I relate so much to the highs and lows emotionally and needing someone who can understand you... and not end up thinking you’re a bad person! Lol I feel you sister. Great video!:)
I love how respectful and including you are. I'm a non-believer and I've seen many videos of this kind that are specifically targeted towards Christians, but you manage to include us all. Your insights are applicable to everyone! Also, I can't believe you don't have more subscribers? I'm sure your channel will blow up soon.
I totally agree! I'm also a non-believer per definition and I'm maybe not the most ordinary guy around but I also feel included for real here. And it is not that I go around complaining every time I feel excluded (lol.. far from it) BUT someone who has genuine respect and patience with others and makes them feel welcomed... really deserves to know it!
Sapphireia 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 I’m not a Christian anymore myself, but I can say this is an example of what a Christian woman is supposed to be. They’re supposed to be the lights of the world and spread love & that’s what she’s doing, more Christian women should look to her as an example 👌🏽
@@BeatzByMK YES ☺️ meeting such amazing Christian women have led me to knowing Jesus and wanting to be a Christian. I pray that God would encounter you again in your life. Love and hugs xoxo
Hello Caitlin, I'd be interested in a closet video and/or modesty tips and tricks. It's so hard to find modest clothes in this day and age especially if you are a young woman. Thank you.
@@bethanyrose7392 I know right? It's hard for young women who want to be more traditional but more potential role models are making RU-vid videos which is great!
Andréa Yes! We definitely need more people like you, Caitlin. I am so grateful and happy to have found you! My sisters and I really enjoyed the Botkin sister’s Reclaming Beauty series. (botkinsisters.com/product/reclaiming-beauty) It’s pretty hardcore Christian conservative, but I personally think their principles of developing a personal style that reflects who you are and your message to the world can be appreciated by anyone!
@@Ash_Queen16 I'm aware but what I'm saying is if most guys prefer a woman who does not drink alcohol what is most preferable for guys to see a woman drink instead?
@@gigijanae1460 lol anything but harsh alcohol. Whatever you feel like in the moment: water, juice, tea, hot chocolate, smoothie, perhaps a beer (if you're in a bar or something)
Also let's not forget ladies ...long term attraction....don't let your bodies GO just because your married now with kids...keeping attraction to your man is of vital importance.
I love this :)) as a Christian feminine, traditional woman, I desire a man that is Christian, masculine, and traditional 💕 I'm emotional too hahaha so I desire someone that is stable and steady
I wish i can find someone like that too. I just break up with my bf this day he always says i have a mental illness and doesnt understand me even i explain what i feel and concerned in the relationship when i cry and hurt he doenst seem to be affected
I am a 32 year woman, and recently found out about FEMININE ENERGY, could you make videos about this! Because nowadays women became too masculine, how can we find our femininity back?
this is such an important topic! There seems to be a lot of younger women (and men for that matter) that are "scanning" potential partners based on very superficial things instead of evaluating character and the compatibility between you. I like the way you broke compatibility down- it will be easy to remember :)
Caitlin, you brought a lot of wisdom in this topic.The story of you blurting out "I don't know what you believe about Jesus!" made me laugh. :) But in all seriousness, we need more of that. People have to ask these tough, foundational early on while dating. It's disturbing to me just how there are so many Christians who marry non-Christians, usually it's a woman marrying a non-Christian man. This almost always brings a huge strain in the marriage because it lacks the spiritual connection. In fact, there are surprisingly a lot of married couples who didn't talk about a lot of important issues before marriage such as kids and politics. These are just common sense stuff that should have been discussed while dating. Yet you wonder why so many marriages are so broken and unhappy.
Absolutely brilliant!! Very simple, down-to-earth, natural speaking style and the points you focus on are super practical, apply to everyone and are really well thought out. Great job!!
Honestly I found a man who’s a Believer like I am and it’s the best relationship I’ve been in. Ever. We pray together and that’s everything! We do not always agree politically but that’s okay because we respectfully discuss and agree to disagree. It isn’t an issue for us because politics isn’t a priority for either of us. compatibility is super important as is Intense love, mutual respect, and thorough communication along with appreciation, that’s my opinion. I also think finding someone who runs relationships the same as you do is important. Your husband sounds like my man; “I will hurt them if they hurt you” yep! Amen! Steady men are rare but wonderful! Glad you found yours!
I've been waiting for God to bring the right man into my life, and I'm trying to keep my faith the best I can. God says we are made for relationship but I'm only getting older, and I want to have a family. I know Gods time is always right but I'm so nervous 😩
Go out in the morning, take a simple walk, look feminine men who rises up early in the morning tend to be high quality and masculine men and also have boundaries, you are looking for the "ONE".
I know the feeling I’m in my 30’s. I met someone and dated him for two years. The relationship was so toxic. We fought every weekend. I can tell you that knowing your partners friends is very important. If you don’t like his friends, there will be issues. I moved out 7 months ago.
i love your videos and i'm really glad i found you . can you talk about how to allow Ur self to be feminine and vulnerable and find strength in it. because i feel like when people abandon their femininity and adapt a more masculine attitude. its because they are trying to protect their fragile self. i'm really interested in your opinion. sorry for my bad English, its not my native tongue.
Third date with my now husband, who has two adult children: Are you up for having more kids? I knew a long-term relationship would not work if he didn't want more kids. We have six kids so far. I guess when he said yes he really meant it!
Honestly, I am not really a traditional woman, I mean at fifteen, I am not completely sure on what kind of life do you want, in case you know what you mean. But I still love your channel and blogs.
You have a long way to go. Personally, I respect everyone's religion and have no problem being with someone who has a different faith than me. If it gives you hope for a good life and helps you do good deeds then it's a good faith to have
I'm not very feminine either cuz I'm in University and have 8 am classes with an hr traffic and I care more about sleep than looking good for people I dont care about but I KNOW I'm much more feminine than I have time for. Just figuring out what kind of stuff you like is enough for now so that you can pull it out when you want to 😊
I date within my religion. For me my Judaism is so basic to my beliefs . Let the differences be in less important areas. I once listened to a book on tape by an author who interviewed people who were happily married for over 50 years and he summed up his book, after listening to all these people talk about what they think is essential in a marriage, by saying that divorce is much less likely in people who are married within their faith. So I agree with you. Great video, thank you!
I am loving your videos! I found out about you from YogiOabs and have been following you ever since. I was wondering what can young men like me who want a more traditional woman, do to attract and find women when we live in very liberal places where these women are hard to find? ~ Keep on doing what you are doing!
Yep, I'm on the same boat as you. I also live in a very liberal area and looking for a traditional woman. It really is like finding a needle in a haystack.
Bickety and Bonk I say go to Church. I live in southern California, it is very liberal. I met my husband at a young adult ministry. We became best friends, for years before we dated. If you are not a believer. When you date a woman or young women, ask her what she thinks about it. There are women out there.
I live in southern Cali and I'd say be a gentleman. Feminine ladies like us desire men to bring that side out of us and gentlemen who have their stuff together make us feel more feminine and we gravitate to that :))
Go to places where like-minded people gather. Be a gentleman, have strong morals, straight priorities, be open for genuine conversations, and work on your character and masculinity. These are things I value.
This was the most beautiful video on dating I have ever watched, I can feel the love between your husband and you radiate from this video.. I hope to find the right man someday like you did :)
I was talking to guy about a month ago and he liked me but we have difference in religion. I believe in God and I don’t believe in Christ and he is Catholic. So i told him my belief and immediately he said we cant be together and i was so thankful I didn’t waste my time and his.
Caitlin, I appreciate you so much for making these videos! You are such a breath a fresh air and I’ve already watched all your videos so please keep them coming haha!!
I totally agree that emotional and spiritual connections are necessary for relationships. I guess that's why I'm an eternally single virgin: Godly gentlemen who have depth and know what they want are endangered species! 😂
Awww you're a princess in the real life so inspiring! I must confess I still have all the traditionals dreams inside my heart and I really hope to find someone who will love sharing that life with me. Your story gives me hopes ❤❤❤❤
First of all, I truly appreciate the real-life, personal examples that you gave during the video. They were very helpful. Secondly, I’ve never watched a video on relationships that gave this kind of advice. The advice that really matters! Thank you so much for being honest and open with us and giving tips that all link together. God Bless!
I subscribed/found you because of Nikki Philippi and I’m loving the videos I have watched so far. I would love to see a day in the life of a homemaker or week of outfits because I love your style.
What a lovely video. I am neither a homemaker nor religious, but the things you say in your videos, wether this one or about beauty on a budget... They are just universally true and adaptable to everybody. You also have a great energy on camera
2:20 I'm a 6ft tall accountant in Iowa, lol! I've had a hard time with dating. I spent the last few years getting my degree (no luck in college and honestly not sure I'd want a college girl given their horrible reputations and the "I don't want to waste my degree" line I hear instead of starting a family), starting my career, and now I'm fixing up my first house that I'm going to flip. I also moved half across the country. I don't have a social network and online dating is useless. Church has been a waste too with almost no women of a proper age to get to know (usually they're already married if any are there). I have no idea where to meet good women anymore. It seems I start to talk to someone who does drugs or smokes or has tattoos or already has kids or doesn't want kids or some other thing that is a huge deal breaker. Kind of hurts to have everything together and on a path to great success, but I'm going it alone. It's pretty hard to do and I'm wondering as I get older if I should just give up and accept love isn't going to be part of my life ever again, much less have a family. Either way, I wish more women were open to flirting and showing interest. It's not "making the first move." It's letting a man know you exist and you want him to notice you. For me, I've gotten used to being alone and I know I've missed opportunities because I've had women that smile or giggle a little more than usual with me and I just write it off as them being nice. But if they actually did something a little more obvious, I would have definitely went after them!
It is sad, our society today. I am 17 and already on a path of growth and abundance and success, but I find it difficult to find likeminded people to connect with, not only when it comes to romantic relationships but also friendships. It almost feels like I am ahead of my age when most people in my age group are partying and getting drunk, smoking weed and "having fun". Often I feel like an outsider. I have guys interested in me, but they are often not what I am looking for bith when it comes to beliefs and compatibility.. I guess I am still young, and I have a lot of life agead of me. I hope you find someone who you can build a family with💕
@@gretam2150 I am same way! I am 15 years old and I am the going their the same stuff. It's kind of sad though because I have changed so much recently with my growth that people underestimate me.
Hey I couldn’t appreciate this video anymore! I’m getting to that age where I’m getting closer to marriage! This helps so much, as the future seems slightly overwhelming! Lol
🌙🌙🌙 Bas 🙌🏻✨ 11:15 that fondness that appreciation can also grow overtime for someone. So true ! ( in my current relation.. after 10 months it bloomed and we developed mutual understanding and peace at last ) chill pill💊 and guzara and awsela ☝️😌 e.g) 14 June 2020 14:05 Don’t base ur whole life based on a guys first reaction.. that can eventually change.
Very nice, if I had such great advice way before I ever started dating I certainly would not of wasted my time with the silly guys I dated. Happily single now but will remember all this next time I have a chance. Keep up great work on these vlogs.
In days past all activities were in the open, go to the area that focused on your interest and find your mate. I reconstructed this as best I could, got involved in an activity and a new future opened for me.
hey!!I watched you on a guys video. and you mentioned you were going to start this 😊 I subscribed when you didn't have any videos yet, so I'm glad you've started😊😊
I am black and I look nothing like you. I am from the UK and social media makes us seem very masculine. I love motherhood and my dream would be to be a stay at home mum but life is very hard for me as my skin colour makes me less desirable to men. Please help, I would love your advice. Ps, I am 20 and all my friends who are white are married or pregnant.
@@thankyou1741 Hey love, being feminine has nothing to do with the melanin we produce. It is building feminine characteristics. Here is my take on this: Yes we have different origins but our natural instincts as a woman is to be nurturing, giving, gentle and share beautiful things. I get this too. The " don't depend on a man" is a mantra for us. You can make your own money and still be feminine. I have 2 jobs and I am in school, I nurture my femininity and my bf loves that about me. He has asked me about my view on family and career. I told him I do not plan to be a career woman and want my priority to be my family. He is very accepting of that. I believe in a world that lacks feminine women it is hard for a masculine man to not see the value in you. Be vulnerable, smile a lot, be open to men talking to you, vet the men that come into your life without getting attached (too soon), nurture your outward appearance (create your feminine style), don't be afraid to be cutesy, don't be afraid to let go of a man who does not value your femininity. Feminine black women are very beautiful, it will just take a little bit of work because a lot of our mothers were not.
Hmm... idk about the religion one. Maybe you found someone who happened to be raised in the same faith as you, but my grandparents, parents, and my marriage have all started with people from different faiths and have worked out great so far. My grandma was raised without Christianity and converted to Catholicism before she married my grandpa. They’ve been happily married and Catholic ever since. My dad was raised Pentecostal and converted to Catholicism before he married my mom. They have had they same outcome. My husband was raised non-denominational Protestant but I’m catholic. Turns out his father’s side of the family is all Catholic as well and I would have never known if I just turned him away for not being Catholic like me. I think the key point is you need to find someone who is at least open to your religion. Not everyone is blessed to be raised in a Christian household (or is the same denomination as you) but many are open to learning about it.
That's all the same religion, just not the same denomination, but It's still Christian. It's all the same faith in Jesus. Denominations don't change the foundational faith
PursuingHealth everyone in your story ended up either converting to one religion (Catholicism) or being close enough to understand it. Not a good exampe
Can you do a video on dating and your thoughts on that. I would love to hear your opinion on dates and kissing before marriage. Also how not to cave into peer pressure.
To me the one is the person that chooses you and also you choose him with your whole heart and soul. If he checks the boxes but doesn’t choose you then he’s not the one . He’s not the one that chooses you
Thank you so much Mrs ! This really helped me alot to figure things out and move on with my life . I just broke up with my boyfriend after almost 2 years of dating and before this video i always felt like i ve lost the love of my life and i will never get to meet "The one" . We broke up bcause of differences in beliefs (he is a Muslim and i am an atheist) and how we couldnt get along .. we were fighting over lots of stuff like political/religious matters and we were lost for about a month . He couldn't take my religious point of view and we lost respect and love in our relationship . Thank you so much .. now i m optimistic and i hope one day i ll find the person that will understand me and not judge me . I love you and your videos (i watched them all today lol) ♡♡
This was so perfect I love it! It puts everything in perspective! Thank you much hunny! Make more videos please I’m super excited to see your next topics!
Hi Caitlin, Thank you so much for starting RU-vid and sharing your thoughts. Unfortunately I just broke up with my boyfriend of nearly 2 years, but watching this video has helped me realize that although it’s been sad and painful, I made the right decision because I hope to meet and marry someone that you describe in this video. I know consoling someone going through heartbreak wasn’t the point of the video, but inadvertently that’s how it has helped me. Keep the videos coming! We really appreciate them. Love from Guam 🇬🇺😘
Love the blog and content, I just want to say that the intro music volume was quite loud and surprising compared to the voice over. Keep up the great work, and be well!
A closet video would be great! I loved your makeup recommendations, I just bought the milani lip liner and the Neutrogena Hydro boost moisturizer. I love milani lip liner anyway but didn’t have that color, I love how natural it looks.
I dont mean for this to be too personal a question, but what are your thoughts on sexuality before marriage? The mans channel you were on seems to think virginity is weird if youre at a certain age as a woman. Even christian men think sex should be part of the dating process
@mrs. Midwest, thank you so much for sharing about your emotional struggles and that your husband responds to it so so tenderly. I guess in my mind it's a given that I would want someone that embraces me (I struggle deeply with being emotional) and I've often feared that someone can't love me because of it. I try hiding it, I don't understand why I experience this so much and I love often felt like I need to handle it/fix it somehow. It's just so touching to hear someone have similar struggles, and still have someone love her without rejecting what she is experiencing 😭 it might be a little ironic that I'm writing this but it made me feel so emotional/hopeful slightly and happy to hear😢 I was also a little emotional just before watching this but I just don't experience this enough (seeing/ hearing someone that has someone loving them totally while being emotional) and it makes me believe that if others out there might have it, perhaps I can as well :-')
What if you find someone who is like you, and share your bealiving, and you love each other,but after a few years you change your religious, and he don't?
I really hope you see this! Do you have any good books focusing on being a homemaker or more feminine woman? I was raised by a single mom and I’ve taken on a bunch of bad habits from her. Mostly not acting like a team with my partner and trying to take the lead instead of letting my man take the lead. Maybe more submissive is what I’m looking for. Any books you recommend?
Thank you SO much for explaining this! I've been so conflicted lately in trying to figure out when is the right time or the appropriate time to ask the important questions: whether right at the start (or near the start) so as not to waste any unnecessary time, or whether to wait a while and focus on the attraction and chemistry and connection first, and if that goes well, then to ask the serious questions. This finally clarified that. And the latter was right. And I was leaning towards it already, So thank you so much for answering this really important question I was struggling with! It makes going into dating so much easier.
In the emotional connection area, I know what you are talking about! I was in a relationship where I felt something was missing and later on realized that was what it was. I enjoyed spending time with him and everything but we lacked that passion and it was hard to let that realization sink in
@@postcodeox278 I suppose I include love and romance in there. The love aspect of our relationship was not as great as I would have wanted. Hes different than I would like in how he shows he loves. But I am also referring to the concept of understanding one another. When you emotionally connect I feel like you understand each others emotions and how they feel and can empathize easier than most others. I would think a healthy relationship needs that to survive and be long lasting. In my case it took a lot of communication for him to understand my emotions and even then sometimes he still didnt. It just got exhausting and annoying after awhile.
@@elizabethpiazza7355 Oh I get it now thanks for your reply. Yes it would make a huge difference if you don't have to explain why your feeling a certain way about something.
yup. i’ve been watching a lot of Better Bachelor and Think Before You Sleep. i hope some of those men realize that there is some traditional women left.
Hello Caitlin, I have been watching your videos and I subscribed today! You have very relevant content. To bring back real femininity (and also to bring back real masculinity) and to let go of all kinds of sexism is what our confused world needs. Men and women were made to complement and support each other in all of the beautiful and very important ways they are different from one another. Bravo! (Just a tiny piece of feedback, though - I believe it would benefit your videos if you could edit them to raise the volume of your voice. The intro is much louder than the rest of the video and I have to turn the volume down at the beginning and then way up after the intro ends.)
LOVE LOVE LOVE your content, thank you for being so open and allowing us into your life. Would love to see makeup tutorials/closet tours, and also how you manage/embrace your emotional side! Xx
I just discovered your channel and let me tell you! You are so lovely and refreshing! 😊 It is so absolutely refreshing to hear all of the wisdom you have to share. My heart feels so uplifted by all of your encouragement. I've been listening to all of your videos while I'm at work. I would absolutely love to be at home and am working towards building a nutrition business so that I can be at home and do the things I love and cultivate and nurture everything and everyone in my life. Thank you thank you thank you! We would have such wonderful conversations! God bless you and your home and your little family ❤ much love from Texas!
