How To Not Let Criticism Get To You 

Are you ready to stop letting your critics run your life? Give me a HECK YES if you are!

Never listen to criticism because most people who criticize don’t even know how to do what you want to do correctly.

I’ve always struggled with people pleasing. It causes depression because there is no way to satisfy everyone’s needs. I’m learning that I am in control of my life and I’m not letting anyone hold me back. Thank you for this 💕

I feel critical people are not happy with their own life, so they like to act like a know it all. Many think they are helpful. The older I get, the less I share. Your content is excellent.

"Throwing mud from the cheap seats"...that works. No one likes a heckler when you're up there doing your best. That phrase is a reminder of how cruel & mean some people can be. The joke = coming from "the CHEAP seats". That phrase is like an anti-venom against a snake bite. Knowing where it comes from is half the battle of getting over it. Thank you, I will use that phrase, but know that the word "mud" will be changed to something more colloquial. Thanks again and all the best.

Love your righteous anger and passion!! Thank you for this kick in the butt! I feel empowered by your words and encouragement!!

Thank you for this. I need to live and it’s true, the only opinion that matters is my own and the people who genuinely love me. Even my own parents don’t need to be giving me judgements and opinions. Heck, I’m almost 50 and my dad seems to think he can criticize me into submission. No. Not any more.

My family tended to be very critical of me in my childhood and teenage years, and it still affects me to this day. I really love your channel-it feels like you made your videos for me!

Thank God this is Not one of my issues. I have always followed my big dreams and never cared what others thought. Being a free spirit I believe helps this for me.

Thank you, I needed to hear this. I need to hear this every day. I know it, but I need to practice it! HECK YES....I'm ready

This one hit me hard emotionally. I've always worried about what others think of me, especially family, and rather than just getting grip on it and moving forward, I tend to not take a chance in order to avoid their judgements. Thanks for waking me up, it looks like I've got some work to do. Life is only getting shorter, time to start living it. Excellent video.

that's what codependency do.. especially hurts family people supposed to support and you got a criticism out from them, your spoken true words makes tears in may eyes ..

Thanks Julia, this means a lot to me. Respect to all. Do not judge people. Be positive and give compliments. If you have nothing uplifting to say, please keep it to yourself.

This was exactly what I needed to hear today ! Thankyou so much !

Julia, I really appreciate your professionalism in saying "Some of you" instead of "Laura." ;)

I have a family member that has criticized me for as long as I can remember. Because I went away to college and left a small town I am a deserter and therefore thought I deserved all the insults I have come to realize that I was never in the wrong and I should be proud of myself . I am sad in the acceptance that I will never have this person’s respect, even though I tried for years to help her with her issues. It was never enough. And I know that now thanks to wonderful people like you that have helped me. Thank you for all you do. You are a guardian angel to me❤️

It is difficult not to let critics get to me. It is more challenging when the critique is from school or your family members. In school, we had to take some photographs for our publication design for graphic design, and our photographs have to be high quality, which is best performed with a DSLR or mirrorless camera. One of my classmate had many photographs denied by the instructor, and I felt bad knowing that the student did their best. When I take photos I tend to have critiques come to my mind, saying things like "the aperture is not right", "the shutter speed needs to be higher to let more light in the image," etc. Although the instructor was trying their best to help improve our work, it can feel disappointing having your work denied. Thanks for reminding that satisfactory come from us, not from anyone else.

Thank you Julia for your dedication and work. Your videos are a great resource to many people and are marked by their balance and thoroughness. I have found them extremely helpful personally. I think you make a great point regarding people who hurt us when they offer feedback, it does say more about them than us. I hope you have not experienced too much of that type of feedback yourself with all you try to do to help people.

You rock, love your station, love you! Thank you so much for your wisdom and insight! You are really helping me with my new job and dealing with haters! And you remind me of my little sister which is a great thing! Keep up the awesome work and I wish you the best! 💙🧡❤️💥

I have a huge problem with this. I've always been emotionally sensitive, and struggled to understand people and why they rage at me, so I worked hard to be the most "democratic" about how a treat people, but in the end I only gave up myself and submitted to the world for emotional security and to feel like I was doing the right thing..... At least 6 times in my life, I've been yelled at visciously for reasons I didn't understand, and the fact that I didn't try to do something wrong, don't usually understand certain things, socially or otherwise and not knowing how to defend my own opinions causes me to believe that everyone else knows better (I need to learn to stop listening to confidence). I'd like to learn how to break the confidence of others, so that I know how to have confidence, but I'm too emotionally sensitive towards others to be comfortable doing that. Also because I see people doing wrong all the time and getting away with it because they believe in themselves and close themselves off to learning from others, while their confidence makes others think and feel like what they stand up for is fine as well.

If someone is a snob and too judgmental, that person doesn't matter. His or her opinions don't matter if they're a destructive form of criticism. Thanks a ton for this!

The 4 Agreements is an awesome book...

I needed this so much!!

Really meaningful to me in my job as a teacher. There’s a lot of mud being thrown from the cheap seats and it was getting at me...thanks for the support!

I like how you said, “It’s easy to fling mud from the cheap seats...if you’re not in the ring, getting your ASS kicked, your opinion is irrelevant...” so TRUE!!

Yeah, enough is enough. You're right. It's just heartbreaking how emotionally cruel people can be, in a lot of instances without reason, people you never expected it from.

I needed this, thank you! 💚 I've had self-entitled people who would only approve of my work if it lived up to their standards as if they're important. I mostly hate those individuals who act like they're the majority and think that we're supposed to give a s**t about their dissatisfaction.

This. Was. Awesome. Tough message, packed with truth. I know this will empower a lot of people; it certainly has been a reminder I needed to hear.

This is exactly what has truly destroyed me. I used to just go out accomplish goals, build things, fix things and I started getting criticism because of other's internal battles. I've completely stopped setting goals for myself because it's easier for me to not get nagged, criticized, analyzed, etc. Why should I have to battle someone to finish my task? I quit doing stuff altogether. I don't even fix my own car anymore because when something goes wrong in the process of fixing it I will vent about it going wrong and it becomes my fault for not buying a new car every 5 years. Now I get criticized for being lazy. It's such a joke.

HECK YES!!! Dude so many people have so many issues and they use you to make them believe that their way is the only way. I love this channell

4:55 - "The only people's opinions who count are only the people who have earned the right to have those opinions... " Wow. Could never be more accurate. 👏

POWERFUL!!! I needed this more than you will ever know! Thank you so much!💜💜💜

About 2 years ago I met a girl who is smart, pleasant and wonderful. It clicked directly when we both felt that we had the same opinions, thoughts and norms when it comes to life etc. We started dating and spending a lot of time together. We chose to move in together, however, after much nagging and tears from her side. Everything was peace and joy and I felt that I could create a future with this girl. After meeting and spending time with her parents and family, I have subsequently found out that they have always had bad family relationships characterized by criticism, stubbornness, control needs and ugly commentaries (especially the father). The father seems to have inferiority complexes, where he says and behaves as he wishes to his family members. The relationship has recently turned entirely. I perceive my girl as very insecure, never satisfied and great control needs. We constantly end up in unnecessary conflicts where she points out that i do not share my feelings and do not communicate. I increasingly see her father's results and words in several contexts. I have also been confirmed that her father has always talked badly about me in a way that cannot be justified. He has also said things that have shocked me and made me very sad. Naturally, the result was that I didn't want anything with her father to do more. My girl constantly insists and cries about the situation and thinks I should be more forgiving and talking to her father. Against my gut feeling and will, I chose to be the bigger man and solve the situation so that she would feel better. The result was that the father went too far and said things that hurt at such a deep level that I can never forgive. What also hurts me is that my girl knows how her father is and still lets herself be controlled and affected so far that it has destroyed our relationship and well-being.

Thankyou. This is so timely. I needed to hear this. Love and Light.

HECK YES!! Amaaazing video... Lalaloved it! I also really liked that you mentioned/referenced Brene Brown. Shes a beautiful soul as well. Thank you Julia! Needed this and you posted this at the perfect time.. Xx

Just dealt with something similar to this and it turned out remarkably well Thanks to God and Thank you for saying this... But on a side note things are going to get worse in a lot of ways and some in better ways... Because a lot people are getting more mental health problems than they ever used to have... But these videos do help a Lot!

Hi Julia. My name is Martha. I’m glad I found you. Your videos have helping me so much to understand many things and bring more trust to myself. I’m literally watching all of them. Thank you for everything that you share with us. I think you are wonderful doing what you do

Thank you!

Needed this 💪 thanks Hun, need to live for ME for once, 2019 will be a good year, already started saying no to people and sticking by my own opinions, and so far things are getting better!

Really, really needed this TODAY. Bad day at work. Because other people dont do their job properly and expect me to pick up their slack, I pushed back after a 3year road of providing them training and instruction and am labelled the bad guy for requiring they follow it. I am drawing a line in the sand and they don't like it. Not my circus, not my monkeys. And i get paid half of what they do. Just going to let the wheels fall off...

You are so amazing and helpfull!! Pleasee keep going, you have change a lot of peoples lifes, including mine

Really good stuff. I have come to the realization that although I cannot divorce myself from all the negative people in my life I can stop giving those type of people more credit than they deserve. People with no social conscious are in no position to be giving advice to others. I thank you for validating my thoughts regarding these issues. Awesome presentation and important stuff to be putting out to the public. Thanks again

Thankyou for the amazing video...just realized I listened to lots criticism from family on other people and it terrifies me to the core that's how most of my conditioning on what was okay and not okay was done.

Powerful message!! Thank you 🙏

Heck Goodness me Yes! Thank you soo much for this! X

HECH YES!!! I currently have a couple of extraordinarily toxic people in my life that I am unfortunately forced to deal with for the time being. This advice just may make this impossible task possible. Thank you so much for this Julia, you are a life saver!

Loving your work Julia 👏

Thanks Julia.

Heck yes will try

Heck yes, thank you for this video

You're completely right. I recently lost 50 pounds in a very healthy way (2 hours of exercise every day and eating right) and was feeling really good about myself. I had told this to several people that I thought of as at least casual friends. Then I saw a couple of these same people I know laughing at me behind my back. Yes, the world does have haters!!!

Exactly they're problems because insecurities and jealousy, it's so hard if we encountered these kinds of persons

Thank ypu

Thank you so much for this video! This really helps me believing what I deeply inside already knew but my insecurity took the best of me the last 2,5 years after an encounter with my family in law.. And they did exactly what you mentioned in this video...

I am dealing with too many people with too many problems I lived on a mountain isolated alone for three years I'm fixing to do it again because I cannot handle these people🌴🐊🌴🕉 you are awesome😁

Thank you - needed that - awesome message!

Loved this!! Thank you. Just what I needed to hear today!! 💜

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"have nothing to do with me" almost true... They are the ones that can decide whether or not I graduate.....

Im in job search mode and have a fear of criticism. I really need this. Thankyou

Preach!!!

Thanks for the advice I find it easier to break spiritual ties to folks that choose to criticize/ critique me. Y because I am motivated by the God in me and he is always on time and right! So opinions don’t matter but Julia seriously I suggested the Argan oil silicon products homegirl you need to condition your hair for real for real!

Thank you once again, it's amazing to hear your prospective on this matter.. I really like the fight analogy....everyone has a plan(opinion) until they get hit...

Thanks Julia for the awesome video! Merry Christmas 🎁🎄 and Happy New Year 🎈🎊🎆 to you and your family!!!

Heck yes !

Wow. Good pep talk! Thank you!

My Uncle told me once that just because a movie critic says a movie isn't any good doesn't mean it's true. These are people that are paid to critique a movie. So I say if the professional critics don't get to ruin your movie experience, then the amateur ones don't get to ruin the movie called your life.

Wow Powerful I need to listen to this several times

So much wisdom at such a young age.

I’m loving this thank you

Great video and super advice. Thank you.

Extremely powerful video. Thank you so much for the pep talk. I really needed it.

I have a bad gut feeling about my new close friends. I avoid to hold people accountable and am very careful with critism but I don't like how they treat some people and feel like they are too controlling (want to pressure me to do certain activities and certain hobbies not because its more suitable for them). When they are criticized by someone (not only by me) the criticism is not valid according to them. I think they aren't able to self reflect. Also I always have the feeling that I have to defend myself a lot. What is wrong with those friends? How can we deal with people who want to lead discussion about how you live your life?

It appears to be very difficult for people to forgive you when you have fallen off the Christian path (the path of righteousness) even when you have put your trust in the living God again. Anger issues have been ample in our society the last couple of decades - thank you God that you never throw away the clay, that you remold and make us like you. Lastly, no one can tell you what God's will ("destiny") for you is, it's most likely a trap.

Thank you for this channel! I love your channel and your content. Thank you thank you very much!!! 😘😘😘

Amen

Thank you ❤

I love this! I wish everyone would watch this! Thank you!

Thanx you for this one. No not really… But REALLY thank you for this one!

Just came across this video, you are amazing! I respect everything you said but I really feel scared to speak up I have social anxiety.. i’m too much of a coward and would probably feel traumatised after speaking up for myself because I am so unfamiliar with that feeling :(

One of my pet peeves is when people force us to take criticism especially if it is wrong and disrespectful. EX: Giannis had 50 points against the Suns and won the chip in 2021 but people nitpick and look at 2 misses free throws. Another example is when you get a 99% on a test and actually studied the material but someone criticizes you for getting only 1 question wrong. Also, you can tell someone to eat apples because they are healthy for you but the person doesn't need to eat them if they dont like them. Yes, we all have flaws to work however, we don't need to be nitpicky and try to change people. We don't need to respect, accept what i did but we need to deal with the fact that not everything will go our way. Even if we want the best for someone, don't overly criticize and complain. It gets annoying and disrespectful. Don't try to change people because people will live their lives. It may be constructive towards the speaker but not the person who is hearing it.If a person doesn't want to take the criticism or advice, they can choose to not to listen to it and ignore it .I prefer giving advice than criticism but I let the person make a choice to take it or not. We can't change anyone no matter if we want the best for someone. We can't force criticism and advice on anyone because it would make us look impatient. We can only change ourselves but we cant change people unless they want to change. What do you think of my advice?

@JuliaKristinaCounselling How to stop being a slow learner, and forgetful and become a fast learner and worker?

Yes I'm scared about what everyone is going to say about leaving a one arm man. A man who is a bully, he's an emotional abuser even before he lost his arm. My Daughter already hates me because of the things he says about me. But I'm trying to get out, 3 years and 5 months from now.

thank you

Get up. Go. Yasssss. Tqsm.

You're a boss! Thanks Julia :D

You are brilliant. Very good advice. You are gorgeous too

♡ really helped me ♡

Talk to the Mountain, make them a molehill, others opinions, " none of my business" 70% rule , 70% of people and society, can be managed, 30% will be problematic, ..it's "life"...So, just be on point...smile, and achieve your goals, leave, the nay, sayer's, aside...leave them behind.. Great video. Peace

This was so much what I heeded now

Hi Julia - what about family members being judgemental to me or ppl that i value so much? It hurts even deeper when those critics come from close family members...

Hi Julia Kristina :) wow very powerful & beautiful video :) Love it & Yes I am ready :)

Can you please do one from a relationship and family stand point on critisism where you take everything the wrong way and can't handle any critisism even constructive because it feels like rejection, makes you feel like you're all bad and they don't like or love you anymore? Thank you so much.

You are alway spoton

And what if your most terrible critics are the ones whose opinion matters a lot? Your parents and your partner. What if other people respond to you in a kind way, and your most close ones do their best to drown you? How can you deal with that?

love it

HECK YES👌👍, JULIA YOU ARE THE BEST OF BEST 🤩. Thanks for your awesome videos.

You are awesome

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I feel a bit disconnected and unhappy within myself I feel as though I am in a unhappy relationship with a member of my family where he critices me a lot or puts me down subtly and I feel a lot of the time not quite good enough and small inside that there is something wrong with me when I said how I feel it felt as if I was being attacked or that how I felt didn't really matter that I was being oversensitive and was the one who was supposed to apologise now I don't want to spend time around him because sometimes i find his jokes are bit mean and unkind and I find it hard to be myself or really express who I am but it's a hard relationship to just walk away from he does these guilt trips about how much he does for me which I find annoying and hard to deal with its kind of getting me down