How to Set Boundaries Without Hurting Feelings 

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@@headspaceyou said it, now to apply it.

"if we’re coming from the spirit of compassion and loving kindness " Real life is not as simple as that. When we come with compassion - we end up being people pleasers and pushovers in the twist of events. People whom we need to limit are toxic - they are pathological liars for starters. They present false information which we cannot confirm nor prove wrong. This gives them freedom to hurt, harm us, and control and manipulate us.

@@ranc1977 Saying no is a boundary and doesn’t make an individual toxic.

@@slimpickens9103 "Saying no is a boundary and doesn’t make an individual toxic." Of course it does not make the person toxic. However in real life - it puts this person into toxic ambient. Person may get fired from the job - then being homeless and beaten up in the streets, dying from starvation and environmental exposure. In toxic ambient, person may end up as femicide statistic. In bullying - person may end up physically attacked. In any toxic ambient - person may end up being seriously hurt, damaged, openly or covertly, through backstabbing even. This process/phenomena I am talking about here is called "Unfavorable Power Dynamics" and HealthyGamer made video about it a few months back. The basic message in the video is - that in certain situation we are in no position to say No - and forcing ourselves to say no will bring us damage and harm. This needs to be said and validated. In abnormal toxic ambient - healthy decisions and healthy actions will bring harm and pain and danger. Scapegoats in dysfunctional families for example. Political prisoners like Mandela. Opposition in Russia or North Korea. Ableism on one side and neurodivergent brains on the other side-. That is the point of my comment.

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We get that! 😂

This is more of a “how to help someone with their feelings”. Not keeping boundaries from them.

Yeah.. didn’t help too much

Some adults are still acting like children so if distracting their attention works.. ok.. I was surprised by her answer too because even with a child you shouldn't do that I mean some msy say is wrong... I did it once to my nephew he totally calmed down and fell asleep right after but my relatives were kind of telling me I shouldn't have had react like that .. that a child needs to deal with his emotions... so I am guessing although it does work..distracting attention.. it doesn't solve the problem

Exactly. I dont think this lady is a therpist and this a proffesional advice. How is distrcting someone setting boundries