If You're Feeling Anxious or Depressed, Watch This (Matthew Hussey) 

To anyone reading this: better days are ahead and happy moments will always come in your life ,You’re stronger than you can imagine ❤️

To all those going through anxiety, depression, OCD, CPTSD, or etc. Know that you are loved and that you do matter. You are special, and you are not broken, and you also deserve to be happy just like anybody else in this world because your are uniquely and divinely created.

Research suggests that continuing difficulties - long-term unemployment, living in an abusive or uncaring relationship, long-term isolation or loneliness, prolonged work stress - are more likely to cause depression than recent life stresses.👍

I actually had the best advice from my therapist when I went to my talking therapy and she gave me a really good way to sort of get over my depression. She said: "Take a peace of paper and a black pen. It doesn't matter what size the papers or the pen is just take a peace of paper and a pen. Now take the pen and put a dot on the paper. It doesn't matter where on the paper just put a dot on the paper. Now look at the dot and either turn the page over or take another peace of paper and just write everything that comes up to your mind when you look at this dot. Take as much time as you need. And write as much as you want, whatever you want. What ever comes to your mind when you look at this dot. Now turn the page over to look at the dot again and compare the dot with your list and words of what you wrote about it. Take your time to do this. Now just look at the dot. And compare it with the white page that it's sitting on. " It did took me a while to do the list because I didn't know where this was going and what's the point of it but once I've finished doing all that she asked me to do and then she said: " You know that list that you wrote? All of those words and things is that dot. In reality it might seem really big and unbearable but it's just one small dot and the best part is that the page, the white page where the dot is sitting on.. That's you! Now when you take a step back and have a look at the size of the dot and at the white page who is bigger? The page... Or the black dot?.. you can draw a bigger dot if you really want to but still the white page will be bigger than the black dot! And that white page IS YOU!! All that list that you wrote about the black dot is still smaller that that white page because that list is the black dot but you are the page... Now the question is are you gonna let it to control you or you gonna step it up and do something about it?" I looked at the dot and said: " Hell no!! I am going to crush that flea size dot and live my life!"🤣🤣 She said: "Okay, and how are you going to do it?" So I wrote a log list of what I want to achieve in my life and what I want to do and every time my mood goes really low I do the black dot paper thing again and write my goal list even longer to prove myself that I am bigger than my negative thoughts and that I can do everything and anything I want because you live only once right?😉 So live your life my friend how YOU want it because it is your life not the black dots or anyone else's but it's YOURS!!! 💯💯So you better not waste it😘❤❤❤💯💯💯💯💯💯💥💪💪💪 xxx

Know your are loved and you will get through this….you’ve survived worse. You’re strong. You’re brave. You’re a warrior. Be your own hero. You’ve got this. I love you. ❤️

I‘m suffering from both PTSD and chronic depression. I somehow managed to have a life that seems in order on the outside but man can a picture be deceiving... If you are one of those people like me - thinking something must be wrong with you cause everyone else seems to have it together - trust me you are not alone! What ever is your story, what ever you had to endure so far - you deserve to overcome this. You deserve a good life!

'it's ok to not feel strong' Thanks Matthew, definitely not feeling strong but sometimes you need a reminder. I miss those one great hours. Sending love to everyone who needs it, take care

For anyone struggling right now just know that you are not alone, and that you will get through this! 💛✨

I'm so anxious, depressed and lonely for so long I just can't get a single positive thought, nothing of comfort to focus on. I can't find anyone who I can relate to and right now I'm even scared to sleep because when I do I wake after an hour at most with the most soul wrenching flood of doom and/or panic. If anyone feels like this then my heart goes out to you both in the hope of giving and of getting some comfort . No medication works for me and I don't feel any connection, help or real care or understanding from any counsellors that I've reached out to I so badly need some comfort from another human who understands and I want to be a comfort to someone who needs it. I'm praying for help for everyone suffering even though I'm not religious.

As someone with chronic depression for years, I appreciate your perspective. Thank you for a very helpful video.

" For everything there is a season " I don't know who any of you kind people are but wanted to share. Your pain. That suffering. It is NEVER for nothing. You have a purpose. God intends for you to use all of it. He did not cause it but will test our hearts as scripture says. 'What they intended for evil, God used for good" It breaks my heart those that suffer with anxiety and depression. Just know YOU matter and all this pain can somehow and will somehow be used for the greater Glory. I'm so sorry for all that pain. I'm thankful for His plan. I'm thankful for grace. I'm thankful for modern medicine to help regulate our brain chemistry. Your story matters to me. I'm thankful for you. ❤ ❤

Matthew, the only person online that says all the right things that deep down I need to hear and that help me, thank you 💜

Yess I definitely isolate when I was going through a period of depression. Even though being around people is the last thing you want to do , when people pushed me to go to a social activity, I actually felt a lot better after that, especially after making a connection with someone

Struggling with depression, ocd, tourettes, loneliness, trauma, eating problems, and a tough environment. Wish me luck, and luck to you all who have it worse ❤

What I really admire about you is that you make videos that resonate with the majority of us. I really have a lot of respect for u.

Just cried my way through this... literally just hit breakup number 3 within 6 months after the end of my marriage last December. I had a fight with my best friend as well today. My heart is breaking and, at age 43, I'm terrified I will never find love again. I've been soaking up Matthew's videos like a sponge.

I used to be suicidal, until I learned to remind myself that is a permanent solution to temporary problem(s). People always have options. Even if you feel like there are no other options, there are, I promise. 😀

Was literally just crying and going trough my daily emo meltdown. Thank You for this video 💜💜💜🥸

I do come back to this channel. Every week. It's unbelievable! Gives me hope. A shoutout to all you lovely people working on yourselves and Matt! We are doing it together. Xxx

“Managing our relationship with something “. Wow. Very well said matthew!

I too isolate when feeling depressed or sad. Ok, I find great relief in crying, but what I also do to fight it back is to go for a stroll on my own with a cup of my favorite coffee or tea to “accompany” me. I prefer both the city and nature. In general, I try not to stay indoors. I find this very helpful.

I'm not depressed, but you are a fantastic guy! Thank you for being in this planet!😊🥰😘

The part about getting to be someone’s hero down the line is so true! I’ve only recently realized that I can get anxious, but my housemate is further along in this journey than me, and I benefit so much from everything she has already overcome and all the wisdom she has to pass on ❤️

I feel better when I do Two Things: (1) Sing praises to God ("put on the spirit of praise for [combatting] the spirit of heaviness", and (2) "That which is good and lovely....(etc), think on such things." These are both Bible verses that I have tested and they never ever fail. They work every time! But they must be repeated. It's not a "One and Done" for the rest of your life. The permanent healing comes with a lifestyle in which this is repeated daily. And if you're having a bad day, just repeat as much as you need it. Tell God he is good and thank him for being who he is. And sing of your thankfulness for all the blessings you do have. I was created to do this. So if I don't do it, it creates depression. I have a hole in my heart where God belongs and only he can fill it. When I sing praises to him it fills the hole. When I start to get sad again, it's because God is pulling me back to himself, saying, " hey where have you been My Love?... haven't heard from you in a while." The sadness God feels from my lack of connecting with him intentionally, is transferred into a sadness that I feel too. It's a reminder to go back to him (just like when we're in a relationship we have to keep going back to our partner in order to feel the good feelings that come from being with them....I can't just know that someone is my special someone but never spend time with him.... just knowing that a boyfriend is there and he is mine doesn't produce the good feelings if I never see him and hang out. It's the same with God, I have to be with him intentionally not just know that he's in the background.) So I just go be with God and all sadness just melts away. I believe we were all designed for fellowship with God. That's why I can have a great boyfriend and there's STILL something missing.. So oftentimes people try to fill the sadness hole with things other than God. But it's costly. And for me, nothing can ever substitute for the amount of joy that praise and thankfulness produces.

That was a brilliant explanation on mental health ❤ 43 suffered since a child. No medication ever used as was a secret sufferer. We have all got this. Please people remember it's normal to suffer mental health we all have it and we can all learn to live with it ❤ you've got this ❤😘

Wishing everyone peaceful thoughts and tranquil feelings. Learn to just be still and let life happen. Trust that this will all come together very soon. Meanwhile, know that you are loved and all of us here are pulling for you. Let go and relax right now, knowing that you are exactly where you are supposed to be at this moment in time.

Matthew please make a video on how to handle being single in a pandemic and the hopelessness associated with it (for people who can’t or won’t meet new people over apps). thanks 🙏🏻

Your video comes just when i need ❤️❤️

I love the idea of expanding upon the good moments and how us dealing with pain and managing that can make a difference for someone else. 🤍

Matthew, I appreciate your vulnerability here. I have had my own struggles over the years in healing emotionally from a dysfunctional family. And, as I was watching this I am thinking of a brave woman I am getting to know who has bipolar disorder and has a mission of outing herself to become a spokeswoman for bipolar people and to help educate the public about this disorder. Because of the adverse health impacts of her lithium, she went off her it is learning to manage her symptoms herself.

Please, know how much this video means for me. how valuable it is to me, how thankful i am that i got to hear this from u. I have been having isolating episodes lately and this just opened my mind from falling in deeper into this hole of negative feelings. u rlly opened my heart, pushed me to continue to grow, develop,learn and live. Thank you. i appreciate it with all my heart.

Thank you Matthew! I have major depression and very bad anxiety. I’ve been seeing a therapist for a year and a half, but it just wouldn’t go away. It is part of reason why I had two breakups( out of three lol, one ended after a year) this year. My therapist always tells me to do things that make me happy, but I didn’t understand why since my brain is changed. Now I see. Thank you so much for sharing.

I have chronic depression and have dealt with it most of my adult life you made it very clear that depression and feelings itself are transient. Your spot on when it comes to looking toward positive input in your life and acting on it not only will it help your depression it'll make you feel confident. Thanks Matthew you're an inspiration to us women

my boyfriend was diagnosed with cancer today. it still hasnt quite sunk in. but its already so. so hard. i have a feeling that i'll be returning to this a lot over the next, well, who knows how long. i dont know when this will be over. i dont know how it will end. i dont know IF it will ever end, or what to expect. but i can try to look for and focus on those small moments of hope. thank you matt.

Sometimes when you’re depressed it’s a sign you need some deep rest

Thanks matthew i appriciate you makeing me feel like im a hero for overcoming my clinical deppresion or at least managing it. It does get really scarry thinking you will always feel like this but what we forget to do is to step together and help eachother couse that is the best medicine.

You are a good person for making these videos. Thank you!

When i was younger i was told i had manic depression, after 4 years of therapy with journaling i was told no it's cronic depression. It's been 10 years now since i stopped therapy. I have also had chronic pain since i was 8 years old. I have yet to meet anyone who can even closely understand what i hop thru everyday. Ive also been told my life expectancy is significantly shortened from the many medical problems i have.

There is hope in one good hour. I felt that. 💕

I think that this is such an important video, esp. at this time of year when lots of people are feeling low & missing loved ones. I’ve suffered with feeling low, postnatal depression & depression in the past. I’ve extremely lucky I’ve never had chronic depression but I’m familiar with the exhaustion of feeling like that. Lockdown has me desperately missing human ‘contact’ - hugs, kisses & being intimate. It’s a really hard time for everyone atm. Sending love out to all that need it. On a separate and totally superficial note ...nothing like a grey hoodie 😍

Absolutely stay stronger together. It's true how having an amazing person can change your relationship with depression, and can make us think that they've helped us resolve it, but it can still affect us. Matthew you've been such an inspiration for my content, especially during this time. I hope this reaches the people it needs. And anyone reading this, know that you're always only a click away from having a community to support you. Big Love.

Thank you soo much for this video Matthew, maybe you saved someone’s life today with this message...blessings!!

I'm a veteran and I have PTSD. We're learning this in Cognitive Therapy to take a step back and notice the patterns of our emotions and the level of intensity of these emotions. These traumas are like sticky notes that becomes less sticky when we keep pulling on it. We do the pulling by putting in the work of taking care of our mental health:theraphy, meditation, exercise, etc. It's a long way to go but I'm even more hopeful after hearing this video. Thank you🙏

I’ve been suffering with chronic depression for two years with agoraphobia. I’m a lot better than I was but this week has been a terrible week. I’ve stayed in my bed and not even left my room. I’m in therapy and as a therapist myself I believe so much in the power of talking. I’m trying to do the 30 day challenge I’m a member of your private group. I know exactly why I’m having a bad time this week but I don’t know what to do with it. I’m not seeing my therapist for another two weeks, three in total. I will not let this define me, it is not who I am, I’ve plans to go to Australia as soon as they reopen the borders to see my son his gf and my two grandchildren, that I haven’t met as yet. Thank you Matthew, thank you. Xx

This video reallly helped me this morning. I needed to hear that. Today I will be present in my body with all my emotions. Whether pain and sorrow ,even despair, or peace and joy, or anything in between. I commit to my healing and to focusing positively on those moments where I do experience happiness, peace and joy.

embracing....hard, but keep embrace things...struggling still but also still trying

I have been suffering from physical pain for two years and still have not found a solution to get rid of the pain, what you said in the video really strengthened me and it is really true that there are easier and harder days and need to focus on the easier days and what made us feel happier. Really thank you !!!!

Thank you Matthew. 🙏 You are so attuned to the collective by sharing this video. Almost everyone I have talked to are going through some difficult feelings and emotions right now. I rarely feel depressed or anxious, but lately I’ve been struggling, so thank you for reminding me and the collective that there is hope. I added this to my pep talk playlist.

I know what you talking about it. I feel it too. Esp now. When everybody is gone from my life What I'm facing during this time is being lonely.. Thanks for sharing and for your advices. It encourage me. I appreciate your videos. Its hard sometimes to open these thoughts and feeling with ppl who are close to me. I just came from the church and I met an old friend at the church this evening. I know them 4 almost 10 years , but we are not that much close to each others now. I used to share with them b4 .. Now I know they have partner and I can't spend much time with them. So i stay alone the most of the time trying to be positive and happy.

Thanks Matthew, I’ve come to the realization that the depression will come and it will go but to have access to someone so sincere and relatable makes me feel so much better in a lonely world thank you.

Been feeling a bit off lately. Thank you for sharing

Just in time, really from my heart thank you

i love the advice you gave about depression. it was what i needed actually. thank you!

I mean, it’s another year having to explain to people why I am alone so yes naturally I think the seasonal depression is here

Thank you as always. What really struck me here was that it is an opportunity to connect with others, to help others with what we learn.

i love it when my youtube recomend me videos about big youtubers posting videos being sad or in bad mood. its like saying hey remembers these youtubers with big subscribers and rich people? they are in bad mood just like you so dont worry about it too much you are not alone

Exactly, I suffer from autism, my depression 😔 will never go away.

Matthew, I am a nurse working in a Covid unit at a small local hospital here in Colorado . I have had difficulty sleeping, all I see is the face of my dying patients when I close my eyes. My relationship failed because I can’t even relate to the man in my life anymore. I am isolated. I am not the same person I was 3 years ago. I’m just trying to get through each day, each shift. Thank you for this.. it’s very hard right now.

Your words will help many others feeling these kind of ways going

Thank you for this. I broke up with someone very special to me just yesterday. This helped keep me positive and hopeful

Thank you Matthew! You have no idea how hard dealing with it especially now a days that we can't go out or talk much to a lot of people so that we can unwind, unfortunately. Let's all keep fighting and stay strong! 🤗

This advice has made a huge difference for me. I suffer from crippling anxiety and some days hopelessness creeps in.... however I will try from now on to see the good in the day even if it’s 5 mins. And understand even tho I’m anxious it varies in degrees - which in turn is something that brings me hope. I don’t know why I never thought of this before...... Words aren’t enough Matthew - But Thank you 😊

I just started an episode of depression recently and was struggling today to see the light at the end of the tunnel, then this video came up, I so needed this and am so grateful you posted this as it helped me today xo

Mathew Hussey I'm a big fan of yours.Such true things you ought to speak.

One of the true highlights of this year for me was discovering you and your videos. So uplifting and inspiring! Glad to be part of your community! I am learning confidence and competence! Thank you xoxo

Matthew is becoming my medicine literally on everything 🙏🏻 Your talk and suggestions always helped me and many of us all the time Thank you so much Matthew for saving many many souls in this tough time 🙏🏻 Will be grateful forever 💜❤️

Wow, He really hit the nail on the head with the whole description of what clinically diagnosed depression feels like. I was diagnosed with clinical depression/minor depressive disorder in my junior year of undergrad, I'm now in my late 20s and still struggling with it. I avoided dating and or relationships for so long, especially after I told someone I was suicidal and they told me I should just go ahead and end it if I was so depressed. That person is out of my life now, thankfully. But I always had this worry about getting into a relationship, going through a depressive or suicidal episode and having the other person say the same thing to me, that my former best friend said to me when I confided in them. I made the crazy choice to try dating someone during this pandemic, despite my fears about rejection and despite never having been in an actual relationship with a guy before. Long story short, it last a few months before we broke up. The hardest part is having my depression and anxiety come back even stronger after the break-up, but knowing that reaching out to him about it isn't healthy for either of us and moving on in our lives. All that being said, I wouldn't trade my experiences with him for the world. He helped me realize that it was possible for someone to like/love me, even in my darkest times. And as someone who has his own mental health struggle with anxiety, that there are tools that I can use to help myself and to help my partner understand what I'm going through and how they might be able to help me.

I have felt in this spot momentarily and I asked myself 1 question : What have changed on my life? , that made me realize that , I had changed as a person and what was on my surroundings didn’t match me anymore. It might me a simple question but sometimes is all it takes for you to work in your feelings! Hope this can add up to this great video!

Always been in denial about having chronic depression and therefore never took the time to try and learn what it even was. This is incredibly helpful advice! Now that I better understand what is going on with me it feels relieving to know there are things like this out there that can help! Thanks again!

This is so true, especially about the part that overcoming your difficulties helping others in the future. I had someone reach out to me thinking I was the one stealing her ex-boyfriend away from her, but because I had been through a similar situation and I was able to pull her out of her darkness of seeking to get revenge on the right woman and show her that that was not the best path to take. She may still be a little obsessed over this woman, but I'm trying to work with her to show her that this is not the way to a healthy future. Hopefully, she will turn around and see that the only way to happiness is to focus on herself. Love everything you do and represent Matthew. Keep bringing us the great advice that you do!! Much love...

Thank you Matthew, I actually needed this. ❤️

Your channel is such a happy place for me Matt. If i could subscribe every day i would do it over and over again. 💙

I don't mean to be morose but I loved your line that 'our pain is the key to connecting to other people' because it's so true that we all have things in our lives that cause us pain, even people who from the outside look like they have it all figured out, could be experiencing pain about something you can't see.

The current pandemic is a big factor why some people are depressed these days. I, sometimes, feel depressed. But I dont let depression rule over me. Thank you Mr. Hussey for the good advice.🙂

A gronic depression CAN go away! As a teenager i got diognosed with gronic depression and thought it would never and. It took work but i did overcome it and so can you if you are willing! I had been really depressed for mannyy years, but with the right therapie i became a really happy person. Dont give up💪

The worst thing of being cronically depressed is that basically no one understands you. I did not say “help”, I said “understand”. Everyone says: be positive! Smile! It’s like saying to a guy with a broken leg to stand up and run. So you don’t tell anyone that you are depressed because all that positive stuff is irritating and because not feeling understood is a shitty additional pain. And because being seen as a loser is even worse. Amen.

So relevant Thank you Matt.. we don't only need relationship advice we need growth as whole.. ty for this video

I suffer from chronic depression and my boyfriend of 5 years dumped me a month ago for no good reason. I'm still grieving. He blocked me from everything so I have no way to communicate with him, though he mentally and emotionally abused me and I shouldn't want to communicate. But, my depression has got the best of me and I can't stop crying and sulking. How does one overcome this, Matthew? I faithfully listen to you and you do help me so much. I thank you for being on this planet.❤

Thank you for making this, Matthew. The virus has isolated so many of us. It's difficult sometimes to have hope, even though the vaccine is very close to being here. The last nine months have been TOUGH.

Much in need for this video today.. dealing with chronic physical pain a bad news emotionally 😔

this dude is what keeps me alive some days

I read all of the messages /comments and you all are amazing thank you very one

Thank you for providing captions to read in the vid!! It really helps. ♥️

Wow. I have been following you for a long time. In fact, 3 or 4 years ago I would tell all my friends that I knew about this “secret” and it was your videos. First, I want to say that what you offer women with dating and relationships is priceless knowledge. I don’t have a ring on my finger, but I’m also not trapped in the wrong relationship because of you. Two years ago I was at a very low point with substance abuse from chronic depression. I am now almost two years sober. The last few weeks I have been feeling pretty wretched to say the least. Because I do have chronic depression. And an hour ago I said to whatever higher power was listening “just help me because this is too much”. I have been talking to a new guy, so I came to your page to see if there was something about dating while not feeling so great about yourself. And then I saw that you had recently uploaded a video dedicated to just the subject of depression. I am in tears. But the good kind. And not only have you been a mentor in my love life, but now you’ve helped me with real personal issues. Matthew Hussey, you’re a gem of a human being. Thank you. Endlessly, thank you.

We can heal and support others. Acting with empathy and respecting other ones feelings eventhough we haven't experienced them. I hope you to grow up and meet you more from the inside to reflect that outside ♡ You can!! 🥰

When a lot of problems comes at the same time...and each one is related to one another, it just sucks the life out of you. Breakup due to betrayal, blocks in career, family issues, social expectations.....all at the same time.

Thanks Matthew. That's a great mind set to change your relationship with those things, when for some of us it might not ever go away. And thanks for talking about those health problems in general. Sometimes I think there is still some stigma around them. But since, unfortunately depression and anxiety seem to be increasing, it's better to talk about it more openly, try and change your mindset about it, and also remember to ask for help.

Thank you Matthew, I needed a video like that.

Everything you said makes so much sense Matthew...dealing with inner challenges is the most difficult

Thank you so much for this. Means a lot to me personally to recover a bit from this emotional pain and depression I have this year

Hi Matthew, I just wanna say that you have been an inspiration to me. Life is up and down, and when I feel low, you and your brother have always something to share that triggers my best self to achieve something amazing. I live in Ireland, and the weather here isn’t the most exciting as you may know. However, I am adjusting, and depression and anxiety kick in every time I put my guard down. Make sense? Single, living alone abroad is not always glamours. Thank you for everything!!!

Much needed for many of us. Thank you for posting this video! Golden!

This content help a lot of people who have been experiencing this problem 👍

This is great value for so many people

As someone with depression her entire life, i used to hate the feeling and want to give up. I took psychology classes and even majored in it. Overtime I stop thinking it was a crippling illness but it is a part of who i am. It sucks more some days than other. Instead of seeing it as a burden, I see it as a flaw of mine just like any other flaws I have. It is a part of who I am and it is ok.

Please make more videos about this. It's really helpful. Thank you

I wish that men were welcome in your community as well 😔 not just women are sitting with a pit in their stomach every day, not feeling strong at all, let alone seeing light at the end of the tunnel 😔 thanks for.your supportive videos, Matt 🙏🏻

The constant panic I feel knowing she is dating someone just to hurt me never goes away.

I’m glad I got notified of this video this morning.

What a lovely sincere man 🌟