New Series! I break down the differences between pairs of personality types to see just how compatible they really are. Obligatory compatibility scale included at no extra charge!
I am an INTJ who has been with my ISFJ wife for 6 years and we thoroughly enjoy our differences. We laugh a LOT about how predictable our reactions and thought processes are. Communicating is very easy because we both know when we are going to have to give way to the other. She is always going to be better at the here-and-now for instance. I am always going to be better at planning the future. She is going to be better about being in the present which is very liberating for me because she steers me clear of the trouble I would get into because I'm thinking about a million things and paying no attention to what is going on around me. We compliment each other perfectly. She is great at things I suck at and vice versa. I think being too similar causes trouble because being too similar means having too many glaring weaknesses.
I'm a intj and he is an isfj. We are awesome together. We complete each other. There's a difference in the personality of an intj when they're in love. That's why it works.
I totally agree with this. When an INTJ is in love, we naturally give out ISFJ the emotions they crave. And we naturally try to respect our differences. I’m an INTJ female with an ISFJ female and it’s working nicely.
I'm an INTJ woman and he's and ISFJ man, and man, its has been a rollercoaster but we're figuring it out and it's the most wonderful adventure with someone ever. I love him so much.
I am an INTJ-9w8-sx/sp-Sanguineous/Melancholic and my wife is ISFJ-6w7-so/sx-Phlegmatic/Sanguineous. Although we are too different and opposite in many things we are the perfect match. Since we are each other super-ego. At the end she balances my logical-cold thinking on touching my own heart when judging or taking decisions and I help her to be more objective when she is overwhelmed about subjective situations. My conclussion is that there is not impossible compatibilities, since we have to consider too many other factors and take out any stereotypes or prejudices. Edit: I also have two best friends male & female that are ISFJs, and the relationship is pretty similar. They love and feel scare at the same time with my dark/acid humor, and I feel confortable with them as I can see the world through a more human-feeler perspective.
Hi Joseph. I'm an INTJ-T woman who's dating an ISFJ-A man and I truly feel that he is the missing piece I've been searching for all my life. We are polar opposite, true, but because we are both matured in mindset so we view this as complement each other's weaknesses. My big-picture planning + his attention to details = flawless plan. His assertiveness and care of others helps me diffuse my stress when I'm always too competitive and perfectionist. His empathetic ability makes up for my lack of emotional expression: he understands me perfectly even when I can't convey my feelings openly. My analytical mind can tell what he feels through his subtle act of service, even when he doesn't say anything. I think it's about perspective and the maturity of both parties. It's a miracle that we found each other, because it's also true that I conflict a lot with other ISFJs at work and at school
My best friend is an ISFJ. It’s very clear we wouldn’t have lasted if we didn’t meet when we were kids. Love him obvi but some things he says is just crazy to me lol
i think under certain circumstances your wrong. could very well be right in general however. i met and isfj through some what of a structured setting and i think that was the reason why we became good friends. he was my subordinate, more or less an apprentice. we spent plenty of hrs together as i was training him, including suffering though difficult situations as a team. i didnt understand alot of the things he valued at first, but he was intelligent and had integrity which i hold im high regard. through working together in that mentor/apprentice relationship ive learned to appriciate him more than most compatible types i believe because of how different we are. we make a great team because hes strong in my blindspots and vice versa. i respect his ability to care and understand interpersonal relationships, and his insight is very useful and often times gives me avenues or options i had not considered.
I totally agree. I’m a female INTJ 56 yo and my boss is a 58 yo ISFJ and I adore her. She’s intelligent and respectful of our differences, as am I. She’s funny too and makes me laugh regularly. 😂❤ She and I also complement and fill in for each other’s strengths and weaknesses. If both are mature, I think this can be a great pairing! In fact, I recently met another ISFJ and we are in the early dating stages and I’m really enjoying her as well. ❤ We INTJs can really benefit from someone taking care of us (around the house and emotionally) and I’m a very affectionate INTJ so can give love and appreciation to her all day long. 😊
I'm an ISFJ. But I've seen many signs of liking me from an INTJ guy. Whenever I try to forget about him, he keeps getting closer to me. I'm have issues with society hating me but I wonder whether INTJ would be able to handle the mental stress? How is INTJ's mentality strength? Can they cope with social hatred?
Don't worry about hurting us INTJs, we go through tons of pain all the time. Better to be honest and tell him you're not interested, and he will definitely appreciate the straightforwardness.
Yes. We're typically used to being misunderstood and disliked, but cope with it very well especially mature INTJs. We just have an extra layer of thick skin when we're content with our lives
I am INTJ & my brother is ISTP. I can resume we have very good synergy when work as a team (specially at videogames/sports/etc.), I make a plan and he is very good execcuting it. Contrary to what many stereotypes say about INTJs, we have social skills, simply being selective and considering that many interactions are unnecessary makes us have a not too wide circle, in the case of my brother as an ISTP he does not have "own friends" but that my friends became his friends and those who are added to his circle are integrated by those friends.
@@Eriodan when I asked this I was most concerned about the competition resulting from both having ni-se so they both want to be the chooser and the performer , looks like you regulate it quite well as you plan and he performs , but still do you have anything to add about this point ?
@@malakashraf2801 sure. If we play boardgames I am ussually better and win, probably an 80% of the times. But if we play a shooter videogame that requires aim skills, a good panoramic view and reflects he is quite better than me. At a competition where we are a team we struggle when I already have foreseen a plan with the best path forward (Ni-Te) he may have not see and understand yet, and he wants to take immediate action of what is logical conclusion has already lead-to (Ti-Se). Ussually this makes us go in opposite directions and makes us lose.
The communication between me and my ISFJ is horrible. Been married 10+ years and I always thought we would eventually communicate better but that's not going to happen. I feel we have grown less compatible over the years. Everything was perfect when I was younger but as the INFJ mind matures, I've realized I'm putting in way more than I'm getting out of the relationship.
I feel like this now. I’m an isfj and communication is hard becuase I hold myself back and it’s really not condusive to building emotional intamacy. I see the same thing your describing in my relationship right now and we’ve been dating for a short while. It gives me doubts and im thinking we’re better off breaking up.
