How has your SELF-ESTEEM been shaped by a narcissistic relationship? 

The narcissist's biggest weakness is that they over estimate their intelligence, power and under estimate yours.

They shatter our self esteem. Which will make us question our self worth. We have to pay the price for their abusive behavior.

Shattered. Ive been told I'm stupid, ugly, fat, incompetent - I am none of these. I went to Italy and learned to paint and was treated like a princess. A line from The Holiday sums it up : someday you'll go somewhere and you will meet people and slowly little parts of your soul will start to come back.

My self-esteem was quite high when I met him. Now, I have no idea who I am.

You don't actually start out with low self esteem, but they will see to it that you get there, no problem. 😂😢

My narc dad made fun of how everyone looked on tv and even found physical faults in everyone he came across. My narc mom made me feel like I could never do anything right. She found fault in the way I cleaned, put up groceries, how I cooked, or even how I talked. Whenever she got in her moods she would start lashing out and tell me everything thats "wrong" with me and downed every choice I ever made. Between the both of them, they've given me such a low self esteem. I struggle to trust myself and make decisions. I struggle to accept myself. I always feel like I'm not good enough. And I still struggle with body dysmorphia and eating disorders. I'm trying really hard to get over this and love and accept myself.

I did quit myself. Decades ago. I realize that doing this helped ease her anxiety, but not completely. Last week, Mom told me I've lost my personality. No friends... I'm looking for a new home I can afford to move into so I can rebuild myself- spirit, soul, and body.

They definitely attack a person’s self esteem.

I remember as a teen, reaching the point where I was criticized for EVERYTHING I did. I finally reached a phase where I didn't want to do ANYTHING.

You’ve got to leave them behind. It will break your heart, but you’ve got to side with yourself.

Once, my therapist said "as adults, self-esteem becomes a decision". It took time to sink in, but I started doing things I thought I couldn't, like going back to university to get a psychology degree, trying a new sport, start to swim. All of these steps were accompanied with an inner voice that predicted failure, but I kept going. Succeeding helped me build a strong sense of my own value, something that didn't need other people's approval anymore. Thank you for this interesting topic!

After being in a narcissistic relationship or just being around narcissists, it feels like your self-esteem has been through the worst of times. The constant walking on eggshells and suppressing the ability to make a move or express myself authentically for fear of judgment or backlash. One of the biggest struggles I have is the anxiety of being assertive and confronting someone when they do something wrong to me. It’s like in the back of my mind I picture myself giving them a piece of my mind, but once I’m face to face with them, I freeze up like a deer in headlights, like there’s an invisible barrier holding me back and trapping my words inside my throat. In that moment, I’m overthinking the fear of the unknown, fear of consequences, or the fear of being vulnerable.

My divorce from my narcissistic spouse came through today. It took me 30 years to walk away. Dr Ramini helped me to realise that he wouldn't change and though I am financially stuffed I feel free to live the rest of my life and be my best self. Thank you Dr Ramini ❤

My dad has really shattered my self esteem. Belittling me and making me feel like I'm not good enough

I was an independent truck driver, my disability force me into retirement,. The narc said, "whatever u choose I'll support you".. My sense of self whittled away by him. He denies I have a disability. (It's real, guys) look at me, I'm still defending myself. It's been more than 100 days no contact. I am grateful for Dr, Ramani He is in narcissist hell, taking everyone with him... Not me, I'm a Phoenix

I learned how to have self esteem once I began believing in myself. I realized that I like myself and others do too. I don't need them to tell me how I should walk and talk, to be dictated to by a person who is lost.

That cycle could NOT be described any better…and the cure: no contact with the Narc, rip the toxic band-aid off! And immerse yourself in ONLY healthy relationships. The healing comes quicker this way. ❤

I am literally in tears listening to you now. How can you be so accurate every single time! Your words about negative self-perception are so true. Thank you Dr. Ramani, for acknowledging our pain and for giving us the wisdom.♥

It does take a long time. I’ve found myself being surprised when people reject me because I’m pretty great, but in unbelief when they accept me for who I am. I have no box to put that in yet.

It's really challenging leaving behind someone you've loved for so long even though they have lied and cheated. Their will to stand behind their lies, no matter what, is so sad yet defining. It has been the pinnacle to understand their reality and the foundation to healing. Thank you again for your dedication and vulnerability! It's not so lonely going through this BS.

Brilliant. "No matter how healthy your self-esteem was when you got into this relationship, it will inevitably erode your self-esteem, because at some level, your healthy self-esteem would represent a threat in this relationship."

"Survival for all of us is a right, and healing even more so! " Thank you.

I agree! My narcissist completely destroyed my self-esteem. At 81, I am struggling to recover from 41+ years of narcissistic attack. As a mother, I was blinded by a mother's love and future hopeium😢. God bless you, Dr. Ramani ❤️ 🙏

If the Narc is a parent it seems so much more caustic. After all a parent is supposed to love you unconditionally. They are supposed to be there through thick and thin "a face only a mother can love". Etc. When it is your parent telling you "your unlovable, ugly, no one will ever love you it cuts to the core. When a father asks your date "why would you want to date her when you can have the pick of the litter". It cuts deep, leaving a scar that never goes away. The constant scrutiny about your clothing, your hair, your weight and every thing you do or don't do. Your left with a shell empty inside.... searching for who or what you are, believing what ever it is must be awful. Finally sadly in your 40's you realize it was never you...... it was them that was so flawed, but the scars still never go away.

After learning that I was not worth listening to, not worthy of justice and open to ridicule based on lies. They are demons, not broken. The lesson I learn is Live and let die. I will never help anyone who behaves like that even if they are bleeding out....

My self esteem is high enough that nobody will ever treat me the way the narc did. On the other hand, I will not allow *anyone* through the barrier ever again. Is a win-draw scenario

Those puffed-up distortions are also shared by the enablers -- and the enablers will beat you with them, literally and figuratively, to try to force you to see them that way as well

Please everyone, Dr. Ramani is spot on. I realized what narc say has nothing to do with us. It’s them projecting, laugh and that puts it back on them. Love your self more. Thanks Doc❤

It was only about 2 years ago that I learned about golden child , the enabler (mother), the scapegoat, etc . Thanks to Doctor Ramanyi . Behavior I believe is generational. I am now seventy. The pain has lasted a long time . Thank you .

After years of put downs from my parents, I've regained my own confidence, and becuase of them I have a knee jerk reaction to any criticism, or anyone attempting to manipulate me. And they get a variation of "fuk off!"

When you’re around someone with low self-esteem, they will make you feel bad about yourself. When you’re around someone with high self-esteem, you will feel good. As within, so without. People can only give you what they’ve got. You can’t get blood from a stone.

Self esteem is self love. You may have lost a few battles, but the war against negativity goes on. It's not a crime loving yourself too much. No-one can gaslight you when you know and love yourself. Many years of therapy has prepared me to get on with my life after every failed relationship. It's ok to start over. This time you have experience dealing with life's failures.

Destroyed my self esteem, self belief, self identity I'm just a walking dead person

I was told I was fat, ugly and stupid. I truly believed this as it was hammered into me. I was so insecure and I had an eating disorder. I still struggle with body image. My husband is amazing and has really helped and supported rebuilding me back up. I cut off my twin because he is 100% N. It has been 6 months of peace. How do I rid myself of the guilt that I sometimes feel?

"the self blame lingers like bown rice at the bottom of a pan." Every video is informational And good. This one is hitting harder

Mine was shattered by my father. My mothers in the same way. My grandfather was very much a narcisist and my uncles and aunts are same. I no longer speak to him or his family. I feel so much better since but it has taken time to restore myself. It's work and a journey to repair the lost time where I felt I had no control.

Hi,I'm old now.My marriage in my youth,was before we had access to information.He was diagnosed during the divorce as npd sociopath.Walking on eggshells?Even slept on eggshells.Wish it on no one. ❤

I finally found myself & self esteem after years of dealing with these vultures!! What I can’t seem to get myself out of is the anger I feel after finally waking up. I feel like I wasted my life & potential 😢

Sure, yet heart break can recover, yet after years of multiple heartbreaking moments, gets a bit tougher to recover from the crazy making moments to recalibrate from. Glad you wrote your book!

When I questioned my mother why my accomplishments received no praise and all my friends parents made a big deal when they accomplished something, my mother said "It's because we know you CAN". That doesn't even make sense but what can you expect from a mother who quoted the Bible "Pride goeth before a fall" and "Pride is a sin". I was taught to think of myself as trash.

I was always told by narcs “never change, I love how you are. I hope you never change”. Never felt good hearing, it always felt strange.

Thank you for your brilliant observations and advice dr Ramani ❤ if we stay in a relationship with a narcissist, our healthy self esteem will get eroded because we will either play it small to appease them which is engaging in a lie or inevitably come into conflicts with them. We must leave and do not look back.

this is so true to life! I had my self-esteem broken in such relationships, a couple of times. when I got out of such relationships, I was broken and didn't have any identity and didn't believe in myself after. yet to me healing after such relationships is still going and it's not easy at all.

He just made me feel ugly, stupid and I hated how I felt around him. The thing is, I could never quite put my finger on on any one thing; I just knew that I didn't like myself around him. At all. He just went out of his way to belittle me; if I tried to suggest something that might help him (he was constantly in legal trouble over his drunken behavior) or tip-toe around constructive criticism, LOOK OUT, because I was in for it! He'd accuse me of saying things that I KNOW I never said, to the point that I'd question my memory; then he'd get drunk, and he'd assault me-SEVERELY-and I'd swear off of him AGAIN, only for him to come crawling back, pull me back in, and then he'd inevitably do it all over again-and I'd get it even worse the next time....and there was ALWAYS a next time. Until I finally ended it and prosecuted him for felony assault.

Thank you! 💜 This is what I needed to hear just now, perfect timing if you will. I've been processing old memories from my childhood, ones I had thought were buried so deep that I never knew they existed. But part of that is the narcissist in my life telling me daily it didn't happen. I'm remembering more and more physical abuse... And I'm realizing, this person has only gotten worse as time has gone on. And I'm beginning to accept. It wasn't until I was in my 20's that I went NC. And more than a decade later I finally have former friends of hers approach me apologizing for how they treated because of what she told them... The one that finally pulled me up though, was a family member reaching out, 15 years later. I went NC from the entire family - at the time it was because of fear and shame - I was convinced I was the problem... so I took myself out of it believing I was helping everyone else because I wouldn't be around to ruin things anymore. They got a hold of me and apologized for not understanding how hard it was for my brother and I all those years ago. But they know now. They have been on the receiving end a few too many times, and they have also gone NC with her. It was a major breakthrough.... I finally have validation. They believe me. That is the first time a family member has said they believe me... 37 years, and that was the first time. Shocker, and it still sends chills. 💜 Those things did happen. I will continue to tell my truths. I will continue to be proud of myself for surviving, and I will heal and learn to thrive. Also, I need to continue to learn how to be kind to myself and learn how to have compassion for myself. 💜 I was lead to believe doing these things was selfish and once upon a time I was punished for being selfish... I'm a work in progress... 💖✨

Thank you Dr. Ramani! Fingers crossed for more videos on vulnerable/covert narcissism and friends as narcissists :)

In celebration of you on the strong and beautiful woman that you are and helping so many of us. Happy Woman's Day! ❤💪👠🙏

My narc mom has always made me feel like she’s better than me which really screwed with my self esteem growing up. She would always say “I can’t wait until you’re 18.”

So true Dr Ramani, loss of self esteem doesn't happen overnight but it does happen. Being with one of these terrible beings is like a slow death.

I've been binging on Dr Ramani & Evy Poumpouras videos just to find my way out of this dark hole I've felt I'm in. God Bless you intelligent, motivating women!❤

I can tell from your videos that you have been traumatized by a narcissistic father and husband and you are on a mission, as I am. I have been traumatized by narcissistic psychologists who sexually abused me. I love your content and feel for you, especially after watching the video of yourself as "the girl in braids" What you are doing is helping others through healing and bringing understanding and validation to yourself, something I know on a deep, personal level!

To my chagrin, the answer is unfortunately, yes. But I am not accepting their version of me.

Thank you for this post Dr Ramani. I appreciate you reminding us/me that when the clouds of low esteem surface…to ride it out…that this too shall pass. It is so poignant to me that you see the effects of the damage. I would love to hear more on how to “rise up and out” from low esteem, doubt, second guessing and the inner critic from you. Thank you again. 🙏

Thank you for that Dr Ramani. Just beginning to get my self esteem back after blocking Everyone in my Toxic Family who Scapegoated me for years. Thank you. Love your Videos. ❤

*My self-esteem quickly sprouted and bloomed when I started college. I knew I could actually be happy, create a life worth living, helping others was my calling. But when my father had surgery when I was preparing to go away to school, I became extremely depressed b/c it was my duty to care for him, and I became a servant...Growing up with an exploitative, manipulative, coercively controlling narcissistic father is a ticket to trouble with self-esteem. He always told me how to be a good person, but never encouraged me to believe in myself or know my potential. I was extremely sensitive, painfully shy, and insecure. I hated being called on. Presentations terrified me. In high school, I flat out refused to do a couple despite being a straight A student. I got along well with others, wasn't judgmental, but was hypersensitive to the judgement of others. My parent always talked about how popular he was, how great he was at every sport, how many friends and pretty girlfriends he had...He thought quite highly of himself. all ego. He was taught to believe in himself, so he had it to give and chose not to give it.

I definitely feel myself getting back to where I was before I met this person. I’ve been no contact now for over a month, and I feel myself awakening. While I was in the relationship, I did what I did as a child. I shut myself down when I knew it was toxic, then started to develop a plan to remove myself from it. Your videos have made me realize I was a codependent person because of childhood trauma, I spent years on myself undoing the traumas to build me back or build me to the person I should’ve been in the beginning. I have had to do the same this individual. You know a person can think they’re solid in themselves, but in reality, it doesn’t take much to unravel the positive work done on ourselves.

Thanks for the Emotional Support. 🎉

I have been having an awful time this past week and been struggling with my low self esteem. This was a well-timed reminder- thank you!

My malignant narcissist brother calls himself a powerhouse daily and also blames the entire world …his family included…for his failures…because he says he has to pay for the world’s sinning…and it’s their fault he can’t get a job.

My mother literally led a group in my elementary (primary) school called, "project self-esteem" while destroying mine, so throughly, my first legit attempt (not a cry for help or something I ever wanted known, and a part of why I don't keep a journal to this very day) on my own pulse rate was when I was still attending said school. I think I was about 11 years old. I only started to not have those dark thoughts daily, or even weekly, or honestly since I can actually recall now that I'm writing this, for the first time in my life since I went no contact with my mother 3 years ago. I was born in 1984. Please, if you're reading this and haven't yet, go no contact. Pick yourself. You are worth it.

Thanks Dr. Ramani for all You do to help us move forward from the devastating effects of narcissistic abuse. My wounds run deep 💔 Got Divorced in 2017 from a Malignant Narcissist of course I didn't know it back then. I Lived to tell the tale Thank God I never quit my job like He wanted Me too. My Mother is a Narcissist. I finally came to terms with that last Christmas 🎄as You say Radical Acceptance have gone No Contact I'm grieving this Pain is Unbearable but I choose to believe that healing is possible no matter how long it takes. God bless 🙌 You.

They make you feel like you don’t DESERVE to have self-esteem, and YOU’RE the entitled piece of crap if you DARE try to think otherwise.

Thanks Doctor you star you help us all ❤

I have tears in my eyes!!!

In this video, Dr. Ramani says that the more you can stay away from the narcissistic folks, the better your self-esteem will be. I also hear her talk about the need for support from others around you, like friends, etc. For people who can't get out of their narcissistic living situations, it's very hard to develop a healthy sense of self-esteem. And without a healthy sense of self-esteem, it's very hard to form meaningful relationships with others and therefore get the support you need.

Thank you Dr. Ramani, This gives me hope. I married my narcissistic husband at 18 yrs old and after 13 years of marriage and 3 kids, I’m finally free! But my self esteem is suffering. Cognitively, I know I am beautiful and worthy of love, but I feel so ugly, unlovable, and unworthy. Idk how he did this to me. I’m having the hardest time getting dressed for the day and feel stupid in everything I try. I just sit in the closet and sob. But by Gods grace, I pick out and outfit, pray, and get on with my life. I have hope that with time, prayer, God, journaling, self care, talk therapy and EMDR therapy, and educational videos like these I can become whole once again.

I was very lonely and sad and he was so charming and self-assured. He picked up on my loneliness and sadness right away and took advantage. I trusted him very much and over time I became very dependent on him. He knows a lot of stuff about a lot of things and knew a lot of people and would be able to help me with any problems that I had.

I feel human behavior is learned . For whatever reason. War displacement , growing up whereby one or both parent are absent . Children need nurturing , guidance and direction from both parents . If one parent is absent chances are parent will be absent for at least one child . To golden child means at least one other child is left often to figure out absent parent on their own . Behavior is generational. Thank you Dr Ramanyi.

Dr Ramani, your promise to regain my self esteem is what I will hold onto today. God Bless You. Be safe be well. 🌷

A narcissist's self esteem is like a 3 year old's temper tantrum.

It’s friends, family, and coworkers saying off the wall hateful things 24/7. Even therapists it’s weird to me…people I haven’t even met too , violent energy. It’s always extreme abuse, never normal

Survivor triumph and victory! Thank you!

It has taken me 5 years and my 2 best friends to get my self esteem back along with the rest of my manhood.

This is so true. ❤

I have cognitive dissonance from the narcs telling me I am awful but it just doesn’t add up

My self esteem was low in the beginning and growing over time. So my nac was very unhappy, trying to put me down all the time. I told not to accept that behaviour, it kills the relationship. My self esteem is now healthy and good, I set borders all the time. The nac is exploding when I am told to end it. Now I'm free, but some one is bagging to come back...

Yet another great topic to address. I didn’t know abt or what narcissism was before getting into a relationship with a person who suffers from extreme NPD. My self-esteem is in the toilet & it’s a daily struggle trying to bring it back up. I feel as though I operate on just ‘going through the motion’ to get through the day. A narcissist robs a person of so many things.

I'm an empath. He tried to destroy my self esteem but I refused to give him that satisfaction. I eventually just calmly walked away and went no contact.

I'm trying to recover after years of narcissistic abuse lots of trauma including grape. DV and many other kinds of trauma I'm only now recognising the huge impact each trauma has affected my life. Narcissistic mother drunk father Abusive controlling narcissistic ex husband and then a horrific SA. My self worth self esteem and my whole life is shattered. In counselling getting some support for the SA A recent ex narcissist coming back yet again recently has given me another huge knock I'm struggling. PTSD dissociation panic anxiety. Chronic health conditions. Needless to say it's all taking its toll. For the first time ever I'm beginning to ask for help. Which I so badly need and not that easy to access where I live. Thank you for all your videos I've learnt so much. ❤❤

Thank you Dr. Ramini. ALL of your info is such a lifeline to help guide me back to me- MY TRUE ME. For me - this particular video resonated in absolute accordance with my experience. I’m so very appreciative for YOU. Thank you. Please take care of yourself as much as you do “us”. ❤

They'll take you out in the deep water and leave you there to drown. They are heartless.

I personally make a distinction between self-esteem and self-worth. While the Narc will destroy both, it's the lack of self-worth that gets you stuck in a narcissistic relationship. You may know you're good, smart, capable, etc. (self-esteem) and still think you're not enough (lack of self-worth).

Based on 💪 Stoicism Exhibitions, those with good characters of SE (self-esteem) oftentimes R in the roles CEO of whatsoever they get themselves involved such as big corporations of entrepreneurships or "government's interferences😂😅"..Might needed to verify with tons of books 📚 in Stoicism for affirmations on this particular topic..😁🤭

Agreed with Dr. R..💐 for definition of SE (self-esteem) characters..Unfortunately, those MANIPULATORS Narc. Individuals just didn't have the characteristic of "Finesse SE" as they "DESPERATELY 🤤 DROOLING " for.. Period..

My narc ex girlfriend compared me to women of different ethnic groups. While talking about features and culture of our ethnic group (both the same) in such a negative light. I find it hard to be around different women as I feel small around them. My ex girlfriend on the way out called my features ugly. And is with a woman from the group she deemed attractive.

I had self esteem but felt like I had to hide it because other people would be threatened by me. That’s what I was brainwashed to believe. My mother thought that it would reflect badly on HER. She would be criticized for raising an egotistical(unchristian) child. I have dropped this pretense. I’m very realistic about who I am. I’m good at some things, not so good at others.

The way my self-esteem has been shaped due to narcissistic abuse is that it's been completely shattered, there just is no second guessing or doubting it for me personally. I've never felt more empty in my entire life, and my self-image is so distorted it's like I'm gazing off into a black mirror, confused as ever as to what exactly is reflecting back now after all the toxicity, even beyond just the narcissist, frankly speaking. All i know is i can never trust another relationship ever again with how brutal that one was, even if essentially it would be one that was way more stable and healthier. I really don't care anymore for love. Was never really looking either, even before i ever encountered such evil on two legs. Love to me is a joke, at least the love i quote on quote "had". It was valueless and completely worthless, yet a great injustice was still committed and there just hasn't been any retribution or any real support I've received at all after surviving such a nightmare, not from family (i really don't have friends like that)- nobody! In fact, certain members of my family only made it worse for me, even after i decided to finally walk away from the abuse. I personally didn't think it could get any worse after surviving what was probably the worst experience I've ever known in life, but it up and did. I was drained by more than just the narcissist, for mainly assets and things that i had rightfully owned, and once those materialisms ran dry, my presence no longer mattered to the people who were ultimately just using me; not to the narcissist or certain family members that have done this. I'm still to this day trying to pull through and fully recover, getting back on my feet with a job so i can officially be done with being around all this toxic energy to get my own place someday. If anything that's the only thing that i still have hope in or for, fuck a relationship though. I'll end it there.

My narcissistic inlaws didn't show me their true nature until my engagement. It took some time, but my wife eventually came to understand the behavior she was taught to hide from the world was abusive. After a year and a half of confrontations, mediated meetings, we came to the conclusion all the apologies were holo and lies meant to temporarily draw us back in so they would continue to act the ways they were entitled. We decided to disown then under threat of legal action if they tried to contact us outside a mediator (such as a pastor or therapist). It has taken me nearly 6 months after we disowned them for me to start to feel like I am healing. I hope my wife can figure out who she is for the first time ever

I’m fine when I don’t see them. When I see them, I always have to remind myself to not let them influence my behavior or self esteem

I needed this!

A couple weeks ago my mom cried in front of me after a young coworker helped her with a computer problem. She said that, whenever people are kind to her, she gets PTSD flashbacks to her abusive ex-husband, my ex-stepfather. His narcissistic abuse destroyed my mother’s self-esteem. My mama has her problems, but she’s never mean. She is dirt poor and gives money to strangers, is a pen-pal (she started it lol) with a drug addict inmate, talks with houseless folk, and just wants to help everyone see the best in themselves. I don’t understand how anyone could abuse someone like her. After their divorce, she came across narcissism and found it perfectly describes him. She and I both have crippling self-esteem issues. I love her. We’re healing together. I plan to take her to my therapist next week, who has helped me through the trauma of his physical, mental, and sexual abuse and manipulation. Fuck narcissism. It is evil for real, not in fiction. Griffith from Berserk comes to mind when I think of my stepfather.

You have to get away from it.

My self worth has been shredded. Example of gaslighting he did: set up stuff to literally trip me in the house. Id move it, and hed move it back. Its been a month since i threw him out. I had stopped taking care of myself even. I dont know when that happened. He repeatedly cheated i see, now that hesgone. Im in therapy twice a week now, taking baby steps. I have ptsd bad. I got triggered a week ago and was on my knees in a Walmart. I almost took my own life. Im praying daily for a point of indifference. By the grace of GOD, i will get back to most of the woman i once was 7.5 years ago.

It is TRULY difficult when we have narc parent (the worst, two parents). Because we could have never been allowed to have good self esteem since the birth. ( 😮😮😮) So, we should start to build up from a single of new and hard brick even after whole destruction of the relationship with them.

I have a folder with complements I got from people with 'no skin innthe game.' Stupid things like 'You're so organized' or 'You don't get sucked into office drama'. A reminder for the bad times that I don't have to believe the narc's lies.

Thank you truly from my all of my ❤ dr Ramani you and my therapist have saved my life and sanity with all your education knowledge and validation. ❤❤❤🎉

My exnarc diminished my self esteem little by little, like shaving a big block of ice until there is nothing left. She intentionally worked on my self esteem..not in a good way. On a good note she taught me well..to stay away from people like her.

@Kimberly christi I too have by now an elderly Mother who gave me so much self-doubt about myself , the ceaseless put downs , the sense that whatever i did was never enough Dont know how i would cope without trauma therapy where i get to discuss all & more of the above I am almost 66 now & i feel like i will be healing for the rest of my days after a violent marriage with a grandiose malignant narcissist DrRamini has & does save my sanity Sending best healing wishes your way ❤

Right on time. Thank you.

One of my favorite sayings is "Underestimate me. That will be fun." I am one of those lucky people who had good self esteem and nothing my mean narcissistic husband did to me diminished it. He tried, ohhhh he tried. But I just zigged when he zagged. I was hurt he wasn't empathetic and complimentary but I was 32 when I got married and my sense of self and self esteem were strong. I was motivated and he wasn't so I served a purpose. My healthy self esteem was a threat to him. I compromised more than he did but I'm a fighter so.......