If You Have CPTSD, Use These Strategies To Speed Up The Healing Process 

Ever since I discovered Anna, I cannot go to sleep without spending at least 5-10 minutes watching her videos. And I truly mean every single night.

I don’t need to pay 500 a month for therapy anymore. She has made more sense in this one video than all the talking with the therepist

I got a better apartment, better paycheck, a little better clothes. My equivalent to staying in bad jobs, is a messy house. I have started decluttering and got a tremendous back pain. I understand that this pain is related to me starting to declutter. Because if I get rid of the clutter, then my excuse for not inviting friends home is gone, and I have to take accountability for my social life 😳 I am afraid, but I am sooo sick and tired of being sick and tired, I have to do this

Anna offers the most practical guidance out there. I'm endlessly grateful for her videos.

I've done a lot of therapy over the years, tried antidepressants and even medically monitored ketamine (which pulled me out of a near catatonic depression). But I'm still much the same. Listening to you, I felt a light of hope turn. I'm in. Thank you! ❤

#1 00:49 Learn what CPTSD is. #2 1:22 Be willing to look at yourself and notice some of the issues that may have nothing to do with trauma. "Normal person problems" can be easier to solve. IE they are the low hanging fruit. #3 2:30 Prepare to move your stories about your trauma out of your looping-mind and into the "memory bucket." You will remember them but they won't trigger a physiological or neurological response. To do this, start to write about them, even just a little bit at a time. #4 3:52 Stop trying to make other people not trigger you. It's probably not possible anyway and the empowered approach is to learn to calm your own triggers. Then you become more perceptive and you develop "discernment:" IE is it just me or is this person a jerk?" When you can calm triggers and have more discernment you have more flexibility about where you can spend time. You will have better boundaries. #5 7:26 Stop trash talking the people you choose to have in your life. If you really want to heal stop using labels, and focus more on how you react/get troubled/get disregulated. Example: calling someone a narcissist. You don't have to keep them in your life, but focusing on yourself is your superpower. #6 9:04 Stop clinging to bad relationships that make you miserable. This doesn't mean you don't still attend to those relationships with obligations, duties, and financial complications. She means more like boyfriends and girlfriends who don't treat you well. #7 10:19 Don't stay in work that makes you miserable unless your life depends on it. If the paycheck is not the problem right now, ask yourself: "is being miserable at work the way I avoid facing responsibility for my life?" #8 12:20 Detatch from the belief that you passively or magically just attract bad people. Acknowledge that the issue is who *YOU* tolerate, date, sleep with... Work on your red flag detector. You are the gate keeper. IE "I attract mosquitoes but I don't marry them." #9 12:42 If you have addictive behaviors, make recovery your first priority. Alcohol, drugs, food, porn, spending etc. It's tempting to try to control or run away or seek oblivion. If you are using anything to escape life's ups and downs, you cannot recover from trauma. The path towards healing always involves facing what's going on. You need a means to handle what may come. That is true freedom. #10 15:41 Thought exercise: ask yourself "if I had to solve this problem what are 10 things I could do [in this case- to heal from cptsd]?

Because of your daily practice I ve converted to God after 20 years.

I also listen to her every night, I also love her soft voice. She is a soft speaker, and never raises her voice. Not only great material, but soothing to listen to. ❤

You have helped me more than medical professionals. It feels so good to be believed and understood. Thanks Fairy.

Thanks for the daily practice! I am 73, survivor of abuse. I have been doing the daily practice for two days! Sincerely grateful! Thanks!

I’m so lucky that I have a psychologist that specialises in Trauma and mainly CPTSD. We are starting EMDR therapy. I always leave my session feeling validated and understood. She has vowed to help me overcome all of this and has even offered me a few free sessions. My birthday was in and May and she got me a small cake with a candle because she knows I have no one in my life. I got so lucky

52:30 CPTSD throws off brain chemistry, attention, hormones, immune system... every system in your body. And I'm here, telling my doctor's there HAS TO BE some kind of root of all of my problems. But they gaslight me and said: You're just unlucky. I was unlucky alright. But in a different way than they think.

I was told by a mental health nurse 3 years ago that there was no such thing as cptsd, even though it was recognised by the NHS. It's going to take years for health care systems to recognise this fully. You describe my life to a T and for the 1st time ever I feel understood. I am quite a way into my own recovery, following various paths, but it's dysregulation and discernment I have been stuck with which is was brought me to you. I've been doing the daily reflections. They've been really helpful and I'm sleeping properly again 🙏 I also realise that my mother projected this onto me, and I feel more compassion for her than I ever did before. But with a weary distance, I'm not falling for that again! Thank you for everything you have done so far 🙏

Thanks for all the work you do . 52 years old and still trying to figure out what works for me...

I am so glad I found your channel. I am 42 years old and you have just given me the most hope I have had in years

Thank you for the work that you do ❤ I'm 26 years old and have struggled for years with CPTSD. It has impacted all areas of my life.

Learning about the other person actually one of the thing that helps me most in gaining understanding of what’s happening.. although it’s not more important than understanding what going on inside of me. Both builds the story.

You speak with such compassion---you're like the kind but effective mum I needed growing up.

My male friend divulged that he was abused by a cousin when he was a child...I gave him your info and told him how amazing this past month has been for me learning about cptsd.

I'm a Trucker, so I have no choice but to be alone 98% of the time. I've always had social anxiety, but 18yrs of trucking has given me a bad case of it. How do I improve connections with people?

I have ADHD and autism. Being on time and cleaning the kitchen are NOT low-hanging fruit for me!! They’re at the top of the tree. Ha. 🤦🏻‍♀️

I’m a psychology major and I’ve been the therapist nine honestly tell you what you do for yourself in your own drive to get better is going to help you more than anything!!!! this is very good information

She is the most thorough, in depth, and on point psychologist I have ever seen online. Therapy has never worked for me as none of them were ever onto all the stuff she is onto. Very intelligent.

I'm really grateful I found this channel. She has a real handle on all of this. I'm learning a lot from these videos.

Thank you Anna for videos that change lives. CPTSD is such a giant in our lives. You break it down in small ways that help daily. You are AWESOME❤️

1:07:12 hard to believe it's possible. Your vids are so informational, thank you so much. Crazy how spot on everything is.

Thank you so much for your excellent videos. They are helping me. I am grateful. Your videos help me more than therapy ever did. You get it. Thank you for choosing and having the courage to stay alive. You're making a difference for so many people. Blessings 💕

Ugh, so helpful. Thank you for doing what you do. It saves a lot of wasting time with useless therapists who never even mention your past😢

ABSOLUTELY OUTSTANDING VIDEO..THANK YOU 🙏🤗

13:01, I think there is something to explore because tolerance is a virtue but when harm happens it becomes something else.

On YT platform, your videos are the most useful for me until i die. I've got your channel today luckily and I'm gonna keep you subscribed for the rest of my life.

I'm only halfway through this and quite new to the channel but this is epic thank you❤

Thank you sooooo much! Your compassion and kindness in teaching all of this is wonderful!! The MOST helpful thing I've EVER HEARD OR READ!!

Truly this is helping change the world right now. I see so many people trying to heal from narcissistic abuse and trauma.

I am just so thankful to have found you. I found your video on limerance at the perfect time. I had an experience with someone it was a good one but i became so disregulated. I had to ground myself out and think this is a pattern I have and your video popped up on my page. Wow this is what I'm experiencing. I am in awe of your articulation and presentation for your videos this is similar to what I have tried to do with my channel. I really love what you are doing, it's inspiring, genuis, and holds so much value. Beautiful Job!!!❤

I've gone back and forth for decades now. With a recent retirement it all came back in it's sneaky way - like, WTH am I supposed to do now? No ideas, so just retreat into myself. Your videos, and Patrick's, are helping remind me. Thanks

What do you do if you really don’t desire being around people? What concerns me is my lack of motivation to be around anyone....EVER. I’m just so tired of having to put forth the effort to socialize. It’s exhausting. I honestly don’t miss interactions at all and I am much happier and relieved being alone.

Wow. The statement your making about the 2nd group at around 1:03:21 is SO profound for me. I’m definitely this group but am growing weary of being at this stage and hopeful to move into the group focused on my own AGENCY❤

You are a savior I wish my son could have listened to you. He unfortunately became a victim

Thank you so much Anna for your work and efforts to help people. There aren't enough words to express how grateful I am. I now truly have hope for a better life. Please don't ever believe people who are against you. Nobody talks about stuff you mention, although they are so true (like e.g. how hurrying is a trigger too - a main one for me). Not even at the therapist chair it is talked about. Finally I feel heard and seen. And the tools offered are tremendously helpful. It doesn't matter you are not a qualified therapist. Your experience and coping skills do matter and offer great help to others, which is not written in psychology textbooks. I cannot thank you enough Anna. You are a gift from God.

I discovered your videos few days ago, and very much possible I have complex ptsd trauma from childhood. Somehow I knew I need to reregulate myself in some way and in last 1 year my best way to reregulate myself is through painting and drawing. Even after 30 minutes of it I can be reregulated for next few hours. That is why I started my youtube channel about art. But I will try your advices as well. Thanks. Sonja

So grateful for your work and your healing. I feel encouraged and excited about this new way to look at trauma. Thank you for your work.

Thank you for yet another fantastic video.

this could not have come at a better time. thank you Anna

lol😂 you attract mosquitos... but you dont marry them.😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 lol thats so funny

I need help with one of those situations which was put to the side. How do you deal with taking care of toxic, dysfunctional aging parents when they are still behaving badly and triggering all the old childhood wounds of shame, anxiety, abandonment, guilt, dependency and helplessness. This really sucks, they stole my childhood and potential to have a happy life and now when I'm trying to heal, I'm expected to give that up and jump right back into the fire which burned me in the first place. There is no one else who is going to take care of them. The irony is, they abandoned their own aging parents by moving across the world and yet they expect their own children to stay around for them, which we are in spite of it being harmful to our own health.

4:14, joey does this. I can not sing nor whistle for a moment. But joey has no problem when Scott whistles.

Thank you so much. The hint with the neurological damage in brain with cptsd is so helpful and in stressful situations it can influence my behaviour very strong.

Tonight I discovered silence again. A time of quiet. Stick some ear plugs in, turn on the heating pad after a good shower and lay flat on my back with NO stimulation. This is the beginning of healing for me I believe. That and journaling will do wonders to breaking through the chaos. Thanks for your videos. You’re truly helping so many of us out here. 🤍🕊️🙏🏼

Hi Anna it's been awhile I could have used this a couple of days ago I got dysregulated and took apart every relationship I had built this video helped me in that I recognize I need to put away the things I go to to relieve my pain and I've grown comfortable there

I too was tickle tortured to the point I’d be in tears afterwards and still he continued to do it, my father…. Who was more often not even a fun person, this however, was apparently “fun” for him. 🤦‍♀️ yep! Crappy childhood memory

I HAVE TO DO THIS MY HEALING DEPENDS ON IT...ANNA I HIGHLY RESPECT YOU AND GIVE THANKS YOU'RE HERE FOR US 🙏💛💜

these vidoes along with the complex ptsd workbook by arielle swartz has helped me a lot with organizing my thoughts

excellent, thank you

You are such a beautiful person... 💐

God the you tube comercials are so annoying to me...they cut you off right in the middle of a thought. Love your help though!😉💖

Well done . Extremely well done .

If you are an Arabic Speaker Anna, I would mistake you with Fayrouz the famous Legend in Lebanon you know! One point here: The two column stuff you have listed is actually: Praise the Lord for the turn out of your agonies into blessings; Trust Allah.

Thank you so much for your work!!! Your empathy for the desaster outcome in reactions help to heal faster and easier. After so many work on myself and my behavior I finally can let go of the past through having the trust of being understood. I listen to your videos to reorganize and looking forward for more.

It's so wonderful to hear somebody who really understands what I've lived!

Love the suggestions at 20 minutes.

Thank you for being.❤

“Low hanging fruit problems “ and “0ld memories bucket” are excellent visual tools immediately available for use in healing!! 🙏✌🏾 it’s been so bad I don’t wanna talk to anybody in my family anymore ever. Projection of my flaws as a disguise for their narcissism and ego.

Can't thank you enough for putting these out for free

Thank you so much for your videos. They’re so helpful ❤

Yes! This video, listening on repeat. So resonating with this!

This is so good and helpful shared with my community

Fantasic . I love your way of thinking .

I'm so happy I came across this video...thank you so much for sharing!!! God bless you ❤️

Thank you so much ❤

This video will be watched on repeat!!!!

Thanks Anna, this is very valuable and lots of suggestions and information.

Thank you for your video and appreciate it so much

This woman has so much hard-earned wisdom. And the proof is definitely in the pudding. A degree, letters behind someone’s name, these do not mean a therapist is an expert, or the right person to help you in ways that will make your life better. There is very much a limit to the benefit of talk therapy alone. Approaches that teach skills for coping and arresting the unhelpful beliefs and maladaptive coping methods that may have helped us survive our childhoods but do not serve us now, these are EVIDENCE BASED approaches that have been shown to result in positive and lasting change.

Thank you s0 very much!!❤❤ I'm feeling awakened!❤

You are literally my life saver. Thank you !

Amazing video. Subscribed

Thanks I need this information, can't find it in any better time

A good doctor is open to learn! Yes as science is always changing and learning more!!!!

So glad I found your channel 💕 I’ve never heard of Limerence before. It explained so much. I usually feel lost and angry after listening to something useful but that doesn’t really help my specific situation. That’s what I found in your channel, it is useful but also specifically addresses my issues. Can’t thank you enough.

Affection. Tenderness, exilerating, exciting, newness, Animated, comedian performer, Lifts one SPIRIT! TENDERNESS / changes to roughness not good. Undermining ideas & respect for her HEALTH WELL-BEING, etc. .

Thank you mom ❤

Thank you so much for sharing all this with us. Love your videos ❤ Started with the daily practice. Struggling with it, but at the same time.... I can see positive results already. It's like a weight was lifted off of my shoulders. Thank you 🌺🌺🌺

Thank you Anna, I agree therapy dies not help. Thank you fir your teaching. I thought it was my feelings my stuck place according to who I am but you make me realized it is all who experienced trauma in their childhood.

I needed this

Thanks for your knowledge and help by your exceptional views and videos. Thanks from Malta 🇲🇹 👍👍♥️

Though given my history and have good awareness of some of this already..It's woke me to awareness of others..Excellent .Thankyou

I don't know what loving relationships are. I know what dysfunctional ones are. Right now I still feel like I got nothing to give. No energy etc. Thanks for your channel!

I have learned to be joyful living through others lives. Seeing them happy and healtby, makes me happy. 🎉🎉🎉

How right you are ❤️

Such wonderful, healing words. I am so thankful for you sharing them 🙏❤️

Not only is your insight and advice brilliant and beyond affective and helpful❤..your voice is so soothing to listen to. I love your accent. Thankyou

Thank you so much for all the videos you are making for us,you are God's love and gift.

Thank you for your good work. I stumbled across you a few weeks ago and have learned so much and things are making sense. I’ve made a lot of progress since finding you. You are wonderful!

I tried to have relationships. I really did. Then some nice church lady would tell my partner that we were living in sin, and he should get the hell away from me. In my teens, if my dad thought I was getting too close to a friend, he would cuss them out and kick my ass. I relate PAIN to relationships, and the only safe place for me is to not be in one. The more I learn, the more I realize how broken I am.

A lot of good info, some rambling but worth sticking it out.

We always have CHOICES. Everything will be better, soon. Life is difficult & important. People who keep on letting us down. Discouragement, heart breaking 💔 😢. So, lonely 🙁 🥺. Oh, grief 😔. Some body had Suggested : OUTSOURCE TASKS, responsibilities, etc.. when NOT able to get around to get your own needs done. When disabled. Distressed.) Unsupported.

Wow good to hear from you about this study about the worthlesness of the psychiatric understanding of ,illnesses,. I had to learn them and thought always, it's nit really helpful. Because they are often trauma responses. And in addition to that, everyone is born with a own character.

Some people never have another relationship and stay reading books and owning cats no doubt. Not everyone can move on from trauma and it depends on the severity. I encourage everyone to move forward after healing but not everyone will and your right! You will get hurt again because people always leave. Nothing is forever as people die. We just get use to losing people! Growing old sucks

Love the new hair style..