"i'm dating a broke guy but he has a great personality" [no he doesn't] 

In the words of SheraSeven: "I am not a construction worker, I don't build."

Say it louder sis

Perfect analogy.

Fact

💯 precisely girlie‼️preach it 🎯

Or just hiding their wealth away. That happens to.

Worrrrrrrrrrd.

People with rich parents usually aren’t broke tho. They’ve had plenty opportunity’s so they’re probably just not showing what they have or they’re just unsuccessful in life. However a man that’s stingy with his money is the same as him being broke, to a woman!

no fr

Nope. My husband is a multi millionaire due to his parents wealth. He has a trust fund. I don't care if he didn't work for it or not. He's still happily providing and we're not struggling. It doesn't matter how you get it if you've got it.

Beautiful! ❤ Congratulations sis!!!

Your presence helped him mentally to succeed. They need us for motivation and validation, so you helped him a LOT.

He has to have a plan, ambitions, even if he doesn't have money. Not a vague "in the future, I'm gonna..." a plan. I've never been with a guy that would let me pay for all that stuff like the guy in the video, except actually my ex who was a millionaire but didn't tell me at first bc he wanted to make sure I wasn't a gold digger...

This is where I’m at, I’m 23 and even though he doesn’t have it like that all the time he will literally spend his last dime on me and he really is sweet. The good thing is he never asks me for money. But in reality, he has more time on his hands not being in school and only having part time job. I’m a student, working part time, and I have a business on the side. We are long distance so it’s not really a dealbreaker now but I need him to try harder. 😭

@@kima-f2853 girlie he better be amazing because long distance isn't where it's at for me. It would be a quick BYE if someone tried to have a long distance relationship when I was in my early 20s and waste my time to be miserable missing someone when I should be living my life with them and building a future in person. (Obviously take with a pinch of salt, I'm a stranger on the Internet and don't know your life)

Words only carry you so far. The actions are what matters! Not ever having to ask for money and just getting some because he feels like it’s his responsibility to take care of you, Not having to ask to be taken out but just receiving it because he wants to do that for you. That’s what’s sexy!

@@JustMe-vs1kj Of course it is. My point is that women often want to hear romantic words and phrases, but don't link it to a man's actions. However, when a man says: "I've got this", it becomes very clear if he has or not. "Love" is too fuzzy a concept to make that link clearly.

Ooof!🤤

Yes!! Acts of service 🐕‍🦺🐾😙

I’d like to add: “I’ll be there.”

And he only does that because he has no money. If he got a great stable job and got his money up he would start to be condescending and rude to her

Sprinkle sprinkle

My bar has been like that because men are so bad now days

Hahahaaaaaa 😂

Funny considering this channel doesnt view men as human just atms.

FOR REAL. Btw, the real problem is not about traditional things, it's about ""security"" but if you have a child or can't work during pregnancy, men HAVE TO provide.

thissss

What those men mean by a "traditional man" is a man who works full time and does literally NOTHING ELSE! While the "traditional woman" does literally EVERYTHING else.... And also works but hands over her entire paycheck to her "traditional man" and he gets to decide what she "needs" and what she doesn't

The men who say that want to marry as young as possible, so she isn't wise yet, and can't hold him accountable for his past. They'll even deploy all sorts of deluded manosphere justifications for their hypocrisy. Don't buy it!

THAT PART chileeeeee

When I told him it was over he asked if he could keep the car otherwise he will lose his job 😂

⁠@@apau21wow the cheek of that man! Glad you got rid of that loser x

@@apau21he still has the galls to ask that!!!! Heck nooooo

@@apau21The car? What?😭Nah he DID NOT

Holy shit this is crazy. I’m not financially secure so I try my best to be responsible with the little I have. But my man I know makes a decent amount and I always get nice things when he offers cause I know if I don’t accept he’ll just go shower some other person.

Wooo! Excellent comment.💯

Snap sister! I dedicated my 20s to me, professionally, spiritually and mentally. I put myself in therapy and it was the best money I spent. Working on myself has now put me in such a better position in life and I no longer people please, accept bad behaviour, accept breadcrumbs and have healthy boundaries with everyone in my life. 100% better! 😁 ❤

Somebody pin that comment! You are right - the only person you should build is yourself.

Yesss to thisss!!!

I love this comment section. Always learn so much here…ya’ll my safe space!

This happened to my mother and oh man the anxiety of growing up on a tight budget, frequently having public services suspended, and getting letters of the bank stating that you will lose your house. It's not worth it all. A man can be all nice and sweet but if he is broke, he is not going to be a good father either.

I feel like it’s just so important for a partnership to both be on the same page and if you’re working your ass off and your partner is okay with having nothing and doing nothing…it’s never going to work well. Also, they don’t love you if they can watch you kill ourself daily and not feel the need to help.

​@@jocelyneavila6870 a good man will not be in a relationship if he's broke, if he truly loves the woman he will want the best for her and his future offsprings. What's the rush with men?. They don't have a "biological clock" they "age like fine wine" , they're never going to "hit the wall" , so why can't they just be patient and do the due diligence to become a great provider and a better human being, then they can have all the 20+ year olds even when they are 80 years old

Give him an ultimatum because plenty of injured people start businesses from home, at their desks. If not, leave. I left my provider husband at the time who lost everything due to a hidden addiction problem. I left and do very well traveling the world and dating multiple providers. @@kailahprice6792

​@@kailahprice6792I would not say leave him right now. I would suggest everytime you decide to spend on him, keep that money aside and later on buy something for your growth. It could be a course on finances or some mini luxury or something that you like.

Make it yourself and catch the bag girlie 😍im the first customer!

😂

Yes you can date as students and the man might still take you to the park or the lake little day trips. You can put in effort without too much money, if he doesn’t do at least that, it’s a sign.

Yes this!

Yess

​@@Marivi247my ex asked permission then picked me flowers in a neighbor's yard who grew all kinds of flowers when he couldn't afford to buy me any. If he wanted to, he would. Unfortunately, his acts of service were lovebombing.

Imagine if she invested that money in personal and professional development courses. She would be absolutely killing it. Smh. Instead her finances and emotions are getting trashed.

yeah this is fucking crazy

Omg I thought I was the only one. I also thought he was a total sugar baby.

Since fewer men are attending universities, there aren't as many men with degrees. But just because he skipped college doesn't mean he isn't smart. There are plenty of intelligent guys who went into trades and love to learn. Is he always listening to educational podcasts? Is he intellectually curious? Does he educate himself on his topics of interest? Does he start DIY projects and learn everything he needs to complete them? Applied brainpower is a green flag. If he's also been to college, did he study hard to graduate, or just get some Mickey Mouse degree where he got to party all 4 years? We need to be in our discernment. The degree he's so proud of might just be a piece of paper he got because Daddy and Mommy were connected. 😅

That's true tho haha you're right, it's deeper than it seems@@briskettacos

@@briskettacosyes, he needs to use his natural gifts to bring abundance into his life otherwise he will take take take and give you nothing

he could also be abusive T_T@@cecilyerker

I was about to say don’t think ignore the trades and certificates. There are men in these fields that make a shit ton of money.

AMENN!!

Yesss!!! Comment needs to be pinned 📍

Yes! Poverty is real but broke is a mental state. Ik so many adults who just don’t have cars, don’t have jobs, etc…and they love it like that, they don’t want those things…it’s a lot easier to just ask for rides and stuff. Idk how they do it cuz I need my freedom lol

THIS

​@@brittnay279yes financial independence sets you free

The mindset is her problem.

its mind boggling

She is probably around her 30's or more women in the past were taught to be pick me and see men as the prize in that time, they were all raising women to be easy manipulated and made a fool. Im glad women of this era are being taught to know how to choose right and run from dusties I think the next generations of men will be getting better and better with dusties reproducing less giving space to men who act like normal human beings. Women at that time made errors cause they really didnt know any better and it was unfortunate and still is to see.

😅 i know right, when pretty girls Say this things make me SO sad, like girl You have everything in life to find yourself a Nice man... Your not conventional attractive gals is Harder 😅😅 As a chubby girls i have heard dusty men telling me and i quoute: "I didnt thought You have SO much self steem " .what does that Even mean ????? Does this mofo accepted out loud that he thought i was going to be a doormat and was going to be an easy prey cuz he thought be being chubby mean i didnt loved myself ... Men never stop to dissapoint me

Our relationships are a reflection of our self worth

You got a point there. Deep inside, she already knows it's over. She wouldn't make a public video (which likely will find his way to him) about it, otherwise. She just wants other people to tell her, it's alright. Or maybe she wants him to see it and then break up with her, so she doesn't have to be the 'bad guy'.

That's an interesting take! I wonder if she will ever update us on whether she left the guy or not, OR like you both suggested, if he left her 🤔

So true. She will find that life goes on no matter what you do, until it stops. It is better to not think you are too old for anything and you will find that life's varied challenges have varied rewards. Now to put my good advice to work for me...right?

Wait narcissistic or narco

​@@WW-iz1oo Well, those numbers refer to people with fully blown NPP (narcissistic personality disorder). Being narcissistic to some degree (or in certain contexts) is just part of the huge spectrum of 'normal' human behavior. Or at least, that's how I understand it. But I agree, that it's not helpful, to just call every 'jerk' a narcissist. Sometimes, unpleasant personality traits *are* something, that you can work with. Or live with. If they're sufficiently outweighed by positive traits. I don't think, being with a true narcissist ever works out well for the other person, because that is then their defining characteristic and they will always abuse and/or exploit the other person. They just can't help themselves. So it's useful, to be aware of the difference.

I was also so confused by those words--so narcissists can't also be broke? But you're right: it's very understandable that she's willing to stay because, well, at least he's not like the other guy

Lmao sorry I literally commented that before the video was even over 💀 I gotta stop doing thatbbb

Yes, a man who refers to a woman as a “female” is a major red flag for me.

Same. Never again. I thought it was “snobby” of me to judge but my aunt told me after, “so what?” 💅

I'd bet that a lot of these instances are just non-native speakers of English. I've been a fluent English speaker for more than a decade but only recently realized the inherent connotation of the terms "male" and "female" that native speakers perceive. In my native language, the words for male and female (in the strictly biological sense) are only ever used for animals. Using them to refer to humans is not only rude, it's linguistically inappropriate even in a medical or scientific sense. But the lines are a bit more blurry in English - for example a doctor can say that his last patient was a 50 year old female and it doesn't sound weird. In many other languages, this would be either extremely inappropriate or downright nonsensical. So I could understand if some people are confused lmao.

I hate when people say female yuck

Some of you women just invoke that word. Some women are referred to as "females" how you refer to some men as "incels"

Dated one for four years, I ended up gaining 30 pounds, having severe cystic acne, and constantly stressed out. I think I’d rather die alone than ever put up with that shit again.

Dating one dropped my credit score a couple of hundreds points. I also nearly faced eviction a number of times.

Never give a broke man access to your time and attention.

Exactly

So true. And when he have made money, he should better stay away from women, and keep his money to himself. Getting emotionally attached to a woman can be super-expensive, and she can leave anytime anyway.

@@JohanDanielsson8802facts, once you give women everything she wants she’ll be like “I’m not happy and I want a divorce,” while taking half of your earnings, your house and child support. Men needs to weave out these high maintenance materialistic gold diggers to avoid losing assets. The less a woman wants from a man the more she loves him, if the other way around the man is a 🤡 for giving a parasit a relationship.

@@JohanDanielsson8802getting emotionally attached to a gold digger is expensive* Men need to be more picky of which women they need to be with, these same women hate a woman who isn’t a gold digger like them because that’s *COMPETITION* (because that’s keeping a lot of men not willingly to spend money on them) and they trying to eliminate that by influencing and persuade the non gold diggers to become gold diggers.

Yeah he won't be grateful for all the work, time, effort, labor and money spent building him up! He'll resent you and move on to someone he can convince he's a "self made man" and did all that on his own! 🙄

@@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066 Sister, this is exactly what I went through ! That's true 👏

You see it all the time in the entertainment industry.

Sometimes yeah but yeah u gotta be careful. This hasn’t been my experience cause I tend to go for kind men and stay away from whores. But u never know these days people are good at hiding it.

Some broke men have no choice, so they settle for anyone. It’s so bad that people have to find creative ways to get free sex on dating apps, like the way woman find free meals. When a man changes their wife or something after getting rich, it’s because he becomes attractive and has a bigger dating pool. He chooses someone else when he has options, it just means that you were never his choice. Those types of men dump women when the woman are only selected for their convenience and usefulness. Like a use and throw, disposable paper cup. I always found it icky when a boy asks me out, and I know that I am just the backup, because they ain’t got options. There is some unspoken rule in society that boys feel entitled to sex and the woman’s body, once they have a girlfriend. I even read news articles about a teenage mom saying she never wanted sex, but the boyfriend would pressure her. Then he told her to abort the baby. My mother never tried to understand me when I told her I rejected 2 of my male friends after they asked me to be their girlfriend. Both were right after I came out of the asylum so I found it suss. Instead of supporting me and being protective, my mother called me a slut for rejecting one friend. She said he is a good person despite never meeting him before and only hearing his voice when I play online games with him. It was obvious to me, that my mother was upset that I didn’t marry a rich man to give her money. Because that friend was rich. My mother didn’t care about me rejecting the not rich friend, but She called me a slut when I rejected my rich friend. The exception cases is when a man stays loyal after getting rich. It just means the woman he choose at the start, has always been his first choice. She is the “chosen one” and his “person”. But there is no X Ray or blood test to check before you invest in people, so I never like taking risks.

I get that saying and it's smart. But I'd at least change it to marry a man you love, but who also loves you way more 😂 What's the point if it's no fun? Might as well just stay single.

@@jordanferguson2254 yeah but I think it's as Elle says, you are more likely to flourish IN love with a generous man who loves you, rather than someone you love

@@jordanferguson2254 that's good too, but I learned it takes so much pressure off when as a woman you're not supposed to marry for love, but grow into it over time! The men are in love immediately!

@@kristenmoonrisewell, love, I don’t know about that, maybe…easy comes easy goes. I think someone who falls in love that easily is suspicious to me. But if you believe that, alright, we can learn what is going on with people with different points of view, I think. My thing is that I rather be single until death comes to me. AroAce here.

@@maevav5645 we've become so detached from our biology and evolutionary psychology that we see what comes natural to us as suspicious.

It’s so sad that one really can’t win with a partner with an avoidant attachment style. They either devalue you because you don’t fit their fantasy of a perfect partner, or they devalue you because they feel insecure next to your success. My ex told me once ‚Oh you only have rich people problems‘ when I was taking a train back from my parents home at night with a kidney inflammation and the train was one hour late. I was in pain, and he had zero empathy because I earned more than him, so in his mind his problems are ‚real‘ and my problems are ‚rich people problems‘. It’s very sad and disappointing, but how safe and loved can you really feel with an avoidant partner. Often they only make you feel anxious and not good enough, or even ‚too perfect‘ in your case. We can’t fix a partner like that and can only try to find someone else who is really loving and makes us feel safe…

He should feel lucky that he got to spend even a minute in your company. Better is out there waiting for you - I hope you find it soon!!

Wow you rock! Keep building yourself. He didn't deserve you if he felt he needed to 'take you down a peg.' That's disturbing. If they don't build you up, they got to go.

You don’t look 35 lmao

Jealous of your grief?? Holy guacamole 🥑

You make some good points.

I can’t call off the wedding it’s already too late

Just communicate to him how you feel ❤ if he loves you truly he'll listen and compromise. ​@@witchykittyy

​@@witchykittyyt you must also compromise. Remember it's a partnership. You are not dependent on him ❤

​@@witchykittyy Unless the wedding already happened and the papers are already signed, it's definitely not too late. You might not get most of your money back that was spent on reservations and such, but a short term financial loss is so much better than a long term mental, physical, and emotional loss. Not to mention the loss of precious time that could've been better spent otherwise. Some people will probably be disappointed, but they are not the ones who will be living your life, you are, and you will be the one who has to deal with the consequences of accepting mediocrity (or whatever the case is). If you aren't ecstatic about getting married to someone, please don't do it.

Same 😂

😭😭true

He will leave as soon as he’s on his feet.. and the years you invested, you’ll never get back

Yupppppp… I did this with a dusty… the amount of years and fighting and headaches to try and build him up to be a DECENT “man”.. not even successful or rich… just literally trying to be a better person… it was always for ME.. we’d fight about whatever issue at that time and we’d break up.. he’d fix that issue.. then it’d be something else.. do it again over and over (I know embarrassing) this comes down to dressing better, getting haircuts and taking pride in his appearance.. he uses me even when we’re separated as motivation to go harder in the gym… that literally came out of his own mouth.. he started a t shirt brand with the nickname I GAVE HIM.. he changed his photography because of me because back then he just wanted to photograph hoochie Instagram girls (surprise, surprise) on and on and on.. and whyyyy because of ME… oh not to mention I told him he needs to see a therapist, one of our arguments, that he couldn’t bother to do when we’re together, but as soon as we break up… what does he do.. go see a therapist and get put on medication. He couldn’t make changes when we were together, but he does it when we break up so he can come back and say he’s changed… but anyway do I get credit….. NOPEEEEEEE… NOTHING…. All the fighting, headaches, tears, stress, my mental health deteriorated, gain weight, got depressed.. and what did I get out of it besides all of that?????

(Most) men hates the woman who struggle with them, because she knows who he is before his success. Her presence keeps reminding him that he was once a loser.

@@mchelseanicholeu THAT PART! You NEVER get any of it back!

That is so true!

GIIRRLL talk about ittt!!

yesss, I can't even tell you how excited this comment made me.. high value men 😍

@@summer8779 lmfao

Ikkrr

THIS

why can't they start providing for the one that was there?

Just happened to me. He got a swanky job and left for another girl. He had a provider mentality too but I mom'd him in other areas. Never build a man for another woman

Did this happen to you?

@ava9xx3js9j nope ! But to many women around me ....I therefore chose to learn from others mistakes ...don't have to make them myself

Because you let them!

They get jealous of you

yeah it's got nothing to do with your pompous attitude that shows even in this comment. y'all need to step out the echo chamber. if you knew anything about men you wouldn't be here lol

I remember the novel Bel-Ami by Guy de Maupassant where the main character, a broke journalist George Durois gets annoyed with his rich married girlfriend who gives him monthly allowance so to relieve himself from stress, he visits a street girl every few weeks.

Yes, they will hate it if you earn more and they will hate it if you earn less. You can never win.

I think here this woman might not have access to either of those so her last recourse was to ask other women the only place she could access them- online.

@@malinasworld I understand. But now some many people are using her as an example. And it's permanent. I don't think it's ever wise.

@@AyaEgbuho That’s a good point. I wonder if it’s a skit, after all, wouldn’t her boyfriend see this even if it didn’t gain much traction? Whether it’s real or fake, a reminder to share less personal information online is really needed. Thank you! 💙

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

this is so smart,,, like wow chileee!!!

This comment is spot on! There are multiple ways to provide. NOT to just sit at home, playing video games and getting drunk complaining about life. Men like that are lazy of mind and body. It's about energy, as well. Money is energy, so being of a scarcity mindset will infect those around them.

I agree to an extent but as someone who has been chronically ill since my teens, I know there are plenty of men out there with similar stories. Being healthy and able bodied is a kind of privilege that surpasses even the gender dynamics. I’m trying to make the best of my situation but it’s a competitive job market and my illness is exacerbated by doing anything, even if it was a desk job it would make me worse. Like trading pain and suffering for a little money. Just wanted to share my experience because the idea that everyone can work, or every man can and should, does not always match reality. Abled bodied men absolutely should work and be supporting themselves though, especially if they want to date. Interabled couples do exist though even when it’s the man who is disabled. I’m not sure if that aligns with the philosophy here, but maybe you are right that there are more ways to provide than just making money.

@Nicole-jj3hi a man who is genuinely disabled is an exception, certainly. I say genuinely though because there are obese men who say they have health issues but if they would lose the weight these issues would solve themselves. I've also seen disabled men run with prosthetic legs in the Paralympics. I've seen paraplegics (men who lost all 4 limbs) use talking devices to do computer work. I think it depends on a case by case basis.

Yeah. This happened to me. My ex watched me struggle working 2 jobs, and I worked until I gave birth. He didn't want to help out with pregnancy bills. We both paid 50/50.

@@Lala89856 you paid 50/50 but really, it was a 90/10 arrangement with you doing 90 % of the work... putting a bit of cash on the table is pathetic in comparison to working AND growing a whole human being inside you. i am so sorry :/

@@user-vf2yp3lw5p Oh yes. It felt like that. He told me he couldn't help me with pregnancy bills and that it was my body. She was selfish

Great author and great books!

ouu what was the title ? i’m interested 😅

@@katherinecordero2958 I definitely recommend "Why does he do that?" to start with.

indeed!!! And he's a man himself yet he exposes other men , actually no, he exposes ABUSIVE MEN! I found out about him recently and from the snippets I manage to read on Goodreads website, from "Why does he do that" - it's so spot on 🙌🔥🔥🔥 Also watched on RU-vid few interviews with him. He knows what he is talking about! Definitely eager to purchase the book! I thought my freshly ex is a narcissist, so while researching that I came across Lundy and his amazing book. I'm not sure tho that my ex is truly a narc or emotionally abusive (as if that's not enough right?) , but Lundy shatters some very common notions in modern psychology that actually works for the benefit of abuser.

thank you for the book recommendation. ❤❤

Bingo

True ✨️

This perspective has always baffled me...I'm genuinely curious, so what happens to men who never cross the poverty line/minimum wage line?

@@Tshego2000 It’s not referring to anyone who falls on hard times through no fault of their own. It’s people who know they’re in a bad spot and refuse to even try and pull themselves out of it. The “victims” of this world. We’ve all known them both men and women. Broke is also a mindset that people can get trapped in. Part of maturing into a man is pulling your socks up and doing better for yourself but also if you want to go on and have a good woman, kids and a family to be able to provide for one day. It’s frustrating when people say they are “broke” when they can seemingly find the money for alcohol, drugs, video games, only fans and all the other vices available and then they complain that things aren’t good. Chase the free dopamine in life: sunlight, exercise, nature. Everyone can enjoy that no matter how much money you have. You do these things and realise how abundant life is and then you switch into an abundance mindset. Small steps lead to big ones, most genuinely good women aren’t asking a lot they just want to meet a stable man.

@@bm5_5_5 I hear all that, I don't expect any self respecting woman to be with a gamber, drug addict or generally speaking a person headed nowhere, and I belive in self improvement...but I think theres a huge difference between doing something and telling someone else to do it. like for instance its good for a track and field coach to train their athletes to the best of their own congenital abilities, but lets be real genetics play a huge factor. The probability that any of the athelets are going to break usain bolts record is extremely low. Quite literally no one whos ever been alive has been able to do it. also I get the sense that we come from two different thought camps( correct me if I'm wrong). I don't think I will ever feel comftable with the Idea of being solely finantially responsible for all the bills in a household. I just prefer women who will meet me half way. I have a feeling that you disagree. I believe in healthy disagreements.

Downing people pull others down. They dont WANT to hurt the other person, its just survival instinct. Good personality is irrelevant.

I love this Pride and Prejudice reference!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Or a Heathcliff

😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉

I’m so scared of those stories of women who stopped working in the last trimester or are on unpaid maternity leave and the man still says ‘dip into your savings to pay your half’ or ‘i’ve got you for now, you can pay me back later.’ NIGHTMARE fuel.

​@@malinasworld right ! That could be an episode of the twilight zone, a true distopian life.

@@malinasworld This happened to my sister. He should feel lucky to talk to her. She is well traveled, has a Master's degree, and is gorgeous. He had her pay him back for the dates he took her on. It's disgusting to watch.

The biggest problem with "He has a good personality" is that literally just means he's not as big of an asshole ass he theoretically could be for 99% of women saying it. It's not even that he doesn't mistreat them, it's that he doesn't do the absolute worst. *You should have a partner who takes care of you too, regardless of gender.* *Love is an action and watching you struggle isn't love.*

Thank you!! I needed to hear that

Thank youuu so much for this, sister

My experience has been that you are correct. These people tend to be excellent conversationalists and a lot of fun to hang out with, but there's nothing else.

Real

Also not being an asshole is the bare minimum.

so sad @@chrzig554

And since most of them aren't doing what they need to do, they have plenty of time & energy to be charming because they're so well rested! Ask them to take the garbage out and see what happens.

Truth.

Facts

Same thing with women today lol. A matter of fact she’ll leave with half of the man earnings and assets including his home.

@@easylife6348they dont want to listen bro

Facts

🫢

Broke girls over rich ones

Mr. Brokie can keep the Okie Dokie

Generous men over stingy ones😊

Rich guys can be very controlling and Dickish too tho

That's why not either extremes -- get with someone who experience struggles and work hard to get where he is, but isn't insecure or secretly lacking in confidence. Find a capable provider, not simply a rich man.

This is why Elle always makes enfasis on dating a generous man, not necessarily a rich man.

​​@@RosaliaMartinezRM👏🔑 and he has to love you way more than you love him for him to be happily in the masculine role of courting and romancing you.

@@basicinfo2022 yesss, this!!!! 💯🔥

Rich men think you own them everything and broke men are jealous of you

Exactly.

Purrr, like you can struggle by yourself, you dont need a manto struggle with!

Only actions speak the truth, "He's a great guy but I pay everything for him" the pickme says, well maybe he only acts great because he can leech off you. Say no to spending money on him and she will see how fast the "great personality" wavers. A great man would not be comfortable enough to operate as a financial burden.@@wellknown1204

At least he showed his true character before you married him. It's really rough now, but in time, the situation will show itself for the blessing it is.

my mouth was literally hanging open when i read this. girl-😢 idk how i’d ever trust anyone ever again after that. wishing you the best 🫶

It’s a blessing you didn’t marry him and have kids with him

Wow I hope that money finds its way back to you one day in another circumstance. You didn’t deserve that at all lovely but you will be blessed one day for selflessly helping him in all the ways you did. As for the other person….what goes around comes back around and it won’t be kind.

Were there any red flags along the way?

Exactly

She actually thinks that's better than just admitting that her self esteem is in the toilet.

Same! I have my own career and am self-sufficient, plus I have worked my butt off for years to become independent, rent my own place and not have to rely on anyone. I refuse to date anyone who is not on the same level and will not add to my life but instead will make it more stressful and expect me to pay for them 🤷‍♀️no offence but if he isn’t making my life better and looking after me then why do I need this man for?

Exactly. The bank, grocery store, and the utility companies is not going to accept my “great personality” to cover my bills.

Real! My boyfriend has planned so much for the future and wants to get married & have kids ASAP and prefers but doesn’t pressure me to stay home for a few years to take care of the child. Which is insane & irresponsible since he doesn’t have savings, a safety net and he lives paycheck to paycheck 🥴. Really gave me the ick 😞

​@ceresorange he's trying to trap you girl! My ex did the same! Wasted my 20s being a mom. And he was never grateful!

@@Alixir1228 No worries, I broke it off! It turned me off so bad 😅 I keep wondering why he was so desperate to get married & I’m definitely not staying to find out why!

If he’s not the dad don’t let him babysit. Keep your children in safety

@@JustMe-vs1kj unfortunately, he is the dad.

Make sure to protect your internet privacy. You don't want him figuring out he's going to have to leave, and taking it out on your child.

@@briskettacos yes, I know. 🫡

@@briskettacos yes 🫡

Moral of the story: a broke man will literally break your body as well as your spirit

This is sad to hear. My ex-bf was broke and unemployed for years. He did pay for lunches at first then borrowed from me many times, added up total to several thousand dollars. I was a naive young girl and always giving people the benefits of doubts. Finally I opened my eyes with red flags. One of the red flags was: He told me he admired his friend's gf for sheltering his friend. Basically, the girl paid for everything from a-z and he admired that girl so much for being a provider. I immediately told him his friend was a loser for making a woman paying for years. 2nd red flag was: I gave him $150 gift card so he could pay for gas and food in order to find a job. He ended up attempting to sell to his relatives for cash and they jewed him down. Then, he wanted me to buy back that gift card for cash, which hurt me for a while. Not too long after that, I broke up with him to cut further loss due to unpaid debts. He had a gall to ask me if I left him because he was poor. LOL... Don't attempt to fix any broke man. Luckily, he did not have any access to my moew :D. My husband now, is the only one who has access to my body :D and he is a great provider.

Snap. Immediately switched off. ❤

Fr. Congratulations, you dehumanized yourself ma’am

Ikr soon as I heard females I mentally checked out!

But why though ? I have watched her other videos & her audience clearly support conservative men over liberal/feminist men. So, maybe you're in the wrong place. What else did you expect from in/fem Cels.

My ex said “I’m gonna make a sugar mama out of you”

😪this

This, but DONNT FORGET, when a man become rich, he leaves you for a top model. (That's actually the case with the black youtubeur from Italia, he dumped his current girlfriend to get fiance to a top model)

Where there is no pride, there is no shame

​@@ia7072 what's her name?

That sugar mama comment hit! So my ex excitedly contacted me 2 years after we broke up to say, "Guess what! A young rich woman reached out to me on Instagram and said she wants to pay for my companionship! She's going to pay all my bills if I spend time with her." It was so weird to reach out to me with this information. Did he think it was a flex 😂? The man is 44 years old... Dude is old enough to be a sugar daddy but thinks that a 30 year old, rich woman wants to pay all his bills just to be in the presence of a mid man who is going absolutely nowhere in life? Ok sure sweetie, enjoy getting scammed.

Why do you work if you don’t pay for anything in a relationship?

​@@zacharyo5033because her work and her money is her safety. She doesn't work for a man. She works so that she always stays safe and protected. So that she always has something to do if her man abuses her. She doesn't approach men to get access to them. Men approach women to get access to her time, attention,affection and body. They use women to brag to their buddies, to raise their social status. Because apparently, a man who has a woman must be a good man and must be a financially stable man. The more beautiful and high maintenance the woman is the more his status in society is going to be. And you know all these things. You just wish that women don't know these things.

@@zacharyo5033 Because she was born as a nurturer by birth, not a PROVIDER. She can be a provider for her kids, not to the giant man. Men know having a pretty woman by his side is important to his social status. Having access to her body, youth, time, love, potential unpaid wages, at a minimum, men should provide. If not, leave the poor woman alone so she herself can find another provider. Unless the woman is extremely ugly and never bother to take care of themselves, then we can see she is a sugar mama. Ladies, never go for 50/50 scam because 99% of time, you will pay more than 50.

@@LoveLife-oo9czif women are so strong, independent, and don’t need a man to provide, why is it such a big issue to some women that the man makes a lot of money? If women are getting degrees and working higher end jobs, you’d think the guy’s money would mean less to them,

yes i agree. i’m sure it greatly depends on age and also their actual efforts. not just “potential” but what they are actually VISIBLY doing to improve their financial circumstances

Semantics. The point is that you don’t date potential. Period.

@@mimicoolll0listen you can see “efforts” all you want. Some men just don’t know how to break out of their brokeness and always do things to set themselves back. Like if they don’t know they just don’t know. The only excuse if they failed a big company and have to start over, if they unjustly got fired at a company they’ve been working verry hard for, and got a good resume, or if they’re like 20. There’s no excuse for a man in his 30s to be broke for years. Not even if he’s trying to come up. Cause some of them will be trying forever and be in their own way of luck. And if you’re with them they’re in your way of luck too. Also broke men demand you to work even if you have a child with them. They don’t appreciate the free labor you do at all.

@@NanaHoneyB when you are young, we are also a potentiel

@@Hokarina1 I don’t even agree with wasting time on dating when you’re young unless it’s someone who opens doors for you, so🤷🏽‍♀️

If men spending money on women is good then women spending money on men should be considered good as well.

@@coolchameleon21 madam not all men are rich, privileged and women are also earning money these days , if man is contributing in household chores, then split bill on dates,/ trips should not be a big deal.. 🙏

@@coolchameleon21 '' if he make more money than me ( which is the case 99% of time) " Do you know how averages work..? If you want him to spend money then you have to household chores simple. Both are earning money then splitting expenses is bare minimum you can do. Don't you love your bf/husband...? Why put entire burden on him..?

Right some men are in the way of their own blessings so they’re in the way of yours! I’ve been in 2 relationships. Both times I ended up broker being in it then being single… Also they’re miserable and take it out on you

Being frugal is good but poverty mindset and scarcity mindset is absolutely horrible and destructive.

@@cecilyerker It's kinda the same though....if you don't have enough money, you tend to be frugal and have that scarcity mindset.

@nardip4999 I agree with that. What do you think about this, someone I know she's my age, has a career, and a business, and a house. But she's the most frugal person I know, to the point that it's just dumb. She won't even buy a pencil holder she wanted so bad because it was SIX DOLLARS. In my opinion, being frugal is probably what made it possible to get her home (I still currently rent my place), but I can't be like that! I like to go out at least sometimes, and go for 2-3 day getaways in nearby cities and states.

@@valeriew4833 and that’s what I’m saying! Being a woman supporter will never equate to man hate for me, I’m a sister of 9 😂. Your boyfriend honestly doing what he can to make your life easier is just as valuable. There are men who are willing to give their best effort to make you happy and comfortable. There are just a lot who do not and I want women to know they will ALWAYS have options and never have to settle. My little brother has a girlfriend who helps him financially and he started looking for another girlfriend on her dime. I don’t fw him 😩

Sugar mama 😅 And her man is a geisha

@@joycejoy4119 Princess snowflake geisha :)

Exactly, someone tell me where is the fun in that? 😂 like why on earth even look at that guy twice, I want someone to elevate and upgrade my life not to make me broke 😂

That naivety is painful.

Right?? 😂😂😂😂😂😂

this^^^ edit: although it isn't realistically what most people do

Most broke men appear promising initially but after a while become villains

I agree, My little sister is 22 and not allowed till she is 26. She is studying entertainment law and learning how to be an interior designer part time. My dad and brothers pay her bills. She is allowed three holidays a year and has an allowance monthly. You need to be psychologically ready to handle men. They will ruin your soul if you are not prepared.

​@@millieconsultancyOh wow. What a lucky sister you have!

@@millieconsultancywow she is living I love that. And she has 2 men providing for her so she will know to only go for providers in the future cos the other route is terrible

@@millieconsultancy I hope that is what she wants and not what she is allowed

I thought that 45 was the best age for women to date as their hormone levels more closly match....

They won’t want to make the commitment of years of study and hard work. If they work it’s jobs they can get easily and where they won’t meet a lot of people that will trigger them

Some people will just mooch off of others if they can. The effort is not worth it. They prefer being with someone who doesn't expect anything.

Even if college isn't for him, or he can't afford it or make the long-term commitment, he could go to a trade school, start an apprenticeship, or attend short-term courses to get an educational certificate (becoming a phlebotomist, pharmacy technician, web developer, ect). Something that puts him above "cart wrangler at the big box store." That's not a position to support a family with.

He's not going to school because he's 40 years old!

Yeah. I’m glad my family at least banned me from dating anyone not working or studying for a good job. Their other bans like “no Muslims” and “no Scorpios” are ridiculous but they were spot on about that one.

No this is real lol

I met one like this. "I have a great personality." Well, he didn't have a job. He lived at home and made some cash here and there. His dad gave him $$ for McDonald's, and he was in his thirties 😂😂

What social and financial advantages?

Same goes to women. Women seriously need to step up

Fr aren't women rapidly overtaking men in higher education? And are on track to outpace men in income. Honestly fellas just forget about women, let's just not date and eventually go extinct, this whole thing is broken

Don't help a man. NEVER. He'll resent the hell out of you.

@@holographicwing so true 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

You’ve uncovered a repressed memory of mine. One of my exes did this too, but the kicker was that my being sweet, nurturing and supportive of him made him feel worse about himself, but when I degraded myself for his satisfaction, that’s when he felt best! Funny how that works.

@@malinasworld same! I was feeling pretty good about myself before I met my ex, then I felt worthless and helpless when I was with him. I even got on antidepressants while we were together... But surprise surprise I didn't need them after we broke up. Coincidence? I think not. But yeah, these broken men will try to drain us of our physical and emotional energy, leaving us depleted and vulnerable. All so they can feel a tad more powerful and in control without having to lift a damn finger themselves.

"Whenever I tried to help him out, it seemed to make things worse". Don't ever help a man. Not only do they NOT appreciate it, it makes them feel even more worthless. And they hate and resent you as well. Society often puts/encourages women to be rehab clinics, shock absorbers and enablers of men. It's a dangerous position to be put in.

Yes 💯✨

Yes they just don’t advertise it because they don’t have to

@@cecilyerker yesssss!!

SHE'S A RUNNER SHE'S A TRACK STAR ⭐🏃🏾‍♀️💨⭐

Needed this 😔

😂😂

She's in denial, she's clearly done with the guy, but she needs to come to terms with it and break it off.

What a jerk 🙄 glad he is your ex!!

👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽