How Dangerous Is My Narcissist 

Not a “ Personality disorder”; but rather, a “Demonic disorder”.

Yes! Get out and stay out. Don't waste any more of your precious time. Abusers don't change.

All narcissists are dangerous because they seek to destroy you. It's like a badge of honor to them. Once out I had no contact. Got help to understand what I could even comprehend. These beings have no empathy or humanity. That was shocking and hard still to accept. Thank you Paula and all sharing experiences.

I experienced a super dangerous narc. My ex ended the relationship from one day to another...he had found new supply. We lived together and had to stay under the same roof for a little time until I had a place to move to. One night he got extremely mad at me ..he was on the phone with the new supply while I could hear it. I was in the room next to and suddenly he came into my room asking me to go to the other end of the house. I Refused and then he went crazy. He grabbed me and wanted to strangle me ...he threatened me, several times saying he wanted to kill me. I was not in doubt that I would not get out of the house alive. He kept me as a hostage in the house for 3 hours beeing violent... I finally got out and escaped...and went to the hospital. This man is a director in a huge company, charming as hell, charismatic and handsome...no one would ever think he is capable of something like this. That night I saw the devil and demon...once before he had pushed me down some stairs...I knew at that time it was all wrong but I was simply not ready to leave. I know that he had been psycical in a violent way with an ex-girlfriend before...he told me she was the crazy one.....i did not really listen to it at that time...did not want to hear and belive what he actually told me in the lovebombing phase. Please...if you see behaviour that scares you...even a small push....run...run...run...if they have it in them it can easily explode and you will find yourself in a situation begging for your life....I did and I truly believe I'm lucky to be alive today.

Basically don't fan the flames with an abusive person, peace in your own space is the biggest win. Embrace it and move on.

Narcissists by nature are EXTREMELY intense creatures , from the love bombing , through the relationship , to the exit ! When we are with them we get used to this intensity as a new ' normal ' , and that is also why we miss them and life can seem empty when they leave . However the intensity is never built from love , respect and understanding , it actually comes from insecurity , jealousy , manipulation and CONTROL ! Once we have figured them out it changes everything , and at that point the abuse is finally exposed ! Thankyou once again , Paula 🙏 , for your wonderful empowering revelations and insight ! The more awareness is spread , the more empaths will be saved ! 💪❤️❤️

Paula, thank you so much for this topic. I got out with my life. First, the ex-narcissist conducted a really big smear campaign, then a serious financial attack. I was stunned that he would take action to threaten my life because there was no domestic violence in the marriage. To others on this channel, I say... do not underestimate the dangerous side of the narcissist. Your life depends on it. ALWAYS, keep track of your keys and phone, and do not hesitate to call 9-1-1 Emergency. Don't wait until its too late.

Speaking from my own experience there are two factors that should put us at MODERATE ease , firstly they tend to be largely full of hot air , and secondly they have no real hold on the ACTUAL truth , only their own VERSION of it ! However , even if you have fact and reason on you side it is still better to either stay silent or use very little words when under attack , because to give them ANY kind of energy will simply fuel them , and actually make them more determined to win , at ANY cost ! It may be tempting to try to fight back , and you may feel you are being feeble by not defending yourself , but you must remember these vile creatures are proud to be seen as formidable and will cause as much damage as they can , with NO regard for any amount of damage or harm on their mission to win ! They may even try to trick you into admitting to things you haven't even done , so do NOT give them ANYTHING they could use against you ! You have to think of yourself as a LIGHTHOUSE ! No matter how much the storm and crashing waves get , stand tall , stay silent and remain STRONG 💪❤️😎

As I've said 100 times...i just left..gave him EVERTHING ...only wanted my maiden name back...he STILL messed with me with my visitation with my son...AND STILL TRYING TO GET INTO MY BENIFITS 23 YRS LATER in my own home...which has NOTHING to do with him! Fast forward...i have a good relationship with my son...and i still ignore his phone calls...and within our marriage he tried to off me 3 times....once by my own hand...these shits NEVER seem to ever go away!!!!

I left quietly a year ago. I am still living at a secret address. Last week I received the divorce papers from court and they placed my address on it😳 luckily this is only a postal address. It is so important to be cautious on all fronts!! Take care and be aware!

I’m so fortunate I got away my narcissist was malicious slanderous defamatory threatening family members and my own life and the police could not do anything as I had not recorded sufficient to provide evidence I suggest buy a small recording device if they threaten your life or family that recording is sufficient evidence in a court of law ! Be safe leave your abusive narcissist , you won’t regret it . 🦋🌈🦋 0:09

Brilliant insight as ever , our Paula ! Happy Women's Independence Day ❤️❤️❤️ 💪💪 The fact is they were NEVER stronger than us , just more ruthless ! I have often thought empaths see life as a list of great adventures to be had , whereas the narcissist sees it as a series of battles to be won 🤔🤔 As long as you have truth on your side you really have NOTHING to fear . Think LIGHTHOUSE ,..stay strong , stay silent and stand PROUD 💪❤️

Just recently I started speaking w/ a therapist about the 8 yrs abuse with a person that I could not “define” until I found your informative channel discussing narcissism. Thank you for your insightful work and dedication to help others! My therapist believes I was involved with a narcissistic sociopath. They still stalk me. The psychological ramifications are deep. Thank you everyone for your helpful comments. I so appreciate this forum.

We KNOW how empty they are. My lawyer didn't understand, it seemed as if he thought I was exaggerating. After we divorced, I quickly sold the house and moved further away, but in the same city. It wasn't far enough. I moved 600km away - my lawyer couldn't believe I did that but I told him it was for my own personal safety. He never physically abused me but he likes to call the authorities to make false claims against me. I live in Quebec now, and he doesn't speak French. His power is gone. I've told my children not to talk about how well I'm doing, to let him believe I'm living a sad, dejected life. It lets him believe he has won. And that's how I win my life back.

Covert Female Narcissists are, based upon my eleven year relationship with one, EXTREMELY dangerous. This does not occur in direct physical ways but the deep insidious compulsion to destroy their partner at all costs is real. Trust me... if you get away you are lucky. These people are very dangerous., especially to men as culture conforms us to stand stoically in the face of these evil creatures. Peace.

Great washing machine analogy and great video. Please take Paula's advice, back away slowly, and don't provoke the narcissist if at all possible. You are not going to "win" if you provoke their demonic energy. I know from multiple first hand experiences. It is best to cut the energetic connection by walking away and not giving the situation any energy. (I realize this is easier said than done.) If the narcissist is involved with someone else, that can actually be a good thing because his/her attention is not on you. Like Paula said, if you threaten their control they will come after you in some way. Best to quietly fade out if at all possible so they can focus their attention on something or someone else.

I experienced it this week. A narc ‘friend’ who made hideous jokes about my rare medical condition every time we spoke, ( I overshared everything back then because I thought I could trust him, he played the trusting and caring friend that wanted to be there for me: little did I know.... ) even by sending strange jokes through WhatsApp asked me why I was backing off. Hé noticed I was on my escape route of the so called friendship. I couldn’t make up anything. I thought of lies but I didn’t want to lie about it anymore. His last attempt was sending me one of my latest Whatsapp messages with a cynical ‘could you please response?’ My answer was: no I please could not. I expect the worse but up till now he disappeared faster than snow in the sun.

Very good Paula; my disabled sister died 4 years ago due to this BS + dangerous!!

Great video again Paula! One of the saddest things (for me anyway) about having been in a long term relationship with a covert narcissist, is that even after getting away, you are forever looking over your shoulder and in the rear view mirror. It would be great if there was a way to make you feel you do not have to do this but as we know the nature of the narc , I'm not sure if that is possible.

Thank you for this video, Paula. I’m out now, but I almost became that person on the news.. my ex went to shoot me in the head while I was laying in bed and the bullet went through my wrist instead. I’m one of the lucky ones. To anyone reading this, there’s no limit to what these people will do to You…and you have to force yourself to recognize what they are.

Thank you for the video, it was very helpfull. The split second when the mask slips shows the human person behind everything, but unfortanetly those moment are rare and usually last just a blink of an eye. Loved the description ”cash register eyes”

* I’ve never felt my heart broken like this before. Now I have zero trust in anything anyone says. * I’m judging people on actions not words from now on. * Words are just noise. People let you down & life goes on for everyone around you. While I’m trapped trying to figure out what went wrong. How to pay the bills & fix myself. Knowing I’ll never be the same person & the person I married didn’t really exist. It was all a lie. * My only comfort comes from the pain I’m in… I know she doesn’t feel like I do. I know I have the ability to love & I’ve experienced love. She isn’t capable of that & has no idea how to or what love is. If she did she wouldn’t of done this. * I got ghosted Jan 19th & Feb 23rd she was out on a date. Feb 18th I received my letter of divorce proceedings & haven’t even had a conversation with her. * The reasons they move on so quickly is because they don’t have the ability to be alone & work on themselves. They need the ego boost & gratification from others. It’ll fall apart & when that happens they’ll blame the new supply just like they blame us.

How timely for me to see this. I'm facing the sale of my house and the unpredictable nature of the narc in the process. He is prone to rage and destruction of property, so I am happy to hear your recommendation of treading lightly, which I would do anyway, but you have validated it. It's tempting to get into a battle with this guy because he is of such low character and his sense of entitlement so huge that I just want to lambast him with words and do things to his personal property in return, BUT I resist. Because I know what he is capable of and he will always win. Even if he's not really winning, the important thing is to let him THINK he's winning. I figured that out along the way. I've told him many times "Ya know, if you're wrong about something you're not gonna die. You won't combust into dust and cease to exist. It's ok to be wrong sometimes." Their big fragile egos. Ugh! Friends have said get a restraining order. HA! No way. It's toilet paper to this guy. I know this because a former neighbor got a restraining order on this narc in my life and it didn't stop him from taking revenge on the neighbor's property under the cloak of darkness and was never found out that he was the person who did it. My fear of him has held me back from proceeding with a sale, but the most important thing is to get him out of my life completely. I'll be moving to another state and won't tell him where. Hey, if I'd only known when I got involved with this craphead who he really is; by then you're hooked and in that ridiculous cycle of abuse, chasing the dragon of hoping to be treated like he treated you in the beginning before all the ugly came out.

I was married 34 years with 6 children my husband and his whole family planned my death to take my marital assets from me he went to jail twice one for Domestic battery by strangulation and the other for stalking we have been divorced now for almost a year now he put a private Lawyer to terminate my permanent restraining order against him iam fighting it off with my lawyer as well my ex husband family stalks me all the time and i even lost my job because i left him and never looked back hes in a narcissistic fury and is taking his revenge on me and our children it never ends at least mine is extremely malignant sadistic and his family cult as well but i stand my ground strongly.

My neighbour was sweeping up the debris the morning after the abuser left. He only had two words to say to me its Cohesive Control. Everyone else seen it. I am blessed this neighbor and his wife has cared for me often popping in to see I'm doing ok. I need to move house soon too many bad memories the floor I was kicked on,. the wall I was strung up against.

Thankyou Paula for this amazing channel. The paranoid thinking style that characterizes many narcissistically disordered individuals exacerbates the risks intimate partners face. An intimate partner is inherently at risk for several reasons: (1) the NPD suffers from a paranoid thinking style (2) the NPD lives with the perpetual fear of being found out (3) the NPD is always strategizing ways out of the relationship and covertly plotting what they will be taking with them as they exit (4) the NPD often suffers from grandiosity and believes that they will never get caught (5) the NPD is willing to do anything to protect their false image. The person most at risk of harm by the NPD is the intimate partner precisely because the intimate partner is the person most likely to see behind the mask. Although Paula has mentioned in other videos that we are most at risk when exposure is imminent, it is crucial to be aware that exposure is always imminent when partnered with an NPD. We are blinded to their betrayals because of the cognitive dissonance.

Thank you so much Paula for all the encouragement and things to look out for. So true what you said to be prepared rather than unprepared! My ex husband narcissist had been seeing our younger daughter outside in the garden he was not allowed inside the house. Suddenly the next minute he had barged his way into the house and was physically threatening me. I called the police straight away and they arrived within 5 minutes it was so quick. I asked them to remove him off the property until I could talk to them. They took him away in a white van and my daughter was traumatised. I told her I would not hesitate to call the police again as it had a reference number. Over 18 years instead of having 2 dogs at separate times that had to be put down due to illness. No problem with him he did them in without me knowing and said the vet was a waste of money. He brought in a baby owl no feathers yet but nearly there. After 2 days he rung its neck as he was tired of its screeching! There were other instances too and knew he was very capable of causing physical harm to me given the chance. Those who are not sure just get out and take nothing. Don’t hesitate as Paula said their cycles change constantly so you have to be on guard all the time. I truly believe that narcissist are true demons in a physical body. Their hearts eyes and mind is totally evil and black with demonic intentions for sure. This all happened 25 years ago and am so grateful I am out. Thank you Paula for your amazing words you put across in a very clear way for anyone to understand. All my past has started making sense since I started listening to you this year. You sure have been an answer to my prayers. For so long I have been feeling so guilty for all we went through thinking I should have been more patient especially with having 2 daughters together in our life. Absolutely NOTHING is worth staying around for. Bless you abundantly Paula as well as Remy who we haven’t seen a while now. Maybe he goes out the room when he hears the topic of narcissism and wouldn’t blame him either 🙏🐕

preparing for court with a narcissist so you can expose narcissists in court and win. The only thing that can be worse than having to deal with a narcissist is going to court with one. Whether it is a civil suit (for example a divorce case) or a criminal case in case they committed a terrible crime, the narcissist will do whatever they can to make themselves appear the victim and hurt by the mess. A narcissist in court is more toxic than dealing with one privately. They will go to extreme measures to make you the villain. We all know someone who has dealt with a narcissist in court or dealt with one ourselves. They are known to play dirty in court. Narcissists can seem like they will break in court but they will always find a way to work around and cover up their lies with more lies because the narc lies in court almost every time. With the right moves and tactics, sometimes they are able to convince the judge and jury that they were the victim after all. This one is definitely a worthy listen. So sit back and listen to the different tactics used by narcissists in court. We know you are going to learn some interesting facts. Narcissist view going to court differently than you and I. They welcome the opportunity for attention and fuel/supply HOW TO FIGHT AGAINST FALSE PROTECTION ORDERS & LIES. Also..how to get a protective order if needed.

God bless you lady 🙏🏼. Your channel Sure woke me up to the reality of this subject. And made me realise after many many years that my own mother was( long gone now 🙏🏼sad to say) Añd I've now recognised the same thing in my sister 😏 . Long story short I've had to go what i now know to be called Grey Rock. 🙏🏼🙏🏼

My 2 narcissistic partners would go to the doctors with all these so called problems get all sorts of prescriptions for all these different drugs,the 2 of them had cupboards full of these drugs all sorts of sleeping tablets and whatever else they were getting,their was days when you weren't feeling well for no reason at all and you could see they had something to do with it,when you say your feeling great and fit the next day your feeling sick and not well,the drugs they have built up through going to the doctors and deceiving the doctors they use on you through drinks and food,very sick repulsive people, brilliant Paula that's just what happened with me🌹❤️

Yes, step away quietly. Am doing it now. It's slow, really slow, but it's going to be worth it in the end.

Ive learned from my experiences recently that although difficult , to create effective disconnection, leave them with the feeling that they have won and go grey rock.

I'm sovereign and don't have one anymore. 👏😊 However, I do feel for the ones in those situations.

Very well explained. Thanks

I reached out to one of my daughter's I have four daughters and a son. I went to her house and then on to another two daughters seems they like back up or safety in numbers. Youngest got married in September 2022. They put a mobile phone in my hand to watch the small version of the wedding video. When my abuser appeared twice i couldn't look I let the phone face downwards. A daughters hand gently lifted my hand to watch the rest of the beautiful wedding. I'm quiet and my children are very loving. They love father and mother. Strange moment having my hand lifted to watch more.

Smear campaigns help you to see who is who.

Never get tired of you expressing and giveing general practical yet simple breakdown of what these people are. As simple as you explain it there should be no reason short of Cognitive dissonance as to why anyone would continue to remain. But that in & of itself can be the biggest reason why anyone stays .cognitive dissatense will find a million reasons to leave and choose only one unreasonable reason to stay.BLEZZ#KEEP DA CHANGE

Thankyou this is just what I needed to watch.

My ex Narc knew he was the sole beneficiary of my will, when we split I was so suspicious of him and his nasty attitude that I threw away everything in my kitchen store cupboard that had been previously opened while he had access to my house. I wouldn’t have put it past him to set up a future poisoning. Then I changed my will cutting him out completely and made sure he knew about it. 7 years total no contact now and living my best life.

Totally agree. Pick your battles and if you get a smear from something that looks like the Tasmanian devil after a ‘win’, then count your blessings it’s just that. People don’t care and those that do don’t matter

I don't want revenge. I'm not a vindictive person. Sometimes I do relish when they get their 'just deserts" but not much beyond that. I just want someone to be nice to me and love me as I love them, with the same passion I give them. I love listening to your words and hearing your passion. The depth you convey is just wonderful. I look forward to hearing more from you. xoxo Do you like American music?

Thank you, you always big healer!

Excellent video 👌 thanks for your education and wisdom 🙏

NEVER underestimate how far they will go to end you. You have limits - they do not. They are dangerous ! Do NOT try to go toe to toe . You will lose and may even put your physical life in jeapardy. This is not an exaggeration. Best to quietly go away from them. Quietly get away and be far away before they even know about it !!

Thank you for brilliant advice Pola.

VERY VERY HELPFUL Paula, even though good few years out i still cautious.

Love your videos Paula, always so informative. Xxx

Never listen to what a stranger/new person tells you, if they act over familiar like they know you already, stay away from them, if they radiate a strange dark/aggressive energy, again, stay away, people's energy that they radiate is the " true" essence of who they are, and use your own energy to pick that up and not ignore it (call it intuition, aura sensing, using the gut-brain, whatever) , that's what should be used to identify who that person is, they may look harmless or attractive but inside lurks a stealthy dangerous predator/ parasite, 🩷💕🩷

Thank you, Paula ❤

Yes this was soo helpful Paula! Time and time again when I've been stressed or concerned about my situation with my narcissist, your videos pop up and help to give me shelter from the storm! Thank You! Thank You! Thank You!!! 💖🌹😇👍🏻

Thank you Paula😌

Wow !

I agree with this wise and intelligent woman.

The one that trapped me was a feeble minded weakling. So escape was easy and uneventful. But there are some who are deranged and insidious and never seem to let it go. They’re consumed with jealousy and envy and more than anything ENTITLED. So they’re the harder ones to remove.

We’re just Pawns in their sick Game called Life.

Nobody would say a shark has a personality disorder! It’s a shark. A Narcissist does NOThave a personality disorder he/ she is a narcissist. Beware of sharks and beware of narcissists🤬

I didnt cohab, thank goodness, and i didn't say yes to a any of his marriage proposals (months later he said he was only joking, then when he discarded me he was engaged in 6 weeks)... his estranged son asked me was there any "domestic violence"... for me no. But i never cohabbed, but there was weird spooky behaviour (creeping around at night outside, moving stuff in garden, denying it, then admitting it??? And phrases like "i could be in your house in seconds" or "i know your routines"... ). Since brutal discard he followed me once and has never made any other contact, but i do wonder...in future... could he be bothered to 'play' with me? Probably not.

Thank you Paula!

I hope he is happy with the new supply enough to keep him busy and away from me... sorry new supply!

Yes, I sometimes get annoyed at myself that, even though I know the narc is using video surveillance of me, I pick up an object left by him in an annoying spot in my yard. (Otherwise I don't acknowledge his existence). But then I realize that allowing him to have that bit of satisfaction is best. He can be very dangerous. He's on the psychopathic end.

My narc ex would feel most dangerous to me at night. While in bed sleeping beside me, he’d have what I called night rage. I’d suddenly wake up to him screaming out obscenities, punching the mattress or kicking the mattress, my legs, my feet very hard. I’d jump up alarmed & say what’s wrong. He’s either not answering me (but would obviously be awake) or would tell me to “shut the f*ck up” and he’d roll over again. Minutes later I’d be receiving swift intentional kicks to my legs again, knowing full well he was not asleep as he’d just told me to F-off. During these nights I began to feel like I was sharing a bed with an evil presence and I was afraid. Loving in the morning, full of absolute hatred towards me during night rages. I’ll never forget it as long as i live.

I need more info on this subject. I don't want to push. But I have no idea how much time I have left. Thanks very much.

NPD people will have co-diagnosis’s, meaning they will have or at least have the traits of additional personality disorders. Example , BPD are also NPD. Makes them much more dangerous than the low level narcissistic.

Thanks!

Hi Paula I got rid of the narc I was married too kicked him out of my place, I plan on moving soon no contact at all I blocked him on everything I want nothing to do with that demon ever thank you for your videos I have been watching you a long time your videos taught me a lot.

Love this beautiful lady.. ❤️😘

I took the dollop of control back

They getting worse with the next, thats what I see with my exhusband. In our marriage he was indifferent and passiv aggressiv, with next#1 he would get ragefits even against her children. But he has uped his faking skills and so #2 is still not aware whats going on but when I looked at the pictures of the "happy couple" her smile already vanishes. Its a question of several months I guess....

I actually think we as empaths give these narc's more "power" than they deserve. As far as I am concerned they are weak. Imagine knowing that you don't have a personality, how terrible must that be? I still feel sorry for these individuals, but surely a person need to introspect? It's a very sad, sad story and I wish I could help them, but the old saying leading a horse to water is so true with these individuals.

Are they ever seen as authentetic by their parents? The most therapists say that there is nearly no treatment for it and that treatment would be very difficult. Can the authentetic self be repeared or it is never been there but can they seek for it.

What did the narcissist say after entering the hospital ER? "You can all go home, I feel great!"

@naccon Are we seeing more people with this trait? Others say the same thing. It's even in extended(cousins 40+) Family. Only a very few are looking at themselves, know who they are, change behaviour. Is it because we have only just become aware a narc is not just a person who loves their face ( if you are laughing, 😅😂😂I agree. ). Does knowledge make us more sensitive to the warning flags🏴‍☠️ Peace✨️🌎💝💕✨️

Paula Why do i keep finding narcissist as intimate partners? Do they seek me out because they truly are demons or is it me? I first was with an overt then came the covert who i thought was far more dangerous.

5 years out and I expect more revenge...don't feel safe....its evil

2:00 NOW i get it why my ex covert wife Superman is her favourite comic character. She think she's invincible eh? I'm her F$#@$ Doomsday! ( which is one of my all time favorite character. lol )

Cowards are not sexy. He was not willing to walk through the muddyness of life. I know my worth.

Yes, be careful. My narcissist lives in the same house. - I'm not with him, I don't talk to him, he has no access to my life. - The ‚emotional scanning radar‘, iss semengly enough. This (childlike,childish) imagined,fantasy world, lives next door to me. (When I had a boyfriend, he crashed... and, under his radar, because he is … overly confident in himself. Barely finished already forgotten for him.) With Corona: smear campaign, and a woman (awakening like a desert rose), … narcissist, and like its origin: The mother who spoils* her son extremely... out of self-interest. (They both just sit around at home. As demanding as he is, relationships don't last with him, and she similar …). (On another RU-vid channel he says draining energy, hmm, it's all about maintaining their imagined world.) Yes, I would be very, very happy if he found someone else. ...and this is what I know, so far: yes, be careful. * How many children are spoiled and how many adults say they have been spoiled: nobody (well, by the way, etc.) Because? then you would have to stop it.

I met up with my ex recently, over a year since we broke up. She was very remorseful and apologetic, was admitting being difficult, being paranoid and being controlling. But was blaming all this on being a recovering alcoholic( hasn't drank for over 20 years) not being narcissistic. She was asking for examples of her Paranoia and her controlling behaviour. I've wondered since is this because she doesn't want to make the same mistakes she always does, and not ruin her current relationship. The fact she's not accepting she's narcissistic must mean whatever she learns she won't be able to change. Maybe I'm just being naive again and she's still being manipulative.

Expect the unexpectable

Oh the malignant overt did take tevenge by trying to kill me.

I have exposed the narcissist - expecting her revenge from the smear, and possible attack from flying monkeys - I slept 🛌 with one of her friends last week, and met a very pretty new girl as well

I would like to think that what your title is saying is "How vulnerable is the narcissist's partner?"

Why is a shark, a shark . . . (and not a dolphin)? That’s evolution! Why does a narcissist, a narcissist, and not an empath? That’s evolution! We have to deal with sharks and narcissists, as they are today (not 5,000 years ago). Narcissists IMHO, are a different species of human than empaths. Similarly sharks are a different species of fish than dolphins.

Empath in me sees a sadness 😔 in your eyes. I guess I should be happy to know that everyone here isn't faux

Mmh, its now on your time girls. Freundliche Grüße Berg

The hardest and most humbling thing for me was to ACCEPT that the person I thought he was never existed. It takes a lot of strength to say ‘I got it wrong’. It may be a test of your own resilience. DO accept it. It’s sad but true ❤️‍🩹