When women cooks and do household chores it is her duty whereas when man does the same he is helping. Pov: both should earn and both should do the household chores equally.
@@sapnakalra5150Exactly. Even men who thinks both should work in today's economy says that he'll HELP his wife, not share the chores. When a woman do chores, no big deal even if she's dead tired. But if a man HELPS, it is seen as an extraordinary thing.
@@bollywoodscenesandudayansh5947 not necessary..I do not take these things very seriously...as a being on this planet I want to be happy and live a stress free life..
You will deal with loneliness after a while. Also marriage is good for personal development when you take additional responsibility otherwise you’ll stagnate emotionally. Also a life of freedom & indulgence can get boring after a while.
I’m an high earning individual n I’m completely agree with you. Women should be busy somewhere like office or any business. House wife’s are nightmare.
I know you're gonna get hate for this but this is the truth. I learnt it when I was in college and have been advising my friends and known to find a girl who is working not only because of monetary help but because only when one starts earning they get to know the money's worth
@@PreetisParadise Being wise with money and knowing worth are separate things. Also, obviously there will always be few who are better than majority and stand out. Exceptions are always there.
True ..I always see housewives to do drama .. biwi job kar jayegi to Saas Bahu jhagda bhi kam hoga.. dusra vo financial independent hogi to insecure bhi kam rahegi.. husband ko control nahi karegi.. comparatively house wives are more controlling in financial matters...
Agreed !!! When a person starts earning he/she realizes the true value. And also its good for your mental health too. Currently I have 2 years of experience in Job. And my girlfriend was preparing for Govt Exams. Her demand was slowly increasing day by day, trip to Maldives, Diamond ring, Parties and what not. When I clearly stated my requirement is working professional, she started arguing. Her words: "Its my life, I may do job or I may not, It's my choice." I eventually had a breakup and blocked her. But now I feel really relaxed. I started feeling more like a wallet back then.
Sir aapne btaya ki biwi ko paisa kamana chahiye..but mard ko bhi btao ki working wife ke sath ghar ka kaam bantna chahiye... We working woman are being harrassed by assigning multiple workd..din mein job..raat ko bacche ke sath jagna.. subah sham ghar ka kaam.. husband has divided his financial responsibilities with his wife but what about our social and domestic responsibilities... Vo to hame hi krna hai.. baki chhoro fir unki family ke nakhare .and vo mental torture jo vo apne family ke sath milkar karte hai..what about dahej and gifts they ask from her parents.. kamane wali wife se pet nahi bharta..uske maa baap ki kamai bhi chahiye.. i am facing this in my life..
I agree.. ye sab mere sath b ho rha he.. is se demotivation ati he fir.. k hmse acha life housewives ka ho rkha he.. paise na b kamae to utna hi krna he..paida kama k b utna hi krna he.. samaj ko pata nhi ku lagta he k hmare ko specially 5 hath die he.. or hmara ko 48 hrs milte he din me . . 12 Ghante job kro or fir kithcen me chati kuta karo..bt inlaws ab lalchi ho rakhe he.. ladkio k kamane se ladkio ka bhala ho nahi pa rha.. ulta uska paise se ladke valo ka fayda hota he.. unko maid+ful flegded earning member mil gyi bahu k roop me
@@MeghaKaushik5678the job gives you a certain level of leverage to force some changes in your household. You should have this talk with your hubby. Since you make fairly handsome amount of money, you can tell him that you will have to separate from him for some time if the domestic situation doesn't improve.
I want to marry a housewife than a working women as housewife are far better than working women and they know how to keep family together but if you marry a working women,men will always be unhappy as they know how to create problems in everything. Working women will always argue and make your life worse.
@@Tom-px9hd only a strong man can handle a strong woman.... No working wife isharo par nachegi.. use maid ki tarah use karoge..ye sochkar ladke non working ladki lete hai .fir vo ladki band bajati hai.. maine non working ladkiyon kajyada kalesh karte dekha hai . And over spending bhi hoti hai..pati ko ungali par machati hai
@@sudiphalder7463 I said every lady should "atleast" earn for herself. Most woman don't earn single rupee. Every woman should earn for her family like a man. Men need to be rescued sometimes.
The couples who are in their sixties are the most suffering people. They were in poverty with their parents. When they earned a lot now after so much hardwork now they can't be a burden to children. They looked after their parents but they can't be looked by their children.
They lived like a king. During their time, jobs were super easy, no inflation, no EMI, no pollution, no struggle for job. I can hundred more reasons. They have lived their life for free like a king. I am jealous of previous generation.
The truth is every one has to adapt the concept of "live and let live ". We all have a life to live ,irrespective of age we need to be self sufficient financially the good thing about our senior citizens is they have pension but emotional wise they are being exploited or lonely . But our generation needs to be smart and sensible to look ahead and be independent in all aspects of life 😇🙏💐😊
Marriage means lakho ka paisa dalke bacchey ko engineering karwao aur private company ko 8000-12000 k salary pe lagao...means apna baccha kisi dusrey k faiyde k liye paida karo..😂
I agree with you sir. Earning women respect money. Don't waste things as well as time. Don't have time and energy to argue with husband about petty things.
Really? Women who earn argue more even though the husband has it figured out, women spend more in the name their money their choice. One of the biggest propoganda for working women is you can buy anything as you earn the money you need for it
Sahi kaha meri family saari mahilae working h latest shadiyo mei aur apne husband se bhi jyada kama rhi h jayadatar saari govt job mei salary 80k 90k and husband salary around 50k . Kayi toh CA aur Engineer h with excellent package even better then their husbands . Aur shadiya mast chal rhi h kalesh kam h aur family politics bhi nhi h . Iske pehle ki generation that is parental generation miserable marriages. Kalesh politics drama domestic violence. Anyways 😂 abhi latest shadiya dekh kar mujhe bohot khushi milti h.....mera 😂khandan sudhar gya . Ps - abhi mere yaha mumbai mei trend ban gya h nuclear family iss wajah se kalesh aur bhi kam h mere shadi ke time tak toh aur hi sudhar jayega
@@ankitamishra0405 Aisa kuch nahi hai. Jo Paisa kamayega usko paise ki importance pata chalegi. One more thing, women mind respect nahi karega if her husband less than her. Her heart may accept but not mind. That's why most women ditch husband later for better men. Kalesh to hoga hi
Only working and earning is not enough. She should share some part of the family expenses also. She should also be aware of all the monthly expenditure and keep accounts / go through them.
She should be given Regular salary for her house work, for 8 hours working and for overtimes, and a major amount if she gives birth to a child, who will be vansh of other person, not hers. And fine muzt be paid to wimen if she is made to leave her parents and parents house after marriage to husband's house in his comfort zone.
North India ke alawa ye 'rojgar wa job wali bahu hi chahiye' har jagah bahut salo se chali aa rahi hai. Isi liye India ki bahut sari states me aajkal bina jobwali ladki ki shadi hi nahi ho rahi hai. Ye ek naya problem hai. Shadi ke liye ladki yoko koi bhi job me ghusna par raha hai bhale hi shadi ke bad chod de. Even jo private job karte hai ladke wo govt job wali ladki dhund rahe hai taki life secured rahe.
Lol! Trucker, by engaging in the experiment, for the last 20 odd years, to allow VVaamyen to make her own money so she can "love" men is the reason why the martial issues exist in the first place!
I’m a 40 year old happily single man . Plenty of reasons for my decision but I absolutely love my freedom . I just make sure I get some action every now and then with similar minded women ( no offence to anyone )
Completely agree with your advices sir, I myself am a 24 year old female (unmarried) who will be working soon (already placed in an MNC, waiting for June to start). My mother showed me your videos and we often watch them together and discuss afterwards. I would like to point out a slight inconsistency though. You seem to point that non-working housewives don't do anything, while I agree that people have domestic help for jhaadu, pocha, bartan and maybe even dusting but you they still keep an eye on the work, guide them and for the other things, they take care of groceries, maintaining the house, keeping it tidy, dust free, doing the household shopping for the bedsheets, utensils, toiletteries, laundry (not just the washing part but segregating them and the task of taking the clothes to the machine, drying them, folding them, ironing them) there is cooking obviously, chopping, maintaing the kitchen itself, stocking the pantry. I can point out other million tiny things that you have overlooked a bit and summed them up as "housewives do nothing". I'm only talking about the case where the couple doesn't have a child yet since that's what you talked about too. However you made a valid point that they must have the ability to do so which is what my parents also inculcated in me. I just only wish that you could be a bit more considerate of the tiny things that housewives do throughout the day till their husbands come back to a clean and tidy house.
Fully second your comment being a happily married husband of a home manager. Unfortunately there is no consideration for the efforts that a housewife takes to make a house a home.
I m working and doing all other things you mentioned for your mom....I have 2 kids....rather housewives have more maids than I do.....then? ..all ladies should work.....
At point blank you convey your excellent message to the youth who are about to marry. By this our marriage system will get more joyful and lot of women empowerment will also happen.
100% agreed. I do have the same opinion. Thank you for making a video out this topic. At least after watching this our parents will understand what opinions we have and why we think this way.🙏🏻
@@shaikkhairun4816घर के काम सीखो। सोने मां बाप का कर्जा खुद उतारो। इतने काहिल और जाहिल न बनो की अपने मां बाप का कर्जा भी दूसरे से उतारवाओ और पाप कमाओ।
Benefits for marriage for boys perspective: 1. End of Masturbation 2. Top most desire of men of having legal sex is also achieved. 3. You will be considered as mature and responsible men in society, even if you are earning rs20k pm. 4. You will learn some new thing about women and women respect because wife is the second women in men's life after mother which he can trust by heart. 5. You can share your deep emotions with her. 6. Your desire for earning money will be increased after marriage. Disadvantages of marriage 1. You will loose your personal freedom as your identity will be identified as marriage couple not an individual. 2. You will have to adjust with all non sense of your wife. 3. Your financial burden will be increased.
1. There is no guarantee you will have sex as sexless marriages exist also a woman loses her looks really fast so you will have a bad sex life anyways 2. What is illegal sex? Ye toh sunna nhi kbhi 6. Your desire for earning money will only reduce, why would you start earning more to please her?
Sharing deep emotions , learning about women, even after marriage if wife interested we can't force you listed advantages doesn't make any sense. In reality sever financial responsibility only on boys, that is stupidity. Any time wife can file cases on husband. Marriage not returning anything to boys
End of masturbation, aisa kuch nhi hota. Because dono ki permission honi chahiye. Several case hai jisme year se sex hi nhi hua. Ye koi liscense nhi hai.
Sadly in my locality girls are being rejected for their desire to earings after marriage..most of the girls who r getting married are not earning. I hope this video will change people mindset
It depends upon how much is she earning. Is she doing a job or pursing her career? If her salary is insignificant as compared to guy’s salary, why he would want his wife to work?
All of such talks are true in the context of developed nations such as the USA, CANADA ETC. But for India, it's not. According to indian law, when female files for divorce and alimony talks are there, men are directed to pay maintenance. Even if women are earning equal to men, still men has to give some maintenance to the wife. Even if men are not earning, they have to pay maintenance by doing mazdoor or labor work (as per by a recent ruling by Supreme court). So in the eyes of LAW, men are supposed to "maintain" their wife, not the other way around!!!! - If the marriage laws change for alimony/maintenance and other factors in future, Men will happily marry "working women !! But till then, non-working women are the ideal marriage partners for men.
@@subratbehera4701 Observing that a woman's right to claim maintenance cannot be denied only because she is employed and her husband earns less than her, a sessions court has ordered a 52-year-old Ghatkopar businessman to pay a monthly maintenance of Rs 16,000 to his 47-year-old estranged wife, who is an entrepreneur and earns Rs 30,000 every month. It was submitted that while the man's annual income was Rs 2.90 lakh, the woman earns around Rs 3.50 lakh a year. The man had moved the sessions court after a magistrate's court ruled in favour of the wife. The court said the observations of the magistrate in the order was proper and legal. "Prima facie, the income of the husband seems to be less than that of the wife. But a wife is the responsibility of her husband. He is liable to maintain her whatever he earns. Therefore, the order does not require any interference," the sessions court said. Supreme Court ruling which said that even if the wife is earning, she is entitled for the determination of maintenance. "Therefore, the submission of arguments from the side of the husband that his wife is an earning woman and she is not entitled to maintenance goes out," the court said.
Yaar this is cheating 😮 , this makes marrying a Woke woman even more dangerous, even if for some small fight she files a case, your own hard earned money might go 😮😮
Husband to kehte h saas ki sewa nhi kri to narak milega…maa baap chahe kaise bhi ho kuch bhi kre lkn tum acha bolo acha kro…..being a working lady it’s difficult to handle such toxic people….what to do?? Ache karm aur swarg k naam pr humse maid ka kaam krwana chahte h….sewa kro ha ji ha ji kro aur apna kuch nhi bolo….biwi ki kadr hi jb h jb ma ki sewa krogi.
Agr swarg or narak sachme exist krte he to bahuo ko toxic environment me rkhne k lie b sasural sahit husband ko narak milega.. So dont worry abt all this.
sir one more consideration woman indirectly earns or contributes to family by doing household routine works and preparing food for family which is not considered as earnings for family which otherwise family has to spend can be considered
@@harikalaparthihari403 majority of women have to leave job due to this double duty of work +home responsibilities. Women who continue does both job will surely develop stress driven diseases at early stage of life.. bt who cares.
@@MeghaKaushik5678 women have choices. they can earn or can sit at home. whereas men dont. they have to earn no matter what. women are so cruel when it comes to relationship.
Happily married for 2 years known her previously for 8 years. she earns not as much but i see the bright side. Comparing her with my friend"s wives, my wife don"t spend money on useless stuffs. Only if a girl earns money she will know the value of money. Great points in this video
Job is completely no no , And not every one can be a entrepreneur that Amit ji should understand , Amit ji is promoting this is because he is in real estate agent of urban area , and buying flat is only possible in urban area if both are earning , So if he push women into earning raise it is in his benefit. I am sure that he would have never asked his own wife to earn. Instead he should promote that till your retainment stay in rented apartment and buy flat in tear three city which is in your budget for your retirement.
So you're basically saying that if the girl starts working then the couple will become rich and create assets that will become part of their wealth, but the main problem is that you might have to pay commission fees to him or any real estate agent initially aur uska fayda ho jayega? So that's the only reason for you to not increasing your bank balance? Wa bhai wah, kya logic hai. Clearly shows you're a housewife and don't know what's happening outside the four walls of the house. Padhe likhe gawar log.
@@nothanks0009 women empowerment is a scam, kaya hamari nani dadi empowered nahi thi , wo aaj ki aurto se zaad respectful life jiti thi . I am working women I know what sacrifices working women has to pay , Working women kabhi bacha karne ke bare me nahi sooch sakti . work life balance karne ke chaakar me piss ka rehe jati he . isliye roll and responsibility ka division hona chahiye . lekin aaj kal ke nikame ladke aapni wife se life time dowery chate he in a form of job.
@Kiran ch hamari dadi nani alag zamane me jeeti thi. We live in a different world from then and it's the truth that if you're a girl and you don't earn money and don't know how to manage money then ye samaj tumko khaa jayega. Earning money is very important but people think ki sirf job karke hi kamaya jaa sakta hai that's why they feel stuck there. Women have a lot of opportunities to earn money in their own domain but they are busy competing with men. Yes, har jagah sacrifice lagegi but I'd rather be working and providing for my children than ye sacrifice ka rona dhona karna. I'm also working but I don't do work under anyone else. Sought a niche for myself at 17 and worked my ass off until I became the best at it. Have a lot of things now that I can pass to my children and grandchildren as legacy and also, continuing to build more. Carve a path of your own sister. Listen to everyone but do your own thing.
@@nothanks0009 nani dadi bhi baache paida karti thi aaj ki aurte bhi bache paida karti he , nature has not changed we have changed . By the way I am software engineer and now running my own business , but If I was married I would have never be able to do all these . But I also know it is not possible for every women. be realistic. Har sacrifice ki cost hoti he , no need to sacrifice your family over earning money . 90% start up die in just 1 year , so for most women only option to earn money is to do the job . which is at least 10 hour away from home , many corporate job require late night work also , so family life will completely destroyed.
@@2903kiran I’m unable to understand whatever non existing logic you’re using here. Your main argument is that women should sit home to look after children then by that logic, why are you working and have a business? You should leave your job, shut down that business and find a husband and get married asap and have kids asap otherwise your life is wasted. You aren’t following what you’re preaching then. The demanding child rearing is usually for 5-7 years and after that kids get more independent. Women don’t have to do much after that. They don’t even do house chores these days because of maids. They get up in the morning, get the child ready and after everyone leaves, sit at home and watch Netflix all day. This is what Mr Sangwan was talking about. I personally know women of these kind and they are very bitter, clueless and useless. They have an emptiness in their life and suffer from low self esteem. This makes them cause issues in other family members life. They gave birth to some children and they cry about it all life. Yes, birthing children is very special and only women could do it but the thing is that, in today’s world that’s not enough. We have a lot of opportunities today that our nani dadi would have loved to have. We should use these opportunities to contribute more to the family. This is what I’m trying to say for all this time. IT jobs are severely underpaid in this country so they aren’t good. I’m not telling everyone to start a business. But there are a lot of skills out there for which people would pay you. One could learn those skills and do independent work. Earning money doesn’t always have to be always from job and business. I’m a freelancer. I know a core skill and have added more skills on top of that which has made me very valuable in the market. I work mostly with foreign companies and clients and I have good contacts with them so no matter what is the condition of world economy, I always have opportunities to earn money. Also, I don’t only earn money. Over time, I’ve learned about investment so that I’m properly using every penny I earn. By doing this, I’ve managed to build a great net worth, have a lot of investment in various forms, own two properties. I even own Intellectual Properties. I get royalties for my work etc that my children and grandchildren will continue to enjoy as legacy. I’m continuing to build over that. I have full control over my time so I do whatever I want, whenever I want and however I want. The bottom line is, every woman should earn money. It’s a blessing that women can earn money and have children. Men can only do one thing but woman are capable of doing a lot of things. We need to see this a strength and a superpower instead of limiting ourselves to simple child birthing machines and decorations/maids in our husband’s house.
Ek ladki jo 40s me hai and single hai uski life 40s me single men ke comparison me bahot tough hoti hai..my cousin sis is 46 n unmarried ab use realise ho raha hai ki she made the biggest mistake in her life by choosing not to marry n remain single
Absolutely correct Sir. But you know when you tell this thing to girl's side then they say ladakewale(boy side) is greedy , demanding etc. Papa ki pariyon ne aajkal toofan uthaya hua hai
Sir, Please make a video for the case where wife is earning more (almost double). But household work is kind of mandatory for wife..husband helps sometimes. Can't afford maid ( have in-laws family responsibility financially). Shouldn't husband take responsibility of more household chores?
No, kitchen & household work is not husband’s responsibility. A man’s responsibility is earning money / wealth. If he cooks - that’s an additional value . But a man can’t say, “I know cooking & household responsibilitie, so now I will not earn money” As same, it’s women responsibility to maintain house / cook food, and if she earns that’s an additional value. Similarly, women can’t say - “that I’m earning so now I will not do houehold responsibilities” Stop expecting husband/men to do household work / cook food etc, it’s not their gender role!!!
@@RahulVerma-ud1rr so If wife manages household using her salary to pay maids and doesn't contribute financially (as earrings is husband's responsibility like u said)...is this what you are saying?
@@PriyankaSingh-kt8pj if eventually husband have to eat food prepared by “maid” then why he will marry the girl the first place ? As he can keep a maid for himself if he wants from his salary Women in modern age need to realise that maids can not replace “household work / food cooked with love ” . If modern ladies are so stubborn that “we will not cook food / not do household chores “ as we can keep maids with our salary, then it’s better not to marry. As a household where a maid makes food everyday, can not be a happy household at all.
Its not about stubbornness. Working women don't have time to fit in traditional housewives. Secondly...marry a non-working girl. Simple!!!!.. . Problem is expecting her to work to earn money and doing everything in home as well.
@@RahulVerma-ud1rr According to you...cooking is very important for wife. And substitute is keeping a maid to cook instead of getting married? If Marriages is all about cooking..cleaning and maintaining house...then yes..keeping maid is good option. But I believe mostly sane person marry for companionship..raise a family of their own and enjoy life together.
If uh want your wife to be working and contribute in expenses then uh should also know cooking and household chores. If both are earning then both should distrubute household chores equally it is not only wife's duty. Make video on this too.
Shuru shuru me to in ldko ko yahi queen lgti hai fir saadi k ak saal baad is queen ki sari kamiya dikhne lg jati h😂😂😂jb inka is queen se mn bher jata hai😂😂
Strong should be One Who can Support Help Compassion others Irrespective of She / He is earning.....Anyone can Earn..but few can Be a Good partner respect partner irrespective of his/ her earning potential.....
@@suman3316 you are right. People often know only one definition of success that is earning money. If the service is not monetized then it is not respected. Being strong is contributing your part not by only money.
Then why women are interested in house management it should be the responsibility of both or women should also stop taking interest then men will realise themselves.
@@rohans7194 exactly! No women should marry a guy like uh who does not contribute in household chores but expects the wife to earn and then do all housework alone.
@@sapnakalra5150 Find a guy who is living and working away from hometown and managing everything with any domestic help. He will most likely help his wife in household chores.
Sir I was thinking that you should also make a video about the women who are earning at par or bit less than the husband and has a huge amount of arrogance/ego(arising from a humbler family background) leading to seperation and disputes.
Find someone else... Time waste nai karneka.. marry someone who wants to marry you..... And girl can be from same class or lower class ..... Stop running after beautiful face... otherwise ego will be seen and it had to be accepted...
I am an independent working women still I disagree with you. Why doesn't my husband work at home, can you answer that? If you can't then just stop preaching women.
@reenaupadhyay2615 If working woman it doesn't mean you are getting equal salary, what about property, what about height. Women simply select man based on salary, property, height, professional status, own house. Did you create house by paying money?
Nowadays our girls are going to higher studies for other countries and marrying boys from that country. Can you analyse the reason and make a video on this topic .
Boys be like,... beautiful ho, young(19-28) ki ho bus, khood ki umer chahe 40 hi kyu na ho😂😂...ldki ka figure acha ho khood ki chahe tond fakte bahar aa rahi ho😂,...ghane or kaale,lambe baalo vali ho, khood k sir pe chahe 2 baal ho😂😂....puri grahsti or family ko nibha ske, full responsible ho bhale hi chahe khood office se aa k sara din bistar pe pde rahe k reels dekhte ho😂😂.... working ho, educated ho, modern ho, intelligent ho, smart ho, confident ho, brave ho,.......khoodki chahe office, neighbour, society me koi image hi naa ho,....but ldki aisi hi chahiye........achi image vali..😂😂......ldke office se aa k aram krte hai yaa fir dosto k sath ghumne nikal jate hai....ghr ghrastri,bachcho ki sari zimmedari wife p chhod k.......agr orate bi office se aa k araam krne lg jaye or earning k liye din raat hardwork kre......to unke piche unke bachcho or family ko kon dekhega.............koi mard hai aisa???? ........aye bde gyan dene vale😂😂😂
Agar ladka ye sab dekhta to 1 ladki ki bhi shadi nhi hoti kyoki koi bhi aisi nhi hai. 99% girls are bad figure and face structure. Koi bhi sochega to acha hi sochega lekin sirf 1% hi khushnaseeb hote hai.
That's great if women get caring Husband... Just don't take for granted, wife... Every family do involve in Businesses... Family business PART TIME jobs... Creativity innovation...
