My husband and I have slept in different rooms for couple of years after first child, then again for couple of years after second child and I loved it. I am a light sleeper and have a full time job working from 6am-2pm. And my husband snores very loudly. For me to be happy, working at my most efficiency, I need my beauty sleep. We both were fine with deciding I sleep in another room until kids have a stable sleep routine. It was fine, we still have amazing intimacy and a beautiful marriage. I still sometimes sleep in a different room and enjoy the heck out of it.
I clicked on this video, because said you hunted down your husband so that he could provide for you, even though I suspected that wasn’t the case but was interested in the story. Your story is similar to mine, in that I met my current husband soon after a break up, and at the time he was still university student so his career prospects I really had no idea about. However, I knew he was clever because of what he was studying and I really love intelligent men over other attributes they might have. Turns out he’s also a really hard worker and has skills and is now a CEO and great provider and I’ve been a stay at home mum for over 20 years. I’ve had people ask how I got so lucky etc. but it was just how it turned out. Furthermore, our relationship is similar to yours based on basically the same three things. It really works for us. Loved the video! 🎉
When you were anxiously attached did you ever struggle with social anxiety? If so, can you do a video about how to not be socially anxious? I used to be super comfortable around people but that changed over time after a few friendship blindsides and a long term relationship breakup. I’m now in the process of re-inventing myself and would love your take.
Hi, I have been anxious attached for my entire life. But now I have been to therapy for years and soul searched. Living my best life now, abroad, with my lovely boyfriend. Social anxiety is creeping up on me when I don't take care of my own needs or wants. Because I start to worry about what people think of me more. So find your method to keep your standard of self respect, if that means exercising, reading your favorite book, or painting do it. When you respect yourself, you wont have anxiety about yourself or others, because you feel safe. Best of luck, xx
When you enter a so ial activity, instead of thinking what others think of you, think, how can I make them feel totally comfortable. Enter with a heart of service. What they think of you is none of your business. Anyhow, that's what worked for me to overcome it. Perhaps there are many other ways, but that's one of them.
This is so true about the generational raising of little ones with the whole family! I’m totally going to do this - or at least bug my family if they’re interested.
I'm new to your channel and i must say i love your energy, also seems that your energy is authenthic and transparent...you been married for so many years, how did you mature as a woman while being married, bc a lot of times women are influenced by their husbands and lose themselves into the marriage, how did you keep your version of yourself while being marred? I'm not married just curious..probably having a supportive partner helps but i want to hear your version. Thank you! Loved the video, i'm also a cancer rising and i can tell you love your family and children, we are born that way, nurturing and caring, and we might appear "icy" but it's only bc we want to protect ourselves and those who we love.
THAT"S what it is! The thought was dancing in the back of my mind through a few of her videos, but you made it click, lol. I agree with your second comment as well. She's out here saving time, minds, and maybe even lives.
She is originally Russian/Ukrainian, moved to the UK at 5-6 y/o, Grown up there and now she is living in Australia for more then 10 years. So you are absolutely correct about everything.😅
Can you make a video about the mindset shift (anxious-detached/ masculine-feminine) and how it was applied when meeting your husband? You mentioned you came out of a really difficult relationship in your other video and that you have dealt with being anxiously attached previously. How did you then go about making this relationship successful?
I do not get it how people bump into a person so quickly and stick. I have been single for over a decade. I do have a pattern of hooking up with the wrong guy.. funny thing is.. after me they all find fast another girl and stay with them.. wtf is wrong with me?? I never looked for these men, it just happened. I met them on social media, via someone, started talking and visit them or when I was living in Spain. Those men only saw me for a fling, to spent the night with. So I also cut that off. Basicly spending my life as a single-solo. I know I deserve better. Hopefully one day I will be ready for what I deserve.
Sorry last comment.. in one of your TikTok videos you mentioned to be a happy wife over a good wife can you make a video on that, because I asked my husband which one would you rather me be and he said it depends ..
I just rewatched this today, where u said u wanted another baby. Earlier I watched your last video where u said u were 9 months pregnant and if I was seeing the video you probably already had the baby 🫶🏼 congrats btw
I laugh so much with your irony! Your funny without trying. You did action classes, maybe that helped? For sure some of my funny behavior mande be too nice with certain man, but you have been helping me so much! I found an amazing provider, but we’re just adjusting some of his anxious attachment style vs my avoidance (although very balanced w therapy and law of attraction). You’re my inspo! Thank you for being YOU♥️
I did chase and choose my husband because I wanted a provider...but after covid he had to reinvent himself too....I was off doing hardcore P.T. and he lost his$$great paying job....we were both going thru major transition separately
I love your podcasts....I am re inventing my marriage after 3yrs of a physical adjustments...living apart due to my physical therapy.......it was the best and worst thing for our marriage ❤
She lucked out. She met her husband YOUNG. In your 30’s w kid or kids you get leftovers so take these videos with a grain of salt. These are videos are for YOUNG women in their 20’s who haven’t had kids yet. But YOUNG is key once you as a Woman hit 35 you are DONE you will get a man that no one wants period
what the hell? my step-dad married my mom when she was 40 and divorced with 3 young kids. He was and still is the most loving man in the world. Both their second marriage. Please live in the real world. Margarita gives advice to women of all ages.
@@yasminah6823 Right? My older sister and my bro in law got remarried twice with each other and both have a kid from previous marriage. They mash well together and are happy. These incels need help. Anyone can find love again, incels can die off at the other hand.
