Thanks for the video. For me is that I am more present with real women and I look them in the eyes way more. Its fun. Especially if they are quite attractive themselves.
1 - 4 are probably true but 5 and 6! Not every man wants a relationship with women and getting access to sex outside of a relationship can be difficult for most average men. View but practice self control and don't become addicted. Same as drinking alcohol really.
@@neilmccabe172finding the right woman can be very difficult. And after the honeymoon period sex becomes less and less. That’s why a lot of men turn to porn. Not sure how serious he is about the subject with all the movie snippets every 10 seconds. Is this video supposed to be funny or taken seriously?
This is the addiction no one talks about, because no one is homeless or looks like a crackhead as a result. But I'd argue the damage is just as profound.
replaced pron, smoking and alcohol with the gym and sleeping more, best thing i could have ever done idk if i have seen these extreme benefits but focus and clearing up brain fog is definitely one of the benefits.
Ahh these Millennials and Gen Zs will never understand the shame of having to walk into one of these video stores back in the 90s. Honestly how did we even find those places without Google Maps or Yelp?? Anyway, damn good video. Thank you.
I used to love going for a cruise around town with friends. When I would spot one of those stores i'd take note then go back alone or with other people that like corn too. It was very shameful and exciting.😅
It's society that puts so much shame into it, in reality it's not that shameful. When I was small I would be afraid to go to such a store as well, but I've realized there's nothing to be afraid of.
Walking into there felt like finding a gold vault full of treasures, you had to go on an adventure to discover them which made it more exciting.. but now you're just a few clicks away from a gold mine, only to realise it was a trap all along.
Porn like drugs or alcohol Absolutely 0 benefits in your life My best friend always says since we were in high school school if you have 20-30 min to watch that you have time to go for run do push ups & read
😂it is easy to say when u can easily have girl I want see wha tu would see if u was ugly as fuck or not 6 tall 😊 Not having sex at all or girlfriend in ur 25+and so on Porn exist couse they’re is demand and there is demand couse ppl needs it 🤷♂️ Sexless males is a thing not couse of their ‘decision’ but couse they tried and it not work out
Thanks very much for sharing, Dan. Not an easy thing to broadcast to the world, but very helpful to sooo many of us, whether early or late into our reboots. We appreciate you.
I used to watch porn 3-4 hours per day regularly, It took around 8 months for my subconscious to clean itself when i went cold turkey. Now my mind field feels broader and its one of the best things i have done for myself❤❤
After only a year God helped me out of this addiction. I'm so thankful for it, because I no longer need that type of entertainment to be entertained and can take joy in the simpler things. Praise God.
To be honest I quit porn for more than one year and not much changed in my life, I just find woman more attractive at average which has no effect on my day to day life anyway
@@johnnyringo2695 what depends on what exacly, how much my life will change, how much I'll find woman more attractive or sth else? Be more precise please
I've recently stopped watching...Ben about 2 weeks..I dont have the urge to watch which is good but I now feel numb and I still don't have any motivation and my other life stresses are feeling worse.
Started the journey on quitting recently. Really did it for the girl that I love and plan on marrying. I need to be my best self not just for her but for me. I love her so much that I couldn’t let this addiction /bad habit to get in between our intimacy and love for eachother.
Always great stuff from Dan. A lot of young men have no idea that habitually watching porn is bad for them and holding them back. I haven't watched a minute of porn in more than 5 years, don't miss it at all.
Hi first time viewer here… thank you Dan for your courage and insight. I have no doubt this video will help many men. I’m actually several months in successfully quitting porn and for those just starting please realize that you can do it, it can be done and you will beat this. These videos are always a huge help. In moments of weakness the best thing you can do is to distract yourself. So if you find yourself on the couch feeling weak and feeling that you’re about to break you need to immediately get off the couch and just do something…anything… I would jog around the block or go to Lowe’s and walk around or go to a loved ones house and just visit. As quick as the shameful thoughts appear is as quick as they disappear. Those impure sexual thoughts are to be held hostage by your mind… like literally held in captivity until you the grand master decides what to do with them. and then you starve those thoughts…by not feeding it, it withers away and dies. Keep starving them until they realize there is no food to be found here. A Strong journey is ahead my fellow men.
its called urge surfing. you don't have to beat the urge you just have to outlast it. the brain will get bored and move onto something else. instead of resist and resist harder, just delay delay delay. I'm gonna finish game and then Im gonna do this....delay delay delay, your mind will move on.
I'm also a first time viewer, but this is the cold turkey I need to eat. Also, prayer is a good weapon against it. I've been praying to God that He help take away this unhealthy addiction, finally setting me free of it since sex is meant to be a wholly intimate and committed act, not a vice to be vilified. Also, bring my mind back to last year before it started to become the source of my procrastination. For the past several months, a day hardly goes by without me trying to wank off. It's time to start eating the turkey, making it taste like chicken.
Thanks for making this video Dan!! I’ve been struggling to gain better self control over this and your video gave great insight. Not just to quit but to replace it with healthier habits. Be well brother 🫡
Porn is evil. The people who sell it are also evil. The people who take part in making porn are broken and slightly evil. It’s one of the worst things for young men. I’m 42 and likely had a similar introduction to this evil. We can’t get rid of it but if I had a son, I’d talk to him about it and make sure he understands what it will do to his brain.
It's only evil if you think it's evil. It's why you can have 2 men that both watch porn. One could be highly successful, happy, fulfilled, serving his community, have a family, everything he wants out of life, and another man who has nothing. The difference between the two? One views it as entertainment and lives life normally, the other views it as evil and proceeds to self sabotages his own ego. The mind if everything, what you think, you become.
I quit it for 30 days, didn't feel any benefits but I was depressed at the time and didn't focus on any new habits. Since then I've been working on slowly adding healthy habits and my mental and physical state is much better. I think this time I've got a better idea of what I need to be redirecting my energy into.
Thank you for this video. I’m 43, I followed the same path as you. VHS tapes, Then internet, and now it’s everywhere for free. I was the same way, never rented from the video stores, usually got them from family or friends. I’m going to stop, I know it’s hard, but I will treat it like I did smoking and junk food. I know I will fall off the wagon a few times, but eventually I will overcome. Thank you for your story and the video.
I’ve started consuming porn in my tender age of 10 years old… I was peer pressured by one of my best friends at the time. He was a year older than me. I’m 23 now and I’m still trying to quit this evil habit of mine. I hope that after watching this video I change my behavior towards pornography
I stumbled across porn at the tender age of 12 years old and got hooked for almost 20 years now. It was my coping mechanism for my shitty childhood. I tried to keep it a secret all that time and it eventually ruined my marriage. I’m currently together with a beautiful woman and it’s undoubtedly affecting my performance in bed and I know I need to quit. I’m about to start seeing my therapist again for this and life in general. Thank you so much Dan for being open and honest about this. It NEEDS to be talked about. For all you men (and women) out there, stay resilient. We can do this!
I too had a shitty childhood with all forms of abuse including sex abuse. As far as I can remember, I started compulsive sexual behaviours by 5. Talk about something abnormal! I needed to release the stress somewhere... I'm 48 now. I still have these hedonism behaviours which drive me to porn and have sex with myself rather than the loved one. I've been trying to quit for 4 years now, and it seems like I just can't. Did you succeed?
@@WillMarcouiller I've slowly started losing interest in things I used to like: first and foremost video games, then tv shows, and I actually have been cutting out the porn without interest in it or a relapse for a whole week. I've been listening nonstop to breakup music on Spotify and losing myself inside my thoughts. I also never stopped regularly going to the gym for the better part of 15 years. In line with Dan's advice, I'm going to pick up piano again to occupy myself so I'm in the works of buying one.
Definitely, i had a before after pic of mine and i couldn't believe the difference. My appearance in general completely changed. Just looked like i had far more life in me
Came across your Chanel recently and I love it, it helps me get back control over my bad habits, and I think the exact same as you about everything which is crazy but I guess self improvement takes us all to rome.
@Verociity Not sure the scientific reason, but I know fasting increases your self discipline and resets your body and minds chemistry. I speak from experience. I'm not a religious person, but Jesus and other spiritual leaders did fasting for similar reasons. It is time proven and overlooked in today's society.
Unless it's a chemical substance that you are hooked on, I think the thing you have trouble quitting is something you really aren't fully convinced is something you no longer want. Once you are really fed up with it, you'll quit it. But everyone is different.
This is something that scared me. I usually had such a strong "pipe" and could last quite a bit, could be super passionate my partner, etc. Yet after watching p*rn more and more as my life spiraled downward I literally got scared I got ED at 23 years old.. huge wake up call. im still battling this demon at 25 but after watching this video on top of many other positive life changes over these past few weeks I think im finally going to fully stop doing this to myself. Thank you
As a Christian, I’m frankly frustrated with the way the church treats this addiction. I do believe it is wrong and want to quit, but the messaging of shame around it makes it so hard to quit. The number one place I should be able to go for help is frankly the last place I feel like going to.
As a fellow Christian I understand. When I was a new Christian I had certain addictions (alcohol, pot) that I felt were negatively affect my walk. So I started praying that if the Lord wanted me to quit those things that He would take the desire for those things away. In otherwords, I put it on Him, because on my own I couldn't quit. Fast forward to today, It's been decades since I've had a drink or smoked pot, and no longer struggle with either...try praying this way with porn.
I am a 31 year old guy, married for 8 years with 2 little kids.. i have been involved in watching porn since i was like 10yrs old.. since then this addiction has been a big black beast sitting on my shoulder, holding me in its grip. One day i was totally rock bottom and i confessed everything to my wife, which was truly the most painful and hardest thing i ever did in my life. But the months after were the best i ever experienced, quitting completely with every form of outside-marriage-arousals. And now.. I just can’t believe i relapsed again, for many weeks now. Again this burden of guilt and secrets. Man, it is HARD! It is so difficult to find the balance in having a marriage without secrets and protecting your spouse from the vices one faces :( i could write so much more but i’ll save you all from that. Thanks for reading though.. ❤
I'm 30 and single never had a gf, and currently I am jobless. I also watch hentai(form of porn) since my high school days, but I did achieved one of my goals getting First class degree. Problem is I don't have a job rn due to field I choose and it was profession called UI/UX Designer. There is rarely jobs available in my country and I tried to get a job from different country but did not work.
@@danfounderthanks for the reply. I stopped around 27 but kept coming back after a few months off. Currently 32 and 4 months off it. Thank you Dan. I will look back on this comment when I’m 44 years of age and be 12 years without it.
Gave up all forms of alcohol 1.5 years ago. Gaving up on porn slowly. Becoming more sexually disciplined. My longest streak on no PMO has been 11 days. Next target is 1 month. Going slow and steady.
Very informative video! My journey started from a challenge in November (NNN), but even after finishing the challenge, it actually took me quite a while to not relapse often. Filling in the void is one of the most important aspects of Nofap. The healthy approach is to correct our dopamine system with real-life successes, with normal level but longer-lasting dopamine release, instead of rapid release of large amount of dopamine and then quench down below baseline very soon after like those we get from PMO.
I stopped watching p*rn and on the third month I achieved enlightenment I started levitating and everything in my life started being cool and good I even won the lottery and the president came and gave me the key of the city now I'm mayor soon I'll be president on month 4!
Hey Dan, I just came across your channel. The first video that I watched was "I'm 44. If you are in your 20s, watch this." (I am 53 this year.) I was also addicted to porn when someone brought a porn magazine back from the US (I live in Singapore) to our boarding school. I was 12. It wasn't until I was 16 that I came across video porn. Back in the late 80s, porn was only available on VHS, and you really had to go to some shady places in Malaysia and Singapore to find them. Porn short circuits your brain, and the temptation is so great that it will lead you to take some significant risks, and I am not talking about our parents finding out. Where I grew up, it could mean getting into trouble with the Law. Kudos to you for being open and transparent in sharing your story. It takes great courage and vulnerability to do so. You are providing excellent public service. I am rooting for you, and I am going to learn from your RU-vid channel how I can share my story and inspire others.
I couldn't agree more, bravo. There's something I want to emphasize in the "quitting porn for good" part: if you have a *mediocre* life (like me, you don't hang out at all with friends, you don't have many and the few you have are not so diligent, you don't have/realize you have many good habits, let's not talk about girls, etc) porn IS a very important part of your life... So, in order to quit porn for good, you should upgrade your life first and then you deal with porn, if you'll need to (because I felt the urge drastically dropping, but then it came back when I faced the next challenging time)
That sounds great. I do strongly desire increased energy and focus, but I don't know what to do when my libido distracts my. I can ignore it when it's weak and I'm doing something more engaging, but once it becomes too strong I can't concentrate or get to sleep, and I have insomnia already.
I stopped watching not for any moral or health reasons but mostly because it doesn't give me the same satisfaction as it did when I was younger. I also think the freedom of access that I have, knowing that I can watch anytime anywhere just dampened the excitement because back when smartphones were not a thing, watching it is an event you prepare for
Me too so many years. And then it just started to become problem, or i realized it started to become problem. And that is very good motivation to not do things, that in the end dosen’t feel good, when you are trying to live better life. And in porn it is bad, when seeing bad things, that stucks sometimes even days in mind very harmful way. This is why i have being quitting this things. It just ruins everything always for couple days, if you see something harmful that stucks in mind. Horrible thing. But it is possible to quit also. And that’s good.
7 years clean. Quit cold turkey, same symptoms you described, also in my 40s! 2 words: Mental Clarity. Brain was no longer going 5 million miles an hour.
thank you for making this video, i wrote a lot more but the shame convinced me to delete it, thank you i needed to see this video, i think jesus put this video in my feed thanks again
As a 20 year old porn addict of 10 years I can without any doubt say that is true. Porn is dehumanizing towards men women and oneself, oftentimes disrespectful and harmful and most importantly of all, it isn't ones own sexuality and tied to ones own values and perception of beauty and eroticism. You profit of fantasies that you create and controll, big porn profits of off you and it's "actors" in order to make itself more rich. Every business that's profitable ripoffs and uses their customers and suppliers to some extent. But when it comes to porn, it uses other peoples bodies to earn money. Porn earns money on people suffering and is one of the biggest industries in our modern world. If we as humans want to end suffering in general we should be most concerned about big porn!
Thanks buddy.. i finally decided to quit porn. This is my 4th day. I tried before also to quit. But this time I have different feeling. As u said journaling one's feeling, introspect and replacing the void with something is absolutely best approaches. Because I realised why failed before is i didn't guide my feelings during my abstinence period. I did have something else to focus on during that period but it was for short time thing. I was preparing for my final exams and i was practicing no porn and no fap. But after i really did not anything worth doing. So I literally as u said couldn't direct my extra energy to something. And there i am back to 0. Watching ur video gave me reassurance that I am in the right path and took right decision. This time also I do have exams coming up. I should find out something else to replace for porn. I should not use my exam preparation this time as replacement. Instead i should find choose something. Besides that keeping short goals is also good Idea. Anyway thanks for the reassurance and new ideas. I hope i will make this no porn as my lifestyle rather than counting days. I will certainly come back to this comment sometime after and give u guys my journaling link
One thing that works for some people with addiction, is everytime you want the addiction, you do some kind of excercise instread. Like pushups, or going for a walk. Both are great for me atleast
