I Feel Like My Friend Is Taking Advantage of Me! 

He shouldn’t be telling people how well off he is; otherwise people with no shame will be using him.

No one ever takes advantage of you. You allow yourself to be taken advantage of.

Maybe it’s my pride, but as an adult I can’t ask anyone for money. I would have to be in dire need!

I do not loan money anymore, and I certainly don’t pay people’s bills, unless I absolutely hand pick what I want to give to.

If your friend is pocket watching they’re not your friend.

Loan as much as you are willing to lose

I am SO confused why he is the one reimbursing his daughter. Especially when the friend claims he has $100K in the bank. This is so not his responsibility, and if he gets involved in their business and mess, he will be pulled into problems that were never his and regret it.

The Dave Ramsey Show sounds like it's turning into The Dear Abby Show.

6/29/20....I have given 💰 anonymously. I have paid an electric bill for someone who doesn't have the 💰 & is about to get their power cut off. I have bought groceries/left them on a neighbor's front step/rang the 🛎/run off to watch from the bushes as the ppl open their front door. I have paid @ the drive-thru or parking lot for the person behind me. I have bought various gift cards---to grocery stores/drug store/book store (for college kid)/gas station/movie theater/sports event & stuck them in the mail or put them in someone's coat jacket as a surprise. BUT I WANT TO GIVE WHEN IT IS MY 💡....NOT WHEN SOMEBODY TRIES TO "GUILT" ME OR BEG!

He wants you to pay back his daughter for his medical visit ? What ?!

The “friend” asking you to reimburse HIS daughter is NOT a “friend”. You can offer after hearing the story, and that’s you’re choice. Someone asking you to do it is using you. It’s not your responsibility to pay his debts... People “bragging” about how much money they have, probably don’t have any. They may have HAD it at one point, but have blown it by now.

His friends is a lying about 100k in the bank that why.

His "friend" has some stones asking for that with a 100k in the bank.

I like giving, I love giving my server a nice tip, but America has a problem with everyone wanting a tip, Uber needs a tip, dry cleaner wants a tip, grocery delivery guy wants a tip. At what point do we say "is not my job to pay your employee"?

Funny to hear "just a couple hundred bucks" haha wow the ratios.

Friends and money don’t mix

"Something feels off about it" go with your first thought.

I watch too much DR, I saw this live 😂

If giving to a particular person or organization leaves you feeling sour or questioning if it was a worthy recipient, it wasn’t worth it.

If he wants to know if this person is his friend or not just say "no".

Ummm he is a grown man! Why is his daughter paying if he has $100,000?! Ryan dont do it! Ottawa has soo many communities that need actual help. Good luck.

SHOW ME YOUR FRIENDS AND ILL SHOW YOU YOU’RE FUTURE 🔥🔥

I feel what Dave saying when you get a certain level you can't be too generous. You have to move different.

That would be a solid NO.

It's funny you don't give to orgs in debt. This is one of the reasons I left my former church. They are in debt. I did not fee as though my tithe was being well managed.

I dated a girl for 2 years. And we had plans of marrying. However she cheated on me and it had a significant impact on my career because in that month I was supposed to be considered for a better position. During the relation girl used to take money from me for everything like buying clothes electronics , travel, living expenses etc which amounts to approx 10000 dollars even though it was a long distance relationship and we met for a month after every 4-5 months because of our Jobs. I used to give her money on the pretext that we trust each other enough. But that cheating part made me feel bitter.. Is she suppose to pay me back the money she used to ask me?

Love these dudes maannn 😎😎

Dave has a nice purple-wine shirt today.

I'm sure that people didn't understand what Dave was talking about here ... But that was deep Kingdom of God's stuff!!! What a blessing 🙏🏾

DAVE IS THE BEST!!! He inspired me to create my own Christian RU-vid Channel to refute the lies of cultural Christianity! Check it out!

"...random acts of money" - Dave Ramsey

I live in Canada an X-ray when not covered her is about $50.

How could someone even ask that! This guy should walk away from this person, as he is treating him like a door mat!

My church has a food bank and many other programs that help the community. I know they’re invested in God’s work. 👍💕

Thank you both for the video. Off topic a little, but my wife and I both come from immigrant families. Her maternal grandparents were a non-union mechanic and a seamstress. So they survive on fairly minimal social security, as income was used to scrape by and raise our family. We also have cousins that help take care of family elders that we help financially. We give these relatives a better lifestyle than social security and/or disability could afford, as our giving portion of "give like no one else". We don't give thoughtlessly or frivolously, and bad habits are not a problem with the family members we help out (that we know of from visiting and such). My questions would be, if you are from an immigrant family, at what point of wealth and family stability would be a reasonable time to give to charities? Do you have to give to charities, or is helping your family live above poverty just as good? Dave never really addresses immigrant families that are full of hard workers, but didn't have the skills, connections or knowledge of US society to be wealthy. He seems to focus mostly on generational wealth and callers/members who don't give at all to their families. So I would be interested his take on people who are the 1st in their families to be wealthy, while close family live around the poverty line. We have enough to help our family out, but I always feel awkward when my friends talk about giving to charities (consistently, disaster funding, etc.) and I just say that I give to family.

Who else wants to be Dave Ramsays server at the restaurant he frequents?? Raise your hand!! 🙋🏾‍♂️

Dr. Delony, you're wrong. He's being taking advantage by his called "friend." No needs to help

I’d like to hear Dave’s opinion of colleges calling alumni to beg for money.

They have socialized medicine in Canada, so why would there be a bill?

A true friend wouldnt ask a friend to pay back a debt.

I don't understand why the giver has ANY obligation to pay for ANYTHING. What am I missing here..?

If you feel like someone is taking advantage of you they probably are.

Great video Dave! I’m learning a lot from you. If it doesn’t agree with your value system, and it feels wrong then It is the wrong choice for you personally. I never want to give someone a gift or money, and then be eaten up with regret.

Generosity is not a God thing Dave. You can be an atheist and still choose to give. Generosity comes from, character, morality or just plan old innate. Btw I am not an atheist but this needed to be said to all the Bible thumpers who thinks good actions comes from religion and or God only

If it seems sketchy, 9/10 it is. Now one would ask you to reimburse their daughter especially. It didn’t seem like he was saying he was going to pay the money back.

Baby 7! Congratulations! 🙌

It’s easy to say “I over tip” when you have 6 figures on your bank account. No need to boast kiddo.

I feel like we are missing some information to really make a good judgement. Like was the medical bill due to his fault is in some way (eg. Injured at his cottage,etc )? To me requests don't just come out of no where ...

Yeah ummm....here's how not to be taken advantage of. Listen to what the favor or request is then ask yourself...deep down, would this person ever do the same for you if the tables were turned? Was the person around for you at your lowest and helped in getting you back on your feet? No?..I thought so

Just give an amount that you can let go without expecting a return.

I have just one friend & he only visits me the day after I got paid from my job. We play video games for about an hour, then he takes money out my wallet & leaves.

Oh So god needs to a return on "his" investment That is hilarious on many levels

I need to make a sign and hang it in my house 'Don't participate in the disfunction' going to Michaels asap.

Sorry, you are not your "friend's" ATM. If you feel you are being taken advantage of... you are.

I didn't know friends reimbursed friends

1:47 I've never seen this guy ever disagree with Dave. I swear he's his hype man.

I'm sorry. I feel like you have a responsibility to know where your gifted money is going. It has to align with your convictions. If the money will be used to buy drugs and that's not something you'd be happy about, you should avoid it. If you want to bless someone, set up a mini scholarship for well deserved kids who are blocked from their dreams by poverty or discrimination.

why doesnt he pay his daughter himself? Looks like he mooches wherever he can

So are we indirectly monitoring giving? If we're talking from a biblical prospective we follow Jesus's example. I don't recall Christ giving or telling his disciples to monitor what they gave based on our own monitoring. We give and go. So are we not supposed to give since we know their not going to do good with the money as an assumption. What they do with the money is between them and the Lord in my opinion especially if we are giving from the heart. Again my opinion. When we tithe are we monitoring the churchs finances? How far does it extend. Give and go from the heart and there's no debate, again in my opinion. Blessings

It is a good rule in life never to apologize. The right sort of people do not want apologies, and the wrong sort take a mean advantage of them.” “Someone can decide it's in their best interests to agree to something, but a choice is only really a choice if there's a genuine alternative.

Something is more than off here. I am from Ottawa Canada. My husband had a triple bypass on his heart recently. Our bill was $0. We have universal coverage for every citizen here. Perhaps he had plastic surgery which was not necessary and therefore not covered. All the more reason this fellow should not pay the bill.!!!

I’d be asking the ahem friend why he had an expectation that I would pay that? I’d probably be really smarmy and glib and make them feel stupid. We had moochers and when I’d had enough I would respond to outrageous requests like that. Glib.... smarmy. It works!😃

hospital bill ? Canada? we dont have hospital bills in Canada, thats the great thing about being Canadian. Americans or United Statesians or what ever you are called, learn from us .

The show never talks about the Legacy Journey but what Dave is talking about is taught in his Legacy Journey courses. This is after baby step 6. That means you are in baby step 7. See the Legacy Journey courses to learn more

If you're feeling some type of way about it, LEAVE. As much as I preach supporting and helping others, you're the only one who has the intuition and knows the situation better than anyone else.

Where they do that at 😒😒😒😂😂😂😂

This makes me think of the pandemic and all the people/ big and small businesses that feel that the government and landlords are support to support their mismanagement of their income ie no fully funded 3-6 months emergency fund and in debt.

Don't give. Teach them how to.make money teach them the value of making your own money. God's money? Who earned that money, not God.

I thought Canada had universal health insurance

*Fun fact:* Tithing is not commanded anywhere in the New Testament.

What caught my ear was that the 100K was a couple years before this. Where did that money go? Was the man sick and had to spend it? More research needs to be done to find out where that money went. He could very well need the money he asked for depending on the situation. I think more questions need to be asked before assuming this man is using his friend.

With this kind of friend, who needs enemies? Maybe not a good friend to put you on the spot like that.

I thought healthcare was free in Canada

Friends are like businesses, most aren't worth investing in, and if you already have, sometimes it's worth cutting your losses before they get worse

I had a "friend" constantly borrow and never pay back. I eventually cut off communication with him.

I need your help with this

The voice of that guest speaker is so annoying. I can't watch segments with him in it

Maybe the friend should have had TRAVEL INSURANCE???

Lets ask the pizza delivery guy what Dave tipped him...

And who is going to reimburse me??? Whoud be my next question.

Very true!! I love your shows. So much good information

Give me that filet o fish give me that fish woooooooo

It’s not your responsibility to take care of others problems .

$100k for a hospital stay in Canada? What happened to “healthcare is free in Canada”

People who ask for money can go kick rocks.

Makes no sense???

Just curious, Dave says he sets aside money in a separate account for giving, but at the end of the year, he has to spend it or it will be taxed. You get taxed on cash sitting in an account? Anybody know the stipulations on that?

Doing your due diligence on whether your friend really needs that money can be a way to open a conversation to help them manage their finances better in the long run, which in my opinion is much more valuable than just handing them money!

Isn’t healthcare free in Canada ?

I agree with Dave. Also, it's probably good to have a plan and a budget for giving, to start with. In the case of his friend's daughter, it might be good to do matching. The friend puts in half, and he puts in half. I believe it is usually ok to ask for something, and then it is up to the other person to respond with a yes or a no.

Intention matters~^^

It really sounds off.

Just say no!!

I hope DR donates to Animal shelters!! Give the animals, who enrich our lives so much, some much needed assistance! ❤️

So one can't be atheist and generous ? 🙄

I don’t get how my money is “gods money”

The culture of tipping is at the root of America's many problems. It is an excellent system for maintaining division, promoting discrimination, and ensuring that wealth and opportunity is never equal.

whatever happened to that one call where this young person needed $5,000 to quote-unquote change their life and at the end of the call he said I wish I could wave a magic wand and make it go away he could so I don't know about some of these Ultra rich people he could have helped that person but also put stipulations on financial education for that person he should have put his money where his mouth was if he has so much or maybe he's just greedy I understand you can't just give money to people cuz then everybody will come asking but he could have made them sign a nondisclosure agreement behind the scenes maybe he does that and if he does that's awesome but if not where is the generosity if I had that kind of money I wouldn't give exorbitant amount away but I definitely would directly help people that I saw honestly needed it instead of giving it to these organizations that just pay their CEOs millions of dollars and call themselves a charity so there's another scam right there in a lot of cases there's a church in my area that I was at and they were saying how much money they took in how many millions millions more than they needed for the project that they were about to do then after that they were asking about a backpack drive for children in need Walmart was going to help them and they were asking the people of the church to bring backpack why couldn't they have announced this is what your tithing is doing we're teaming up with Walmart to provide backpacks for needy children I know there's no easy way to fix this but it would be better to find a direct way to get money to people that really need it instead of through the hands of these greedy Corporation that call themselves charities I am a man of faith I would give within reason and would budget for it directly to people that I know need it Come On Dave live like no one else so you can give like no one else follow your own advice don't just do it for tax deduction and I thank God everyday as I am black but there are many people around this country and in the world who are not unfortunately

My least favorite co-host

There is no god. Is this a financial channel or church?