I wasn’t trying to be a cliche. I swear, I was just looking for interesting conversation and friendship. The intj male was down af. Now we’re getting married. 😂😊 -ENFP
INTJ male here. Recently I met an female ENFP (friendship) , and her personality is so charming and open to new thoughts, ideas, intuition, I think is a perfect match to improve your weaknesses and strengths. And she is so glad to know somebody that can understand his feelings and ideas. The conversation it's the most fluid I have ever have.
I remember seeing a meme that said 'How others see INTJ's outer walls' and there was a picture of somewhere akin to Mordor. Below it said 'How ENFPs see INTJ's outer walls' and there was a picture of a candy land with cotton candy clouds, rainbows and lollipop trees 🍭
ENFP female here. I have only met a few INTJs in the wild, I ran straight to them. The more they scowl and seem unapproachable the more I want to crack them open and hear their thoughts. They are one type of person I can't read and I love it. If they are near me I will sense them and go straight towards them.
Where could I find ENFP girls? I just want to maximize the chance to meet the ENFP. I never go out, as I am just feeling not worthy to go out and I need to figure out some technical problems.
@@Mr.Divorce go to any classes like pottery, cooking/baking, pottery, creative writing, woodworking, dancing. camping or hiking group trips, anything where you’re learning something new, doing/experiencing something new, and or with other people. Also volunteering anywhere. Early morning people, like we might be at the grocery store/running errands at 7:30am or hiking at the crack of dawn. Try really fun restaurants/cafes too. Museums, mainly art or science museums though (exciting = we want it). These are where most healthy enfps go when we are out I think. Someone correct me if you think I’m wrong. I would say the gym but some people don’t like being approached at the gym. A lot of physical stuff like ballet, yoga, or Pilates is women’s only so it’s hard to recommend bc that’s probably where we reliably spend time.
Go to events that are people focused, things that are sparkly and interesting. Things that involve talking to people and being social or being creative. If you’re an introvert in a sea of extroverts we will sense you and come to you.@@Mr.Divorce
Best. Intj female here. This was DENSE, factual, organized, and filled with examples. You have a perfect brain. I am so thankful to have NOT felt my time was wasted! And, your humour is legit! Impressive. I divorced an awful INTP after 20 yrs; next was ENTJ - thought it was perfect but only 1/2 of me got to be expressed, then ENTP… fun but absolutely hijacked my life w chaos… and somehow this ENFP found me. I was done dating… was sarcastic & dismissive to the ENFP… but he touched every soft spot in my heart & I was like - damn. WHY. But every conversation is like easy magic. No effort, all brain food. Crazy.
ENFP here! 🤗 I love this so much! My best friend is an INTJ and it is one of the most rewarding friendships I’ve ever had with another person. Let me tell you, being appreciated by an INTJ makes me feel so special. I KNOW so many people get on your nerves, so to not be one of those people AND be important to you? Yay! Haha Can’t wait to see more of your videos!
WOW My best friend is an ENFP two except that I’m an INTJ but I literally cannot understand what ENFP likes from us, we are like uh… Kinda boring I think and you ENFPs are like super energetic and happy often while we INTJs are almost acting like emo without being emo (Or maybe yes for some) and I really like having fun with my ENFP best friend but really, I know you find yourselves special from getting loved by us (It’s written in your comment) but other than that, is there anything else that interests you into INTJs?
@@barbaradps828 It’s the stability INTJ’s provide that makes us flock to you guys. Y’all are calm, cool, collected, and unchanging. Everything that ENFP’s are not! 😂 We are children in adult bodies, and I love to bring out the inner child in everyone, but specifically in INTJ’s because they are so stoic. But ENFP’s also possess deep wisdom and we’re more intelligent than people think because our goofy and excitable exterior tends to fool people. The INTJ in my life appreciates the mixture of childlike and mature qualities in me 😊 You also have strong morals, which we appreciate immensely. And I hate to admit it, but you are almost always right about everything….. 😂 And you also have this “idgaf” attitude about people which I sometimes wish I had because I care so much about what other people think that it becomes detrimental to my mental health in some cases. But yeah, you guys are awesome! There’s so much to love about INTJ’s. 😊
@@Moomoo54546 Oooh I see! Well thank you very much for the answer, very interesting to see and yes indeed you ENFPs are very energetic and I think it makes you pretty funny and it’s very amusing to spend time with you guys and now that you mention it, I can actually really see the smartness that some of you can have (MBTI is not same as IQ and that’s why I’m saying SOME since I’m sure that at some point there are dumb ENFPs, dumb INTJs, etc.) like when I speak of my deep thoughts with my ENPF best friend, she usually understands them and we get to speak about them though sometimes she switch the subject because MAYBE my thoughts CAN get VERY deep at the point of making heads hurt AND they can get complicated to explain like I can think of something but am not able to put them in words but I remember she once told me something very interesting when telling her some of my thoughts it was « I am proud that you are able to share you thoughts with me » and she actually seemed happy so I can see that you ENFPs probably want to « discover » our « hidden secrets/personality/wisdom » or however you want to call it and yeah she’s pretty much the only one to know all of that about me and what I think so I can see why you would feel « special » for that and thanks for telling me all of this information! Also, I really like spending time with you ENFPs, it’s very fun! Thank you for being you
My Enfp friend will always be the one that educates me on other spectrum of a matter. Whenever I'm in my analysis mode, she'll always add her perspective that eventually helps me understand the reasoning of someone's action. In conclusion, an INTJ probably needs an ENFP to help us solve emotion-related probs😂
By coincidence, one of my best friends is an ENFP, and I appreciate her logical inputs a lot. Although she is a scatterbrain, she introduces interesting topics. Even before knowing her type, I've gravitated towards her personality unintentionally.
Enfp here! I've met my intj recently and it's absolutely fantastic, I've never had such deep conversations, he listens to me actually and takes me seriously which is a rare thing haha And he says he's comfortable with me and can be more open than usual
I'm an ENFP, and my INTJ co-worker and I get along so well. We have so much fun, and we have a running joke that she's gonna kill me through laughter, and bury me in the basement... Once we finish digging a 6 foot hole, anyways. Don't want the body to be easily discovered.
The 5 reasons: 1. Enfp like to engage with other people 2. Enfp have Ne which is an idea generating machine and promotes good conversation 3. Enfp's Ne is great paired with Intj's Ni. It's mutually beneficial. A meeting of the minds 4. Enfp has Fi in their 2nd function + Te in the 3rd. Intj has Te + Fi in the reverse order which promotes balance between emotion and logic 5. Enfps know how to have fun and are able to get close to Intjs
I’m an ENFP and my father is an ISTJ. We get along very well. And I have been attracted to several INTJ’s in my life, but always stop short because, whilst I love my dad, I don’t want to marry him. So, I married an ISTJ instead and it was the best thing in the world. I love him so much. Sadly he passed away a few years ago 😔 ENFP’s out there, hold onto your TJ’s ❤
Also an ENFP here. You just hit the nail on the head; particularly about the unconventional views on what we consider fun and also the recharging part (being sometimes supremely antisocial is just the other side of the same coin). Excellent video!
As a intj I was going to comment I've been around enfp too much of my life because my twin sister is one. But after getting through the video I've realized to credit her to my ability to cognitive transition with ease.
I love how you presented this video. It was done in such a sweet way and made me (as an ENFP) feel so nice. Thank you!! 🤗🤗 Also you totally got me pausing the video to laugh about disappearing for a while than coming back with novels about all the adventures. 😂😂 OMGOSH so spot on! Hahahaha
I think my wife might be an enfp. She's a lot like what you describe here. I'm an intj who has harmonizing subtype. Great video, though I was a little distracted by the green screened virtual rooms.
I'm a male INTJ, I think the ENFP's enthusiasm and energy so to say will intrigue and work for a short while but it won't take long until I'll be totally exhausted by them. I really don't see how this one works.
Mature ENFP respects your Space and needs for alone Time. They need time for themselves a lot too. You will come out of your cave without being bitched and argued at the exit. Breath of fresh air everytime.
Шын айтсам, өзім жайлы (енфп) ретінде қатты таңқалдым. Сіздің айтқан ақпараттың барлығы ақиқат болды. Күлдім, жыладым, сезіндім. Бүкіл эмоциялық спектрін өзіммен өткіздім. Рақмет. Ақпаратты жақсы жеткіздіңіз, енді маған интж жарымды іздеу керек
Hey Joe, I'm an enfp-a male..a campaigner. And she's an intj-t architect. We have the BEST conversations ever and I NEVER want it to stop. Everything else is amazing, too!(wink wink, nudge nudge) I REALLY liked your assessment and found it valuable, fo sho. Thanks for posting and keep on moving!! Do what's true for you and don't look back. It'll happen if it's meant to be 👍😉
2:46 😂😂😂😂 Sorry guys! We do flit about abit. My middle son is a INTJ and he's like my best buddy. 8:22 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 9:02 ..." if there's a song on that they love, your guaranteed to hear about it!" 💯% 👍
We are the real soulmate of INTJ!!! You never see us at first, but we know that sooner or later you’ll get tired of faking being an extrovert and come to us. When you accept who you really are. Meanwhile we wait. We saw you. -INFP
Enfp here. I liked your video. I agreed with all your points. Some issues I come across when I date IJ types are they are very particular and meticulous. They want to be in control of their what ever it is at the time more than enfps. Not in an unhealthy way just in a way that they value stability and want to know what’s coming. For this reason I think that although this pair works for a lot of enfps, other enfps not so much. I think this pairing would challenge me as a person because INtjs. Are so different from enfps. But I don’t need to be challenged because im an enfp I challenge my self for breakfast. I don’t think I really want to be with someone who is very meticulous and particular because that bothers me. I don’t think intjs are for every enfp. I prefer enfjs or isfps or Intps when it comes to dating But as far as friendships go nearly all my friends are intjs. And I love the heck out of them
Can you make a video about the sexual romantic relationship of the ENFP/INTJ? I’m a female ENFP married to an INTJ male and I find that one problem we have is that we get stuck in our heads or our ideas too much and sometimes we are not able to live in the present/reality…and this effects our sex life because I feel like we enjoy thinking about ideas more than actually being intimate? Is this a common thing among INTJ and ENFPs? I feel like we think about sex and think about the reality of parenthood so much that it causes us to avoid intimacy… and my INTJ husband does not feel financially ready to have children and he is a big planner, help? And I think because he thinks too much about the responsibility that comes with sex he avoids it. Because he is not financially ready?!? How can we fix this? Help?!?
@Janisse Valenzuela I could make a video but until then I think I can answer your problem here. Coming from personal experience it is very possible to plan yourself out of anything (I have done this too many times). The way to break this is to stop the endless planning and dive into what you are trying to plan. Start by eliminating whatever excuses there are one by one. Responsibility? Try getting a pet or watching a family member’s kid. Finances? Sit down and look at the realistic numbers or talk with someone that has a kid to see what they have done. At every turn find small ways to break out of the plan through implementation and actual doing
Male INTJ here... I need to find an ENFP male partner, but it's so hard to find one. It's such a lonely life and I just need a little bit of mutual joy to bring happiness to each other. I'm just so tired of superficial, trite, vapid conversations with people. So boring.
This was a great video. Really well done. I super enjoyed the editing candy of it, i.e. the way you went from one scene to the next, the graphics, etc. Also, the background music fit well and wasn't too loud nor too quiet. It was just right. Goldilocks would have eaten it up. Now to comment on the content ... Ah ENFPs. One thing I must say is that it is almost impossible not to like somebody who thinks you are the shi... bee's knees. Also, something I think the INTJ appreciates is how legitimately interested an ENFP is in discussing whatever topic the INTJ happens to be into. They might not understand it, but they care. INTJ: Just because I don't care doesn't mean I don't understand. ENFP: Just because I don't understand doesn't mean I don't care. Dig? LOL And lastly, here is something interesting that I have noticed enough to make it a pattern of behavior. ENFP chicks LOVE giving me presents. Like .. to the point it is almost weird. No nix that. It's weird. It is definitely to the point where it is weird. My brother had a girlfriend who would have something for me every time she came over, clothes, bobble, candy, wine. Then there was this gal in a group class I was in who literally bought me a whole table of Christmas presents (cool stuff too! Jewelry, a record player, a record, bath bombs, etc). She got my kids art supplies out of the blue. She would share her snacks with me. I hardly knew this lady. Same with this gal I work with now. There is ALWAYS something on my desk when I get to work, whether it be a treat or some toy for my daughter or slippers for me.. Once she gave me a tiny envelope she made because she had nothing else to give me I guess? Anyways, just weird. Not complaining.
Also yes on the assisting world domination thing. That was a good point. Someone has to bring snacks to the secret lair while we plan unleash Project Blow Up The Moon.
ENFP here! Some insight into the whole being barraged with gifts: ENFP’s have so much love and enthusiasm for the people we care about and we constantly have to express it. Since you became part of her little group of people she cared about, you were the recipient of that energy. If you ever receive gifts from ENFP’s in the future, (you probably will if you befriend another!), don’t tell them it’s weird because it’ll hurt their feelings! Just say thank you and tell them how much you appreciate it. Lol We are literally golden retrievers in human form 😆 Even though you felt the gift receiving thing was a little weird, I’m still glad you got to experience being showered by the affection of an ENFP!
You don't have a 'subconscious', you have the unconscious. Pedantry aside, it's important to understand why this is a necessary distinction, as it affects the way you view and treat the structure and dynamics of the psyche. 'Subconscious' creates a mental image of conscious-centric psyche, and is like saying up is down, or that the Earth is at the centre of universe, and everything orbits around the Earth.
@BitterCoffee I would recommend looking for an ENTP on the singular basis that they have dominant Extroverted Intuition. Barring that my personal opinion is to find someone that grows you as a person and you do the same to in return. Just in general though any person that is Extroverted could fit. Just don’t want them to be too Extroverted 😉
More than likely your ENFP is doing that just because that’s how she is and it’s how she treats everyone. Look for how she treats you differently from everyone else. If she pays more attention to what you say specifically than she is interested in you. Most importantly try to dispel your jealousy. It will not aid you in getting closer to her. Replace it with genuine interest in the things she likes and enjoys
Legit as an ENFP we really wish the INTJ would tell us when they want to be alone so we can recharge. We literally cannot relax if you guys feel quiet, the instinct is we have to entertain ya or something because you stare funny 😆.
INTJ (male) In a relationship with (female) ENFP. Unfortunately, I can confirm all of this data. ENFP is a bizarre little creature, that somehow inexplicably fascinates me. The most interesting piece of data I want to put out there for others to dissect and analyze, is that any one single of her actions performed by anyone other than her, would be sufficient for me to vanish them perpetually into the unspoken world (this is the place in my mind where I mentally deny or refuse to acknowledge their existence in my world. Yet somehow when she does one of this inexcusable acts annoyance, I acknowledge it as capital sin, but somehow watch play out (because I can anticipate every single one of them right before it happens) but I watch it play out and try to justify the random acts of extroverted, unnecessary behavior. I hope other forms of intelligent life out there will intercept this data and contribute to this research.
I am an ENFP guy (27) and I feel so confused as to why INXJ's like ENFP's. You will never find me at a bar or anything of that sort unless it is a rare occasion now. I have a very high focus rate when it comes to my work and I own 2 companies. Its strange how different I feel compared to the stereotypical ENFP but I do tend to jump around more so outside of work. Idk people are strange.
Intj female here and no thanks. I've only had female enfp friends and yes they follow us around. Whst made those friendships end was how selfish they were... just so wrapped up in their Fi and their own suffering, it was too much. My problems concerns didn't matter..... I prefer entps.....
They must've been kind of toxic, considering an Enfp's Fi shouldn't be THAT overpowering. I'd imagine those types to be more wrapped around Ne, considering Fi and Te should be more balanced cause they're closer in the stack. It's not that surprising stereotypically for females though. Hope you do find better people :/
@@Blobbless Thanks. Their Ne was always looking for new possibilities, so it was strong. However for example, one of them was so obsessed with finding a man (as she was turning 40), that she only focused on that and her feelings around that (always hurt or rejected). We traveled together and when the trip ended she wrote a travel blog post thanking all the men on her journey, as if any females on her journey didn't even exist or count as people... it was so bizarre. Another one, was married for 10 years to a man she stole from some woman. She hooked up with him and he broke of with the gf next day. They got married and she was miserable case he controlled her for 10 years. Couldn't do or go anywhere, couldn't work. She ran away and divorced. But because she grew up rich and spoiled, and because of her marital isolation she forgot how to relate to other people and was only ever focused on her damaged Fi and feelings. I put up with this, because although she should have left him alone when she met him (he had a gf) she was abused. But it backfired and she ended up treating me terribly one Xmas. I just walked away and Ni doorslammed.
@@grazynawolska8160 Woah. I mean, from a typology standpoint I find it pretty odd that they'd turn to Fi (and in such a toxic way as well), as the overuse of Te (and Si) would also be more likely in more stressful situations. It could have something to do with maybe using too much Ne earlier on, so in the case of the first Enfp, they might end up desiring something more 'traditional' I might say, because she could've missed out on that earlier? (could be bad use of Si) Either way, it probably caused her to shut off her extroverted functions and become quite self absorbed and need I say, narrow minded. With the second person, I'm not quite sure why they'd hook up with someone already with a woman, could be the thrill, or something random that caught her eye, which isn't too unusual. Could've been too much idealism on her part; considering her upbringing as well. The general trend I'm noticing here is low Fe in favour for A LOT of Fi, and just low rationality in general. A lot of the time people going through rough patches will reflect that right back at someone who they think might tolerate it, and it looks like it just happened to be you. Glad you Ni doorslammed though, it's the best way to leave, lol. Also I really can't keep this in anymore- I am an Enfp, and I could've been a bit biased because I have a weaker Fi (I favour Fe) and stronger Te, so I'm a bit far from the general population of enfps. Shouldn't discount anything I've said though since Fi isn't supposed to be the dominant function for this type anyways, and types are often said to flip when in stress. So Fi would only be third priority. Of course though, there's always exceptions, and it's good you've left them.
As an intj female I don't know that I've ever actually really come across many ENFP females even though I think the female is more common but I met an ENFP man at 18 years old and we've been together ever since. I genuinely cannot imagine being with anyone else
I typed my ex after he died as ENFP. Don't know if I'm exact, but it wd explain our connection, how we connected mentally, and why it was my longest relationship. However, the toxicity you describe was also there; subtle at first, then ended up being the end of us. ENFP males are now a bit scary to me bc of him.
