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How to Change Minds (Not What You Think) 

Travis Gilbert
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Here's how to change someone's mind. Changing someone’s mind is hard. I believe a huge part of the reason boils down to the fact that we often trigger one another’s emotional defenses before the content of our arguments can be evaluated.
we'll be covering the moon landing that almost never happened, whether fear or incentive work better to motivate people, and how Daryl Davis got over 200 members of the kkk to leave the clan.
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@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Like, subscribe and comment for the youtube algorithm? here is the discord - discord.gg/F8xds2B and my Patreon - www.patreon.com/CuriousTangents
@mr.knowitall5019
@mr.knowitall5019 3 года назад
Will smoking pot really make my lungs look like that?
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
@@mr.knowitall5019 absolutely 🤣
@withertax9967
@withertax9967 3 года назад
“When two enemies are talking, they’re not fighting” -Darryl Davis And honestly no matter what you believe, I think we all can come together as one group and agree that Davis deserves the Nobel Peace Prize right?
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Without a doubt ! Guy is a role model
@AntonWongVideo
@AntonWongVideo 3 года назад
Fear as a motivator works really well for short term actions that provide quick short-sighted rewards in our brain. that's why advertisers use it to get people to buy and others use it to get people to act for their causes Of course, fear is a fuel that burns dirty.
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Spot on, fear in the short term does get people moving Long term change usually take something else
@EvenTheDogAgrees
@EvenTheDogAgrees 3 года назад
@@TravisGilbert Long term, when the big scary thing doesn't materialise, it gets people to question whether the fear is even warranted. Which may lead to exactly the opposite response long term than the one that you intended.
@DampeS8N
@DampeS8N 3 года назад
There are 3 ways I've found that work well as next steps for being persuasive. You brought up the first. 1) Being the counter-example. If you are Black and are hanging out with KKK members respectfully, your mere existence disproves their mode of thought and results in change. If I, a White person, did it. It would accomplish very little because I don't myself embody the contradiction. However, most of us embody something that's not properly understood by others. This is how the idea of being out of the closet changed how being gay was perceived and created huge amounts of change. 2) Meeting them where they are. It is always easier to change if the people around you are changing in similar ways together with you. If you learn about things together, respectfully, you can bridge the gap. For example, if I went to that KKK rally as an "undecided" person and asked the people there to help me figure things out and we went on a journey together to do research that would prove their position to me, but in doing so we discovered, together, that things they believed weren't true. 3) Personal discovery. Similarly - and this is the idea behind Street Epistemology - if you ask the right questions in a non-threatening and respectful discussion, you can trigger realizations that lead to self discovery. Allowing someone to disprove their own ideas with their own other ideas forces them into a position where one set of ideas has to give (or they have to live with cognitive dissonance.)
@davidholaday2817
@davidholaday2817 3 года назад
Here from John Green!
@allanolley4874
@allanolley4874 3 года назад
I had never really noticed the "Why does Rice play Texas?" part of JFK's Go to the Moon speech and now I have a vague sense of what its about. Neat.
@callannowacki1356
@callannowacki1356 3 года назад
“Ohhhhh. That makes sense!” -me, every 30 seconds of this video 👏👏
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Haha thats great to hear
@jamespearson740
@jamespearson740 3 года назад
Vlogbrothers sent me here, and I don't regret a second of watching. Incredibly researched, and lovely cohesive argument. Have subscribed
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Thank you! Glad to have you
@jamespearson740
@jamespearson740 3 года назад
@@TravisGilbert no problem man, have a fantastic day :)
@scottfromoahu2896
@scottfromoahu2896 3 года назад
Finished this video. Honestly, I want this as a scholarly essay with footnotes. There's so much that is transferable that I want to source. "Beliefs are formed from those around you" "Prediciting Behavior on a small scale is hard. Predicting behavior of a group is achievable" Both of those are wonderful. What about influencing a group on a macro level vs a micro level? Thanks.
@elaime.gilbert5700
@elaime.gilbert5700 3 года назад
WOW! what a timely message always learn something new. Proud of you.
@o0Meeshell0o
@o0Meeshell0o 3 года назад
Its so exhausting conversing with the "other side", but hopefully it'll implant an idea of something better.
@EvenTheDogAgrees
@EvenTheDogAgrees 3 года назад
Yeah, however, some counterexamples notwithstanding I see neither side reaching out and having an actual conversation. A lot of shouting, and dismissing opposing viewpoints out of hand without even listening, but conversing? As someone in the middle, who disagrees with both sides on some stuff, and agrees with both on others, it's even more exhausting. Because when your viewpoint is even the slightest bit balanced, both sides want to yell at you for being normal.
@sarahcb3142
@sarahcb3142 3 года назад
@@EvenTheDogAgrees To that point, Juan, maybe this whole "other side"mentality is part of the problem. It's either you believe A or B. But as this video talked about there are plenty of issues that are nuanced and complex enough where there isn't just a two sided option. Now there are some things that are silly and shouldn't be reasonably entertained (like the microchips are in vaccines so everyone can be mind controlled conspiracy) but there are plenty of other issues out there that aren't. Where I live, in the US, we l like to group people as either left or right, as liberal or conservative, and through that categorization we often assume that each of these groups are monoliths that directly contradict each other. But I've found that depending on where I live I'm either seen as more liberal or more conservative. It's not that my ideas have changed all that much from place to place. People just tend to think that anyone with some beliefs more conservative than theirs are extremist conservatives and anyone with some beliefs that are more liberal than theirs are extremist liberals. And they are the actual rational centrist. I get it! I feel that way too! I really don't think I'm extreme at all but more of a leftist centrist. But because our own base point feeds into our confirmation bias we get upset at anyone who is less/more of a liberal/conservative. And that sounds like what people are doing to you. Personally, I don't even think it's a sliding scale. I think the more you get to know people the more you see that everyone has a wide range of beliefs that people categorize into left and right positions, even though it's way more complicated than that. And problems arise when a group decide you have to believe X or moral or immoral, soley based on how closely you fit into these preconceived categories. But that false dichotomy is so detrimental to progress and having nuanced discussions! TLDR MOST ideas aren't a simple dichotomy nor are MOST of the people who believe them, and thinking that it has to be a political dichotomy destroys any chance of discussion.
@EvenTheDogAgrees
@EvenTheDogAgrees 3 года назад
@@sarahcb3142 Couldn't agree more. It pains me to see how your country has been polarised lately. Not that there hasn't been some level of polarisation in the past; even back in the 80's, when I grew up, we'd catch glimpses of that through the news and movies. But back then it wasn't this all consuming hatred of "the other side". And as people not on the extreme spectrum of either ideology, all we can do is watch them fight and shake our head at such utter stupidity. For starters, violence has never solved much. Second: the more you fight someone and the more you entrench yourself in your own ideology, the harder it becomes to find a solution to your differences. And at the end of the day, you still have to live together. Some diplomacy wouldn't be such a bad idea...
@sethgilbertson2474
@sethgilbertson2474 3 года назад
I listened to Daryl Davis tell his story on his the radio show Snapjudgement. As a fourth grade teacher, I share this story with my students because it is so profoundly powerful. I came here because of John Green and I’m so glad I did. Brilliant work my friend!🙏
@salma-amlas
@salma-amlas 3 года назад
The smoker example, the one where you explained having a goal for motivation rather than fear! I always felt smoker lung photos were more about the people who didnt smoke somehow. Thanks for explaining that
@jeniel93
@jeniel93 3 года назад
I'm so glad people are starting to bring up that Ted talk. I was honestly shocked when it first showed up on my recommendations a year or two ago. It was illuminating to say the least! Thank you for reminding me of it, need to give it a rewatch now
@MatthewFoulk
@MatthewFoulk 3 года назад
The TED talk was well worth the watch! Thanks for directing us to it and not spoiling it so I actually had to watch it. Also enjoyed the video, keep it up!
@pigeonshit440
@pigeonshit440 3 года назад
fear and shame will only allow someone to go so far. Empathy and compassion will lead the way forever.
@bobbuilder1769
@bobbuilder1769 3 года назад
this video perfectly demonstrates why the attitude of completely "destroying" and opponent with "facts" or "logic" (as in, in a manner so as to ridicule them) is just not the way you change someones mind or to get them to think like you, civility and manners go a long way and being a decent person goes even further. 9:55 also is another thing people dont seem to want to realize, that your entire reality is completely fabricable if thats all you are taught. Nobody empathizes with the other side, to see how they view the world. Instead we laugh and insult each other thinking we are better than one another, when much goes to show otherwise.
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Spot on its really a shame
@AniBAretz
@AniBAretz 3 года назад
I used to motivate young men in western Kentucky to quit smoking by helping them add up what they were spending on cigarettes and how fast they might have been able to buy their favorite car, instead. Then, I would hint at the greater smoking costs, down the road, from rising price of cigarettes to healthcare costs for the most likely lung diseases they could see in the elders around them. This stewed in their brains and seemed to make a difference. Which would you rather have: empty pockets and cigarette addition with the promise of COPD and risks of pneumonia, or that sweet Corvette in candy-apple red, paid for in cash to save even more on loan origination fees and interest? That's how it's done, I taught them. It got their attention.
@oliviachronister7768
@oliviachronister7768 3 года назад
I absolutely love that you always bring facts, leave the bias, and explain so many problems today; without being bias, which never happens! Lol we need more people like you, especially history teachers.
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Thank you I really appreciate that
@KooblayKhan
@KooblayKhan 3 года назад
This was awesome! I wrote notes to remeber for my interactions with others. I especially loved "People don't change their minds because they got destroyed in a debate. They cahnge their minds because their old mindset no longer works" It speaks to understanding a person's mindset as well as understanding HOW it works in their life. Once that is managed, perhaps asking questions about situations where their mindset doesn't work, can initiate change.
@Draconicrose
@Draconicrose 3 года назад
I love that Daryl Davis TED talk. It's amazing and I cannot imagine the courage it must take to meet with people who you know want you dead.
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Man is really a hero
@R4ndomNMBRS
@R4ndomNMBRS 3 года назад
3:39 I seriously questioned myself last tuesday when my 3 year old nice told me her nephews birthday was 'today'. His birthday was last monday. It was the silliest conversation. I really started to believe it was actually monday
@brennaraeder6630
@brennaraeder6630 3 года назад
Your videos just keep getting better & I look forward to them every time! Keep up the good food for thought 🙂
@nathanl1847
@nathanl1847 3 года назад
Phenominal video! Really simple, but super clickable thumbnail. Useful info in a digestable format. This is one of my favorite videos that you've made!
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
I'm glad to hear it! Thank you
@jameskilgour387
@jameskilgour387 3 года назад
Ugh, I guess I've got to go and rewatch that Daryl Davis TED talk for the fourth time. Thanks a lot
@think3rofficial
@think3rofficial 3 года назад
I like your TATWD poster, and it's probably even more funny because John Green said he really likes your videos.
@jscire__872
@jscire__872 3 года назад
This is such an under-rated channel! Fantastic work!
@Cedarium
@Cedarium 3 года назад
great video bro
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Thank you! i appreciate that
@StephanieFink515
@StephanieFink515 3 года назад
Just leaving a comment because this video deserves more attention.
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Hey, I really appreciate that thank you!
@ryanphillips5072
@ryanphillips5072 3 года назад
I love that Ted Talk, glad you mentioned it!
@go2therock
@go2therock 3 года назад
Great job. I didn't quite get the photos that were used to illustrate the "who was in the circle and who is not" line, but voices of reason and understanding are much appreciated in our times of stressful discord.
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Thank you! They were a part of the Jonestown cult
@go2therock
@go2therock 3 года назад
Yes, I realize that. Was your point not to be blind followers? Sorry, I just felt a bit of disconnect in understanding the framing of your close.
@mentalmodels5
@mentalmodels5 3 года назад
This channel's a gem 🙌
@doubleagente
@doubleagente 3 года назад
I think everyone should take this ideas into consideration. Some people have what most consider "stupid ideas" which are mostly out of fear. Its really hard to change those ideas since they are so attached to the them and so defensive about them. So yeah, this is great video! Keep up the good work
@Cakeontheroof
@Cakeontheroof 3 года назад
I appreciate you, Travis :)
@martinturner4622
@martinturner4622 3 года назад
I'm glad John Green introduced me to your channel, loving your content, watching through it all now :)
@currymagc
@currymagc 3 года назад
I just found your channel, and it's amazing! I've been binging it all day. Keep up the great content
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Thank you that means a lot! How did you find it?
@TheCreator1197
@TheCreator1197 3 года назад
Legit need to convince my mother there is no microchip in the covid vaccine. Please help
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Asking geniune questions can be a great tool too. Maybe try asking her why someone would put that in a vaccine (especially when there are much easier way to track someone) Or ask how would the mocrochip work in someone's body?
@TheCreator1197
@TheCreator1197 3 года назад
@@TravisGilbert Thanks, I'll give that a go and see what her response is -_-'
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
@@TheCreator1197 I wish you luck
@tobyrix7082
@tobyrix7082 3 года назад
@@TheCreator1197 I am geniunelly curious about how this will go.
@cel2460
@cel2460 3 года назад
"+" -ing bcs i wanna know how it went
@wilnil
@wilnil 3 года назад
Great follow up type video! And yeah that TED talk is great, have watched several times before and it's still as interesting :)
@MrYoav5
@MrYoav5 3 года назад
Maybe it's a bit early but this guy would definitely have my vote for presidency
@karasirarichard3358
@karasirarichard3358 3 года назад
This is purely for the algorithm.... Great work mate
@shaynannigans
@shaynannigans 3 года назад
Thanks for this video and I hope it helps me change some minds in the future.
@LOGICZOMBIE
@LOGICZOMBIE 3 года назад
GREAT WORK
@nealtandon2276
@nealtandon2276 3 года назад
Wow! This was a really good video. I actually saw the TedTalk before Poll had suggested it. Also this is unrelated but did you shave? I noticed that in different cuts of the video.
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Thanks! And I did took so long to film to grew back
@AmberZak83
@AmberZak83 3 года назад
Ooh new video. Can't wait to watch this one. :)
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
I hope you liked it!
@EvenTheDogAgrees
@EvenTheDogAgrees 3 года назад
At 5.52 I started paying attention to the background behind the president. That black guy looks so obviously photoshopped in: the paste job was done so sloppily that his beard overlaps the bald head of the guy in front of him. And then at 6.14 the white guy moves away, and you realise the black guy doesn't have a beard, and the white guy wasn't bald at all! :') I had to rewatch that several times, and even now that I know better, the illusion still holds!
@Caterfree10
@Caterfree10 3 года назад
Er, another thing that’s going to turn fat people away from healthier eating: calling us obese. Like, that pathlogizes us and makes us feel like our very beings are being treated as a disease. That doesn’t help anything, and can make things worse. I should know, I am fat, I have been my entire life, and I am tired of being treated like a ticking health time bomb by people (especially doctors) because of that.
@movedmindpoRUSZonyUMYS
@movedmindpoRUSZonyUMYS 3 года назад
Loved that!
@psyche100
@psyche100 3 года назад
Excellent video! This is very well researched and useful.
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Thank you I really appreciate that!
@PhillStone
@PhillStone 3 года назад
Love how much this channel is growing! Keep em coming!
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Thank you! Will do!
@EvenTheDogAgrees
@EvenTheDogAgrees 3 года назад
Oh, yeah, saw that Ted talk a good while ago. That guy had fucking balls of steel!
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
honestly one of the best!
@SourSourSour
@SourSourSour 3 года назад
This is so good!!!! Sharing this as well as Daryl's Talk.
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Thank you!!
@dragonfyre1589
@dragonfyre1589 3 года назад
Really great video! Your presentation style reminds of Vsauce
@scottfromoahu2896
@scottfromoahu2896 3 года назад
Thanks for this. I really enjoyed it. Can you share any scholarly resource that address how fear faces as a motivator but "positive motivation" succeeds? Thanks.
@LawrenceMeisel
@LawrenceMeisel 3 года назад
Nice logo/intro.
@JetBlackLi
@JetBlackLi 3 года назад
Great video. I live with an anti-vaxxer, and I've had little success in trying to convince them otherwise; it's disheartening to see them getting more and more set in their ways, to the point of frustration and anger (but as you pointed out, this clearly makes things worse). I'm not gonna get my hopes up, but I'll try to mould the way I react to them closer to what you've described in this video it hopes in might help. One thing, though: Your point about people getting their beliefs from those around them is poignant. This is a tangent, but what if "those around them" are algorithmically-fed RU-vid personalities? I was listening to a podcast talking about misinformation and conspiracies, and how a seemingly common trope of those who buy into them are folks who... don't get out much? Like, not having many friends, and finding most of their meaning in "learning" from (bad) news sources. It's impossible to keep up with. One potential solution that was mentioned is to not even try and debate them, but to try and get them out of the home more and find meaning elsewhere (easier said than done, depending on who the person in question is). Anyway, perhaps this could be a topic for a future video.
@shotelco
@shotelco 3 года назад
What happens when I use the concepts presented here to change the mind of someone who has _Also_ viewed this video, and is _Also_ using the same techniques to change my mind?
@dacelikethefish587
@dacelikethefish587 3 года назад
It's called Having An Intelligent Conversation
@EvenTheDogAgrees
@EvenTheDogAgrees 3 года назад
By the end of the conversation you'll have traded your beliefs.
@rateeightx
@rateeightx 3 года назад
3:43 Wait, Y'all Don't?
@FlowerClown
@FlowerClown 3 года назад
LOVE 7:36 MEME
@LawrenceMeisel
@LawrenceMeisel 3 года назад
Do you do your own editing? If so what software do you use?
@smoceany9478
@smoceany9478 3 года назад
i like this vid so far
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Great news i hope it stays that way!
@smoceany9478
@smoceany9478 3 года назад
@@TravisGilbert it did
@8BallScience
@8BallScience 3 года назад
ADD BACKGROUND MUSIC AT THE START
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Noted lol
@hudsonmar6204
@hudsonmar6204 3 года назад
Comment for the algorithm.
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Appreciate it!
@LawrenceMeisel
@LawrenceMeisel 3 года назад
Where do you get your B-roll?
@thingamabitch
@thingamabitch 3 года назад
The marijuana smoker lung is just a nug photoshopped into lung shape lol
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Its intentional 🤣
@peregrinesdruthers1022
@peregrinesdruthers1022 3 года назад
🔥
@jessestone117
@jessestone117 3 года назад
Algo
@SirSpiro
@SirSpiro 3 года назад
water is not wet ✨ PERIODT ✨
@danielmds565
@danielmds565 3 года назад
Depends on how you define wet. if something is wet when water clings to it then how is water not wet when it clings to itself?
@LaneWinn
@LaneWinn 3 года назад
Second
@crusatyr1452
@crusatyr1452 3 года назад
first
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Thanks for being here!
@crusatyr1452
@crusatyr1452 3 года назад
@@TravisGilbert Yeah, man! Thank you! I appreciate the love and care that goes into these videos. This one in particular is one that I needed to hear right about now.
@leafy7081
@leafy7081 3 года назад
When i read "not what you think" I thought maybe this video is about brain transplant
@everwonderedproductions362
@everwonderedproductions362 3 года назад
Joe rogan: One word DMT.
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Joe Rogan meme kill me lol
@juhosalonen143
@juhosalonen143 3 года назад
(Not What You Think) You have mastered clickbait.
@TravisGilbert
@TravisGilbert 3 года назад
Is that a good thing?😅
@juhosalonen143
@juhosalonen143 3 года назад
@@TravisGilbert Yes more people will click on this wonderful video😄
@quack9pm
@quack9pm 3 года назад
I do agree this whole video is wrong
@quack9pm
@quack9pm 3 года назад
^This is sarcasm, great video!
@thewizard-edits
@thewizard-edits 3 года назад
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