How I Successfully Secretly Prepared Myself To Leave My Cheating African Husband #Owamie #Divorce #NinjaNation Subscribe to The Real Clantis channel / @clantis
Housewife hack : if he insists on you being a housewife, when he gives you money for household bills, always take from as little as 15% and save it up ( obviously depending on how much you get) PAY YOURSELF MAMA!
I was an assistant nurse earning R400 in 1986, now I’m a qualified Oncology Registered Nurse working in Saudi Arabia🙏🏽U start at the bottom & work yourself up! Never give up😘
I always tell my friends and boyfriend that I need at least an apartment in my name before I get into marriage then rent it out when I get married. They don't understand why. I'm 23. Still a student, and Owamie is confirming my views of life. It's important to be self sufficient before anybody else joins the party of your life....
@@thatsreality1177 unfortunately Lobola automatically transfers one's marriage into In community of property. Unless there is a prenup signed or something
Owami. Continue with these videos, anyone against your "personal life" videos must simply not watch 🤚 You may not realize, but this is also therapeutic for YOU. Offloading to the camera is like speaking to a therapist, although you are the only one doing the talking BUT you will rest with a lighter head because you've unbottled some of the things in your life. Thats why some people resort to writing diaries, journals etc. Its all about getting thing off in your chest. So continue sisi, we will continue to watch and your healing with not be procrastinated.
I'm SCREAMING!!! Thank you so much QUEEN NINJA🙏🏾🎉🕺💃♥️💜💙 After listening to this video, I feel like I know you better as person. I've always known that you were strong and smart. I think the smart description does an injustice to you, you're an intelligent woman who knows her value and a vision for her life. My level of respect for you is sky high. Your story is going to help a lot of people who may be going through something. What I took away from your story is STRENGTH and BRAVERY. Well done and I'm proud of you QUEEN NINJA. All the best🤗
@@vuyokazi1797 Thank you so much for subscribing Vuyo. I'm also watching this video before I return to my channel to welcome you guys. I'm really grateful to Owamie for doing this🙏🏾
People of God🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ if you don’t like Owamie talking about her divorce DO NOT WATCH THE VIDEOS! Some of the comments here are unnecessary. Trust me, her audience are here, if she plans to talk about her divorce for the next 2 years let her!!!! So many woman here are taking notes and gathering the courage to leave a toxic marriage or relationship. If this kind of content is not for you please scroll down, simple!🙄
So many women are not happy in their marriages but stay coz they don't want to be counted in divorce stats. I'm proud of how you put you first. Ke matla ntweo, power to you sisters 💪
I am 21, I have recently been watching your videos about your divorce and I must say I have learnt quite a few things. Continue to lash out mommy, you are touching and transforming lives indeed.
I have a friend who is in a very happy marriage, her hubby wanted her to be a stay at home mom. Even she realized that things can change, as amazing as her hubby is, and she started a business from home earning an income around her kids. We cannot afford to not have money as wives, working or SAHM.
It’s true that a woman first leaves a relationship emotionally, before she can physically leave! By the time athi phapha you’re done and hit the highway and never to come back!
Owammie thank you so much my sister.I'm learning so much from you as a young girl, you are that sister I've never asked for, you don't know how much you encourage me to work harder
I'm planning to leave my narcissist babydaddy after numerous cheating from his side, finding out he was married after he tricked me into moving in with me in my home, then came home to tell me that he infected me HIV so we are bound for life. Mind you he wanted me to be a housewife whilst he is just a hustler who kept on promising things will change I mustn't panic or get a job and honestly I trusted him and listened for 8years. Now I'm 27yrs and I feel life is just passing me by and I have nothing to show that I have done apart from a man who keeps on telling me I'm lucky to have him cos other women are struggling out there without a man raising kids alone. So thanks my Ninja u just confirmed what my inner voice has been telling me all these years...as we speak I'm planning my financial stability plan before I tell him to move out.
If a man tells you not to work and you agree to become a housewife, please open another secret bank account and take out 10-20% of the food/household shopping allowance to save. Over the years it will become something. You can also do some business eg sell hair/wig/jewellery/food/etc any small thing that would be easy to do from home - customers can come to the house when he is at work/doing business and not home. All the money you are making save and pretend you are doing it to keep busy and say so you are not bored. Let him buy all your clothes/shoes/bag/hair/car/etc don't use your money. Some women secretly buy land and build house and rent it out so if their relationship ends and he doesn't want you to have anything you can have backup savings. If you work save, save, save and if you can buy house do so, buy and sell cars do something. Stop relying on love - when the relationship ends he will change completely.
Everything Owamie is saying my mother taught my sister and I when we were very young. Thank God she is a well educated black woman from the fifties cause she has always taught us that marriage is not everything and men do change. She has always made it clear that we can alwaya come home should we need to and an ended marriage is not failure but rather we just werent compatible so always be bold to walk away versus staying just to show off a meaningless ring. She forced us not to depend on men but rather to work for ur own paper.
Wow what a remarkable story of strength and resilience sis. My fiance was abusive and so controlling i was forced to quit my job. He thought he had me where he wanted me to be, only for some time. I got the counseling i needed to be emotionally strong to finally leave and was able to get the help i needed to get back on my feet financially and i never turned back.
You are strong Owamie. I did exactly like you 19 years ago and never looked back that was my biggest decision ever, God being my protector. Anyway it doesnt mean that there were no obstacles along the way, but that didnt make me regret. I looked forward not back and checked my mental health, was more healthier than looking back. Am not rich but iam at a bettsr place that i dont beg, managed to send my 3 children overseas for university without getting grants or took a loan. God hate divorce but He doesnt hate divorcees. He loves and guide us all the way if you allow him.
Our fathers are treasure hey. My late father told me to make sure I make my own money when I grow up no matter what. He said that because I was a very inquisitive child and I had a mouth on me when anyone tried to mess with me. He told me this when I was 11 years old and his words stuck with me to this day.
@@rainne5049 Wise man your dad is.😁Mine said, don't get married but if you choose to then make sure you have your own money and don't depend on the man's.
There are few ladies I know that are stuck in broken relationships and expired marriages..they can't leave cos they are not financially independent..it's always a question of "where will I go?" Somehow waiting for a breakthrough while going through emotional and mental abuse.. It's sad!!
Thank you so much Ninja for reminding women that they need to have a Voetsek Account. I love you for listening to advices of your wise father. You are blessed to have a father like that. Stay blessed babes.
Yup theres been a couple of women I know that did exactly what you did and more which I cannot share on a public platform before they left, its beautiful to see women being smart about these things. Level up ladies 👊🏾👊🏾
I went through a horrible breakup this year, more or less like you're where my ex denied me of my belongings. Came to your channel 2 months back and started watching, somehow I found healing, somedays were and still are better than others. I still don't have my things till now but I'm thinking I should take this hint to get them back. Keep loading this type of content we are being helped.
@@mahlogonolophokanoka7183 do you really need to go back for your belongings? Is it really worth it? I mean if he can prevent you from getting them, he is capable of killing you. Stay away from him and keep your peace!
I’m proud of you!! I hope you’ll be able to save up and buy yourself a house of your own. Also glad you didn’t sell the car, if possible give it to your sisters (even if it’s a negligible amount), I did that for my sister. It’s a life changing move. To your healing and growth!! 🥂
You really are smarter than I thought. I love 💕 you for being you. May our Heavenly Father guide, protect and lead you. Be blessed and continue contributing the little teaching and good thoughts for your Ninja Nation, I salute 💃💃🌹❤️🌹❤️
I’ve come to love and appreciate your channel even more every time I view these types of videos. It is not easy being vulnerable but on the same breath, we appreciate knowing the person you are and not always umgosi. Nna I respect you and fully support you.
IT'S ok my gueen am about to walk away with 2kids nd I have nothing I don't even know where to start I feel depressed every day but I know Lord will make a way
You have your kids. Don't you have siblings or church that can help you. Im sure they wont mind helping you than to hear that your died due to gbv or depression and leave your 2 kids behind
My mom and mother in law..told me the very same thing I love those women so much and appreciate that especially from my mother in law because she didn’t owe me that advice, my mom has always had my back and supported me forever..I had 2 strong women(now 1) in my life and I will forever be grateful. RIP MaKhumalo... you were an amazing mother to your daughter in law ♥️
Thank you for sharing this, I've learnt so much and i pray that God blesses your heart you are amazing, strong brave, and more importantly very wise,i love you momma ❤️❤️❤️🥰🥰💐
My Dear you are awesome 👌. You are one smart young Lady teach these young woman. I stand with you don't stay in a relationship that is not working. Take care of you self Love is the best love.💯💯💯 You can't make someone love you. Most time when there is a break up the women are always in a financial slump. You are on point. Nuff Respect you are pynominal. ✌✌✌❤❤❤
What you said right there🙌. People are unfaithful these days and I feel like the grace of long marriages has diminished. Nowadays it's not prudent for women to sit comfortably in marriage without an income at all. Nomatter how rosy the marriage seems at the moment, don't sit comfortably! Have a plan B. Get a skill, do something, save aggressively. Don't be left in an unplanned dire situation with no finances.
