He had the courage to break up with me. He can have the courage to apologize. He knows me well enough to not contact me to waste my time. I need a man, not a boy.
If they truly want to get back with you they should be able to swallow their pride and apologize and admit that they were wrong. When I think about the wrong things and mean things she said to me it doesn't make sense for me to help her to formulate an effective apology and expression of her wanting to get back with me. I kind of disagree with this coach here. This love has to be earned and the dumpee should have standards. Yes you're right, someone mentioned it, it takes courage to tell the prosepective dumpee I'm done with you, the love is gone, move on with your life, and other harsh things. The same coverage that was mustered up to say those mean things should be the same used to repair the damage. Dignity
Dear Coach Lee, I have to give an update and encouragement to subscribers and followers... if they'll only Follow your advice, It works!!! I followed your advice from the moment it happened, watched your videos for knowledge, signs and support. No, it wasn't easy, but YOU helped me stay focused and do the right thing. The result was this morning he called and basically mirrored every statement you've made about what an Ex goes through during No Contact! He was asking me Why I didn't contact him, did I actually care about him and he couldn't stop thinking of me. I responded slowly, pleasantly and we now have a date for the weekend and he wants to try again!! Thank You from my heart for your advice, for supporting me through my crisis and I sincerely want to encourage others, if they'll just Do what you advise, YES, it can work!!! Hugs and blessings to you and others that are struggling!!! I'll continue to watch your videos, because I, myself, am always a "work in progress" and I want to be a better me, knowledge is power, Thank You Again!!
@@tsedekidisv3304 I absolutely understand what you're saying and your question. While I am certainly not an expert, I have to say we're still going strong, since this comment posted. We've Both agreed it's a constant work, from both sides. With me being the "one that was broken up with", I've decided the best approach for Me was to go slow, alert, never give Too much, just yet, of myself and create a certain "balance" with what I'm giving to what I'm receiving. If I feel, at any point, that I'm giving alittle too much or approaching more frequently than my partner, I slow down, pull back, regroup and allow him to come to me alittle more. I have to be aware of that balance always, for now, since it's still new and allow to see where this relationship goes. It might not be correct for everyone, but it's working for me at the moment. Hugs and I wish you all the love and happiness you could ever wish for! ❤
@@laurasmusings1865 thank you for the comment Laura! I feel like I have to approach the situation like you did. Causiously. Wish you the best and happy new year!
If someone had the courage to break up with you he/she should have the courage to look for you and apologize......when the dumpee gets stronger the dumper gets weaker
This guy is so great. When you are heart-broken you need a nice guy to talk to. What is soothing about this guy is the way he speaks, the way he looks, the tone of his voice, his attitude. He is truly the ultimate broken heart doctor. His voice is caring, intimate, reassuring, calming yet firm. Such a balm for all those tormented souls out there. He seems to really care about us, and you know what, he probably does.
In case anyone is wondering...stay with it. Today is day 84 for me (thank you Google calendar) and out of the blue a flurry of messages and a long phone call. She has insisted on seeing me tonight, for no obvious reason....we spoke about everything so there is no reason for us to be in the same place. Problem is now I don’t feel anything other than a gut wrenching feeling of anxiety. 84 days and I’ve realised I am happier away from it.
Update: I’ve met someone new and I’m a hundred times happier than I was. Counting the days seems odd to me now but it got me through. Good luck to everyone in that boat, you’ll get through!
Normal. At that moment you have been wanting your ex contacting you but at the same time It only produce you anxiety, sadness, etc. Hope you are doing good.
The dumber doesn't have to say 'lets get back together' they can just say 'I miss u" its not hard, it will be a rainy day in hell if Im gonna be the one chasing him and telling him i miss him, they made the mess they can clean it up
I got an 'i miss u" text that was fake. She missed me at that point but her interests were me to be her friend. And she knew exactly what I wanted, and it was a romantic relationship. Sometimes I think I screwed up that chance but to be honest it seems like it was never a real chance, just her wanting validation.
@@MikeGolf993 You're exactly right! I get the same thing almost weekly. First it was how are you doing, then the next week it was "I miss our friendship", now its "how was your weekend". She's not missing me yet, just missing having the parts she wanted to keep.
As they made the mess out of some degree of ineptitude... You might think their ineptitude can be a greater handicap in reconcile the two of you together
Three months ago my ex husband said he wanted me back, if I would take him. I said "you have to earn me back"... He never did anything to win me back and I just found out a week ago that he dated two different women. I don't even want him trying anymore...I am done!
Did you talk about what to be done to earn you back? I know he hurt you, but you also have to put your ego aside now that you have power back. That's where you went wrong.
Hi Lee, your Videos are keeping me bouyant during a very tough & painful time after being dumped & rejected. The temptation to make contact is so tempting and hard to resist . Thanks for your support in these dark days. I know you're right. It just hurts that's all, but I realise pain also fades or de get used to it with time. Thankyou brother. 👍👍👍
She keeps checking back in with me when she’s feeling down, then when she gets some attention and feels validated she disappears. It’s doing my head in.
Listen to this man, honestly you’re gonna be far better than whatever you might figure out or hear from your friends and family. I’ve gotten thru with the help of coach Lee and have a great deal of peace of mind at this point even when things are uncertain
You’re right coach. It’s hard to admit that you messed up and made the wrong choice, especially if you’re anything like me and stubborn. Even more so if the break up was a heat of the moment thing because you were angry or upset about something.
With my ex, she’s been reaching out to me everyday of nc, I finally told her it’s not fair to me that she broke up with me, and keeps texting how she misses me, but it’s only crumbs. She doesn’t want to get back together, and so I told her to reach out to me if she wants to talk about our relationship, but other than that, I don’t want her crumbs. She agreed to that. 2 hours later, I got a message that said I wish it didn’t have to be like this and that she understands why, and then she said let me know when you’ve changed. Like what???? I didn’t reply to that and she knows she can reach out when she wants to talk about us. I’m gonna let nc settle for longer cause everyday she messages me to get a boost of ego, she hasn’t given time to understand I’m gone, she can’t just break up and expect me to be around. I feel like she just thinks I’m hers to control and that she can have me whenever she wants, but not anymore. And she’s realizing this.
I’m following the no contact. She did wish me happy birthday. I replied really unexpected but lovely surprise thank you. Heard nothing back now for over a week. But I’m staying strong and continue to no contact
my ex (I'm the dumpee) is calling me trying to bait me in saying he miss me...but never say lets get together..he also says "hey ill call you back" and wait till like 3 days or so to contact me back...i never call him and I'm not..when he calls me again I'm going to tell him "if he is not talking about making things work then please don't contact me anymore its pointless and that we are on 2 different levels..plain and simple
Our conversation went exactly as you described it here when my ex reached out to me the other day and now he wants to hang out. It was just like you had seen our conversation when you described how it usually goes!
We broke up once. I did no contact and we got back together. It was better than the 1st time. Then we broke up again. Will no contact work after a 2nd break up?
I agree with what you are saying. However I believe that it all depends on the circumstances. My Ex Girlfriend had abandoned me because I found out that she cheated on me. She contacted me 2 months later and wanted to reconcile. I took her back but I broke up with her 2 days later because she abandoned me without contacting me which tells me that she wasn't too concerned about my feelings. She had sex with another man. So you can't love someone if they have broken the bond of trust. I don't think that she was prepared for the rejection. I miss her very much but I need to have my integrity and move forward. Breaking up is probably the worst feeling that I have experienced so far. Especially when you are emotionally attached to someone that you love.
@@yamisoaegyeo Sometimes you miss that hard that you truly believe that you can forgive they. But then you realise that you can't trust again like before. So probably It wasn't the case.
Dont wheel the trash to the curb and then go down there rummaging through it. Its nasty and the neighbors think you're weird. If they didnt leave for college or because they had to dont waste your time with someone who couldn't see your value and appreciate the wonderful person you are!
“Its nasty and the neighbors think you’re weird” well, I got news for you…. They had an inkling of it since the day they met me.. Me rummaging just supports their theory! LOL!
I’m hurt. I’m extremely hurt I loved this woman. I was great to her and to her kid. She’s not worth jack shit I feel so fucking stupid. I don’t want her back. I just want to let go of my feelings and this pain. I wish her nothing but the best but I would like to move on. I’m alone I don’t have anyone to help me. I lost my mother when I was a kid.
Coach Lee great advise but let me just make a point if your ex has reached out making a statement- not asking how you are. I would not help them along this kind of touching base doesn’t say anything to me in the hopes of getting back together or genuinely caring about being part of your life again. They owe us an apology and would need to make those efforts to try to make things right
This is confusing if you have kids together. It's hard to tell because the kids are always a perfect alibi to reach out to you but you can't tell if they are wanting you to take them back due to interacting with kids.
Please don’t get your X back it’s waste of time, just move on and at the same time you will see how much you worth , with a real relationship you don’t have to play any games, you just need to be yourself, if you need some game to get your ex back that will never and , just do yourself a big favor don’t do my mistakes !
What if you are already dating someone else but still you prefer your ex, how do you react? Should you tell your ex that you are dating someone else so he has to be better and act better?
I followed the NC rule as well… we went on a very unexpected two dates in 3 days. Our break up was awful. Probably the worst. I thought I had no hope fr. We been broken up for 3 months total I did nc for two weeks It’s still going through phases but the nc rule works. We made plans on dating each other to see where it goes. We were together for 3 years.
The person I was in a relationship with decided to take off one day and ghost me. Yes, I was angry at his cowardice and was upset to say the least. I did not expect him to contact me ever again and after a couple of months went by and I began to stop talking about it and heal. I blocked him on all social media and my phone. 5 months later, believe it or not, I wake up happy that he gave me this gift of leaving. I no longer have to worry about his narcissistic behavior.
I dumped my ex because it began looking like neither relationship nor friendship, she started avoiding me and making malicious things to me. She led me to neurosis because of her toxic behaviour. I was 100% fair to her, I helped her a lot with many things. A week ago I text her a long message with kind explanation of what she had done to me during over half a year. I also wrote it was the end of our relation UNLESS she changed her behaviour. The I blocked her on facebook. I had really hard days but I feel I detoxed a little. I am in situation that she needs to write me, apologise me and make a decision. It's difficult, maybe impossible, but if she still cares, she is going to do it.
It's been 2 months since I broke up with my ex. I figured since it is a new year I will say hello and apologize for the way I approached the issue that blindsided him. I didn't want to get back together as it was a long distance relationship. I texted him and he called back a few hours later. I was glad he was doing ok. I mentioned that I just wanted to wish him a happy new year and apologize from my side. He was extremely upbeat and one of the first things he said that he missed me etc. It took me by surprise but I didn't say that I missed him. I needed for him to calm down so I could say happy new year etc. Later in the conversation he said he never said he wanted to marry me and long distance relationships are hard etc. I'm thinking where is this coming from. It's like he was letting trying really hard to hurt me for some reason. Still upbeat, he wants me to come there once he gets his business started this year. Geesh! He was all over the place with this conversation. The conversation ended by me saying I would be in his area later this month to visit my gravely ill aunt. He asked to see me. I said I wouldn't be able to. He is keen on the idea of me being in his area and I shouldn't leave there without seeing him. I shouldn't have mentioned this to him so I am not pressured. I will have riders so that will be my excuse. Wondering why would he say those things but bringing up the good times and his desire for me. Also wanting me to be there to support when he open his business. I've gotten stronger but I cannot get caught in his web again. Now that I think about it, I should have stayed no contact because this feels weird.
she won't me back but she says I won't you to be my friend. "I miss you".I was extremely happy to hear that. I am still following your advice .My problem is am afraid to trust again, what can I do?Help.
My ex did everything you said, initiated contact, reached out often, tried to make conversation, he's here on a tour visa and he told me it was expiring but not sure if doing another visa run or go back to india.. but i was so scared to feel rejected to ask if i asked to have coffee.. he has always been very sure about asking to see me when we were dating.. everytime i become emotional he would say "i never asked to get back, i've made it clear i wanted to be friends" even though i never ever asked to him to get back with me
This is really great for me and Ik even if things doesn't work out I have a better outlook on things with your advice because me and my wife been here before and it played out in the Fashion you explain thank you
Kendall, I’m sorry that you are in the situation that you are. This video might help. Be sure to watch it all the way through: m.ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-vIKkuOit3HU.html
When your wife leaves you for a sudden and catastrophic disability and tells you that she wants to move on then you have to deal with the sudden illness or injury plus the marriage ending it makes a person extremely strong. Then later once you conquer that disability and perhaps heal from the injuries that person comes crawling back begging at that moment it is up to you to forgive that person or take them back I chose to not take her back. I cannot tell you how many times I listen to this genius talk throughout the night while my phone sit by my pillow and it help me forget about all the trauma that I was put through and gave me peace and calm God bless you sir
Going through something very similar, a few life changing illnesses, not catastrophic, nevertheless life changing...and he is doubling down on work commitments...after I bailed him out financially when no one else would help. I'm devastated to be honest. He sees his chance at promotion and I dont count anymore, just stopped calling, texting etc after 8,5 years and engaged.
I want people who are watching this.Yes it worked for me. I know it is so damn hard coz I’ve been there for about 9months of on and off doing contact and no contact. Exactly after 2 weeks of no contact, he reached out. First he started with silly argument. We texted for about 3 hours straight non stop and at the end he ended asking me to move to the same state where he is (btw we were in a LDR) and want to give it a try again and work things out. So we are working on it. Hoping for the best 🤞🏻 so guys stay strong.
I'm having a tough time doing no contact because she keeps reaching out. I've handled every perfectly besides this. I literally don't contact her unless it's to answer a question. She said she's done and moved out but she is lingering.
Another great video! I did no contact, and after about 3 weeks, she reached out to me. It's gradually increased, and we've been out a few times. After about 3 weeks of more contact, and her giving me hints, but me not being overly excited with them, she told me tonight that she wants to move back in with me. Coach Lee's methods work!!!!
He has been breadcrumbing me for months. He would want to meet me every weekend for an hour or two and that’s it. Last week he called me everyday and talked to me for 10-30 minutes. Then he asked me out for the weekend but canceled later. I know he is seeing other people and he wants to keep platonic friendship with me for emotional support. I was feeling so drained from the whole experience that I said I cannot stay as platonic friends and let him go.
Coach Lee is Great, I love your advice, Thank you,what my Ex does she sends her Brother with messages to tell me, she asks him everyday do I ask for her lol
My girlfriend broke up with me a month and half ago we had a very good relationship she just let her work stress take over and she broke it off with me... I been doing no contact and working on myself but i spoke to my mom thinks she's never coming back. I kinda felt discouraged binging Coach Lee really helps with the discouragement
wow, this is exactly the advise I was looking for, so are you saying if your ex reaches out to you twice means they want you back ? It does not mean they want you around as friend and just to feel your presence ? Because my ex was asking for friendship and checking on each other now and then , i do not want that to happen ....nor do I want to break NC just to let them feel my presence a bit and then they go away again, for me it will be like breaking up all over again. How do I know for sure that when they reach out it's a good possibility of getting back and not just them checking in and making me a friend ?
When they reach out it's cause they miss you and they want you back most likely. As for whether you guys get back into a relationship depends on how you play your cards. Tell them you're doing well and busy but disappointed in how things ended as you had hoped to have a future with them and wait for their response. This gives them the opportunity to admit they made a mistake and would like to get together again and see where things go.
I’m in the exact same situation and I’m stuck too! I’m not too sure whether to take the initiative and meet up with them or wait for them to ask me, do you have any update on your situation? X
One of my biggest faults if you can call it a fault is how many times do I keep going backwards and forwards with my Ex before I have the confidence to say "enough is enough" when he gets in touch again? I know in my gut that he's seeing someone else but can't prove anything. All I can do is stick to the no contact rule and do things by the book and take each day as it comes. One day he'll contact me and I'll say "No", I'm with someone who I'm happy with. Cherry 🍒.
I need encouragement! 😭 I’m on day 3 of NC and he’s the type to ask me if I’m okay he’s the type to ask if we want to be friends but still nothing! Our 2 year relationship ended again over me going crazy girlfriend when he went to college... I trust him I just never trust other people. I basically blew his phone up and smothered him.. so is he still in the relief stage?! Or is he just really moving on since he’s a freshman in college and he’s busy and able to occupy himself!!!
"I trust him but I don't trust other people" is BS and you know that very well. What don't you trust about other people? That they'll drug him or kill him or rape him? No, you just think someone will show him interest and he'll not resist it, you think his mind will drift away from you in this new environment with new people, so it is really him that you don't trust. If you trusted him you'd know even if he was in a room full of naked girls he'd just walk away, or you would know that he wouldn't put himself into that situation in the first place, that he wouldn't allow himself to get attached to anyone else emotionally either. By the way, it is okay to have those doubts, people often do change when they get into a new phase in their life. But you cannot stop it by smothering him. If anything, you'll push him into where you are afraid he'll end up going.
My ex broke up with me and took him 4 days after no contact to reach me out again . Only to ask if I was already dating someone new and to say that we should go separate ways and he didn't want a relationship with me anymore...I was like wtf ?
The one thing that sucks about all this is that you two broke up for a reason. People don’t break up with you for no reason. If that problem isn’t fixed then you will be dumped again. And if it was due to incompatibility or toxicity in the relationship you should move on entirely
I spent 17 years in a relationship with a married man and this last year he brought a 3rd, person in the triangle and forced me to break up! Needless to say I am heartbroken! I do not contact him! It’s very hard and I am in counciling! I love him very much! Never ask him to get a divorce! He has no relationship at home! Just married! Pretty sad! Hard to believe someone could be so cruel after I gave him seventeen years of my life!
She contacted me on day one to tell me it was difficult to handle my absence. I was working, I had to drive to another jobsite so I told her I had to drive. The conversation faded (text) The second time happened about a week later. She asked if I was ok, if I was ok with the new home. Then she told me that I forgot some summer clothing and my all season tires there ( I had no way to bring them when I moved) I asked her to send everything to me. Gave her my address and everything was going well. At the end of the story, she sent me a text "I don't know why you didn't want to come here to take your stuff... but OK" So damn hard, but the kit is kepping me on track. It's been 20 days since the breakup. Any advices? Coach? 😳
I had a woman dump me to go back to her emotionally abusive ex. I broke off all contact with her, six months later she attempted to reach out to me asking me to be her "friend". I ignored her for another year, she made several more attempts and even had a mutual friend reach out to me to convince me to talk to her, I told the mutual friend that I had no interest in talking to her, after some arguing she finally figured out I was not backing down. Not another word since.
She dumped me 3 days ago when I was driving her to the beach 🏖. I had noticed a change on behaviour few week ago and was trying to discuss with her. She told me that she doesn’t have that spark anymore. She said she loves me but is not more in love with me. It was shocking to hear that after two years of relationship. I came across these videos of Lee. As soon as I left her house three days ago, I entered nc. It’s not only to get her back, but I am looking for ways to get through these difficult moments. Things aren’t that easy. I am even affected at work. But I have hope that I will be fine. I know she is going through relief moment now. But what goes around turns around. Thank you Lee.
Good luck! Can you update me and let me know how it goes? I've been in no contact for almost 2 weeks. It's really hard not to call or text but you can do it
But isn’t there a fair line between getting friendzoned and getting back together? Maybe they just want to make themselves feel better by „cleaning up“ any past mistakes. My ex just told me yesterday she hopes we can just get along. But to me that def sounds like „friendship“ or whatever.
My ex and I were together for 2 years, and 5 months ago we had a stupid argument on the phone. I then sent a dinner invite via text, to which she didn't reply and then 4 months of us not talking went by. I watched a bunch of corey wayne videos and came to the conclussion it was my needy behaviour that broke us up and I text her to tell her that. She immediately asked me to go for coffee and talk and it went well, but she did tell me she had been dating this new guy for a month. A few days later we went away for a sex filled weekend and got along great. A few days later she texts me some cut and paste thing about what real love is. I tried to call and wound up having to text her. I just said yea the sonat you sent is great, let's hook up this weekend. She text back don't call or text me anymore. I said "I love you and if you change your mind give me a call". She text back "a little too little and way too late". A couple of weeks later she called me while on a trip to visit her ex sister in law, she said " I didn't know who else to call ", and basically whined for 20 minutes. I ended it with " call me when you're back" to which she just said goodbye. Suffice it to say she didn't call and I found out she was off on camping trips with the new guy. I sent her a text basically saying " I believe I will never hear from you again and I'm moving on', it has been 2 weeks and still no response. The dilemna I'm caught in is 200 videos later I know that I can't contact her anymore but as hard as I try to forget her I'm still deeply in love with her and truly believe we were meant to be together. In the 4 months we didn't talk I was 95% over her but the weekend together combined with me now losing her to a new guy has me thinking aboout her to the point of insanity. . I would love to get her back but I'm 100% not interested in begging her, it has to be her choice to reach out, even if that's in small way like "let's go for coffee". From what I've heard about the new guy (her words) he hangs out in bars every day and his kids won't talk to him. I was an aquaintance of hers for 9 years before we started going out, and that was spawned from her crying on my shoulder over my best friend (her brother in law) killing himself. I'm 60 and she's 49 and I can tell you with no uncertainty that everyone who knows me knows that I'm one of the nicest people you would ever meet (that was probably a big part of the problem), and I treated better than any girl I have ever been with. She told me so many horror stories about her exes. Her husband tried to kill her and went to prison for 7 years, another guy she was engaged to stole 50k from her etc etc. I was super attracted to her and I felt the best way to go was to treat her like gold, what a mistake that was as the nicer I was the more of a bitch she became...all the dating videos say that's what happens when you're overly nice. Well hopefully some nice person will give me some good advice on how to how to win her back, or it'll just be I enjoyed venting. I'm not terrified of having to find someone else but this one really captured my heart.
She told you that what you said was too little too late? What the fuck dude... She WANTED you to declare your commitment and love to her. Stop being a dick and go get her
Exactly! Very rarely when ex comes back it works...people are so disappointed from them, theg have clear concept what the situation is like and still want thd ex to come back...why?even me...i want him to contact but not because i have hope about us...but because I feel lied, hurt and want to feel the ball is in my hand...
@@sofiandi6117 because people like me for example fucked up and we still love them and would do anything to make it right. Thats why I want her back, because it was an awesome relationship but before break up I was neglecting her romanticly 2 months and got friendzoned
@@Illumiras well...then if he is like you...may it be:))))4 months passed, he didn't write, u still keep strong NC,will never break it...just tried to lure me to contact him but I didn't bate!If he is a MAN, he must have enough courage to face the situation...
Hi coach Lee.Like your advices the way you present them with the soft background music ,your deep monotonic sciencere voice and the systematic way you transfer your messages.Took you advice of non contact that worked .My x is showing signs of wanting to come back with text messages with small kisses and hearts.I treat her very well like a gentlemen in our old days .I am very mixed up because she told me that we had no future together and after a period of no contact she showing signs of regretting.What Am I supposed to do to. Win her back surly with out hurting her pride and feelings.
Lee, I would love to schedule a time with you to talk. My old girlfriend and I were very serious and very close before she got to a point where she felt like she couldn’t give me what I needed and that she wasn’t the best version of herself. She started distancing herself and ultimately it wore on me to the point where I thought that separation would be best. I have had an incredibly difficult time and I think it’s been hard on her too but after three weeks of no contact we have very limited contact now and I’m just not sure where this is going to go next. I think about her constantly and continue to struggle to distract myself from her memories. Not sure if you’d be willing to talk but so far I’ve had little success with counselors.
Any advice?? My ex in a LDR thinks im violent. And impulsive after 3 years of dating. I called her some names, thats basically why we broke up. But i really didn't believe what i was saying. But it doesn't matter she completely believed the worse of me. And is making it feel like were done 4 good. That she feels love 4 me but that she lost all trust
Rajdeep Singh, I highly recommend Coach Lee's Emergency Breakup Kit which will help you immensely. It has EVERYTHING in it including strategies for every situation. It's POWERFUL! myexbackcoach.com/ebk
2 wks no contact he reached out, he asked to meet and talk. I don’t want to be his ‘friend’ he messages me questions etc I’ve told him I’m not your ‘friend’ don’t pigeonhole me as one. He got drunk I got I need you, want you etc.... But then the following day he apologised for the messages. Damn he confuses me. He still called me babey... I get kisses too? I don’t call him babe or give kisses. 🤪
Dated for almost 10 years the covid hit me HARD and she couldn’t handle the stress and left. 7 months since the break up but 4 months no contact. I wanna wait for her, but at this point it seems less painful to give up and move on.
Love Lee’s content but offering lunch/coffee is the quickest way to friendzone. Plan something that isn’t platonic like dinner at your place. It communicates romance
Coach Lee. My ex reached out on Sunday. "Can we talk?" And "I miss you". We chatted a little bit and I suggested a meet up on Saturday which she agreed to. Told her I had to get going and that she can message me tomorrow or the day after(Monday or Tuesday). She said that she will definitely bother me again(In a good way). She haven't reached out again yet. Should I contact her on Friday to ask if Saturday is still on or let it go if she doesn't reach out? Please advise. I bought your Emergency Breakup Kit to support your cause. Great content! Thank you very much.
My wife and I got divorced 6 months ago. We are in our 50s with no children. We were only married 1 year. I miss her but she wants NO CONTACT. Its been 5 months NO CONTACT. IS IT OVER??
My ex reached out last night after two weeks to apologize for how things ended. Didn’t mention anything about getting back together… 🤷🏾♀️ we texted a little to see how things were going but he didn’t mentioned anything about getting back together 😕
Honestly that’s for the better, it’s better to let the old relationship die and allow growth to come into both of your lives. If it is meant to be he’ll reach out when things feel familiar but different, this way you have more of a chance to survive should you two try again.
I'm having very tough days and cry a lot. I miss him, but on the other hand I hate him, because of the way he hurt me, without any remorse. He was cruel. My biggest mistake was I invested too much in our relationship and forgot about my needs. So I was not attractive to him anymore, as he pointed all my mistakes. He wasn't perfect either, but I don't remove people easily, but always try to talk. He broke up 6 weeks ago. Meanwhile sent several breadcrumbs, he is not really interested if I'm doing fine, doesn't ask about my life. He is just focused on himself. I'm sure he will not come back... I only hope someday I will stop crying...
Katrina, I've been there for 5 years, engaged. He had no intentions of getting married. I was devastated! TIME and going to Therapy helped me. I also went out with my friends, read some great self help books, and slowly got better. You CAN do this. Take care. Virtual hug..❤️⚘️⚘️
My ex and I broke up 1 month ago because she has family issues, wants to learn to love herself, focus on herself and get her life together. She said she is miserable with herself and she honestly has very low self esteem. She said “I dont want to be in a relationship right now.” “I dont know about the future” We havent talked in two weeks. I have been working on myself and filling the void. Will she be back?
Simply the best coach. Honest and intelligent 🤔👍 But coach Lee, how is your personal experience with the ‘no-contact’ theory. Does it work ? What do women Think during the no-contact period ? Especially if they are seeing someone new ? Will they miss/ think of their ex ?
Ajaz, thank you. Here is a video on what your ex is thinking during no contact. ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-eKN11fzMwa0.html&lc=UgyH57dybeWsVGRjhK94AaABAg
how does it affect your chances of hearing from your ex girlfriend if you told her (after she tried to friend zone you) that you only wish to hear from her IF she has a change of heart... otherwise you don't really want to have small chit chat and such.... her sister reached out as did her mother, but she hasn't .... its only been 2 days btw.
That’s good. Usually it works on them and heightens them missing you. It also gives them an easy way to tell you that they want you back because they know that you told them to only reach out if they wanted more. So they know all they have to do is reach out.
I need help, we’ve broken up officially one and a half years ago cause of arguing and misunderstandigs and no trust, we actually already did the no contact rule once but the relationship was toxic from the beginning and i was depressed and healing from it and still wasn’t ready for it but we steal saw each other and wanted to talk things out. I had no confidence and everything and no she literally gave up ar that moment where i really moved on because of all the arguing etc. She said she wanted no contact for a while and she isn’t sure about us because i was emotionally abusive towards her at that moment where she reached out. She still said that she loved me etc. But she needs to focus on herself and i need it too, and may look what happens in the future. We was always forcing it... im definitely gonna heal from it now and focus on myself but i still want her back.. what now
The ex I did not want back texted me the second month.. I ignored him.. he send me flowers the 5th month with a card 'sorry' and no name.. ignored him.. the 8th month he texted me twice.. ignored him.. the 10th month he send me flowers for my birthday, ignored him.. the 11th month he texted me again.. So you see if the guy wants you back, he will reach out even if you don't reply. In none of those texts did he say 'i want you back' or 'i miss you'.. no, texts like 'sorry for your loss'... 'did you send me this for valentine'... all testing the water texts.. are you still mad texts.. of course he missed me, that's the reason he texted me in the first place.. So folks, don't expect a whole apology or a please take me back... men don't have the b*lls to start the contact and admit they regret mistreating you
