1. Give up your perception of control over your life 2. Give up a God-Segmented life 3. Give up a life of Christian isolation 4. Give up the fear of rejection and failure 5. Give up the lie that you need a relationship to be happy
This girl and I like each other but I had to back off. She is newly saved and I don't want to distract her from the most important relationship with God. But im seeing great change in her and she seeks God. Ita just not time yet for us to get together. Trying to pray through all this
God is so good. If you feel life has been unfair to you. Sometimes you need to let go of some things such as toxic friends, negative thoughts, draining relationships and focus on Jesus
God stripped me everyone and even had me relocate to another city and state. I do believe I will be married one day but I refuse to IDOLIZE it. Right now, all I want is God. Also, I am still in process of becoming a better Danaé (improving my spiritual walk, building my credit, getting another degree, etc)
Danaé, I do recognize the stripping of anyone. In the past I gripped on people because of fear. I had to let go one by one, to give God the possibility to cure my deepest fear and become myself. God bless you if you let Him do His work. Be patient ans share the feelings of your heart with Him.
Please pray for me, brothers and sisters, that I may find a good woman. I'm a good man. I've never had a girlfriend, and I'm practically 40. I've been rejected way too many times in the past where I'm now rejecting quality women. I'm ready to release the pain and to accept the Lord's blessing.
Me too.i thought he is d one that God gave me .bec of him i become more closer to God i always pray that our relation will stay strong but as day goes by were on trouble...im tired of feeling being hurt like this ...i wanna meet my destiny🙏
Who can find a virtuous woman? (Proverbs 31) A: Nobody. They don't exist. Welcome to the Laodicean church age where marryable women don't exist. "It's not good for the man to be alone", so if you want to get married, you will have to settle for a woman who probably drinks, has had sex with half the guys in town, has an ex who is trying to kill her, argues with her children and the state department of families, smokes, is broke and goes to a 'non-judgemental' contemporary church with terrible loud sunday-morning rock concerts. At least that's been my experience.
Praying for you to receive clarity and healing. If you have time, study the spirit of rejection. I believe this will give you more answers as you yield to the Holy Spirit. He will teach you all things.
Our Father gives us our hearts true desires. He can give you marriage. Marriage is very important and it is mentioned many times in the bible. Abraham gave all that he had to find a wife for his son Isaac. He wants us to continue to create more believers in Christ for his glory. A man can help lead you as it states in the bible. Don't think that God wants you to be single forever. God will have to give you a Godly man who wants to do work for the Lord as much as you if not more.
@Teri Blake: SAME HERE!🙌 Past two years, God has been really dealing with me. NOW DURING THESE PAST 4 COVID MONTHS, HE'S REALLYyyy BEEN cleaning up my ❤ and literally every area/relationship in my life! Honestly, what I sowed in tears those seasons allowing God to break me I've REAPED IN POWER & FREEDOM THIS SEASON & ITS BEEN WONDERFUL! Glory to JESUS! WHO or WHAT could possibly COMPARE TO OUR GOD! 🤍
T J You have a heavenly family, Sometimes the Lord giveth and then he taketh away, I’ve been where you are probably even worse, but it made me love Christ even more and see his faithfulness even more, if I had everything surely then I wouldn’t need GOD, but because I had nothing and or it was taken by force...it made me eventually realise I needed the Father more. If you have Jesus, you have the Father and if you have the Father, you have everything. Change your perspective and you will realise how rich you are. Child of the King. God bless you and may the Lord restore you. ❤️
No. 2 is key because many times we will also look to our elders and church leaders as the final authority, instead of the Lord. For instance, if the Lord reveals something to you in the secret place - he gave this to you. So when we go to our elders or church or spiritual leaders and ask for their opinions, they can sometimes lead us astray. This is why it's important to go through a season of life where it's really just you and the Lord. This was by far the most important season of my life and the Holy Spirit truly did walk me through and teach me so many things. He also taught and showed me how WE ARE the church, a building is not. The No. 2 lesson is rarely taught, so I truly appreciate that the Holy Spirit led Mark to teach that here.
Tamara Jolee - I agree. I am in that season right now where it's the Lord and me. Just taking this time to grow, to heal and really focus in on all aspects of my life!
Tamara- you are totally right. Sometimes it just needs to be you and HIM. We get so distracted with things that HE needs to get our attention, and sometimes HE has to use drastic measures. Like the World is going through now. It is WAKE UP time, and time to return to "our first love".🙏😍🎶💕
Who ever is hearing this please pray for me I'm searching for a Godly spouse but I feel like I'm not ready like God is trying to teach me something please pray that I'll be ready for her
I am 45 and waiting for God to bless me in the area of marriage. It's rough at times and temptation comes but through prayer and having a honest relationship with God helps, I also ask others to pray for me as well.
@@iAmEdwinHamilton Same. I did really like one girl she was special and different. It seems like I'll never find another like her and I sadly didn't know her well enough. I miss her so bad and I believe she is a registered nurse right now.
Please pray for me. There is spiritual warfare in my life and I am rebuking the Devil in the name of Jesus. Faith, Bravery, Victory. Please pray for my safe keeping in the Lord. Thank you.
If I hadn't strayed when I was younger and had been closer to God like I should have been, I might have been married years ago. I asked God to guide me this time to the one he would want for me. I went through a lot of pain because I tried to make things happen myself. That always is the wrong way to go. I ask him to help me discern who is totally carnal and who really wants to be in a relationship first. I ask him for the strength to do things right this time. I'm almost 57, but I'm still young.
I was able to attend church again amidst all that has been going on. I had this prayer on my heart for a Godly marriage. Then it was like I heard His voice in my heart “Trust me. I’ve got you.”. A few nights before that I was feeling really bad about myself. While I was going to sleep I was thinking “Why would anyone ever fall in love with me?” and “I’m too ugly to be loved.”. I asked God if that were true, and I heard Him say “No!”. It startled me a little, but I felt comforted knowing that He didn’t think I was ugly.
You are not only NOT ugly, you are beautiful....extremely beautiful! I used to struggle with this so much. I finally learned that I needed to go to God, often, and have Him help me see myself the way He sees me. I've never felt more loved and more beautiful. Please know that your value and beauty is never affected by whether someone else sees it or not. It's constant. Choose to allow God to open your eyes to it. You are beautiful. You are LOVED! You are HIS 💜
Friend you need to heal before you enter a Godly marriage. God is not going to grant you this request until those wounds are healed. You must get to the root of this pain. God alone will heal this not a spouse.
I have seen in life you have to go to the flow. Like you said in the beginning God runs the show in your life. It’s his will and not ours. Divine timing is always in play.
I seem to keep on attracting the type of men I used to want, now I want a Godly man and I can't seem to find any. I will continue to pray we find each other because I FEEL DEEP IN MY SOUL that he's somewhere praying for a woman like me as well
🙏🏼God Bless and. Keep you, Thank you so much, This is for me. I’m not It’s been hard to to my own home, Have dealt with a lot of Spiritual attacks, But Jesus Has been my Savior Through and Through, I’m A survivor Through Him. PRAISE HIM, JESUS IS KING. 🙏🏼Amen😊
I have been praying and waiting on the Lord for a long time now. Loving those in my path as Brothers in Christ and listening to the Holy Spirit through our friendship. There have been those that I thought could be the one - but knew they weren't for me and have felt an abundance of His peace in letting go of what was not from Him. I trust in His timing and won't make this an idol in my life - as I have in the past. God knows best and I trust Him. He can be trusted.
God i have cried to you so many times for a home and a husband Lord i wont stop knocking on your door fighting on my knees praying to you 😪😪😪😪 please Lord give me what i need not what i want let your will be done in my life i pray 🙏🙏🙏
That’s beautiful! I know singleness hurts but never stop praying. I pray for Christian singles all around the world. It’s hard but I keep praying until God finally helps.
Amen. Another important thing for us singles to work on is being selfless. I have heard it said that you never know how selfish you are until you get married. Of course, we’ll never be perfect at this, but it’s a good thing to strive after. Great video. 😊👍🏾
Been struggling with singleness lately especially during this time. Trying to refocus 😥 cause I can't live with God's presence in my life and I know His purpose for me is greater than getting married.
I think #4 hits home for me. I’ve had so many blows in my past when it comes to men that I’ve put up a huge wall. It’s very hard for me to trust that someone won’t let me down and every time I meet someone new the fear comes back and I end up sabotaging the entire thing. Altogether, I’ve decided to put dating on hold because of this. I’m just completely focusing on God and myself.💕
This afternoon when praying for marriage, got a thought, "Marriage doesn't complete or fulfill you (or make you happy or satisfied). Whether before marriage or after marriage, you're fulfilled cuz you're in Christ." And now I watch this video, confirming what the Lord had said earlier.
I am so afraid that i will live my life alone with out having a partner... I know that i have jesus so i am never alone but i really want to marry and have kids
1. Give up your perception of control over your life.(God is sovereign, but He wants to teach you, not force you) 2. Give up a God-segmented life. Let the Lord have all of you. (e.g. Come to a church on a day but not actively bring God in everyday ) 3. Give up an isolated Christian life (no church) participate w church. 4. Give up fear of rejection and failure. (you cannot control everything that happens, but you can control your response) 5. Give up the lie that you need a relationship to be happy. (we ruin the relationship and miss out joy..!) only God can satisfy our deepest longings.
God has been showing me all of these things lately. You are so right, God is the best thing for our hearts, a relationship is healthiest when The Lord is the joy and center of both husband and wife!
Number #3 applies to me strongly. I spend every day alone with my children in prayer all day. Our Lord said.. You shouldn't be alone, join a church. I listened, next week there is a pot luck! I'm so excited and have made friends with females, I am so happy 💖 Thank you for these tips!
Listen, I'm not "young" anymore. I'm not old either, but middle aged. NEVER been married. Never wanted to be. Until 2017. God put that desire in me and has been working on me for 20 + years. I'm ready for Boaz. Took a lot of work and lots of painful years to be fashioned. God took out a LOT of garbage. You wanna be married? Get/ stay celibate. 🙏🏽
Age is merely a number. Trust God and His timing. 1. Tabitha Brown: A beautiful woman of God and a well known Brand Ambassador for WholeFoods. Yesterday she shared that she was featured in the New York Times. Her channel and her notoriety seem to take off when the quarantine came. She has been desiring this since she was in her 20s. She is 40 years old. 2. Annie Dillard: A 92-year-old beauty salon owner from South Carolina, earned her fourth college degree. 40 is not old. Look at your age from a different perspective. You are in your prime. You know who you are and are aware of your standards. These are your best years. God bless. And yes, celibacy is paramount.
@@DanaeLaurenTolbert Yes. But Eve was created to procreate and if you want to have children, this time is not unlimited like "getting a college degree"
@@samphonnetgamgee5625 You're comment is a reflection of a hardened heart. Projecting negativity is not Christian by any means. When things didn't work out for me, I used to do this. And it's wrong. There are plenty of people marrying at 50, 60, and even 70. Perhaps God did not call you into marriage. And there's nothing wrong with that. Singleness is not a curse. I am 38 and will be 39 in July. I have every intention on living my BEST LIFE. We have been socialized that marriage + a house + white picket fence = happily ever after. Well guess what, you can be single, have the house with white picket fence and still live a blessed fulfilled life. I hope God gives you peace and softens your heart. If someone didn't tell you they love today, I will tell you:I LOVE YOU💕. God bless you.
@@samphonnetgamgee5625 With God ALL things are possible. There are countless women 45 and older having children these days. If Sarah who was 90 became pregnant with Isaac, then God is not limited to age. He can override physical limitations and do the miraculous. Don't limit what God can do.
Such a good word! Thank you! These words have guided my prayers this morning and reminded me of so many important truths about Jesus and the godly marriage I hope to be in one day. That fear of rejection and failure point is my biggest struggle, as I’m sure many can relate. I needed 1 John 4:18 this morning. God’s perfect love can be the what I cling to and can get me through anything (including rejection or failures).
I am praying for my relationship with my boyfriend. and I also pray that my best friend finds someone who will love her for who she is a amazing friend of minds. I waited a long time to be in a relationship but then I find myself asking God to help me when ever I do fall.
How do I as a Christian let go of my desires for a wife, especially when I have never been with a woman, or dated in my 29 years on this earth? Everyone says surrender, but that’s a lot easier said than done! That doesn’t make the sexual urges go away! This is my biggest trust issues. I feel abandoned by God in this area! As I watch family and friends around me get hitched! I need serious help before I do something stupid here!
A very good message. One I really needed to hear. God is definitely working on me right now and I’m grateful for that. I’m ready for the one he has for me when he sees fit and realize I should never put my source of joy into a relationship solely. Still got a ways to go but I’m getting there. Thanks mark good word. as always you truly hear from God.
I really desire to be married to a Godly man but my emotions are all over the place and I don’t know exactly where God is leading me. Please keep me in your prayers my fellow AGW family.
Thank you so much.. This answered all the mysteries that I encounter since last year... May the Almighty God prosper you more for His glory, all of your days.. 🎆
This was really good! To be honest, I was expecting this to be a list of things that ended up feeling like a heavy yoke and made me feel condemned and responsible for not being in a relationship yet. But this was a wise, encouraging, and life-giving exhortation that was just what I needed to hear on this topic. Thank you!
Hi Jarrett, there is no mess too big or too small that can't be fixed by Our Heavenly Father and Creator. Just take that mess to God in pray and He will do the rest. Confess. By the Blood Of Jesus Christ all our messes are washed away. I pray God's blessings on you and that the Holy Spirit will guide and keep you. In Jesus' Mighty Name, Amen.
Praying that you feel closer to God! Coming from a teenager as well it’s hard, but God can do anything and He knows your heart! Matthew 6:8- do not be like them for your Father knows what you need before you ask Him
Hello My name is Branden. Please pray for me brothers and sisters. I feel like Gods blessed me with someone who can be my partner in Christ but I feel like I need to have my job/goals/finances in order first before I get married or go the step further than boyfriend/girlfriend
The last three parts really hit me right now I have no desire to look for a spouse at one time it was opposite I'm just going through a lot of stress for not having a job
Trust in the Lord and speak out his word in faith. Brother like Philippians 4:19 he shall supply all our needs according to his riches and Glory!! I pray the Lord will guide you and send Angel's on your behalf to bring a blessing of you a job in the Name of Jesus
Mark, love this teaching. Thank you so much. I did not agree with the point about mega churches though. I believe people can “put on” their church mask no matter what type of church they go to. This is a huge issue that goes far beyond mega churches, which I think is why I had a hard time with that point. It’s not about mega churches, it’s about bringing God into every area of our lives and not compartmentalizing our lives.
I'm definitely one of those naturally highly isolated people. Even when I could go to Church, I enter like a ghost and leave just as silently. None reach out to me, but I'm not especially approachable either.
Maybe someone sees you, wonders about you.. And you don't notice. I'm struggling with my tendency to be isolated, my spirit aches for true connection and fellowship but the rest of me isn't so willing. It's hard,I know. I pray you are blessed with the desires of your heart, and that the Lord guides you in New directions, free of fear, anxiety, feelings of rejection, betrayal, low self worth. A breakthrough this Sunday morning Lord! In Jesus name amen amen
Thank you! This is answered the question I was asking the Lord. Last week I took a break from my friends, I was asking the Lord when should I get back with them.
Thanks for the video Mark ❤ I would like to add: we need to give up our isolation. But that also means we need to give up all the things (sins) that lead us to isolation.
The comments give me anxiety! Wait and trust... aaah! I believe I’ve met my husband (He’s a pastor in Fort Worth) and I ask God for him everyday and believe he is mine. However, as I seek God daily I am reminded that He must be the ultimate in my life (I’ve asked God to help me with this because I myself cannot do it.) I love this man so much like SO MUCH... However, I must love God much much much more. Above ALL. Pray for me, please. Oh my gosh, please pray for me.
1. God can send you the right man or woman with the heart not the looks! Don’t write off someone based on looks allow yourself to get to know them if it doesn’t work out after that you have a brother/sister in Christ God can use them to bless you in the future and vice versa!
So true. I used to be the type that was so hung up on looks, but as I matured and grew in Christ, I learned to look at the heart/spirit. That's what really counts.
Good video. Number four is especially good. Thanks for sharing. I know that in the past I was expecting to much from a man. I have always believed in God, but I didn't put Him first in my previous relationships. I discovered that I was codependent. So I was looking for people to love me in the way that I should have been loving myself. I plead the blood of Jesus over you and your family. God bless you.
#4 easier said than done...Especially after being married to your childhood best friend who turned out to be a secret habitual adulteress after seven years of marriage.
@@SH-vj2ce Unfortunately, forgiveness does not negate the earthly consequences of such an experience. My trust issues radiate into almost every area of my life. Her adultery was so wide spread and vindictive that now my trust issues radiate into nearly every personal or professional relationship. Its a prison of cynical discernment. Thank you for your kind words.
Ibam a christian that struggling of the silence of my fiancee of not being ans.my txt and call just keep seeing it without any problem or fight.i was wondering .keep on praying and this message pop out to listen..praise God. Thank you.
I tend to think that God is in control of our lives when we give up the desires of our ego, and instead, we give up our own free will to carry out n follow His will n ways. I believe that God works in our lives.. through us, as we learn to live as He instructs us to.
I’m sorry to hear that; at least God beings us comfort through every circumstance. Romans 8:28 NLT says “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” Maybe it just wasn’t the right time yet. Maybe they weren’t ready and are hoping to be with you in the future. Or maybe they might not be the one for you. Whatever the case may be, let us continue to remember Romans 8:28 and that God wants the best for his children. God bless you; I pray that God will bless you with a relationship with the one for you at the right time.
Give glory to God always! Remember only God knows our future better than us! Sometimes the right one with the heart of gold is covered with mud so get to know them before deciding
8:23 When the pastor whips out that old King James. When the offering plate is coming at you hard. When yo mama whips out the belt after she said "we're going to church" the second time.
Number 2 is the most important. We must have a lifestyle of worship, otherwise we won’t have the foundation to get through the tough times. The compartmentalized Christianity is dangerous.
Dear brothers and sisters in Christ, I’m in a relationship with my Christian boyfriend. Sometimes I get confused that shall I pray for our relationship to work that we are gonna get married or Should I pray for my unnamed-future husband? Please pray for me 🙏 Thank you all:)
Both. "Gid, please Help me see if my boyfriend is the man I should marry if his not... Push him away so I can meet the man who will be my husband. " Help us both grow and learn from this experience.
So having watched this video a year ago, rewatching it now is really telling. It’s honestly crazy how much has changed... And yet, I’m not too sure 1. Give up the idea of controlling my own life 👍🏾 2. Give up a “God-segmented” life... Interesting idea. The idea of only showing ourselves to be Christian only when going to church[seems to be happening already, is even finished] 🤔😅 3. Give up a life of Christian isolation... By going out into the world as loving members of a family in public [seems to be happening currently] 🤔😅👍🏾 4. Give up the fears of rejection & failure... A Christian can’t be afraid of rejection or failure, because we must press on in faith despite any & all rejections, and failure only occurs when having given up 🤔 [honestly I was thinking about this earlier 🤔🤯😇🙏🏾🥳], though I’m not sure where I am in this area 😪🤔 5. Give up the lie that a relationship is needed to be happy... And honestly I’m thinking I’m almost there, but I’m not sure because I could be overthinking it 🤔 and so now I need to get back in prayer 😅
Thank you, for the video . I think 🤔 my relationship is coming to a close after six years. I’m focusing on my relationship with God and working on completing a masters. Yes , I’m usually isolated .
I thought Mark said this was a free course till midnight. I I tried to log in to enroll. It said the course is 300.00. I am 64 and not working I cant afford this. Am I in the wrong area please help me. I have been single 5 years waiting. 875wandaj@gmail.com Thank you
