How We Really Feel About Having A Baby // Honest Q&A 

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Oh yeah, he's a keeper. His level of understanding what you are going through is amazing!!!!

As a Speech Language Pathologist, this question comes up a lot! Multiple languages is an amazing gift to give to a child. It ties to their heritage and history as well as their future ♥️ A lot of multilingual families split where one parent speaks language A and the other speaks language B. The same with extended family and friends (e.g. Spanish) You can also do music and books in both languages as well. Multiple languages are stored in different areas of the brain. So don’t be worried that you are stunting/confusing their development

I grew up with two languages. My mom spoke to me in french and my dad in german. Our family language, the one that we speak as a group, was french. I’ve never spoken french to my dad and german to my mum. Same for the rest of my family. I just knew by people talking to me in their language to know which language i should talk to them. Im so grateful for my parents to make me grow up with two languages. Your kid will make some word fusions between the two languages which my parents still love to remind me but other than that its quit simple :)

Aww guys cannot wait to meet the little one and do a little family trip together!!

when he was looking at you while you were explaining your body confidence struggles with pregnancy... its like he couldn't possibly have any more love in his eyes for you. My goodness you two make me so happy. So excited for this baby and for your relationship to become more passionate than ever ❤

We traveled a lot before having kids and once we had our first one, people made comments like guess your traveling days are over now. Wrong; our kids lived our lifestyle traveling with us. Today all 3 are grown and have significant others. They all love to travel and we still sometimes travel with them together! Went to the Alps this past summer with our youngest son. Planning another trip with our daughter and husband with our 1st grandchild. Went to the islands with our other son. So having kids didn’t change our traveling it made it more of an adventure. You will love having a little one to show the world!!!

Raya! I'm spanish and my husband is serbian. We are expecting our baby this july and we got some advice from international couples that are friends of ours. What we will do is each parent speaks in its own mother tongue to the kid, this way the baby will learn both languages and know exactly with whom to speak what. At home, I will talk to my kid in spanish, my husband will talk in serbian and when we're all together (lunch time, things like that) we will speak english (since that's the language we use at home to communicate). I hope this helps :)

Best advice from Rya's dad "live your life". That's what we did, having a baby did not change our lives, it enriched it, our kids adapted well. Also, do not whatsoever listen to those moms that say "oh just wait". I love what you said about I'd rather focus on the positive!

So lovely to see and hear from you guys!! So excited to come along for the journey xoxo

Thank you for this video. Besides it being super informative, it also seemed to show how relaxed and at peace with life and one another you guys are. Just a joy to watch! Thanks!

One tip we found helpful was to go ahead and book a small, more local trip BEFORE you have the baby. Maybe for when baby is about 1-2 months old. That way, it kinda forces you out of your comfort zone when the thought of traveling with a baby might still be overwhelming and you would otherwise just stay home. We found the thought of traveling to be a bit scary once we had a baby, but once we ripped the bandaid off, so to speak, it really wasn’t bad. And the more you do it, the easier it gets. I hope that makes sense! So excited for you guys 💕

You both are glowing and seem so happy, I’m very excited for you both starting this new chapter !

Seriously, so happy for you both! Can’t wait to see the baby’s eyebrows! 🎉

Rooting for you three!! 😊 Notifications are ON! ✨🙌🏼☕️

Love being along for this journey with you guys x

Awwwww you guys!! So emotional to see my name on your channel! And what a beautiful answer you gave us! Thank you for explaining your future plans for all of your channels, we will be here to support them all, they sound really AMAZING, I can not wait :D. And Raya, you don't have to make a "super come back", we just want your raw self, which is always amazing to see in all of your videos

Love both of you guys. Love your opinions! Also can’t wait with your plans for these channels, can wait to see family based videos until you’re able to travel again!

Definitely teach them every language possible young. It's amazing when I see so many people speak more than two languages. Love you guys and can't wait to see see all the amazing content with the new addition to the family 🤍

It was so nice to get a video from you both. I wish that I could get a video from you guys once a week, because the peace and serenity that you guys have just remind me of what is right in from of me. Thank you ❤ and waiting for the Spring baby Boy! 💙

Working at a library what I'll say about language is that early literacy is so important and that it doesn't matter what language you speak to your child in. What's important is them recognizing that they can use language to explain the world around them. So English, Spanish, Bulgarian, do all of it. Once they understand how language works they'll already be putting together what words to use for what things. Kids are little sponges, so use all three languages even when your son doesn't speak yet, it'll make learning and keeping up with those languages so much easier for him! For example: my mother speaks French and spoke French to me my whole childhood and so even now that I rarely use it, I haven't lost it, because it was so integral in my infancy and childhood.

Exciting!!! It's happening soon can't wait to meet him 😊❤️

Baby is already bringing extra joy to your relationship! It will be difficult at times, but so much joy will happen because of baby! 💖💖💖

🥰 I love watching your journeys , Thank you so much for sharing, awww I can't wait to meet the baby!!! So happy for the both of you!!!

Thank you so much for sharing. The energy of you both that comes through your videos is really calming and energizing at the same time :)

There is a lot of couples out there and young families doing great work on RU-vid. I can’t wait to see how you two are going to be as awesome parents as I think you will be. Travelling with the baby is a state of mind, do it but on your own time. Raya I love your sense of style, I love how you feel relaxed and comfortable for the most part. We women come in all shapes and sizes and the more we embrace ourselves as we are ,the less the world opinion matters. You two get it, have got a great handle on what your doing and have given yourselves the freedom to figure it out and make it work for you. Can’t wait to see .

You guys are so tan🥰 so happy you’re able to come together deeply again before your next chapter!

I am so excited for you and Louis! Your baby boy is going to be so lucky to have parents like you too!

I think being flexible is a big component of life with children. And realizing that what works for one doesn’t work for all. I think you guys will be amazing parents!!! The love you have for each other and love for life in general are going to serve all 3 of you well!!

Having a baby does come with some challenges but it is soooo much worth it! Watching that little human grow and develop is one of the coolest thing on earth! Your love only grows deeper as time goes and you finally understand that you can love so much it hurts! And you adapt them to your lives and to what you love! You will find your flow as a family. And birth as hard as it can be it is the most amazing and magical thing! Women are so powerful! And watching your husband becoming a father is a memory you’ll never forget. The emotions are so raw and beautiful. I love birth and would relive my births any day !

You guys are about to have the most amazing adventure of your lifetime! Our children are 27 & 24 yrs old…I have to say it’s incredible to have adult children. You’ll be parents forever and it’s amazing! Love you both so excited for you! ~Cara ❤ (We are subscribed to all your channels)

Can't wait for you to re-upload on your channel again, Raya! You don't need to plan, or come up with some sort of theme/aesthetic I think authenticity is multi-faceted. We'll watch it all💕

You guys are absolutely amazing and such a truly happy couple ❤

Enjoy the little moments - one of my favorite memories is nursing my child at 3 AM exhausted but just feeling so full of love for this little face smiling up at me.

Thank you for opening up to us! It really opened my eyes to some things. I am currently 22 weeks along (and having a boy too!), and Raya I feel ya on some days pregnancy doesn't feel like I thought it would. Gaining weight but not all in my tummy has been on my mind. But I am working on keeping calm, stress free, and as positive as possible! And everyones pregnancy is different for sure! You both are an inspiration and will make great parents ❤️

Hello. First time commenting on your videos. The most important tip I can give you is to get sleep any time you can. Don't worry about the household chores, that's where family , friends and partners come in handy. Also, having a place to put all the baby items will help keep the place tidy. A basket or small toy box in each room is so handy. I like the idea of you doing shorts. Cheers from Canada.

I never gave up travelling when I had children! Travelling with children is different and in some ways better. My children are grown and still to this day, travelling with them is what both my husband and I miss. We travelled with our children from Canada to Germany before they were a year old. It takes a bit more planning but it is so worth it! 💕

Becoming a mom was the best thing I’ve ever done in my life. They bring magic into your life . Watching all theirs first is so fun. I’m just like Luis as far as spiritualality . My parents and grandparents were all different and my dad was half Native American so I wanted to raise my kids with knowledge and respect for all of them and let them choose for themselves. I think any child born to you two will be a very lucky child. Wishing you the very best. I’m so excited for you 💙👶🏼🍼

One of the hard things for me when my first child was born was allowing myself to rely on my husband. I always strived to be independent and for the first time I had to allow him to take care of us as a whole. It actually made us closer believe it or not.

I love the episodes where you share your feelings and what are going on in your life

Oh I love Louis!! He’s so understanding. How wonderful. Wish my hubby was like that with our three many years ago. Your baby is going to be beautiful and blessed! ❤❤❤

Great video. Thank you for sharing. What a beautiful couple! Best from Canada. ❤

You are both amazing people & will be amazing parents as well. If I could say one thing as a 70 year old woman, mother & grandmother, just love each other & your little one. Savor each moment because they’re all (even the hard times) so very precious. Oh, & look deeply into the eyes of your little one, the first time you see him, there is nothing else in the world like looking into the eyes of a soul that has not yet forgotten what came before this. ❤

Converting the vehicle is exciting! Please start with basics for all cars. Really interested because I believe that will be the wave of the future!

I wish you both joy and happiness. I hope Raya has a nice smooth delivery and the baby be healthy...God will do the rest. So keep on shining. Love your channel and love you guys. Can't wait to meet the baby and the adventures in your future.

Can’t wait to see you back Raya!!

TRUTH BEHIND BESTFRIENDS !!!!!!!!!!!!!! I had my daughter at 18 and I'm now 33 and she is 14 and we have this crazy dynamic of just knowing each other. when i say she respects me as her mom but can still relate as a friend, i know so much about his kid. it's a relationship that I will never take for granted!!!! best feeling ever !!! i know you BOTH will be amazing parents !!!!!!!!!

Agree with Raya’s dad. As a Dead Head my girls spent their early years in a van, traveling and experiencing. Babies don’t need “all the things”. Love, community and safety, all of which can be given in a multitude of ways. There is no “right way”! Thank you for sharing your beautiful journey with us.

You guys are amazing! Thank you! 😊

❤❤❤ I can’t wait to follow u on these next steps in ur life 🥰🥰🥰👶🏼

Love you guys!

Awhh you guys are amazing xx what a lucky baby 👶

I Grew up learning three languages and it’s pretty simple! The earlier you start the better. I learnt English because shows and movies were in English, I learnt French because I grew up in Quebec in French schools and friends, and Arabic because at home my family spoke it. I never had to make an effort to learn, it just came easily. ❤

Happy to report that embracing a ‘village’ has been absolutely key to raising our family. We’re so lucky our daughter is surrounded by the love of so many aunties and uncles who invest their time and energy into her life and journey. Nothing makes me prouder.

Kudos to the "pouring energy" comment about family. You are 1000% right. Every contribution is essential and most cannot be measured in currency.

You both are such a joy to the world. Raya, there is something about your energy that makes me feel like I could hear any form of news from you and it will all be ok. Ever thought of filming affirmation shorts, reading children’s stories, etc when you feel like doing so? Wishing you all love, light, and abundant blessings 💖

Raya, you gorgeous human! Don't overthink your first video back. I know I, and i'm sure the majority of subscribers on your channel, would love to see any type of video from you. You could treat your channel like a diary, upload whatever and whenever you feel you need to. Your guys' videos are always the first I search for and prioritise to watch. I'm so interested to watch along on your journey of parenthood and wishing you all the luck in the world for the next few months. Can't wait to hear and see updates from you all

I love your answer Raya about religion/spirituality!! ❤

So happy for you guys 🥰🥰

Congrats!!!

So exciting for you, ours was 30 this week, it's gone by so fast!! Make the most of the early months/years.... Raya, my mum advised me to put all the 'advice' into a mental 'pot' and take out the bits that you want to.when you want to. Also (re health visitor) baby will pull himself up on his own when he can to sit or stand etc you don't need to help. Hope you find this useful and best wishes to you both 💜 Don't forget the UK Is wonderful in the summer too 😀

Love your plans. Can't wait to meet your little one!

Congrats to u guys!

I'm so excited for you both. You are going to be amazing parents. When considering languages to teach him, please also consider sign language. Baby sign language allows him to communicate with you before he has developed speech. It's very simple and he can learn to sign things like more, finish, hurt and show you where it hurts. I taught deaf kids for 43 years and am a huge advocate for baby sign language with hearing children. You can buy simple books to teach yourself and the baby at the same time or look for videos online. Best of luck in the next few weeks!

Raya and Louis, you are such a lovely couple! Watching you two interact one can just feel the love and respect you have for each other ❣ Looking forward to your next journey in life! 👶🤱🍼

Congrats and hope you enjoyed the babymoon. If you are going to do short content may I suggest you do something that we haven’t already seen in a previous video? Take care.

I heard you mention schooling was in the questions. I just want to say that my husbands job had travel built into it and we discussed not wanting to be separated because of a brick n mortar school so we decided to homeschool our daughter. It was not something I ever thought I would do but I am so glad I did cause it afforded us the opportunity to stay together as a family and brought so many learning opportunities to the table that otherwise would not have happened. I look back now and wouldn’t change that decision. There were hard times but there were also many great times. In the end you guys do you. Peace.

Teach or expose your child to as many languages as you want. I do want to note that as an educator, I have noticed children who are learning more than one language at once tend to, but not always, speak a bit later than their one-language peers, because they are also learning to "categorize" the languages into their proper areas. It doesn't mean they won't speak, they will, it might take a little bit longer. Nothing wrong with letting a child speak more than one language. It is awesome and early exposure to the languages will make it much easier if they learn languages later in life. All children eventually catch up and those exposed to more languages have huge advantages.

Raya, it chokes my throat up to write this, getting emotional! About you coming back to your channel and thinking that you need a big come back because it has been so long... You gotta know that there are people that followed you here from your channel because we love you! I watched your channel when you had it going and I have been here the whole time for this one. Coming back to your channel to me is just getting more of you, which is so special. You are an important person here, on this planet, and on this channel. Louis is great, but he is a wonderful half of the wonderful whole of both of you. I look forward to seeing you

Life is made up of different stages. Having a family is a different stage. Embrace it and enjoy the transition to a new adventure.

Y'all are going to be the best parents. Can't wait to meet little man!

Just a suggestion from a mom of two teens! My husband and I had a nightly routine that we would shut ourselves in our room for 1 hour! That was our time the kids weren’t allowed to knock on our door or bother us unless it was an emergency of course! When they were little it was usually after bedtime but as they got older and could entertain themselves for that long then it was easier, but that hour was our time to watch tv, talk about our day, or even have sexy time! Good luck and enjoy every moment!

Rayas father had the best advice! Just keep going and to the best of your ability keep doing what your doing! ❤❤❤❤

Рая, повярвай ми... появяването на детето е истинска промяна. Колкото трудна, толкова и хубава. Пожелавам ви да сте изключително обичащи родители и да намерите най-добрият баланс за себе си! :)

I was a young mom and when I was younger I kind of parented the way I was parented. But as I became more spiritual I left that parenting style behind and have been practicing gentle parenting for the past 8 years. I love it so much more. My kids are all teenagers now and they are really good kids. Gentle parenting takes a more loving approach. I would suggest researching it to see if it's a good fit for you. Enjoy your little one because time does move so quickly once they are born.

I'm obsessed with YT Shorts!! so yes more Shorts please!!

Yes Raya! It would be great to see your side 🙏🤗

Start with sign language. I taught all my kids before it was popular. Kids have tantrums when they are not understood. My kids didn't because of sign language. I started at 5 months old. My pediatrician was impressed. Good luck. Then we taught Spanish as my Husband is Hispanic.

Your flexible attitude will carry you into your next adventure with baby. It will be uniquely your journey and I think you're well prepared!! (Speaking as a mom of two very different personalities).

Love that you talked about unwanted negative talk. We have a 12 month old baby boy and the first was a awesome rollercoaster. People would tell us 'say goodbye to youre sleep' and 'we will talk to you in a couple of months and see if you are still so positive'. Yes it is sometimes intense, but most of all it is magic. And now number 2 is coming 😳 Enjoy seeing you're people coming out of his cocoon and get to know him.

Thanks for sharing.. and best wishes for birth of your baby 🙏💚

😂😂😂😂😂😂that’s a good one Louis thanks for making me laugh so hard 😂😂it’s been awhile

I’m listening to y’all talk about languages, and a tip that was a godsend for us was sign language. The terrible twos are strongly brought on by knowing what they want but not having verbal skills. It doesn’t take a lot. We just taught him things like milk, more, please, Thank you, and diaper. And it was cute because up until about 4, he would say Thank you but sign it at the same time. He’s now 14 and I’m lucky if he waves at me. 😂

as a Mom of 7 adult children, 3 of which are triplets, my body changed tremendously, I can understand Raya's feelings, but just know this and it is coming from a woman who has struggled years with weight gain, You are beautiful and most importantly, you are such an inspiration to many other young ladies and old ones like myself.

Hi Raya and Louis!! On the topic of languages: it is such a gift to raise your child(ren) bi or trilingual!!! Coming from a bilingual family myself, I can not even tell you how many benefits it brings to ones life. Also, kids are like sponges, they absorbe everything, so don't be worried abt talking in different languages they will know which language to talk with each one of you (same goes for rest of the family). Apart from speaking, it is super beneficial for them to maybe hear stories or tales or just read a book of that culture/language bc it will help them with vocabulary and heritage/knowledge abt that culture and music is great too! Anyways, really enjoyed the video, I am super excited for you two and can't wait to see what's to come❤

Will definitely check out more of Raya's body love videos!🥰

Raya I would love to see the new videos on your channel! ❤ y’all are the best. Sending love

It would be awesome if you did 2 videos that split the month up. X

So cool to see you two crack up together!

They say it takes a village to raise a kid! So excited for ya's!! Take care and be safe out there! ❣❤❤❤❣

When Raya said loving her body during pregnancy has been rougher than expected and Louie just kissed her. Like you can feel the support tru the screen. Ladies never settle for less. I love love.

I grew learning two languages. We are teaching our son both Spanish & Gujurati. He picks up certain phrases here and there but most important part is he’s learning and enjoying it.

❤️❤️❤️❤️My faves, I love you guys soo much

Do 3-4 Minute videos just catching us up on what is going on in your life . How is she feeling and how are you feeling .ETC .

We have a 2 year half year old and 6 months old babies ❤️ and we raise them with 4 languages…me speak German to them…my partner speaks Swedish to them and we live in Denmark where they learn Danish and my partner and me speak English to eachother. This is turning out very nicely and at least the oldest is learn really well! Loui will understand Bulgarian too since you will repeat a lot of stuff and in an easy way because you speak to a child normally in an easier language - so also he will understand more and more

I’m so glad you took a baby moon. We did the same and went to Hawaii with our first child. You guys really do need to get your things ready for birth before anything else. My son was born at 36 weeks. Which OB said it was full term. Not all babies arrive at 40 weeks. As probably they have told you baby can come before or after 40 weeks. Putting your birth plan together (home birth vs hospital) and getting a doula / midwife is essential if you plan a water birth they will help you with all the little things of planning for birth. Enjoy your time together. I enjoyed reading,singing, dancing talking and play music to the baby while I was pregnant. They hear all the sounds around them. They recognize your voice and smell. You both are going to be amazing parents all will fall into place. Just enjoy the beautiful bonding experience. You will be amazed how much you will love this child and each other more once the baby comes.

Great video , I have so many comments , firstly ,I remember all the people who said horror stories about pregnancy, ignore them, each pregnancy is so different , I. Had a natural birth and my baby was 11 1/2 lbs , even though she was so big , it was ok , and you honestly do forget any pain , our bodies are so amazing , you got this, secondly our girl loved sleep, she always had about 12 hours a day ,yes that was broken up with feeds to start with , but it's not as bad as you think , then we home educated her , and it was amazing , we got to spend every day with her , watching her grow into an amazing person , we could concentrate on what she was interested in and make learning fun , when she was 15 she went to the local college where she got all her qualifications,so everything is possible, gear your experience around what you want for your family , don't be told how life will be, because it's what you make it , and enjoy every moment , it's wonderful xxx

I have one son named Rowan and am currently 7 weeks with number 2- hoping for a boy I can name Royce! So happy for y’all!

1st week you will be on cloud 9, 2nd week you might cry, it’s fine it’s just your body, then after this each week is a amazing they grow so fast an learn so much enjoy every minute, uk do have lessons my grandson is doing Spanish he 7 months, it’s all fun just go with what you want 💕

You two should check Malta out when you’re in Europe! You would love it Raya and Louis! Been watching you both since 2013!❤