How To Overcome The Fear Of Being Single And Alone

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The fear of being alone, how to overcome the fear of being alone.
Whether its society stigmas, familial pressure, or self-imposed dread, the fear of being alone, is a very real thing that many people deal with.
And the truth is women suffer from it more than men do or at least they start suffering from it much earlier than men, because there is a much greater pressure on women to find a partner and start a family, in part due to the biological clock that nature has imposed on them.
The current dating scene does not help either with women encountering so many low value men and cumulating bad dating experiences that make the prospect of finding a decent man slimmer and slimmer.
It is sad to note that more than 42% of millennial women are more afraid of loneliness than a cancer diagnosis, according to a recent survey.
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@zahraamin164 2 года назад

Imagine trying to move a couch. When you're single, it's like pushing a couch alone. Difficult, but eventually you'll move it. When you're in a good relationship, it's like you're pushing the couch together. Definitely easier to move a couch with two people. When you're in a bad relationship, it's like you're pushing the couch alone and your partner is sitting on the couch. Sometimes it's hard to be alone, but being in a bad relationship is like being alone with an extra burden.

@jessitabonita Год назад

🤯 That was such a perfect analogy, thank you!

@juliana_udegbulem 2 года назад

All my life I ENJOY being alone but right now in my 30s unconsciously the pressure gets to me, it's everywhere in my face. Lord help me to be strong

@jesusheart977 2 года назад

Fear of loneliness is completely natural to humans, those who enjoy other’s company. It’s healthy and desirable to want to have friends, marriagage and children👍 Just NOT for any price, NOT for the price of being with the wrong people or marrying someone out of fear. NO. The healthy mentality is to stick to your criteria that you can live with (just make sure it’s not arrogant criteria), and if that means you must stay alone rather than accepting anything or marrying out of fear, then let that be your portion. Everyone should find out what they honestly can live with in this life and what they cannot live with, and stick to that truth.

@MademoiselleGisela Год назад

It’s perfectly understandable that you feel that way because humans are social beings! The fact that someone wants a partner doesn’t mean that they don’t enjoy being single or that their self steem is low ❤️

@quinnsgumbite2247 2 года назад

To all women reading this Dont be afraid being alone Its a wày to know your inner self

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

Absolutely

@feminineretreat 2 года назад

If you're desperate to find a partner, you'll invite the wrong one in your life!

@arrobax6053 Год назад

True !

@marylnmonroe Год назад

amen

@missscarling Год назад

From reading through the comments alot of people have mentioned 'failed' relationships or marriages. Maybe a better way of looking at them is to see them as life experiences. It's about the times you had with that person, it shouldn't all be about how it ended. I try to view my past relationships as experiences and look to see what I learned from them and also tried to accept these people were not right for me. I'm happy for the good times I had with that person.

@robicarm 2 года назад

Evertime I feel lonely I think about how miserable I was during a nearly 10 year failed marriage. It was incredible agony. It took a while to recover who I was again and what I wanted for a better life, and for my children. I love my life and only want someone grounded and that will make it that much greater together.

@LayaCenter 2 года назад

Very sane and practical advice. I have done all of the above, after 2 divorces that left me completely clueless as to why I had failed. For me, it's not so much about being alone - been for 8 years, traveled, made so many wonderful friends, lovers and I do have a rich life - but it's about that feeling of 'failure'. The fear of entering into a relationship, because of the worry that it will fail as well. So I guess my fear is the opposite of being alone but rather having someone and then inevitably failing at it.

@chilloften 2 года назад

I’m alone and most prefer but would enjoy a similar soul, a no TV kind of man. Nature over TV.

@feminineretreat 2 года назад

I'm glad that you talk about the attachment style theory. It made such a difference in my life. I'm avoidant which meant that even when someone who was good for me came in my life, I would find something missing. The book "Attached" explains a lot about attachment styles and how we can sabotage or love life (even when the right person would come along). We got this ladies!

@Trw-ke5oo 9 месяцев назад

A lot of what you spoke of resonates. I am on my own at the age of 50. I am content with it, and learning to follow my heart to joy, and happiness ❤

@josphinekaibi8095 2 года назад

Thanks a lot for addressing what majority fear to address. I would kindly request you to talk about fear of getting unfaithful partner. I got married through church wedding to a man I thought was very sincere. He was the first man in my life. I realized later he was very unfaithful. I was so devastated since that's something I had never imagined happening to me. I divorced him after two months into marriage. From then I developed fear of getting married again just in case the same cycle repeat. I would love to have a family very much. How can I overcome this kind of fear. Much love from Kenya (Africa)

@CS-bu7lo Год назад

It's good that you divorced as soon as you discovered infidelity. Sadly, I knew women and men who didn't and got nasty STDs. I was lucky not to get STDs, but after I forgave my financé once, he seemed so sorry and kind, but 6 months later he did it again and I felt even more humiliated then before. I left then and he was so surprized, he thought I was a weakling because I forgave him the first time, moved by his crocodile tears. My patriarchal society tried to blame me and tell me all men are like this (false) and other toxic beliefs, I'm so glad I never listened. Now, many years later, he is divorced with a kid-- once a cheater, always a cheater. Anyway, you can't know for certain if someone will be faithful to you. However, if he dates multiple girls at the same time, as a habit, chances of future loyalty are slim, because people are creatures of habit. A, many go to Church just to pretend they are good men and to find chaste naive women to exploit, so don't assume he is a good man just for pretending to be religious ! Take care of yourself, your health, your job, your interests, because even a good marriage doesn't guarantee that you won't be widowed or left in your old age for someone younger, I've seen it, sadly, too many times. You can't put all your hopes in a man and a good marriage, put them in yourself, the one person that is sure not to leave you or die unexpectedly and leave you widowed. If you find a good man and have a happy marriage, great, if not, learn to be content on yourself and not depend on others to make you happy. Even in a good marriage, always have a backup plan in case things go wrong. Good luck !

@zahraamin164 2 года назад

Thank you so much for this video ❤ The part about allowing myself to feel the fear and sadness really helped me. I started crying immediately. I think I tried to suppress that feeling and swallow the sadness in order to cope, but this is so much more therapeutic than trying to "stay strong". It actually made me feel better.

@vuyelwagxoko1266 Год назад

I have made affirmation to be alone than to wait for a relationship since I sticked around on a compromising relationship that brought me a permanent distraction to myself. So I hated waiting. I am very old still waiting

@sharonwatts2267 2 года назад

Well put God first you are never alone must have a relationship with God and read your Bible. I have to learn the hard way I got myself together ❤

@yceklascab Год назад

Thank u so muchhhhhh even im still 17... Being aware feels so good & peace is consistently strong

@terken8454 11 месяцев назад

Watching this video gave me a stomachache even tho I'm very young and not actively afraid of being alone. This concept is hard for females to digest

@tothemoon5108 2 года назад

Actually im more concerned whether id live long enough to achieve my target and goals in life and be able to experience it to the fullest.

@925lady4 2 года назад

You definitely made a lot of points that I completely agree with, and certainly accepting that I may be alone for the rest of my life; is something I have come to terms with. I don't think I will ever be 100% okay with it though. You can accept anything but it doesn't mean it makes you feel better. And yes, it is true that we shouldn't look at other people's relationship as a compass for our own life, but the reality is relationships are everywhere, constantly in your face. I am someone who literally can't get into a relationship, despite meeting people I have a connection with. They just dont end up feeling the same way, and that is devastating to me. Somehow I just can't seem to make the cut. So yes I agree with many of what you said, but I don't think I'll ever feel happy about just being by myself. I just accept it.

@lisar915r9 2 года назад

I feel the same.

@925lady4 2 года назад

@@lisar915r9 The reality is we are ourselves 24/7. There are people who literally can get into relationship after relationship, marriage after marriage. They don't seem to need the same level of pep talk that us lonely-single folks need.

@ivy6179 Год назад

If he ain't my type and not financially stable enough, I'm gone. Lol.

@vikki8699 Год назад

Funny thing is, I LOVE being alone. I love being alone so much that it makes my family anxious for me to find a husband. In honesty, I have come not to care whether I get married or end up alone. I think its scarier and more heartbreaking to have a husband and children yet being alone when you are sick in hospital and being abandon because you are no longer "useful". That to me, is a fate worse then death. I agree with this video, build a life that fulfills you outside of relationships and family building. Then you will more likely reject BS men. Funny thing is, the guys I liked when I was younger and didn't give me the time of day, all now want to get with me because of how well I am doing for myself. They are now baby daddy's with no prospects looking 20 years older. I couldn't believe it. I'm actually wondering what I saw in those guys when I was young. So glad I stuck to my principles and kept to the no sex until marriage. Less drama and heartache compared to my poor sisters.

@komalchaudhari2046 2 года назад

I have been following you for quite sometime, all your content is great.. But this one is just amazing.. As if you are speaking to me.. I am going through this shift recently.. And it was quite painful period for me, as i went into therapy and understood, hell lot of things.. But i am in a better place now. And actually understood my patterns.. I am glad i did.. Still learning.. But your message gave me a boost that i am on the right path.. Thank you so much.. Love from india..

@viennagirl9335 6 месяцев назад

This is one of the best videos I have found on youtube regarding this subject, thank you so much. You have a new subscriber, I look forward to watching your other videos too.

@maria.1313 2 года назад

Thank you for this video! I'm learning especially number 4. I do want to allow myself to feel my fear of being alone and still hold the desire and excitement I feel about finding my beloved and growing in relationship together 🙏🥰

@ramparkash2318 Год назад

Maria.D. Are you saying ture.?

@samanthamakhafola3014 2 года назад

Im Here at 24 years old. Thanks

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

You're welcome 😊

@dahliakesseba5466 2 года назад

I love and benefit ,from your videos a lot. In this video however the part where you say that most women fear being alone than a cancer diagnosis really hit and hurt me… As a thriver now it still hits me hard and I hope you can understand that probably many women on your site may be fighting this disease…. It helps not to make it seem as a death sentence

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

I understand where you are coming from. My intention was just to share an actual survey that found that which is really shocking. Here is the link for the article www.forbes.com/sites/helenthomson/2017/12/18/a-third-of-women-are-more-afraid-of-loneliness-than-a-cancer-diagnosis/?sh=47f7c33f7509 and of course this is in no way to diminish the pain that people fighting cancer and their families go through but I guess it's more to show that the fear of being alone can sometimes be perceived as painfully.

@primaveraverano1664 2 года назад

The first like and first comment are from me)) youuuhuu!))

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

Thank you ❤️😌

@aYTaccount 2 года назад

Been through this and identifying the terms given to those feelings / tendencies. Working on myself alone and this has been very helpful.. Thank you for posting this. Loads of appreciation and best wishes.

@sarasen330 4 месяца назад

I found your channel today. Its gold🏆

@effectivetalks_withfalguni7401 2 года назад

This was really helpful! Just what I needed to hear.

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

I'm so glad!

@meganmiles4941 Год назад

I love your videos, they are so informative and to the point, and I find your voice very soothing

@lunarose4214 Год назад

Thank you for this video, it really helped 🖤

@rasmpalette 2 года назад

I've read before that Men have biological clocks too! Love these types of videos btw, helps me a lot. 😊

@ramparkash2318 Год назад

Really beautiful viedo. about relationship. Nice see to watch. Keep it up.

@angelbaby78 Год назад

Your videos are amazing…

@shonalishukla2987 2 года назад

Thanks a lot.... It's really help me a lot💕

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

You're welcome 😊

@HappyGirl707 2 года назад

Me too!! I am working through my abandonment .

@terraiznajem105 Год назад

Thank you ❤

@prairie_dog_5443 2 года назад

Thank you!

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

You're welcome!

@peterpisspotty3052 2 года назад

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@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

Thank you very much!

@dominiquemathews8617 2 года назад

attachment theory is key!

@alaiaadam5767 3 месяца назад

🍻🏆🍻🥺🏆🍻💔 Poor me .. & my dreams 1000x replay..

@scosta87 2 года назад

Im going to do therapy as well

@claudiasbarra1882 2 года назад

Thank you so much ❤

@Theblackswan55 2 года назад

You'r very welcome ❤️ thanks for coming to my channel.

@claudiasbarra1882 2 года назад

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@deliagorenco1639 2 года назад

If you want to learn more about your attachment style you should check out the personal development school it helped me a lot

@amazynga8868 2 года назад

I am 42 still single... No relationship ever... I have been all alone... Struggling life... Created my own Qüeendome 👑🦁... Few months ago i felt that i want to have a companion but only a real man... But I can't find one... :'(

@zahraamin164 2 года назад

It is very challenging to find a compatible high value man. It takes strength to uphold standards, but it'll probably save you from misery and preserve your peace.

@amazynga8868 2 года назад

@@zahraamin164 do compatible high value men exist ? Will there be anyone compatible high value man for me ? Still wondering...

@zahraamin164 Год назад

@@amazynga8868 I think they do! But not very common. Still, settling for a low value man ultimately leads to loneliness in the relationship.

@amazynga8868 Год назад

@@zahraamin164 settling for low value man ??? Is it a good idea??? I don't feel like doing it... Better being alone in solitude... Then being with a wrong one...

@charminglove8594 2 года назад

❤️❤️❤️❤️

@nidajan6867 2 года назад

Wooow

@pains1956 2 года назад

worse being widowed at 50. THAT is yr problem..so let everybody consult a therapist and stop acting as a one therapist for everybody...this is very unprofessional...you are a charlatan