INFJ | What it is like being an INFJ - T | Warning: Harsh on the INFJ type. 

Yes, sometimes i wish i couldn't feel so much, i would stop noticing everything because i will run away, hide myself. I hide my emotion but it's running over and over inside my head. My heart aches but no one could guess... That is why i have to be alone to balance myself. I didn't choose to be like this, it just happened to be me, i cannot help it.

the hardest part is sitting there feeling so down and depressed..... and no one can even see it. The worst part is I don’t even know why, but I just don’t feel happiness

I read people so well,so thouroughly,so quickly It gets me in trouble

This is exactly what I go through all the time,and I'm at the point where I no longer give a damn what people think of me.

Our jobs as INFJs is to speak up. You should’ve spoke up to dad. I’m learning this too. Perhaps if we speak out then these things wouldn’t haunt us. Maybe our internal struggle is really within about our failures to speak out when we see injustice.

I just figured out that we as in an (INFJ) can be worst of the worst bully ever be because we know how to break down people from the inside out.

Yes to all of that. I think that being an INFJ is a blessing and a curse. If everything in our emotional history was pretty solid, we are way ahead of the pack in generally sensing what is going on, but it also makes us extremely vulnerable to damage because this is an introverted process - we are not trying to do it! Whatever we hear will be analyzed for data and that data will be stored and compared to other data for months on end, and if we found a connection, maybe forever. On the other hand, we know way further ahead of most people what is going on in external relationships, communications, and emotions. We read all of the data not just the words or the threats. It is tiresome.

This Is So Accurate. My Life Story. I Am A Female INFJ-T

As an infj male, it was really insane on how much I could pick up from people's nonverbal behavior when I was taking my communications class regarding interactions with others. I learned so much about nonverbal codes and how much more important they are than verbal codes, anything from hand placement to the way they are sitting. It was like an overload of over analyzing every little detail when I was talking to a person I knew or even a stranger. It was so tiring. Sometimes I feel like ignorance is bliss

Nailed it! This is EXACTLY what is happening when I try to communicate with folks. And it is beyond frustrating when I don't think people are getting it. I try to find a balance between giving just enough information - not too much and not too little - and processing way too much. "You think too much" is one of my least favorite sentences from my youth.

I feel you bro almost had me in tears...I was just asking myself yesterday if I’m happy being an infj. Shit is super fucking stressful. But I love knowing peoples intentions and motives and knowing the outcome of situations before they happen. I feel like I have superpowers some days.😎 Bittersweet fasho.

As an INFJ woman, I would say that you are 💯 on point. It’s like you are describing my own struggles. I only found out I am an INFJ recently and it makes so much sense why I’ve always been an outsider. Thank you for your honesty. 🙏🏾🤍🙏🏾

Thank you. Why would anyone want to be an INFJ. I am 55 years old , I am a black male, I am a recovering drug addict, I am gay, and I have been hospitalized on numerous occasions, and have been diagnosed with depression in its varing form, and I am an infj on top of all that. My earliest memories of feeling like the black sheep alien that doesn't belong goes back to the age of four or five years old. I didn't choose to be black, I didn't choose to be an addict, I didn't choose to be gay, nor did I choose to be an infj. I live in a God fearing, yet overly superstitious, homophobic country where I have put on masks to greet the day,. I am afraid to be known so I keep my authentic true self hidden because everytime I open up I receive rejection. I am called on frequently to solve other people's problems, yet those same people treat me like a freak they can't understand how I do the things I do. I am too good to be true and because of it people are actually afraid of me. I am begining to feel emotional so I am ending my comment. Oh, by the way my father possess all the traits of a classic narcasis, although I am not qualified to diagnose him

This was brilliant and such an honest account of what INFJ life is really like!

Thank you.. this is the most accurate video I've seen on youtube. The real daily struggle of condensing and translation tbousands of thoughts and notions. The rage and the frustrations are endless..

Thank you for this video. You spoke so accurately on how it is to be INFJ. For a long time I didn’t understand why I was so deep in life and so observant and empathetic of EVERYTHING around me (people, plants, animals etc) and I never understood how people could just “move on” and forget about these moments of life. An event happened about 5-6 years ago and I STILL to this day rethink and try understand each and every move every thought process as to why and how someone could be so careless. The constant exhaustion of others and moments that replay and literally imprint on your brain. I think it is a blessing and a curse to be an INFJ. We are unique, present, observant and extremely empathetic just to list a few.

I'm 45 Hispanic man i just recently took the personality test and it was saying i was an INFJ-T so I did some research on what that was i almost broke down after reading what an INFJ-T was cause now I can stop wondering why I felt like a crazy man for feeling like I wasn't accepted not only by my friends but by family. I feel more at peace when I'm by myself but yet still wondering why no one gets me. The battle in my head doesn't ever stop! I needed to hear what you said cause I know now I'm not alone. Thank you so much!

It's true, it's an absolute curse. I see homeless people on the side of the road and cry. I see the elderly eating alone and it keeps me up at night. I feel like I carry so much pain for people that I've never met.

You're not alone. But we're on our own. Too complex and intense for anyone else.

Buddy being an INFJ I completely understand everything u where trying to say and my only advice is your not alone. Their are not alot of us but your not alone and cant speek for others but I can say I get it and everyday and can be a real struggle. Thanx for making this video and sharing your story's just keep doing u and make these videos because in the end u r making a positive difference in peoples day though your pain and curse of seeing.

Seems so often we have allowed other’s thoughts to take precedence over our own. It makes it difficult for us to recognize our own thoughts, dreams, and desires. It seems we must always be cognizant of when and where our thoughts originated. So often the thoughts we have are not ours. They originated from the words spoken over us as children. We must recognize this to be able to grow and learn, and for us to be able to get past the limitations that others have placed upon us. We are capable of more than we think.

Nothing ever goes away, when something gets me thinking about something it reminds me of everything. Every smell, every facial expression, everything I could have done better, everything I could have said better, it's all there! 20 years 30 years 38 years ago it doesn't matter. I remember it all and I cannot hide from it. I live a lonely life, when I'm surrounded by people, I'm even more lonely. it is impossible having a conversation with anybody. I have thought of every outcome possible and planned for it. How am I supposed to have a conversation with somebody when I see their point of view and a thousand other people's at the same time? It's all right though I love my honest, caring, giving, self destructive person I am. I just wish it didn't hurt so much to care, And I didn't care so much it hurts myself. But I will keep doing it because not enough people in the world care. Thanks for your videos.

Man!!! I. REALLY. FEEL. THIS!!!

i have found immense peace in knowing some people just do not deserve someone like me in their life. and i could not give a fuck. shutting the door gives peace and freedom. thank you, Marty for all you do. i post some of your videos on my facebook. they are healing people. you are a great soul healer. i hope you do not mind. and i hope you do not ever stop

Ahhhh!!! I'm not even halfway through and oh my gosh, yes. YES. And with age, it just gets worse... harder to deal with. Fuck. My heart is beating super hard right now. (Edit)... I've held my tongue too many times and that has SAVED LIVES. The ability to kill with words is a blessing and a burden.

I've said the literal words you've said as an INFJ-T. It is not easy! Feels more like a curse to be honest, but trying to look to the brighter side and see how magical and insightful we really are! It's hard though period. We just SEE! ✨ Our dark side is super unexpected once it's seen! It explodes, our intuition, makes others look dumb as hell.

Can anyone else relate- when someone trips for example going down the stairs, do you feel your heart drop as well and feel the feeling you would if that was you tripping down the stairs? Like I get this feeling in my chest of anxiety as if I'm the one falling

"It is more important to understand than to explain what you understand." E. Thor

I could feel your frustration and sadness myself watching this. I often want to stay home and be by myself because of how exhausting it is being around others and having to analyse everything or hide things about myself. I often wish I can speak up more like you did, but I just don't have that level of confidence yet, at least not to strangers

Man....this is so Painfully true!! Thank you for honesty.

This is true. I have a lot of experiences like this. I have many moments in my life I keep on replying wishing I have done what I think should have done that time. It is like cutting the scar mark again after it healed. It is painful but I can't stop.

I'm a bit older now and I totally relate. I speak out more consistently now and it feels frikkin' Awesome. Come and fukking get it is right! Love your honesty and there's nothing wrong with the tat. I'd immediately reach out if I saw that. 💜🙏. Keep bein' awesome and i thank you deeply for this. 💥. Powerful.

Thank you for being so honest about this! I’ve struggled my whole life being INFJ. For years I thought I was mentally ill, an antisocial f***ed up weirdo. I stopped bothering and wasting my time explaining things to people-they won’t understand no matter what. The ruminating and rehashing things from the past is a b****. I have crystal clear memory for those things yet I sometimes can’t remember what I had for breakfast. Anyway, INFJ is a curse and I wish I was anything but...

i feel like i need to speak up more but i end up bottling everything inside. Resenting people instead of telling them how i feel. Hating myself for not saying anything. My dad treats my family like shit a lot. And i don’t say anything. The way he yells at my sister breaks my heart and I don’t say anything. It’s hard because I am also an extroverted feeler and so i have to take into account what every single person is feeling.

That story about the dad and son -- i was there, only it's my mom and me. Thank you so much. I feel like you've stood up for me. A little harsh, but gosh I wish there were more of you around. No treat to you, I know, but so necessary for the good of the world.

I absolutely feel this. Being an INFJ is a curse. The hamster wheel in my head is unending and the emotional spiral drives me nuts. I just want to disappear most of the time and forget everything but I can't. My brain will not let me.

Hi Marty, just found your channel a few days ago, it's been years since I've felt different from the rest, seeing things from different angles and level of depth, just wanting to be alone. Your videos and life experiences that you share with us have helped me in a way that I can now see the "why am I different". I now see more clearly of who I am and what I am. You don't know how grateful I am that I've found someone who can show me the tracks, I appreciate your time and effort on explaining what and how an INFJ thinks. Thank you Marty, see you around, take care mate, greetings from Mexico.

Holy. Shit. I cannot believe the example you chose to use to express these feels we have. I just played into a similar situation recently. I watched a father degrade the hell out of his young daughter in a restaurant. This kid was sinking further and further into the seat as her dad annihilated her for feeling emotions, for chewing loud, for giggling, the way she was smiling and breathing. He was so fucking rude to this young girl. I couldn’t take it anymore. I left the restaurant and on my way out, I told the dad that he treats his daughter awful and that he made me sick. I’m absolutely shook right now.

Hey man this is Cory man your the man I just watched your video frfr your brave Nobel sincere and a plethora of more of what we need in the human race I'm serious man thank u so very very much if anyone else hasn't told u I'm happy to be the first to do so.... Thanks for everything and keep the good advice coming....

I love that you tattooed that on your hand. That takes a lot of courage. I've known I'm an INFJ-T for awhile. And only 2 people know. And that's because I have just recently told them. I was scared shitless to tell them. Afraid that it would back fire. Afraid that they will use it to manipulate me. Bend me till I break. I wish I had the courage you do. I'd never cover it or remove it.

I'm amazed at how you can communicate your emotions in such a pure, raw way, and in camera! I see and feel everything so deeply but its hard to find the words, it's so much easier or maybe I've learned to just shut it down. And then I feel like I become those people who let things slide. And then I'm upset with myself because I can't bear to feel and I can't bear to not. Wish I could be half as brave as you to embrace it and etch it in my skin and scream from the rooftops. Maybe one day :)

Thank god for You!!! I have never had anyone feel me and get me as a INFJ. You are 100% amazing!🥰

I took the test a while ago and came up INFJ and I thought the description was bang on. Looked at it again for the first time in months and stumbled upon this video. Chilling how accurate your description is, I feel these same feelings. I’m going to use this insight to light my path forward because sometimes it’s hard not to just up and leave.

Took several personality tests today at the request of some friends. The letters INFJ-T came back everytime. I began doing research and I a literally fighting tears right now after watching this. I always knew I was off, didn't really fit in. Told myself I am some kind of half introvert. This is me, in a nutshell. I am going to watch some more of your videos. Thanks for these, they make you feel less alone.

This blows my mind. I’ve been trying to fix myself my entire life. It’s never ending. I had no idea there were others out there. In a way it’s a huge relief. I doubt I’ll stop trying to be better and do better, though. 😂 I feel like a rage-oholic inside. I isolate so I’ll have less to rage about. I feel most comfortable with animals. I’m just being introduced to this so I don’t know if there’s anything I can do to make it easier on myself.

I would say that you, Marty, are actually sound of mind. thanks for this video sir I hear that, I feel that. what I see a lot on the other hand is that many of us (or so it seems) feel cursed... why? (everyone, why?) train your mind and bodily responses better. get that in check for your.own sake. and maybe EVEN try to enjoy not the fact you absorb all that unwanted feeble sh*t , but enjoy the fact you are able to help? are totally competent and righteous to help? good things happen to good people so the best of things should really be happening to us no? :) keep it up Marty, respect to you! greetings to all from a small and flat country called the Netherlands

I care too much about people and that has a toll on me in the end. It hurts so much. It's hard but it's a blessing at the same time

Thank you for making this. You are not alone. God bless you n yours 🙏

Thanks for sharing, EVERTHING you said is so very true.

As someone who got choked up and froze, in my own furry and disbelief while someone was being belittled in front of me - with a classroom full of oblivious students and teachers... I love to hear you tore into that woman. I’ve grown a lot since then, and my word, I will not be silent the next time something like that happens. The regret is too heavy to carry for years on end, to not say or do anything in the moment.

As harsh as you described this to be, it gave me a sense of peace. Thank you for sharing.

I can relate to this. Sometimes it seems like we INFJs can be very quiet and will not stand up for our own selves, but when we see injustice being done to someone else, even a complete stranger, we feel the need to jump in and act. A few years back I had gone with some mates to play laser tag, and the entire night there was some overweight white woman who was acting like a complete witch (replace the w with a b) to put it nicely. She'd act flustered if you shot her, do that annoying thing where they stalk you around shooting your back even if your vest has been deactivated, and swear whenever you one-upped her. The laser tag arena was designed so that there was a large downstairs area and a smaller upstairs deck that you could use to fire down from, almost like a sniper. It seemed like people mostly fought up there, so staying downstairs was a pretty boring experience. To get up there, you had to take one of two ramps. Well, this chick was blocking the ramp and throwing out her usual smug comments, because I had seen her doing it but chose to go the long way around and ignore her. Well, that was until one of the younger kids on my team walked up to me and said "that lady is blocking the ramp!" I could tell that he was upset, nearly to the point of tears, so she probably had said something to him as well. That was it for me. In a rare display of confidence that I had no idea my introverted ass could ever muster, I charged up that ramp, shouted "I'm coming through!" and pushed by her with all of my force. Of course she immediately starts into me because I broke the physical contact rule, but then I laid into her with "You actively moved to block me, so technically you moved to break the rule. Also, you are not supposed to block the ramp!" The interaction was over within seconds, but she never blocked the ramp again that entire game. She still tried to get me kicked out of the building but they were about to close anyway. The point is, that interaction still plays in my mind over and over quite often. Did I act out? Should I have asked her to move before charging in her direction? Did I not say enough to her? Does she still talk about me to her friends and what an asshole they think I am? Do I regret it? That is really hard to say, because I am the type of INFJ who likes to be sure everyone is happy, but I also think at times that she really had it coming. Another thought pops into my head of if her or her friends might see this or if one of my own friends might somehow see it. These types of people live rent free in your head long after they have probably forgotten about you. It is not really in a mocking, psyche-destroying kid of way, but it still has its drawbacks I suppose. But yeah, these people who say they wish they could be INFJ because we are "rare" do not understand that to some degree we never truly live freely because we are always stuck in our heads. Okay. Rant complete!

When I'm explaining to someone and they just did a single move which looks like to me that they are not interested, my mind would think that "okay, maybe they can't understand what I'm saying" and immediately shut my mouth and close the conversation

Thank You for expressing so openly of how hard it is to feel so much all at once. I never have had anyone be able to accurately describe my daily struggle in life like you. I completely understand why you want to isolate Ive been “Alone” intentionally for the last year because I just can’t handle people.

Thankyou for the videos. You are truly honest.

Man I've been through this hell hole of an experience - this hits. Trust me it's a million times better on the other side. Once you mature and learn to stop that loop, to stop the repetition of pain over and over in your mind, to quieten the noise, you become far happier. You really begin to absorb the sheer beauty of the world and everything in it. When you grow, as an INFJ you have one of the greatest capacities for happiness and fulfillment in this world. Personally, I listened to guys like Jordan Peterson, took his advice, because by dear God its hard being in this turbulent state, but he helped me to grow. I'm now an assertive type and I'm so much happier in every way. Things that used to send me into spirals just bounce off me now. You aren't stuck here. I used to think I was, but it's false. There is light at the end of the tunnel, trust in God, and forge your path diligently. Accept the burden and carry it, up the mountain. It will hurt, but the view from the top is worth it.

I rly like this video! U basically put my thought process into words!

I can relate so much to this. My dark side is everything you've expressed, and I'm sorrowful for that side of me! Becoming a Christian however has taught me grace and to fight against internalizing others sins against me and towards others. It will always be a life long battle. We are all works in progress ❤

Powerful and relatable. I used to stay quiet in similar moments but as I get older I just can’t do it anymore. I have to stand up for people being treated unfairly. The anger i feel in those moments is at the top of my anger spectrum. Spit on me and call me names or treat me unfairly and I’ll try to reason it out or walk away but it’s just not possible when I see it being done to another person. I still think on things I should have said differently on so many topics including this. The hamster wheel just doesn’t stop so true. Thanks Wizard.

I personally just found out I’m an INFJ-T… and I absolutely hate it… I couldn’t agree more with what you’ve said.

This was the first of your videos I watched. All I can say is Thankyou.

I'm a bipolar inft(t)... thank you for making this available for me to be able to share!Your wording and emoting resonate with my soul! Blessings! 🥰🙏🏽❤

I’m in my room middle of the day watching your videos trying not to cry because I’m done being misunderstood for the day! All I want is my best friend who does understand to be here with me right now. But the next best thing is watching your videos! ThX 🙏 for being awesome and sharing your personal life. I know the feeling of sharing from the heart just to have someone shit on it! And then use it against you like it was a joke or like I don’t have feelings or like I didn’t just say what ever it is. You ever feel like your talking to a wall and wasting your breath when you couldn’t have said what it is you were trying to say any more clear? ?

This is on point. It's been almost 6 years now when a friend of mine started crying and as someone who doesn't know how to deal with this things, I tried to make her laugh because I thought I could help her by making her laugh. Another friend of mine said to me that I'm not that helpful enough and they started comforting my crying friend. Until this day, it's still replaying in my head the exact scene, how I looked like, the expression of my friend and how my other friend said to me tjose words. And I still want to say things I should have, do things that could better help my crying friend and still regretting why I tried to make her laugh. All those years, I thought I was just driven by my guilt that until today I can't let it go. Even though I wanted to remove that memory, I can't. I just can't because it will replay in my head again and again.

Yes. A real human being just explained the infj brain at ANY given moment. And nailed the hot mess. I feel validated and frustrated, and no one can BEGIN to touch this place where we are, but you did and I appreciate that.

Marty you are incredible. I hope one day i will be able to describe my inner war like you. People think INFJ's are angels or something. But we only protect the innocent with all we have, the attacker we will destroy with our eyes, words and actions without even touching them. I can be your protector or destroy you like no one else did. ( I wish i wouldn't have to be so harsh sometimes..)

OMG , everything you are saying is so dam true. Going through constant hypotheticals, meanings, variables. People will hate on us. It sucks, I am right where you are o behind you. I just get tired of it. I did find some outlet with Boxing and Jujitsu calming me down. The physical stress seemed to calm my mind down. Maybe I would be to tired to feel the energy, IDK, but it did work. We just gotta learn to control the Empthic part, and turn it off brother.

This reminds me of how I almost fought my manager in previous job. I personally didn't had any problem. But little sh*t felt waaay too comfortable not doing anything in employees interests, he always forgets what he promised (even when no-one asked, he undertook) or completely deflected everything. His "not-doing anything" standard affected EVERYONE'S job and motivation. Still amazes me that we didn't fought. I'm sure he remembers that conversation till this day.

I've enjoyed watching a person I admire redirect bad behavior by not calling attention to it but by giving the offender an informal lesson while offering the love, support, and positive message to the offended. It would go something like this: You know we just admire your son so much just as we know you do. He is so great at his job here and you must be proud how he's taking the reigns from you. You've taught him a lot and he does great! You know it's a real compliment to the parent when the child is able to grow and take over no longer needing the parent so much, still loving the parent of course. Whether the father gets or not, at least the son got it. As an INFJ, your sensitivity to those wrongs would make you excellent at it.

Thank you for this. I’m watching this with tears in my eyes, because I always thought that there was something mentally wrong with me until I found out that it was part of my personality. However, I found that people who are INFJ’s tend to romanticize it to the point I took the test five times thinking that it couldn’t be right. You are the first one that I have heard express the burden of being an INFJ. I completely agree with you, there’s nothing special or romantic about being one, it’s isolating and lonely, and maddening.

I wish I would have come across the Myers and Briggs personality traits back in my 20's. Its help me to understand why I am the way I am and feel the way I do. Listening to others and hearing them tell what they go through and it being the same as me lets me know that I'm not the only one and I'm not alone and there is others like me. Lots of times it realy sucks but I'm learning how to deal with it and to set strong boundaries and to put me first before others .

Am shocked....you so accurate marty. This are the daily struggles i through everyday. Though its a very hard path ..i always remind myself that we are the lightworkers and darkness cannot exist without light and light cannot exist without darkness. love your content soo much.

Crying when I hear this..hope this changes their hearts....glad you spoke up. And more people should

This was a great video! Gave me peace.

I don't know why i just seen this video, but i think this perfectly displays the transition from an infj that still want's to belong and an infj that realizes what they are, and how they will never belong. It's definitely not easy. I've realized I'm going to remain alone, accepting that sucks... but I've also harnessed the self respect to acknowledge who i am, and held the strength to remain who i am. Being an infj is a gift and a curse, for sure.

Bang on ! I’m INFJ-T You remind me of ..... me . It’s exasperating being me . I’m fried all the time . Im So deeply moved by your expression of our type . Thank you brother ☺️

Just subscribed to your channel. Epic video. Mic drop . Nice to virtually meet you I’m Jason .

I now realize how I does do it so I can share it with you, we learn those things you mentioned and more, we listen very care fully and some times we pay more attention to what is not being said in addition you may faulter on a particular word or phrase and to get more results we will throw in the mix to test your reaction, and the reactions are juxtaposed with the previous reactions and the results are tabulated and we try to touch you to see how you respond.

Yes!! This exactly what I feel when frustrated and overwhelmed. I absolutely cannot stand people putting down others and can pick it up immediately. Too long I stood and absorbed the hurt and sadness. I didn’t want to rock the boat. I don’t care anymore. I can shred with the best of them. It isn’t always wise to do so, and I have to pick my battles, but I will no longer be silent.

The love, the joy, the pain, the tragedy, the beauty, the horror. The rage. It is a curse, but I wouldn't trade it, it's not a hamster wheel for me; it's an infinity mirror. Past, present and future all meet in one place; and there is only the Light. And I like yours.

really, as I'm watching this video I can totally see how myself react with these situations.I can totally see how my mind working been all along

hallo, I'm very impressed. you can put this overwhelming storm of feelings into words and communicate them. In difficult situations i'm struggling. sometimes it overpowers me. depending on the situation i cry, i am sad and also in pain. and for the others i can not offer a good explantion for my behavior. it is very diffucult to be, whoever you are as the person, who you are. i hope one day i can take action and speak freely like you. thank you very much. you have shown me that it is possible.

I am a young INFJ. It's exactly like you said. Somthing happened years ago and I still think about everything I could have done differently. It is like this every day. Every thing I do or say is wrong in my head. I used to practice on different conversations in my head just so I would say the right thing if that would happen in real life. I still do that. It is so frustrating.

Being an INFJ is a blessed challenging that only the internally strong must be able to handle, this is no joke, nothing to envy in my opinion. I thank you for your wisdom, as its it's a lonely world when im the issue because im not like the masses.

Dude. This was like looking in a mirror. You put into words, things I've tried to explain in past relationships. And well at that. I'ma just send this video the next time family gets confused over me.

slightly better then a motivational video. It's raw and defined and more respected into a different area of interests. well respected in a different light.

Be proud!! As a 44 years old woman who has only discovered being INFJ-T 4 weeks ago, it is one of the best things that ever happened in my life, it helped me to realise who i am and to see that there are many ppl like me who act and think like i do:)))

damn, i thought all these mbti personalities had the same assertiveness as what the horoscope would say about someone (meaning none), but the more i research about this personality type i feel completely identified. worst of all is the masking you have to do in order to function in the outside world, although with time i managed to unveil my true reactions in everyday life in a way that makes me more confident and direct with people. this is really important stuff to know

Thank you for sharing. It really never stops....

Thank you Marty. I will go through all your videos.

Thank you! You found the words 🥰

I just had a debate with someone yesterday wishing blissful ignorance for myself. He could not understand what I was talking about, he’s convinced I should celebrate my greatness. Having a personality type that isolates ones self from others and makes you critical of those around you, iis not a desired trait, it just leaves one lonely without people that can truly relate to oneself. I kind of knew what you were going to say before you said it. Thanks again Marty.

I really hate ruminating over the past and being so sensitive that I have to step out. It makes it so difficult to speak out because that stress I feel from others, ignites my own and all of those energies get caught and apply pressure in my chest and throat. So, I can't even speak out. Meditation is helping though and I feel more at peace and more serene lately. I can even stay in the same room as other people for longer and not feel the strong pull to go hide.

This guy gets me ❤

Exactly. But you are not alone. You have your fellow infj brothers and sisters that know exactly what you are feeling and seeing. Jordan Peterson has been helpful to me. He has helped me get me house in order, manage anger resentment, and the courage to standalone without apology.

So true so intense undeniable, unnerving , spot on , mesmerising to peek into a human soul.

standing up to bullies is how we make true friends if we are lucky. i deeply hate injustice and people thinking they need to show they are better than others by "knocking" people down. i get so angry i just boil over. and yes, like you i do not mince my words. i freakin kill with words and reduce them to a quivering pile of shit. oddly when i lay in to someone i do not have trouble expressing my utter disgust

In the first 5 minutes I can already relate. You scoff when you say leave me alone and fuck off. I feel that so deep. I’d rather be misunderstood than try and understand how I’m coming across to others. And the turmoil when they still don’t get me! I’d rather never have tried to communicate... and yes, they way people and events are translated through myself. It’s like I eat up all the information and everyone else has somehow missed it. Why am I so emotional? Why does this hurt my very soul? Why doesn’t anyone understand? So many questions and feelings I could write a novel. But I’ll just keep to myself and remain closed off. To label myself as an empath all this time, when this, INFJ-T, is who/what I am. Ugh I’ll stop there.

You are so right Marty about this. I do have a lot of things to resolve as an INFJ to really get who I am but I tell you it would be abnormal to be normal for us while being able to sense such a shitload of emotional information.

Thank you Marty! Anyone who wants this can absolutely have it! It’s a curse and I’m exhausted! I have never got to hear from someone like me. I guess it’s good to know that there are others who are like me, but I’m sorry at the same time.