My mom left her studies to be with my dad to wash his uniform for work and cook plus clean for him. She dropped out because my father was feeling threatened. Now after 25 year he has left her for a younger woman and she has gone back to school at 5 years ago when she was 40+ years old. Now the pressure is on me i cant afford to be free and a child like my peers. I cannot enjoy my life because of the poverty in my family sometimes i get very angry
Guys, remember to watch the Ads as well. PREACH SISTA, I totally agree that women should rally behind each other. I always imagine a world where women clayed together, how powerful the world would be. I mean, if a woman can single-handedly raise four kids, does whatever needs to be done to kept them fed, went to school, groomed to be upstanding members of the community and become responsible taxpayers, just imagine if she became President or CEO of a Conglomerate or even a leader of a community. At the end of the day, it comes with unity and support for each other. As for you and "Mr. B", we witnessed it, we saw your unconditional love for him. You worshipped the ground he walked on. That's why when you went to your cousin's place in October, whispering in your videos, I suspected that there was something amiss at home because the Owamie I knew, couldn't stay away from him. What matters now is the fact that you came to realize the truth about the brother and I can imagine how painful this was for you. Your happiness comes first. I love how you acknowledge and appreciate the good that happened in the relationship. You're a good woman Owamie. Keep it up.
@@beautymellz5600 I had to read my comment more than ten times to check where I I said or indicated or implied or made a move about me wanting Owamie, is it my view about women supporting each other, yet I'm not accused of wanting every woman in the world for that comment or me encouraging Owamie to be happy or the fact that I've been a long time supporter of Owamie who by the way has taken us on her life's journey many times before? So please help me, where in my comment where I said or implied that I wanted Owamie? Thanks
@@clantis Hai my brother I was just joking. Only thing I like about you is that you're always supporting the great advice she's always giving. So yeah I just happen to come across your comments very often so yah I see ya😁
@@beautymellz5600 Oh okay. I appreciate your clarification. And I accept that you were joking😊 I love to support people making moves to inspire other people. If you have a channel, I'll subscribe and watch your content, including watching the adverts😊
@@clantis I love strong and inspiring ppl like her as well. No I do not have a channel unfortunately maybe I will consider it in future the since I went through a lot myself. Keep well fellow ninja👍
6 years ago I left work and college bcz my hubby didn't like that and I was 24 that time,so I was a house wife and he was a tax driver,he cldnt provide every for us including our daughter, we struggled a lot sometimes my daughter wld eat pap and um'tanya(hot water with sugar)i wld cry soon much,it happened he lost his job and things really went bad I wldnt even not have pads and I wld ask my mom and grandma for it and food ,but I sat down and asked myself if I wld live the rest of my life like that and my daughter, 2016,I had enough bcz I even asked him to allow me to w go work so I wld help and he refused that's when I took the decision to give back home bcz he said if I go back to school or work we done,and that was it,now I'm working and providing for my kid
haybo!! what sort of man would rather watch you starve then to have you work? if he cant provide for his family fully, why would he ask you to leave work!! yhooo!
My mom always said and keeps on reminding me that never depends on a man even if he's your husband, she will say look at me, make your own money so that when the ish hit the fan u have your own money to survive
True being an independent woman makes it hard to maintain a relationship with someone who gets mad at the fact that you ask nothing from them. Big up Ninja
This is close to home except for me I put my dreams on hold to help build someone's dreams....after 7 years of supporting them on the way of their dreams which were finally achieved, boooom they left me for someone else, I was no longer "their type"..But because grace speaks I am on the great path of recovery!
@@lebogangretshedisitswelesi957 sis b strong. I just left such a relationship. Been 3 months but I'm ok nw I'm stronger n my heart is adjusting. I asked macelf hw I wld survive but is I am surviving. I cldnt C macelf being alone again but here I am. IV begun to dream again, went back to d shelf where I packed my dreams and left them in dust n took em back. As I speak I'm occupied networking n finding mentors n my brain hard at work coming up with strategic plans to realise my dreams. Doing all that brought back the fire and excitement I had lost for life. So sis ugon b gud trust me...ul get used n b bzy wth positive, chase Ur drums again. Never too late
It’s sad how man secretly don’t want their woman to advance in life, we always see these things but too afraid and find reasons to stay. Sad we put up with crap
Men want to feel like they are in control. Her having her own money meant he would not be able to control her. If she ever needed maybe a makeup palette or even a jacket, she would have to ask him for money. She wouldn't be able to go anywhere because he controls the finances. Money makes the world go round.
Very sad,we nolonger have man with enough ball to stand their woman shining,it’s intimidating to them.I witness this with my parents and I only thought it’s only a thing that happens at home only I am relieved now that owami has talked about it
Been through this. I was forced into leaving teaching forced to stay in the village while my ex was enjoying in jozi forced my way into living with him in jozi. The family was trampling all over our marriage. After 10 years I left that marriage with 2 kids I am still trying to rebuild up to this day. All my dreams were canned and sealed I was suffocating 😭😭😭 everybody was allowed to dream just not me. Saba ama inlaws and a rubber back husband
I learned that being a housewife needs one to have a backup plan or two, just in case things go south and by back up plan, I don't mean another man😂 . I loved what you said about education, it truly is our liberation. Independence is also your protection.
Owamie..... I hope you realize what an important conversation this is. Married woman especially tend to let go of their dreams and aspirations because they are comfortable and think they will always have their spouses support and that's not always the case. We as women need to be reminded of such. Make sure you are okay in all aspects with or without your partner. I can't thank you enough for this ❤️
No his not going to regret anything if I as man I no longer love you I no longer love my, you being a good woman means nothing I want what I want not what you think I want, not all man need good woman being good means nothing to some guys.
My mom is a single mother my dad passed when I was 5yrs old. She always tells me to neva depend on my husband and to have something on the side. She always encourages me to be an independent women always. She is 60 and shes a force to be reckoned with thanx for encouraging all the ladies outcha. When ure head is in the clouds it's not easy to see the coming storm 🥰😍🤩💗🙋🏾♀️!!
Our big sister is going through the most but she is handling the journey very well. Speak about it and we are here to listen. You are going to be okay.
Ninja I can relate on this matter: It is because our human nature cannot comprehend the reality that a person who is supposed to love you can actually sabotage you. It reminds me of my ex-husband, the man wanted me to literally fail in life. He went out of his way and unfortunately he succeeded until I decided to choose my life and choose my destiny. I walked out of that marriage alive. I walked out with my worth intact... the failures I encountered became life lessons. The man damaged my career, I also dropped out of tertiary, became depressed and lost my job. I lived in a shack that I built because he didn’t want to walk. Oh it was bad. But ninja we make out alive and we thrive Look at you ... May God just elevate honey. You have been through too much ♥️♥️♥️
Went through the same thing dropout of varsity in my last year, told me to have his child. Whenever i applied for jobs he would manipulate me that its not worth it. His family was against me i was hospitalized for depression. Took years to recover an come out of the manipulation got a job never told him about the interview that was my breakthrough, now he claims he made me im the one who ruined the marriage apparently 🤦♀️. Im happy i can provide for kids something he fails to do
This man disappoints me. He could see that his woman is a hustler of note who has potential to far surpass his success yet still did not bother to do self assessment to align himself with her purpose. He did not even see that she had "us," "our," in all her deeds. He was concerned with playing god to her. Umtnu akenziwa njalo no matter where they come from. He walked away from all that he helped build now another man will be the beneficiary of his labour. Together with Owamie they will break records while Mr B is busy playing blesser with his R2.
You need to understand what caused a break up. The man moved on with his new girl and still with the new girl This has nothing to do with the ex wife but everything to do with the new girl When there is break up, the person who was dumped will usually speak bad about their exes
@@chabalichabali8714 To my understanding the break up was caused by his insecurities over her success hence he cheated with the woman who is in the position Owamie once was. He wanted Owamie to remain there kanti uthini had other plans. Yes it has everything to do with the ex wife.
@@chabalichabali8714 Ok I am fine with this Owam might be talking bad about mr B but still mr B failed, you equip someone then when someone is up there you leave and you leave for downgrading .It make sense for me when owam says big guy was intimadated by her success but he couldn't say much bad things bcz he was there for owam when she was building her success ... so definitely someone who is intimadated wont come to your eyes and say stop doing many RU-vid videos and do not do consultation bcz you making more money than me ,h/s will better leave you or bring negative energy but atleast owams business was at the peak seasons so mr B he didn't have any control over it ,so he decided to be a R 2 blesssor to other women down the street where his ego will be strengthen .The next when owam got one of the top business mans ,he will be like I helped that women when she got nothing but you left her ...what an impulsive decision he did shem .
Of *ALL* the storytimes you did, this has to be my second best. The best being the one you narrated *HOW* you chose your future over your in laws who never even liked you, you're a ROCK Wamie❤️❤️❤️
I wish my mom heard this when she needed it, after 4 babies. My dad did a number on her, at 42 she has never worked anywhere in her life . Now I must pick up and be mom and dad to my younger sisters. God sees though!
You have no idea how repetitive that situation is ... I'm going through the same thing I'm the first born of 4 kids and my mom is 40 something. Only she is working now thank God but she doesn't stay with us. Honestly she is the best but parenting kids while you are a kid is not easy but I'm learning way more than I wouldve had she stayed with us because I was not gonna be as open to learning like currently.
Mashuda Tshikhathi your mum is young 42 years she can start again. I am 41 year old woman I feel I have a chance to restart my life. She can start again. All the best
A lot of men actually think that financial support is all of that when it comes to keeping a woman... But honestly one of the reasons why Owamie stayed was because of the emotional support 💯 we as women feed on emotions, hence emotional abuse scars are much deeper than any other form of abuse 🤧
Actually I do not think she would have thought of leaving especially in her case where Mr B cheated once ...I know many that are sitting in marriages because of poverty .....ladies I am currently broke because I am unemployed at the moment but i promised myself that i wont allow a man to decide for me or have any promise of nice things or let love blind me ..luckily I became so scared when someone promise to do things for me or when h/s does even if its a friend or family .my worry is h/s going to do this for me till when .
I on the other hand happen to be the one doing everything financially in relationships and thats why its easy for me to walk away, I always say I will never depend on a man finacially not even my own father and brothers, I never want a man to ever throw it back in my face and tell me that I am who I am because of him. You are a strong amazing woman and we love to hear it, I'm so proud of you to think as Venda women we are taught otherwise, I never see myself submitting to a man who doesn't grie my as a woman emotionally spiritually mentally also physically my health should be a priority, compromising myself will never happen again. I've lost alot of money along the way but my dignity and self worth remain intact. Thank you for choosing to share your experiences with us we appreciate them.
100℅ The nice thing is that you can easily replace the money lost. However, when you lose your dignity and self worth that can be very hard to build to restore that. Some become internally damaged for the rest of their lives.
This is such a powerful video.. The fact that you saw how much drive you have in you is really amazing. You worked really hard to get to where you are and you are right, you went through what you needed to at the time that it happened. Keep doing what makes you happy!
Individuality within any relationship is huge! Only be dependent on God. Thank you for highlighting this kind of topics woman NEVER talk about. Married woman would rather praise a woman for worshipping her man.
Thank God you were not comfortable being a housewife. Ladies lets not rely on men. Dont leave your dreams for a man Don’t stay with a man that does not encourage and support your dream. If Owamie hadn’t done all this she would be a divorced, poor woman. I learned a lot from your experience and i hope all ladies that follow you learn too. Wish you all the best ❤️
@@Tshepiso. i know hey 😂😂😂😂😂but its a reality. Men will hardly tell you that they dont like you or you dont look good. Men talk with actions. If he control or abuse you, he doesnt love you. If he protect and do whats best for you then you know he loves you. He will never tell you to your face that you are less attractive than his sidechick, read the signs/actions
@@Tshepiso. did your ex ever tell you that he doesnt love you anymore? They will either go silent or come with a stupid excuse like you are making more money than me and all of that. Reality is that you are no longer loved A guy will never say that with his mouth😀😀
We listening Owamie I'm listening your videos are everything needed some of us are still young and naive blinded by love so video like this help us to think out of box and deal with plan B and C we are listening ☝️
Ninja, first things first. Thank you ♥. You may get a knock for doing these video's but you are building the nation if not nations. People want entertainment but the fact of the matter is that people are going through hell. Therefore when one is able to listen to such from you, it becomes relatable and one is able to grasp your life lessons and internalize them. We appreciate you Ninja ... the nunjus and their grandmas don't. But we do lol...Keep going!! You just begun your journey to greatest ♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥
Thank God you saw the light Ninja. Imagine had you settled/shrinked yourself to nurse his insecurities. Shuu😩💔. So much greatness would have gone to waste. Womandla baby✊🏿. Bereka mosadi!!❤️❤️❤️
Wamie how was your relationship when you were making more money than him and had a joint bank account? Were you allowed to just withdraw R10 000 and get something? I'm learning so much from this. Thank you
Thank you for this Owamie. For me I finished varsity but I can't find a job. This year I want to work for myself. You are right it's hard to be dependent on someone
Thank you Owamie for sharing your story , I salute your bravery especially because you are empowering young people out there who could sometimes be naive. I like it when you talk of the red flags that were there at hindsight. Am sure one or two girls will take your advice and most importantly you are sawing a seed that will germinate in someone s life. God richly bless you dear, what was meant to be will be and congratulations on your new car👏🏾👏🏾💪🏽👍💃🥰
Owami I have written a book expressing my experiences under my husband's fake love. I managed to go up to a Doctoral degree but his "pulling" me down left me a "seriosly poor person". After that all the fake love was taken away from me & he left me. I'm now a retired woman that gathered no "moss" meanwhile he enjoys life.
I remember how happy you were ninja and believe when you say you don't regret anything, and I love the fact that you tell your without spitting anyone. For now I believe that you're at the right place when God needs you to be and enjoy every moment. Ninja nation ❤
Owami you are really a good example of "marriage is not an achievement!" imagine leaving an actual achievement like a degree, a career. For a man. A marriage certificate.
His family showed you who he is lol but life is like that, we realize things after being exposed + knowing better. I think he grew jealous of you bcz he wasn't the hero anymore... you could stand on your own two feet, you could provide.
I understand how it feels to be betrayed by someone you once unconditionally loved. Take your time to heal , not everyone will have the same vision or understand your decisions . Just be true to yourself even when you feel vulnerable, pain or grief. Stay strong Sis💪💪❤️
Owami thank you so much for sharing your personal experience with us. you really don't have to but I like it when we ladiez instead of breaking we are building each other.♥️
Its such a beautiful and inspirational story. I’m glad it turned out differently for you. I was blessed to have an open minded husband altogether. This video gave me an idea, I’m going to film my own and about my journey. Thank you Owami for sharing yours. ❤️❤️
Yooh. Went back to school at28, after falling pregnant at 19. I felt so much lost and incomplete without finishing that diploma. I finished it. I feel so whole and Great. Man will embarrass you n hold you back.
That pain you have gone through I know it very well. .when you are in love you become indenial or blind about the obvious things which will affect you later.
Men can be so controlling I have to hide the stuff I buy for me and the kids. And I always felt like I'm the wrong one I'm wasting money. But something a at the back of my mind says you work so hard why are you not spoiling yourself.
Owamie thank you for sharing your story with us, I am a woman who walks heart to achieve my dreams, women Like Us they need to get a partner( housbent who will love,support and push their dreams to to come true 🙏❤
I can relate to the situation you described cause I lived it until I decided to quit the marriage and started to glow and prosper in life. I looked so old when I was married and now I looked 15years younger than my age Thank Goodness I got out!!
