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@brimcd5296 3 месяца назад

Props to this young man for calling in and asking how to navigate the relationship with her father. It ultimately shows he cares, not just about his fiancé, but about having a relationship with her family. That’s admirable, he sounds like a great young man. Best of luck to you both, we all deserve true love.

@ryanrogers8211 3 месяца назад

What’s true love?

@valenciasanchez93 3 месяца назад

Yes, it’s very traditional to get his approval first. And he probably would have said yes but they would have had a man to man talk. You know? Doesn’t seem like he’s mad that she said yes,.. just upset that he’s the last one finding out.

@pamjagdeo6784 3 месяца назад

Dad is right to be salty. He is still alive go fix it.

@kspice2803 3 месяца назад

A person with a brain would have asked the dad first not some online random guy

@jacksgl777 3 месяца назад

@@kspice2803. Some online random guy? Who are you talking about? He asked his girlfriend and she said yes. Then she told mom. Mom told her dad.

@RachelQuayle-w3j 3 месяца назад

I have to comment! I was 19 and my husband was 21 when we got engaged. We also met on tinder. We’d been together 5 months when he proposed. This year we have been together 9 years, married for 6. We have two beautiful daughters and we are still very happily married. Oh yes and it probably helps we are both Christians although neither of us were fully committed to it when we met but I feel God brought us together and now it’s a huge part of our lives.

@SisterTiffany 3 месяца назад

😍😍😍🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

@cbtam4333 3 месяца назад

Committed Christians brought together by Tinder? Wow. I guess it’s possible. Although I suspect Tinder has gotten worse in the last decade.

@christianberry3031 2 месяца назад

Awesome! I cannot lie, growing up sorta around religion, I realize that religious people generally have better morals and are good people. I feel like they can be faithful to their partners. No doubt, non religious people can be just as faithful and can have better morals, but from what I’ve observed, religious people are great!

@GameChanger597 2 месяца назад

Yes I don't see anything wrong with them having a quick engagement as long as they were are united by a genuine 'meant to be' connection. The kind of connections God Himself brings together. I really don't like when Dr John mocks and laughs at his callers issues or comments. He does it all the time- I don't think he realizes how often he does it or how condescending it sounds

@christinesbetterknitting4533 2 месяца назад

@GameChanger597 John is speaking from thousands of discussions and he sees the anguishing consequences, so he is bringing caution to the table.

@createcultivate7235 3 месяца назад

My husband and I met on tinder and got married very quickly too. 7 years later and I don’t regret a thing.

@contentedspirit9022 3 месяца назад

I got married a month after I turned 17 to a guy who had already graduated from college (and my mom signed the document approving it). I completed my senior year in high school as a married person. We were married for 4 years, until he started telling me i was fat (5 ft 7 inches tall, weight of 122 lbs - could see my hip bones i was so thin) and he was having fantasies about my little sister (she was 15)!!!!! Nobody in my family believed me, at least until we divorced and i moved 60 miles south to attend college. He kept going to my parents house, wanting my sister to go to the movies, etc. it took 6 months to a year to finally believe me. This guy should've at least talked it over with her dad first before asking her.

@hllymchll 3 месяца назад

that gross. I'm sorry

@louiseavesand1498 2 месяца назад

That sounds awful I’m so sorry! And I’m also so sorry it took your family so long to believe it!❤

@violetmoon6233 Месяц назад

I'm so sorry 😔🤍🕊️

@ryanrogers8211 3 месяца назад

Go talk to the Father and work it out. Go man up and apologize for not coming to him first.

@debbiesexton2973 3 месяца назад

Yep, RyanRogers is right

@mackenzieusher8025 3 месяца назад

Apologize? How about just explain that wasn't how he was brought up. It's a pretty dated custom, certainly not held by the majority of families anymore. It's her decision to make, not her father's.

@angelavocalino34 3 месяца назад

@@mackenzieusher8025Yes, apologize and say sorry it's not our custom but I respect your input.

@angelavocalino34 3 месяца назад

Depending on the type of man the father is, an apology will tell you a lot about him. If he's a man who respects owning up to his mistakes and make them right, he'll reassure his daughter that you'd own up to yours. If he is a man that doesn't respect that, he'll always speak against you to his daughter. If she were a smart woman and knew her father, she would've told you this piece of vital information before speaking to and sharing the good news with her parents. I knew this about my father, and I told my man to ask my Dad first, after saying yes. I was 26 and it was my 2nd marriage, but this one stuck, lol.

@ryanrogers8211 3 месяца назад

@@mackenzieusher8025 it’s obviously important to the Father and he’s the authority the young guy is appealing too so it’s in his longterm best interest and the most respectful thing to do. Your life will always be better if you can have your spouses parents be happy with you.

@michellemorrison9663 2 месяца назад

I was 20 my husband 22. We met online in a platform called "mingle". I was in New Jersey, he was in MA. 2 months and we eloped. We are about to turn 8 years of marriage, we've faced the bad, the hard, and the gorgeous together ❤️. We have built, and continue doing so, from the ground up. I respect this guy, he wants healthy relationships from every corner and he is even calling for help. That is a true man right there, that father should be proud. People with the desire of resolving and keeping the balance is what we need in the world.❤❤❤

@MB-kw6tm 3 месяца назад

To be honest, I would be "salty" if I was her father.

@Durelle522 3 месяца назад

Try and tell an 18-year-old what to do. Dare you. lol.

@tonymarin909 3 месяца назад

😂@@Durelle522

@iplaywhatiwant3738 3 месяца назад

Because you were born in the 1800s?

@randomicon918 3 месяца назад

Daughter can make her own decisions without Dad butting in. Asking the father “for her hand” is a platitude at best.

@arbonneladyTN 3 месяца назад

@@randomicon918Wow… totally disagree! It’s not ASKING as much as it is the father having an opportunity to give some fatherly advise & requests for the young man. Daddy was her first love, most dads have thought about the day they would meet the young man wanting to marry his little girl. It also shows RESPECT (something that has been lost) For an older generation. Think what you will about it being old fashion, consider it an opportunity for a good relationship with the parents.

@user-wr3jh7ov3h 3 месяца назад

21 and 18… 9 months relationship… I’d be salty too. They are too young. Their relationship is too young. Give it another 2 years minimum.

@nunyabizay9253 2 месяца назад

Why? Because it’s not YOUR relationship? Believe it or not there’s people on this planet with better character, integrity, and discipline than you.

@user-wr3jh7ov3h 2 месяца назад

@@nunyabizay9253 Chill Karen.

@gioconda01 2 месяца назад

@@nunyabizay9253tf is all this bitterness for?

@gioconda01 2 месяца назад

@@nunyabizay9253like,chill dude..

@bunnyhop-84 2 месяца назад

@@nunyabizay9253how old r u? Because when you become older these things look differently. I'm just 26 but the difference from who I was at 21 let alone 18 is huge. At that age you are still figuring out life and what you want to do. Hell at 26 or even older you still might not know. Relationships are also hard and complicated and when you throw in the challenges you are going to have at that age it's even harder. It's not impossible but it's difficult and most don't have the insight or maturity to deal with it at that age. You don't want to rush these things. Marriage isn't a game it's serious.

@2Ryled 3 месяца назад

18 is barely an adult. She doesnt even know who she is yet

@Olivetree80 3 месяца назад

Exactly!

@sabersage21 2 месяца назад

Wrong, she is an adult and a perfect time to get married actually if you have found a good partner, why run away from a good thing and put yourself through 10 more years of baggage to "find the right one"

@charliewhon6548 2 месяца назад

Neither does he.

@gaffawebber 2 месяца назад

@sabersage21 her brain isn't finished forming yet, and neither has his.

@aidanboyd1786 2 месяца назад

I feel there is something to said for growing into adulthood together, maturing together, building a life and learning to take care of each other together, etc. Getting married young (to the right person) can be beautiful as you get to spend almost your whole life growing w the person you love. It takes true commitment though to the idea that you can work through anything together.

@ellensmith4347 3 месяца назад

Just a suggestion, talk to her dad and have a long,long engagement. If its meant to be ,it will be

@MyHam-os4bq 2 месяца назад

I agree with this 100%. Best way I can imagine going about the situation.

@pamelawilloughby5778 2 месяца назад

I TOTALLY AGREE ABOUT A MUCH LONGER ENGAGEMENT PERIOD. ❤

@annakleopatrabergendy9765 2 месяца назад

as a woman l wouldn't have wasted my time on a fiancée who is not ready to marry me. he is not marrying dad.

@danarzechula3769 3 месяца назад

Oooo I'm with Dad on this one

@VintagepaperdollcuttingC-wq5ql 3 месяца назад

OMG! No wonder her father is salty! 18 is way too young! I know you feel it, but you change so much in the next seven years it’s incredible. Just wait a while you’re gonna have to put up with her and she’s gonna have to put up with you for the rest of your life! This is not like picking a meal at Burger King

@AvaMeli-qk1fb 3 месяца назад

I completely disagree I’m 19 will be 20 in November coming from someone who is married and married my now husband after 7 months I think when a person is ready they know and people should not judge or disapprove of someone choosing to be happy with someone marriage is a commitment I think people who refuse to marry are afraid of committing to one person age is truly just a number and I don’t believe the father has to give the okay reason being who is he to decide who I can or cannot marry it’s my choice my husband did ask my father but even if he said no I would have continued to choose happiness over my father saying no or disapproving it’s been a year going on two since we have been together

@evelyn-xv5pi 3 месяца назад

@@AvaMeli-qk1fbcongratulations!:) i wish you & ur husband nothing but happiness! my boyfriend & i have been together for a year! i just turned 19 & i can confidently say i want one man in my life forever & thats my boyfriend:) i believe there is no age to love as long as two people respect, love, & honor eachother through good and the bad then anything can happen 💖🤗

@AvaMeli-qk1fb 3 месяца назад

@@evelyn-xv5pi I love this so much you are absolutely right!! I appreciate it so much and I wish you and your bf a wonderful life together I see your commitment it’s a beautiful thing honestly and worth every second to be with the person you love so dearly 🥰❤️

@JackH_123 2 месяца назад

@@AvaMeli-qk1fbwould like to know how the relationship is going 5-10 years from now

@AvaMeli-qk1fb 2 месяца назад

@@JackH_123 we are both Christian and it’s going on two years thanks for the check in though

@therealmolldoll8605 3 месяца назад

He's 21, she's 18, she'll be 19 in 2 months. They've been dating for 9 months, but "met a while ago" on tinder. Meaning she could have been 15, 16, 17 while he's 18, 19, 20. :/ not saying this is inherently wrong but it's something to consider.

@julesking1303 3 месяца назад

If she’s going to be 19 in 2 months, and they’ve been together for 9 months, that means the oldest she could’ve been when they met was a month over 18. Most people are still in high school for a least a couple months while they’re 18. He was dating a high schooler when he was 20. I know the age gap isn’t actually that big, but the gap in what stage of their life they were in is massive and concerning. Being any college age and dating a high schooler is bizarre and gross.

@Olivetree80 3 месяца назад

I think he's saying they met when she was 18, but still, she's soo young to be getting married, barely an adult.

@magicofshootingstar 3 месяца назад

@therealmolldoll8605 You forgot that the understanding of time is different when you are younger. "A while ago" for him could be 10 months while dating 9 months 😃

@StrawberryAppleCream 3 месяца назад

I think 3 years is a very normal age difference. Even if its 17 and 20. Quite young to get married tho

@FancyRPGCanada 3 месяца назад

They’re within 5 years of age, it’s fine

@maggiv5401 3 месяца назад

No matter how many people here comment that they have been together since they were very young, it doesn’t change the fact that the odds are very much against a young marriage like that. It’s quite interesting that this young man says we met a while ago. They’ve only known each other nine months. It doesn’t mean it couldn’t work out. Another question is how long do they plan to be engaged? What are they gonna do for money? Have they talked about whether they want to have children? Would they be willing to go to premarital counseling?

@PsychoMoFoGaming Месяц назад

Statistically people who marry younger and wait to have sex with their partner till marriage have increased success rates. The odds are actually in their favor. Esspecially if they are religious (christian) as that decreases the chances of divorce significantly.

@oolala53 Месяц назад

@@PsychoMoFoGamingI guess I missed that they were waiting to have sex and are religious. That represents so much smaller pool of people and I can understand how it would increase the odds of staying together.

@PsychoMoFoGaming Месяц назад

@@oolala53 not really a smaller group of people either, at least in america. 63% of the USA in 2023 still identified as being christian. But it depends on where you go and the state. In europe its massively smaller group of people as they are majority agnostic or atheistic same with the bigger liberal cities in america, youll find smaller demographics. In the end chances dont mean anything. It comes down to the individual people and their sacrifices and dedication to each other. They can have a 99% success rate and still fail 10/10 times or visa versa. Instead of trying to calculate the failure problability we should all put our minds, hearts and prayers to their success, be it if they are 18 and 21 or 55 and 72. No one can truly predict the direction of their future. We can make educated guesses and give advice or opinions but rarely does life follow the statistical or probable path. Lets hope for their best and let them prepare for the worst if they feel the need to.

@samanthaquant7411 3 месяца назад

Met my sweet hubby of 12 years when I was 15. We didn’t date until I was 20 Though. Love that guy ❤

@lorainefleeman6011 2 месяца назад

But you knew each other for 5 years

@LauraBeeDannon 3 месяца назад

I married the guy I met at 18. We are still together 30 yrs later. Of course, we were together for years before we got married. But it can work. My parents only knew eachother 6 weeks before my dad proposed. 6 weeks later they were married. Still together over 50 yrs. ❤❤❤

@jenniferblake3296 3 месяца назад

Same here. My husband and I have been together since I was 18 and he was 20. In August we'll be celebrating 30 years.

@Youdoxxikill 3 месяца назад

It was different when you only met 1,000 people in your life time back then lol

@LauraBeeDannon 3 месяца назад

@andrewroberts4071 Just mtg ppl in person? It's easy to meet people. I prob met a thousand ppl by the time I was 5. Do you mean to have relationships? Most ppl only have about 12 decent meaningful relationships, including friends and family in their lifetimes. Online? Yeah, that number is in the grazzillions😆

@jenniferblake3296 3 месяца назад

@andrewroberts4071 um, I'm from a city of over a million people and went to high school with over 1,500 people so......

@backwoodsbaby9729 3 месяца назад

I knew a couple who got married after 3 days of knowing each other, and were married for decades (until he died) But that was also when people didn't even have divorce as an option

@enlighteningstar 2 месяца назад

At first you think "how archaic" but when he reveals their ages and how long (or short) they were together, it makes more sense.

@5warrilows 3 месяца назад

“Salty” is absolutely NOT the word I would have used - “disrespected” is the word I’d use in my opinion. Definitely not a great way to bring who families together but hey I may just be old school 🤷🏻‍♀️ definitely talk it out w the father, hopefully they can come together instead of drift apart

@beckee6282 3 месяца назад

18 years old and 9 months together 😂 that will 100% last. I can’t imagine being married to my high school boyfriend

@rileynatalie 3 месяца назад

I did in 07. Started dating in 05 at 18 & 19. Got married, had our first of two kids now he’s graduating & we’re still together 20yrs later, but I’ll admit it’s not for everyone.

@Durelle522 3 месяца назад

I'd say you're the exception, congratulations. The human brain doesn't stop growing until age 25 so we don't always know ourselves.

@SharkB503 3 месяца назад

@@Durelle522Yes, but the idea is to grow together. My parents and my husband's parents got married in that age range. It used to be pretty common. You definitely don't have better odds of not getting divorced by focusing on a career, living with a partner, and waiting until you're 'ready' for marriage.

@werm3169 3 месяца назад

@SharkB503 It used to be pretty common indeed, and it's also responsible for the skyrocketing divorce rates when no-fault divorce was legalised - all those people who married young finally had a means of leaving each other. Divorce rates are actually currently falling as all those folks have now gotten divorced, and the new generation isn't rushing into marriage. As you said in your original comment, it's not for everyone. Most of the time, it doesn't work out the way it did for you guys. Most people do not grow from adolescence to adulthood along the same trajectory as their first loves, and it's a matter of chance as to whether two very young people will still be compatible once they've matured and come to understand themselves.

@user-bx4ti6ig3i 3 месяца назад

I did in 2009 when I was 20. We dated for 4 months before we got married. That was 15 years ago. 😊

@jesscasto 3 месяца назад

My husband was 34 and he still asked my dad 😂

@diananoonen2262 3 месяца назад

Our culture in America is not supportive of young marriages. Its hard! Forget the age...what is the fiance going to do to take care of this father's little girl in the manner he set up for her? Dad is protective!

@judyperri9496 3 месяца назад

For good reason because they have no clue what they are up against

@fellowviewer1095 3 месяца назад

Check out the statistics. They're most likely getting a divorce. Their brains aren't even done growing yet

@Tlittau3944 3 месяца назад

@@judyperri9496right!?! Especially these days during these ever changing times… ITS SO HARD RIGHT NOW FOR MANY OF US.

@MijoShrek 3 месяца назад

@@Tlittau3944as if this is just how young love occurs. So Where's that handbook to successful loving relationships In America at again? That everyone's life is unfolding exactly the same or something.

@angelavocalino34 3 месяца назад

i know it's hard, but the sooner you get partnered up, the better off you are. I was 26 and my husband was 38. I was married 1 time before and he was sweet and all but he didn't love me. My husband LOVES me and I love him, and there's no mistaking it, that's why it has lasted. I wish we'd met each other earlier, would've saved us a lot of heartache. Our son is just about to go to college and we're planning our second honeymoon. 🎉 This is what makes life worth living: love, marriage, family, memories, adventures, babies, etc.

@amandaaltergott4703 3 месяца назад

Met my husband when I was 18 and he was 20. Engaged after a month. Lived together after a month. Married after a year. We did wait another 3 or so years to have babies but I’m glad we did. We had such a solid foundation to stand on. Now it’s been 9 years together, 8 years married. And I still love him more every day. He’s taught me so much about love and life, and we’ve essentially grown up together in that way. We talk a lot, about the big things and the little things. Don’t argue very often, just petty stuff. All this to say… everyone is different. No specific detail about a relationship predisposes it to failure. The individuals make it what it turns out to be.

@KrB12345 3 месяца назад

Someone get this man to tinder marketing ASAP

@faithmbogu6198 3 месяца назад

😂😂😂

@AK-jt9gx 3 месяца назад

I’m the actual example. 26, met on tinder at ages 18 and 20 and we’re getting married after 8 years (we simply weren’t in a rush, but we’re sure it’ll last)

@spiritualanarchy 3 месяца назад

I got engaged to my now husband when I was 27 after 3 years together he knew it was a requirement to talk to my father, who I adore more than anyone else in this world. so he did, and my father Kindly gave his blessing. I knew he would. Most good fathers will give their blessing if they know the man is a good man and truly loves their daughter and will provide/protect to the best of their ability. It's just a respect thing, but it's a big one to me. kudos to the young man for calling in and seeking advice, shows immense maturity for such a young age! I hope he reaches out and the conversation goes smoothly. I wish many years of happiness. ❤

@marionunziodibartolomeo Месяц назад

just out of curiosity, what do you mean by “requirement”? are you saying you wouldn’t have married him without him being deemed worthy by your parents? it’s not a dig at all, i’m just wondering because it’s completely different from how my parents were married and how i was raised to see healthy marriages. it feels very strange that some families take this so seriously. to me, it kinda seems disrespectful on a family’s part to believe they can give an approval (or not) on a young man, and “give their blessing” i honestly wouldn’t even want that blessing. it all sounds like its fueled by ego and not of the genuine wanting to bless.

@stardustgirl2904 3 месяца назад

I got engaged 💍 at 22 after four months of being together! 💜🙏🏻We were married 3 months later. And we have been married 32 years and 4 kids later! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🎉Young love can work, just always put God first!

@lenitaa7938 3 месяца назад

One can ‚put God first‘ and still have a disastrous or an unhealthy relationship or an unworkable marriage! There is domestic abuse, affairs, divorces, etc in the Evangelical Churches also! All it takes is one person! Or two people that are just not suited for one another! Your ‚put God first‘ sounds trite and does not acknowledge that some marriages do not work for a variety of reasons! Just because it worked for u, it doesn’t make it true for some other devout Christians! And please do not say, ‚pray more‘, etc!

@stardustgirl2904 3 месяца назад

@lenitaa7938 There will always be strife in mortality. Troubles in life will always come, but they are for our good! They help us to learn and grow from them! They unite us with Jesus Christ 🙏! In the garden of Gethsemane he felt every pain and sorrow, we have ever had in life! In our strife we turn to him in prayer 🙏 and seek his comfort and guidance in our lives! But if we choose to put God first 🙏 he will be our constant companion ✨️ during difficult times! Being united as a couple in God and in our faith, has given my marriage of 32 years solid ground to stand on, in times of hardships. We have been through hard things in life, but God has brought us through them and we have been made stronger because of it. Anyways this is just what works for me and my husband and our family. We live without drama between us. And that's the key 🔑 to our happiness! 🌻🌻🌻🌻🙏🏻💜✨️

@billygoat9259 3 месяца назад

Actually if you put God first that also means you are following his commands. If you follow his commands you set your marriage up perfectly for success. In Ephesians 5:22-33 it says “22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church- 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[b] 32 This is a profound mystery-but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.” This verse is often misread as wives submit husbands lead which isn’t the case it’s wives submit husbands love which sets the grounds for a beautiful and healthy marriage. I am not Christian but rather a branch off of Judaism but I do agree that a few Christians use the Bible to put fear into their spouse which is blatantly wrong and against the Bible and its principles. But if you truly have a God centered marriage then it can be one of the best most fruitful marriages.

@luzfelipe2964 3 месяца назад

Different times. 19 is too young.

@stardustgirl2904 3 месяца назад

@luzfelipe2964 It might be for some, yes, I agree! But I know 19 year old woman who graduated graduated from high school at 15, and they went straight into college and know three languages, and they are also musical! It truly depends on the individual and the maturity level and education, and life experiences!

@elainebmack 3 месяца назад

I feel reassured in reading these comments about people who married young and are still together and happy after 20, 30, 40 years. I've always felt it was possible to be married young and be happy with one's spouse for many years. You hear so much of the opposite today.

@vojo1461 3 месяца назад

Definitely! I married my husband at 21 and we are now in our early 40s. Not exactly teens, but we were both cautioned that we were too young. Still in love several children and 20 years later. He did the traditional thing where he asked me first, then asked my father. I think that any relationship can persevere and grow so long as both partners have the same goals and the same values. As long as your intentions are the same and you do not compromise on them, you will be successful. Best regards.

@MrsShocoTaco 3 месяца назад

My husband and I met when we were 19, moved in together within days and got married about a year later. That was 29 years ago and I just handed him his coffee as he left for work. 😊

@maggiv5401 3 месяца назад

Nobody says it can’t work. It’s just that of all the people in the same situation as you, the vast majority of them are divorced.

@MrsShocoTaco 3 месяца назад

@@maggiv5401 I do count myself as very lucky

@teresamagnusson 2 месяца назад

He should be handing you coffee.

@MrsShocoTaco 2 месяца назад

@@teresamagnusson He does it on the weekends when he's home. What is your implication, precisely?

@teresamagnusson 2 месяца назад

@@MrsShocoTacoThat you need to get a job, ma'am. And he needs to reciprocate with some coffee.

@loridyson569 3 месяца назад

Have these 2 kids talked about: what jobs are they going to get or have, how are they going to handle bank accounts & paying bills, how many children & when, birth control, pets, where to live & apartment or house, rent or purchase a home, drinking & party habits, friendships, vacations how often & where? Have they ever talked about any of these? This all needs to be talked before & decided on before the I DO!

@Kira_Martel Месяц назад

I got married at 20 and have been married almost 14 years now and I *still* don't know if either of us could have one solid answer to "vacations: how often, and where?" So much of that depends on things you can't plan for like car or medical expenses, vet bills, work commitments and business trips, etc. Some of the things you mentioned are important to know beforehand, sure, but some of those things, like kids, we spent years talking about after getting married. At ages 20 and 23 we had a notepad document with our favorite kids names, and now at 34 and 37, we're still child free. Know yourselves, know each other, but know that things will change and you'll have to give yourselves and each other room to grow if you're gonna make it work. Even if you have all those questions answered by the wedding day, the answers might change for one or both of you as the years go by, and it's just as important to know how to navigate that.

@loridyson569 Месяц назад

@@Kira_Martel You just proved the point I was trying to make. You 2 talked about most of these things which means you 2 understood the responsibility of marriage which is how to have a civil discussion. Results may & will change in your lives as you said they have which is great because you 2 talked it out & moved past a change or problem. Most kids or young adults just jump into sex or marriage before they can have 1 civil discussion to solve a problem. Hope your happy marriage lasts forever!

@Kira_Martel Месяц назад

@@loridyson569 Thank you! I wasn't trying to disagree necessarily, I mostly just wanted to speak to the "and decided on" part of your comment, since we had a lot of people in our life treat us like we had to have all our plans for the future set in stone before we said "I do." I just don't want any engaged young people out there getting the idea that they need to have it all figured out *before* getting married, or that deciding these things will make it all smooth sailing after that. You don't, and it won't. That's why marriage is called a "formative institution" after all. It forms you as you grow in it. Wedding day is only the first day of the rest of your lives.

@lydiadeere5668 3 месяца назад

Ok, her dad has every right to be salty, even if she was like 25, but ESPECIALLY if she is barely an adult

@sabi3052 3 месяца назад

So her dad and society deems her old enough to have sex with multiple men but not get married?? Love western degenerates.

@noprogressionisregression6854 3 месяца назад

Okay so if you feel this way what about the mom? Why would you not care what the mom thinks instead of what the dad thinks or how about both of them? This just says that we live in a patriarchal society where we still believe the man is the head of the household and it's utter bulshit. Thank God things are changing

@desireesmith862 3 месяца назад

@@noprogressionisregression6854Her being 18 changed things for me just a little because I’m that age too lol. But not enough for me to care. If a guy went to my dad to ask for my hand for marriage I wouldn’t marry him after that. Disgusting and patriarchal.

@Googleisyourfriend. 3 месяца назад

Why? Because he didn’t ask dads permission? Is she a piece of property? Is she not an adult? Is it not HER choice who she marries and when? Asking for permission implies that dad has the right to choose who his daughter marries…so what happens when he says no? Should the daughter then break off the relationship because daddy doesn’t like it? The same person who sees it as disrespectful to not ask is the same person who views her as a piece of property and her dad as the owner of that property. This “tradition” literally exists because of the anachronistic notion that women were considered property and that even if marrying for love women were under the control of men and needed permission to leave the family home. That’s a big no.

@missmew3499 3 месяца назад

@@noprogressionisregression6854 wow, I'm so glad I'm Gen X. The last generation who jas respect for our own parents, and the parents of our loved ones. What's wrong with asking a man for his daughter's hand in marriage? It's the respectful, proper thing to do. A man wants to know that his daughter will be taken care of. He wants that moment to have a heart to heart with the man who marries jis daughter. If you don't understand a man's love for his daughter, just say that.

@ktdubs-vf5jj 3 месяца назад

Even my husband at 33 asked my dad permission. I was 29. You always talk to the dad. It may seem redundant, and shes her own person and can make her own decisions, you should still make sure dad and you are on the same page.

@emmahelps1188 3 месяца назад

Respectfully disagree. My fiancé didn't. I'm my own person and I don't need anyone's blessing for my own decisions in life. It's an old fashioned sentiment. If you want to do it great, but don't make people out to be disrespectful for not doing it

@DaveTexas 3 месяца назад

So, sweetie, what would you have done if your dad refused to give his approval/blessing/permission? Would you have remained your own person and gotten married anyway? The custom of men having to negotiate for the price of the bride - and the bride not being part of the process - is not only antiquated, but also offensively misogynistic. It’s a custom that needs to die off.

@theshadowfax239 3 месяца назад

Why?

@Alex-pr9dj 3 месяца назад

@@DaveTexascouldn’t agree more with this. 10 years now with my wife when her dad wanted me dead at one point. Now everything is nice and cozy but if I listened to him I would’ve missed out on the absolute biggest blessing I’ve ever received in life hands down. My wife has not only made me a better person but literally helped me grow with her. She’s the reason I’m where I’m at and it hurts my heart to think about if we listened to her parents, we wouldn’t be together. Even if something happens, she’s given me the best 10 years of my life so far and that is priceless

@desireesmith862 3 месяца назад

@@theshadowfax239Apparently her dad owns her and can say no on her behalf. (Hopefully the sarcasm in this is obvious. I just don’t see any other reason for this “ask permission” thing. If they want to be on the same page just chat about it after he’s proposed.)

@user-hx9iq4yv8n 3 месяца назад

Cmon man. Can you blame the dad? Maybe old fashioned, but as a man you should show the father some respect and at least tell them you're going to do it, particularly that young.

@christianandjesse7370 3 месяца назад

Why? That's weird.

@user-hx9iq4yv8n 3 месяца назад

@@christianandjesse7370 what's weird is getting engaged to an 18 year old you've been with for 9 months and not saying anything about it beforehand to the other family, but oh well.

@WendyTruscott 3 месяца назад

We as a society have long moved past asking for a daughter’s hand in marriage. Heck, I was married at 20 to a 24 year- old university graduate ( I was put ahead in school and had graduated from college) and neither of us ever thought he should talk to my dad first. It’s demeaning to the woman. We’ve had a happy marriage that’s lasted over 62 years!

@user-hx9iq4yv8n 3 месяца назад

@@WendyTruscott thanks for your opinion.

@michellewerner2238 3 месяца назад

Ya it's weird she's an adult not a goat

@emmahelps1188 3 месяца назад

Successful tinder relationship here! We'd been together 6 months when he proposed. Now we have a son. However we were a decade older than them! Its an old fashioned sentiment to ask the fathers blessing, it's just not necessary these days. But being so young, they may have wanted to hold off for a few years. Having said that I know a few couples who married young and are still together! Sometimes you just find your soulmate when you're young

@judyperri9496 3 месяца назад

And more likely than that you don’t

@lenitaa7938 3 месяца назад

No, it is about acknowledging her parents and showing them respect! She didn’t just appear! They raised her!

@emmahelps1188 3 месяца назад

@judyperri9496 says who? Considering 50% of all marriages end in divorce anyway - seems like it doesn't matter what age you are

@emmahelps1188 3 месяца назад

@lenitaa7938 correct, they raised her to be a person independent with her own mind and direction in life. We dont have kids to control them. I get them being young, but it's not disrespectful. They're adults capable of making their own decisions and learning from them too. By all means, having a discussion with both sets of parents would have been a great idea- but what everyone is getting their knickers in a knot about is - asking permission is not appropriate in this day in age. It's a tradition that some like and others don't. Ergo, don't push your agenda on others

@WinstonSmithGPT 3 месяца назад

@@emmahelps1188😂😂😂 Because divorces, single parent households and children raising children don’t create problems others have to deal with? Smug mouths require firm hands.

@haff9227 3 месяца назад

I would be upset too. They are too young

@scuba6797 3 месяца назад

That's the perfect age to start a family. Just don't start a family with someone you meet on tinder!

@Yoshimetzen 3 месяца назад

Not even thinking to approach the father for his blessing proves that he is not mature enough.

@yolandaneely6431 3 месяца назад

What mother would be excited for her 18 years old daughter? Sounds like dad has more common sense.

@desireesmith862 3 месяца назад

Yup. It’s so weird the mom was excited. I don’t agree with the idea of asking the father permission at all but in this case the dad is mad about the marriage because of age, right? If he’s mad about simply not being asked then he’s crazy too.

@ODrane 3 месяца назад

@@desireesmith862I'm the guy in the video, I called her dad immediately after and he was thankful I called, and didn't have really any hard feelings about it. Her dad and I have been pretty close for most of our relationship and we respect each other, so my character/age is not why he was "salty". He was "salty" because I didn't come to him first, which I understand. But we talked it out, mainly finances and technicalities around marriage, and both are families are on board to merge as one.

@teresamagnusson 2 месяца назад

@@ODraneWhy go to him first? You're not marrying him.

@florato9387 3 месяца назад

On one hand, this "asking her father for her hand" is some patriarchal bullshit. On the other, engaged after 9 months at 18?!

@lenitaa7938 3 месяца назад

No, it is about Respecting her parents!

@Alex-pr9dj 3 месяца назад

@@lenitaa7938it’s not the parents relationship. This bugs the living crap out of me. Everyone who views it this way fails to acknowledge how many parents don’t support ANY relationship their kid has untill it’s what THEY view as PERFECT for THEIR kid. Failing to see that their kids are autonomous human beings that can make decisions for themselves. Respect is earned. And to top that off, respect doesn’t equal asking for someone’s permission to have their “property” because that’s really how that is,

@florato9387 3 месяца назад

@@Alex-pr9dj And it's never "ask the mom". Always the dad. I think maybe a discussion with the parents would be respectful under normal circumstances, but it also depends on what age the person is and what the relationship with the parents is.

@myyt3824 3 месяца назад

No it’s respect.

@just_me2797 3 месяца назад

Do you have a daughter, if so how old and are you a full time dad?

@chunli1143 3 месяца назад

this looks like a recipe for disaster im scared

@BuryMeInBabylon 3 месяца назад

Why

@mollygrace3068 3 месяца назад

As a parent, I wouldn’t care about him not talking to us, I’d just be against the whole thing period.

@spr1ngcactu5 3 месяца назад

He only knows what she looks like naked, I’m sure this marriage will last another 9 months

@terseandtiny1746 3 месяца назад

Some ppl actually date using tinder

@jestersage8700 3 месяца назад

@@terseandtiny1746what percentage would you say tho?

@Tattletales402 3 месяца назад

Ah yes, because no young couple has ever lasted, nine months it is!

@spr1ngcactu5 3 месяца назад

@@Tattletales402 they might last longer than another 9 months and i would like to make a money bet with you on it, how much money do you have?

@UNcommonSenseAUS 3 месяца назад

Lol I know right 😂😂

@kristincusick1342 3 месяца назад

My husband didn’t talk to my dad before he proposed. But, we were 27 and had been together for 3 years. My dad knew my husband very well and liked him. This is a very different situation and has red flags all over the place. My dad would have been pissed if a guy proposed to me, when I was 18, he was 21, and we had been dating for 9 months. My guy, read the room!!

@AlexandraVioletta 3 месяца назад

You can find love online. If you're both decent human beings.

@Stjwoo99 2 месяца назад

Dad should say NO!’

@marymcdaniel3883 3 месяца назад

Even if it wasn't asking permission, there should have been a conversation with the parents before popping the question. Don't people want a decent relationship with their in-laws?

@BuryMeInBabylon 3 месяца назад

Why?

@K10House 3 месяца назад

NOOOOOOO! No engagement before you've been together long enough for your physiology to correct back to normal, and not until you've had a chance to really go through some conflict & challenging situations together. They don't really know themselves yet, let alone each other.

@riograndelily8344 3 месяца назад

My husband and I met and dated for 4 months go married. 34 years later we are still together.

@AJZona-AJR79 3 месяца назад

My parents got engaged after two weeks, they celebrate 51 years this year. Congratulations on your union! 34 years is awesome.

@LauraBeeDannon 3 месяца назад

@AJZona-AJR79 my parents had 6 weeks❤

@joejackson9172 3 месяца назад

I'm so glad I'm not young and dumb anymore. Lol

@knightartorias1825 3 месяца назад

I forbade my husband from asking my father. I'm not property. He asks me only. He can ask my dad after if it's that important to him, but that's just a courtesy because it didn't matter what my dad thought. The thing is though- I've made my father aware of this from the get go. This isn't something i would ever make my fiance navigate on his own. My dad was 100% aware this was my opinion long before i met my husband.

@surlespasdondine 3 месяца назад

yes!!!

@desireesmith862 3 месяца назад

I definitely agree with this. Though I’m a little worried to tell my father of this. He’s going to have to find out the hard way as this kind of stuff never goes over well with him.

@tessajones9393 3 месяца назад

She's 18 though

@Luciiffeerr 3 месяца назад

Exactly! It’s your relationship. Not your father’s. It’s so old school and stupid 😂😂😂

@cwfs1007 3 месяца назад

100% agree. Not to rub it in, but I'm super lucky to have a dad that finds the custom ridiculous. He would be appalled if a man asked his permission to marry me, as he should be. I wish more fathers felt like that. It's time to move into the future.

@hllymchll 3 месяца назад

i met my now husband on tinder. we were each other's first and only tinder dates. yes we used the app "wrong" yes we were naive and didnt know it was essentially for hookups. we got married a year after dating and now have a 3 year old and 8 month old and have zero marrital issues.

@joshuaboneta 3 месяца назад

9 months is plenty if you share the same values and morals. And faith

@Meandsushiroll 3 месяца назад

Not when you are 18 I'm sorry nah

@kermitdfrog564 3 месяца назад

I was 19 and a half when I met my husband, he was 23 and we got engaged 2 months later. We have now been married for 19 years and have 3 kids. (17, 14, and, 6) And we're still going strong.

@LauraBeeDannon 3 месяца назад

My parents were only together 3 months before they were married. They are both Catholic and knew what they wanted. 54 yrs later❤still going.@Meandsushiroll

@kellenproctor5808 3 месяца назад

Normally I’d agree, but if you’re looking at this from a religious perspective you have to remember they probably aren’t if they met on Tinder. But who knows

@LillyMarz777 3 месяца назад

Exactly.😊

@zeus6654 3 месяца назад

As an FYI to the young men out there. You are asking for her father’s blessing not his permission to marry his daughter. They are different.

@dancada11 3 месяца назад

This marriage will be over faster than it started

@stardustgirl2904 3 месяца назад

I know couples that dated in high school and have been married 40 years! Young love can work! But these couples put God first in all they do!🙏🏻💜

@UNcommonSenseAUS 3 месяца назад

100% he only knows what she looks like naked at this point it will be over in another 9 months

@devdawg22 3 месяца назад

As a parent I don't know if I would be salty in this situation but I would definitely have some options on it.

@fitztek8119 3 месяца назад

When it comes to Marriage relationships this new generation have NO clue. 😢😢😢😂

@EMbee7 3 месяца назад

They only know what's been modeled to them.

@desireesmith862 3 месяца назад

Apparently the previous one didn’t have a clue either

@desireesmith862 3 месяца назад

@@EMbee7Exactly.

@lopez8872 3 месяца назад

I met me boyfriend in middle school. We started courting as soon as we met. We were 13. We have two kids together now and are 30. I wouldnt wait if you know, you know!

@MamaRobynR 3 месяца назад

Jesus knows 18 is literally a child still in like 97%of cases. And even 21 has so little life experience. And 9 months is NOTHING IN A ROMANCE RELATIONSHIP. you can fake ur whole identity for longer than that😢. My daughter is 19 and definitely still a child in so many ways I’d laugh if I heard she was “engaged” honestly bc there’s just absolutely no way. I know everyone is “different” I had a child by 20 and at 18 I had my own apartment n life 3 hours away from my family but that was a very different situation. And even I wish i slowed down and lived as a single childless adult for a few yrs to get to know ME as an individual before all that other stuff. But instead I’m 40 and trying just now to figure it out. Enjoy your young years a bit. Pls!

@Notahaterforreal 3 месяца назад

I wish them the best of luck. Just bc you’re young doesn’t mean it won’t work out. I hope it does for them 💜

@MitchieArciniega 3 месяца назад

I was 18 when my husband and I got married and I'm now 24 pregnant with our third child. Sometimes it does work out like that.

@backwoodsbaby9729 3 месяца назад

You are a baby still. Tell me it worked when you are 50 and still together 😂😂

@PositivelyPixelated 3 месяца назад

@@backwoodsbaby9729 We got married 4 months after I turned 20 and he was 21. It's been 25 years and three kids later. It can be pretty rough when you get married that young and you don't really know who you are, but it is entirely possible. In some ways it helps because as you develop who you are, you kind of mesh with your partner because they're still figuring out who they are too. However, we did go to therapy, and we had very supportive parents who helped us navigate the trickier parts.

@maggiv5401 3 месяца назад

Do you think being married six years proves it has worked out? Doesn’t mean it won’t but plenty of marriages and even after six years.

@monicavandeventer5429 3 месяца назад

My husband would lose his crap if he wasn't spoken to beforehand 😂

@lilinsulatorchick9665 3 месяца назад

John I watch/listen to you all the time.. and I just noticed.. please tell Kelly to allow you a fidget toy on air. You fidget like me when I'm listening and I can tell by the way you move the mic that you like attention drawn away from your listening self. Lol. The little clicky square things help me. They can edit out the sound it makes. Lol, love you like a brother. ❤

@reneeantwi-boasiako3974 3 месяца назад

I think the fidgety is part of his ADHD

@lilinsulatorchick9665 3 месяца назад

@reneeantwi-boasiako3974 me too lol

@sarahmurphy-nf4yl 3 месяца назад

No wonder the dad is furious!!

@yasminef974 3 месяца назад

I’m 21, every single one of my friends that got married at 18-19 or close to it (mind you this has only been a couple years) have SERIOUS relationships problems

@CouncilEstateRach 3 месяца назад

So many people I know who got together in school or teens are still together now... it does happen.... we are all in our 50s now.

@bodyofhope 3 месяца назад

Everyone I know has serious relationship problems no matter when they got married.

@AlexandraVioletta 3 месяца назад

I'm German. German boomer married early. At the age of 22 most people were married and had 2 (TWO!) or 3 kids. Most couples I know are still married.

@DaveTexas 3 месяца назад

Yep. Getting married at 18 is usually what high school sweethearts do as their relationships are coming to their natural conclusion. They believe that getting married with breathe new life into the relationship. It never does.

@athena_the_hun1097 3 месяца назад

When she said yes, you both should have gone to her parents. ❤

@robinhollingsworth1368 3 месяца назад

I'm dropping red flags left and right!!

@annaarmstrong2652 3 месяца назад

Poor kid! He wants to be taken seriously 😢

@amandabradley884 3 месяца назад

I was 19 my husband was 22. We were married about 1year from when we met and still happy together after 30 years and 4 children ❤

@ygm_dom6702 3 месяца назад

Me too we were married 52 years and had 7 children five of which are adopted. Great life together😊

@jennymclean2323 3 месяца назад

In this day and age ? If my man asked my father before me I would have turned him down and I have been married for 45 years. My Husband told my son in law off so you don’t own your daughter

@Sk-nb3yl 3 месяца назад

Does this guy have the means to support a family ?? He’s 21 and the girl is 18. It’s every parents nightmare

@really2345 3 месяца назад

Why is this every parent's nightmare?

@jessiejoseph1093 3 месяца назад

@@really2345 Because they are too young

@itsyourboyyy 3 месяца назад

@@jessiejoseph1093nah. Best couples I've seen are like this. Getting older just makes you more picky.

@Rin22730 3 месяца назад

People have had children with little to no resources for all of human history. No amount of money is safe. Happiness is more than just money

@tessajones9393 3 месяца назад

Lmao, if you have to say when their next birthday is, they're too young 😂😂

@lilymcnabb6621 3 месяца назад

People are so negative about their age and pace to marriage. From what I can tell waiting til you are 30 and dated 5 years is not working. It is like everyone is keeping an eye out for the "better" that rarely comes and if it does is only a facade of better.

@Silver-cl2bd 2 месяца назад

Boy was he laying the sarcasm on thick about that tender stuff LOL

@RG-hf4et 3 месяца назад

Didn't this kid ever learn to talk to her father?!!!

@0kieD0kiee 2 месяца назад

It’s definitely not for everyone, but my husband and I got married when we were 18/19 and we’re going on seven years married now. Sometimes it can work you just have to communicate and be willing to go through growing pains together.

@TomWakeman-ul7om 3 месяца назад

Slow your roll whats the rush?

@lizeggar2421 2 месяца назад

I was 17 when I met my husband, aged 23. It was love at first sight, for me. Of course my husband proposed to me first, before asking my parents. We had known each other 6 months. We were married for 48 years, before he passed from cancer, 12 years ago. I still miss him terribly.

@caleighhraee 3 месяца назад

If my husband didn’t ask my dad I would’ve been pretty upset

@DaveTexas 3 месяца назад

Yes, because you’re a piece of property whose price needs to be negotiated by the only people with a say in all matters - the men. 🙄

@theshadowfax239 3 месяца назад

Most women have enough self worth to realize that they are not their father's property to be given away to become property for another man. And if your dad said no, would you not marry the guy? 🙄

@Alex-pr9dj 3 месяца назад

@@theshadowfax239 yeah my wife asked me specifically not to ask her dad for this reason. So many dads would say no and then what do you do? My 10 year relationship wouldn’t have happened. People still mentally live in the 1800’s apparently

@desireesmith862 3 месяца назад

⁠@@Alex-pr9djEven though your already married to answer your question: Elope. If the situation is safe the daughter can simply tell the dad that she has made her choice. I think this asking permission thing is really degrading. Imagine being 30 and someone wants to ask your dad if you can get married. Might as well be asking for a play date at that point.

@addiechim239 3 месяца назад

Length of relationship doesn’t always matter, but at 18 how well do you actually know your partner and know how to be in a relationship? I think that before popping the question, there should have been a conversation asking what her wishes and expectations are concerning her parents when the time does come to ask. Can’t blame the dad for being upset, but if he’s reasonable hopefully this guy is able to sit him down and apologize for not coming to him first.

@Fille_en_bleu 3 месяца назад

In the uk we say middle class if you are not working class and not a ‘bourgeois’ or royal even

@darcydarling984 3 месяца назад

I got married to my late husband after meeting on AOL in 1995. We met online on Sunday, IRL on Monday, then drove to Vegas and married on Wednesday. We were married 28 years. We both just knew. Even with all of the issues, especially his secrets I discovered after he died, I would do it all again. I made a vow for better or worse Too many people want to discard their spouse without trying.

@Nenernener123 3 месяца назад

If you are using halves, months, etc in metrics of time you should at the very least have a long engagement.

@ThePinkPantha21 Месяц назад

I wouldnt take advice from most people regarding anything dealing with marriage. I feel like if he knows he is ready, he is ready. You figure stuff out along the way. Talk to the dad and get his blessing its a sign of respect.

@patbateman69420 3 месяца назад

I didn't ask my father in law before I asked my wife. I would never ask another man permission of who I am going to marry. Who cares what the fool thinks. The only thing that matters is what me and my wife and I want or think.

@marcofemto9417 3 месяца назад

Idc what the comments say. Im happy for these guys to be getting married young. My grandparents were together since thry were 15 y/o. My cousins got married right after highschool, my girlfriend's parents married after highschool as well. They are all still happily together

@judyperri9496 3 месяца назад

Your grandmother had no choice but to stay That’s what you don’t get A totally different time when women had few options and the family pressure was enormous

@Rin22730 3 месяца назад

@@judyperri9496 or people had more respect for eachother and themselves back then...

@judyperri9496 3 месяца назад

@@Rin22730 Absolutely not Women had few options Getting divorced was a big no no Not being able to get credit or even having a savings account was the life women lived Just keep telling yourself it was because of love and commitment because many women would have left their situations if they had any other options

@Sarah.mc1612 3 месяца назад

You GOT TO ask the dad 💯

@julieguelfi9936 3 месяца назад

Why? She isn't property that is owned by the Dad! We aren't in the dark ages!!!

@Sarah.mc1612 3 месяца назад

@@julieguelfi9936 who said anything about property?? Every1 is so far up their own asses!! It’s called basic RESPECT 👌🏼

@Sarah.mc1612 3 месяца назад

@@pizzelle2 what’s this obsession with PROPERTY??? You people love a negative narrative & making it ALL about you! If you can’t comprehend basic levels of respect toward a future spouses parents- that my friend is a YOU problem 👌🏼

@jaspersgrimoire 3 месяца назад

I wasn’t asking my FIL if I could marry his daughter. Answer was always gonna be no for reasons that had fuckall to do with my character and everything to do with his homophobia.

@desireesmith862 3 месяца назад

@@jaspersgrimoireThis is another great reason not to ask permission. Women (along with all people) are not property and parents will say no based off of their own biases and prejudices.

@AD0724-x1s 3 месяца назад

My husband proposed to me at 20 and he was 23. I’m now 24 and he’s 26, we have two sons and we’re going on five years of being together and 4 years of being married. He didn’t ask my dad for permission but everyone was still supportive of us because it’s ultimately our decision and nobody else’s.

@barbarasieverding1754 3 месяца назад

I can’t believe how many people here really still expect the dad to be asked beforehand… What is this nonsense? It’s the 21st century and women are nobody’s properties. But apart from that, heading into marriage at that age after nine months seems pretty risky.

@jennna17 3 месяца назад

It’s not that simple. There’s more nuance to it.

@desireesmith862 3 месяца назад

@@jennna17Explain it then

@desireesmith862 3 месяца назад

Right. I definitely agree. If my husband wants to ask my dad, I’m going to call it off. It’s not something I agree with. Is he asking my dad because my permission as the person he wants to marry isn’t enough?

@anniecompton8348 2 месяца назад

I was 17 when we met, he was 20 (I turned 18 1 month later). We were engaged in 6 mo, married in 2 yrs (from dating). We have 18 years married, 4 kids and still acknowledge that our spouse choice was the best decision we ever made. Our story isn’t as rare as everyone wants to make it. When you know, you know.

@mitsuomits9077 3 месяца назад

That's too fast, no matter the age... too fast😮

@julieguelfi9936 3 месяца назад

My husband and dated for 6 weeks before getting engaged and married 4 months later. 1st child 18 months later and 2nd child 3 years after that. We have been married 43 years. Depends on the people involved and willingness to work through the issues.

@LauraBeeDannon 3 месяца назад

@@julieguelfi9936same faith and values means a lot

@AK-jt9gx 3 месяца назад

Dr John’s rude reaction is exactly why my fiancé and I simplify to “we met in college” when we actually met as a tinder match when we were going to the same college. We went on a classy first date, we liked each other, and 8 years later we’re getting married for a lifetime. Just because we were both introverts once who didn’t know how to meet people doesn’t mean real love can’t happen.

@Durelle522 3 месяца назад

Umm…together now. Can we say, limerence?

@Gxport 3 месяца назад

That’s a leap. Doesn’t sound like you understand the psych definition of that work

@desireesmith862 3 месяца назад

@@GxportRight. Im not even sure what she’s applying it too or who lol

@Wuznoturbiznis 3 месяца назад

Be the kind of father your daughter trusts to let them be a part of that decision making process. At 18 have hard questions, from a place of love, but if your child has already decided your permission isn’t important you’re never going to get that space back

@sueguerrero5913 3 месяца назад

All narcissists are on tinder

@kalinaorwick7963 3 месяца назад

My husband and I met & were married within a year of knowing each other. We have been married 21 yrs now with 4 kids. 3 of them adults now 😊 Just pop up to talk to dad with some food and apologize for the miscommunication. Give him a hug and move on from that. Congratulations to you young man. I wish you nothing more than happiness, love & success.

@AstrixCloud 3 месяца назад

Tbh.. if i has a daughter and her boyfriend or whatever didn't come to me to ask to marry my daughter.. i wouldn't give two shits 😂 she's got her own life and things to think about. Who am i to stop her from experiencing things?. I don't understand the whole "ask me first before you marry my daughter" like.. you're not dating your daughter. Id say no if i knew that dude was totally bad news for her and was a total asshole sure. But not if they're happy and have their head screwed on.

@desireesmith862 3 месяца назад

Some dude act like they are dating their daughters. My dad got pissed I wouldn’t give him a hug. I’ve been itching to move out ever since.

@vojo1461 3 месяца назад

Simple: Take parents out for a nice dinner, tell them you would like to formally ask for their daughter’s hand. They will likely tell you to wait a few years… which you should do. Work hard, save money, and water your relationship, getting to know both your fiancé and her parents more. You’ve stated your intentions. There is no rush.

@laurarosewallcarucci5707 3 месяца назад

My husband didn’t ask my fathers “permission” to marry me and my father STILL brings it up today 2 daughters and 13 years later =]

@desireesmith862 3 месяца назад

I’m really sorry to hear this. I know this cannot be something you enjoy. Congratulations on the long marriage and two daughters. I’m not married but I kinda understand because my father is overtly patriarchal and possessive of me. I’m not even in college yet and I already know I’m going to have to elope.

@laurarosewallcarucci5707 3 месяца назад

@@desireesmith862 I should add my dad brings it up in a sarcastic way!! But yes daddy’s are protective of their little girls.

@anlejo5416 3 месяца назад

He cares, that's what matters. They can make it work

@grcarie 3 месяца назад

Ask dad to hang out and talk to him about your intentions. Explain that you were so excited that you forgot the order of asking. Important. Tell him that you really want to provide for her and also, ASK FOR HIS ADVICE. Let him be involved and get close to you, because this is going to be hard for him.

@AndreDMalan1966 Месяц назад

21 and 18 are two kids! Take your time to REALLY get to know each other and to get to know yourselves... If she's "the one" there's no rush. Waiting and growing will show real maturity.

@ms.krueger2660 2 месяца назад

I knew my husband 7 months and been married 36 years. Have 3!sons. I was 23 and he was 25. If we had met as young as these two I am sure we would have still got married. We are still very happy.

@Matt-mh5us 3 месяца назад

I did that, then went and retroactively asked for permission, it was always going to be a yes but I proposed on the spur of the moment so I’d don’t get to ask first. The point is you care and will ask anyway. If the father is still salty after you then try to ask then, That’s on him