Hoevelatins 17:4 and when thine Hoes falter, thou shall sayest unto them BE GONE THOT! 17:5 But they shall not be gone, their pleas and cries, manipulations and excuses shall fall in deaf ears and thou shalst sayith again BE GONE THOT!
What was more insane to be was "drank too much kissed but stopped before it got intimate" like kissing isn't intimate? The whole way she talked about him in the first bit just read as her love bombing us with her guilt.
@@battlesister1559 I think you didn't understand me, he said she had said the quote. Kissing is an intimate thing but she'd said she'd stopped before it got intimate. Meaning she thinks kissing isn't.
@@migo70 no no, I understood what you meant. Other videos like this often censors the words "sex" or "die", so they use synonyms to not let the video be taken down or lose their monetization.
Let’s all say this together “ Cheating is not a mistake. It’s a choice.” Turning left when you supposed to turn right is a mistake. Buying “No sugar added” coffee creamer is a mistake. Selecting “Reply All” on an email is a mistake. What OP did was a choice and she tried to justify that choice with the suggestion of an open relationship.
Spoiler Alert: It was in fact the age difference that was the problem. He is a full grown adult, and she has the emotion and mental maturity of a child. So yes it was an age difference problem.
Let’s not forget that she started to screw with work. That can work out…but nowadays it’s too much trouble because if something goes south, you also have to find a new job on top of the break up per se.
@@Dustin81 given how she acted (cheating, rationalising cheating, breaking down because the consequences of her actions were more severe than anticipated) she’s not emotionally mature. Or fully arrived in the adult mindspace. You can turn it however you want, she wasn’t ready for an adult relationship. Whether you want to pin it on her chronological age, developmental issues or just lacking adult relationship experience…the result is the same in the end.
I will always say this cheating is never a mistake or accident, it’s choice, period. A mistake is driving the wrong way or buying the wrong donut. Sleeping with someone else is a choice you make there is no excuse when you are in a committed relationship.
Cheating is not a mistake it’s a choice and once a cheater always a cheater take it from me I have a,ways been attentive in a,l my relationships and still it didn’t save me from being cheated on they offered me the same bs a hall pass well it never helps cause im not a cheater if I want someone or this or that I will be single by once in a relationship I’m committed to that person that’s it trust and communication make and break a relationship once one is broken 5e relationships fall apart.
As usual it's all about how the cheater is feeling. Me me me. Only a few brief moments does she even address _his_ pain and the betrayal _he_ is going through. Everything else is about *her* pain, *her* regret, and how *she* can get someone she doesn't deserve back without even considering what's best for _him_ in this situation.
OP said she is not a naive girl but she sounds really immature especially here 0:25 where she put down her friends and their boyfriends to feel better about her relationship..
@@jhsemoxitha3821 if you wanna call that "putting someone down", then everyone is a piece of shit because everyone puts everyone else down. You're basically saying all criticism is putting someone down at that point
@@verygooddeal4436 of course everyone is a POS. The difference is some of them understand that preference is subjective and so no need to put it side by side with others'.
The guy was putting in massive hours to help the most vulnerable - and OP didn't like it because her "needs weren't being met". Well its good that the he resolved that issue immediately. I hope OP's old friend was worth it.
The fact that she didn’t see anything wrong with making out with another man and didn’t see that as cheating says it all! She had a good man who loved her and would have built a future with her and because she was lonely and want attention/sex she wanted to open their relationship! The reason why her bf ended is because he found out that he couldn’t be with a woman that couldn’t see that what she did and wanted to do was cheat! Much respect to him how he handle it! It had nothing to do with age because many 24 years old woman get married and have kids her judgment is based of her own standards’ she’s a cheater and if her bf over look this and took her back he wasn’t sure if she would get lonely again and cheat!
Reality 101: you hit the jackpot! You said the magic words that killed your Partner's soul: "open relationship." Look at yourself and fix your problems so you won't be stupid again in the future.
@@Haxkarl Its not jsut the cheating ones. The top story on this channel about the older sister "accidentally" getting the younger sister graped is straight up horrific
The fact that she cheated "on accident" because she didn't even realize that what she was doing was bad ... that right there is unforgivable. If she isn't emotionally intelligent enough to recognize a behavior as unacceptable .. then there is ZERO chance she can stop herself from doing bad things. He deserves better.
I don't believe in polyamory. I do belive that people who lack character and commitment go for other people to stroke their sorry ego at the expense of their partners. Disgusting. She is a pathetic cheater and her reasoning is ridiculous. Can't empathize with her one bit. She had it coming.
Bruh, accountability eludes this one 💀 I mean, she feels bad but the real „click“ hasn’t happened. She’s not emotionally mature. Her mindset right now (being able to cheat and rationalise it in that moment) makes her unavailable for long term relationships. And I bet that if they had broken up over something else, she wouldn’t have matured in any way. At least now she has learned through her pain.
OP is still only worried about herself. She needs to realize that the problem is that she is a selfish, self centered, emotionally immature person who sees people as objects. If she has any actual affection for her bf she would let him go and get herself into therapy. It probably wouldn’t fix anything though, she would just end up learning to hide her true nature.
Sounds like a fair bit. I mean she completely fell to pieces because her boyfriend broke up with her after she cheated, she doesn't sound terribly mature or put together. Given how her parents treated her, likely a bit spoiled and sheltered.
Ask any polyamorous person: opening up your marriage will not help you fix it. If you aren’t communicating before, adding new people to distract yourselves only makes things worse. The fact that you went out with this person, made out, we’re going to go all the way, but then stopped… your relationship is already over, you just didn’t realize. You were trying to open the relationship so he wouldn’t notice you’d already cheated. People like you give polyamory a bad reputation.
There is no way a 41 year old administrator is dating some new 24 year old that he trained at the same company. That's career suicide but I'm sure the 16 year old girl that wrote this story did her best.
"Over the two years we've been together, I've grown so much as a person" Proceeds to do the most immature shit I have ever heard. Seems like she has the mental maturity of a 17 year old.
She literally proved why these kinds of age gaps typically cause problems in a relationship. OP is very much still in the head space of a 20something who is still focused on "me me me."
@@user-tx4wj7qk4t I'm not sure where feminism came into this conversation lol? All I did was criticize the girl in the story and wonder what exactly you were talking about. I guess I now understand your point but I absolutely think that she acted incredibly immature in this story and typically one would assume that people get more mature with age so age does play a role here imo. Edit: Paleoanthrology and genetic studies offer two perspectives on when monogamy evolved in the human species. Paleoanthrologists offer tentative evidence that monogamy may have started very early in human history whereas genetic studies suggest that monogamy might have increased much more recently, less than 10,000 to 20,000 years ago.
@@user-tx4wj7qk4t I was more so talking about her not understanding his problems with it at all. Even after it was over she wrote about it as if she didn't actually understand what she did wrong, she just regretted having lost him. That's incredibly immature.
The thing is. I kinda believe that she is sorry and that she understands that she's wrong. But... actions have consequences and it does not matter if she "stopped it" before it got intimate. It was waaay too far gone already. So no, there is no fixing it.
" So I stopped myself before we became intimate 🤡 " bruh, you already ware intimate the moment you went out of your house because your Bf wasn't home, let's not talk about the kissing part...
Stuff like this really pisses me off. How can so many take love for granted? I cant even get people to look my way, nevermind love me the way he did for OP. So you had a wonderful relationship with a wonderful person, and you trash it all because you had to live in silence with your own thought for a few months? Wow, how sad for you.
So she wants to downplay making out with that guy as "just hanging out with friends" but still asks for an open relationship LOL, tf do you need a poly relationship just for hanging out with friends, cheating women can't lie 🤣
If he 40 and ur 24 and he can pull Women in their 40s, guess what you arent special, he can replace you in a heart beat.... on the plus side, there is a happy ending.
Listenint to other people's stories ovwr the years made me aromantic I think, I dont care anymore I have no hope for romance because if I like someone Im gonna spend my whole life bracing for bs like this to happen
POS cheaters…‘I cheated so now I want an open relationship. Now il upset because actions have consequences’. Fastest thing in the universe is a woman running away from accountability.
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. I don't know a single self-respecting man who would stay after hearing the words "open relationship" except for exactly 1 friend who is openly poly.
So he cut back on work when she asked and then made great efforts to make dates fun during a pandemic. He gave her the attention and it wasn't enough. There would never be enough attention.
don't ask how to fix things with him. ask why you feel the need to sleep with other men if he is as incredible as you say he is. chances are you don't love him as much as you think
Oh my God. I could only make it around 15 seconds in to this video. I hear, I am 24 and he is 41 and the age difference isn't the problem here. Girl, if that isn't the real problem then I really don't need to hear what the "real" one is. Also poly/open/whatever you want to call it is cheating and disgusting. It almost always ends horribly. Heck I even worked for a disgusting guy who was worth somewhere between 500 to 700 million (US). He had an attractive wife. He had it all and it all came crashing down because of their lifestyles. If you can have 100+ million and can't make it work.... That should tell you all you need to know.
Might want to get some hair on your head back before you start acting tough on the Internet. Judging what age gap is appropriate is solely between the couple itself.
This is the cheaters mentality all they do is care about themselves and no one else. He was out there saving lives and all she cared about was HER loneliness
"[...] I was lonely [...] An old friend contacted me [...]" And for a second I held out hope that it was just a misunderstanding and she just wanted to know his opinion and he took it the wrong way, because he's been burned in the past, but no. Edit: Yeah and she kissed the guy asap. Worthless 304.
Lets be honest here its not that she didn't realize what she was doing it's that she didn't care. She didn't suddenly go dumb and not realizer what she was doing was cheating she just trying to rationalize it to herself to make a excuse for her actions.
Young women have that power of youth because men are dancing their way around her, asking her out etc etc. that much attention fills up the head of any woman. Only at a mature age can you consider your girlfriend or your wife to be truly your gf and wife. Otherwise, she has nothijg to lose because the next man is always there. Men and women operate differently in their dating phases. Men hardly ever have this many options. This inequality leads to men being insecure of their women going to parties dressed half naked to nightclubs and womem to think men are insecure fo thinking like that. Because she doesnt know what its like her having zero attention while her partner being hit on all the time or the possibility being ther.
You aren't mature enough for an adult relationship. You need to leave this man alone and you need to grow up before you enter a new relationship. You were acting like a needy child who needs constant attention and when you can't get it you want to cheat on him. Not only do you want to cheat on him but you unironically asked him to give you permission to do it. Personally I would be about done with you at this point as well and just have told you to do what you think is right. Since you are selfish and childish you wouldn't take my words to heart and just assume it was me giving you permission to cheat on me. Then when you go on your first date I would move all your stuff out of my place, changed the locks, set up security cameras and then go on vacation.
He did the right thing, but i feel bad for her. He handeled it very well tho, better than she deserved maybe, but fuck I hope this makes her a better woman
People think its a good idea to ask their monogamous partner if they want an open relationship. Imagine talking to your child and asking them if they mind not having presents under the Christmas Tree this year. Cheating is one thing but callous neglect of someone's feelings is tortuous. Hey, I stole some candy from you so do you mind if I steal money directly from your wallet too? Its why its better just to end the relationship when stuff like that comes up.
You did miss something. at 2:38 it clearly says "Before I knew it, we were kissing. I'm not going to lie, it felt good." And the fact that she classifies kissing as "not intimate" might suggest she had done it before to begin with. I'm kinda sad for her parents that had to shelter her while fully knowing that she belongs to streets.
If we are feeling lonely you should just break up and move on. Cheating is never an option. Also... They man should have understand that, he needs to give tym to his relationship.
Yes, he should’ve tried to give time , but you need to understand the Covid lockdown time was some of the darkest periods for health care workers , my dad is a health care worker and honestly, lockdown sucked half the life out of him , they were so overworked both physically and mentally , my mom was very understanding , even though they fought about it 2/3 times , they never let it escalate and had a proper conversation always , so yes, op was in the wrong to go around blame the bf when he was trying his best , it was stated that he even cut back for her , that girl wanted to a cheater and got her consequences, no sympathy for her from my side
Fictional story shared by a lot of other channels, but at least all the "updates" to the tall tale are here. She never admitted to cheating to her now ex either...but fellas, when a woman asks for an open relationship she already opened it before asking...aka she's been cheating(lining up a potential partner to be open with is still cheating in a monogamous relationship).
Yeah, I'm noticing that pattern in the threads about open. From the man's pov, when the woman finally convinces him, she's very soon with a regular contact guy like a co-worker or gym buddy. Secondary trend is that wife and f buddy soon fizzle out while husband finally finds someone and they click really well. 😉
Yeah, this is why women being looked at the "prize" is on the down fall. Really, you spent all that time saying how great he is, but him being great make you lonely.
Unpopular view: I believe Cheating can be a mistake, a mistake is defined as an action or judgement that is misguided. Cheating can fall under that definition... that being said, you still have to deal with the consequences. Lost relationship, lost respect, etc. If I get cheated on, it's over, I'm not going to yell at you, I'm not going to beat the shit out of your AP, I'm just out. Mistake does not always equal accident, but Cheating is Cheating
@evinhylow7864 just look up the definition of "mistake". It doesn't always mean you did something unintentional... and of course cheating is wrong. Society has a bad habit of misidentifing the definition of words.
what's crazy about this is that he was actually fine with an open relationship, but once he asked why she brought it up and heard that she'd been cheating is when he had a problem with it. like, O.P. shouldn't have titled the post "bf broke up with me after I brought up an open relationship" it's "bf broke up with me after I admitted I'd been cheating on him"
I think 5 years is a huge age gap, watch. 18 vs 23 is rather similar, but 13 vs 18 are worlds apart. A 24 year old and 29 y/o have different priorities. A 50 and 45 year body are now at different stages of life. 5 years is a huge difference and if you disagree you are too young to understand.
Check out the part starting at around the 2:16 mark. She met with an old friend. Started texting him, then met him at a bar and was making out with him (and didn't tell her BF). After that is when she brought up opening the relationship.
see, this is the shit that absolutely blows my mind. they ALWAYS go on to say just how amazing their boyfriends and husbands are......then they pull the stupid shit that brought us here. even tho she brought up the age difference and said there was no issues concerning it, little did she know it was the one factor that sealed her fate. he's in his 40s and she is her 20s. his view on the world is entirely different than hers due to his life experience. i feel bad for her, cause she's young and dumb, but he was able to see things with clarity due to his age and wisdom, while she didn't even give what came out her mouth a second thought until she saw his reaction. i'm 40 myself and it's things like this why i still prefer a woman my age or older, cause once you reach a certain age you truly do want different things in life than you did when you were younger. this is just one of those life lessons you learn from and keep on pushing forward while trying to improve who you are a day at a time.
So this person started an inappropriate relationship in which there was a power dynamic where he was a supervisor over her and she doesn't see how that ISN'T appropriate?
