How to Put A STOP to Being Manipulated by A Gaslighter 

Which one of these strategies resonated with you most?

The hardest thing I have found is when the gasligher thinks they’re the one being gaslit. It’s really a mind warp and is really difficult

I've been gaslighted since I was practically a toddler. I was aware of it but didn't know what it was called or what to do. I spent the last couple years getting people who do that out of my life. Thanks for this

I used to start writing things down, straight after the incident.. then I could refer back to those notes so I can feel confident and sure in how I felt at the time.. its awful : /

The more you take a stand the more they up their gaslighting. Don’t be stuck in the trap that you can “solve this”. Walk away! Is good advice. Respect yourself enough. Gaslighting can really erode your sense of self.

Trusting yourself and listening to our body and allowing ourselves to come first and do what feels safe for us is crucial to start healing. Thank you so much.

Coming out of a 26 year relationship that was based on gaslighting. I just found these videos. What a help they are to me! Thank you so much.

My family .....why I keep my distance

My mother is a master gaslighter. I figured it out decades ago and let her know I was having no more of it. However, my brother never got free, never was able to move out on his own and be independent. Big issues are now arising in his awareness of his situation. I'm sending your links to him. Thanks!

I am currently in a relationship where I was questioning what form of manipulation was he using towards me, and I have found it! This is exactly how I am feeling.. every morning that I wake up I ask myself “what is my purpose for today” “how can I better myself for him” “who am I really” I am always torn between my thoughts because he has made me insecure about my boundaries, and decisions.. people like this hate boundaries the moment I say “I’m not putting up with that” he turns with a mock of me saying that or a mock of me reacting to it.. I have told him I feel like “dirt” the way he puts me down and he makes me question my mental stability a lot.. I have also learned that the minute you mention somewhere they are wrong.. they make you feel you are crazy or that they never said that and they make you feel like now you can’t trust yourself, and I honestly just feel like complete shit at that moment 🙁 I really need help healing myself.

It’s important to find a supportive friend cause I have been gaslighted by people who I was asking about the gas lighter

One of the dangerous things about gaslighting is that it can lead to a victim to commit suicide. When parents put all of their energy into belittling their kids - with contempt, those kids grow up hating themselves. Nobody talks about this. Would someone please discuss this?

Grew up in a physically , emotionally and mentally abusive household. I was gaslit like no other. They were never satisfied until I caved in and agreed that it was always my fault. I would try to walk away and my mother wouldn’t let me do I would try to move her then she would blow it up to my dad saying I punched her.. crazy. Finally out of the house, getting my own place and starting to reconnect with myself again. Thank you. I’m done feeling insane and small!!!

My mom had made this her new habit over the years. Sucks because we love each other a lot, and we're super close. I told her shes been doing this to me for years and she said "well you should be used to it by now then!" 🙃 So she acknowledges it, and says I'm weird for not being okay with it by now. This is really hurting me, I never pictured her being like this. She wasnt always like this......

The music of bob marley speaks to this subject in quite vivid detail if you listen carefully. The thrust of his message essentially is how africans had been gaslit and how to deal with it spiritually and materially. I highly recommend it as a source of strength and inspiration for those facing these issues.

I've just STOPPED a gaslighting conversation for the VERY 1ST TIME in 18 years of being manipulated by a flatmate ! Whoa, I've only just found out what it's all about and I'm losing my mind at times ! Phew, Much Gratitude Julia

I remained firm and made it clear to her that i know what was said, even quoting her, and that she's changing her story in order to justify herself and avoid taking accountability or responsibility for her actions. However, the fact that i call her out doesn't change anything, as her response is either silence or changing the subject or being obstinate.

😂 One of the BEST moments is when you get this big, obnoxious text and you reply "not taking the bait. Hope your day gets better. Turning the phone off now." I'm telling you... it's satisfying. Like pulling painter's tape off and finding no bleed. Here's the truth in that scene - whether you bite and get into a 5 hour long battle or turn your phone off, raise a finger and move on in your day - the end of your day is going to have the same outcome with this person. Once in a while you may even have a decent outcome. They get tired too. They tire out faster if you let them corkscrew alone. So, keep your peace if you have an out. Try to remember that this person is UNWELL. Nobody in their right mind behaves this way. It's hard to be angry with someone that is sick. 💙 Keeps you sane with that perspective too.

Talking to a supportive friend is very important in these situations.....one who will believe you and tell you the other person is wrong so you can get your power back.....been bullied and gaslighted all my life and am currently most likely getting gas lighted by my boss at work....people are cruel

My older sister has classic NPD & she has used smear campaigns, gaslighting, control-tactics, all the usual things for years. What I'll never understand is how my family could stand by & watch this, or even join in. How will I ever trust anyone again?

Writing down resonates with me. I find it is also useful to go back and remember the facts as emotions in the 'moment' impact my memory days or weeks later. Also, taking a stand. For me this is most important as I feel like I have voice when someone is trying to silence or change my 'voice'.

These days, I voice record everything because if I question what was really said, I can always replay it. Also, at times when gas-lighting was happening, I could go back to those moments and pin point exact words and manipulation behind it.

I just want to say thank you for posting this series on gaslighting. It’s most definitely an awakening moment for me. I appreciate and love this videos. Thank you again Julia.

I was talking to a guy that tried to make me doubt my memories. I told him to get out of my car right now. At the time i didn't know he was manipulative but i have great confidence in my memory.

#4 Take a Stand. I had already confronted the gaslighter before finding your channel and what you stated was in line with how I handled it. Even to my final gesture with my hand to let her know I was done and she was dismissed as I walked away. I took back my power. Was it effective? Absolutely!

Mine is work related. I became so broken at work & Im angry because this has happened to me. Im going to need a lot of work done to heal. Im in touch my the director of the company to fight back. Im back at work today for the first time since becoming ill. I have anxiety but Im also ready to fight back

My family did that to me. Every time they try to tell me I am crazy. I just walk away. They always try to make me feel bad about myself .

is there any way to make this person realise what they do is wrong? the more i try the crazier i look. its happening within my family and i cant stand to see the ones i love behave in such a toxic way. really hurts me honestly.

These comments have me in tears, in remorse I feel this sense of validation. I feel like I’m finally not alone in this, it’s not just me who is confused of my own reality, it’s not just me worrying of younger siblings due to gaslighting of parents, I’m not alone. I tried telling myself that but I really thought I was. I have a lot to heal. My mother is a MASTER manipulator, she has manipulated her boyfriends, police, social workers, therapists.. I am so scared for my younger brother but I know I will do my best to allow him to feel validated and give him the tools he needs to break free. I am so scared for him. These 16 years of my life have been terrible, I wish my mom could just realise what she’s doing, no matter how much evidence She’s always the victim, I’m a monster for suggesting that she does things wrong. Im a monster for calling things as they are, such as not telling a 2 year old to shut up crying, validating herself in the same things she makes me feel guilty for, leaving me with worn and torn clothes and shoes and making me feel I was ungrateful, telling me she buys me loads of things when the last thing she bought me was years ago.. all these excuses, all these years of telling me I was a monster when she was just projecting herself onto me. Gaslighting me for being upset over her lack of sympathy when I was going to COURT as a 12 year old who had been abused. I’m finally realising how disgusting of a mother I have, she portrays this lovely life to others like she’s this perfect woman and it’s so frustrating when I try to explain what she does and she puts on her nice voice nice face nice attitude and makes out like I’m crazy. There is so much anger built up inside of me, and it’s all her fault. I don’t know how to forgive her. She is disgusting.

Julia- A lot of what you have talked about in the two previous videos, of this series, has resonated with me, in regards to my relationship with my husband. We have had a lot of moments that have left me conflicted, confused and incapable of determining if this has become something abusive that will not change. We most recently had an incident where my husband threw a pillow across the room because I wouldn’t be intimate with him. This came as a shock, as I was falling asleep, and we hadn’t gotten into an argument, nor was there anything that had happened as a precursor to this. He has done this once before, and afterwards he either won’t speak to me or he will yell and call me a bitch. This most recent time, I asked him to leave because he was slamming doors, and I did not want my three year old to hear and get upset. She has been witness to some of our arguments lately and gotten very upset, which I can’t stand to see. He refused to leave and told me to get the fuck away and to zip it. The next morning he comes to me as if nothing had happened, smiling and attempting to hug and kiss me. When I tell him that this behavior is not normal and I won’t stand for it, at first he responds that he could be much worse, he could be the type that parties or cheats, and I won’t find a guy out there that won’t get upset over sex. I stand my ground, and later that day we have a conversation. He admits to being manipulative and that is was wrong, but something didn’t seem genuine. I have been distant since, and at first he was being so attentive and nice, but now he has resorted to ignoring me and shutting me out. I am in a place now that, after 6 years going through similar, cyclical situations with him, that this is probably not going to change. Any thoughts/guidance? Thanks!

I have found that sadly, I am married to someone that went to counseling that reinforced being horrible to me with gaslighting, narcissistic abuse tactics, to the point where I have been having to slowly get my footing back by doing things quietly under the table so I can get my feet back under me.

My sister has gaslighted me for years though I always remained firm in knowing what I heard and never second guessed myself - i began to question her mental health. I believe she is narcissist. However - I don’t have self doubt, I do have immense resentment and rage towards her for doing this to me for decades. When she does gaslighting, it makes my blood boil and it takes me several days to calm down.

Number 3. Not worth being in the fake friendship anymore.Had a so called friend that would use spiritual/new age BS to disregard my feelings and never apologise or take accountability for her actions. Instead it would be projected back at me as if i wasn't conscious or spiritual enough because SHE didnt think anything was wrong. I would ask for mutual respect, she would divert this to being needy. Yet im the one who stopped talking to her for a year or so???!!! She recently tried to come back, but same old shit. finally im done, i could finally write my last message to her and express myself without fear of being judged because i dont care anymore. Thank you and thank you subg88 for the Bob Marley ref love the "who the cap fits" song but didnt fully pay attention to the lyrics till now!!!

I'm so thankful that you made the series. You just explained what has been happening to me for years. Now I can have tools to implement to keep this from happening to me again. Thank you so much I never heard of this term before but it explains everything I've been trying to resolve in my life.

Thank you for this, I did this to people my whole life not realizing what I was doing, gaslighting is a form of mental abuse and I hope people stop.

I just found your channel... what I appreciate that is different about your channel is that you dont just throw information out there, you give solutions along with it... its helpful to know the signs of being gaslighted and manipulated, but its not really going to help someone who is currently being gaslighted; what will help are ideas on how to protect themselves. So thank you for sharing this❤🙏 very helpful for me!

I've just found you & I'm so very thankful. The last therapist I went to, after being kidnapped & attempted murdered, gaslighted me bad, only I didn't know what it was. I just knew it wasn't right, but I wasn't right at the time. Since then, I refuse to go to another. You are a breathe of fresh air.

Never had this happen to me until I worked for a boss who started gaslighting me and making me look bad infront of others at work by minimizing what I said, interrupting me, accusing me of doing or saying things that were absolutely false. All this started after I stopped relations with him. Being treated like this incessantly and not being able to defend myself, I started breaking down until I was a shell of who I was. As I broke down and minimized myself to protect myself and worked 12 hour days, he removed all support from me, talked about how incapable I was to others, pitted coworkers against me, I bane Incapable of deciding because I was constantly questioning myself. If anyone is reading this and is in this situation please leave now. It happened for 6 years until I mentally and physically broke down and it has been a year of therapy and more trying to heal myself and build back my self esteem which I had before this situation. If I left as soon as I saw the warning signs and understood what gaslighting was I would be in a better place mentally, socially, physically and definitely financially. Know your worth , trust your gut and do not let anyone take your power. Much love and support to anyone struggling in any capacity with a gaslighter.

I knew I'd like you the moment you said 'deal with crap' in the opening speech. I am learning boundaries now, and am dealing with gaslighting at work. I started calling my boss out on it before I even realized. Thank you for this video. It validates my feelings, and for the first time in my life I actually stood up for myself, and I feel proud for standing strong. This video also validates that I am doing the right thing. Thank you kindly ❤

Wow, such great info. I've been "figuring things out" on my own over the years, but this video has really confirmed for me that I did the right thing by walking away (for the sake of my own sanity/quality of life). It's like that feeling when you're fumbling around in the dark and stumble on the light switch- let there be light. Thank you.

Thank you, I'm in process of getting out of relationship with covert narc. He's finally got himself his new flat and moves out in 5 weeks. But now, as I thought would happen, he started the arguing again. He caught me off guard this morning, started going on about how badly I had treated him, how he had handled things so much better than I had bringing up things from the past that were twisted to make him the victim. I initially got caught up, but then, as i observed him, I just said 'wow' , he said 'yeah wow, I've been thinking about this stuff'. Me 'yeah you really gave haven't you' in an incredulous way. Then I said 'I'm not doing this, I didn't want this row ' he said he didnt want it either. As I walked away, I said 'yes you did, you enjoy all this, I see that smirk on your face. I know what you're doing' and walked away. I have blanked him completely if I have to be in the same space, I'm just not looking at or talking to him. I thought I'd done the 'wrong' thing. I remained calm when I delivered my exit lines, while he may have made me feel awful, I certainly didn't react overly, I kept myself controlled. But still, I thought the exit lines may have given away my power. Then I listened to this and felt so much better. At the end of your vid, you've given the exit lines almost word for word, as the ones I delivered earlier. I hope I can stay strong. I may be shaking inside and consumed with wanting to defend myself, but the voice inside that used to be so quiet is louder now. I can hear it even as I'm reacting and can pull myself back. For me this is progress. I'm glad now that I used those lines as I exited the interaction. He now knows for sure that i see what he is and what he's doing. That may change things a little. This is the first time I've told him I see him as what he really is. It could backfire, but I didn't think about it at the time, I was simply fed up of watching him enjoy my misery. I guess I should take that as a sign that I'm developing a better sense of self and better boundaries?

That's it! I am crying inside! I thank God for you, Julia, and your videos! I finally know what has happened to me. Please continue to create contents like these. You never know whose lives you might be changing. I rarely comment on RU-vid videos but I just can't help it, Julia, these are all mind-opening. Keep it up. You inspire me to continue my dream of becoming a Psychologist/Psychiatrist. Thank you. Thank you. ❤️

I've had this happen numerous times, particularly on first dates, because people have seen me as an easy target. I was called crazy and a drug addict by one woman who I now know was projecting all of her own issues onto me. I was a "drug addict" because I didn't (and couldn't) finish my meal, which I had only ordered to be polite, and she knew full well that I had already eaten dinner (at 5 PM, while the date was meant to be a casual late-night snack kind of deal at 9 PM). I didn't particularly like another, who spent the entire date interrogating me, then acted upset at the end, saying I never attempted to get to know her or ask her questions, when I in fact did make a point to get her talking, despite the fact that each time I asked her something she acted annoyed by the question. Though in my usual manner I was polite and treated her cordially as with any date, it was clear to her that I wasn't wild about her, and so it became MY problem and I was called weak and spineless. So now I usually brush off the first insinuation that I'm doing something abnormal, but if it happens repeatedly, I make it clear that I won't tolerate the gaslighting.... but in the heat of the moment, I find it more effective to just tell them that I don't allow anyone to "piss down my back and tell me it's raining", as the old saying goes.

Sooooo good and perfect for what I’m going through right now. Oh man, so very powerful. Thank you Julia!

This is exactly the information I was looking for - thankyou for a well put video. Im struggling with this at the moment and really appreciate the clarity youve provided

thanks for your videos Julia! They are super helpful and I love them! The strategy that resonates with me is calling them on it when it's happening... I did this a few days ago, and it's empowering, and I didn't back down from my truth. I seen in the moment what they are doing... instead of not acknowledging it rather than thinking back later and being mad for not saying something at that time. Yay! Small win for my soul : ))

Once you catch on to being gas lighted you take back control. When it happens to me now even in public i will raise my voice...not yell...and tell them what a loser they are for even attempting to gas light me. Shuts them up and they stay away. :) KInd of a self righteous anger....yeah :)

Thanks Julia. Keep it coming!

Walking away. Sadly some therapists use this kind of manipulation. Imagine they know all your weeknesses and use it against you.

Absolutely phenomenal video. Thank you for creating this Julia. 4 months ago my son was losing his apartment due to a girl he met. He got kicked out of his house due to her alcoholism. I drove up there to help him move. The girl sat in the car didn't lift a finger but she did get drunk and blacked out. She asked me unusual questions if I'm close with my son and if I miss him? 3 days later I don't know what she said to my son. But my son had me kicked out of his new place. I was devastated and I'm still devastated. And now 4 months later this person is asking for an apology from me and she's saying if she comes to Socal and visit she's taking separate cars which is shaming me and gaslighting me and I can't take it anymore. It's causing me to be really detached and I'm walking in the fog. I'm trying to work through this it's not easy.

This is great advice, Thank you Julia. You are saving my life. Healthy boundaries and all the tips from this video. We must stop the epidemics of gaslighting! God bless you!

Amazing video. Thank you for your insight. I needed this today

Hi there ma’am!! It is a blessing to be able to watch your vids almost everyday... it inspires me to have more control over my life.. thank you!

I mirrored the way he gaslighted me and he played the victim. When he started blaming me I was like, "No, this is your doing, it's not my fault. I'm innocent here, I'm just calling you out." And he proceeded to abuse me physically because I told the truth. I didn't even know I was being gaslighted (didn't know there was such thing) all I knew that he was wrong and he should know that he was wrong. Some of his gaslights actually got me but most of the time it didn't. So dear my past self, you did good. Thanks for surviving it so that now I can enjoy this peaceful life.

God bless your heart!! I really needed to hear that I'm not being crazy. I've been gaslighted by my sister for my whole life. It's time to take my power.

I called her out on it and stood by that.. no apology was forthcoming till some days later but, the best moment for that had pass.

Here's one. If I share anything I am re-considering, I hear 'Don't YOU THINK that's a SIGN?' Didn't you figure this out? Then follows a direct point-by-point directive of what I SHOULD do. In the end, all my thoughts or plans are faulty and I should make choices EXACTLY like they do, follow them. Never again. Done. I'm changing their name in my phone to 'Gaslighter Warning'! Then It's RIGHT IN FRONT OF MY FACE, the second they call up.

I believe I've been gaslit almost all my adolescent and adult life, but the worst of it came recently from the father of my child. He still wants to be in our son's life, and he does take good care of him. But I'm really unsure on what to do from here. I broke up with him because I finally had enough. I stood up for myself and walked away, but since we have a child together that we both want to take care of, that complicates things. I really don't know how to deal with this.

My gas lighter is my mom and it is getting worse and worse day by day it's at an all new extreme and I don't know why. I tell her all the time that I see what she's doing, but she just explodes with anger. Thank God I can see her for what she is.

What if Gaslighting is a cry for help from someone who is to afraid to ask? 'Cause I was getting really angry at my narc boss. He keeps telling me "are you sick, you need to take better care of yourself." He gets mad when I don't do things his way. Then when I listen to everything he says stuff goes wrong and he blames me. I feel set up, and its really draining. Plus he says a lot of other mean sly things, then blames me for being passive aggressive. So I decided enough was enough and I was going to tell him "hes sick, confused, forgetful, and I've got better ways of doing things." Then I realized, OMG. What if they are the really hurting and afraid to be left behind? I don't know. For sure though he disagrees with everything I say. So today I told him "I'm gonna finish that important project today." And he gave me the day off like I actually wanted.

It's exhausting for me..My man plays on my insecurities and exploits them..he knows my ex was a serial cheater so he is over friendly with my female friends. .to the point I point it out when she leaves and I'm accused of being jealous and crazy..I'm so tired OMG 😢😭😭😭

Thanks a lot Julia this video helped a lot!

I am currently being held emotionally hostage by my gas lighting alcoholic /Xanax addicted mother. She has lied tothe police about me and gotten me put on probation over a complete lie. Ive been abused my whole life by her, my grandfather and then when I was in active addiction getting sexually assaulted in prison. Now I am stuck in her house at the age of 40. Due to my criminal record I can´t find a job and I feel so so stuck and im crying right now. I am new to the term but my mother has been doing this to me my whole life. She threatens me with jail everyday. I have been sober , meditating and excersisng for almost two years. i feel so stuck. I admitted my faults and the way I acted when I was in active addiction but that hasn´t been me in some time now. Thank you for the information. If you go to my channel and look at my playlist there´s one called A- Wellrose Hummingbird Playlist . On there is a song I wrote about my mother called ¨Womb¨ . She terrifies me.

Great advice! I'm new I'm subscribed because Julia is very smart and can relate to topics and appreciate her knowledge. Thanks!

Omg! Thank you so much for this topic! Its empowering.

After not talking to my ex for nearly 7 years he recently contacted me. He was really abusive while we were together. Not even a week in he started gas lighting me. Thankfully i recognized it right away. I just started my masters in psychology program. It takes allot of work to get back to trusting oneself.

THANK YOU FOR A GOOD HEART !

Thank you so much for your video! I bet you are helping so many people ❤

It is a terrible injustice for a victim who becomes aware of this abuse, but cannot leave or terminate the relationship with the unhealthy person. I was so blessed to be thousands of miles away from my very toxic family having only my spouse, church, and children as negative influencers while my heart and soul began the long process of healing. The toxic spouse and church are no longer a part of my life. My children were young enough to learn healthy living. They are well-balanced, successful adults now.

You are amazing! You just woke me up !

Super advice. Thanks for pointing out to not take this lightly.

My dad loves to control others. He likes to gang up on 1 family member. Every time I leave his house after a visit I have a knot in my stomach. I feel like I’m the most evil, vile person who ever was. No matter what I give him or do for him it’s wrong. Reminds me of British trying to appease Hitler. Thank you for this as now I see that if he can’t control me he will try to destroy me. This conflicts w my belief that I should honor my father. He makes it impossible. I know if I can just be gracious & not try to defend myself when he accuses me of stealing or whatever that God will see that I am following God’s order & He will defend me. Am working on being quite. And I don’t go there alone anymore when I have to go there.

perfect, caught the problem 4 months into the friendship, crazymaking behavior creating doubt.

I find this extremely useful and use it to educate other, thank you. I find the final step the most empowering although this can antagonise the perpetrator, be very careful and look for a quick exit!

Thank you very much, Julia 🙌💕🍀🙂

You're awesome! Thank you so so much! That what's I need to hear!

Oh...What a difference your videos have made in my life --Joyful and entertaining, information delivered in clear easy-to-grasp practical terms...depth of insight is totally astounding! I appreciate your remarkable efforts and all the time you put into your presentations. Deeply Grateful!!!

Thank you, great video:-) very helpful.

I was unknowingly with a covert narcissist for 16 years. By the end of that relationship and when I got him out of my house I ended up in a mental institution. He and my narcissistic mother, both for my entire life gaslight me. My EX, would deny things happened that I knew for sure happened and especially, if it was something abusive he did to me or my children. He called me a f....cked up crazy b...tch for years. My mother too....called me a b...itch. The truth is, who wouldn’t be bitchy with all of their BS! My narcissistic EX really messed with my children’s minds with gaslighting. My son just shared how he would trap you in a space, usually the kitchen and than do this crazy back and forth thing with his evil eyes. It was done to make us feel crazy, uncertain and made my son feel unsafe. I’ve healed a lot and believe my breakdown was a breakthrough to the truth of my life. My son, is still just coming to terms with what happened to him his entire life. These people are so evil. I kind heart does not want to believe evil exists especially in their own home. Thank you

One classic is: "It's your fault that I can't control my actions." or "I told you to do X, but you did Y which caused me to Z".

Thanks for clear explanations. I've been stuck in it, due my father attitude towards me....most of my life. Then my children became bullies to me, copying these tricks...

I just ended a whirlwind 9 week relationship. I have been studying narcissism for a while because I am recovering from it (covert) and also seem to attract them. Imbalanced people attract imbalanced people right? I need to watch that. Anyhow, I am SO MUCH BETTER than I used to be and I quickly told him that certain behaviors of his were not working for me. I am definitely guilty of allowing things to move way too quickly, though I think he quickly realized that I was not that easy to manipulate, and so he is already out of my life. Amazing! Hooray for boundaries and self-trust!

Thank you for this video

I resonated with your message and how on point you were on how this Gaslighting atrocity actually works on both sides. you have great balance on your knowledge from both victim and assailant. You have further hardened my resolve to speak about my 15 year experience with issue. would you have any idea on the first steps I should take to start my channel on this topic ?

So great full I found you!

Thank you so much! Be very blessed!!!

You use the term "the way the're making you feel." I was told that "no one can make me feel like i do but me." Not by a narcasist.

Writing it down is the best way to begin to get out of this. Did it years ago with my ex. I got remarried and kept a journal of our discussions because he was a much better person, but tried to manipulate here and there. As soon as I found this out, I kept my diary and used it as needed. This is what was said, this is what you said and this is what we agreed on. Any questions? He had no tool left when he found out I was doing this. He then realized what he was doing was not going to work and was much more agreeable and honest.

Wow you just explained my life

Thank you. Julia !!!😮

I certainly glorify God for this particular video, it really hit home. I am being done this way on my job, and it is very traumatizing, but because I have a better understanding of what's going on, I now know how to handle it better! Yes, this video is right on target, and may God continue to bless your life for videoing this! This is much needed.

Hi Julia Firstly your videos are amazing !! Just wondering do you h e anything for workplace bullying? Or any advice on workplace gaslighting. I have the problem where I think my boss is gas lighting ( it’s very hard to control your workplace environment) or remove your boss away from you. Ultimately they have the power...

Glad to see this video. Its awesome. But can you shed some more light on how to trust yourself after gaslighting?

im glad i saw this video

Sharing this in a bpd couple group on Facebook thank you

Very Helpful and definitely going to take what you’ve said in this video into consideration... what should you do if you have someone who is basically gaslighting me but acts like he’s talking about my family that have gaslighted me- hope what I’ve said makes sense. Need some help on how to stand up for myself against the person that is being a gaslighter please

Awesome Thank you Julia

Thank you so much.

I've known what gaslighting is from 2013 so it's impossible to alter my perceptions. Albeit with induced pressure via attempted trauma induction it can be difficult to stay on track but all the same I always get mentally back on track fast

love your channel! has helped me so much. at times though, of. course, i doubt and question myself. my wife has done all this and i'm about to walk away. hard decision, but it should be easy.