@@AbaNPreach sorry but we can't allow this you two are a packaged deal haha you both compliment each other's style of approaching and explaining things even though I don't always agree with you (about 80% of the time I do ) I enjoy watching your videos and hope you guys continue making them for a long time to come it's rare to find a channel that makes you laugh but also educates you on things you might be ignorant about
It's underrated talking about your growth nowadays. People want to cancel other people's past to make themselves appear better but won't want to acknowledge how they've changed for the better
People don’t seem to want to change or see growth. Hatred comes in every way shape and form, we all change and I’d definitely believe many more people would change for the better if they had places to go, to disconnect their false thinking about certain people.
‘It’s underrated to talk about growth.’ Ain’t that the truth. Although, on the flip side, I wish we were in a position where honesty to this degree talking about changes and improvements in our own lives would be celebrated and/or barely acknowledged due to it happening so often. Basically a short conversation i imagine based on Race in America but with improvement on the way they go about life: ‘I used to be racist.’ Ok. Good for you Because widespread understanding: Progress in America > Fuller Realization of Democracy> Equal Standing measured by law > Slaves aren’t equal by nature of being owned> Free the slaves or Morality dictates ‘Do to others as you wish for yourself.’ A person’s only moral move is to do what can be done for those with an unequal standing. A free man owes the slave what he can do for them. A healthy person owes the sick what can be done. An educated man owes the ignorant what he can. A wise man can come to the realization that he is of no use unless he does what he can to improve life for others. or Race(prejudice) Hate > Discriminates based on something someone has no control over> Unjust practices will breed hate> Unjust actions creates dysfunction> A dysfunctional society breeds corruption Not all points apply to all slaves throughout history. On the other hand, some thought-process taken out to the full extent can lead to being open to self improvement.
@Hit Quixote growth applies to black people growing and being better as well. Idk if anybody is saying 'let's be forgiving of white people when they grow", but I can see how its implied. If that is what they're thinking, then yea, there may be some privilege there. But aba and preach talked about prejudices coming from any direction and talked about black people being jaded from their own negative experiences with white people. So anyone who's thinking about this in the context of onlynwhite people changing kinda missed their point.
@Hit Quixote I take it that that's your personal view because no one else mentioned that. It's bad either way, Sounds like you're a little prejudice If you think white people should get a pass
I really like that he said, “people wanna tell everyone they’re not racist they’re not prejudice but they don’t wanna talk about their journey to get there.”
Idk I stopped talking to my dad at age 15 because I realized he was racist. Now I'm 30 and havent spoken to him since. I removed the only element of racism that had any influence over me at a young age, immediately after recognizing it, so I was never really subjected to it. Some kids dont have a choice but to be raised by racist parents tho. Some on the other hand just never have that influence/propaganda to begin with.
With that wording, you are assuming that when people say that they are not prejudice, were prejudice from the beginning. Isn't that in itself prejudice?
I am glad this man is able to talk about his mistakes with strangers, that is growth and maturity. He should be proud of himself. How I wish this world was more accepting for people that grow (Depends on the situation though)
People shouldnt need to be praised that they're not racist! That's legit the bare minimum. Instead we should use that time to constantly teach more people to be more cultured. But I guess he's not racist 👏 good job?
@@delamain2077 People aren't born racist. It's an institution, it's learned. To have the awareness to overcome that deserves at least a little praise. To be brave enough to admit it so that others may follow also seems praiseworthy.
I’m so glad you guys covered this topic. A lot of racist people were raised to be that way. I have a friend that I initially met while working at a cannabis club. The first year I stayed away from him and only interacted when I had to because he had a scary demeanor, and other coworkers told me he was racist. As time progressed we started talking more and that’s when he told me his story. His family is racist and raised him to believe all people of color are evil and dangerous. He believed it until he had a near death experience and when in the hospital he noticed all the doctors and nurses working so hard to save his life were of color. That’s when he realized all the lies he was told. He’s no longer racist and he’s a good friend of mine. It’s been 5 years since we met and I’m so proud of his story and growth.
Ignorance is the root of racism. If we can defeat ignorance we can defeat racism. Thank you for being understanding and open minded and allowing someone to change and grow.
As a kid I was playing with other children. Their culture or ethnicity didn't matter, they were just friends and playmates. Then in my tweens and teens I was constantly hammered with my alleged inherent racism and oppression of other groups because of crimes done by people I only shared pigmentation levels with that I had to atone for. Combine that with racism from other groups and I became embittered and resentful of these groups of people who were being spoon-fed the same propaganda and lies as me. It took alot of time to distance myself from it all and see that both the state and activist groups with vicious agendas were making both me and these groups hate each other. It's a fucking farce that is so exhausting that it's allowed to persist.
It's called ancestry. We are literally what came before us. DNA. It doesn't force you to be or do anything. BUT. It definitely leads one to behave( as in a computer program) to be inclined towards certain mindsets and behaviors. This is the Human condition.
We should have a "Rehabilitation Culture" instead of "Cancel Culture". Edit: I'm not saying put people in camps for god's sake. I'm saying to encourage changing one's toxic beliefs and congratulating them when they do. Obviously no one can make you do this and whether a person wants to change is up to them.
@@PonyCraft Sure, I guess. I was mainly thinking that if people come out as being passed these toxic thoughts and proving to be better than they were, then that should be celebrated. Rather than scrutinized for having the toxic thoughts to begin with.
I knew I guy that was a skinhead & he got in a bad car accident. The nurse that took care of him was black & opened his eyes & heart. She didn't care he was a skinhead she helped & treated him with loving care. He changed his outlook on race. Now he married a black women & works with intercity kids! There's always a road to redemption!
He was probably incapacitated and by the end had to accept the truth. If he had the ability to walk he would’ve immediately but it’s good he had to sit there and accept it
I'd argue that he has then become an actual skinhead. They were never racists. They befriended Jamaicans after windrush and created some of the best music. I'm a skin, and honestly, some people will look at you in judgement even when I have a massive SHARP (skinheads against raical prejudice) patch on my jacket lol.
@Eat the socialist That is just wrong. There are plenty of white people on the left that actually are anti - racist. This post is another reason that the right is far scarier for black people than the left.
@Eat the socialist the left isn’t vested in this culture war nonsense that you conservatives are in. Leftists are too busy focusing on universal healthcare, minimum wage, eviction moratoriums and other progressive reforms that are HIGHLY popular in the US and abroad. Conservatives, too consumed by frivolous issues are discussing transgender bathrooms, dr Seuss books, oversexualised gay pride parades, Cardi B’s WAP, Simone Biles’ “cowardice” and the assault on “white people.” Hahaha.
Liam Neeson once said something quite similar. A friend of his was rap*d by a black guy and because of that he had pretty r*cist thoughts for a long time but realised it was idiotic. He talked about it on TV here in the UK and people wanted to cancel him for it. A very well known former footballer (soccer to you) player (who is back) called John Barnes defended and applauded him for it. They wanted to cancel him too lol. It's mad. There's no honesty in this overly PC age.
I used to be kinda racist growing up. I grew up around some pretty racist people and as a kid I internalized those views. Around the time of 9/11 it was drilled into me that Muslims are bad people.As I grew older and experienced more of life I learned how dumb the views of those figures in my formative years were. I feel like a lot of the hyper vigilant people in cancel culture are so intense because they are ashamed of some of their past actions. Part of growing is recognizing your past mistakes This is a great video. Keep on it Abba and Preach!
I love how folks say I use to be racist, but then you hear them say blacks or other minorities who out earn whites like Asians or Indians are spoken of in a very odd way. They know we out earn them and it's not even close when examining data, but they still feel they're better than us some how. How is that not racist if you feel superior even when society objectively says they rank above you?
I mean, there's millions of people that have done exactly this on Twitter in US. Not exactly groundbreaking here. Seems more like virtue bs to us. I'm just happy England can't scold us for being racist anymore though. Good on ya mates, fuck the queen.
@@imemberberry It's a little different being on call, live, versus simply tweeting some characters on twitter... especially when most people online are mildly anonymous.
Holy fuck! Being racist isn't an addiction it's just a perception people have. This isn't alcohol anonymous. Good job that they're not racist but it feels as though they're trying to make it more Abt themselves instead of educating more ppl
@@H41030v3rki110ny0u a call on a show is even more anonymous than tweeting. I can throw a rock outside my door and hit 3 people who would love the spotlight to call themselves racist in the past. Womp womp.
I had a period of my life where I was. It started with getting robbed at gunpoint & suddenly a lot of sterotypes seemed true to a fault. Took me a few years to grow out of it & get out of that fearful headspace. Positive experiences is really what did it.
That's why everybody needs to drop identity politics and start judging people as individuals, not by shallow things, like color, or nationality. We need to transcend that. Skin color needs to become as relevant as being right or left handed. Treat people the way you want to be treated, unless they demonstrate they're assholes.
Imagine speaking about your past and your issues and moving beyond them and being thrown under the bus for trying to better yourself like damn this society is backwards.
It is an unhealthy obsession with perfection. In a world where one sees perfection as what should be the norm, not the end goal, people only get disapointed and let down. Which in turn leads to frustration and anger and a sensd of incompetance because perfection is damn near impossible to achieve.
@@Delimon007 A truism I’ve really taken to heart is the fact that very often “Perfect” becomes enemy of “Better”. In a lot of situations people demand 100% perfection from others, and whenever they come up short - no matter how small, their entire effort is overshadowed and forgotten.
@@cashcleaner I feel like I may have treated people like this in the past as well though not for small little things though lol! But yes, life isn't perfect and neither are people. That's why it's important to give positive reinforcement to good changes that people make in their lives and not put them down. As I've never put people down for improving I have looked down on those who refuse to improve and a lot of that comes from me being there before and digging myself out of a very very deep hole to get where I am today. I think the best advice that I can give is that if you want to change something you need to look at how you can change and make steps to do so and maybe even have someone hold you accountable if need be, even if you feel like you can do it alone. Change isn't easy, but once you take your first steps forward it becomes that much easier.
I think the fact that he can say this on a public platform is commendable. If we don’t allow people to talk about things like this and grow, it only keeps us divided. Not to mention the fact that people are condemned for saying things like this only makes them more resentful of the people they are striving to remove biases toward.
Not being racist shouldn't need to be praised when it's the bare minimum that we expect from our fellow man. And yes ppl are "condemned" for coming out as formal racist in the same way you wouldn't want your neighbor to be a reformed rap*st. That's suspect asf
@@delamain2077 Not being racist shouldn't be praised, but growing out of racism should. Racism is something you learn, from family, environment, friends, experiences, etc. No one learns to be a r*pist, but people can learn to be a racist. Ingrained behaviors are hard to grow out of, it's like cutting out a part of yourself, this man cut that part out and I can respect that.
@@bakedgoods7116 well said! Thank you for that perspective its similar to mine but also different. In hindsight I might've come off a bit too judgemental and focused a bit too much on my interpretation of his motives and the video as a whole. Although my only gripe with your argument is the whole praising. To me personally, unless that person had adamantly through their actions (and I'm not sure how they'd go about it) proved that they were no longer racist. I really couldn't see a reason to praise them because I'm my eyes, I see that as a personal victory. If the argument against that was, "these type of duologue can somehow make racist change." In truth most people that are " racist" are not going to be watching this type of content. Sry if this was long to read
I'm black and African, and I can tell you prejudice and biases can't be erased completely. Tribalism, religion, political ideology and just difference of opinions are all things that will always cause discord. In Africa it's tribalism we suffer from down here despite we all being the same skin tone, education and being open minded however helps tone down this prejudices we all have with time. We all are on a journey of life, and on a quest to get better but there's still gonna be folks who are just bad and they cut across all races and cultures!
I wish that black people who live in places like the US would understand that racism is rarely simply about skin colour as you have explained so beautifully. People who are ‘racist’ are those same types of people who would have issues in a country like Africa if you came from another cultural group even if you are of the same skin colour. They are people who are scared of the ‘other’ no matter how you look.
@@therealvoid365 exactly, but so many people think that only the single idea of ‘racism’ (against people with darker skin) exists. They are ignorant due to the low quality of the mainly western education system which results in very limited scope of thinking and even curiosity to know more about the world and the human condition. It’s so sad, they can’t even recognise what is happening in their own homes or communities. Heaven help us.
Sometimes it's not even about tribes in the biological sense. You literally have the different cliques of extroverts, introverts, jocks, nerds, spirituals, agnostics, atheists, etc. Certain groups just have more myopic views than others.
First interaction I had with a black person was when I was 10 and I had moved to a new neighborhood. Kid in the house behind me invited me to go to the local biking trail with his buddy. We got there and had a good time. Outta nowhere his buddy, the black kid, pushed me off my bike and started kicking me in the stomach. If the neighbor’s older brother didn’t come to get us, idk how badly it would have been. Needless to say, I was kinda scared of black people. It wasn’t until I was at a military academy for part of high school did my views start to change. Even ended up as the squad leader for 9+ black kids my second year there. There was a lot of respect we all had for each other, and many of them went on to be leaders as well (a few even crediting me for their choices).
@Gadson McHugh do you ask every white person if they have Irish ancestry? Or do you just take note of when someone is Irish because of their behavior? You can’t negate what has happened because of the actions of a minority. Is the treatment of African Americans sorta negated because of the Black Panthers?
People dismiss it because Irish people try to compare themselves against black people. Similar but it doesn't compare. Even though they say "An Irishman is nothing but a nigga turned inside out"
I give that man big props for being able to talk about the lessons he has learned. A lot of people think from a place of survival which comes from fear. Fear only breeds hatred, ignorance and rage in the minds of lost souls. It takes pure courage to admit to something that most would feel is treasonous.
I think its time to dismantle the notion that fear is the foundation of all this hatred. These Karens we're seeing all over the internet who are running up to black people, getting in their faces, shouting at them....they're not afraid. Thats not to say that fear is never relevant, but it seems obvious a lot of people are skipping "fear of the unknown" and going straight to hatred for the unknown.
You black Americans are too forgiving. You are giving this man props for not hating you because of your skin-color? Lmao, keep turning the other cheek, untill y'all aren't got no more cheeks to turn.
@@Exxperiment626 lol. Why do you think racism exists only with white people? I hate to break it to you but black people in America are just as racist if not more than white people in America. This guy did not act out on his prejudice but rather saw the flaws of his thought patterns and managed to improve himself.
I was also raised to be very prejudice. I come from a “sundown town” in the American South and was always taught black=BAD. Mexican=BAD. Jewish=BAD. Democrats= BAD. Everyone who’s not white, from little trash towns across America- BAD. Luckily my dad joined the military and got me out of that environment at a young age. But every time I went home to visit there’d always be that one old timer.. “don’t you go gettin you a black boyfriend now…” and it disgusted me! Very early on in life I made the decision that my family was wrong and that they were wrong in hating people based on their skin color or beliefs. I consider my family to be absolute bigots. I love them, of course, they are my family. But it baffles me that they can be so ignorant in this day n age and expect me to see things in the same way. I’ve always been the black sheep of the family and this is one of the reasons and… I’m ok with that.
thats weird i come from the poor american south i grew up with mexican black and white friends so i cant relate at all. its probably more specific to your family or upbringing. I commonly heard trailer park trash but racism not so much. its also weird how now democrats see jews as bad. i guess if you are democrat you have to follow along with that narrative too? jews are oppressing the brown palestinians by defending their country from rocket attacks? democrats are insane
@@sirmister9099 probably somewhat. However segregation/redlining was done to keep black people away from white people out of hate rather than the other way round so it makes sense that that racial hatred would fester in those white areas rather than in the black areas that didn't choose to be apart
Well maybe you can do the same your Dad did for you. Educate them on why that is wrong regardless of their age. Help them grow like you did. I hate people who just let someone they know be ignorant to stuff like that especially if it’s their family. It shows you really don’t care all that much for your family.
I truly appreciate when anyone changes for the better, we must never forget though the victims created before the change of heart, like the movie you mentioned, the guy who got stomped on the side walk he was still dead after the protagonist found redemption. Just like Preach, the PTSD is real and endures for many years. We should remember their healing is important too.
The culture wars exist in all media everywhere now It's exploited by govts to distract the news cycles for just long enough to move on to the next thing The general public these days are bombarded with so much "news", they either tune out, or have 1 day memories
Leftists, trans activist, "liberals", BLM, AOC stans etc have infiltrated every aspect of media. You will not because they want everyone to hate each other.
I believe people could change their mindset about how they perceive other people. Nobody is born racist, it's mainly the environment & community that made them that way. 👀
Agreed on the principle but i do think at the contrary everybody is at least born xenophobe we learn to not stay like that. It's natural to fear strangers and to like more people who look more like you. Anyway racism is an umbrella term for a lot of behaviours from condescendance up to mass murder.
Thank you, Preach, for your commentary on how those experiences are carried. It’s definitely going to help me with my kids and other family with discussion. My two older kids and I are of the “pre-Katrina” era, whereas my two younger kids are from this “post-Katrina” era. My partner is from TX. So, we have various dynamics going on in our household that very often cause dissonance. But, how you discussed experiences, how they’re carried, and PTSD, it’s definitely going to open up the floor for us.
A weird story. I dated someone who was actually racist. I'm a black female. He's was a white male. Things happened, and I went through his phone for reasons not related to this. But he had a group chat with his close friend, and it was about whites being superior and shitting on black people and immigrants. He and his friends also made fun of me for being Jewish and black. He would take to me about one of his friends being openly racist and sexist. I guess it was to keep up his none racist appearance. When called out, he would use the excuse of it being jokes and nothing serious.
@@mcgrewism no, she probably didn't expect anyone being disgusting (better said disgustingly ra*ist) towards her ethnicity and her partner letting his friends get away with it. Overall, she probably didn't expect her partner being ra*ist and dating her only for race dominance purposes.
@@mcgrewism uhm I do lol a woman's intuition is strong and she obviously felt something was off. She found what she wanted too & now she wasn't wrong for going through his phone. Thank good she did before she found they were plotting to do something awful to her
It's just like when Liam Neeson came out about a moment he was racist. And instead of applauding him for his honesty and how he regretted that moment he got hate.
Exactly!! It was beyond absurd that some went after the bloke like that, he should have been commended for expressing his past thoughts/actions. We human race need help .
I'll never forget when i was in county jail for a short time, one night this dude told a bunch of us his story of how he used to be racist and how he was shown his faults. A previous time he was locked up he was put in a cell with a black man and he expressed his opinion of the guy and the dude in return was nothing but kind with him and talked with him and like made him realize they he was just as human as himself. after however long it took for him to come around dude had to call his daughter in tears telling her everything he ever taught her was wrong cause he raised her with a racist perspective. This was super simplified and doesn't do this mans story justice but it was a powerful thing to witness himself be vulnerable and choose to share this story with all of us. its just one of those things that always stuck with me and why i know everyone deserves a second chance in life. No one gets everything right on the first go, so give them a chance for redemption cause there is potential for good in all.
I had a coworker who was Hispanic tell me that he used to be racist towards black people. And it was literally because of him getting jumped by black people back in his early 20s. He's grown from it and is actually the sweetest guy I've met but Aba is right. That's a plausible way someone could develop hatred for a group of people
The world NEEDS more people that are willing to introspectively view themselves and be honest about the prejudices we harbor and exercise. It's not about canceling the man because of who he used to be. He learned and grew beyond that point as a human being. ANYONE can do that. ANYONE.
I live in a predominantly white area where people are often racist, but I use channels like this one to see different perspectives than the ones I hear in my neighborhood.
We also have to avoid the trap of confirmation bias. If you see someone and they fit a stereotype you dislike you go "SEE! I was right about them!" even if it is only 1 example compared to many that disprove the preconceived bias.
I'm from a similar area to the guy in the video and from being around certain people you do get prejudices. Especially in smaller northern towns. I think alot has changed now, especially for the younger generation as there is alot more diversity in these small towns. But when I was growing up these conversations you would hear when people are generalising a race, sexuality or culture and take that as fact bcos you knew no different. In fact, I remember when I was younger, my best friend was mixed but looked white. As soon as some parents in my school saw his mother, they tried to steer their kids away from him. It was vile to see, I'm lucky that my parents had travelled alot and always taught me to judge on characteristics instead of looks. Great video tho guys, people are so quick to cancel people who say this kinda thing but I feel its important to listen bcos it could shy them away from actually changing their mindset.
I’m half black and Indian an saw both groups of family say nasty ignorant things about each other. So I can only imagine the things other races and what they would say.
That's the USA atleast. Race hypothesis has been debunked hundreds of times over the centuries. Why do people still believe in something that doesn't exist.
Due to situations I experienced when I was much younger in my teen years, I also was a racist.....to black people. There is nothing more hurtful or more scarring than to hear from your own people that you are "not black enough" due to me speaking proper, being intelligent or being a gamer/in to manga/anime.For the longest time, for many years, I held resentment towards black people. People are very quick to judge racists never realizing that some might be racist due to not just ignorance, but also traumatic life altering events
I wouldn’t consider you a racist per se. I grew up in the hood and I had the same ignorant way of thinking. I am educated and I obviously grown as a person. Maybe I am wrong but resentment for the way you have been treated isn’t the same as believing a specific race is inferior. Maybe my definition of a racist is different from most people.
@@bossgrew7969 Yup, same. Ended up feeling so alienated that it pretty much has ruined quite a few things for me. But it also helped me gravitate and learn about other cultures and races and befriend them. But I would never wish that pain on anyone and as such, I am more tolerant and understanding of racists (or at the very least I try to understand where exactly they are coming from and where those thoughts and feelings originate)
@@roncrudup2110 Possibly but I know the resentment and hurt and pain did eventually shift my mind to making me think they were inferior. Not to the point of what to do violence towards them or anything, but more so that I just did not care about them, care to hang around them and even scoff up my nose at times at things they would do. I was really lost due to the fact that I did not handle my pain at the time. But even though I never acted on anything, I know my mind was more or less against black people for a period of time (which I am ashamed to say)
Yeah the media barely covers this side of human nature. It's easy to turn obviously different ethnicities on eachother, so the media prefers that instead.
I just love this, I'm raised in a racist family, it made me want to found out how it realy was early on. It's the reason I became friends with different people of collour, got to know their family's and made me love their culture. The only thing i regret is taking them home with me, I was to young to understand the closet racist ''jokes'' were probably harming them. A sibling of mine got to see the other side, he drank the racist juice like water, got beat up a lot because of it and it only strengthened his racist feelings towards them. He got around at 26 years old, and fell in love with a mixed girl a while after. How you were raised has a lot to do with it. For a lot of people it will take a long time if at all, to learn for themself how it really is.
This has made me realize why I'm questioning myself ALOT recently. I have developed a lot of bitterness and reinforced stereotypes towards certain groups of people. My job is selling alcohol, and you don't meet the best people. They might be great people, but a lot of minor and major conflicts arise (I was threatened for telling someone to wear a mask). However, because of COVID, I've cut off my social outings in my life for almost 2 years. I have realized, I have effectively cut my exposure to people from different cultures that I am friends with, love, and appreciate or new people that I can meet in a positive setting. And now, I am kind of stuck with mostly REAL LIFE negative interactions that I am just now realizing are really spoiling my opinions of people. So it does pain me to admit, I am turning into a racist. While I'd love to go out and hang out, COVID scares the crap out of me. I felt all of its symptoms the first time, gave it to my family, felt I might become responsible for their deaths (we all survived thankfully), still feeling long-term effects, and I NEVER want that again or give it to my friends. While I don't try to filter what I see on the internet and expose myself to different things, real-life interactions seem to be affecting me more.
Bless this man. So often people are “programmed” by things closest to them and people close to them. Then you “see” and “experience” things for yourself, that contradict and destroy some of the things you assumed or had been conditioned to be right. He could have been stagnant as a person, but instead decided to grow and evolve. There will be people in this comment section still mad because he “used” to be racist, but won’t credit his transformation. I think it’s dope
Yes, some people are lucky/smart enough at some point in their lives to have a disillusionment phase where the deepest toxic, personality traits might change.
I agree but think it’s opposite that he decided to be racist back in the day and when he experienced life and realized it was a wrong belief he couldn’t see himself being that person anymore. It’s like seeing something that once you see it you can never unsee and this guy changed because he realized the actual lack of evidence from his previous beliefs and found evidence to the contrary
No person is ever superior to another, the only person you should believe you are superior too, is your former self This man learned the error of his ways and it should be celebrated
@Hit Quixote No one being racist is ideal but it's not reality, so I think everyone that's able to grow out of that mindset should be praised. I'm not saying every day someone isn't racist to pat them on the head and give them a treat, but if someone like that caller were to tell me of the journey they made I personally wouldn't sarcastically say something like "wow, congrats, you've reached baseline humanity now."
@@davlmt its not natural for humans its only becoming more natural in the last generation or two. While a "normal" person doesn't deserve praise for not being racist an ex racist deserves praise for dropping negative shit about him. It shows his progression through his life which is a positive change. Everyone has biases some just take biases extremely far and most of them never change.
I'd love to hear more about the code switching and having different friend groups. It's something I do, but haven't ever thought about it too much. An ex hated that she hadn't met some of the other groups. Makes you sometimes feel torn, or wonder who the real you is. It troubles me sometimes
Heck I was raised in like 3 states, moved a lot, had friends from different backgrounds. I got expose to different cultures just about every other week due to neighbors, films, events, and classmates. Being African-American I got to learn the history of America when I got older but I couldn’t bring myself to hate all “current” white people. I’ve met and had great people in my circles so I know for a fact it’s not everyone, unless everyone I met were professional child actors. I personally haven’t had a racism moment yet but I’ve seen it on news and heard stories.
That's good you haven't been submitted to racism, no-one deserves judgement in that fashion and it's comforting to know we've reached such a point in the world :)
@@mrlofi333 clearly you have never been to places where white people who are poor live next to asians who are rich. Trailer Park here in San Diego literally next door to a gated community whose vast majority ownership is Asian. Them poor folk get alot of dirty looks at the grocery story, hint its not the Asians who are poor.
@@mrlofi333 Ya need to get that white privilege nonsense out of your head. Being white does not give you an auto easy life. I was poor growing up. I've been arrested. Been smacked around by cops(just once on that front). There are other things, but that's not really what im getting at here.. Wealth and power are where the real privilege is. Poor and working class folks actually have a ton in common. We're just told we're supposed to hate each other...by people with wealth and power.🤔🤔🤔. We got to get back to love and understanding friend. That's just my two cents. Be blessed
this is a breath of fresh air i cant express how nice this is. a simple nice open floor discussion no prejudice or hate just exploring someones story. edit:btw i mean in the live broadcast you guys showed
Let me get this straight - Preach has friends who cannot meet his wife because of their racist views towards her ? If that was me, those people would definitely NOT be my friends.
So when i was in elementary school i had this friend, Andrea (i live in Italy). He was my only and best friend, we had a kind of rare and super nice relationship. We have been friends since we were basically 5, even if we eventually fell out. Then, when i was 16, i realized he was black, half cuban to be precise. And i only realized it, and the weight of racism, when i studied it. Before that, the colour of his skin and his origin were just his way of being him. Racism is learnt, not born with, and it can be forgotten, with some effort. If you are racist, please be kind and learn from other cultures, and if you were racist, and now changed your mind, good on you! You just got rid of a burden 😁
This is my same experience, im from Greece and one of my best friends going up Dimitri was of Jamaican origin. We would hung out all the time and i was 17-18 years old (when i first started getting aclimated with the concept of "race" as it pretains to todays environment) when i realized that he was "Black", i dont know how to explain this, like i realized before that that he had a darker skin tone than me but in Greece you have people of various shades so to me it was no different than another one of my friends who was blond, blue Eyes and had really fair skin while most my other friends and family were more than naturally. It was just another characteristic like height, hair color etc. It was only after i fell deep into the race rabit hole cause i wanted to get educated on peoples struggles that i made the realization. I dont know, i kinda wish i could revert my brain back to that time cause unfortunately once you start getting yourself into the rabit hole of "race" and the type of ignorance and hatred that exists it does make you jaded. Now i cant look at a Person and not chategorize them to be of a certain "race" anymore. Not that my behavior changes due to that but its just something my brain does now and wish i could go back... Then again i would be pretty native if i still had that mindset in my 20s.... But maybe its better being native. Kinda scatter brained reply but i related so much with what you said. Its like, the world forces you to subscribe to their ideas of hunanity, this shit is learned behavior Oh and lastly, race is fake science and a made up concept, thats why i kept using "" whenever i mentioned it. But that is a whole different discussion.
I use to be racist to white people not to an extent where I hated them 24/7 and but I had a prejudice mind against them socially. And saw them as weak and all ignorant all because I was taught to see them as somebody that thought they were better than me. Yes the judgements come from experiences and historical truths but however some of those judgements were exaggerated worse than how they actually are cause that's not the general population of whites not that I know of. This doesn't mean I don't see color this just simply means that I had to learn that some of the things I was taught were not true, exaggerated or just stereotypes. I am 16 most of this stuff I noticed around 4th grade so this ain't nothing new but imma open up about it so hopefully we can all speak on our thoughts. (However racist jokes and everything are still funny to me cause their not to be taken seriously as the jokesters judgement)
Glad you recognised this. As a white dude I can say that the media loves to make us look like pompus asshholes. To be fair, a lot of us are pompous assholes. Another large percentage have been whipped into subservient apologists. The US has been shaken to its core by trying to reckon with past mistakes. For me, I definitely still have work to do. Staying at home for the past year and drifting through college has made me pretty bitter. I have no purpose. I lost all of my friends. (I was class of 2020, covid amplified the college drift apart) I haven't had a significant relationship in years. My family isn't doing well. Just try to stay positive.
I went through this journey after enlisting in the military. It definitely improved my life, and it's disheartening seeing some people still be stuck in that mindset
"Your responsibility is to question everything" 100000% similar to this keep in mind "I know that I know nothing" their are certain philosophies and phrases such as these that are SUPER IMPORTANT to alway have in mind.
It's not enough just to question, but also to seek answers when questions are asked. And use that knowledge to form your opinions. I think that's what cancel culture is based on, people challenge something they don't like without really investigating into why, and reviewing their own biases and predispositions, or why others may have differing views.
It takes a real man to self reflect and review your mistakes. understanding where your mistakes stem from and how to correct them . It’s really hard to change so respect
My own personal bias; I used to think all White people were rich and never struggled because of how it was always portrayed on the media, as I grew older I learned everybody struggles at some point, not just financially.
@Kent Aarstad Well u need to understand poverty is relative. White people are MORE LIKELY to be in a better financial situation than us black folks. Majority of the world poorest people in the world are all black. Any of those poor Scandinavian countries u mentioned will be considered rich if they were in Africa.
@@BernardBrunu1 he didn't mention any Scandinavia countries, Scandinavian countries are usually known as some of the richest countries in Europe while East Asian countries are typically stereotyped as shit holes, I honestly just think it's a matter of stereotypes and ignorance, and people aren't necessarily being racist or xenophobic when they have those stereotypes but those stereotypes do fuel xenophobia. Poverty is definitely relative, but it's also defined by the parameters you grew up in your society so a lower middle class person in America will still look rich to a lower middle class person in Ukraine while both these people would look rich to a lower middle class person in Southeast Asia
@Kent Aarstadcome from media shaping your mindset when you're younger. I thought the same thing until the age of 10. Television, I didn't grow up around white people.
How to avoid racism (discrimination/ prejudice)...take each person as an individual. Whatever your experience is with THAT person should reflect ONLY on THAT person not the entire group that looks like/worships like/votes like them, etc 😊
I really loved Preach intervention. It reminds me my little sister. We migrated with our family in Canada, I went straight to the University and she went to high school here. I didn’t have the same experience because university population is very diverse but my little sister had it hard. She have that weird behaviour where she will have different BD party because she said some of her friends can’t mix. I was always perplexed when she said that. But now I understand a little where this is coming from. I will love you guys to talk about your high school experiences if you feel comfortable to do so .Thank you 🙏🏾 for your work (both of you) I really appreciate it.
I love this. People can grow and change, we should give em a chance instead of doing whatever tf Twitter does. (not all things can be overlooked and given a second chance tho)
@@alreadyblack3341 Agree with all those except murder. Again tho... Depending in the murder, if it was some fuckdd up shit like torture or murder aftwr kidnapping etc then yeah, get a bullet in ya head. But if it was like in the heat of the moment gun shot bc of gangs or robbery I genuinely believe people can change.
@@alexgamerpr12 " But if it was like in the heat of the moment gun shot bc of gangs or robbery I genuinely believe people can change." So they are actively committing more crimes than just murder and you think they will change? I'm going to go with a negative on that one. They are already stealing someones shit, so they just murder the peeps they're stealing from? Sorry you decided to to fucking steal from someone, but you had to have had that in your mind if you brought a firearm to a robbery unless you were the one being robbed. In the case of gang shit, well why not? Obviously being in a gang is a life style, one that not many get the choice to make, but still a choice all together. "The last of the human freedoms: to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way." This said by a man who was in a concentration camp. Besides the anecdotal supplement, the fact remains they still killed someone regardless. The person they killed doesn't get a second chance. The person they kill doesn't get to change, why should they be offered that privilege?
@@alreadyblack3341 often times when you are in a gang you are forced to murder or be murdered is what they mean. And before you say “why join a gang”. Usually in hoods that have gangs, you’re either born into the gang or pressured. Whether it be peer pressure or a member forcing you to join. So it’s not that simple. That’s what he means. Not saying it’s right, but it’s not as black and white as that.
Shout out to preach. That moment he wrapped up his hands took me back, being in Queens NY going to the Italian school in an Italian/Russian neighborhood, being a Jamaican kid 🤦🏾♂️ Funny thing is it wasn't my classmates that were the problem. It was people that didn't even go to the school... Older dudes. But aye... I gotta get home. And I'm 37 so I'm from his generation... Crazy what a 10 year difference can make
Why am I getting the feeling its probably the same Italian school that cris rock went to. Only black kid going to a all white school is surprisingly common
This was one of your best! The message and personal experience are the kind of things that should be taught in schools (in place of "hate each other" theory. . Preach's experience is easy to relate to. I think most of us do some code switching, but we're level 2/10, and he's 9/10. So we understand, but also HOLY SHIT! And yes. That host was amazing. So was the caller.
On a black tip. I grew up on The Bold and the Beautiful, Dallas and Magnum. Only years later I get taught that B.A Barakus was the slave hand on the A-TEAM but really I got none of that. Look. White shows have their own thoughts and narratives that they deal with that have a way to indoctrinate its own just like Jewish film have their own. At the end, someone in the marketing offices of these places, someone identified marketplace that has not been explored and they explored it. It's only when untalented politicians draw talking points from entertainment that do not have anything with the price of bread. I love racist, homophobic, sexist jokes. Especially when you see an idiot trying to act it out in real life.
@@mrlofi333 its majority privilege its a byproduct of living in a predominantly white country. White privilege wouldnt exist if i went out and moved to a non white country. Especially if i wasnt an american considering americans are seen as rich to most other countries
I love that this dude had the courage to say this, even on the radio. It's so hard to admit you're wrong or something that you were taught or learned as a child was wrong. It's a huge part of maturing and becoming an adult. Empathy is one of the most redeeming qualities in people. The caller understood after being bullied and having his heritage used as a joke against him that he'd put other people through the same terrible experience.
@@mrlofi333 if white privilege exists then black privilege exists. Stop being a cry baby and blaming white people for shitty decisions. You're life sucks because you suck.
@@mrlofi333 I’m Irish and my white ancestors definitely did not have privileges. We have been a very poor and discriminated country until recently, yet we still have hardships from Britain. Everyone has privileges, race isn’t everything.
🗣I LOVE Aba, he be preaching 💯✊🏾! Same goes for Preach 🎓! They have came an amazing dynamic. I cannot express how much I appreciate this duo, keep up the great work guys 😊 👍🏾
This was a very insightful video. Thank you for posting it and sharing your stories and thoughts on this sensitive topic. We need more conversations like this.
When I was younger, I met a guy online... back in the AOL days. We had this one public chat that our friends used to frequent every day. He never knew I was black until a few months in. Your know, come to find out, he told us all he was actually in the Klan. This man left the Klan after getting to know us. It was great to turn his thinking around, but it made me realize that a lot of these klan niggas never actually associated with black people at all. I'm proud of him, tbh.
The fact that the word that represents what the mass media and powers that be tells us in in every facet of every second of every life needs to be censored is f*cking moronic.
What's moronic is how silly it is to call someone a refugee when you realize where syria is and how many countries you'd have to go through that are safe. At that point you're a tourist
I think most of us get our racistness from our parents/grandparents. Then when any of those stereotypes are reinforced, you believe it all. Plus, kids just have the worst sense of humor and can be the most radical or nonsensible. Its when you grow up and get out of school and work for a couple of years youre able to really look back and see how much youve changed and experienced.
Many many European immigrants anglicized their names to survive in America back then. If you had an ethnic sounding name you got crapped on hard. Italians and Irish had it particularly rough.
@@treacherousjslither6920 I've heard it still pretty rough in some parts of Europe for the Irish but I'd never know. Not just Europeans immigrants though every immigrant that has comes to America has had it pretty rough like the Cambodians, Haitians, Cubans. I will say everyone didn't assimilated as easy as the media portrays. We Irish just get hit with corny stereotypes alcoholics, leprechauns, or Vikings (most don't know the relationship between the Vikings and Ireland)
@@zackevans5844 as an Irish person, I think it’s easy now a days to be Irish in Europe. Vikings were very important in Irish history. Yes, I hate the drink thing and leprechaun thing for sure. Much more to us than that.
@@CoraBellacoco that's honestly good to hear and know. Way more to us than pubs and clovers. One day I would love to go to Ireland and visit because I've only heard about how beautiful it is there but I want to finish learning gaelic first so I can really dive into the culture I lost. (Ik some gaelic but very very little)
Preach, you spoke like a man with 10 heads. You started talking and it reminded me of the tedtalk from Chimamanda on the danger of a single story. Deep stuff!
It is a frustrating contradiction of cancel culture. They want people to change their views but will happily cancel people who said something terrible 10 years ago, regardless of how much they have changed since then. Like, what is the point? Surely, this is exactly what you want. If you want people to change then don’t punish them for changing the way you wanted them to. On a similar note, if people are always guilty, regardless of how much they change, and are punished as such, then where is the motivation to engage with the movement? It is such a counterproductive perspective.
I like you guys a lot! If you guys were to separate maliciously or over something that could’ve been worked out I would not support you guys independently but you guys get my full support together love the chemistry I’m inspired respect to you black men ✊🏾
Education is key. Being around people who are different than you is key. Watching TV and thinking you're getting the gist of a situation is a disconnection. Also, going to college does not equal educated. It can certainly help... but again, exposure to that which is different as well as the WILLINGNESS/ DESIRE to be exposed to that which is different is key. Also, once you recognize your ignorance, what do you do with that information? Do you REMAIN in ignorance, or do you make adjustments to your character to GET OUT of ignorance. Change can be hard, but you have to have the balls to do it
Thank God someone mentioned the Irish finally. It's sad that in America, as a person who is heavily Irish and Cherokee, I am simply labeled evil, simply because I was back handed by the ginger gene. But I come from two "oppressed people's".
What part of the US is still against Irish people? I acknowledge it was a huge problem in the past ("Irish need not apply" for example) but wasn't aware it was an ongoing issue in modern times. For reference, I live in rural upstate NY where the majority of immigrants were German (my family), Dutch, and Polish...but we do have some Irish families as well and I've not heard of any stereotypes or anything negatively related to them. Is it more prevalent in city areas?
@@EgalitarianWoman I grew up in a rural midwest community that was mainly German, Dutch, and Slavic. I know people who won't date or marry Irish people because they are gingers(oddly enough, this view that gingers are unattractive mainly applies to men). Some won't even date Irish women because they don't want their sons to be gingers. Obviously not all Irish people have firey-red hair, but that's how an odd view that section of the population.
@@Ashley-mx1uw Yeah, that's seriously weird. I mean, all of our populations tend to already have pale skin, light eyes, and often freckles too. Like I'm 80% German and I'm white as milk, pale grey eyes, blonde hair, and a few freckles across my cheeks and nose...the only thing different is the hair color! No reason to be odd about it.
@john doughh Sorry to hear that, my dude. Over here in my area we actually *like* red or orange hair, growing up I'd never heard of my ginger classmates being rejected for it. Yeah there's that stupid joke about "red hair = bad temper" but that's all it was, a joke that most people stopped repeating in middle school. There's also the joke about "blonde hair = unintelligent" which I was teased about in younger grades too. But again, nobody said it after about 6th grade. It sucks that some people don't like red hair to the point they're assholes.
@john doughh What the hell? That's absolutely bizarre! I'm obviously not ginger but damn glad my Irish friends grew up here in NY. I hope your brother doesn't have PTSD from that stuff.
Great story Preach and painful. I keep friends apart because not all would get along but I’m also different around each group. Some know me as a dancing machine while others never see me dance
Although I appreciate Liam neeson admitting this, I feel he got off very lightly. He was actually looking for a black man just to kill! That is wild. Imagine he actually found one. He would just be a old racist murderer that we would all agree was an evil person. The only difference is that he never found one on that particular night.
This entire conversation was deep and well broken down. I'd like more of the PTSD of the community affecting our bias and reservations because of empirical data. Thank you.
One of my friends , told me that he didn’t like me because I was black and then when he actually got to know me he had to really reflect on himself and his views, isn’t that life? To learn to be better? To Change your opinion, that is great!
At most times in my life I feel like I’m an outcast because I sit back Nd watch people and notice how bad group culture is and get disappointed. I wish I had a friend that didn’t think like me but thought in a way tht wasn’t influenced by group. Thx to y’all for being what I wanted
I'm from the Netherlands and this video makes me wanna open up as well. I personally can relate very much to the guy who told his story on the radio. I grew up in a family where slurs and rahcism is not uncommon at all. So I was rahcist as well. But over the years I have met new people, gone to and through higher levels of education than my family. I now am so much different from them, my gf even commented on that. But my childhood did leave a stain, I sometimes catch myself with some kind of prejudice against some folks, which I'm working on. I'm am glad I have gotten the chance to reflect on my prejudices and be a better person overall
Hat's off to the lad for admitting to his past. I struggled with being extremely racist and paranoid after leaving the Forces. Different social and political climate; whole world was on the edge! Took years and caused issues, yet I've moved past that version of myself and grown.
empathy is the key to change and human growth... everyone is happy watching the nail get hammered until they realise they too are a nail and can get hammered too
