how to exit your LAZY era | self sabotage, identity shifts & detachment 

Hi my lovesss 🦋 seems like you guys have been loving this video so far! let me know what types of videos you want me to expand on!! I have a "spring/summer" in the city series coming where I show you more of my healthy routines, but let me know what topic you'd love me to expand on 🥰

I decided I’m a “5am gym girl” last Friday and I made it happen! I feel like a whole new woman, because I am 😚

Currently reading Atomic Habits and it talks about this exact same thing - making your goals your identity and not focusing on outcomes.

I thought about this all night. I’m always planning and setting goals and not executing . I’m tired of myself and excuses, it’s like I’m resisting myself Oh my God I can’t believe this comment has almost 1000 likes 🥹 , can’t believe everyone relates to this. First I wanna thank Elicia for her kind words. I got my ass back to the gym and I started my RU-vid channel too. Thanks guys, I pray we all get better and stop limiting ourselves 🙏☺️

As a gym biddy that lifted for 5+ years... going to the gym is not only about achieving your "ideal" body, going to the gym is a promise to yourself that you will be FIT FOR LIFE!!

I've been saying I'm going to be productive and healthy for over a year now . I'm so tired of not reaching my goals and so tired of my addiction to fast food . I just found your channel but your videos have been extremely motivating for me

Girl I LITERALLY admitted to myself today I am lazy. I needed to see this today 😭

Honestly there is so much to talk about just from 0:00 - 3:00 I think what is really striking me is the concept associating activities and habits with apart of your identity. I feel like when you think of this concept for a bit, it’s very intuitive and has many implications. When you think of famous celebrities like Ariana Grande or Michael Jordan, what are they known for? Amazing singing abilities or amazing basketball skills. How did they obtain this? Consistent discipline and a desire to intentionally increase their competence in that area. When you say their names, they are associated with their craft and talent more than their individual and separate identity as a human being. Why? Because their craft became apart of their identity. They worked at it with the mindset that it was apart of their identity cards typically this comes from a deep enjoyment of what you are doing. If you can identify any elements of joy a habit can bring (fitness, studying, meditating, journaling, etc), and be aware of those positive elements, you will start to find more joy in doing them and you will become aware of how the experience makes you feel during and after. Then as you start to become more aware of your emotional and sensational attachment to the disciplines and intentional habits that you build, you can start to identify with them on a personal level because these habits end up becoming you in a way. There are a lot of reasons why we desire to be disciplined in certain areas that can improve our lives, but I think when we break it down, we want to have those habits be developed and ingrained in us so much to the point that we just do these things because "that's just what we do", and we don't need anymore of an explanation to convince ourselves because we have done the work to answer that questioned for ourselves before coming to that habit daily. Why do I read everyday "It's just what I do" , "why do I eat well and go to the gym", its just what I do, etc.

Your videos are all over my feed! You're killing it. I lost 40 lbs a year ago because of this mindset. For fitness, or anything really, Atomic Habits phrases it perfectly. To become the person you want to be, you have to do what that person would be doing. Like you said, a fit person identifies as someone who goes to the gym - so workout x times a week and that's it. Implement a plan and evaluate results after a reasonable amount of time and tweak as necessary. Easier said. It's hard not to obsess.

"Stop getting in your own way!" This hits home. Thank you for this video. Really needed to hear this today. More power to you! ✨

This is exactly what I have been struggling with. I am so obsessed with the outcome of the things that I want for myself. It is overwhelming for me and I was crying yesterday because I just feel like I have so much to do. Now I will work on identifying instead of focusing on outcomes. Definitely need to trust the process. Thank you so much, I love your videos.

It goes a lot with the law of least resistance. If you want something so badly and you think it’s going to be hard, you’ll likely not succeed so easily. If you find a way to make it fun or enjoyable in any way it becomes a habit and therefore, “easy”. ❤

I really like this idea of identifying myself to the things I want to do! I identify as someone who eats healthy, goes to yoga and gym and has mental balance and relaxation 🥰

This is an Alignment cause I am currently working on become more productive and stop being lazy!!! Thank you for another amazing video Elicia. Your the best!!!

As soon as I changed my mindset from ‘Oh I need to smash the gym every day to lose weight and I want to look good fast!’ to ‘I’m doing this because after my endorphins are in overdrive and it feels amazing’ my motivation to push to go n my lazy days increased 10 fold. Go girl!

i think what holds us back is forgetting that at its core, health isn’t physical, it’s the shadow work, emotional and spiritual healing that reflects back on us as our physical reality: our dream life or lack thereof

Girl I love listening to you talk lol you are so introspective & very rarely do I come across folks in real life who can dig deep into themselves like this, so me being able to watch it here and relate makes me feel better, I’m doing the work and the more I do the crazier I feel😂😂 but I’m not alone so that helps😆

I’m definitely a 5am gym girl and I do my very best to make sure get it done. We get so use to comparing ourselves with social media now days

Yes!!!! to everything in this video Alicia. My daughter asked me "Do you go to the gym to be skinny" the other day. I replied "I go to the gym to be healthy". I did not get consisent or begin to see any results until I got rid of the self hate and obsession over getting results. Put the scale away ladies!!! Thank you for the confirmation Alicia❤

Your childhood story about craving and consuming sweets is so relatable to me. 24:19 "I learned to cope with any stressful situation .. any emotion I never learned how to deal with... by eating sugar." 24:29 I can't stop thinking about it cause I'm scared. I'm no longer going to get mad at you and shame you for falling off of a diet. ." "You're obviously going through something so let me see what you are needing." 25:34 "I can sit with you, I can soothe you."

my little two cents: being „lazy“ can also be a trauma response, or a response to something that‘s currently in our lives that is taking a lot of energy from us (e.g. a stressful job, a bad housing situation etc.) people need to cut themselves some slack also; I‘m all here for reaching your goals and working hard but it‘s helpful to shift your perception a bit sometimes for example, I‘m getting SO much more done ever since I moved into my first own apartment and switched jobs!! bc I just have way more energy and space. you know? sometimes it‘s not really you, it‘s the circumstance(s)

I really really needed this. Been going through a depressive episode and feeling bad for not doing as much as I should. I’ve been trying to be gentle with myself but it’s time to start changing the way I think for the things I want! Legit got dressed to go to the gym now 😂

I love that you mentioned that we have bad habits that are coping mechanisms because when we want to make a change, there’s a part of us that doesn’t feel like that change is safe. It’s like a human blue print, it’s like in our DNA for humans to not like change bc our subconscious self is trying to keep us safe. I know for a fact that’s why I am afraid to be successful with money in my business AND start a RU-vid channel. Part of me is scared to start (or at least continue) my RU-vid channel bc I don’t feel safe. I’m afraid of what my family and friends might think? I’m afraid of mean comments and haters. And of course afraid of failing. Similar to my business success. I know I’m afraid of not being good enough and having unhappy clients and failing, that makes me feel unsafe. So I hide behind habits that I know are not the best bc they are familiar and what is familiar feels safe. Thank you for saying that bc that makes my own behavior make so much more sense to me. I have to find ways to self soothe and remind myself that the small scale I work on these goals day to day are not dangerous. It doesn’t have to be a big deal, it doesn’t have to feel overwhelming. Just take bite size pieces as I go. Thank you so much for this video! I needed to see this right now!

Watching this on my walk home from the gym 😅 trying to get back into a healthy lifestyle and build my confidence

i sincerely just want to thank you, i've been in this self-sabotaging rut and this helped me realize a lot of things about myself, it even brought me to tears. especially the part where you discussed the "inner-child" part of yourself, the part that wants to protect you but is driven by fear due to trauma, etc. everything was so beautifully said and it made me look at myself from an entirely new perspective. thank you again Elicia, i love your channel so much.

This is SUCH good advice. I needed to hear it. I keep wanting my dream body because I feel like it will give me confidence and I will love myself but honestly I need to reverse that. I need to love myself FIRST and stop getting in my own way. Just focus on the behavior

Girl this video popped up on my youtube feed and it's like the algorithm read my mind. This resonated so deeply with me on so many levels and I am so appreciative to have found your channel. My favorite quote as of recent has been "you can't hate yourself to change" but for some reason I found myself crying @ the gym this week because "it's not working for me and I don't know what to do" (no results + low confidence). Honestly it's just about GOING and being consistent and ENJOYING THE PROCESS. I needed to hear all of this. Also really really enjoyed hearing you talk about your own journey healing/doing the work; I have so many things coming up rn from my childhood that wants to be looked at and it's giving me a lot of grace with myself and love. We have all been through something and we need love and compassion. Can't wait to dive into more of your vids. thank you soooo much for this! xxx

As someone who is currently in between the motions of laziness and getting myself up and executing the different actions I want to take, I found this to help so much. I have picked myself so many times that i'm now in a space where I feel like I deserve some things but if I don't do others, something bad is going to happen.... Really brought to light how much I've been fighting myself and even though I am constantly picking myself up, my mental health just deteriorates in an astronomically sneaky way.. You kind of lose yourself, you know it, you feel it, you try to help it and it feels like it's failing, but in reality it's not. Your video helped me realize that things take time and like you said we need to detach from things to better ourselves. Thank you so much for this video and I look forward to watching more!

i hope you get to see this... one sentence of yours has literally helped my soul remember how to quit smoking. I cant thank you enough for following your intuition and allowing it to guide you to share

This literally made me cry. It’s like a thought I’d never viewed that way and I really needed it. Thank you endlessly!

Ahh this was the kick up the arse I needed today, thank you girl 💗

There are so many videos on this topic floating on YT but something about your delivery hits home for me. I remember I lost 20 lbs in a month simply by just going to the gym. I had no plan or set time being there, I was simply there to bypass time until the traffic cooled down for me to drive home from work. Little did I know the detachment I had about weight loss became the instant benefit of me going daily. I mean, I did want to loose weight but it wasnt really my driving force to be there. The whole thing shocked me to my core since I previously hired a coach and went consistently for a yr prior with minimal results. All is mental, but detachment ( lack of obsession) is really the key to get anything you want in this life. Thank you for the reminder ❤

You just genuinely unlocked my whole entire life. This is a breath of fresh and eye opening air and you are a blessing fr

It’s crazy because once you build that habit, it doesn’t require much thought. I’ve also been going to the gym and lifting since I was 16, and a decade later I don’t have to motivate myself to be consistent because the idea of not exercising anymore is just not on my radar. I have my ‘lazy’ areas where I haven’t built those habits and the results speak for themselves. What I would say is I hesitate to label myself as one thing. I’m not ‘lazy’ because I struggle to be disciplined and consistent with my money, I just don’t have all the knowledge and conviction yet as to why that’s very important. But I’m working on that.

Veeery much appreciate you sharing your experience so honestly and openly - especially what you said about detaching to outcomes!! ❤ as someone recovered/ing from a severe decade long eating disorder, may I gently suggest shifting away from labelling foods as good or bad - for a lot of folks, that kind of black or white thinking (which I'm still working to dismantle personally) can end up perpetuating shame cycles/disordered eating, as it's second nature to equate the value of what we may eat with who we are. in the same vein of black or white thinking, i also think it's important to understand that consistency is a process and something you build up to!! the expectation of going to the gym 5 days a week (as an example) when you're just starting out often means setting your self up for failure in a way, if you miss a day or if life gets in the way. consistency is rarely built successfully when your expectation is to adhere to it perfectly or strictly (an underlying tenant of common E.D.'s). all the coping mechanisms and patterns in our brain that started out trying to keep us safe but in the long-term were harmful or destructive we've repeated for years and decades and we can't perfectly undo or erase them in a few weeks or months or even a year. instead of expecting yourself to adhere to going to the gym (just an example) for hour long sessions 5 times a week, try starting with 2 sessions per week of some kind of movement you know you already enjoy or doing a planned gym repertoire (there's an infinite amount of weight-lifting, conditioning, any type of training plans available on the internet/insta/tiktok) with a friend to add a layer of accountability. anytime i've had long periods of consistency in going to the gym or regularly engaging in body movement, the most impactful parts of it weren't fixed to my body image or what i looked like in the mirror - the real fulfillment stemmed more from building love-based discipline, developing a sustainable routine and following through or surpassing the goals i set for myself. i think we're often conditioned to think that things like happiness or confidence exist in a fixed state we arrive at if we only work hard enough at. but in reality, they're fluid and changing depending on the day, or circumstance or year, etc. self-worth isn't something that you achieve and automatically have for the rest of your life and even if you achieve certain physical aesthetics (that, especially on social media, revolve around thinness) or body goals, it never really feels like it's enough (at least for me and a lot of my friends). i'm only sharing all this because the lack of conversation around REAListic improvement in mental & physical health definitely contributed into my going down a path of self-destruction and intense shame. the last thing i want is for others to experience that pain and misery too. all the constant advertising and over-accessibility to social media we're exposed to means we're traversing through so much information and half-truths and facades that undoubtably end up influencing our thoughts, emotions, & behaviors and a lot of can be subconsciously or even blatantly harmful. there are parts in each of us that are all hopeful, strong, insecure, encouraging, unpleasant, loving, etc. and it's 100% NORMAL to encompass an impossibly huge spectrum of characteristics . We are not all one thing or the other. anyways, sorry for such a long comment and thank you for using your platform in an insightful & responsible way! ❤ much love to Elicia & anyone reading this ✨✨

Over the years, I've noticed that whenever I obsessed about getting a certain job, partner, friendship or goal in my life, it didn't work out at the end. I feel like it had to with the fact that I was too focused on the outcome. Today, I have a mentality where I'll do everything I can in order to succeed, but my life or happiness doesn't depend on that thing or person. The results are much better.

Girl, i ve been obsessing over the why of me being consistent with my fitness journey and your video really resonates with me. I d like to add the discipline and self-respect "why" in addition to making it as part of my identity. Keep up the spirit good luck

For me it’s not going the gym, it’s decluttering my level 2 hoarder house. But the principles alllll apply. This was so helpful!

You called me out on my bullshit in the most genuine, kind way ever. I love everything about you and your channel. Subscribed immediately.

this was honestly SO helpful thank you SO much for this! this past month has been honestly very tough for me, ive been on a go go go pace, i’ve gained 10 pounds, i’ve started working out but stopped after one week, i’ve been out of my routine by sleeping and waking up late, and i’ve been both physically and mentally exhausted 😫 everything that has happened this past month has started to make me question if i’m just lazy, so when i read the title of your video i was like this is perfect for me lol! ive learned that if i really want to become the best version of myself consistency is key, ive always knew this but you repeatedly talking about it has reminded me about how important it really is and that i also need to change my mindset on why i want to start working out again! it’s not all about losing weight but it’s more about creating a lifestyle and consuming foods that make my body feel amazing! once again tysm for this video it has really changed my perspective on so many things ❤️

Because of your video I learned that every time I feel a feeling of loneliness I reach for food. It’s been easier to control my cravings because now I understand where their coming from and I can address that feeling and heal. Thank you so much!

This really helped me. I used to go to the gym every other day, but i had 2 pets die in January then got long covid and diabetes from the infection. I have felt so lazy and shitty for months and i realized i started to identify as depressed and sick. I got up and got dressed, brushed my teeth, then made some sweet potatoes and veggies while i listened to this video. I really needed this. I will identify as something else, i just need to find what that is.

Thank you so much! I just know this video has literally changed my life. I’ve been struggling hard with binge watching eating disorder and various eating disorders my whole life but especially the past year. I totally get what you’re saying - do it because it’s you not because you want results. Make it your life instead of your goal. Just wow! The healing, mindset etc is spot on. Please do more like this!! I’m pretty sure you’re changing lives all over the place. Bless you sis ❤

I resonate with this topic so much! I'm on the same journey right now, being lazy is hurting me more than it's helping me at this point in my life. Please make updates on your progress with consistency toward your goals, very inspiring!❤

that's what I've been talking about for years! even made a video but never uploaded it because I didn't believe in myself, and just lost motivation. Yes its so true, if your motivation for change is because you hate yourself, that's not a good place to start from. First you have to be okay with where and who you are. You might say something like "Im not happy with what I look like or where I am right now in life, but I accept that and myself as I am right now, knowingly that I got what it takes to change overtime." You can't start by hating yourself, eventually hating your way into loving yourself. It just doesn't work that way. First you have to adress your mental health issues, your mindset and come from a place from acceptance, love and compassion. Then you don't go to the gym because you hate your body and want to look better, you simply do it out of love for yourself and you know that its good for you. Also what I just learned about self-sabotage from a psychologist is: there is no such thing as self sabotage. Girl here in the video already said it. Its your old patterns you formed in an unhealthy environment (e.g. your childhood) in order to survive. Its your conditioning to unhealthy situations that you might have been stuck in for years. If you find yourself stuck today in unhealthy destructive situations or such a lifestyle, then its not because you want to damage yourself or do not love you enough or are self-sabotaging yourself, it is because you have only learned how to survive in unhealthy destructive situations. Its the only way you know how to function. People that grew up in unhealthy situations, only know how to create a bit of safety IN unhealthy situations, not in healthy ones (or know how to survive in them). When your little child self had to deny itself, its needs and wants and true feelings, in order to feel some sense of safety, it damn will. So instead of hating yourself for "self-sabotaging" yourself, realize that you're just surviving in the old way, that just happens to prevent you from building the life that you want in the now. Its your precious, healthy, indispensable survival instinct which has just been deeply deeply shaped to create safety in destructive ways. Another important thing is the way you view yourself. Your self image. If you have a negative self image, you're looking for negative confirmation in order to feel good about yourself, as paradoxically as it sounds. Again another survival strategy. Just know, that both these things are not the truth. Everything you do and feel makes sense. Nothing has no meaning behind it. So get to understand how you truly view yourself, why you do so and then stop feeding the negative self image of yourself and be like "I hear you. I thank you and know that you once were important (for my safety), but I don't believe you no longer" Or "its okay, your safe now Im going to take care of you etc." And now you want to teach something to that old part of yourself, you want to bless it with new positive situations instead of the negative confirmation. That way you'll feed that old voice, new positive information about yourself and that - ladies and gents, is how you change. Easier said than done, but you're worth it! 🤓

I seen the thumbnail instantly got excited and motivateddd, once I watched video my heart started to hurt , but also very inspired . I realize it's just growing pains , I am growing for the better , it hurts kinda ig... but I'm happy for myself . I thank you for existing and staying grounded in your life so you can encourage and continue to help us woman out here , much love, I know your gonna get everything you always dreamt of continue to flourish 🦋 so happy to be subscribed to youu, I literally love it here ..

I'm not lazy but I have ADHD which hinders me from following through tasks on the daily. Consistency is my natural enemy and every kind of routine starts to bore me to a point where it becomes painful to force myself to do something. I've tried so many things to better my life and become "that girl" or whatever, but it seems like it's just never gonna be sustainable for me. I know I can never become that mental image of who I'd want to be but I can't even concentrate on the journey of getting there because my body and mind just refuse to listen to me.

First ❤ omg I needed this video I'm so freaking lazy I had alot of goals to this year revolution. But here I am being lazy just like last year 😂 I need to change I need to become the best version of myself mentally physically emotionally mentally ❤I'm so lazy to even watch this video but still I'll watch 😂 thanks for this video ❤ I'm not gonna postpone it anymore I'll do whatever I want from tomorrow mrng fr ❤

So true about the gym! I focus on the feeling that working out gives me and the mind body connection. Same with eating too! Focusing on nourishing my body and how the food makes me feel. Food is energy! Love this mindset!!

I really needed this! I am graduating soon and I just have been feeling lost about my next chapter. I’m not necessarily lazy per se but as with everyone, I can do better. Anywho, thank you!

yes ! i love asking my friends about how they do this and that and how they stay consistent. like what motivates them, but like you said it’s about making it our identity. the outcome will come on its own

Just the video I needed❤️love your videos, they have definitely helped me be more reflective about all these things about my life that I was blind to, due to years of suppression.

Girl. Here’s your angel wings… I’ve heard this a million times in a million different ways yet I still need to hear it AGAIN. The message is a life long lesson. You did such a good job packaging this truth.

Thank u! It’s really embarrassing but idk what’s happening I can’t work I just don’t sleep all day literally sleep 14 hrs a day don’t know how I’m gonna make next month but this helped a lot tbh! I go to the gym regularly but my priority right now should be making money

I had always hated running. I decided this year that I’d become a runner. Now I run three times a week and because the habit has formed I don’t even negotiate with myself anymore. I love it

Making this what I listen to every morning. Depression sucks!!! Thank you for your words and inspiration. God bless you, strong young woman!! Keep up the great everything!!

You‘ve literally changed my life right now! I really needed this. I took my journal immediately and made notes.

You could upload every single day and I would still watch- you inspire me so much and I love your channel, you’re the only inspirational/ motivational channel I can watch ❤

it's so damn frustrating that i set all these goals and have such a productive mind and spirit, yet i feel like i tied all my limbs together and cannot get out of it. i hang on to the hope that maybe one day i'll magically become who i want to be, but i'm not taking the action necessary to achieve that. i'm so grateful to have stumbled upon your channel and extracting the motivation i need from you. thank you! ❤

elicia how do you always end up making a video for whatever’s going on in my life girl? 😭 like you’re always SPOT ON

Girl you have helped me unlock why I turn to sweets for comfort. Wow , I felt like you were talking about me. Thank you so much.

I had my 3rd baby 7 months ago and somehow felt into the I don’t have time routine ,even though I was always working out with my other kids, until I was on holidays recently and OMG was I tired everyday after walking. Got back home from that holiday and start working out early in the morning before my husband leaves for office so he watch the baby.4 weeks later I’m feeling so good 😅 I’m a gym person I can’t do without exercise.

Giiiiiirrrrrrrllllll!!!!!!!!!!❤ How do you know EXACTLY WHAT WE NEED TO HEAR???? You are AMAZING and I love you sis!!!!❤ Thank you for all you are doing because WE NEED THIS!!!!!!

You are so amazing and what you have to say is so powerful and groundbreaking. Thank you for being you. Never stop sharing your wisdom!!!

I've been struggling with the idea of continuing to live as my past self- I'm trying to make better, bigger moves and I keep gripping onto my old lazy self. It's so hard letting it go but I know I want to and NEED to. The hardest part is letting others down and not knowing how to balance friends and fun with my productivity. I LOVE the idea of identifying as someone who does xyz. I was on track with my weight loss recently but I fell off track due to a big career blow (got hired then offer pulled a week later lol, love this upcoming recession!!), and I'm struggling to get back on track. I recently realised that I can redefine who I am at any point in my life, and I decided that when I realised I don't want to share my embarrassing past with others- I just want to accept it and then take it with me to my grave. No one has to know that cringe thing I tried or that mistake I made- I can accept it and not drag it along with me like a chain on my ankle. Once I realised that, it was just so life-changing and calming. A huge weight was let go and I feel confident and better that I can define myself as who I am NOW and not the past I had.

I just wanted to let you know your videos have been helping me SO much getting my sh!t together and finally making the jump on investing in myself and my health and well being. I'm feeling the best I've felt in awhile and wake up genuinely excited to take care of myself. So thank you and keep doing you!!

You are so motivating me . Life is short. I’m starting a new life and I’m never going backwards again. Thank you so much.

James Clear talks about this in his book, “Atomic Habits.” This mindset switch is a game changer hunnyyyyy. Thank you for this video Elicia! I love your content 💖

Could you please do a video about toxic family/parents and how to deal with the abuse and heal ? I’m so lost, I feel alone and so sad. You’re the best

This video showed up in such a timely manner, grateful for you my dear 🥰🙏

Oh Thank you so much for this upload ❤ it resonates with me so much !!!! This literally came at divine timing

i think it’s also important to find joy in the process of things. for me, i’m so focused on the joy of the outcome, i HATE the process. i’m never gonna accomplish what i want if the steps it takes to get there are miserable… so focusing on making the process enjoyable is so important.

this literally making me cry this is so inspiration thank you so much for the eye opener.

SO ! GOOD ! the best coach I've ever had, the most gentle, empathetic, encouraging, motivating coach has been Jesus. No one better at coaching than that Man.

I've struggled with Ed so I've always been afraid of really focusing on what I'm eating. But the way I'm eating is effecting my health in negative ways, and if I want to feel better, I need to focus on what I'm eating. Sweets we're always my comfort. Oh I had a stressful day I just want a piece of cake or ice cream to feel good and feel love. Work is too busy so I would skip meals and then not get enough foods or protein and feel tired and weak. Once I get that in check, I want to do a fitness class that will hold me accountable to show up. Thank you for this video, our brains make everything seem so much harder and overwhelming. Just do it! Just try and show up. Even if you do 10 min of exercise. You showed up. That's progress!

I love your page. You always know what to say and how to help.

How did the RU-vid AI literally read my mind 😳 I've been struggling for so long now and I just this morning bit the bullet and signed up for personal training to help push my mind into the right routine.

Why does she always say things that blow my mind! Damn! Its so true tho! Thank you girlie 💕

I’ve been in a very very lazy era and just not surpassing bad habits so this video came at a great time :) thanks so much for making videos - you’re like a big sister to me haha ❤

I'm 8 months pregnant, and I want to be healthier for my son and future kids, so as soon as I fall into maturity (in 4 days) I'm going to start my journey into health. at the moment juggling 7h of work and exercise is not possible for me. I also have a sugar addiction and well I'm scared that's going to impact me in the future. Self-control is also a thing I struggle with. I'm going to change, better now than never.

I'm 27 years old. And I haven't heal yet. I've been watching videos after videos... and it's different watching a 21 year old, compared to someone my age. Girl I never commented on videos or anything so Thank you so much for this video

Mad gems were dropped, thanks for sharing ! 💎💎💎

I feel I’m gonna learn a LOT from you, I relate to you so much with so much you’re saying !!

14:00 i was literally about to say “i eat bad food bc it makes me feel cozy” 😅 it’s such a struggle for me. i’ve progressed a lot, but if i have a rough day or i’m cold or tired or whatever i want “comfort food” AND it doesn’t help that i grew up in the south and grew up learning food is comforting and makes you feel cozy and safe and loved. so a salad in my mind i’m like “that’s cold and not cozy”

Your video is something that merges with my goal in my new life chapter. The focus is me. You definitely bring in good healthy points. Thank you for this.

Great video to watch for clearness and motivation! "For any goal you have (gym, RU-vid, eat healthy...), detach from the outcome, just know that if you're consistent you'll get the results & Try to change from a place of love (heal), not manipulation and force (comparison, self-hatred). When you were a child you learned suppressing/ coping with your emotions with unhealthy food. Realize that and feel and heal them. If you want something in your life, it comes from having a relationship with yourself."

Guuurl thank you! Really needed that. I watched a 1000 vids like this but Ur the first person who really helps me with what ur sayin. Thank youuuuuu ❤

also whenever i watch your videos it feels like big sister/mum vibess, in a good way, a good scolding but one that makes me self reflect and do things, so grateful!! :)

I love this channel❤❤ You know exactly what you’re talking about girl…I learn a lot from you💕✨

So helpful and true my bad habits were filling my voids and avoiding certain emotions

Wow this was so helpful, thank you. Your explanation and unpicking of the dealing with feelings that I'd have to deal with if not comforting etc with food was the most direct and insightful I've heard. The part about being so far away from X and giving up really rang true for me too. Thank you so much. Instant subscribe!

This is an amazing video, so well said. You made so many good points in this video. I related to so much of what you said about our relationships with food, like getting to the root of why we want junk food. Also loved your point about changing things in your life based on a place of self love. That's so much better and more motivating than trying to change out of hate/force. I never thought of it this way! Thank you for this

Yesssss! You being inspired by your friend is kind of a representation of having good people by your side. It’s not about how she looked, you saw her consistency and were inspired by her journey. It’s such an eye opener when you realize it’s for mental health more than physical attributes. It might be how I interpreted this but loved this little ted talk.. no skips 🫶🏽

The fact that it was uploaded on my birthday 🫣

This video just came up in my feed at random, and was the exact content I was wanting to see/hear today. Subscribed!! ❤

I loveeee all of this!!! For me it's so about changing my self-image to match the type of person that I want to be so I have something to motivate myself towards. So much of what you said reminds me of this app Superhuman meditations I've recently been using. It's been insane in shifting my mindset to entering my high vibe era :)

It's crazy that I'm just seeing this video 10 days later but it's definitely right on time! This is such good information and a very unique perspective. Thank you for sharing it! I'll be watching more vids!

lloove the echo btw along with the way u form ur words it somehow sounds so professional to me

the timing of this video is perfect

So true, sis. I completely agree. Sending love to you, xo.