HOW TO STOP PEOPLE PLEASING AS AN INFJ PERSONALITY TYPE - INFJ GLOW UP SERIES (PART 5) 

What has helped you most with overcoming people pleasing as an INFJ?

The fact that I'm not getting anything good in return. Sometimes it's best not to socialize, rather than spending time or appeasing the wrong people.

Don’t you just love it when a video comes out and it’s exactly what you need in your life at the moment?

We don't have to tolerate everyone. Done

I have always withdrawn from toxic people for self-protection. But after listening to this, I am determined to make my feelings known. It’s a more empowered space to be in. Thank you again Wenzes.

I am really suffering with this socially, I am practicing how to say no and be ok with it

Setting BOUNDARIES was the most difficult thing I had to overcome in counseling. I didn't realize how much I've neglected myself for other peoples wants and needs until I said the magic word "NO". What we INFJ's will find out is that once you put yourself FIRST, the people you've been saying YES to all these years will then start saying "You've changed!" "usually you would do xyz" etc.

~ READ THIS EVERY MORNING • U don't need to worry about the things which u can't control (circle of concern), U don't need to plan everything, U don't need to give meaning to everything, U aren't responsible for others. • We don't have to do so many things, but few Ri8 things! • Do Sth that comes u out of Comfort Zone , but doesn't Overwhelm u! • Life is Journey, Follow the Process...... • Focus on Improvement (Progress over Perfection) • Be Patient, its ok to move slow, Just keep Doing!

I’m the type to pretty much give in if someone or family needs a few bucks. After giving in, I realize that I probably pitched in towards their weed habit and/or beer, and now I’m annoyed with myself lol. I’m getting much better with boundaries and there’s nothing wrong with being cold. You won’t lose your empath powers, morals, or values for saying “no” and I need to keep that mindset 😄.

working with or being surrounded by sociopaths, narcissists and sycophants really helped to reduce my concern for helping others, especially those with cluster "B" personality disorders and their flying monkeys.

it's official! You've said, "we can do hard things" enough that several times this week the words have crossed my mind. I appreciate you & this 10-part series enormously!! ❤

I remember having an experience very similar to what you described with your coworker, and unfortunately, I didn't know a lot of the things that I've since learned from listening to your videos. But I do know the importance of having boundaries set. I appreciated your emphasizing that it isn't always easy to do emotionally. We often get the impression that we're supposed to be able to handle this with a lot of sophistication and confidence, but when everything is said and done, we do need to set up our boundaries, whether we feel confident or not. It occurred to me that thinking through boundary setting and how to make it work would be a good thing to write out so as to think about it more clearly. Perhaps that could help emotionally, even when it's not easy to do

Some of THE most important lessons an INFJ has to realize, accept and practice on!! 🙏❤️ Game and Life changer!! 💯

As an LGBT INFJ with 4w5, setting boundaries to people is really difficult for me bc I feel like I'm going to be selfish to them, those guilty and regret feelings start to come up in a sense where I try to keep myself small in order to keep the harmony that i know deep down it's a no-no situation. When you develop a mindset of "i had no other choice, I need to put myself first, face those uncomfortable feelings, understand that this will take time. In the end, it will get easier if keep doing this things over and over again. Thank you wenzes for the insightful and intelligent advice on how to glow up on hermit mode ❤️❤️🔥🔥

It’s self betrayal. I’m not betraying myself anymore

Yep. It is nice to just flow. The wrong people will stall you. Cut those types folks loose as to be kind to yourself.

Really needed to hear this today. Thank you Wenzes. ❤

I had to learn about boundaries consciously afterward. Hard stuff.

I much rather be confronted then judged wrongly by loved ones then ghosted by them. Specially during really hard times. It makes it not as easy to feel free to keep speaking your mind authentically until we realize that our actions are doing the talking for us. The rewards are so worth it. Being resilient is growth 💪✌️❤️

I swear this was essentially my tarot reading for the day. This is everything I needed to hear right at this moment. Bless. 🙏🏼

Thank you again, Wenzes. I appreciate your efforts and willing to help. I would say, put the knowledge and theory in practical, reality is really something takes time and thinking work. It does pay back the positive results. I also like to add the way, from another studies of mine, to help INFJs to deal with people. Simply say, I borrow from game theory, that for long term relationships, it is not wise to make trouble to others and things go around. So in some cases, I raise the question, soft and calmly, something liked " We are in long term relationships and we should find ways to be win win for both (or all), It is about compromising. If anyone go too far or being in bad way, its not good for all of us" something liked that, also with the options of broken the relationships we hold. In my experience, it works, but need to play smartly.

The blessed Sigma 👻✍️👑 love's you guys stay amazing and enjoy your gift.♥️🐺🤪😁 stowic mind set 😜😉💓

Really need to implement this immediately

I think this will be the most important and difficult step for me. Thanks!

This series is super helpful.

この番組が大好きです！

You MUST have a direct contakt whit our (INFJ 's) mothership 🤷‍♂️please take mee home 😢

Thanks!

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