How Women Actually Want to be Asked Out (According to Real Women) 

Men don't want to have their lives ruined.

Gentlemen, never ever forget that women WANT you to approach them because they enjoy rejecting you. It really is that simple. None of these "dating BFFs" are saying that women should be more likeable or do the approaching themselves. Its all about getting us to approach for the simple, irrefutable reason that they get the warm-n-fuzzies when we approach and they reject us!

All that matters: Is she attracted to you. Not sure? Then she's not. Walk away.

Men have walked away and they're not coming back. We've been put in a situation that has FORCED us to learn to be alone. Once that happens, the self-sufficiency, accountability, and acute awareness that we are on our own and nobody cares, creates a mindset that doesn't include women or the world at large. The damage is done... Chad and Tyrone are having a great time, however....

Women aren’t worth it gentlemen. Work on you and live your life without stress.

If vvomen want to go on dates so badly, why don't they do the asking?

The one who wants to go on the date should be the one to initiate. If she wanted to, she would. If you want a partner, shouldn't you go 50-50? Love should not be about the courting rules or money. So let's take that out of equation.

I'm sorry but, "dating more" for a man is a waste of time and money. Dating doesn't get us anywhere. For any woman reading this, if you want a mans attention, just tell him you like him and skip all the time wasting. No man wants to just go on dates with you when you aren't even in an established relationship.

Give this tutorial to Bears ! We are good women !

Women can ask men out too!

Women want to be asked out by Chads not by average men. I am the most confident man I know I can walk up to any woman without any inhibition and make good conversation, make them laugh and ask them for their numbers which I always get. It just never leads to a date in 100% of cases due to me beeing average looking, no matter how perfect and positive the interaction was. I am a millionaire and 6ft too lol. Average men simply can't date it doesn't matter how perfect they are otherwise, if the looks aren't on point it won't work. You need hundreds, if not thousands of positive approaches as an average looking dude, average looking = a 0/10 in womens eyes. When women think about beeing asked out on a date and beeing asked out for coffee they imagine being asked out by a tall, extremely handsome man. The right looking man can almost do nothing wrong he can be shy, timid and a bad conversationalist and he will have massive success anyway an average looking guy can be the walking deus ex machina of percetion and will still get rejected 99,9% of times if he is just average looking and thats his only flaw.

Don't take advise from a fish on how to catch a fish

Good job. Everything about this video was done well. The camera work, audio etc... the content of course.

We don't care how you want to be asked out. The juice is not worth the squeeze. Too many potential pitfalls. There's probably a nice bear out there somewhere. Grizzzle grizzzle. 😂😂😂

Don't ask a fish how to be caught. Go ask the fishermen.

Men will ask women out when there is a clear indicator of interest. Those no longer exist, and so no more asking out will happen.

By an attractive man is how they want to be asked out. You're welcome, gentleman.

Good luck on your dates, Delphine! Thanks for your handkerchief video, too. Helped me to get a guy to message me! This one has great advice, too!

Is the juice worth the squeeze?

She missed an important point…make sure you’re attractive, cause remember you’re just a push-up and a haircut away from being labeled a creep.

You're so excited about going out with a guy you ask him out you pay for everything and you see how it goes to be on the other side

I didn’t hear a lot of hints of how to drop the handkerchief.

Ask a woman out and get hit with a harassment suit because she either doesn't find you attractive, you made your move at the wrong time or in the wrong way, or simply because they were in a bad mood that day. No, thank you.

If woman are interested, she will and she should ask man out so she don’t need to be worried about , unattractive men asking her out 🤷‍♂️. Rejection is just rejection so just accept rejection if he rejects you .

I think with how dating apps are and just the current way we socialize that dating is hard for men AND women. I think we need to rewire how we look at dating, love, and connection. Some men on the apps lie and deceive women, women lie and deceive men. I think there is a lot of fear based on personal experience as well as observed experiences. I would much rather be approached by a man in real life in a non creepy way than use the apps. But I am just not a lady who gets approached in real life honestly. I see a lot of men shooting down what you are saying but I think that just comes from a bruised ego. One person said: if you are unsure if she is attracted to you walk away. And I do not believe it is that black and white. Some people want to keep their attraction hidden and do not always show it non verbally let alone verbally. I think again, we need to rewire how we look at connection, dating, and love (platonic and romantic) and assess our standards/goals as well because sometimes standards are just not realistic.

We're sick of videos on what women want and their preferences. We men don't care anymore, until things balance out. The better topics are 'what men want'. It's time you ladies start thinking about how you can please us.

Ma'am, it would be more effective if you demanded woman to go after men, because men are done with the games...

Do you think that men should use the "date" word, or just ask for a walk because they will probably get what is going on. Also, I hear women say that they need to "get to know" a guy before they would be comfortable going on a date. How can you let a girl get to know you before you ask them out on a date?

So many traumatized men in the comments.. I'm one of them too, got cheated on, in quite a harsh way, mentally abused, physically assaulted.. she was so bad to me.. I got in deep depression for years, heavy medication, extreme weight gain. My solution was to work on my self esteem, and make sure I'm an attractive potential partner by doing the typical stuff - eat healthy, get in shape, learn to dress well, skincare, nice haircut, etc. I have traumatic thoughts about women that makes me feel like an incel (I kinda am, I'm still afraid of women, I avoid all interactions with them) the first thought I have when I see a beautiful woman, is that she's probably screwing like 5 different guys, and is abusive, but I do recognize these thought are my mental scars showing themselves, and I simply don't believe them. Despite all my scars that want me to avoid the reason they exist - women, I still think we're condemned by our instincts to find a partner and create a family, so I'm going to seek therapy as soon as I can afford it, continue reading therapy books, and make myself as presentable as possible, so that I have the most options that I can have, which will give me the privilege to be a chooser, and I'll make sure not to choose an abusive person. If anyone read to the end - I hope you'll overcome your trauma. It takes years, but we need to do this. And to people who love belittling traumatized men - instead of calling them incels and icky icks, try to realise that they're at a very bad place, and don't push them further by bullying and ridiculing them.

And why should we? What do you actually bring to the table?

As a man, I will never ask out first again. I’m debt free, lots of money, no job to slave away at. I literally have everything to lose.

I would hear it if it were an 18yr old and her parents on a couch.

You give me hope!

Everything you said is a lie

i didnt watch the video, but the answer is be 6'1 and a millionaire.