never disagree in front of employees duh

What if it does to far? Sometimes a parent has to step in.

@@rja9797 every parent knows when to stop before it goes to far

@@rja9797 no not every parent knows that

@@texasgirl73goodjob46 it's really rare for a parent to willingly hurt your child especially men because they're like the thing we'll leave when we die

Isn't being whooped physical abuse? If not, what's the difference?

If she's complaining about him being too harsh he's most likely abusive.

What's abusive?

Obviously, SHE felt he WAS being abusive to them..........

Well evidently, this wife thought that her husband's way of disciplining WAS border line abuse.....or she wouldn't have spoken up.

Right she don't like past 20

I'm saying and she didn't have no makeup!! I was mesmerized 😍😍😍

Ikr!!!!

Right? So effortlessly beautiful

she is...

So true.

You are so right. I couldn't agree with you more.

@lovemuffin2000 you act as though punishment and discipline excludes love and respect. It doesn't. If he's strict or harsh that's fine. No where did she say he was unloving, disrespectful, or abusive

@lovemuffin2000 The question is my dear are you kidding!! Apparently you have been on Mars or somewhere lately. You have kids killing kids, parents teachers and anything and anyone who makes them mad or get in their way just because they can not have their way. The home structure is and has been broken because of the absence of a good male role model in a Dad or Father figure. You have Father's and Son's serving time. Boys are turning to gangs for guidance. It is so sad now.

Exactly!

@b ray interesting.

Lady she doesn't need to Elaborate on being (Harsh) ? The Word speaks for itself The massage that Steve Harvey given to her was (Clear).. Nuff Said!!

@@ronniejackson9228 Some women cover up abuse their husband is inflicting on the children. Dont assume.

@@jansley4 First off I never assume anything, I stated my opinion. 2nd the guess on the show (NEVER) -(EVER) said anything about abuse. She simply said (HARSH) YOU need to educate yourself on the two Syllabus and stop ✋ being Dramatic.. Overall the only option that matter during the time of the Talk Show was. Mr Steve Harvey In that order!!

@@ronniejackson9228 lol you can calm down. And just as you did, I stated my opinion.

Are you kidding? Even grown men can't cry but we wanna let them teach the next generation emotional maturity?

I’m laughing here because I only have girls and as a mother my girls kick butt in karate. I probably teach them things most mom would not agree with but that’s because I want them to be strong and know to protect themselves. I wouldn’t say I’m rough on them but I do teach them to talk more, cry less. You can definitely teach strength without being a jerk parent.

Yea, & some people that depend on 'TOUGH LOVE' ALL THE TIME! don't know how to be gentle & kind.....Those are VERY important attibutes. Some of the FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT. In God's Word.

I know boys can be a bit more resistant than girls......but to hurt them; throw them up against a wall; beat them till they can't sit down; cuss em out; speak bad stuff over their lives; that's not beneficial & not good. At All. It wounds them on the inside, & it's because of those inward wounds, that people have so much struggle in life.

NO.

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@Tiffany Moore I agree too

Men raise children, women ruin them

Exactly..If your kids r being bad in school or talking smart back to u then u have every right to whip them..but if the daddy comes in from a bad day and decide to cuss the whole house out for no reason then that is unreasonable and abusive

Note Steve asked at the beginning of his reply if she admired her man & wanted her boys to grow up to be like him. That was to discern if he’s a decent, reputable, reasonable man. An anger monger would be abusing them and not admirable and therefore her answer should have been HECK NO.

Discipline is not abuse. Abuse is an extreme case. Discipline is correction to bad behaviour. The two are not the same..

@@Jm-le3iv nothing wrong with spanking your kids in a living manner But it's not ok to come home from a bad day and cuss the whole house or discipline in anger

@@denyss3476 I agree with you discipline is not abuse and spankings in the butt should not fall under that category it's correction

Dexter this is so good! These are what these videos are for 🙂👏🏾

@@necopolk2955 Yes!!!! My wife and I were hard up debating about this same topic this morning. She really thinks I'm to rough with our son. So now that this video happened at the same time we debated, she realizes that this was confirmation!!!

@@2thenext the fact that Steve said it doesn't make it Bible. You gotta be strong in disciplining your children.... But You gotta do it with love and in love all the time. The word to use isn't harsh. Being harsh is no way to raise a son. I have two sons myself by the way. Been with my hubby for twenty years and we aren't forty yet. Our boys are amazing. And we aren't harsh with them. They are so well rounded and simply wonderful. Because we always correct them and raise them in love. That doesn't mean you shouldn't yell here and there once a while. But that shouldn't be the order of the day. Please make sure your wife sees this response too. Lol

@@duckdown9 My son is an athlete also. There are times when he wants to sit around and play video games all day...."NO NO NO", that's not happening around here. Being firm with him is the best way. I found out when you are soft and fuzzy with kids, they will walk all over you!!!

@@2thenext ......Dexter i hope you get this message. I have thought about you and your son on occasion. I wondered if you were able to ever find a balance between being his Dad and being his disciplinarian. I wouldn't want you to get it wrong and completely miss out on having a great and wonderful relationship with your son in the future. Ofcourse playing video games all day isn't the way to go. But know that young kids and teenagers do go through phases in life too sometimes. They also have the ability to be depressed at some points in their growing up years. So assuming you are still having a few challenges with your son? My advice to you would be to sit him down and try to have an honest open conversation with him. About why he acts that way sometimes. And then, you tell him how much he means to you, why you want the best for him and therefore what your expectations of him are going forward. Talk to him like a father talks to his son. From the heart. Did you know Steve usually talks to his sons from the heart and therefore has a wonderful relationship with all his boys? Do you know Steve allows his kids to pretty much follow their heart including stop going to regular college if that's not what they want to do? He has said some of his sons did not complete college. In fact his youngest son stopped going to college and is into photography now. Which is very non traditional obviously. I am saying all this to say, you only heard two mins on TV of all that Steve's life truly entails. But we all don't know the rest of it and what the actual truth really looks like in his household. So don't go following these TV people blindly and end up destroying something good for yourself. They lie to us sometimes for the sake of making good TV and ratings. Besides everyone's household is different too. Economic status and other things come to play. Steve flies his boys all over the world and they get to see things and places your boy has probably never seen or experienced before. Who doesn't love a good life with not so much stress? Make sure you sit your son down and ask him from the heart and with love if playing ball is what HE TRULY WANTS TO DO and if he is happy doing it. He may have said so before, and he could have also changed his mind along the way. Because the last thing you want to do is to force your son into something which isn't his passion or his gift. Steve will tell you that too actually. Please find out again. And I hope you let your wife read my initial messages and i sure hope you let her read this one too. Lol. Remember it takes both parents to raise a responsible all rounded great adult, not just one. God bless you all and i wish you all the very best.

Exactly, I've told some people in the comments the same thing. The way you discipline matters. Some parents are really extreme and will do what is unnecessary.

She can check him behind the scenes. But they seem like a wonderful unit. Their children will be fine

How is she going to keep him in check with her weak muscles? :-)

Seun who said it would get physical? The husband seems like a wonderful man who loves his wife, so im sure he will listen

Austin Emovon what if he starts to get physical?

I posted this to a mother's group. You got to let these fathers guide these boys to be men.

Adrianne Sills you act like single women aren’t raising good men

Adrianne Sills ok i expect all the men in here then to but out and shut their mouths when it comes to daughter. If moms can’t have a say with their sons then dads have no say with their daughters

@@resolute1922 I agree

@@rja9797 some mother's are to soft or to scared to punish their kids

That's exactly how you do it.

That's right Steve true facts..

@@angelacarpentercarpenter7797 agreed

Well Said!! Every female needs to read and understand exactly what you just wrote.. And if they can't comprehend you're statement re-read until its understood..

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One time I tricked my dad, when mom had already said no. Let me tell you I never had the desire to do that again 😂😂😂😂

@@nathanaelvalville9191 Got tore up?

@@robertlunderwood the ass whoopin was real

For one parent to gloss over what the other said is disrespectful to their partner, it's definitely a necessity to be aligned with the rules set fourth for the kids to follow.

I agree, but I’m not sure she intimated that… he could be verbally harsh in his correction - but there should be limits there too

@Byron Payne Proven to do what? There are ways to communicate that respect both parties and both parties' needs. We don't have to make the same mistakes as our elders did.

that's why a strong masculine figure should be in the house

It’s easy

Ur a good guy.i had a father,but he never taught me about females or anything,same for my 2 brothers.i was 34 when I got a Godly woman in my life who taught me a lot about females.God bless you!

You know what you're talking about

@@markustx I agree with her

Agreed

Please, tell me how to raise and women and how to raise a man ?

And how is a girl supposed to be raised?

@@katiemmb2091 a good mother ,a good wife ,a good person in general

Exactly i completely agree with you! not everything involves being harsh or abusive or violent or whatever it is parents can come up with just need to speak to them and make them understand without scaring them

Shes probabsbly 40 its bot unvelievible

Exactly! Its not the discipline I disagree with its the mindset and methods. Manipulation , angry, and abusive, or just to be controlling ways are not healthy. Balance is key!! I’ve seen the scars entering adulthood.

This comment 👏 excellent way to put it

The1baddman septentrional mizè. Fanm

Exactly. She knocks the feet out from under him and makes the children think they only have to listen to her, not him

The way you discipline matters though.

I agree with you, but from the way she looks I'd like to know exactly what this man is doing. She's really upset about this.

But beating the kids isn't having any respect for the kids!